Revaluing Yourself, No Longer Chasing, Attracting High Quality Individuals

[@erikalynn208]

I ain’t no build-a-boo specialist anymore 😂

[@Itiswhatitis58]

YES

[@maylovesdailyprofit]

Stop being THE NICE GURL. It gets you nowhere. Stop being a people pleaser it gets you nowhere. PLEASE YOURSELF. if he doesn't choose you, that's ok, choose YOURSELF!

[@DanceDaily]

"you don't have to ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT" true!!! "I am somebody who remains self-recognized"

[@EadsB7002]

that part!!!

[@Bernardo-lf7lo]

My sp is slowly conforming. He spent the night with me on his birthday for the first time! 😊 Always tells me he feels comfortable with me. And of course he does! I stopped reaching out to him first because I know that I always get pursued, I am wanted and desired.

[@lexlexii9393]

Did you use specific affs for him ?

[@Bernardo-lf7lo]

@@lexlexii9393 en d

[@MissBluebirddays]

How's it all going? Wish you thr best 😊

[@kellycone6719]

I agree!!!! Once I worked on my self concept, selfworth, and healing.... I NO LONGER attracted toxic men into my life and I definitely stopped being drawn to them as well !! Self development along with manifesting skills have been tremendously life-changing 💚💯💯💯 I love the way you teach Dylan! Waking up to our inner value and worth is amazing 🥰

[@phynekat]

Agreed❤❤❤ congratulations

[@aeducatedempath7689]

Xc

[@iloveyu2]

you helped me changed my life dylan. as i changed my self everything confirmed outside of me idgaf about sp HE LITERALLY ON MY BODY so MUCH all the time it’s annoying and u know what’s CRAZY SO MANY OLD SPS I HAD ALL ARE NOW CHASING ME i didn’t try i just became

[@Mommodeon2023]

What have you done

[@sagittariusbb]

“I didn’t try I just became” FUCK YESSS

[@dreamylove4196]

How long did it take u?? Im so lost

[@iloveyu2]

@@dreamylove4196 took me a month to continuously hold this energy

[@tffnyc1033]

He literally on my body means? Punctuation please. ❤

[@VolleyballAddict521]

Dylan… you have changed me. I love this new me. Viewing certain reactions as truly BENEATH ME… like my literal first thought is ew…. Since… I’ve manifested 6 fig job, my first SP who brought me on this manifesting journey 5 years ago is on my line complimenting me, missing me. (I don’t want him back, I manifested him having a baby and yea… not going back) New SP I’m reacting differently and allowing everything to unfold beautifully and effortlessly because I DESERVE IT! You really are a self esteem booster. The bestie I’ve always needed.

[@IAm_DylanJames]

GET IT!!!!

[@SunflowerMica]

What do you mean you manifested him having a baby 😭

[@SunflowerMica]

I'm curious

[@VolleyballAddict521]

@@SunflowerMica I was spiraling with every negative assumption about him. I said “What if he moves on” “what if he starts a family” and some more crazy stuff and then a few months later I found out he had a child and was living with the girl😵‍💫 Then I started building my self esteem and now this man wishes I was the mother of his child and misses me and thinks I’m the best person he has ever met. 🥲😅 It gets ghetto sometimes.

[@VolleyballAddict521]

@@SunflowerMicaI’m late but every time I would think about him I would think “What if he moves on?” “What if he has a baby??” Like I was in such a LOW space thinking of all these crazy scenarios and all of them happened. 😅

[@sakyqueen]

I needed to hear this, why whould I want somebody from my past who hurt me and treated my poorly? That is the old me, the new story is I deserve the best and I am getting it. Thank you Dylan ❤

[@oliviamoore5328]

I feel as though I had a very high self concept, I was happy and was alive !!! It slipped with sadness and life circumstances but now my new self concept is that circumstances don’t matter and I can always always believe in myself. I literally have been manifesting again for a week as I had $50 left .. felt in my soul I needed to get away ! and already my best friend is paying for me to go to the Phillipines with her. I’m blessed and grateful and know I’m deserving. I’m manifesting to take her on a trip to Milan in 2024 ❤ sending you all love !!

[@sadiatasnuva4227]

So true. I let go of a sp who was doing everything for me but didn't put himself on the pedestal. Rather he was pushing me to give him time, affection, attention etc. like an overbearing child. I knew he was not for me. I'll never end up with someone who doesn't value themselves cause they'll become a burden soon & expect you to keep them happy 100%. Ugh, what a turnoff! I told him to start self-love & of course he was cursing me for leaving him. Yeah sure. Now every girl gonna do that to you. When you have a good concept of you, you'll never settle for less. You shouldn't.

[@wata8096]

A turnoff that he loved you, showed you affection and wanted to spend time with you? The problem isn't him, people who are that full of themselves should stay alone and leave people who strive for a deep connection alone. He didn't lose anything by losing you. Because of people like you a lot of people became shitty and cold. Hope you end up with a person who treats you the same way, be distant and cold af. than you will get how "awesome" sefcentered people like you are, you aren't just to say it. You sound like a narcistic or avoidant, you will end up alone with a mindset like that or at least never get a deep connection, just a couple of one night stands.

[@xpaperxcutx4588]

I have a guy who replies to me at 12am. At first he explained it was due to work and traveling (understandable) but now it’s like he doesn’t bother to be communicative and replies to me right before bed. I’m annoyed and I haven’t replied back. I don’t tolerate this type of behavior.

[@AikiraBeats]

I had to take a break from the affirmations and allow my body to process everything that I’m trying to change. During that break, I found myself calming down and not being so anxious about the time aspect. Right now I’m feeling positive about how I’m changing my routine. Remembering that I matter and I need to focus on myself has been so helpful. Thank you ❤😊

[@june8898]

I’ve made some huge realizations about myself and what I want because of your recent content. I’m so done with chasing and desiring a person who is an ass!!!! It’s okay to admit it, sometimes they’re just assholes 😂 we are worth the world! Thank you for changing our lives Dylan! ❤

[@LouisaRubyDDD]

I have been chasing/trying to manifest a relationship with an SP for a year now but last weekend they got mad at me for a very little thing and since then I haven’t found them attractive. Part of me was like “Am I wrong to be done with this SP?” But this video helps me realize that I am not wrong to say I want more and I want something different. ❤

[@EddywanothmanEddywo]

same!

[@IamMs.Trinidad]

My man my man my man is everything, absolutely high value and he knows I am everything he dreamed of. You literally have been dropping my entire mindset on everything you are saying ❤

[@cataclopintheskywithdiamon8032]

For a long time i was conveiced that i had to welcome everyone in my life, especially those that are already rejected and/or struggling in life. Some of them really put me through hell. From being confident and successful i went in a very painful place. Now, after life circumstances, after growing through manifestation teachings, i can say that it's okay to prioritize myself. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness. Not everyone deserve my attention, no matter how hard i am aware of their struggles. It doesn't mean i am selfish or a bad personn. We don't have to wait until we are highly depleted to give attention to ourselves FIRST ! I don't have to share who i am and what i have with everyone. Not because i am afraid of them, afraid to experience the same situations, it does not come from a traumatized place in me, it comes from self love. Fearlessly. Shamelessly.

[@maylovesdailyprofit]

He isnt cute,, i liked the way he treated me, and i guess i was hanging on cuz of the love he used to give with when we first met..so i know i i wasn't given myself love cuz if i was i wouldn't look for outside of me.. Thank you Dylan

[@kimmccomas3]

Thank you for saying people CAN change!! And correlating personal change with the personalities we are attracted to.

[@pan-alice]

15:19 However, I feel that little is said about this to men. So guys, apply this part to yourself too, realize your worth instead of chasing women and trying to prove your worth to them. Recognize yours and embody it.

[@IAm_DylanJames]

: ) yes.

[@FollowerofDuck]

never ever settling for less! you really say it like it is and i love that

[@dreamylove4196]

babe i cant fcking talk rn dylan just posted !!

[@annahmartin1012]

I told a patient yesterday to "take good care of yourself. And do that shamelessly." And I just realized that's like direct from Dylan 😅🥰🥰🙌🙌

[@dravenburfiend9759]

You know no other coach I have come across has been so blunt and honest about SPs before. Lots of them say you can change your SP and yes you probably can but Dylan cuts through all that time consuming BS. I have been having a tough time not thinking about my cheating ex because he is so cute and attractive to me even though I know I can do better for my self and future family. I still have a long way to go. Thanks Dylan for being so blunt and honest. I don't want to waste another minute thinking about him. 🎉

[@TheMademoizelcoco]

you're actually the only person allowed to read me to filth.!!

[@priscillasintuition]

I’m loving the consistency! Living the life you want to create because that is who you already are ✨💅🏽

[@katbatson]

I have been feeling so down and unmotivated and hard on myself. I know what I need to do after watching you for so long but I’ve been avoiding it, choosing to let myself rot. I do want the change. I’m going to watch your videos to help myself start putting in the work again

[@Sofiafarahxo]

This is what the girls need to hear!!! Thank you Dylan

[@nursejen1111]

No need to ask for what u want but important that your transparent about your needs and what you no longer accept!

[@LouisaRubyDDD]

Read the title and was like “He read my mind.” Needed a new video from you today, thank you!!!

[@fembot521]

Dylan you’re the best, you’re literally changing the world one person at a time and looking good while doing it ❤

[@spruceandhemlock]

The way Dylan follows through for us and steps up to the plate for us ❤✨

[@jjm3644]

An affirmation video that’s along the lines of “I can and will do way better than him. I deserve so much fucking better!” would be fantastic!

[@kathrynjackson4788]

Hey there, I know I’m not Dylan but trust me you don’t need that specific meditation. You can get that from the I am the best affirmations. For me it made me a little cocky, now I cringe at guys that are below me. Regardless of the circumstances, the main issue is you are not valuing yourself and recognizing how fckn awesome you really are!!!

[@eleonoraivanova-kd2zb]

Dylan thank you so much for your work. In my darkest times I was listening to your videos and they helped me grow from the pain instead of being in my victim mode. Thank you again for all your amazing free content 🙏 so generous. I am from Bulgaria and I want to help people here because we are not valuing ourselves and accepting less that the optimal in many many areas...You are such an inspiration ❤

[@YouTubeusername4321]

My SP and were going very well the last week's, but then he did not read my message 7 days ago and now did not read my message from last night. I felt worthless and ignored so I messaged him "I will remember that for if at any point you try to message me". Classy I know 😏. I don't know WHAT to do now? Because I can't lose the feeling of him not wanting me. I know obsessing isn't the answer. But I also don't want to just "get self worth, kick him to the curb and move on" etc. I want the version of him that shows up right! I don't want to depend emotionally on him but I don't want to be ignored either

[@iloveyu2]

my main focus is not even so anymore like now that i can get anyone i want i don’t even know where to go from here

[@Lau-fh3qk]

Wish I had someone talk to me like this way before I was stuck on stupid lol 😂. But it never to late .

[@pabloduarte9827]

Im so confused now cuz my SP is literally the most toxic dude that broke my heart, ghosted me, blocked me, goes hot and cold etc... and I thought that it was all me due to my "Limiting Beliefs" "self concept" issues and that if I do the work, he would treat me better.😢 Idk wat to think and do anymore cuz I do love him but unfortunately we met at the wrong timing a year ago and that really breaks my heart. Nothing has changed. I know I deserve better but the heart wants what it wants.🥺💔

[@Bunny869]

Do it for yourself, not to get him to choose you. YOU choose you!

[@IAm_DylanJames]

I have said in content over and over that it is all about you and valuing yourself properly. Can you fix a relationship? Sure. But I have said repeatedly that as you revalue yourself and your self concept you’ll come into that awareness if someone is not good for you and move on. This is why I have meditations like “fuck boy repellent” on my channel. So I’m not sure if you’re blending what other people are saying with what I say, but you definitely need to look at what you believe you deserve and adjust that within yourself. At the end of the day he could change and come back a refined man, but that’s not because you’re waiting for it. And you might be so far moved on by that point it doesn’t matter. “Nobody to change but self”. Look at why you got into this type of situation, as I have said in content before, and adjust those beliefs surrounding your worth, what you believe you deserve, how men show up for you, etc. I have plenty of nightly recordings on my channel that address those things.

[@pabloduarte9827]

​@@IAm_DylanJames Aww Dylan I appreciate your comment, Im honestly kinda new to your channel and so far I love your content. You have literally helped me so much until This one particular video kinda did hit home and made me think twice and to an extent caused some confusion then clarity because I am in a toxic relationship and does makes me question if thats the person I want for the rest of my life?? But again its all bout me and eventually like you said it will bring awareness that I need to move on and to focus on myself and for me only. Thanks Love.❤🙏

[@7352SoS]

I'm very impressed of your teachings Dylan, I went to many law of attraction KZbinrs and you are the only one that has helped make my manifestations happen. You are the only one that gives a great explanation of what it truly means to "live in the end" that many LOA KZbinrs have not explained in a deeper way. Most of them kept focusing on the external instead of internal. I've seen more success stories on this channel more than any other loa channels. Keep it up :)

[@biancafelton6087]

dylannnnnn i shouldve listened to you before i lashed out for not being treated the way i deserve. i wouldve acted very maturely as how u put it.

[@NeloBladeOfRanni]

Oooh i can so relate to what your talking about in regards to manifesting someone below my worth to the point in the end i just decided to manifest a whole new person instead of dealing with a person i already know lmao/ have a past with.

[@GuguKeswa-kf2xj]

Thank you so much Dylan this exact message could not have come at a better time for me. It’s really time to shift my self value and the type of one sided low value relationships/men I allow into my life. I actually no longer resonate with that type of Man and that’s because I’ve done the work on my self esteem and self worth. So this video today was the cherry on top of the cake the final nail in the coffin to remind me who the fuck I am and why the hell I keep gravitating back to ppl who breadcrumb me and clearly hold no value or space for me. Let me tell it ends today! Imma step into my power,address the behaviour with those so that the are aware and move on! And hold my head up high and stop people pleasing and put my needs first. Thank you my hunnie your doing Gods work here. Love you too ❤️👑🥂

[@dreamylove4196]

This is like my 3rd comment on this video 😅 but i love love loveeee how u say at the end to not necessarily affirm specific outcomes because when youre being the change and seeing different areas of ur life in an improved way those specific outcomes will just feel natural. Ive experienced this myself and loveeee how u reiterate it. Focusing on specific external outcomes has never ended well for me and whenever i focus on myself things feel sm better ❤

[@freesoul5555]

Very different comment. I have been seeing you since a few years now,and you have become the most beautiful and handsome version of yourself..like so damn charismatic..can't even focus on the video sometimes! 😂❤

[@Alishakamat-pn5ui]

Dylan appreciation comment!!❤❤ Dylan, thank you for putting so much of positive efforts out in the world to help individuals, your impact is larger than the numbers on KZbin. I have been tuned into Dylan's content for over 7+ months and this guy is literally a treasure chest of knowledge. Initially I started off as someone who just wanted to cultivate better self beliefs and obviously attract 'The SP'. As of today, I can affirm I have become so much better, evolved, self aware and loving towards myself that I don't actually care for 'the SP'. And for most part I have tuned into Dylan's content for doing so. Somedays I went on rampage with his videos just to get a tap of 'girl, you deserve this in your life'. Dylan if you are reading this, I wish you all the abundance in your life, thank you for your content, time and efforts. You are truly amazing🎉❤

[@ipalion_peace]

Dylan your teachings parallel the Daoist way of going slow and patient and letting other's impatience take care of the rest

[@subliminalstealthhh]

Everything was exactly what i needed to hear because I’ve finally come to the end of desperately desiring these low quality men. Because i knew them in a time that was really fond for me so i was so desperate to keep anyone and anything that i knew from that year. Even though everyone i knew from that year treated me poorly over the years

[@june8898]

YOU ARE THE BEST COACH ON KZbin

[@dreamylove4196]

Dylan, you’re seriously so incredibly intelligent and articulate it’s insane 😭watching your videos is such a breath of fresh air wowowow

[@shallyway]

Thank you so much for this video and for all that you do. Your work is amazing 🙏🏾

[@soy_red]

Its good to realize the growth in me when I rewatch some of your videos.

[@VikingVictoria]

Daddy Dylan is baaaaaack!! 🥳🎉💕👏🏻🙌Missed you so much I love these talks in front of the camera you make, they get me so excited to keep going! I’ve come so far in my self development journey because of your help!! Thank you thank you!!

[@SpiritualHarmony_5]

D!!!! You are on point!!!❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[@estephanelia]

i love this guy. thank u for the "RE" omg thats ThE most important the irony

[@dionm124]

This is the realest shit I ever needed someone to say to me. Thank you! ❤❤❤

[@shiilitz6531]

I am so grateful to finding this video!! I was spiraling over 10 days about the situation with my SP because I had to break up with them (after 2 years of being and living together) because I am a spiritual person and they were just the total opposite! I truly didn't know what to do. I was affirming for the last 5 days all day long and nothing has happened. Im feeling so tired of that, that im just letting it go and just improving my self concept! I was kind of obsessed with manifest them being spiritual too and having they spiritual awaken moment and stuff like that, but now im just letting it go... Thank you so much for your words :)

[@saria9495]

This guy changed my life 👍🏻👍🏻

[@TheDropZine]

Thank you for your videos! I’m feeling calm, relaxed, sure, confident in my worth and value- and my actions are aligned. 11:11

[@letsgetintoit9377]

I really missed these talks… feels like I’m on a FaceTime call 😊

[@tempistarks]

You talking to me !! Thank you 🥹❤️🙏

[@rachmaninovwasemo2313]

This video is pure truth

[@Wikkedfit]

Dylan you’re literally such a gorgeous human 😍

[@lenam.3114]

Dylan James, you are so on point! Thank you for all the advice on the nervous system!!

[@MeLissa-qz5nr]

I felt called out lol thank you though ❤

[@drewisours]

Thank you for this Dylan ❤❤❤❤

[@sheenacasteel4540]

I know it makes me sick its very difficult ❤tysm dillion

[@annadrawsnow]

Just fascinating 🤓 - love this one !☝️💞✨🌈 „There is nothing to wait for!“ 💯

[@mzmar]

Love seeing notifications for new videos!!

[@angelglowstudios1454]

This video is top tier

[@TheHighPriestess-g4t]

I can see cloud moving from your window😍and Thank you for this video because it confirmed that what i did recently (cutting off someone that didn't value me) was right thing😊

[@sakyqueen]

I LOVE your content!! this is what highschool me who chased boys needed to hear. Bless you for sharing your knowledge 🙏💖

[@LoveGuruBlaire]

Dylan, your videos are very good. They're helping me with another area of my life clean up my thoughts and energy. I also like your Leo energy :)

[@k-llove3336]

Thank you so much Dylan. I want to listen to you often and reinforce these concepts. Love you!!

[@nenabishop4482]

People Can change unless they want to and start working on him/her-self

[@jwalka534]

Can you make the Self Concept Limitless Manifestor with hidden words to rain music? Please, its hard to sleep with the talking but I manifest the best with this one. If you make it will you let me know. Thank you 🥰

[@tffnyc1033]

Lower the volume and get a sound machine with rain noises.

[@truthheals5723]

@@tffnyc1033lmao

[@alimay967]

Thank you Dylan! Your work is invaluable ❤❤ Thank you so much for all your love, support, great mindset principles and consistency!!!’ It’s very precious ❤❤

[@jackiek4159]

Thank you for all that you do Daddy Dylan! The best hype father online! 🙏🏻💕✨

[@sakyqueen]

I love how you sum up what needs to be done and I love that you repeat the knowledge, I just feel it permiatting into my brain and into the subconceus. Thank you 😊

[@ariah457]

As always Dylan thank you for what you put out and help many many individuals become their best selfs! 🙌🏾✨

[@Mara.1117]

Needed this today❤

[@dawnh8254]

Glad to see you! Thank you for blessing us with your goodness, knowledge and love! You have helped me get through some really tough times by getting super real with myself.

[@RoyallyMade]

love you Dylan this video was really a boost for me💕

[@IAm_DylanJames]

[@roseclimbpaintcont]

Can you please do another cockroach Behavior video but instead of family have it be other social situations please

[@sunshineonmyshouldersmakes8331]

You're so wonderful Dylan James! 😊

[@cryptomodern9727]

Thank you, Dylan ❤

[@Gittinityo]

More of these pep talks please! ❤

[@vivienmoulsdale3315]

Solid advice and truths from amazing Dylan again.

[@GillianBerry]

love you!

[@Agiiii11]

Dylan 🦋 I am grateful for the knowledge, wisdom, and motivation that you share and for the help you provide. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@dimaawad7725]

He is so so right 💯

[@Anaguzmanfilms]

Yes!! Mind blowing information 👏🏼

[@Leodejohnson]

Aaaah missed you!

[@dawnh8254]

No, we cannot predict what will happen tomorrow. But behavioral patterns are predictable. It’s hard to change behavioral/thought patterns. It takes a concerted effort consistently. Even then, it’s still challenging.

[@phynekat]

Dylan you're just Amazing.!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤

[@melodycort7160]

Absolutely appreciate this video Dylan. I can see your growth! 😊

[@Paulina-yv7go]

Amazing! Thank you Dylan! 🤗🤗🤗

[@marievlachos103]

Great talk! I need to learn to value myself more!

[@itsOmarlols]

You are an amazing coach

[@dimaawad7725]

Thank you so much Dylan ❤

[@lisamariew7359]

Thank you ❤

[@hasanaelamin]

Thank you for really breaking this down. This was what needed to be said. ❤