Paula Cole - Where Have All the Cowboys Gone? (Official Music Video)

[@azzyflya2355]

I love the frustration that emanates from how she says beer. It’s immaculate.

[@tenderpawsm473]

I thought she was madly in love with this guy. At least that was true initially. What went wrong? Was she too demanding, or did the guy turn out to be a lowlife?

[@azzyflya2355]

@@tenderpawsm473 they both misunderstood how much she would enjoy her life. He goes out gets out of the house leaving her in situations where she never had a day to herself(for the most part). Is her bitterness shining through, maybe shining isn’t the best descriptor of bitterness

[@tenderpawsm473]

I guess being a housewife was harder than she anticipated. 😂

[@azzyflya2355]

@@tenderpawsm473 not quite what I was going for but, sure…

[@LindaMeier-Demir-xt5uw]

❤

[@trishayable]

I miss the 90s so much.

[@potatogrower]

The 90s remind me of running into water sprinklers

[@potatogrower]

I didn’t have a bedtime

[@shaymylahanif5701]

The 90s were the best decade,it was soooooo simple back then,I'm literally stuck in that decade lol with reruns of friends etc

[@tenrgn]

Modern technology is too invasive now, we’re too busy on our phones, no longer interact face to face with each other & the technology is now used against us

[@yabrocharlie]

90s sucked

[@thegingersnaps8075]

How little did I know this would be so true! Listening to this as a teenager you only hear certain things in a song and then when you become an adult it takes on a whole new meaning.

[@archangelmichael1978]

I'm an old man now and my best years are behind me. My time has past. You're still young and you still have a chance. There's hope with you. Take your mask off, go find the best young man you always had a crush on. Dance with him, kiss him, confess your love, and start a family. It isn't too late for you to still find your happily ever after. Live dangerously and free. Go fall in love right now!

[@danahorstman6828]

Here not her

[@archangelmichael1978]

@@danahorstman6828 Hear not here.

[@thegingersnaps8075]

@@archangelmichael1978 typo

[@thechosen1473]

It sure does champ!

[@TheQuietTimes]

I don't care what anyone says... Paula Cole is awesome.

[@burtreynolds7746]

Is that supposed to be a controversial opinion?

[@flangecorp9789]

No one thinks otherwise. She’s a fine artist.

[@rebeccaaustin3065]

She deserved the Grammy she got for this album. Self-written, produced....cool songs!

[@MarinaAndTheDevil]

Boundless talent

[@paulenger4494]

Agreed

[@jacobsable4543]

I like how she has a braid in her hair and then in the next picture she has a bun in her hair. I think I like her with the braids better

[@boogitybear2283]

She made millions off this song. Mission Accomplished!!

[@xbrandi12345x]

Totally agree. This album was so underrated.

[@jessicalogins]

I hated this song as a child but now as a grown woman I love it lol

[@azmanhassan81]

Why, if I might ask? Does it resonate with your life currently?

[@reubenkeyz5131]

Same

[@SusanM.]

Cause now you know what she’s really singing about lol

[@hekewika]

Me too.

[@LuminousDualities.]

Lol me too

[@jeffchan67]

The way she says "beer" just cuts all the way down to the bone

[@tenderpawsm473]

She sounds like she's being passive aggressive.

[@Nick_C213]

it's so odd people highlight the "beer" part... So many songs out there that highlight beautiful words and people love the passive aggressive snap backs here

[@ritamild630]

Every woman has felt that exact tone

[@dust9497]

​@@Nick_C213it's not odd, people just like lyrics that have impact. Not every single lyric needs to be nice and beautiful

[@dust9497]

​@@tenderpawsm473you sound like you're sensitive

[@michaelmclaughlin8382]

Paula is still doing her thing. 11th album came out March 1, 2024. She had a fabulous year touring

[@PARDI62]

Dommage qu'elle ne soit pas venu en France ou nous l'adorent ❤

[@AlphaWasSpotted]

For almost 20 years this song lingered in the deepest recesses of my memory, I didn't remember one lyric but the melody was burned in, I searched for so long but could never find it, it took till 2020 and a fucking FAMILY GUY episode had it on while Peter was shopping. I love Seth McFarlane. Thank you for helping find a childhood memory.

[@Lockawannablu3z]

It’s truly amazing how music and scents can really marry the memory. The first time I heard this song as a kid. I was very much asleep but woke up to the sound of this song. I could never remember the name of the song (even tho I made sure to watch for the credits so I could remember) but the melody, “where have all the cowboy’s gone?” And “BEEEERRR” STUCK! So when something like google came along I could find it again🙌🏾

[@UnstapledLisa]

Same thing with WhiteTown's "Your Woman" another 90's great song, I only knew the first 15 seconds of the opening music and I've found songs I forgot the name and band with like 3 words! It took me like 17 years finding it like 3 years ago!

[@gina85girl]

I remember that sand episode

[@TjmHackedThisdevice-s3h]

Same here probably almost 20 years since I thought about it and all of a sudden it was all I could think about and had to look it up. Classic. Going on my own song list. ♥️

[@latindolphin]

Memories ❤ Where has all good music gone?

[@tabo01]

Spotify will help you find new stuff.

[@martinbarken2301]

Failure (yes that's the band name) Sunny day really estate Cave in Blinker the star

[@LindaMeier-Demir-xt5uw]

❤❤❤

[@acornsucks2111]

Same place as the cowboys.

[@Twest91x]

All over the place, just gotta look/listen 😉

[@Arientis]

Paula Cole is criminally underrated! She sings so beautifully ❤️

[@RicardoMartinez-jy5lo]

Check her out with Peter Gabriel's “Secret World Live” tour in 1994, too.

[@RastafariRico22]

She's one hell of a sexy mamma! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@Just1Bum]

Don't put me in jail!

[@gregpitts1619]

I agree 💯

[@valerieblackthorn13]

@Jeff C By people that don't know her.

[@Southsidechica63]

This song is the best representation of a neglected wife. She goes from feeling hopeful , confused and resigned to the fact she’s alone in her marriage . Hearing this song makes me cry every single time .

[@krussell89]

While watching a rerun episode of Yellowstone in 2023 this song played in the back of my mind. Actually felt like this in 1997 when I was working full time, taking care of baby, doing laundry and cleaning while waiting for my "cowboy" to come home from the bar. Luckily things changed for the better and we're still going strong 30 years later. I actually got my happy ending.

[@dovegoddess1100]

"I am wearing my new dress tonight...but you don't even notice me" The way sings this line with such a beautiful angst puts a lump in my throat every time I hear it 💜

[@plantagenant6789]

😭❤

[@erikagrieg5694]

That has been -- and always will be -- the line that just completely and utterly kills me… I completely and utterly agree with you 💯 that she sings it with such beautiful angst

[@winogirlll]

It happens in just about every marriage. After almost 30 years of marriage, some of us have an awakening. It’s not pretty. Enough.

[@spiritoftheforest6204]

Mine doesn't even notice the effort I put in after a year

[@guyfaux900]

One of many things made fun of on Family Guy. Did that show like anything? ( I mean other than offending everyone😄)

[@erichpizer1]

where have all the 90's music gone.....

[@fifiwoof1969]

Still in the 90s - we left :-(.

[@erichpizer1]

1996 see yourself. i bought the album.....I was there and 14 @babyenderpizzio67823

[@acornsucks2111]

80's

[@sharonodom6423]

I loved this in my teens; fiana apple Criminal, Lisa loeb. Then, I got into Korn, a few years ago I heard some of Meg Myers like Desire that reminds me of korn

[@barrydavid6634]

better yet, where have all the 80s music gone?

[@frankielambardo9268]

What a voice.

[@SimonGJWalton]

What a midriff 😅

[@loumartinez2005]

Both!!! fucking sexy as hell

[@ricksmith6298]

Love this. And my Debbie

[@AndySaenz]

I love it when she ascends into her falsetto, it sounds so ethereal. She has the perfect storyteller voice. Her voice is singular, it’s so beautiful.

[@GuitarGuy057]

Ladies don't have a falsetto.

[@renzy5270]

No nuttos

[@rosesmith6925]

Total goosebumps ❤☮

[@thomasposlusny9687]

and she rejects what she once sang in lies..... like a women will do.

[@christopher8659]

@@thomasposlusny9687 What did you mean by this?

[@Emilie-z5p]

The way she sings "While you have a beer."

[@jimaiello750]

That's one of the first things I've always noticed about this song. Her voice says it all.

[@ramdodgetruck]

You making fun of me? that's how we say it in Beantown. BE ER

[@ricstormwolf]

I noticed that back then. I thought, she's not happy about that 😂

[@AZBailey]

that 😂 is the line! I wash the dishes while you have a bee-yer! I Do like the song

[@decker528]

The way it sounds, it makes me feel guilty if I want a beer. Probably because of this song, I've never asked a woman to get me a beer and will refuse if offered 😅

[@leannahuerta4054]

🎶🎵Where has all the great music gone? 🎶🎵 I miss the 90's!!!

[@imbatman3620]

💯👍🎵🎵

[@SaintLouiegal2010]

Lol

[@nicolew43]

Right ?!!!

[@user-mv3oj4td7j]

Best comment ever!

[@chrisretired5379]

Rock on, my dear 🌹

[@aleczavala5010]

Happy birthday Paula Cole!

[@walterpewen7903]

Paula Cole has a Masters Degree in Fine Arts and she puts it to use in incredible work. People should be aware what kind of training she has--this is incredible and more.

[@ELSITAFERNANDEZ]

Shes! And she play every instrument

[@johnganshow5536]

My sister has an MFA degree, but she doesn't sing, just paints and does pottery...

[@farnorthhomested844]

yes she is awesome!

[@kittydaddy2023]

but did she ever find her cowboy?

[@kidkique]

​@@kittydaddy2023no she just found a bra

[@abbotmortimer1593]

The way she sneers "while you go have a beer" is absolutely DEADLY.

[@eddievanlingen1935]

I totally agree with that and the way she dances and moves her hands around to her singing it's so awesome

[@jps0117]

She reverses it in more recent times.

[@loupatrick5731]

That's then this is now

[@irishredheadgal]

😆

[@RobRoschewsk]

You can even hear it

[@roseparedesc]

Somebody else 2024? And thinks this is still rocking

[@RUBBERGUMSOUL]

Absolutely

[@tinasin100]

❤❤❤❤

[@felroberto]

Still, of course.

[@yvettewhittaker2635]

Absolutely 👌👌

[@samp7003]

Just came to my mind today out of nowhere.Sounds so good to hear again!

[@BoJaxson13]

Just saw her on the Mask Singer and coincidentally I’ve been trying to find this song for years. Man, I miss music like this.

[@ginay8800]

I came here too after Masked Singer!

[@bobbibyrd1997]

And I love her white hair, still the same smile.

[@katherinehandley536]

@@ginay8800 As did I!

[@sugrbaker]

I did too and came here to find this song. I should have guessed her from the John Wayne clue!

[@clarenceblair429]

I'm thankful that we'll lived in a time when this place was called the United States of AMERICA.!

[@kevinfox1008]

No matter how many years go by this song never gets old and it is as timeless as when it came out in 1997!!

[@angelacisneros4608]

Right! I was a senior in HS

[@naturequeene1372]

Wow! I definitely would've pinned this for an 80's song for sure. But I love it. Has a very nostalgic sound.

[@kevinfox1008]

@babyenderpizzio67823 NO it came out in the 90s because l remember hearing it on the radio when l was a kid going to school!!

[@TamelaBennett]

Exactly. I wonder where Paula Cole has gone.

[@reginabrown2996]

It came out in 1996. Still it hits 🎶❤️

[@dianaflynn568]

I loved this as a 16 year old teen. Now I watch the video and see her anger and wrath of what the songs intentions were. Absolute BANGER!

[@christinamussared2285]

I forgot this song existed until like 2 seconds ago. Weird the random sh*t that pops into your head at 3 am.

[@RicardoMartinez-jy5lo]

She is saying, Darn it, there is no love in this relationship. 3 am being "the hour of the wolf."

[@DinofskyKristoferWinwood]

What triggered it was the weird way she says "BEER", then it sorta snowballed from there lol.

[@costanzaman42]

I probably haven’t heard this song since riding in the car with my mom as a child in the late 90s…shit just randomly got stuck in my head and here I am

[@buckfiddy5931]

I blame Walmart. They get me while my mind is screaming for anything but the shit on the shelves and the idiots in the aisles. Then they play some song I haven't heard since Christ was a corporal. I don't even realize it at the time, but that night I find myself here looking for songs I never thought I liked. Now they play on an infinite loop in my head. I like it.

[@jefferynelson]

now you remember

[@Janine-x1j]

I can't believe I almost forgot how much I loved this song.She was Gorgeous too!! and even 28 years ago, She was doing a mock - up about a time already long, long gone

[@TheBrockwayBabe]

It’s 2020 and this song just transported me back to my teenage years. The power of music is amazing.

[@Beulah_Marisa_Pharr_Ford.]

Same vibes. I was 13 ❤

[@Laeryc]

Every time i hear this song I am back in 8th grade Woodshop It was on the radio like start of 4th period nearly every day without fail.

[@cryinginred]

I literally woke up with this in my head out of nowhere this morning, after years lol

[@chrisknezevich5280]

Really I was the same age I just had a flashback in time omg 😳

[@wendyramirez1563]

Love this song I remember my brother use to love when I would sing it karaoke at home lol.....was 17

[@mehitablestorm8877]

This is one of the most ethereally beautiful songs I've ever heard. It's like the cry of a heartbroken angel.

[@lgbaybaysalesladayy]

Yes ❤

[@johndean4727]

you will never hear another like this.

[@Lunangel]

Perfect description for it 💕

[@younglove3362]

This is the cry of a women who chased around men in her youth and didn't settle down while assuming she'd be young and beautiful forever. Now that she's older, she can't chase them anymore because she's older and the cowboys rode off into the sunset. You all need to understand female nature. 🤣

[@wvu05]

@@younglove3362 The character in the song clearly did settle down. I think you missed something there.

[@befdoglover1]

"I will wash the dishes, while you go have a beeeeer" Those lyrics and the "yippee yi, yippee yay" part at the end are my favorite parts.

[@kurtleinenkugel7725]

Those parts of the song got to me too.

[@Ultramar_70]

And I love her final dance😊

[@stefanr220]

LEGEND!!! I want my kids to listen to this music and gain an appreciation of what quality music is. Paula is such an icon, she and Jewel have so many similarities.

[@docsavage8640]

Yes. They're both women.

[@alswearengen6427]

90's music had the best of both worlds: hardcore rock/grunge and amazing female vocalists like Paula Cole, Tori Amos, etc.

[@3putt548]

When Paula hits those high notes, I literally get goosebumps up and down my back. I just can't get this song out of my head! Her smile is absolutely bewitching! It’s like she knows things about me, that I don’t even know about! Great song! Great video! Great artist! I salute you!

[@applemnster6309]

HAIM performed an amazing cover of it on their 2019 headline set at Pitchfork music festival. I never would have heard of this song otherwise!

[@JMartini810]

weird

[@nicolelala10]

Her high notes are great, but the whisper-notes make me crazy! 3:32

[@zerocool1344]

1996 was an amazing year, miss the 90s

[@msbcheet6041]

Facts. 1996 was an unforgettable year for me.

[@goosefarm3602]

@Scott Summers those were the best years..90s were fun

[@m1t2a1]

A year or two before that I saw her four times on the Secret World tour. Amazing. The Secret World Live video is highly recommended, if you haven't memorized it already.

[@scooby2181]

93-95 for me but all 90's are the best.

[@lisaz987]

No one understands sarcasm served cold like the 90's.

[@emilyziskind3276]

Lol except these fragile men acting like there's no subtext to the lyrics.

[@emilyziskind3276]

@Threehundredpages Pages Better looking husband? Where did you get that? Methinks you're projecting.

[@concars1234]

Is it possible she's being earnest deep down though? about just wanting that prairie home life?

[@youtold7727]

She’s missing real men -maybe?

[@davidmoots271]

More confused feminazi blathering its a catchy tune tho

[@beowulfthedane]

They've been here the entire time. You put them in your "Friend zone".

[@PoppaBoogaloo]

Why the hell have I, and so many other people, suddenly remembered and looked up this song at the same time?

[@midwestkrazy83turner50]

Lmao

[@starkheart4441]

I know why. She just re-did the song and video. Now Paula looks like the rest of us. She changed the lyrics a bit. Check it out.

[@anselmhimura626]

AlmightyFhonghoulle haha omg so true,..Just a lost song people remember cuz it was so diffferent.

[@meganlovesdisneyandcrafts4780]

😂YAAS!

[@eddiemurder5676]

Aliens.

[@scottyintahoe]

I stumbled upon this gorgeous song... I'd forgotten how much I absolutely loved it! This song, her voice, what's not to like? BRAVO!

[@Molly-Pop]

I just found this album in a thrift store, still in the shrink wrap, and you bet your ass I bought a CD in 2024

[@mariah8171]

ME RN

[@olivejuiceguys]

Are they worth anything these days? I've got about 200, most are mix-tapes made by Me, each with a theme based on the current season of life. Still got a package of blank discs to burn on! Amen!

[@bigmambahful]

@@olivejuiceguys Only way to actually own music physically, hold on to them. Nothing in a server is truly owned.

[@bryansanchez8448]

@@Molly-Pop nice 👍👍🙂

[@thedragonfly420]

If you are here listening to this song and haven't ever heard the entire This Fire album where this song is from, make sure you check it out. The entire album is a masterpiece imo. This song is great but hearing the whole album is s full experience. It's one of my all-time favorite albums by a female artist.

[@SethClandad]

I’m glad you said that. Now I will do so. A little embarrassed that this is the only song I know from this album. Time to remedy that. 😅

[@86crud]

Tragically underrated artist. We should be ashamed of ourselves.

[@chrisg7891]

Recently rediscovered Paula Cole and her incredible voice on Spotify. Tremendous emotion here.

[@russellh6677]

I love her talent!

[@stephaniec6458]

That voice and soul..perfection

[@jimhowson8111]

I believe she is more of jazz genre.

[@replynotificationsdisabled]

Under rated doesn't mean what you think... It's really just undiscovered. Idiot

[@georgiaswann6221]

This song hits hard now that I’m close to 40......

[@blackgriffinxx]

@@Deborah4Antiques I'm laughing because she made the deal.

[@mrdave1091]

Stay strong.

[@HenningDiesel]

You just hit the wall.

[@HenningDiesel]

@H MOX Thirty-five is devastating for women, especially when they are clueless about the wall.

[@jamosgarage9006]

Even though I'm a man, as a 38 year old I get it.

[@fahs]

Lets just build a giant walled city, go back to the 90's and forget the millennium ever happened. Who is with me?

[@ZACohea]

You can always go to Des Moines, Iowa since everything there is still like 1996.

[@fahs]

@@ZACohea LOL... I lived half my life in Iowa. I will go in with a different perspective

[@fahs]

@@ZACohea I think I remember that episode. Been awhile tho. You had a great reference that totally went over my head. Well played sir.

[@b.r.holmes6365]

Columbine happened in the 90s.

[@dkmzoneglobal-1472]

Definitely...

[@morm0njesus]

I love the grim aesthetic of early-mid 90s American music videos

[@rajonrondo210]

At the helm of 2024 This song still manages to make you nostalgic deep inside. I regret getting aged...

[@troycooper47]

Me too bro 😢

[@vernongschoultz709]

🎉 when music was still good and living was worthwhile. Today music is freaky an living is just about survival

[@mcmaximon1]

It's all a distant memory :(

[@urban_phantom7750]

The alternative to getting aged is not entirely attractive either

[@paisleyprincess7996]

Same. I remember being so adrift when this came out, and it makes so much more sense when you age.

[@jeniestra.]

One of the anthems of the 90s. What a classic.

[@fredthomson8941]

Sure tobetimeless classic

[@fredthomson8941]

@Nucky Thompson english. I just forgot to space words apart

[@fredthomson8941]

A sure to be classic

[@mikecorleone6797]

Nucky Thompson why you bein a dick lol

[@mikecorleone6797]

Nucky Thompson ohhh... i get it, grammar nazi.. well in that case.... pnq ǝɹǝɥʇ ɓuıllǝds ʇɐɥʇ ʇɔǝɹɹoɔ ǝsɐǝlԀ

[@lockedin60]

I too had a marriage that never delivered the fantasy or the dream of continued bliss. Marriage and or permanent relationships are hard work and once disappointed enters the picture it usually goes south. I just finally looked at the lyrics today. What a powerful statement.

[@FluentinLove]

This song takes me to a point as a kid. It reminds me of spending time with my mother watching new music videos on VH1 or MTV. When this song came on we both watched it together and eventually sang along. It was one of the few times in my life where i had a relationship or any real connection with her. Hearing this song takes me back that confusing but functioning and meaningful time. I'm older now and her and I don't have any sort of connection. I truly feel music, real music can encase moments in life like crystals. The moments that attach themselves like this, never die even if our relationship is long dead.

[@charlesstraub2282]

Just checked this song out for the first time…haunting. Celebrated our 50th anniversary last month. So glad we made it and blessed to have each other for so many years. Had one tough time and I felt the pain Paula describes so well. Somehow we got back on track

[@davisholman8149]

Charles - you’re a good man, sir. Respect👊🏼

[@raygordonteacheschess5501]

She was mocking Cowboys, not celebrating them.

[@kathleenkalman4796]

So glad. I failed twice. Had an awful childhood, so got No modeling. Oh well.

[@Drkjuju]

Gen x is still listening to this great music.

[@candicebirmingham8969]

I hope so!

[@baileybadass2235]

We Gen Z to listen and learn

[@hotdog1214]

We are, and passing on to the next generations to enjoy as well.

[@Face0389]

Millennial here.. and this will ALWAYS be a fave. ❤

[@jenniferestes5293]

I've had snippets of this song running through my head but couldn't remember the name or enough of the lyrics running together to do a search. All I could remember is I thought that Paula Cole sang it. Now at 2:15 a. m. I remember the name of the song. I remember Ms. Cole being known back in the day for really only 2 songs, "I Don't Want to Wait" (the Dawson's Creek song) and this song. Where I like I don't want to wait, radio stations over played it and I preferred this song. I haven't thought of this song in about 25 years, but I'm glad I did. I still like and may have to introduce my 17 y. o. to it. All because I was watching a SMOSH video and they referenced I Don't Want to Wait and that jogged my memory. Sometimes I miss those days when I was young and stupid. If I could go back in time and do it all over, but keep my knowledge & experience 46 years have given me, I would. I find myself feeling nostalgic for those days recently. I'm a proud Gen Xer and wouldn't want to claim any other generation.

[@grandmabessiestafford9288]

I was married for 12 years, when I heard this song. Unbeknownst to me, hubby had him a side piece, from work. I worked 2 jobs for the first 10 years of the marriage so he could have a new car every few years... I also paid for his car insurance... He hated this song. Every time it came on, I would turn it up, start singing and dancing!

[@bwanawilson5985]

Man child…he B…keep da luv…find another…I bet…carry ..0n…

[@bwanawilson5985]

😂❤❤ I love it when people say that they are are the best people w

[@bwanawilson5985]

Y o

[@Mark-b5q5u]

I was with a woman I don't think she knew how to wipe her ass

[@Mark-b5q5u]

My x had 2 kids she didn't want and slept with whoever paid her bills so lotte freaking da

[@dianaflynn568]

She said she starved herself to be video "and audience ready" I'd love her either way. This woman is amazing and should never be forgotten

[@lc2748]

Cowboys still exist. Married to a great one, 35 years.

[@bobafetting6373]

Hope he’s not like the one parodied in this gem of a song

[@lc2748]

@@bobafetting6373 lol!! I have a good one, better than I should. ❤️

[@letmeride247]

In my experience cowboy wives are equally as badass as their husbands

[@electricearth1101]

this song is literally MAKING FUN of women who yearn for Alpha Males. Its satirical. I know you may think its about Beta males but The Singer herself is a feminist and said its satirical and it ultimately promotes the feminist idea of independence.

[@boneytiger5650]

​@@electricearth1101I don't see how it's satire. I know women today who feel the same way as the lyrics.

[@albee8165]

This came out when I had my first baby, got married and realised his addiction soon after, when I was trapped. I used to hold the newborn and sing this when it came on the radio. It was prophetic.

[@marylcampbell2409]

I got similar story, thankfully im a single mom now ❣️

[@Xoximilco777]

I hope you’re in a better space now.

[@TILLEYJS]

Nope. You ignored them.

[@slaygadethicide]

He didn’t wanna get help ?

[@userhome3601]

The woman hiding from the pressures of the world and expecting a man to care for her. No wonder he took drugs.

[@julieashmore-smith2235]

This was on the radio a lot when I brought my lovely horse. He's just died. I play this this reminds me of him.

[@introvertedbeauty00]

Aww rest in peace to your lovely horse🥹🙏🏾❤️

[@debbielee133]

❤😢😂

[@misterwhipple2870]

I didn't know horses lived thirty years . . .

[@julieashmore-smith2235]

He was nearly 32

[@deanallen5567]

The barely repressed rage within this song makes it a masterpiece. By the way, a beautiful video complete with painterly static vignettes. All- round wonderful.

[@nv3217]

Once in awhile you find a thread of comments so fantastic it's indescribable. I love my generation.

[@genisay]

This song could be taken as a personal story, but, being someone from a farming community where values have an older, more respectful tone, it can also be taken as the slow disappearance and wearing down of a whole set of values. When they were married, they both took a role to make things work and supported each other and cared for each other. Progressively that respect, care and hard work fell apart, not just through any fault of their own, but as the times changed and ground them down. I have lived in the city for quite a few years, and I love it here, but sometimes I miss the simple, friendly, open country folk I grew up with, and now I see some of those values disappearing from my own home town. This hits me even harder after a recent visit there and how it's changed during the pandemic.

[@ColorMeHoppy]

Dude, literally have the same feels. I have lived most of my life in the same small town full of friendly and simple (not the urban mean definition) people and now I'm a city and it's just night and day 😭 no one even looks people in the eye or smile at children.

[@raystyles6338]

And all those bloody wars flooding us

[@barryeaton4322]

agreed..

[@Mike-ie5xu]

You hear the lines, "You made friends at the bar, you join 'em at the bar almost every single day of the week" and "I will wash the dishes while you go have a beer", and the extreme resentment in her voice with the word "beer", and you think the "times changed" and THAT is what went wrong with the (autobiographical) story in this song? Or the line "I am wearing my new dress tonight, but you don't even notice me." Seriously, what the hell are you hearing? You think this is a "those were the good old days" song? I don't think your home town "changed during the pandemic", I think your mind opened up a tiny bit while living in a larger city and having to actually interact with a diverse population, and your tiny, country home town stayed ignorant and self-suppressed. Paula Cole has made it very clear in numerous interviews since this came out in 1996 that she's singing about the resentment she has for a husband that doesn't help around the house and isn't present in the relationship, and that the image of American "cowboys" and "Marlboro men" is a myth, and the "classic wife role" is nothing but suppression of a whole gender. "Someone from a farming community where values have an older, more respectful tone" - sure, as long as those values mean "straight (acting) white people". 🙄

[@Ernie1978]

@@Mike-ie5xu THIS ! What a brilliant analysis!!!

[@jennifert3436]

I would give up the Internet (including KZbin) to go back to a time when good songs were plentiful on the radio.

[@colingeddes2172]

Ahmen to that, but its a different world now.

[@susanabaci2800]

Yes yes YES!! There ARE some ‘real’ people out there!

[@colingeddes2172]

@@susanabaci2800 got to try and still keep it real.

[@JohnZ117]

An idiotic comment born of nostalgic delusion. Good, great, wonderful, weird, those songs are plentiful, old and new... Here.

[@intexas7922]

Said for effect , figuratively, not a literal comment John. And you prob don't understand anyway ....

[@BaronBanks]

I'm mad that this doesn't have more views, this is one of the definitive songs of my childhood.

[@pjamajones8304]

Her voice and body language progressively reveal a frustration of the bitter disappointing realities of life.

[@younglove3362]

It's called getting older and wasting her youthful beauty to settle down. And if she settled down, she didn't settle down long or with just one. As she got older she can't do what she did when she was young. Listen to the lyrics, (especially the chorus) and the message is clear as day.

[@bow_wow_wow]

The disappointment that an adult woman can't face reality with even the thinly veiled pretense of maturity.

[@oceanhedonist265]

Well, she is a progressive and a staunch Feminist. Life isn't fair, especially for those who demand an equality of outcomes. 🤔

[@airport4173]

TRUE, she is a manhater.

[@themetalhead1463]

@@oceanhedonist265 Spot on! The “equity” that we hear about isn’t equality of opportunity but is equality of outcome which translates to the end of meritocracy. It’s a sure fire way for business to fail.

[@FlightandFallen]

That whole album is a banger, idc who says otherwise.

[@Imari-Haiku]

OMG, I remember hearing this song sometime, somewhere when I was a 5-6 year old little girl. Now that I've heard it again, I can feel the same vibe and feeling I felt back then. How I miss those times, even though I didn't have a clear consciousness of my surroundings. The 90s definitely had a unique and special vibe. All those 90s boys and girls must understand what I mean. Greetings from Mexico!

[@zzzcocopepe]

They say time is a circle. So those times pass and return

[@spidaman0112]

Sadly its a lit fuse. Only hope there are loops close enough to your time or not.

[@zzzcocopepe]

@@spidaman0112 is the sun the fuse?

[@spidaman0112]

@@zzzcocopepe same spark that ignited the universe. Stars too

[@derp8575]

@@spidaman0112 The sun is literally a light. The moon is the lesser of the two lights. The stars are affixed to the firmament. Planets are wandering stars. The earth is a topographical, stationary plane. The sun, moon and stars are beneath the firmament. It might seem crazy, trust me lol, but it's true. Unfortunately most people are so spiritually blinded that they literally cannot see it. The subject angers them. Pride and hatred for God keeps them in the dark. There's also a sexual element at play. Most women believe certain things. So most men also believe those things in order to gain the affections of women. A vicious cycle indeed!

[@EyeSmiteThee]

Saw a dude making round ice cubes for his liquor with a spherical ice cube maker today…. And this song came to mind. I was a kid when this used to be on heavy rotation on VH1. I liked it but I didn’t actually understand what the song was about. As someone that drinks Jack Daniels straight out of the bottle, I propose the same question: Where *have* all the cowboys gone? Why are men suddenly so helpless and effeminate? All the lumberjacks and diesel mechanics have been replaced with “cat dads” and computer coders.

[@loobie36]

Thank you Paula for this little gem

[@garryfrost9100]

Love that song from 97. Female artists kicked ass in 97. Jewel, Natalie, Sarah McLachlan and Alanis Morrisette!

[@eastcoastgrandison4855]

Those are some top notch names right there

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

Honestly, I could have sworn Vh1 overplayed the shiet out of this/her vid in '98! Cool that it was a year old by then? 🙂🙂

[@Lee_Lee1776]

Overplayed is an understatement. But that doesnt take away from the fact that this is a beautiful song. P.S. Don't leave Tori Amos out of the list of women artists who owned the 90's! 😉

[@ramonantoniodejuanbennett6239]

I used to hear this song playing back in my college years in the late 1990s(1997-1999) in Benningan's and Chili's, hanging out with my friends at the restaurants and having a good old time. Good times, good times!

[@synon9m]

*96

[@kathleenwhite5474]

And yes I am from Tennessee! My "cowboy " passed many years ago...Donnie Wilks......loved him more than anyone will EVER know.....

[@jonw4308]

A Cowboy is right here. I am willing to pay all the bills for the right woman!

[@johndean4727]

The 80s gave us everything.the 90s left us wanting more.

[@carlosro740]

80's sucks

[@Prince_Yonte]

@@carlosro740Youre crazy.

[@candicebirmingham8969]

@@carlosro740😮😮Shut your hole😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@brent8783]

This song has genuinely affected me over the years. Paula's vocals and nuance with the lyrics always remind me that it's too easy to take your spouse for granted, so make a conscious effort to keep it from happening.

[@joetexas4407]

Man! This came as I was a freshman in college. Moving to a new city on my own, going to school and getting hired for my first real job by an engineering firm made for a chaotic segment of time then. When I heard this song just now I saw my first apartment and first non high school girlfriend in my mind. Waking up on Saturday mornings together for coffee and breakfast. Music is a powerful gift.

[@skid902]

You can say that again my friend......I’m 63 but the best years of my life are in the 80s and it’s all triggered by the music of the day.......wonderful but sad at the same time.

[@FEGIII-sm1gu]

As great as my life is now, and was then, too, the triggering seems to only make me wistful and a tad sad. I suppose if that’s my biggest issue, I’m doing alright.

[@lizzieball3795]

@@FEGIII-sm1gu yes it's much worse if your life now is not great.

[@RicardoMartinez-jy5lo]

I was a sophomore and still learning English as a second language.

[@feg3akatrey144]

@@lizzieball3795 Indeed, for me "great" IS a relative term/concept, but let's just say my list of "good shit" is longer than my list of "bad shit." :-)

[@a.m.5805]

she is so beautiful, since I saw her at first on stage with Peter Gabriel. Amazing...

[@brandonmoore7497]

@a.m. yes Paula Cole is very beautiful 0:28

[@paulsantos914]

Another Gem from the 90s!

[@davidgdraper6269]

I just love Paula’s voice. I could listen to her sing for hours.

[@timothyspence9009]

"Yankee doodle went to town riding on a pony 🐎🐴, stuck a feather in his 🎩 and called it infiltrated from with in, these artists sing Dixie, sweet heart Jesus Christ plan, AMEN AMERICA MAGA"

[@shelleybeach658]

I'm singing very loudly with her atm xoxx

[@ThunderChunky101]

Sounds like Tori Amos - who also laments men being men.

[@jesseperez6830]

Was having lunch with my wife at a restaurant and they were playing this song at the bar and I immediately went into a trance, took me back to that point on time when the song came out and it was pretty amazing.

[@russellbrown1068]

As you remembered what a Banging Body Paula had.

[@AmberMcQuiston]

I can still remember taking a bath in high school to get ready for school in the morning , and this was playing on the radio in our bathroom. And I was like, What is this amazing song?!?! It’s weird how I can still remember the very first time I heard it. It was so different than anything else on the radio at that time.

[@DrWhom]

so you didn't even notice her?

[@sueann1985]

One of the best songs ever!

[@j.celestekee658]

Her voice still gives me shivers from its haunting beauty decades after this song came out!

[@matthewroberts9107]

You took the words right out of my mouth. Every time. Chills. Every. Time. A true artist, poet, social commentator, femininist, and documentarian of American life.

[@applemnster6309]

@@matthewroberts9107 HAIM performed an amazing cover of this song on their 2019 headline set at Pitchfork music festival. I never would have heard of this song otherwise!

[@CharlesNewkirk-sb5qs]

Sexey🎉

[@timothyspence9009]

"I grew up in a small town, the song, let's see the Swamp Hollywood CA Italy movie get away with it, or censorship, the USS Missouri, amendment rights Born with, Magadonians" 3rd party USA 😎 devolution dude 🦉🦅 AMERICA "

[@timothyspence9009]

​@@CharlesNewkirk-sb5qs"CIA globalist instinctively contracted Hollywood CA to go on strike, after the movie"sound of freedom " hmmm 🤔💭, Yoda say 🌱🌿

[@nastassjavandyk7360]

We got old...it's only through our music that we feel young.❤

[@nitroxsam66]

We grew old in body only. Not in spirit, nor in mind.

[@jamessenich8511]

We sure did get old,you said it all right there I was 26 back in 1997!!!!

[@SMac-bq8sk]

Well, maybe not "feel young"; music just helps us remember that we once were.

[@jimmycesarmorenoantunez2670]

Estás en lo cierto

[@LeislSchutte-jb2yu]

Why didn’t some of us grow past the age of 16?

[@callieschaeppi8831]

27yrs later an i still know this song word for word. [I was 11 when this song came out]

[@scottculli7851]

What a beautiful truly beautiful Song, , BAND,SINGER, she just sounds heavenly

[@tenrgn]

This song is now 27 years old😢😢😢let that sink in

[@OgramRavot21]

Wow! I thought it was new. I had it in my head earlier and had to find it . Time flew by!

[@Vicky-fn2ru]

It's wild huh

[@clivedoe9674]

Now it pays less for car insurance.

[@jensenms]

I was 45 when it came out. It was sad then - still is.

[@vpustote]

She was 29 years old when this released. So that would make her at 57 years old now.

[@watermelonsugar6909]

And 26 years later, I'm 38. Feeling so nostalgic, loving that 12 yr old self who first heard this on the radio in year 7. Almost 3 decades later i realize I'd led the life the lyrics just read. I'm a single mom now with 3angels and i hope to share the magic of this song with them as they learn and grow ❤ Love from Sri Lanka 🇱🇰

[@j.michaeledwards2892]

Wow! Congrats from Oklahoma City in the U.S.A!!!!👍😁🎶🎵🎸

[@stacielewis4912]

I was 10 when this was released…life went way too fast 🥺🥺🥺

[@raygordonteacheschess5501]

She was mocking subservient women.

[@markandrews5547]

It took Peter Gabriel to introduce me to Paula's music. And then I found this track. To her, I say WOW, what a voice! and to Peter I say thank you.

[@reneetorgerson3067]

I was going to mention that she was a back up singer for Peter Gabriel. But I am very jealous of you now LOL you know Peter Gabriel and you were introduced to Paula Cole?😮😮Peter Gabriel will always be one of my all-time favorites!

[@OneLifeTwoLive]

Exactly how I got here also Mark. I’m so grateful to be introduced to such gifted human beings. 🙏

[@JohnCroasdale-m9i]

This is a awesome song, she is such a great singer, memorable in everyway!❤

[@rodniki14]

Now I finally understand this song.

[@RicardoMartinez-jy5lo]

The British author Terry Eagleton wrote that ironies are more easily understood within the British culture.

[@kardslistening8365]

@Daniel Brooks Some interpretations overlook the irony and sarcasm...unfortunately ;) Paula Cole has always been a feminist at heart..and I love that about her.

[@electricearth1101]

this song is literally MAKING FUN of women who get attached to Alpha Males. Its satirical. I know you may think its about Beta males but The Singer herself is a feminist and said its satirical and it ultimately promotes the feminist idea of independence.

[@rodniki14]

@@electricearth1101 How is it that you know what I think?

[@Prxyshj]

Peak America, Peak World. The 90s here were an incredible time. People who were not there at the right age will never know. It doesn’t make me feel special, but sad that a vision of the 90s can’t be shared with them.

[@user-sx9jh4ku4q]

Something about this song is pretty magical. Her voice, especially at the end of the song really shows her vocal range. One of my faves by her 💜

[@paulm749]

She shoulda been the biggest act in pop music. Such a voice.

[@chirho100]

I haven’t listened to her since the 90s brings back memories, I was in the US army at the time.

[@laurieberry162]

Paula Cole has a wonderful voice.

[@chrisnealis4270]

The production on this track has always seemed unique. Keep in mind that this was recorded to 24-track analog tape through a massive vintage Neve console at the iconic and now closed "The Magic Shop" studios in NYC. The spoken verse mixed with that amazing melody subtly singing along under it in the mix was pure genius. It takes a very creative mind to visualize something like that in the world of analog sound, and it went completely against the grain of everything else on pop radio during that period. I say this all the time, I feel extremely damn lucky to have been a young teenager during this period of music, 14yo to be exact, at the time this album was released.

[@RezellRezell]

subtly

[@chrisnealis4270]

@@RezellRezell Oof… I even typed that on my phone. No idea how it or myself didn’t catch that. Thanks.

[@RezellRezell]

@@chrisnealis4270 no problem. I just got amazed how you had the whole history of the recording of this song. My way of saying thank you. That's why I read comments even when I think I'm nutty for doing so because I learn from people.

[@chrisnealis4270]

@@RezellRezell That’s what happens when the son of a master degree holding music teacher who once worked for multi-Grammy winning singer grows up and becomes a Nashville trained recording engineer. We love these little details. 😉

[@RezellRezell]

@@chrisnealis4270 Oh, my goodness. You are a legend. Nice meeting you on YT... 🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭😇😇😇

[@Enero82]

What a song! Miss the '90s so much. 🥹🥹

[@Sky1FlySkys]

A grand piece of Art.

[@alexanderopa5799]

She really puts her heart into it...Talented Artist..

[@Bridging_the_Political_Divide]

Brilliant artist!

[@MM-qo4to]

When music was deep. I miss this era of fantastic female artists.

[@danielhaines3940]

There's nothing deep about this song dumbass

[@sk3ffingtonai]

🖤 I never realized until lately how absolutely phenomenal this song really is, awesome.

[@ajs41]

Definitely one of the best songs from 1996/97.

[@GregoryChew0921]

You old fools. This song is about oppression and hatred. and don’t tell me it was a different time. I don’t wanna hear that shit

[@vikkibrown2023]

@ske3ffington~~Can't sleep so I'm playing my music~~I remember when this song came out~~I'd forgotten about it and just came across it~~I'm in my 60's and have always loved music~~I came out of the womb singing and dancing~~lol~~I love music so much~~Keeps me sane!!,,lol~~Paula Cole became super popular but only for a short time~~I wonder w/ever happened to her~~I thought she was great~~Hope she's alright~~Take care and have a great day/nite and stay safe~~😁😁😁💖💖💖~~

[@nikcar23]

Brings me back to 1997 and being newly married to the person she describes in this song all the way down to the out of state job and tractor. Happy to report we made it through that time of me paying the bills and taking care of the kids while he has beers with his friends. We both grew up. 27 then... 51 now. Stick it out if you can... and you might just get you a cowboy someday.

[@gw2891]

Loving your comment ..just quality 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@milesfamilybiz]

Hell yeah. I was 25 and she was 32 so she put up with my inexperience and tantrums. Now she feels secure and safe.

[@stephaniepayne3497]

Well Nikki. This chuck is still waiting. Guess I wasn't mint to Be

[@Thousand_yard_King]

To get get a cowboy, Don't come easy or cheap, that's why many women don't find them

[@stephaniepayne3497]

Y'all wrong! Cowboys don't cost a thing, and neither does there Love! Ik, I've graced a few.

[@SofiaCatholicGirl]

I'm impressed to see quite a few men who get the song and feel touched by the message. She expresses it so well and it's such a deep song, you just connect to the emotion. I absolutely love this song!

[@averydaymond1560]

Ok hhmmm I don’t get it. If it were a traditional female country singer singing these lyrics it would be easy to see she wants a man’s man tough guy throwback of yesteryear. But Paula Cole is a left wing feminist so I’ll assume that’s not what she means. So tell me! I really want to know? What is the meaning of the song? I did google & search for her explaining her interpretation of the song and came up empty so do not suggest me googling.

[@MtnMania]

She wants her man to be the romantic rugged cowboy that sweeps her off her feet, not a slob who leaves her alone and drinks beer at the bar. Am I right?

[@leviathanmg]

It has a lot in common with Tracy Chapman's "Fast Car."

[@captimpressive6580]

Yes it turns out that men aren't just bbq loving, beer swilling, blockheads that have no feelings. Go figure.

[@SofiaCatholicGirl]

@@averydaymond1560 I think that it's about this perfect family idea being promised with the strong provider man and sweet housewife not being the reality. I've seen and heard many examples in real life where the woman ultimately feels trapped and underappreciated because the man figures that since he works outside the house he shouldn't put any effort into the household and relationship. I guess she feels scammed in a way, everyone seems to uphold the traditional marriage and family as the ultimate thing to aspire to, but she is unhappy and lonely. Personally, I am not opposed to getting married or being a housewife, I don't think that the traditional idea of a family is inherently bad but I've seen the ugly side many times too and I'm scared it could happen to me. As a housewife you may also feel lost because you haven't been in the working force for the many years spent taking care of the house and kids so if you divorce you're taking a huge financial risk not just for yourself but also your kids. This song is charged with all of that, she fell in love and got married and pregnant probably very young without really seeing all the possible outcomes, now her life is miserable and she wonders why it isn't like everyone promised it would be. I hope this answer helps!

[@sithari518]

This hits ALL the 90s vibes more than anything else I could ever recall

[@paulwilkey2563]

I like the way she gets more bitter as the song goes on very clever

[@MANHATTANBEEFMAN]

You won't say that after you've been married...

[@Sheikbaby]

"Clever girl...."

[@AshleyMintz]

True, and the way that she kind of gives up in getting him to like help her out. After each verse, she takes on more responsibility and lets him do what he wants.

[@cupknee]

Akihito007 if you actually have a partner you give a shit about, you wouldn’t need to get a beer with butt buddies every single night. instead, you’d actually hang out with your wife and spend time with your children. claiming “but i work!!!” is just making excuses, literally everyone works and half of us still enjoy being with our families

[@AshleyMintz]

june bug This!