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@BB-zs9vh5 жыл бұрын
My motto is "Your issues with me ain't big enuff to be my problem".
@singstreetcar588111 ай бұрын
Thank u for this
@The63chicky5 жыл бұрын
Boundaries boundaries boundaries.
@sarahjohnson85145 жыл бұрын
I know who I am. I know what I represent. I know who actually loves me and supports me. I hold my head up high. I don’t care about smear campaigns because the narcissist I used to know tells on himself. It’s how I figured him out on my own primarily. That’s all that matters. I don’t care. I went no contact. I hold the power. I am empowered.
@anniejay9315 жыл бұрын
They show their true colors, only to their victims!
@trainkelby2035 жыл бұрын
Crikey burn those panties ...I dunno I'm just kidding ...I dunno what circumstances you refer too really ...but jeez ..you sound (metaphorically) like a feminist ...
@lauriejkase31114 жыл бұрын
@@trainkelby203 No, She sounds like she's going on with her life and not allowing herself to get dragged down. I'm happy to hear that she is ignoring the narcissist and the flying monkeys.
@Fan_Tash_Tic4 жыл бұрын
“It’s drama and I am not allowed to engage, it is beneath me and my self discipline and dignity forbids it” THIS 🙌🏻 Thank you for this video ❤️ I needed it! Trying to deal with a family members smear campaign and it’s been hard. I’m above it and will carry on choosing not to react.
@crimsonking79555 жыл бұрын
"it's painfull if you're still trying to win your mother's love", there was a great 'a ha' moment for me after I tried that one on, thanks for that.
@wendy7885 жыл бұрын
This is one of my favourite Zen stories, I often say to myself..."just give the baby back".....as an analogy to life....the zen master was accused of cheating...when he wasnt....he was given a child to look after...that wasnt his...then after he bonded...the mother turned up.....he just gave it back...after everything that had happened to him....so when I feel like everything is happening around me and its crazy....I say to myself...."just give the baby back".
@polifonyann5 жыл бұрын
Boom
@heartsofgoldenrod5 жыл бұрын
How do you suggest handling the taking away the child you have a strong connection with? If it were other healthy people, I could see letting go more easily.
@wendy7885 жыл бұрын
Thanks @SPARTANLIFECOACH
@Megan67724 жыл бұрын
@@heartsofgoldenrod my thoughts exactly. I would feel so sad to give up that baby!
@anniejay9315 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! We CAN’T avoid the crap...unless we step in to courage, strength and fearlessness! I keep trying to avoid it all, by hiding everything from others! The other day I talked to a trusted friend! She was shocked about my husband’s emotional abuse, there was no judgement from her...just kindness & understanding. She said, “You are losing yourself respect by not facing the music! “ And I agreed! I’m super afraid of what others might think of me. My friends & family will not believe it! You are right, sir...!!!Thankyou! Reading two books, Sam V’s and Pete W’s! I am really wanting to learn!!! “I am no longer invested in trying to control your perceptions of me” Well said!
@thecook89643 жыл бұрын
"They don't even believe what they are saying" 😂
@BonnieBlandАй бұрын
That's actually a good sign! The folks I'm dealing with lie so intentionally to so many people they actually start to believe it's true!
@AnimalsMatterMorally5 жыл бұрын
Beautiful, just beautiful... the power of the non-response "okay"
@mishliss5 жыл бұрын
Richard. I have no words to explain how much you have helped me grow. I go back and watch your old videos once a week. You are truly a hero and I thank you a million times over for how you have helped me be emotionally literate. Blessings.
@mymidlifecrisisstabilizati63585 жыл бұрын
I had a smear campaign against me by a employee I fired for stealing and preforming illegal activities at my facility. She had some of her friends (flying monkeys)give me bad reviews on yelp & my social media accounts all posted on the same day. She kept her hands clean. I contacted yelp and they said it’s nothing they can do. My rating went from 5 to a 2. On social media I blocked them which made their reviews not visible.But I still get business but it is frustrating. This happened in May. I’m still open. It amazed me how people will get upset with you when they did the wrong. I was expecting the narcissist smear campaign after I fired her. I got the locks changed to my facility the next morning after. She attempted to enter for some reason the next day. When she couldn’t get in she raged on social media. She made her own website and use pictures of herself at my facility and reviews from website and social media. Her business website and business social media looks exactly like mine.It’s sick but a little entertaining to watch because she doesn’t have brick and mortar.i still monitor her from a distance just to be safe. I have learned not to engage especially when I have a whole business to lose and all she has to lose is a fake image that she portray. If I engaged I would be making a choice to lose.
@meredithheath52725 жыл бұрын
OMG!!! So sorry - your "person" sounds just as bad as the person I'm dealing with - see above. These sleazes get no repercussions is what burns me... (The police and others don't do anything for us, as they have too much to do... But some support services are better than other support services)
@MeltedPearls5 жыл бұрын
Lawyer time?
@mymidlifecrisisstabilizati63585 жыл бұрын
MeltedPearls I thought about that but it would still cost me time,money and will possibly tarnish my reputation. She has nothing for me to sue her for, no money. I would win the lawsuit but lose time and money. I have chosen just to sit back and watch without response. It’s the most peaceful and less costly option .
@luscher50934 жыл бұрын
My Midlife crisis Stabilization Wow. Respect.
@Omarra675 жыл бұрын
This is the life I led up until a few years ago. I was so enmeshed (another old self-help/counseling term) in my relationships that I always came out feeling like I lost the battle AND the war. I kept taking the bait, falling prey to those who needed to feed off of me to gain a sense of power. I've kept a certain distance and/or completely cut ties with several people and it's been great! The only thing I fear is ever making the same mistake and allowing drama queen abusers into my life again. I THINK I know enough now that I won't, but there's always that fear.
@klchieri5 жыл бұрын
Mothers love should never have to be won... but I know from experience that some women should never be moms.
@goldn9094 жыл бұрын
klchieri exactly
@mrdeshonline4 ай бұрын
My mother is evil
@SoulsAwakening2 ай бұрын
At some point you gotta look at the father and ask him what in the fuck was he thinking
@ZLLi6612 ай бұрын
same with either parent. Looking at the positive, at least you grow up learning exactly what to avoid and make sure your future partner is everything the abusive parent failed to be. They were not an inspiration but a warning. With that regard I am grateful for the warning. But like everything when you have the 'warning' with 99% of interactions, it does get very old very quickly and eventually even grey rocking and very rarely talking isn't enough. No contact is the only option to Sovereignty. The quicker you do that the quicker to can start to heal and move on.
@wolfesound8 ай бұрын
Sometimes it does affect business and career for decades. In some cultures, they keep the smear campaign alive, and next thing you know, you keep getting rejected or fired.
@bryando5 жыл бұрын
Haha I did just that to one of the Narcs in my life. Instead of saying "ok" I was saying "I know" with a smile then laughing every insult that came out. It didn't know what to do.
@themetamorphosisofgipsy4 жыл бұрын
Lol @ "it"
@JohnSmith-cz3us3 жыл бұрын
@@themetamorphosisofgipsy LOL I just realized that “it” means inhuman. Like not a he or she. But it. Because they’re dead inside soulless beings. At first I thought he put “it” because he didn’t want to disclose if it was a man or woman. Now I get it hehe.
@JohnSmith-cz3us3 жыл бұрын
Hard boundaries : ) I love when he says my discipline and dignity prevent me from engaging with them or paying any attention to them/the smear campaign. It’s brilliant. You didn’t do anything wrong so there’s nothing to be upset about. You also can’t control their actions so there’s nothing to do. When they smear campaign you they actually give you key insight into their personality, character, and mindset while you remain a grey rock. These people who do these things are pitiful, low-lives with low energy/vibration. We are Resilient, tough, and just there in the background : ) in one ear out the next.
@GaveMeGrace15 жыл бұрын
Thank you- my wife rarely threatens divorce for the purpose of control anymore, because for months I’ve just been impassively saying, “Ok.” She said I didn’t care if it happens. She’s wrong. I long for it.
@christophermoody68405 жыл бұрын
Richard!!! Please start making more videos about this type of Narcissistic abuse... The non- romantic relationship type. The work place bullying type, the smear campaign and targeting type. I think most of your viewers are women, so.... you end up getting alot of questions about Relationship style Narc abuse with men... which is going to end up effecting mostly women because Narcs are more likely to be male. I think there are alot of men who watch your channel who have to end up making the translation to fit their specific situations which may be of the non romantic relationship type. If i made any sense there..... you know what I'm talking about!
@robertford5328 ай бұрын
The people who know us, know us, and the people who don't, dont.
@boomerangsruckflug85135 жыл бұрын
Yes, thanks. It's all about our values and self-love. Women often have the "disease to please" and that's why they tend to abandon themselves and say Yes when they actually want to say NO. We can check how we feel in our body, our body tells us in the very first moment, we just need to be aware and listen to our feelings in our body. As soon as we've learned to love ourselves unconditionally, we will be able to defend our dignity with ease and grace.
@fionam37355 жыл бұрын
Spot on Richard. Keep them coming x
@romaine24345 жыл бұрын
Is anyone else crushing a bit on this bloke? So emotionally intelligent! Thanks for your video's, EXTREMELY helpful.
@trainkelby2035 жыл бұрын
Erm no not me ...but then I'm a guy so hardly surprising ...lotsa women watch this stuff I just noticed... Il try harder to crush on this guy just to make you feel better ... Still not happening for me ...
@trainkelby2035 жыл бұрын
@@romaine2434 Lol.. what the hell are you saying that crushing on guys is ok an not shameful ?
@trainkelby2035 жыл бұрын
@@romaine2434 crazy woman
@rainbows90605 жыл бұрын
@@trainkelby203 why is she crazy?? You never heard of a bromance? That's a sweeping statement to make about someone. Really unfair. Give your head a wobble.
@trainkelby2035 жыл бұрын
@@rainbows9060 sure sure lol
@civilized_half-orc56895 жыл бұрын
Thank you, this I found actually very helpfull. "I'm no longer invested in trying to control your perceptions of me." Gotta tattoo it on my brain. ;-)
@nightowl24815 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I used to tell my kids about bullies - I just hadn’t taken my own advise with my mother.
@annarehbinder75405 жыл бұрын
Night Owl Ah but there is a valuble lesson there with bullies you need to put a hard boundry and be Very clear because otherwise they Will keep challenging because of group dynamics. Ok only works after the boundaries are set.
@divinekate5 жыл бұрын
I don't do Drama...Boundaries...I am not into horseshit either .Glad to hear this video, Richard..Namaste 💜
@lokisingularity33944 жыл бұрын
Look up gangstalking and targeted individuals. Some of the worst crimes against humanity in the 21st.
@maryharris782810 ай бұрын
Boy tell me about it.I didn't take this seriously until it was my turn.I skipped over this KZbin topic because I didn't think it applied.When it did,my recovered trauma return ed& I didn't know what to do.I tried researching while trying to escape the neighborhood. The narc moving companies near by knew the flying monkeys in the neighborhood & they stoled,harassed me😢. I shut down, rehired a uranium moving companyFAR AWAY. I explained my situation ,she understood,sent wonderful guys❤2 help me.I spoke 2them via a translation app. Creepy.
@TheSnedmeister9 ай бұрын
I went through it. Don't engage just do as he says. Ignore it. Stay in your own reality. Fuck them their cowards. Remember if they do stuff that's horrible to you that's their character and do you need that drama in your life. Fuck them seriously. Don't give a fuck
@MarieMcDonald-ty5tb5 жыл бұрын
A voice of reason.
@wallymarcel15 жыл бұрын
I thought this video looked interesting and it became more so when I realized the female querent was ME. Hi, Richard, it was a great seminar!
@MeltedPearls5 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU!!!
@MsSedonan5 жыл бұрын
I love this guy. Dignity!
@starlingswallow4 жыл бұрын
I'm learning how to set boundaries and tell people: I am healing and recovering from a destructive marriage and I will not talk about him.
@elizabethandiosa45794 жыл бұрын
The marriage wasn't destructive. We've been brainwashed into blaming something else. Just state the truth that the ex was extremely abusive in many ways and you left to save your children and yourself from it's poisonous attacks. Marriage partnership isn't the cause. The intentionally abusive thing in human form is the problem.
@odette89055 жыл бұрын
Beautiful. Wish I'd been able to come to that seminar. Sending love and gratitude.
@selenaparsley11224 жыл бұрын
the flying monkeys have a gimp in their wings. my goddess wings are thriving and flying waaaaay over their heads!
@vicarofrevelwood4 жыл бұрын
The first time I caught wind of the smear campaign, I was appalled. But somewhere along the line, I stopped caring about the source. And recently when someone approached me and said well she said this about you or she said that about you, I just started laughing, and I couldn't stop. When they said what's wrong with you, she's saying all these things about you, I just say consider the source, she's a liar, and a cheater, she's done it to every guy she's been with. What would make me any different? Besides I don't care. She sends backed off the smear campaign. I haven't heard a word in at least a year. Her hatred is my water and I am a duck.
@grittygoddess Жыл бұрын
Love that!!!!
@mmarj.678 Жыл бұрын
"it's painful if you're still trying to win your **'s love" SH*T MADE ME CRY. MOST OF MY LIFE REVOLVED AROUND TRYING TO WIN MY NARC FATHER'S LOVE TO NO AVAIL. I WILL ALWAYS BE AT THE BOTTOM OF HIS LIST, EVEN HOW MANY TIMES HE TOLD OTHER PEOPLE THAT "I LOVE ALL OF MY CHILDREN" I KNOW AND FEEL THE TRUTH. BUT I NEED TO HEAL. I HAVE A SON TO RAISE AND I DON'T WANT HIM TO EXPERIENCE WHAT I EXPERIENCED.
@markfitzpatrick1010 Жыл бұрын
sorry to hear this. you are the light
@texuztweety5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Richard. This video is excellent.
@pickle9753 Жыл бұрын
How have I not seen this video before?!?!!
@jennaletizia54308 ай бұрын
My sister has launched one for years about me
@Noname113646 ай бұрын
Same. Just found out this week at 44.
@avalonmist2545 жыл бұрын
I have experienced work place mobbing out of no where. I am an adult child of alcoholic with recovery.
@rainbows90605 жыл бұрын
Hi fellow traveler.😊
@avimae42255 жыл бұрын
I walked away from my family years ago because they believed my narcissist brother was perfect. I was to blame for everybody else's problems. I also got a 5 yr no contact order against my narc son. Which is absolutely heartbreaking as he is the only living child I have left. 3 weeks ago I went to stay with my mother who lives in the little apartment at my brothers. I had to go get on anxiety meds while my brother was still there for the 1st week. The next 2 weeks were bliss. As soon as my brother came home it was back to the same old routine. I totaled my truck last week. My life is just a shitstorm with no place to live, recently divorced the narc husband (he admitted he was a narcissist) and I am disabled. I realized today that I don't want to go on. My soul is tired. The 2 things that keep me going are my dog and my granddaughter. Even that is loosing it's luster. It rains lile a mutha fookar in the PNW.
@keiwa-yourdreamvacationstl65375 жыл бұрын
hey please stay alive...it will be better. ...do the emotional literacy work..reach out..get therapy please stay alive..😭😭
@MeltedPearls5 жыл бұрын
It's common to feel this way. Make it common to gather yourself and the pup for a fresh start. Believe it can happen. Be stubborn about it, ok? We are a group of people who have come through a lot already. We deserve a good chapter and must survive and struggle to get strong and to reach it. It's worth whatever we gain. Rest up and get back to self-care.
@rockstarofredondo11 ай бұрын
The PNW seems to be plagued with awful people. Not really sure what’s going on there. I hope you are still alive and you just moved away, perhaps somewhere sunnier.
@randallbrinkman25704 жыл бұрын
Just realized yes , i didnt do it intentionally just necessity, i needed to heal , recover , and move on . But yes they are still carrying on in the toxic behavior , and that path includes smearing , punishing , thats not my life anymore , didnt have anything to do with me in the first place .
@phoenixd96795 жыл бұрын
Serenity, alone , no more the need to be needed on my part !!! This is a big AHAAAA MOMENT ! Knowing and not applied is the mistake on my part , now I am changing!!! "Hey Pluto is my favorite ice world "Thank you Richard💜!About Pluto documentary I watched last night so much on the same page with the happenings!!!
@nikkishaye93854 жыл бұрын
I got so many gems from this clip. Thank you, Richard. God Bless You and all the Souls that you give Hope to! ✨
@patricia56864 жыл бұрын
So many gold nuggets in this one. Thank you, Richard. Reminds me of a Seinfeld episode when his girlfriend takes him to lunch to let him know that she is breaking up with him. His response is "Okay". She was dumbfounded.
@JenniferSmith-is8mt4 жыл бұрын
Richard, I would greatly love to hear your opinion on a thought I keep having. The first narc in my life was my dad. I could do nothing right, and he just didn’t like me. His entire attitude and demeanor was so critical and condescending that I would have run away if there was anywhere to go. Fast forward 35 years and he’s now in prison for life for molesting kids.... not me , but other children he adopted after my mom left him. That has left me wondering if part of the toxicity and picking others apart was an attempt to deflect attention from who he is and was.
@sedingwemaduo4 жыл бұрын
I'm downloading this video so i can listen to it when i walk on the corridor of my college.
@elizabethandiosa45794 жыл бұрын
Beautiful. Gray Rock.
@kellihansen64465 жыл бұрын
Richard, I appreciate you sharing this!!! This was very helpful to me ❤
@Nanneke95 жыл бұрын
Crucial stuff being explained here!! Love it. Took screenshots. Making memes. 😁🙌🏼
@redfritz3356 Жыл бұрын
You can't just call the police on sophisticated manipulators like lawyers, for example.
@wynderwiefel139911 ай бұрын
And you can train unsophisticated ppl to harass without crossing the legal line
@eugeniebryan5385 жыл бұрын
Great advice, I wish I had seen this 3 months ago when I walked out of my job due to a smear campaign. Probably wasn’t one of the greatest decisions I’ve ever made 😅
@MeltedPearls5 жыл бұрын
*Sympathy* I was in a similar situation. Due to personal progress and goals to stay independent, I forced myself to stay to force *their* hand. And I won. Unfairly fired, I applied for and was granted unemployment benefits for the first time in my life, reported them to everyone I could, and they were given bad marks with the state because of it, making future claimants have an easier path with them, too. They didn't treat me right for my hard work and patient attitude, so they had to pay me for their hatefulness. I might add research revealed that they have a history of bad behavior with the public and their employees, and are banned from the neighboring metropolis because of it. :)
@eugeniebryan5385 жыл бұрын
MeltedPearls wow good for you! I didn’t even make a formal complaint in the end, because the bullying I faced was very insidious so it was near impossible to prove. But it made me feel like absolute shit
@getbigmuscle5 жыл бұрын
Amazing ending...it sums it up
@akersquarteracre80025 жыл бұрын
GOOD. STUFF. Thanks again for putting things in such honest and understandable words Richard.
@bevshanks29724 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@Dogcatlover24325 жыл бұрын
I’m finally there!
@AngelKrystalStar5 жыл бұрын
I was going to comment about that story!! 🤣 Eckhart ftw
@cheesysnack80995 жыл бұрын
I will make this my opening video for every day! Brilliant! Thank you 🙏 "OK"
@nico_4 жыл бұрын
That smeared board behind you, everything blurred and deformed, is the perfect backdrop.
@oliviamiller74344 жыл бұрын
Refusing to listen to the smear campaign is a description of pretending. It’s unnatural and unworkable. Of course we listen - it’s our world too. You don’t always win. Sometimes bad people get away with outrageous insults. So that’s the crummy world of grown ups sometimes. Cut your losses. Get away from those people. Get out of there. Give up ASAP is how you handle it. Take your sweet self to a better place.
@melliness1235 жыл бұрын
It's super difficult when it is your mother!
@Emkfry80205 жыл бұрын
Mel A Yes, difficult, but so important. I'm going to be setting my boundaries with "dear" mom. This time I'm serious and will let any who want to know that she won't continue being her snarky self to me. Else, I'll just walk away.
@flyonthewall70265 жыл бұрын
Is the full talk of this online anywhere please ? I find what you have to offer people Richard is priceless. Thank you so much for your help, advice and knowledge 🙏🙏🙏 ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@maryharris782810 ай бұрын
I stumbled across unknowingly the spartan style by force. Today im a couple of hot pistols❤🤗
@wendy7885 жыл бұрын
thank you.....I was at an intensive week long retreat in the middle of last year....this was given to all of us by the teacher: Harad Roshi...who was leading the retreat...a wonderful experience: I learnt how to drink soup with chopsticks....The Master took the high seat in the hall and said. "one person is on top of a solitary peak and has no path by which to leave. One person is at the busy crossroads and has neither front nor back. which is ahead? which is behind? Dont make the one out to be Vimalakirti and the other to be Fu Daishi....take care of yourselves...Rinzai Boku, Page 4 XIV....
@amberupton20604 жыл бұрын
I watch this every day and it’s helping me heal. Thank you Richard 💜
@mariaclark63134 жыл бұрын
👍 you are so right. It's a situation that gets perpetually sticky. Doesnt help to listen or react. It becomes so senseless & wasted time & energy...thanks
@blurglide5 жыл бұрын
Being socially ostracized is painful, Richard. You said in your 21 presentation...serotonin is based on your position in the social hierarchy. Mine position is less than zero after the smear campaign. I'm just trying to make new friends now. I just let her win because I think she'd get me fired from my job if I won. I didn't even understand narcissism until the woman I dumped a year ago started a smear campaign, then I discovered these and similar videos. I lost about 90% of my friends. The remaining 10% have also been ostracized from the larger group.
@RICHARDGRANNON5 жыл бұрын
blurglide listen carefully to the video my friend : I didn’t say it isn’t painful, I said it’s only words.
@blurglide5 жыл бұрын
@@RICHARDGRANNON Yeah...it's only words, but honestly the words themselves don't really hurt me because they don't ring true. The social ostracization hurts though. How does one get that hierarchical serotonin boost back?
@rjkel4 жыл бұрын
blurglide it seems to me it’s like a play where you need to move on to a new stage somewhere different with a new base and friends who start fresh with the honest person in front of them.All the best with ignoring the old social group. Their loss.
@muma6559Ай бұрын
thank you. Yes, it is beneath us giving those smears any attention
@chompchomp78534 жыл бұрын
I've a few narcissists who have created groups against me. It seems almost impossible to get rid of them. There's always a mutual friend who always ruins the new group. I wish I can do something by law, it's ruined my life but I'm still trying
@pixoariz5 жыл бұрын
I was dismayed to see you be so apparently dismissive of the power of a calculated smear campaign. Depending on the allegations, they can turn the 'flying monkeys' into vigilantes, destroying businesses, relationships and lives.
@kenzo96444 жыл бұрын
hi, This vid helped me a lot In my present situation [ brother & mother are both narcissists ] it makes so difference . now I can be free from this insanity . thank-you ! also some of the people's comments were very helpful thanks everybody !
@NarcissisticAbuseRehab4 жыл бұрын
Excellent message 🔥 Conquer the fear of rejection ✅
@callmeishmaelk7678 ай бұрын
Problem is these people try to get you fired, try to find ways to plant drugs in your car and try to get you arrested, pull stunts like dragging you into court for grandparents rights etc ..
@roland200020005 жыл бұрын
Mr Grannon you hit the nail on the head!!!!!
@ladyofthewoods24485 жыл бұрын
They loaded me up tried to have me locked up in an asylum but the staff there laughed sent us home I agreed to go just because ten people blah blah I thought ok I’ll show ya I’m not to proud. But I learned I say no I’m turning my back to y’all
@KARENboomboomROXX4 жыл бұрын
That's terrifying. You are lucky you weren't locked up and drugged for life. Don't EVER agree to go to the nut House....
@illyillyill4 жыл бұрын
If it's work related, and it gets that bad, just trust that the GOOD people you work with will be smart enough to see past all of the abusers bullshit. If the smear campaign is truly many levels deep in the work place, and people are just firing shots at you all day then it's time to leave, or transfer to a new department. My motto for work is "Don't ever get to the point where you feel like you're STUCK there". Ignoring them can work, but some abusers are so psychopathic that they simply won't ever stop, or let up. That's what HR departments are for.
@seanplatnauer72115 жыл бұрын
great richard, but the smear campaign destroyed me because i had no self esteem and i was a vicarious co dependent. and my daughter was used as a flying monkey. so hard but through it now. now i am self assured and i have little control what i say. i am scared of nothing. it has gone to far the other way lol. thanks again richard you are a star!!
@chelsea48265 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@ronalaing51764 жыл бұрын
Well done Richard, I'm experiencing this at the moment good advice 💪 Don't give them your precious time !!
@sylettemonroe88784 жыл бұрын
Love this!!!
@Teresa-wm2uj5 жыл бұрын
Excellent video thank you Richard.
@gracerules24235 ай бұрын
Yep, I totally get the purpose of a non-engaging response like, “Okay”. However, as a recovering Co-dependent I try to choose my words carefully these days. Saying “Okay” feels too much like the old people-pleaser in me saying “Yes” when I wish I had the courage to say, “No”. Why would I pretend to agree with any of that hot mess being spewed by saying, “Okay”? I think I’d prefer to say something like, “Oh well”.
@keiwa-yourdreamvacationstl65375 жыл бұрын
right on time
@pippadaisychain79025 жыл бұрын
Oh yes I saw some of the smear campaign against you Richie. Damn unpleasant it was. You are right to ignore it though. Often the people behind these things don't have anything to say that's worth listening to. I'm slowly beginning to learn this. The girl who was bothering me over the cat for instance. I recently saw her having a row with some guy and trying to smash up his car with a baseball bat. Am I really likely to be interested in anything she has to say after that? I doubt it..Yes it's best to ignore it.
@truthwillsetyoufree20245 ай бұрын
Love you attitude.
@ginaheaton22034 жыл бұрын
To the anyone that has an abusive family. Stop listening to them and cut them off. It will never change. Ask yourself this question, “What kind of people treat their family member like shit”? You will never be able to change their minds about you no matter what you do. Start looking at the people who know they are full of shit and you will realize that there are a lot more people who are not fooled by them than you thought.
@VeronicaKaneti4 жыл бұрын
I needed this! Thank you. X
@Chris-cf2kp5 күн бұрын
2:40 those who haven't done it yet - a good song for you is Killing In The Name by Rage Against the Machine. Be sure to sing along, now.
@JE-md9tm5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your work! ♥️
@mialite79595 жыл бұрын
I believe what Richard is missing about this woman is that she has PTSD or at the least C-PTSD, and he's confusing it with codependency.
@itchyscratch63284 жыл бұрын
I've heard him say that co-dependency is ultimately the bigger problem compared to c-ptsd if you have both
@drlarrymitchellАй бұрын
"Hey did you hear what Kuntar the Miserable said about me?" "Yeah, about that-" "No, we're done here. Goodbye."
@karadiberlino5 жыл бұрын
Precious video!
@ZLLi6612 ай бұрын
very informative Richard. Thankyou. :-)
@angieburke12685 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Good reminder. My daughter told me not to open up the pervert topic with my abusive very elderly mother. We were on speakerphone and my mom got disrespectful and abusive with my daughter and pushed having her pervert nephew in my home. He was sexually inappropriate with me and abusive and my mother took his side many years ago and continued being abusive towards me. Anyway she pulled this shit with my daughter. At first my daughter was polite and the old thing got more abusive. My daughter stuck up for me and herself and called my mom exactly what she is....a horrible fucking person that she wants nothing to do with. And I should dump this nasty disgusting bitch and hang up on her right now. It felt great and I have no sorrow or guilt for the old abuser. It feels great to take a break from her and my brother. My health is worth it. They are both nasty nutters. The lawyers can handle property issues.
@dannyjonze5 жыл бұрын
good stuff
@sandymuggins3 жыл бұрын
Needed this today !!!! Thank you. Ive clarity now 🙌
@kardoyle3 жыл бұрын
My God ..... no words..... thank you
@StKrane5 жыл бұрын
Just brilliantly helpful.
@Levi_Skardsen5 жыл бұрын
How do I deal with those who believe the narcissist?
@rainbows90605 жыл бұрын
Dont deal. Period.observe dont absorb.
@HatBilly20083 жыл бұрын
I not afraid, I now have lost all the people that the 2 of us know together, and I do not care. I am happy to meet new people and friends. I do not care how many people think I am crazy or an abuser, because I know I do not hurt people, I care about people. The best thing is to not want anything in return, and let them go and do the smear without care. Because freedom is not worrying about how ours see you, but how you see yourself that is what matters. She love no one can take that away you must give it away.
@Pharmpm15 жыл бұрын
Ya you just gotta say “F*ck you” , it works. Set the hard boundary, yes Thank you Richard 💙
@kathywillett39204 жыл бұрын
im sorry...IS THAT THE AMYGDALA? then he nailed that response...but that look! classic.