Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | TED

[@trevorwallace1281]

That explains why we are happier as children. The bond u had with your friends were the best times of your life

[@ccdev]

As a child u have no responsibilities, you have no money worries. You think that makes difference?

[@urbaneriksson9781]

@@ccdev Yes, and it's so much harder to make friends.

[@robertmassey3275]

Unless you had a childhood of abuse and neglect. I had a rough childhood but I strive hard to overcome it. It’s a struggle but I’m a survivor.

[@noahevanm]

I never had friends. But, I did play a lot of videogames.

[@haroldbubuli8718]

Yeah probably @Trevor Wallace

[@Mikey-wg2xu]

I’m 61, married for 33 years, one daughter 25 years old. Went to college and worked my whole life. Planning to retire at the end of this year. Been lucky, worked hard, lived a good life, very few regrets....hope to be around for many more years. I am no expert but I can offer my thoughts for what they’re worth: pick your relationships based on decency and character, not flash; be prepared to work hard on improving yourself (relationships and education and physical self); live within your means; invest time and money on your health, family first; things don’t last but memories do; and always be thankful. I think as you get older, friends become more important. Good luck to all in finding your own happiness. 👍🏼👍🏼

[@dewannaglow8365]

Mikey'58 thank you 🙏🏽

[@karkiusha]

Thanks sir..🙌

[@BRyan-qk8qc]

Well said Mikey!👍

[@colors8812]

Mikey'58 tell me more sir

[@j.s.8196]

Respect, Sir!

[@rae0521]

I now realize that the moment I became HAPPY was when I stopped comparing myself to others and came to understand that what others think of me is just none of my business.

[@harshraj4982]

How did you do that??

[@rae0521]

@@harshraj4982 If YOU are not in charge of what you think and value, WHO IS? I choose to control my life as much as possible so I just DECIDED to do whatever it took to free myself from society's ring in my nose. You can CHOOSE to do the same.

[@drosein4020]

So true!

[@kevinabrar6444]

Really really interesting

[@NarendraSingh-br3xm]

It's like be free and do what you want and come out of social stigma.

[@karlottahawkins6348]

Thank you for this Ted Talk. I am almost 70. I’m a retired middle school media teacher, mother, grandmother, wife, friend. Evaluating my life after listening to you, I have to agree with you completely. Stable, loving, long lasting relationships are the joys in my life. I am hosting a family reunion in a week. This reunion brings me more joy than planning a vacation. ❤

[@chefgiovanni]

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[@beverlystraus9300]

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[@theatomic430]

Yes but people are different. It's nothing you did.

[@maryam.asadi97]

@@theatomic430miserable af😒😒

[@theatomic430]

@@maryam.asadi97 It's actually a valid point on the talk, if you'd care to think it through. 🤷‍♀

[@DanielVerberne]

This presenter has a very warm and appealing voice and manner.

[@_Crazyslots]

his voice comforts me..... :)

[@Bluewhhale]

He is a dinosaur

[@funhchannel]

Get a room 😂

[@sapiensapien1651]

me im more happy when im alone

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[@andrewheffel3565]

Old man here. Stunningly good talk. And 100% true. I spent so much of my time when I was younger working hard and worrying about our finances. And I am glad we worked hard and planed for the future. But I am more glad my wife and I also took time for each other and for our two sons. We did everything together. Sports, vacations, weekend outings, reading books out loud, praying together. Now my joy is spending time with my lovely wife, and our weekly calls with our grown sons who are still close to us. I wish everyone could experience the joy of being loved and understood.

[@kathyward9879]

It sounds like you’ve had a wonderful life ! Enjoy it until the end!

[@rae0521]

It seems that every once in a while someone manages to avoid the potholes in the road of life. They do so by keeping their eyes on the road & steering around them. However, in my experience, most of life "happens," not ON the road, but everywhere else. The question to answer is 'When on my deathbed will I regret missing most of the interesting parts of life that result from taking my eyes off the road? Clearly, it's a balancing act. You only get one chance to LIVE.

[@nolongerafraid4782]

Amen

[@destinixshakur]

Stay blessed and happy! This is so nice to see and read . Continue to live your best life 💚

[@andrewheffel3565]

@Greg Peterson You would never know it from my life now, but my childhood was a nightmare. My dad beat me and yelled at me constantly. I moved out at 19 and I spent most of my twenties getting wasted. Then I decided I had to change, but my life was such a mess. In desperation, I turned to God. And he helped me. I ditched all my old friends. I completely quit drinking and drugs. I joined a church and made new friends. I started a construction company with one of my new church friends, and God gave us success. And then I met my future wife. We married in less than a year. She came from a stable family, and she knew what it takes to make a happy home. We had two sons and I decided I didn't want them to go thru what I did. I learned to be happy and poured myself into my family. God brought me out of darkness and into the light.

[@nilayuyank7624]

Being in a good relationship starts not just finding a good person it starts with being a good person.

[@63LIONHEART]

I told my ex that I fell in love with her, for what I see in her and I will stay in love with her for what she sees in herself. I talked about how our relationship is akin to a garden...we must rid it of weeds because they will come...our need to take care of the flowers. I spoke to her about the psychology of self-sabotage and our love will change shape, as our characters are exposed and the heady feelings of oxytocin will fade and those things that were once cute and alluring may, in time, turn into things that annoy the crap out of us. We are the sum of our experiences, don't let the negative experiences of previous relationships interfere with your present...she pushed and pushed till I eventually pushed back, just so she could then say, "See, you're just like the rest"...

[@thereckon3592]

@@63LIONHEART True. Relationships are very complicated, it needs to begin at the right time for both people, with the right people. It's very difficult to get that right or close to right.

[@aiSage48]

The most important relationship to nurture is the one with yourself.

[@tonymontana3830]

Thank you

[@shawndreastewart5427]

Great point

[@michelvaraigne7557]

I do totally agree with what this man told us on this video . I 'm nearly 70 years old, and I do really deeply think, that a good reationship with people you meet all along your life, keeps you healthy , helps you to carry on appreciate being older and older , and makes you happier and happier .

[@silviacosta3388]

"LA BUENA VIDA SE CONSTRUYE CON BUENAS RELACIONES" que potente reflexión. Al momento de nuestra partida solo nos llevaremos aquellos momentos que compartimos con familiares amigos y comunidad. Me encantó!!

[@kerryfoster1]

Me too and i agree😆😊

[@Name-lt2tz]

its surprising to see see that 70 year old people watch youtube and comment on it :) and even have skills to do that. My mother who is less than 60 probably never wrote youtube comment. But who knows, maybe I did not see her doing that.

[@Independent.Kurdistan]

This guy is the best ted talker ever because he is sincere and humble

[@nyanpraterjr1819]

I absolutely agree. It look me a long time, in life, to figure out humble = class.

[@akhileshsajwan6314]

And also he believes in whatever he is sayig. He is genuine.

[@wiambouziane5891]

👌👌👌

[@Californiasnow]

And the talk wasn't about him

[@DJSt3rling]

I agree. This was so inspiring, for all ages!

[@RB-mq6em]

The pandemic has taught me to appreciate what I have: a nice home, places to walk by the sea and countryside, friends and family, my health, my books. I am trying to be grateful and appreciative every day for these great privileges.

[@danielagutierrez9969]

Thanks for sharing ♥️

[@rc1983]

You are lucky to have all that. Don't forgot to invest time with good relationship to make life worth living.

[@BridgeStamford]

So you taught yourself to appreciate this stuff but your conclusion is that you are still trying to appreciate?? 🤣🤣🤣

[@aw-g]

Be grateful to god 🙏

[@Ludwig1625]

Only thing you need is good friends and family, consider yourself blessed for that

[@arshadbagwan3039]

These TED TALKS.. are worth watching in this time of pandemic.

[@nserrano4686]

Agreed

[@kawaii_gallery]

True..

[@mateovazquez6685]

True

[@drjojo5551]

WTF!! WHY??????? NOBODY KNOWS What this pandemic is, nor know a predictable outcome!

[@komaljeet7884]

Watch videos of nanak naam

[@TheErika711]

I wish i had heard of you and this Ted Talk when i was in my 20's - i grew up in dysfunction - losing my Mom in Dec 22' i had to face my reality - im slowly working on being a better friend a better daughter im 58 now no man in my life - i want very much to have true love but its working on me to get there i have to be happy and healthy first

[@j3soka293]

❤

[@yuanboli1204]

I'm 18, and I'm thankful to gain this knowledge at such a young age.

[@VenturesWithDan]

I am 16 and I feel the same way. I am just so grateful for such a great opportunity of being able to learn stuff in a way that was never ever possible.

[@assanisa]

I’m 14 i feel the same

[@frederiklouw6531]

Im 12 i feel also good

[@rvscape]

I'm a fetus and also agree

[@GurjotRandhawa]

Samantha Rexiat not necessarily true, we do care.

[@docbrown3139]

This is so true. Here in Japan we have one of the highest suicide rates. We are working 24-7 to chasing money, we are on our phones and computers watching internet, there’s very little socializing and no real connection with anybody. Our society has become sick and lost.

[@late_Blooomer]

Come to India and learn about family and relationships.

[@cora9249]

dev singh I have been there already!!! For almost 6 months. We had to come back because of the COVID-19, otherwise we would’ve stay longer. Yes, people there is very kind, loving and patient... We loved it!!!

[@late_Blooomer]

@@cora9249 oh that's great you are welcomed again.

[@democraticmyass]

Cora Wait so if I commit suicide, I get to meet god

[@sebastiaocarneiro4122]

😂😂😂😂😴

[@angus9610]

I'm 14 years old and was thinking l didn't need to care about human relationships. But after listening to this lesson, I decided to cherish them. Thank you very much.

[@mariem3238]

🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️

[@petermartin9494]

You are a very lucky person.

[@fredriklarsson1707]

kekw

[@tmt3969]

Doesn't make any sense, at all

[@monkeybongos4389]

@@tmt3969 In what way?

[@lastnarwhal]

Some quotes that I really needed to hear... "The good life is built with good relationships" "Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period." "It's not just the number of friends you have, and it's not whether or not you're in a committed relationship, but it's the quality of your close relationships that matters."

[@sayantanidashere]

This gentleman has a very soothing voice.

[@아기야옹이-p9p]

Sayantani Das It is the man like him that can be credited with “soothing”

[@joshnic6639]

So does the guy in the video

[@senseiplazo9544]

Trueeee

[@MrRam1993]

@@dogbounty6399 dude 😂😂

[@stefannym1787]

i thought i was th only one thnkin bout it XDDDD so damn true

[@FairyWeatherMan]

My beloved grandfather died at 98, he has been a widower since he was 42. He never remarried, but he lived a life of hard work, always trying to be of help for his friends. He died remembering his lost wife, but never complaining about bad things of life. I still remember his teachings and his strength like they are etched in stone.

[@happymichieworriah8881]

That's amazing so sweet n loyal meaningful life.wat happened to granny

[@M1KeHD]

Give examples of his teachings please :)

[@Ten-ol7nc]

Would love to hear his teachings. Share please

[@Celevie]

Getting married and having kids early is thd essence

[@FairyWeatherMan]

@@Celevie I fully agree! One of the hard lessons of life. Unfortunately most people don't learn it nowadays

[@grannybooster9188]

This study is a reminder that social connection is critical to our physical and emotional health. It's particularly important during this Covid-19 pandemic.

[@ceooflonelinessinc.267]

Damn I will die eaely. I - 30 - never experienced love. Every woman I fell in love with rejected me. I also never had friends. I am screwed

[@Larrybird1980]

Funka Punka you’re not screwed. Read Corey Wayne’s, “How to be a 3% man.” You can get it on amazon, or get it for free through audible!! It changed my life. You have no excuse now!!

[@stephenlyons2846]

Hello Granny hope you okay?

[@erenblackbeard106]

Experienced it

[@Subhrajyoti]

@Young Pappy bro i m just curious how introverts will live their whole life? Like working for NGOs in free time?? Or how will u spend ur life when u r alone

[@Luaflowstudio]

I’m 21, still super young but this video left me a message! A true life lesson. Thank you for this🤝🏼!!

[@brittopiano]

Hi, I'm 26 years old, and I can say the same.

[@kristinLB]

It’s sad to me that most kids your age can’t even move in to their own apartment. Everything is to expensive! When I was 21 I had my own apartment and a car and I was only a nanny.

[@Mukul_.sharma]

​@@kristinLBhow you u have car and appartment from.nanny job?

[@kupewataaka6917]

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[@RANCHI665]

What you learn can you write please🙏

[@JEEFHARDY2XTREM]

Wow, that is actually very true. Now I know exactly what has been causing my depression recently, the lack of social interaction. And to my surprise, I noticed that even though I haven't achieved anything great in my life yet, socialising more with my family members and close friends can greatly brighten up my mood and make me much more happier and satisfied with the day I had.

[@PrometheanFire86]

+Anood AlKatheeri I recommend lots of (consensual) hugs too;) It helps me a lot, especially if I feel lonely, depressed, unloved or anxious. Good luck;)

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

+Unknown Anonymous it depends on personality. I am an introvert as well..a real hermit lol, but I have a rhythm that includes times for being social. I think it's great our needs are plain to see! Much love :)

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

+StandingPerfectlyStill Holly I was talking to anood..whoops!

[@pradeeplama1335]

+Anood AlKatheeri Exactly my thoughts! ._.

[@池田正充]

+Anood AlKatheeri , I agree with him. I think one of the reasons women have longer life than men is due to higher communication capability. It could be reasonable although I am a man...(smile)

[@부완영]

Well here’s the question: how can we have a good relationship with others? Some people are so lucky that they are born in a family full of love. For those who weren’t, Loving themselves and other people, creating a good relationship seem so much harder...

[@joshuastoltzfus4910]

The answer to what makes a good relationship has to do with loving others. The biggest lie is that love is a feeling. If we think about the characteristics of feelings one starts to become glad love is not. "There is no greater love than for one to lay down their life for one's friend." Love is actively doing things for others regardless of how we feel. There are bad parents that make their child's quality of life worse, but your question gives the keystone of what it means to be a good parent. So I think the final question should be, what defines our actions as truly loving someone? How do we know?

[@nikitkothale2388]

We have always imagined love as a noun, let's now practice love as a verb, And perhaps it'll become easier

[@TravisGilbert]

@@joshuastoltzfus4910 yes! I'm so happy to hear someone else say that. I wish our culture saw love as a skill

[@gabrielcaleb9277]

well Hello from France Jessie TV we have 14 children, and people compliment us.. it s nice ..but I always try to remember to say that prayer has been our greatest privilege, prayer has been our secret weapon. we must have said 10 of thousands of prayers in our lives I can only encourage you to try it for yourself. " If you then being evil, know how to give good things unto your children, how much more shall your Heavenly Father give good things to them that ask him" Jesus said . Our lacks are often God's opportunities May He bless and keep you!

[@ru.kiddingme]

Yes you are right. It is much harder to get up to speed in the relationships area of life if you have not had good parental role models. To cultivate yourself, and intimate relationships, the best pieces of insight and advice I have seen recently are in this KZbin video (Esther Perel) : kzbin.info/www/bejne/jH3LfoKoZaZ7bqs Connect with your path of desire, and best of luck to you!

[@haval00]

"Yesterday is history , Tomorrow is a mystery , but now is gift , That's why is Called present " -Master Oogway

[@eduardosacasa5007]

this was actually said before Oogway by St. Mother Theresa. I don't where she got it, though.

[@virus-rights7001]

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[@cocolocofamily759]

Oh 😍

[@wadahbottle]

Big Sean stole this verse 😂

[@Hypie582]

@@virus-rights7001 Mother Teresa must’ve been a huge star wars nerd.

[@jamesanthony5681]

The choice of occupation obviously plays a huge part in happiness. True story. A patient once asked his psychiatrist, 'What makes people happy? What is common amongst the happiest people that you know'? The psychiatrist unhesitatingly replied , 'Those who waited in some cases up to 10 years after high school before deciding on a career path. In the meantime they traveled, performed odd jobs, found out their strengths and weaknesses, what they liked and didn't like, ultimately deciding only then what they wanted to do with their lives. The unhappiest people were those who didn't wait and chose a profession because of parental pressure or for other reasons.'

[@leegio6602]

I think choosing the right job for yourself also affects relationships. People with common passion and aptitude understand each other deeply and have a very healthy relationship with strong fellowship.

[@kerryfoster1]

Yes I had a number of jobs but the last one lasted ovér 30 years. I drove vans and delivered things. Over 500,000 miles - sad the day I had to finish. All good things must end. To do something you love is the most wonderful 'career' but cértainly not something I chose at school!

[@Always.Smarter]

No, actually I don't think it does. If you're not happy with the job you have, then there is no evidence that you would be happy with the job you would like to have.

[@ShahMirKhanTareen]

I don't know why but I feel the biggest truth

[@susieq2873]

I think it’s more important to wait to marry the right person. Careers can come and go…

[@jwh0122]

6:12 Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. 3 lessons: 6:27 Social connections are good, loneliness kills. 7:20 Quality of your close relationships matters. 9:05 Good relationships protect our bodies and brains.

[@adiconstantin4598]

and 9:22 relationships where they really count on (trust) the other person

[@michaelpace1075]

OR, are good relationships the the result of being happier and healthier? Is it causation or correlation? Is the nature a person is born with a big part of where they are on the unhappy/happy spectrum? This speaker did not address this but rather implied it’s a personal choice to have fulfilling relationships. I say the nature and nurture of an individual determines the personality and therefore the amount and quality of interaction with others. Introverts, for example, have to have alone time away from people because interaction is exhausting for them whereas extroverts want as much interaction with others as possible because that is what charges their batteries. The bottom line seems to be the person being able to or not to develop and sustain or have as many relationships as others may be something that is not as controllable as the speaker implies.

[@bally2617]

@@michaelpace1075 absolutely true

[@holzhausholz8215]

@@michaelpace1075 very thoughtful and true

[@queensigal]

BS !There are plenty of people who live alone and are much better off than in toxic relationships. It all depends on your attitude

[@phuonghanhthai5294]

"The best change I ever made in my life was cutting off all of the toxic and negative people in it and stopped trying to make them happy!" That's good idea!

[@standgain3987]

Obsolutely u r right

[@almasnk7469]

How do u know a friend is toxic?

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[@jasenkavukelic5047]

Wow, that's powerful!

[@chevychase3103]

They don't care about you anyway so this is excellent advice to end he wants to listen! Can you say users!

[@ThePond1]

Good relationships are all I've ever wanted. It's the best feeling in the world to meet a likeminded person you can spend time with and just be happy together.

[@jerryakamuadams6399]

HapticBlitz you and me both buddy

[@koolyokam007]

HapticBlitz yeah I want a best friend who is like a sister or brother to me.

[@debangsubanerjee2155]

It's the best man..

[@kimiko04198]

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[@JohnsonKayla12]

This just proves how connected we all are and that the true purpose of life is learning to connect and draw lessons from/with each other. I really long for more close fulfilling relationships and hope that I’ll have a strong network of people around me as I grow older.

[@Ra_Pharaoh]

Very true. That first statement. I'm working on a treatise on happiness, and your comment is quite orienting in that respect. Thanks. And all the best.

[@n.a3345]

To me happiness is being grateful, feeling content. No, I don't want to be rich; I just need being self sufficient. I live in a developing country and see poverty wherever I go. It is such a great feeling sharing with these people. They smile all the time, and very kind and friendly. They make me realize that maybe in life you just need being enough. Enough food, money, have a shelter, etc. It is so simple. I have my ups and much downs, but I can't stop loving life no matter what.

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[@zahurulislam513]

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[@Odderek]

Keep the flame alive : )

[@rollakosta6554]

Nurul Aeni that's the realest comment. Keep lovin' your life and your people. Peace :)

[@shantisheosanker4047]

Nurul Aeni you got it right.

[@mayankmotwani6627]

I cried watching this and realized how short my life will be if it continues to be this way (I am 19). I will save this and watch it again to remind me how important relationships are.

[@hgcgvvcc]

😭😭

[@fsafiri2488]

No worries. You’re not the only one.

[@szymonchojczak1627]

Same here man

[@madyjules06]

Mayank, my heart ached upon reading your comment I hope that you see this…whatever IT is - as you didn’t elaborate upon how you’ve fallen into the rut you find yourself in… to continue, whatever it is that’s holding you back from fully embracing your life & making lasting happy relationships with good people who appreciate & care about you - get away from what’s holding you back, embrace life, seek out compassionate people & please be kind to yourself. I wish you all the best that our wonderful (& crazy) world has to offer 😊

[@GhastlyMange]

Look up Coach EO. It is not red pill even though it may seem that way.

[@luniko33]

Conclusion: Good life is built with relationships I am only 16yrs of age and Ive realised what works for me is a good relationship with myself first

[@behroozshahdaftar4209]

Absolutely. When you are a good friend to yourself, and like yourself, in time, good friendships and relationships will come your way.

[@narrator8534]

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[@gojoswife9415]

Same age as me, yeah I agree with you, we have to understand ourself first of all, but untill today i still cant understand me😭

[@nmcares7016]

@@gojoswife9415 it’s not always easy but be patient with yourself and just watch your mind.

[@clausmehl8731]

Weil said

[@ZakarAlanyan]

Robert Waldinger’s talk really struck a chord with me. The main point was clear: strong relationships, not money or fame, are what make life fulfilling. As I listened to him share the results of years of research, I was amazed by how simple yet powerful the message was: having close, meaningful connections leads to more happiness and better health. His focus on the importance of relationships made me think about my own connections and how spending time and effort on the people around me might be the best choice I can make. The talk inspired me to care about my relationships and value the everyday bonds that often get ignored in our busy lives. It served as a great reminder that a good life is built on warmth, support, and experiences shared with those who truly matter.

[@foreign_gentleman]

1. Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. 2. Quality of close relationships. 3. Good relationships protects our brain.

[@RnW9384]

I practice Chi Kung. I'm in very good shape mentally, physically, energetically and spiritually.

[@sugarxospice3375]

Thank you for the sum up!!

[@michalspector3142]

Short and to the point 😊

[@irishprice5152]

epic fails on all 3 points for me...

[@uelidrogba8382]

So what's knew (added value) about this? didn't everyone know that?

[@GuiPavani148]

This video changed my life years ago... I’m so grateful to have learned what really matters in life

[@AylissanL]

What did you do to change your life ?

[@NazriB]

Lies again? Get Laid

[@evaluna8100]

This actually makes a lot of sense. I have often wondered why depression and other mental illnesses seemed more prevelant in the west / developed countries. It didn’t make sense. Having been raised in the second most populous country in the world, where simply living is a lifelong struggle, it seemed very strange that people who had a comfortable life would actually want to kill themselves for ANY reason. But now, this video puts everything in perspective. Many developing Asian, Latin American and African countries may be dirt poor but the social cohesion is still very strong. People may live in poverty and struggle to feed themselves, but they usually don’t suffer from depression in the same numbers or in the same way as lonely people from rich countries do. This also explains why depression and suicidal tendencies seem to become more common lately... especially amongst young people. In this age of curated life memories, virtual friends and me-me-me culture, I believe, young people are struggling to form authentic and meaningful relationships with others. Attention spans are getting shorter and the fear of missing out is preventing people from forming bonds that are just a result of spending time together sharing conversations, memories, etc. I feel that this is at the root of the modern day explosion in mental health issues and unless we fix the root cause, pills are not going to make them any better.

[@adith520]

Well said!

[@juliuscaesart]

Eva Luna ✔️

[@DooitLee]

I think people in poor countries are just more lonely. Because you rarely see them smile.

[@jthomas2211]

Word.

[@manigupta2299]

Absolutely true! I myself am an Indian, and cases of mental health issues here are also increasing. You said it correctly that we need to find the root, pills aren't the absolute cure.

[@KielyChron]

This is one of the best talks I have heard: simple, honest and extremely useful for everyone.

[@Ryan-jx4vh]

Money won't buy you happiness, but the lack of it can buy you misery.

[@roydraydge6070]

Only if you're shopping for it..

[@3DavyJones]

get.get you misery.

[@kiturselassie9693]

ryan ford very true my brother

[@soryboutyoface]

ryan ford if you have 2 hands you can work

[@yutaluv9068]

The law of diminishing returns applies here. Once you have enough money to provide for your daily needs, the amount of happiness that more money will give you becomes less and less. To illustrate: If you earn 15k a year and get a raise up to 40k a year, your happiness will increase a lot. Life will be easier. But if you earn 100k a year and your income jumps to 130k a year, your happiness won't increase very much at all. It won't have a lot of impact on your daily life, you already have all that you need.

[@Merthalophor]

This study is absolutely amazing. Why is humanity not doing more of this stuff?

[@Merthalophor]

sd86it Hope you're ironic :) Seriously, happyness is all that counts. Why is ther only one single sucessfull stuy?

[@TheAnnoyingGunner]

+sd86it The zombie apocalypse will happen.

[@johnsmith-dv4ti]

he explained that in the video didn't you listen?

[@ledioaj]

cause took them 80 years and huge resourses to come up with .... yeah, it's better to have friends

[@Merthalophor]

genti You'll crave bigger accomplishments in your life soon as well, just wait until you're out of your teenage years

[@ironDsteele]

The best change I ever made in my life was cutting off all of the toxic and negative people in it and stopped trying to make them happy. Some not entirely, I now just keep a safe distance from them. At that same time, leaving my decent paying job I absolutely hated after getting out of debt. I'm making considerably less, but in a positive work environment with just enough responsibility. I don't owe anyone a thing. In Ontario, that is becoming unheard of. I spend most of my free time now volunteering at the local youth group and taking Karate, what a rewarding experience.

[@leylabakan3075]

Universal Steele sounds great. A hostile work environment harms all the good things in life. Best is to get rid of it ASAP.

[@ActionForAging]

Absolutely love it. Kudos!

[@TheBrownTable528]

That is so cool! Keeping your focus on things that really matter!

[@PuhMama]

Thanks. Very inspiring. I am ready to make the same change.

[@nickyhoward0310]

I have just made the same changes ;)

[@eeelizabethh95]

I am a 26 year old Millennial and this was a golden nugget. Thank you for this

[@matthewfernandes9518]

Good luck!

[@MysteriousTruly]

amogus

[@ADT2000]

4 and a half years later, youtube recommended me this and to be honest, I needed this more than ever....

[@boston312]

this perfectly explains why my happiness seems to increase when i left the states. I lived 30 years in the states chasing the American Dream via the rat race only to become burnt out, stressed and angry. Once I left for Asia, I automatically sensed a social unity that I never experienced back in the states. Despite the poverty, the social openness and hospitality of the people enabled me to experience happiness in which i seldom experience back in the states where narcissism and independent pride run amok. Its no wonder America has so many shooting rampages, the culture is inauthentic and goes against our spiritual nature

[@aperson2730]

👍 :-) :-)

[@islandgirlxx3465]

I agree! :)

[@MelleSalome8888]

I lived a similar thing, and agree ! You might find something like that again by communicating with the Cambodian or Vietnamese or whatever community you want, in the US. ;)

[@MultiSciGeek]

I think similarly

[@MusixPro4u]

^great question. In for the answer.

[@tominieminen66]

Thank you for this, I´m not in a good place mentally. I have been isolating myself for many years. I am 21 and this video helped me broke my isolation. I contacted a girl I like and we talked for an hour on the phone. I'm planning to meet one of my closest friends and I am seeing another person that has shared physical intimacy with me. After just watching the video, already only the thought of contacting people and opening up to them helped me gather strength and motivation. Also I had no distinct dream job or plan for my career, I thought to study civil engineering only of logical points. I would definitely be employed and would have good pay but now I´m thinking about helping other people in similar situations. Who knows if I will go that route but even without that this was important video for me and I think I will say, that watching this video was a major turning point for me. Once again thank you for making the world a better place.

[@Lily_faith227]

I love this comment! You seem like a good person! :) Thank you for sharing this comment

[@bhatiap]

First you need to be in a position to help others. With right means, skills and if possible financially. earn to give away. Look for people who are willing to help people lesser fortunate than them.

[@Niushaaslk]

Ur comment warms my heart

[@heyiamd6301]

Good luck!

[@Isildur94]

I’ve also isolated myself for many years and I’m 27. I’m trying to get my life back on track, but I lost my daily routine and it’s hard to get it back. I can’t believe I made such a mistake, but the only thing I can do now is to move forward.

[@Bobby-wo4ub]

This was the biggest advice I have been given so far. Thank you so much for sharing this valuable research with us. You changed at least one life for sure: mine.

[@much1]

m2 =D thanks

[@ritaa1034]

Same here

[@ravishmeetaroo1614]

It sure changes life towards a better one

[@선묘조제_재경수연도]

ㅇㄷ

[@mamanitubea]

This is why scandinavian countries are NOT the happiest countries And this is why Africa, Latin America and Caribbean countries have the lowest suicide rates

[@StutiRajguru]

My 17-year-old naive self would have scoffed at this. Now, at 20, after going through a host of personal struggles and getting a taste of the real world, all I can think about is how incredibly fortunate I am to have people in my life who genuinely want to understand and love me. And who I can count on to stick with me through thick and thin, while also having lots of fun with. Thank you for reminding us of this age-old wisdom, Sir. Beautiful talk!🧡

[@anaayana2632]

you are just in the beginning of 20s be an optimistic person ...take care of yourself and follow your passion.......and be happy 😊😊😊

[@JordanBeagle]

I can relate

[@arrietty1619]

I’m almost 19 and I’m so scared of growing old and taking on adult responsibilities. I regret not having enjoyed my teenage years more. I feel like my best years are already behind me and that I’ve missed out on so much fun. I could’ve been more and I should’ve done more. Have you felt this way before? How did you deal with this?

[@mard9802]

@@arrietty1619 hello, I'm much older than you and I can tell you that my teen years were miserable. But it got better. Take heart, don't be afraid. This man's advice is golden and it's true. btw I'm 59. Those regrets your feeling > write them off, they're not worth milling over. Also, the most fun I ever had was in my 30's and 40's. You've got time - a very valuable asset.

[@jessb4936]

@@arrietty1619 I think it's safe to say that most people have felt that way at some point in their lives. The good news is that as long as you are still alive, it is never too late to start living a life with no more regrets. Best wishes to you!

[@glitterqueen3543]

this guy has such a calming and gentle voice

[@drleinad]

When he says relationships, he means every human relations, not only married couples

[@chefgiovanni]

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[@oberric2388]

@@chefgiovanni I would say "get the f*ck out, don't ruin this video with pseudohealthy marketing.."

[@oberric2388]

@mary jane I disagree, it was "called for" : it's the ad which actually was "uncalled for" and therefore upsetting (moreover because it sells "natural" plantbased health solutions against viruses in youtube comments, which tends to make me suspect potentially dangerous bullshit). Plus it was actually asking "what if I told you?", so there, I answered in all honesty. I get your point regarding the video but I do not intend to have good relationships with spammers on youtube. We'll all be better if they actually get the f*** out. Hope you have a nice day.

[@sushilingole8448]

True...

[@martenmarten9534]

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[@nijparatminto2886]

I really agree with him. Having problems with people made my life get worse. I feel happier, stronger, braver and smarter when i have a good relationship. It will be good if we have someone to talk to and understand.

[@deem6930]

After watching the whole video, I agree 100% percent..... Family, good relationships and being social is so important for our health.

[@Avantdor]

Be social with me

[@kirstinstrand6292]

Good move E R I K!

[@Avantdor]

@@kirstinstrand6292 good morning, do i know you

[@sandeepk5154]

Dee M u r beautiful.. Lob

[@sandeepk5154]

Friends... Lov

[@kato1kalin]

When you seek happiness for yourself, it will always elude you. When you seek happiness for others, you will find it for yourself.

[@thejaneeyre]

What why how?

[@kairos106]

Sounds contradicting.

[@mrazzanibuble9273]

If you seek happiness for your self it sends messenge to your inner self that you lack of happiness. It will attract more unhappiness. If you spread happiness to others it will send the message that you already happy thats why you can pour it to others.

[@ukaszGrygiel]

This one is tricky, it needs to be understood right. There is a lot of people who always put others' needs before their own. Making everyone else happy, even at the cost of their own happiness. And they aren't happy at all. You need to love yourself first to truly love others. I'm not talking about egoic love, but the good love that helps you guard your boundries. Similar like If you are rich, you can help others with your money. I know people who were seeking happiness for many others and didn't find it for themselves. Anyway, great lecture and I bet that all people in the comment section of such video will eventually find peace and happiness! All the best!

[@cyyoung7462]

So true

[@Villanelle007]

Great talk. Made me think of my grandmother. She was very lonely throughout the last part of her life. Then she had a stroke and ended up in the nursing home. Then Covid happened and we saw her even less. She died the summer of 2020. As busy as I was when she was alive, nothing served as a good excuse to not give her an hour or so of time each week. It probably would’ve meant the world to her, even if it was a small gesture on my part. How I regret now that I wasn’t more mindful of her loneliness then.

[@melanie851]

I have never had grandparents, if I had I would have cherished them.

[@mukthatumkur3324]

We all do the best we can at any given time. COVID was disastrous on seniors residences where so many seniors passed away and the homes introduced many restrictions and staff there were overloaded. Even if you had time to go see your grandmother, you most likely would not have been able to. I am sure that you must be remembering your grandmother a lot and every time you do think of her, she would be smiling. :)

[@supritiphani1282]

Crystal please Pray for her Soul

[@MysteriousTruly]

no

[@Saaad2]

Sorry to hear that. Prayers for her soul and for you. Amen!

[@MzEllaful]

I became happier when I learned to accept myself and my current situation. Because everything is changing.

[@jalissajones195]

Life is like the internet, it’s best when you have good connections!

[@stundown]

Omg LOL

[@robertsimon-sween2673]

HAHAHA preach shishter xD. this changed me life

[@kossieseii85]

Thank you 🙏🏾. I’m gonna quote this more often.

[@laisgranato9040]

@@robertsimon-sween2673 m967

[@mengalex2485]

Agree with you

[@inneraesthetics]

I have to say that meeting my wife and letting go of my issues into her love has brought a light to my life that I can't describe without tears streaming down. The sheer happiness and joy that I feel from deep within every day that we welcome each other home is something I deeply hope that YOU will get to experience. But to get to this point, please take a good look at yourself and let go of issues that keep you from opening your heart to the ones you love. The amount of love you get back will blow your mind into your heart.

[@shannoncal4847]

inner aesthetics 💕

[@Baskerville1000]

Beautifully phrased, that's what I always looked for. Good for you that you have found it. Wish both of you a long and happy life!

[@Lotus1111]

Beautiful❣️✨

[@ninjabreadgirl]

I hope I find someone I can shower my love on someone like this some day

[@dianer8881]

Unfortunately, every single person that I have ever loved or helped has done nothing but stab me in the back. Get real! You must live in an alternate universe.

[@thepotentguy]

This is so true, Being lonely I started feeling my life force going out, but now I'm building a great support system going back to church, starting new friendships and maintaining good relations with my collogues.

[@omggezus]

I don’t know what I would do without videos like these.

[@veganath]

The 1st 'good' relationship is with yourself

[@veganath]

photo 650 *"you gonna like "self " when it can be compassionate to "others""* we're on the same page, compassion was my motive for becoming vegan a spiritual(for want of a label with less cultural baggage) sense of connectedness. This of course doesn't require the invocation of anything supernatural, just loving kindness.

[@wetyewruyrtsutrdhjfg]

That's why I have a healthy sexual relationship with myself. I do it with me once a day. It really improves the relationship I have with myself.

[@jetonbalidemaj]

Amen

[@fedetapia3994]

I played this videos beacouse i want to die right now, i feel lonly and stupid. I have social anxiety as well.. i have no cure, im almost 24 and i dont see why i should still living

[@hunter62307]

Fede Tapia Listen to what this guy says in the video. Surround yourself with people who will support you and understand you. You need to take time and decide who you are as a person and learn to be proud of who you are (if there is something you aren’t proud of then actively seek to change it if you can’t learn to love it). There is so much in life worth living for it just takes time notice the good within yourself. It’s okay to not be okay and ignore the stigma of seeking professional help as professional therapy helps so many people learn their worth

[@IndrajitRajtilak]

Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Lesson 1: Social connections are really good for us; loneliness kills Lesson 2: It's not the number of friends, but the quality of your close relationships that matters Lesson 3: Good relationships protect our bodies & brains The good life is built with good relationships.

[@arvindravi4869]

Solid takeaways from this wonderful talk, my dude.

[@Ot-ej5gi]

Ok, but if you don't have the money or the position in life, then who is going to need your sorry a.. for a strong relationship? It's so annoying to have these very INTELLIGENT IN THEIR PROFESSION men who really suck at giving us any kind of Life advises.

[@Rocco27274]

True

[@HRoy-ot7hy]

Indrajit Rajtilak Ho yeah? What's the evidence?

[@pepsi5572]

Thanks for helping me with my homework

[@sitdownbehumble8675]

I'm going to live a quiet life, enjoying the taste of the food I eat, appreciating my family and the friends I have and all the wonderful nature around me. I want to be a pilot and retire early with a small pension and live in a small house surrounded by nature so I can spend as much time as possible with my family, friends and doing things I love, such as paddle boarding, watching movies and eating ice cream on rainy days. Family, friends, beloved activities and quality of life come first. Career and superfluous money come second. Too many have them mixed up. Not many people seem impressed with the dreams I have for my life. But I don't care if people don't see me as successful, because the definition of success is being happy with your own life; loving what you do and how you do it.

[@lucienlachance390]

My dreams are similar!

[@xKawaiiMikuChanx]

I'll put this into my journal, it's put in words nicely and I really feel the same way. Thank you for sharing

[@sitdownbehumble8675]

@@xKawaiiMikuChanx Aw that's wonderful... Thank you! 😊 I hope all your dreams come true and that you live a long and happy life.

[@AverageAngel]

Wow this is good

[@tuquanvinh]

Stop caring about what people think about you. I wish you good luck, and prosperity.

[@RyanLeroyer]

Hidden Time Wealth is so unique. I can’t believe I hadn’t heard about it sooner. It’s amazing how life-changing this can be for anyone battling procrastination.

[@zagarton]

Always be compassionate towards others and happiness will follow you like shadow.

[@truefella5033]

Great comment. Hope you are doing well.

[@champtech8755]

Well I would say always be passionate about something and you will be happy and healthy no matter what.

[@fear_less_2020]

wholeheartedly agreed :)

[@Think_For_Yourself_]

Unless a drunk driver jumps a curve and paralyzes you for life.

[@EclipseOfGod]

My goal is to be alone and be happy, so far I'm doing rather well.

[@foi_kenneth]

Towards the end of the video, I notice I got teary eyed. I realized how lonely I am, and that I'm lonely because I push others away - friends and families. Well, 19 is still young. I can definitely change screen time into people time, and become more open to attention and affection from others.

[@hammadali9324]

Best of luck

[@foi_kenneth]

@@hammadali9324 thanks! First week and doing great although i cant make eye contact yet and feel guilt whenever im around my family but ive been spending more time with them and offer to help with whatever they are doing ❤️

[@tamtroll774]

oh my relationship

[@tamtroll774]

how aro you? can help you

[@hannahmaecasilang1408]

same, also 19 and yet I'm thinking that I'm wasting my youth being lonely

[@kspaapen2853]

He is giving advice to adult people but I am 16 and am glad I got to know this.

[@mariem3238]

🙏🏻🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@he.quetzal4]

I am also 16! Fight hard 💜🌱✨

[@avaneeshkhadye6816]

Wow lotta 16 year olds in the chat - A fellow 16 year old

[@christinehermo6860]

I am 19 and I never comment nor watch long ted talks but this one is very interesting to the point i had to listen and finish it. Praying for everyone to have a good and healthy relationship and love doing simple things with their love ones cos life is too short ❤️

[@the_outlettt]

Same to you!!

[@mikrobspen]

At age 58, I fit the definition of schizoid, loner, introverted, & philophobic. I have very little social value to share with others. I never enjoy socializing. I only feel lonely when around other people. But I enjoy my own company & can honestly say that I wouldn't change places with anyone else. I believe your theory that socializing is good for most people. Not for everyone though. The fact that some will think I am lying makes me realize even more how fortunate I am that I don't have to be around them.

[@Thewonderingminds]

Has ever crossed your mind to be on track of man's ultimate now life realization, which is divine love ? With that you see through all human fallacies clearly. Yet the challenge is to enhance consensus in situations, by implanting divine love based outcomes. When and if so, you bloom with everlasting divine love based self realization. Therewith being expands onto cosmic consciousness, encompassing all events with divine love, which is unsurpassed by anything at all times.

[@divyasasidharan2960]

Aloof Ness the study says if u think u r lonely than u think u should be. Everyone's threshold is different n exceptions doesn't define the rule of thumb. The study is for most ppl n u don't have to fit in most ppl. I don't think the study or the scientist would push u

[@adeadgirl13]

Schizoids are the only people who this study wouldn't apply to. If you feel happier when alone, then you are not lonely. And if you feel lonely when surrounded by people, then that won't make you happy. The good life is a happy life. Which is kind of circular logic. Happiness comes from having a good life which means being happy. Even though paradoxical, it is true. For most people happiness comes from good relationships but it doesn't have to be that way for everyone.

[@lynnhahn1396]

Honest reply. Good for you!!!!

[@Lowiiification]

I feel you

[@josephinewliu]

6:12 the clearest message that we get from 75 year study is this: good relationships keep us healthier and happier. Period. first , social connections are really good for us. and loneliness kills. People who are more socially connected , to family, to friends, to community, are happier, healthier and live longer. secondly, it is the quality of those relationship that matters. Living in the midst of good warm relationships is protective. thirdly, good relationships protect our bodies and brains. securely attached who feels they can count on the other one, have a better memories. Leaning into relationships. people time, do something new together, Long walks and date nights, reach out to that family member.

[@boosan_m]

This should be the top comment.

[@stephenlyons2846]

Hello Josephine hope you okay?

[@squadbully6187]

SDF submitted

[@ayatmuhammad3466]

I'm a person who had lives with anxiety and depression in my teenage stage that stopped me on enjoying life, I became a 60 yrs old in a body of 15, I was running from love and relationship till my early 20, now I am in love and it was the first time I felt truly alive, we sleep each night on supporting each other reminding each other how great the other person is, we are best friends who joke around all the time, his happiness, success and health is my priority so is mine to his, we go on adventures try new stuff and make each other life as excited as possible and that is how I found my happiness and smile.

[@kishanchali8752]

I'm glad that you've found your happiness and a person who truly admires you

[@beldonhuang]

Listening to Waldinger's talk makes me think about our endless obsession with material goods, as many of us oftentimes associate them with fame, success and happiness. However, the "happiness" we obtain through them is meaningless, momentary and empty, completely unlike the happiness we gain through connecting with our friends and family. They are what matters the most to us. The nature to grow and nurture our relationships is deep in our soul, and it is only through establishing high-quality relationships can we not merely be a surviving human being, but a truly living individual :)

[@RavnitSuri]

Closing quote: "There isn't time, so brief is life, for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings, calling to account. There is only time for loving, and but an instance, so to speak, for that." So good :)

[@ミライ-t3h]

I really liked this talk. It made me feel warm and fuzzy inside. It's something so blatantly obvious, but so easy to forget.

[@matthewcuriel991]

I wouldnt say obvious most interpret this idea the wrong way.

[@felipebrunetta2106]

It is an obvious thing that we don't want to believe because it goes against everything we believe in. And the talk has it's amazing part when you stop and think about what these 75 years mean, when you realize that the essentialy objectified happiness

[@chinmayanandakhandai8569]

It's better to live alone, than being in a relationship with toxic people.

[@frankerzed973]

It`s even better to live with a good relationship

[@chahahc]

I wonder if that's the case with those who withdraw from society. So commonly disparaged as being socially inept. Maybe it's really because the people around them are so toxic that it's just healthier to isolate than to connect.

[@highlyfavored2434]

Frankerzed Yes and not necessarily a romantic one.. relationships with the community, close friends and family too

[@egor.okhterov]

Zero is greater than negative.

[@Vipifipi]

AGREE

[@denebvegaaltair1146]

Now this is research that makes the world a better place.

[@황원-g8g]

Through the huge scale of study, I learned that the ultimate goal of life is to create good and healthy relationship. The lesson that good relationships protect not only our body but also protect our brain was very impressing. Taking enough time with my friends and family will help me grow healthier both physically and mentally. Good relationship is the true asset for my future.

[@潘氏幸孝]

This is a wonderful Ted Talk with the same in my life. I has earned a lots money, good job but the point is that I hasn't been happy, since I met my husband, pregnanted and have a child. In some periods of life, you will find out that having a warm family is the best in your life more than earning a lots money. Now I am a mom, without work, take care my son but totally and completely happy. My husband give me that happy, special thanks to my husband.

[@rizyrozaytheboss8516]

Hhhmmm many people in the comment section are not clearly understanding the message or they are interpreting it incorrectly. Basically what the speaker is saying; that unlike most of us associate money, wealth, material and worldly success with happiness; in the very long run and towards the end of days of our lives these things that we so call success and happiness hold no meaning. It has nothing to do with being an introvert or extrovert. I’m an introvert myself too; even though people think I’m this guy who is always extroverted. Basically he is saying having a strong bond with other humans is absolutely essential; after all we are only just another species living on this planet, whether that’s your siblings, parents, good friend, spouse, loved one. We as a single are not meant to function all alone through out our entire lives; if that is true than why each person has a role to play? Over all it’s a great talk. Peace to all.

[@freesoul6538]

Yes, thanks you. It seems most people only want to understand half of the message

[@sebestyenmolnar6372]

Every people are always alone (unikly experiencing life), and in the same time every body are connected with everything what they are experiencing, preciving. People only feel alone,because they RESIST or not want to being together with themselfs ( ovn, unik feelings, thoughts, experiences), and they need other people, things to distract them or help them to avoiding BEING TOGETHER WITH THEMSELVES.

[@ariannal.o921]

I couldn't have said better! Most people in the comments only heard "you got to be around other people to be happy and live longer", but is about the quality of relationships with people. It doesn't matter if it's just 1 person or 2, but it's knowing we have someone that we can count on, that doesn't allows us to feel lonely

[@RaynaOfSunshine]

Rizyrozay The Boss Good explanation

[@bennb4342]

Good comment.

[@sksk7516]

It took me six years to watch this master piece. Hope youtube recommends it to everyone soon and make their lives happy and meaningful.

[@aragornelessar7399]

Took me 8 for my wife to show me 🤷‍♂️

[@Leil1Lowndes]

Yes, for those of us who are workaholics, this brings tears - and recognition that it is the truth

[@rickloyd8208]

Nicely said, thanks

[@TraderTimmy]

+Leil Lowndes I am a work a holic but I have plenty of happy relationships in and out of work. Maybe I'm just like that. I find work a wonderful place to have excellent happy relationships. I work in media and maybe it's just one of those jobs that where you have to interact all the time with people.

[@1Howdy1]

+Leil Lowndes It is true. Many workaholics think that the acquaintances they interact with through work are the same as being people they have strong relationships with. Sadly, it probably isn't true. I go to a lot of estate sales. A common thing I see is a framed recognition from work, usually years of service, sometimes a training or production award. These make the best sales to go to; these people spend their time buying stuff they don't use. They don't have estate sales for happy people when they die. Happy people spend their time invested with loved ones, and the loved ones gift themselves the few possessions these happy people acquired, as memory of their lives together. I was a workaholic for 30 years before noticing this about estate sales, averaging about 50+ hrs/wk and lots of travel. I noticed this about estate sales and then got a certificate at work with a silver frame the next week. I quit soon after and just worked to make the money I needed, spending more time with my kids and grandkids, taking the wife on a day trip - on a flipping weekday! My doctor is amazed at my blood pressure now, he thinks I've been working out when I'm actually about half as active as I used to be. I wasted a lot of years on a strong work ethic being productive. People tend to respect others that "work hard". Sad.

[@TraderTimmy]

1Howdy1 Simply working hard is a no brainer. and slaving away at a job where your heart isn't in it is sad. I admire people who really enjoy their work. Loving what you do makes it easy work.

[@80beanz]

1Howdy1 50 hours a week is a part time job

[@leshegolerutla2998]

I don’t understand why we don’t learn about this in school. It’s just as important as everything else, if not more. (UPDATE: IT SEEMS LIKE YALL LEARN THIS IN SCHOOL. AWESOME. I LIVE IN SOUTH AFRICA AND WE DON'T LEARN THIS AT ALL. THANKS FOR THE ENGAGEMENT)

[@salomeyul]

because school molds us to be functional to the system, not to be happy.

[@cosmomindset2018]

👍🏼🌏💙

[@harsh9558]

U have a point

[@whya_]

Fun fact: I’m in a high school class called positive psych and this video was just assigned to me to watch and analyze :)

[@leshegolerutla2998]

@@whya_ awesome Tyler. All the best 💖

[@minikashyap888]

Wow! This is why one should never rush into relationships. You don’t necessarily need to marry in your 20s or even 30s. Marry when you are actually ready and can fully devote yourself to that one person. He is right, relationships do affect your health, physical and mental.

[@bewise8178]

I wish that you'll find the right person.

[@PhonePhone-ym2zx]

Mini. Sorry but you missed the point. Happiness and devotion are very different forms. First one needs to be happy by himself/ herself and only after that could share happiness with someone else. Devotion is to strong word and doesn't produce happiness without inside feeling good by simple being satisfied with yourself.

[@minikashyap888]

Phone Phone I have to agree with you! Thanks 🙂

[@ceooflonelinessinc.267]

Its eas to say when u have options. I dont. I - 30 - have been rejected my whole life of every woman I loved. Be happy if u have people who would love you. Attractivness is a privilege.

[@delightfuldaisy3520]

Phone Phone facts!!

[@austincross6256]

It’s mind-blowing how something so simple can bring so much fulfillment and meaning to our lives. Yet we spend so much of our time and energy on things that don’t truly matter in the long run. Connections matter. People matter. Interaction matters. And the Quality of it all matters. Loneliness is a silent killer. We need to find this within our communities again. Worth noting - There is a HUTE difference in “alone time” vs feeling lonely. Our relationships and connections will bring the most meaning and joy to our lives. It is up to us to find those connections and sustain them. To live a happier, healthy, and meaningful life. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@teresapappas9773]

Well said!!

[@barcavlckova1535]

"There isn't time - so brief is life - for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings, callings to account. there is only time for loving - & but an instant, so to speak, for that."

[@amya7492]

Be good to yourself. You have alot to give and live for. You might be struggling with so many things that you don't think you will survive. But you got this! You are strong! Find something or someone that makes you feel great about yourself. That helps you through it all. Love yourself. Be good to everyone else. This might be a horrible world we live in, but it has other great things to offer. Find those great things. You are amazing! Love you❤️

[@amya7492]

Wrote this to everyone one who needs it and especially myself❤️ Just takes a little self-encouragement to get some sort of a boost. Good luck to you all!!

[@patricemarie2960]

Very wise words!

[@parzival9639]

True Friends you can trust will -never gonna give you up -never gonna let you down -never gonna run around -never gonna desert you

[@ikright1103]

ALTER ICH WOLLT GRAD FÜR ENGLISCH DEN KOMMENTAR BENUTZEN DANN SEH ICH VON WEM DER IST XDDDDDDD

[@bappysiddiquee1602]

Rick Astley says hi

[@angryyoungman66]

then you will stay with no firends because you're looking for a friends that don't exist

[@parzival9639]

@@angryyoungman66 r/wooosh

[@hananabdi5010]

did i just get rickrolled by a comment

[@dailyhappiness9918]

Wowww thank you soo much for this eye opening message❤️ Too often we think that we have eternity on this earth but our time really is so short. While it is so short, let’s spend our time laughing, loving, and nurturing good relationships❤️ I wish everyone a happy and joyful life!

[@marvelxhandler8805]

This should be shared in schools..so younger generation could have a different view or perspective in life ahead of them

[@edwardk3]

They can't do that because it would be considered sexist.

[@ami2937]

J W why sexist?

[@edwardk3]

@@ami2937 this was a study on what makes men happy. The subjects were only male.

[@nievesleon3305]

They just did it. This is my homework. But in Spain.

[@nikolaevkatesla3823]

Nieves León I am from Spain to!! No se que hago escribiéndote en inglés pero ahí va

[@AH-sn5xw]

Fantastic talk. Couldn’t agree more that healthy, quality relationships are a key fundamental to a healthy life and overall wellbeing. Likewise toxic relationships are a killer to the soul producing unnecessary violations. At 62 I’m still working on this because it’s so essential and valuable to a contented life.... Period!

[@hashh2019]

you are Gen Z i think

[@shifashifana936]

An 18yr old here... Truly meaningful and worth watching... Really don't know how to show my gratitude... Amazing soothing voice... No "am.. Ohh.. Awhh" breaks.. Most importantly... I'll hold his beautiful message close to my heart in all walks of my life... "The good life is built with good relationships🌸💫"

[@anasquadri7919]

Same

[@mamame5403]

When someone care for you , you care for someone. When someone understand you and you understand someone. When you can share your intellect and emotions. That's the most important things for me. And to find Love ! This is very hard to find !!!!

[@Yaya-fw9ng]

He articulates the points very clearly and his voice is so calm and soothing. My aunt is in her seventies living in China, She has experienced a lot in life such as Great Chinese Famine and Deng's Open Door Policy years. She told me happiness is reached by hard work. I strive to work hard on my studies and work, at the same time I don't know what is like being happiness. Everything in my life seems all right but there are times I truly feel not enough ...

[@alyagyzmova9252]

清亮月光洒西楼 there will always be those times were we don’t feel well emotionally or physically that’s just inevitable, but life is not all about work, I believe

[@lucksli6486]

不仅你有这样的感觉，每个人都会有这种时候。想想自己所爱之人和深爱着自己的人，就总会有一种发自内心的喜悦之情。还有很多事情需要去经历，需要去思考。keep looking，don't settle.

[@Vinodvyas1512]

His smile is so infectious..!!! Such a beautiful message conveyed in probably the best possible way..!!!

[@GeorgesDAZY]

Extraordinary talk by Robert Waldinger. Nurturing our relationships! Probably the most complex mission to undertake in a lifetime. This constant work requires great humility, an open mind and heart ... and courage too! But it's worth the effort.

[@haseebmalik5952]

To be happy, to be unconditionally happy is the ultimate act of self love, of self-honor, of self-acceptance.

[@jamesyboii100]

how?

[@ninam.1838]

Talking from my experiance that's pretty complicated and easy at the same time. You need to cut out all toxic persons from your life, to distance yourself and sit to think about things you want to do in life. When you have clear thought about that, your self love journey will begin. It won't be easy, but it'll be very inspiring, fresh, new, clear chapter of your life and you will start feeling happy for little things in life. Social media is ruining us, that's why we suffer from not loving ourselves when we all have that love inside of us, actually. Don't live so you can be famous, pretty, rich - live because you want to be good person, intelligent, person who knows everything about acceptance, read articles that can teach you a lot about history, characters, people who fought for you in the past. Get someone that you can admire to, not in a bad way and not to be exactly the same as that one but somene who will remind you every day that there are a lot of strong women in the world, fighting and loving, doing their best to make the world a better place for living, so that you can keep doing the same. I have a will to change the world and make people understand what once upon a time meant to be HUMAN at first. Good luck!

[@LovingWolff]

girl with sunflowers your response is amazing 🌻🧠

[@ninam.1838]

Be The WOLFF thank you! 👐 hope I helped somehow

[@chriszone50]

The goal to become rich and famous shouldn't be a priority 1. In Brian Tracy's book, it is said the standard of the divisions of life in priority order is: 1.Peace of Mind 2. Health and Energy 3.Loving Relationships 4. Financial Freedom 5.Worthy Goals and ideals Without highest priorities the lower priorities are worthless. And it is said the sector which affects the human mind's happiness the most is relationships.

[@yssun7679]

Good relationships depend a lot on luck. Finding good people is often harder than making more money.

[@victoriabascon3895]

You've got a point there. Sometimes, it's all about luck or the lack of it.

[@justGOLD7]

There is an old saying "Birds of a feather flock together" meaning that birds tend to gather with other birds of their species; but also that people of like mind will gravitate to one another, finding good people has more to do with our self-worth and from that how we present ourselves to others. Building good relationships is more about being willing to put in the work than in chance or luck in finding the 'right' people, there is goodness within everyone it just may be harder to see in some than in others. Not exclusively, but frequently, the best relationships people have come out of really getting to know the least likely of people around them. Working hard at a job does not necessarily equal material success, the opposite tends to be true in that working hard on a relationship will more often result in relational success and the happiness it produces. However, these days the unwritten law of the jungle is 'if they can't get in, they can't hurt you' and so people avoid the very things that will reap the greatest reward in health, wealth, and happiness. Worth mentioning here is the difference between wealth and riches; being rich is tied to money and material possessions, wealth is a state of mind- being content where you are regardless of how much stuff you have.

[@victoriabascon3895]

just Gold True, I got your point😊. I have known several old married couple who are happy in their relationships and whom I remarked as "lucky". Of course, without even saying and really knowing, these people have gone through hardships in their relationships, for sure. Its their present state of mind/life that qualifies them as being lucky. But being realistic, it takes luck ( or rather destiny?) to find a person with same life values and aspirations ( in short, looking at the same side of life) as yours which I believe to be great foundation of a good relationship to make it at least work and thrive. And if in the quest, you discovered a different person, you ask for God's grace and strength to make you find contentment/peace in your choice of partner. And if you can't, you move on and let life lead you to another "suitable" partner. Thank you for the insight. Good day 😊.

[@PIPNTISAH]

That’s one of the wisest things I’ve heard in years.

[@randylee3946]

There is a lot of luck..especially with family. But with friends...that's a little different. Ever heard of the saying "You only get what you give"?

[@johntomik4632]

3 months ago my wife left me, I lost my home, my dog, my small business and countless other things. I just gave her everything and said "fine". Hanging out with old friends and has made all difference. It's great to be happy

[@carla4954]

John Tomik I’m sorry to hear that :) I feel like losing hope

[@ebyakhigbe6836]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. Please dont loose hope.

[@ashleycooperpop]

John Tomik Im sorry you had to go through that, I’m glad you’re happy!!

[@huyentrangnguyenthi7879]

I'm sorry to hear that. Cheer up! Best wishes for you😁

[@ryanjones9498]

I wonder why sooooo many men give so much to the women during a divorce?

[@lisamuir8850]

It's amazing how I always felt that invisible thing! I truly appreciate you all 💖🙏

[@hihaileyo]

I'm 15 and just acknowledged that it's a really good advice. I hope I can see myself comeback to this video some day and write down the change!

[@A_SD123]

I came here to feel better, this made me cry. I have been lonely for a while now and two days ago I started taking anti-depression meds, but I think this video is the nail in the coffin for me.

[@supritiphani1282]

Stall IV: how are you now? Tell me more about you. I would like to listen

[@AlisaCevere]

How are you? I hope you dont take the meds any more and that things look brighter now. Concentrate on the positive.

[@supritiphani1282]

Stall IV: so how are you now? It is a new year.

[@moonlightontheriver]

being lonely is not bad...some people cant stand being alone with just themselves..be grateful that you are NOT one of those people :)

[@asmaaali2865]

moonlightontheriver ur absolutely right.

[@KyleC11]

Every ounce of anxiety or unhappiness I've ever experienced has come from giving too much value to the opinions of others. When I truly am contempt with myself and dont care what others think or do, I feel at peace. When I'm at peace, I can make better decisions that benefit me and can spend more of my time being creative and achieving my goals, which brings me happiness.

[@mel-tp5hi]

reread your reply and change "contempt" to "content" ;

[@tomgardner8825]

i think you meant content

[@backupaccount47]

naw guys he be contempt with himself😂

[@vasudevsarvam6912]

You are really following what you are saying.

[@evangreenspan3101]

watching this really struck a chord in me. i have been lonely throughout most of my life. When im lonely and alone, the only thing i can think about is wishing i had friends with me or a girlfriend, more than anything. I grew up in a small, isolated, secular family. i had a sister i didnt get along with well, and had little in common with. My parents have been very supported of me, but i have shamefully been mistreating them all my life, and wasting so much opportunity right in front of me. The reasons i have been mistreating them and being unkind to them are extremely complicated psychologically and i have never been able to articulate it. The rest of my extended family, for some reason i will never truly understand, have lived far away from my family, so i rarely see them, always less than a handful of times a year. but when they visited, or i visited them, i found that i became happier and had more energy and had a reason to get out of bed in the morning. I was so happy when i got to play with my cousins. I loved them so much, but i only got to see them not more than 3 or 4 times a year. This isolation that i have had from my extended family throughout my life has been devastating to me. What has also been devastating to me is the lack of connection i had with other kids in school and in high school. I had no friends in high school, and in middle school and elementary school, many of the relationships i had with other kids lacked strong connections, and i never felt like i truly belonged to a larger friend group. when i am alone and lonely, i am dead inside. I am anxious. I dont do many activities because being alone cuts you off from so much of the world. I have never been in a relationship, and i have always wished and fantasized about being in one. when i am alone and lonely, i cut myself off from people around me, and make it impossible to make friends. Loneliness causes so many different negative things on me that i could write on and on about that. but when i socially connect with someone, i completely change. i become talkative, and energetic, and laugh a lot, and feel much happier. the happiest times in my life are the times i had fun with people, not things. my lonely personality and my socially connected personality are worlds apart from each other. from my experience, i could not agree more with this mans incredible ted talk and this incredible study. Thankfully i do have some great friends now who i don't see often enough, but i am now more motivated than ever to talk to people more and maybe just put down the anti-social phone habit for once.

[@EddelsonDann]

Try to approach people and reach out to help gain a better relationship

[@mathmalak3451]

I read your every words that you have written...my English it's no bad..but I understand your case very well...I am teacher but I still having the same felling that you have.... however our this case, I am sure that to be more connected with others that to be more happier in life.

[@quynhhoa3919]

Hi, we have same energy. Wanna be my Friend?

[@bitseatgetaneh5873]

The biggest lesson I have learned from this podcast was that having too many friends is not the key to happiness rather building very strong relationships with few people. You can do this by spending less time on phones and more time talking with people.

[@sherylaguilon7407]

I agree...i more observe and talk to stranger