I CHEATED! AM I THE A HOLE!?

[@libbybeliveau7506]

I can't imagine what the first woman feels like. The poor thing is so miserable she has to poo in a bath!? Does he think that was her first choice?!? Did he even stop to think how upsetting and humiliating it must be for her?! And then the shaming on top of the lack of empathy! I feel so bad for her. ☹

[@pogpogpurinn]

I feel for her so much, how horrible it must be to have to do that especially with all that pain

[@ziraniko]

And then to spread the story on the internet. Even if without her name, how humiliating it will be for her when she finds out he shared the story publicly. Ugh.

[@nimeryaspawnbrd1049]

I feel sorry for her, she had a baby and ended up with two...

[@laurakeightley9882]

So true! Yes!

[@libbybeliveau7506]

@@ziraniko that's such a good point! And I wonder what is goal was with the post. Was he hoping for a bunch of people to sympathize and validate his stance so he could use it as ammunition?

[@persephone1001]

The first guy is not mature enough to be in a relationship, let alone be married with a child. My fiance had to have a colonoscopy a few years back, and I helped him get ready for it with the enema kit thing they give you to use before you go. The thing I was most worried about was his discomfort. We've cleaned up after each other when we both had norovirus. Putting your own discomfort aside to help your partner when they are vulnerable is such a basic part of loving someone. I do this for my pets, FFS.

[@Kohana07]

3:30 he acts like she doesn’t clean the tub afterwards; clearly she’s cleaning it well because he didn’t know until she told him.

[@karmAnonymous]

I literally just left a comment about if you have a problem with 💩 going down the drain then have fun during the toddler years 🖕 especially if you have multiples & they 💩 in the tub together like it's a competition or something 😂😂😂😂 like... it's 💩 after intense trauma & then I can imagine just like myself, she made SURE she cleaned & sanitized the hexx out of that tub. I don't understand the big deal... the only difference between the toilet & the tub is what society told us the difference is..... is he appalled at pee in the shower ? I wonder if ever cleaned after peeing in the tub ..... hmmm I'm sure I know the answer to that... oh but yeah of course... THAT'S fine... that makes him better than her despite the disgusting equality of all the waste coming out of our bodies. I hope she divorces him.

[@jjusttlistenn]

LITERALLY. Not a mother, but I have been so sick at times that I've vomited or had diarrhea in the shower. It just happens sometimes. And I'm sure I pooped in the bathtub as a baby and toddler. He needs to get over it.

[@urbansuburbia7433]

Right? My kid pooped in the bathtub. She had a stomach bug as an infant and my husband came home to a naked baby and a shirtless me (I'd been puked on twice already) sitting next to the bathtub. Anytime she had to puke I just held her over the tub. You gotta do what you gotta do (and clean when it's all over!)

[@karmAnonymous]

@@urbansuburbia7433 EXACTLY! I seriously am just... disheartened at the broken XY DNA.... "nOt aLl MEn" yeah but it's MOST.... I've never known a single man of any relationship or lack thereof 🙄 that wasn't a perpetrator of all of this foolishness or in a recovery of sorts... loose on the "recovery"

[@aequanimitas]

@@jjusttlistenn Someone in my family was diagnosed with colorectal cancer. I remember looking at information about what to expect and what people do to ease pain after surgery, there were so many people that said the only way they could go to the toilet was in a hot bath. This guy is being ridiculous. People in pain need to do this. He is definitely an arsehole. What would happen if his partner had to have a colostomy bag fitted? He'd leave her? What a shallow POS.

[@brittanym9266]

The first guy is absolutely the a**hole. Constipation after having a baby is a very real thing and can be so incredibly painful. Been there. If the bath allowed her to find relief, GOOD FOR HER! Grow up man baby. Her body was wrecked having your baby. Gosh I just can’t with him.

[@rianorman3526]

This is a bit graphic...you have been warned!!! When I had my first child...a very healthy 9lb boy...I stupidly gave birth in one go. It looked like a massacre down there!!! I required an epidural for my stiches and a trip to the operating theatre for a 45min "repair job"!!! I was in a huge amount of pain..you had to prepare yourself if you wanted to sneeze!!! Laughing was another issue!!! Can you imagine the fun and games I went through after the birth? SIX WEEKS not being able to sit down without a rubber ring. Going to the loo was a case of in..out...shake it all about!!!

[@haleybit]

Right and she was probably already self conscious about it anyway which is why she didn't tell him ..

[@cutienerdgirl]

EXACTLY!! 💯 He cannot control if he has a visceral reaction to her pooping in the tub, especially after he just had a milkshake. What he can control is how he acts after. He can't even share a shower with her nor can he have sex with her. He's needs to grow up a bit! EDIT: He only found out AFTER she told him meaning she cleaned the bathroom thoroughly after, each time. He definitely needs to grow up.

[@fantasea114]

Some men are so clueless as to the complete havoc that having a baby does to a woman's body. My mum lost some teeth and her feet grew 2 sizes! Not to mention the lifelong and permanent damage having a baby does to your pelvic floor. If you've had a child, THANK YOU for sacrificing your body for another human. ❤

[@tiny6205]

This exactly. Like she LITERALLY had YOUR baby

[@KiPisMe]

That's first guy...what a child! He uses the guest shower, even 7 months after?!? Absolute child!

[@Dippydap1000]

So, I’m Jewish, and in my house growing up we always had history books about Hitler and books by Hitler in the house. This is because my family finds it so important to know what happened. It’s important to remember because if we don’t, we are doomed to repeat it. Not that those were the only books, but my dad loves non fiction books. Edited to add: I think the difference is whether or not the books are there for knowledge or veneration. Venerating such things is bad, obviously

[@amberNikki1313]

This is along the same lines as my immediate impression as well. The old saying about what happens when we don’t study the mistakes of the past dooms us to repeats of them is valid right? I feel like this chick might not naturally possess very effective deductive reasoning skills aka she’s an idiot lol

[@serephita]

I remember that post on AITA - the books are ones that I think she mentioned need you have to like go and read the titles up close. They're not by themselves, and are surrounded by other historical books.

[@sparklejezebel1308]

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@nevernever0143]

About the historian fiance story: he's HISTORIAN. What do you want him to read, love poetry? It's not like he admires AH. I don't see anything wrong with him and I'm Polish btw

[@shellzabelle4146]

Just an FYI, in case anyone else suffers from unbearable pain trying to poop after childbirth like the first story: another option is to sit in a sitz bath filled with warm water and do your business in the sitz bath. During my maternity rotations in nursing school, my instructor gave this advice to all the mothers and they seemed to really appreciate it, so I thought I’d share it here in case anyone needs to hear it 🙂

[@leviacronym6770]

Yeah, when I was listening to this story, I was thinking, too, that a Sitz bath would be a good idea.

[@LotteReid]

I'm gonna give my husband an extra big hug and kiss when I get home.... I can't believe there's pieces of crap like this that make the mother of their child feel absolutely awful about themselves. My husband turned into my own personal nurse after both our kids 🥺

[@yugenalgiz]

"Equally Shared Asshole" 😂 ESH means "Everyone Sucks Here", but from now on I'll use your version of it for sure.

[@aeriii4681]

Robert’s version is definitely funnier! 😂

[@nataliechaput9293]

*Equally Shared assHole 😂

[@andreashields6983]

It just rolls off the tongue 😂

[@codirennke1109]

Equally shared hasshole

[@katybakker]

1st guy is 100% the A-hole. Bowel movements after giving birth is horrible and hurts so much, especially if there is any tearing or an Episiotomy.

[@Hillemor1]

I am also a “proper” historian, specialised in wartime history. Of course he has those books. He probably has many more that they didn’t recognise with equally problematic content inside. It is a horrible part of our history that we cannot forget. I would have understood if he had them for political reasons. But it is literally his job to study those things, for the good of humanity and our future.

[@Danisuzette]

Thank you! I felt a bit attacked by that one 😂. As a cultural anthropologist I have many books that make people refuse to come into my home. It's absurd.

[@nicolorange]

No one should ever receive negativity for reaserch. There is a lot of crime channels that discuss horrible things. I don't think having any particular book makes you a bad person, surely they've at least learned that from history 😅

[@khills]

And the idea that other people had that you should just hide your books if you study “bad” things… 🤦🏼‍♀️ Oh sure, because academics are notoriously well-payed, so they can just have the polite library and the oooooooh spoooooky library. Besides, acting like researchers ought to hide their works out of shame is the sort of thing that leads to history repeating itself. (Add me to the improper club - I’m a bioethicist. The history of our field is, y’know, kinds ugly. And then on top of that, one of my areas of research is the “bioscary” - biorisk, biosafety, biosecurity, bioweapons, etc… and wow do people freak out when you have books on bioweapons in your shelves. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ Sigh.)

[@Hillemor1]

@@nicolorange I agree! When knowing his profession, it is extremely odd to me to react to seeing that book. We can’t be that sensitive. What comes next? Let’s not teach our children about the horrible parts of history at school because it can make them uncomfortable? No. It is a dangerous path if researchers have to start censor their personal and/or professional bookshelves. If someone is that sensitive, don’t visit a historian, and consider working on getting some coping mechanisms.

[@Hillemor1]

@@Danisuzette that is utterly absurd. 😳 noone should ever take a close look at my bookshelf for sure, if they are that sensitive. There are a lot of things there that should never exist. But they do, and it is my job to figure out the hows and why and so on…

[@HeidiHappyPants]

Robert’s face after “I just had a milkshake”…priceless

[@samc5877]

You hit the nail on the head with the first one. What was he hoping? That a group of strangers on the internet would say he was in the right, then use that to show his wife that he was OK being that way. What an arsehole!!

[@Leash_Canada]

I have many historical books about disease, slavery, the Holocaust, horrid historical events, murder, as I focus on the horrible aspects of humanity in history. Therefore, I have a lot of strange books. I would welcome anyone to read the books while they stayed over. Learn about these uncomfortable aspects of history so we don't repeat them.

[@khills]

Team Horrible History! (Medical historian and bioethicist, we got the gruesome stuff!)

[@starchildemon1]

that 1st story hit way too close to home. After I had our firstborn, my husband wouldn't touch me in a sexual way, and it really messed us up. I immediately cried when you started telling that story because somewhere I'm still not over it. They better fix it now because that will build a huge pile of resentment trust and believe.

[@tiffanywilliams7763]

I know what you mean. My ex was an AHOLE & it sucks how you can give birth to someone's child & they treat you like crap. It hurts more that he is providing for his current gf & child in ways he never did for my son & I. I hope you know you're beautiful & deserve to be happy.

[@starchildemon1]

@tiffanywilliams7763 thank you ❤️ I wish you all the happiness as well.

[@davidwong656]

not to be that person but I hope he becomes your ex husband cause what a dick. sorry if that was offensive, I hope you feel gorgeous and wanted because you are!

[@GrungeGalactica]

The fact that some men still struggle to comprehend women’s humanity is baffling to me. And they make us feel bad for it?! They’re the ones who should feel ashamed. Posting in reddit to a bunch of strangers because you trust their opinions, over respecting the mother of your child’s health and well being?! What a prick.

[@Budrica]

I hope you don't waste a single second of your precious life worrying about what a man might be thinking about you -- men prove over and over to be ridiculous and women still blame ourselves somehow, it's so sad. I'm so sorry 😔

[@lesliewit]

From the perspective of a person in a disenfranchised community (African American) I think context is key. If I went into a home and a historian had that something like "The Turner Diaries", which is a white supremacist book, I wouldn't be as put off as if they were just some random dude that liked that book and thought it had a lot of good points. Historians can often be the folks that make sure that history is preserved, the good and the bad parts. And as someone who is a part of a group that has suffered because the good and bad parts of history were disappeared(search Black Wallstreet massacre), I don't think it's a bad thing to remember.

[@SarahChaires]

Exactly! He's doing a good thing by researching and understanding the ideas that lead to the holo... event. This is how we learn and hopefully better ourselves. It doesn't make it better if we just pretend it didn't happen!

[@jessamieweber]

So as far as I know you have a bunch of people in the States who want to rewrite history. And want to sweep everything that is not compliant under the carpet.

[@amberknowgood]

I wholeheartedly agree & back this sentiment 💯. I have 2 good examples as to why it’s so important.- I grew up in Tulsa Oklahoma, just 5 miles from Greenwood neighborhood, aka Black Wall Street. I literally never heard the term ‘Black Wall Street’ or about the riots until 2019. 😔🤯 They definitely tried to bury this monumental piece of our history. They got the newspapers to cover it up & didn’t teach us about it in school. (Just to name a few of the ways to erase what happened) Also, I’m Native American.., I’m stunned all the time at what little people actually know about Native Americans (outside of Okla/ Indian territory). I’ve heard several people, from the US & around the world, say things like they “thought we all died out a long time ago” or that “we get a lot of free s**t from the government”. *Our lives & stories were VERY effectively whitewashed & wiped out.* It makes me so sad & angry for many reasons; including at those that fully assimilated, stay quiet about our experiences / heritage / our side of history, & don’t pass on our language/culture to the next generation. 💔History gets rewritten if we don’t learn & talk about it. 💔

[@denaemichele]

My first reaction to the last story is NTA but I'm definitely biased. As an adult who has been single by choice for many years, the constant intrusive questions and presumptions by other people that they know what's best for you can get really frustrating, exhausting, and frankly, insulting. And honestly, the sister's life sounds like a nightmare to me. 😅 But I do get that she could have phrased it more kindly.

[@lisapoulsen5452]

Also, why didn’t the brother ask (if his GF didn’t feel comfortable) why they had that book on their shelves? Isn’t it easier to inquire rather than just assume the worst?

[@jules9669]

My boyfriend would say "GOOD IM SO GLAD YOU POOPED!" he'd send me a dancing poop gif or something lol

[@maloryj7165]

100% same! My husband would have enough compassion that later on it would become something we could joke about, like- "omg and then after we brought the baby home, I had to poop in the tub! Just sitting in some warm poop soup. Turds floatin around." I hate that she's been made to feel bad about it.

[@polinatalmeltzer450]

This!

[@godlessfornicater]

He is a child.

[@Lizzypoohxo]

As you're reading the poop story my son is going poop and heard you and got so defensive. He gets shy/embarassed when he poops, hes a toddler lol. I feel bad for that woman, im sure she doesn't WANT to poo in the bath. Constipation is awful after any type of surgery or procudre that requires heavy amounts of medication. She mustve been in so much discomfort and figured if the only way for her to get relief is to take a laxative and hop in a hot salt bath, then thats what she'll do. It was probably more uncomfortable for her than her husband, what a baby.

[@TORTANK_8]

Lol in response to the first story: yes, that guy is a HUGE a-hole. It is really common after trauma and pain "down under" to have trouble controlling / relaxing your muscles. I hope the wife goes to the obgyn to talk about this tho, as they can get her meds or physical therapy that can help her with this. Not for his sake, but for her.

[@AngieDeAguirre]

I have read THAT BOOK. I don't longer have it but it is a great book if you want to understand the psyche of dictators and genoc1des. And also how far right propaganda works (nothing has changed very much in almost a century).

[@izzyclare_]

I am Jewish. I have a copy of that book, for cultural history purposes. This book is, yes, written by an awful person, and it is not something you should necessarily read for 'fun' - but if you're reading it for historical or study purposes, that is okay. Especially if you're a historian who specialises in that era, of course you'll have a copy of that book - and that is okay. If you understand what someone's career is, taking issue with them possessing relevant material is nitpicky and making things about you that don't need to be: if you don't like the book, don't read it. He isn't reading it because he believes in the ideology, so what's the issue? It's the context that matters

[@khills]

I can’t think of a single modern historian who hasn’t read that book…

[@rachelreed8248]

I think the most important key piece of information regarding the book: the fiance SPECIALIZES IN GERMAN HISTORY FROM 1930-1960. Unfortunately that dictator was a huge part of German history. I’m sure the fiance has other German historical books as well, so I think this is a case of being selectively offensive. If anything, the gf could have just asked straight away to clarify.

[@schromai4455]

I agree but at the same time I myself would probably not display those works openly in my living room. Of course it's their choice, because it is their home but I personally would probably feel uncomfortable just looking at the title on the bookshelf

[@Kaenightowl]

Totally agree, this is something that could have been addressed and cleared up the same day, without significant conflict in my opinion.

[@karmAnonymous]

it's a book.... & it's only "offensive" because of who's name is attached to it... the guy is a "proper" historian as his career... quite openly.... what kind of unhinged individual trips tf out over LEARNING ABOUT HISTORY AS A SPECIALIZED HISTORIAN?! that's whack af 💀😂 that's disturbing & unreasonable. people are absolutely psychotic over the most random things. are we going to pretend that man did not exist during the specific years or the specific region that the HISTORIAN is S. P. E. C. I. A. L. I. Z. E. D in? my God get a grip 😮‍💨🙄

[@twilight79010]

Right, I don't understand why the brother didn't just immediately explain to his girlfriend that the books were being kept for academic purposes. So my question is: If the brother DIDN'T explain that to her, why didn't he? What was his reason? And if he DID explain it to her but she still chose to be angry (and he also chose to be angry and defensive of her), then they're just being unreasonable. There is a huge difference between someone owning this literature because they support it, and someone owning it because it's academically relevant to their literal career. When it's the latter, you have no right to waltz into their house and throw a fit over it. Your personal sensitivities are really irrelevant and you're just being immature.

[@flamerssoul]

@@schromai4455yeah like if he works at a school he could’ve left it at the school. Why did it have to end up on their personal bookshelf.

[@nimeryaspawnbrd1049]

The "I made him kiss me" one... 🤦‍♀️ I used to have two friends like that when I was in my 20s They tap danced around each other for DECADES, since high school, never really making a move to get together but constantly "sabotaging" and getting inbetween the other's relationships... 😫 I've lost count of the times the rest of the group told them to get over themselves and just talk straight to each other for once. Nope, nah, "too risky... what if it doesn't work out? And the repercussions on the entire group of friends... no, no way" Hypocrites 😒 But then again, they probably just like the fuss more than the other. Over time, I lost touch with that group of friends after I moved to another city, but rumor has it that they're still playing their little game well into their late 40s... 😅 So, long story short, they're both assholes, but they're happy about it, appearantly... Don't get involved and let them be, I guess... 🤷‍♀️

[@Lunapple1]

I LOVE you Robert- your point on the first post. You really empathise with women and the plight of women. It’s so refreshing to witness no judgment and complete understanding from a man (you) where the woman shouldn’t have been made to feel disgusting and undesirable for having bodily needs. Wow hate her husband. No wonder she didn’t tell him. She probably knew he’d react in this incredibly childish and misogynistic way

[@twilight79010]

About the person around the 9:00 mark, I agree with you that I don't think she MADE him want to kiss her. It sounds like he just did it on his own. But she does sound very confused about her feelings and needs to do some introspection to figure that all out.

[@GrungeGalactica]

I don’t get how he had all those years to consentually make a move but chose that point in time. It’s not her fault, but it sounds like they’ve been low key each other’s “back ups” their whole “friendship”.

[@Squeebbles]

Her last sentence about being hopeful of the "future" with him was low-key kinda sus but I don't think she was tryna get him to cheat. But I do think they may have been keeping each other as backups; which is wrong to former partners and not a good basis of a friendship. But he's the biggest AH for thrusting that onto her when she (according to what she said, anyway) wasn't aiming for anything like that (since he was engaged)

[@_.mxggxn._]

I feel so sorry for the wife in the first story. She’s pushed out a beautiful baby, and the babies dad acts like that over poo?! He needs to grow up, honestly. It’s giving 12 year old grossed out by periods, yet he’s old enough to father a child?!

[@gsandau]

I stopped dating in 2007 by choice. I wish I had a dollar for every friend who says I just haven't "met the right guy."

[@keepingitsurreal]

About the book situation.. I'm a huge book lover and everytime I go for a visit somewhere, I always ask if it's okay to check the books (I might find my next read, who knows?!).. If I was visiting and saw a book that felt controversial or offensive, I'd simply say something along the lines " that's quite extraordinary, how come you have this book? " and let them tell me their whereabouts.. in the case of THIS book, if they tell me its because of work- cool, if they tell me it's because they admire that person who wrote it or agree with it etc, it's up to me once I leave the house if I want to continue hanging out with them or not. I don't agree with walking out without a single word and then demanding an apology especially if they never gave them the chance to explain themselves about the reasons of having this specific book. (Excuse any mistakes, English is not my first language)

[@miffy.moo91]

I feel so sorry for the wife of the AH in the first one. Not only does she have to deal with her body changing and being in pain and discomfort, she also has to deal with the embarrassment of the situation. Getting up and going to vomit is ridiculous. She obviously didn’t do it in front of him and cleaned the bath afterwards so what’s the issue?

[@rianorman3526]

I find myself stopping the video to discuss each story with my husband!!! 😂😂😂 So... "The culturally sensitive" book situation...I wonder if the boyfriend even realised the book would be something he'd even think about? It's part of his work..I doubt it was on the coffee table...but on a book shelf? How many of us would think "hang on Aunty Doris is coming over...let's look around to make sure there is nothing offensive on show"!!! Great channel Robert!!!! xxxxxx

[@tukituki6755]

Totally, like this book could not have been just laying around on the coffee table. It probably was in like a library or an office or a studio. The gf must have been snooping around and was randomly curious by its title. This people cannot expect the own home owner to take everything out their house that is slightly offensive / sensitive topic just because they have visits.

[@deanna2181]

This! All I could think was, why are they going through his work bookshelf?

[@magnan6535]

I am German and I find this book story so weird. We had to read parts of it in school (in our history courses, of course) and at least in Germany it is only available with commentary. Hence, presented in a political/ historical context & therefore imo in itself only available as scientific text. Also, it is not his personal journal. As far as I remember, he wrote it in prision and described his political plans and agenda, before the Nazi party actually did it. I don't think that's in general a book people read for entertainment. Even in the third Reich it wasn't read that much. I understand that s. o. is surprised to see it in a book shelf (at least at the first moment), but the drama in this story sounds strange to me. Especially, when you know that this person is a historian specializing in a certain epoch.

[@debsterClarkson]

The only reason anyone should "settle down" is because you've met someone compatible with you and who you can imagine having a family with. Get into the nitty gritty of the details. Just because you meet someone you love, doesn't mean you'd be great parents or happy being them. My life is definitely an absolute nightmare to many people😂

[@Brina21232]

For the book issue, I personally do not think they were the AH in that situation. If the girlfriend just asked, then the issue would have been solved. Communication is key here. Plus, they probably forgot it was there tbh. I forget what's on my bookcases all of the time. Yeah they're huge books, but there comes a point in time where you are no longer paying attention to the objects around you and are just living in the space. So, it's easy to forget that you have something possibly offensive in your home if you're not paying attention to it. Regardless, the gf should have asked them about it. After their response, then she could get upset but until then, no & the brother should know better.

[@nicolorange]

I just went to my book case to see what's there 😅 I think I could offend a lot of people just with my South Park collection of stuff facing the front door 😂 I'm not even a historian and I've got books about war and other gruesome stuff. I have a hobby of practical FX (horror themed) and there's a lot of info and inspo littered everywhere 🧟

[@Brina21232]

@@nicolorange Same! I started to think about what's in my bookcase & since I'm an artist, I have a lot of books with nude people in them & on the cover so I'm definitely offending someone 🤣

[@nicolorange]

@@Brina21232 thats funny, there's a wall under the bridge near where I live where anybody can add their art, there is more nude, gruesome and obscure art than anything. Do you get the opportunity to have your art on display?

[@Brina21232]

@@nicolorange I've had my work displayed in art show and gallerys before but my art doesn't feature nude subjects lol. I just use the books as a reference for poses or studying how the body functions. Similar to live drawing classes but just at home. But an art gallery under a bridge sounds amazing! I would love to check that out!

[@maloryj7165]

A while back, I heard someone describe the things in our homes we no longer really see described as "visual white noise" and I just loved that.

[@BrittniKent]

A man unable to control his feelings? Why that's just absolutely unheard of.

[@Clarytee217]

Have you tried gently telling a person that is into more „traditional“ lifestyles and gender roles that you don’t want to live that way? Has it worked? I‘ve told people that these ways of living are my personal nightmare. Not a nightmare, my nightmare and I‘m fully aware that my lifestyle might be theirs. Being gentle and incredibly diplomatic has never worked for me in these situations. I had to be somewhat loud and crass for these people to listen at least a bit.

[@xoxolovechristielynn]

I don’t think Kara’s sister is TA. I’m a stay at home mom and wife and I know it’s not for everyone. She told Kara, “your life is my nightmare”, which is very specific to HERSELF. There’s a big difference between saying “I’d be miserable in your shoes” vs “you’re miserable”, ya know? Like I don’t get offended by child free people who think being a parent would suck for them lol. It’s hard! And it’s better to regret not getting married and having kids, than to regret doing it after the fact. That just hurts everybody!

[@leviacronym6770]

Yeah, I would have told my sister: "It's just not right for me personally at this time and I don't know if I ever want this kind of life for me. Please stop pushing it on me."

[@FeatherstoneApothecary]

I have a whole book on old German uniforms if you catch my drift. it belonged to my roommate's dad who was in the navy during WW2. it's simply for historical reasons so anyone who feels otherwise can kick rocks. we also have a lot of Arabic and Egyptian antiques as my roommate grew up in the Middle East. it's an interesting mix and I will not put anything away to preserve feelings. it's my home.

[@courtneyvial3799]

The husband in the first one is definitely the asshole. Holy moly. Everything is so much more difficult after having a baby, and if that's what she needed to do to get some relief, good for her. I'll bet anything she was also the one caring for the newborn AND scrubbing that tub down too. He never would have even known if she hadn't told him.

[@Ditzybaby]

Btw the book he wrote was literally his plans that he then executed. And everyone during that time just ignored the book when his plan was literally right there before it even happened. I’d be interested to skim it if I saw someone have it, I wouldn’t find it offensive ya know? Because I’d wonder just how accurate his book was to what he actually did, if it all maybe could’ve been stopped had the right person read it. Same as watching true crime doesn’t mean I’m a murderer or support heinous crimes, keeping history alive doesn’t mean you support what happened in that time. We have to teach history so it doesn’t repeat itself. If we never know how bad it can truly get or how evil a person can be, we’ll never know what we’re fighting to prevent.

[@sherrylovegood]

We live in an era when people get “offended” for other people. Also, what is “offensive” to one person could be the work - in this case a historian - of another person. I’ve studied history for 40 years. Am I supposed to put away my books about the Tudor period with the horrific persecution of both Protestants and Catholics? Am I supposed to put away my copies of the Bible, the Torah and the Quran? Am I supposed to put away my books about the Russian Revolution, Lenin and Stalin? Am I supposed to put away my copy of The Communist Manifesto? History is history and without studying it and speaking about it we will never fully understand the human condition. Plus it’s my house. Someone offended by history needs to grow up.

[@maryeckel9682]

Americans have a huge problem with real history, and it's running our schools. I hate to see that happening in the UK as well.

[@leviacronym6770]

Exactly. That guy's girlfriend needs to toughen up. She's acting like she walked into a room full of N@zl memorabilia or something.

[@tylerreanne01]

I’m sorry but “the book of nipples” had me rolling 😂😂😂

[@mtjc5336]

lol me too. Especially since he followed it up with “that’s not really offensive.” Pornography was literally my FIRST thought when the topic came up of “things in my home that might be offensive that I would put away when guests come over” lol

[@tylerreanne01]

@@mtjc5336 🤣🤣🤣

[@sephestra.]

First dude is an AH to the extreme. I was actually prescribed laxatives after giving birth to each of my kids because it is so very difficult in postpartum. Not to mention if she had to have stitches afterwards because of an episiotomy, or if they didn't have time for one, tearing. The pain of trying to poop after that is excruciating. Dude needs to grow the eff up and get in touch with reality.

[@jules9669]

Apparently the guy having a problem with the poop bath has unrealistic standards that he holds the women in his life to. I'd tell the wife to run, but she just had a baby with him! It's so sad we can be trapped with these subpar men in our lives, all because they didn't let us know who they really were until it was too late

[@ChocolateMuffin308]

THIS! It's so fucking infuriating - men pretending to be someone else and trapping women to later reveal that they are abusive/lazy/immature. Happens all the time and is so unfair.

[@Danisuzette]

Lmao I'm a historian/cultural anthropologist and I still have text books and published papers on theology including the satanic Bible. I live alone in a 150 square foot apartment and some of my neighbors will not set foot in here🤣🤣🤣 these are absolute necessity for school and some of them were hundreds of dollars.

[@khills]

Right? If I shell out $300 for a book, it’s living with me until I can wring no further possible use from it, and even then I’m gonna wait at least half the time I’ve owned the book before deciding to get rid of it.

[@Danisuzette]

@@khills exactly, plus I have a KZbin channel. I tell the history of notoriously haunted locations, objects and freaky people. Those books still have use so they are staying. They are a good way to get rid of company that stays too long 😁

[@elettramia6380]

Sometimes, somebody needs to be the asshole, especially if you’re trying to dictate and micro manage another persons/adults life. It can be incredibly miserable allowing someone like that to feel like they have too much power over you. I would 100% be the “asshole” in that case. I’m also Not into sugar coating how I feel in order to make someone else feel better about their poor character, especially when they’ve crossed the line.

[@ShellyS2060]

On the history teacher one. If he as a historian, I would imagine there where probably other books telling about the other side of the subject. It's funny how people can get "triggered" and not look any further. Mind you, I am also wouldn't be pleased to see the book at all. On the other hand, I also don't think any book should be wiped from history.

[@charleewilliams7367]

I just love how people feel entitled to tell others what it’s not allowed in their own home

[@davidwong656]

I think the problem is when you display sonething on a shelf in the common area of your house it makes it look a bit like the rest of the things youd put in a living room - things you like and are proud of in a sense.

[@closetculture3025]

The whole book thing is ridiculous. Those books show how awful Hitler was as a person and they give insight into what might go on in a megalomaniac's brain, because he was one. History is important to know and to learn from so we as a species don't repeat or let people like Hitler come to power again. Banning books is highly problematic because that is a way for powers to control the narrative of life by not allowing the majority population to form their own opinions and personalities through educating themselves. People may not like those books and yes they were from a god awful subhuman who was responsible for the genocide of many different groups of people, but they are important so we don't allow someone like that to come to power again. Also, the Nazis burned books... so yeah there's that, too.

[@heleninglis9961]

Relating to the 1st story... when my daughter was a toddler she went through a phase of being constipated. The only way she could go to the toilet was in the bath. She would still be in discomfort/pain so i just jumped into the bath with her to cuddle & comfort her. Once she had managed to pass some 💩💩💩 i would empty the bath, clean it, then we would bathe again. No big deal! I would have done whatever it took to help soothe her pain. Sitting in a bath full of 💩💩💩 water didn't bother me 1 little bit! My hubby even offered to take a turn if need be, my mum was even willing to do it when she looked after my daughter for a few hours! It's called having empathy for your loved ones. Obviously that 1st OP has none!

[@citizenn5023]

Omg😭 I have more and more respect for mothers everytime I hear the things you guys do for your children🙆🏽‍♀️ coz whaaaat

[@heleninglis9961]

@@citizenn5023 thinking back now im like ewwww, but at the time I never even thought twice. I'd already been puked on, peed on, drooled on.... what's 1 more?! 😆🤣

[@citizenn5023]

@@heleninglis9961 mad respect to you ma'am🙌🏽 I'm 30 and have never even changed a poo diaper😂 pee, yes

[@lolaheart5887]

On Reddit, ESH stands for Everyone Sucks Here.

[@teri2466]

The first couple needs counseling badly. I think he has deeper issues.

[@Lola-AreaCode212]

Definitely.

[@H.A.-zr2wc]

Number 1 is the Andrew Tate of A-Holes!!! Love you Robert, so happy to see this channel grow so fast🖤🖤🖤

[@Bardes82]

You can't be expected to hide things in your own home because someone else doesn't like them. If they find offence to my welcome mat, I'm not removing it to make someone else happy.

[@oioioiruskie]

Well I think everyone can agree the 1st guy is a major douchenozzle and I hope in his next life that’s his reincarnation. I have no idea what’s going on with the 2nd girl but I think the fact that she told his fiancée and blocked him effectively takes care of any “future” she thought they might have. I think they are both too immature for a serious relationship. I’m always amazed at the entitlement of some people. They gave you a place to crash and because they have books about historical topics you get to dictate their choices and demand an apology? Wild. That brother is in for a rude awakening. Plus no one has that book for enjoyable reading. Trash through and through. But even trash needs to be studied and analyzed. Great video as always. Love those contacts! I’m eagerly awaiting my order from Moody Lenses. 😊 💕

[@QuartzieK]

The first guy needs to come home with her favorite something and some stool softeners tomorrow. I can’t believe this guy 😣

[@jhummz]

Good lord that bed frame! 😂

[@Nicolai_picolai]

The “your brother and his gf IS…….ARE 👀 the reason” and the “….there….grammar...” 😂 made me laugh out loud because that’s literally me, but inside my head, every single day 😂

[@amandaroot3503]

Sweetie... Robert... the first thing I said when the video started was "oh my gosh you look amazing tonight Robert! Where are you?" So please. No more apologies to us, the viewers. You're perfection.

[@Ditzybaby]

More am I the a hole from my favorite person online! You spoil us sir ❤ for a man who will never give birth and doesn’t even want children, you are so so empathetic to mothers and women in general. This is why we love you!

[@jennsacks1302]

My dad was Jewish, and we had books on the Holocaust growing up. We had one with a big swastika on the front (i don't remember which one), and I'm sure he had plenty of others. He definitely wasn't a fan of the failed art student, but he thought it was important to study history, and try to learn from it. Books of that kind can serve an important purpose - they help you to recognize the same types of arguments and ideas being espoused now.

[@poincianab12]

My nephew read Hitler's book.. it's abt understanding history and how a man like him was able to do that so we can avoid repeats

[@carolpaquette9922]

OH.. remember those videos of moms and dads wiping Nutella on their kids hands when pretending to be stuck on the toilet in need of some toilet paper?! That would be this man’s LIFE! Out of sheer spite!!! Reaches to get in his car, NUTELLA! Tv remote, Nutella. Pass me the ketchup, NUTELLA!! 😂😂😂

[@vrotki]

The first one total AH. She had your baby, it's not a game where everything is back to the original state after a few days. If that's what helps her? Good for her!

[@lydiaj7492]

That man is lucky she didn't kick him straight out of the house. Oh that is disgusting of him!! The most debilitating, humiliating things happen to our bodies during and after birth, to have THEIR CHILDREN!!

[@emilykirk1078]

My partner and several of our friends are all professional historians (and I am on an amateur/hobby level), so the one about the books was interesting to me. I’d never think twice about seeing a sensitive book in any of their homes (not that any of them have That Book), since reading something for historical context is SO different from reading it to absorb its ideals, although I can also see warning someone if I thought that the topics might be triggering for them. But since the SIL apparently already knew the guy in the story’s career… that feels like a weird reaction.

[@chelseafrye8031]

I agree with hiding something that might be slightly offensive that's hanging on the wall. But on my bookshelf? They had to of been looking through the books... I also feel that if we want history to keep from repeating itself we have to have knowledge of the bad not just sweep it under the rug. Almost like having the worst villain in all of history's playbook. Why wouldn't we want to understand The way he thinks to try to prevent it.

[@meganrae2508]

Exactly - a book on a bookshelf is not the same as a painting or a coffee table book. And if they’re perusing the bookshelves, they should have picked up on a pattern that it’s academic…

[@sn000by]

The second guy kissed her without consent?? Thats assault???? ooooh I'm so mad at the person saying they were both in the wrong, she trusted him like you'd trust a friend, I hang out with my male friends alone and I trust them not to touch or kiss me just because I let my guard down around them. It reminds me of people victim blaming because "they were asking for it" etc, rhetoric like that starts with things like this. She's clearly hurt and confused, she left immediately and cut all contact. She wasn't "tempting" him, this isn't the salem witch trials, she was relaxing around a friend??? I've been in that situation before and it takes ages to process what even happened, you feel guilty asking yourself if it's your fault somehow for not being on guard enough, or not saying no loud enough, or dressing immodestly, or any other thing people say to blame you for someone elses lack of self control. TL;DR: Kissing someone with no consent is assault, women don't "entice" or "encourage" unwanted sexual attention by being off-guard around men, man had a fiancee, he broke his fiancees AND his friends trust, he's the asshole, period. Edit: And none of this changes because she might have had feelings for him.

[@muppetbrows]

Also she was drinking so her 'friend' was even more of an AH

[@sn000by]

@@muppetbrows Absolute Facts!

[@teri2466]

I have quite a few of those kinds of books along with many other history books. I never gave it a second thought, since I love history. There are people in the US though who subscribe to those ideals and they're disgusting, of course. There's a big difference between us.

[@nothankyou7979]

Robert I love that you‘re getting into reddit readings with us, but small suggestion: maybe please also learn the lingo? SAHM = stay at home mom, ESH = everybody sucks here, etc … i think it would just make a more immersive listening experience. Love you!!

[@affinitybee8441]

I don't mind the lighting. It takes me back to old-school KZbin days. I love these react videos. I feel bad for the wife. She probably feels so insecure now. Hopefully, the husband will seek professional help to learn compassion skills.

[@claireeyles7560]

I bought a German language copy of that book in question for my German studies teacher when I was in Germany in the early 90s. You do not just walk into a book store and buy that book off the shelves. It is kept separate, you have to specifically ask for it, and you have to explain why you want it. If the explanation for purchase you give is not deemed appropriate, you do not get to buy that book. If you're in a historian's house, if you know that Historian has a specific area of study, and that book just happens to be on a book shelf, and you find it grossly offensive, then maybe don't throw a petulant fit but rather have a quite word with the person and see if you can come to some sort of agreement about the book not being displayed while you're there. It's generally not the sort of thing that serious scholars just have around just for shits and giggles.

[@tiffanywilliams7763]

My ex was such an asshole to me when I was pregnant. Didn't want to do anything physical with me & I caught him looking at porn when he had kept turning me away. He now has more kids & apparently was wonderful to her throughout her pregnancy. It really hurt my self esteem & my body is still not the same from having my son 9 years ago. I don't think I'll ever find anyone at this point.

[@terrao3779]

I’m so sorry that happened to you! Pregnancy and childbirth do change our bodies quite a bit (I had my first last year), but that doesn’t change our worth! You are beautiful and I hope you find the happiness you deserve! (From another single mom 💕)

[@tiffanywilliams7763]

@@terrao3779 thank you so very much. I truly appreciate that. I hope the same for you.❤️

[@GreyGirl999]

Hahaha I have a brother in law who acts the same as that girls sister, but the big difference is I see him maybe 2-3 times a year, he knows nothing of my personal life (aside from the fact that I broke up with my bf of 8 years bc our relationship was very toxic and unhappy) yet when I see him he feels the need to tell me I should be "looking for marriage" and an Alpha Male and all this other God awful stuff and I will stand there and debate him foreverrrrr (like I'm dying on this hill!) just because I think it's so funny how strongly he feels about my life that he knows nothing about. It's honestly just comedic at this point and even the rest of my family will step in to try and save me and I'm like no, no, I got this🤣 he's also a bit of a gaslighter I think, because in our last debate about MY life, he said "the reason you're getting so upset is because you know I'm right" when I wasn't upset at all in fact I was smiling. Is that gaslighting? Idk. But the whole situation is just hilarious to me. He's family, I love him, but he cray cray lol

[@StephieQueen]

I LOVE AITA readings, so Robert doing one? I’m overjoyed. ❤ 😂 Great job, Robert, especially with you being so tired!

[@tomadumas2939]

Thanks for being so awesome about bodily functions, we need more adult humans with the same views!!!!! Pooing is natural and it went in water and down a drain and he didn't have to clean up after her so what's the problem?

[@chantaltwang4718]

As a mom I have stressed to my kids to live their lives, go for all their goals and dreams and if that doesn’t include kids I’m fine with that. It’s weird to push relationships and kids on people. I have no need or want to be a grandmother and if it happens one day cool I will love them but if I don’t cool because that means my kids are living their dreams!

[@jollytimos4620]

You somehow look especially gorgeous today! Light? Colour of wallpapers? Something is working well for you here! Cheers!

[@catherinewhelan4072]

Your reactions are always spot on Robert! ❤

[@ADoseOfSunshine]

As a historian this is why I don’t let people go through my books. Mind your business and don’t go snooping when you’re in my house, no need to read through all the titles on my shelf. They should have just watched tv and went to bed

[@iamastrangeloop9204]

Really glad you are doing aita readings. I enjoy it so much.

[@michellemercado9038]

Robert, thank you and all your team for working so hard and having content for us no matter what! One of the real ones! I love all of your reviews! Lots of love your way!🎉

[@judymcdougall]

Happy to see you Robert. Your so gracious ♥️☮️🖤

[@angelsam29]

This might be my personal context, because I am a historian & archaeologist, and I wouldn’t bat an eye if someone had a copy of (what I’m assuming is MK). If they had a swastika on the wall or something like that I’d be concerned, but otherwise mind your business in my house. Especially if you know what my profession is. I wouldn’t appreciate this from anyone.

[@radmeg]

loved the more candid casual video! would love more AITA readings or reacting to other reddit threads

[@waynettegleisberg5652]

With the book, I wouldn't call them an a**hole if the couple are a good and caring couple. If I own any book in my home, that's my business. As long as I am a good person, the book has nothing to do with ppl who visit me.

[@laurakeightley9882]

What a strange bed frame for a hotel room! 😉😅 but i love you're attitude robert, the first story was so sad, husband is awful. Edited, for the historian story, those books are or were in my local library, when i studied ww2 germany in high school. Its history, they werent glorifying it at all. Theres a difference

[@efraysur]

I really like these videos. You have so much empathy for others. Plus you say all the things I'm thinking about it all.

[@gayavardan]

Love you, Robert. Your friends must be very blessed to have you in their lives. You sound like such a supportive human.

[@ScarletsDawn]

Most hospital won't let the mom leave until she has her first poop after having a baby...let that sink in. If the hospitals want to make sure she poops before they leave that means something. Coming from a mom of 4. Pooping after giving birth is painful and scary. 😅

[@jennmichelle2]

Robert, I know I'm watching this video 7-ish months after you posted it, but I just love your take on Am I the A-Hole reddit threads! You are so hilarious, and you make me 😃. I'd love to see you do these vids again. ❤

[@ItsJustCiCi]

Algorithm 👍🏾💜🖤 I really love this AITA series!

[@aleigha9141]

I really like the AITA videos and your reactions to them. They mostly match mine. I LOVE your beauty channel but this is such a fun channel as well. I’m so glad you started it! Have a great Friday and weekend! Hugs! 💜🖤

[@TinyTina_Rage]

Kara is living vicariously through her younger sister. But people (including OP) really need to learn how to talk to each other. And Kara’s husband and the poop-fearing AH in the first one should get together and go bowling.

[@kateh2893]

She is, but I think it might actually be good for Kara (and maybe people like her) to hear that that kind of lifestyle is actually awful. Because I think people in those situations actually feel a lot of dread when they go to bed at night and try to redirect it by focusing it at others. The single married lifestyle IS a nightmare and too many act like it's an MLM that they're in and pushing to get the Cadillac.

[@karmAnonymous]

especially the older sister is 20 years her Senior. id imagine that's 2 totally different times they grew up in despite having the same mother.... OP really could show her more grace . I'm a 27 year old mother to three daughters (7,5,3) & I'd say that there is 100% things the older sister did that the younger will either never know or won't know/understand until she herself ever decides to become a mother. I totally agree that people need to learn how to speak to one another. I don't understand why it's such a a difficult thing to grasp .... but then again I don't understand the epidemic of malicious/nefarious actions/selfish thought processes people are constantly perpetrating 😮‍💨😞 that 1st story disgusts me! the XY king baby, not the woman. I commented saying that I hold he has fun during the toddler years when they 💩 in the bath & especially if they have multiples that 💩 in the tub together like it's a competition 😂😂 it's not a big deal whatsoever. has he ever peed on the tub ? I wonder if he ever thoroughly cleaned & disinfected after? 🤔 I'm sure I know the answer to that. just appalling at the things creatures like himself reacted unhinged to ... I so hope she divorces him.

[@ufos-cos]

Sahm equals Stay At Home Mom

[@healingwithkayla]

The first guy is an ahole he is no partner! I agree with you as a partner would or should want to try to help eith pain and discomfrt. Try to find a solution. Poor thing. I could only imagine how she feels. I had horrible ppd and body image wrecked. I wore a diaper for several weeks, had peed myself in the hallway and cried and cried and felt like a gross person. My parnter helped me with evefything and was so understanding he even bought the diapers. Hes a real one.

[@MariaEmilia1321]

Love the AITA reactions 🩷🩷

[@thesnoopydance645]

You are looking especially beautful in this lighting, Robert !!

[@Sarah-nk4zh]

Love this format, Robert! Hope to see more of this 😊

[@ataylor4078]

Hello Robert…You look fabulous at any angle 😊☮️

[@meamme8]

9:48 people, hear me out, don't go getting into relationships when you aren't over someone else...especially getting married to someone you don't actually love. Don't do others the disservice of settling for them, that's how you ruin people. Stop playing with other people's hearts.