Ryan Holiday ON: How To AVOID BEING MISERABLE For The Rest of Your Life | Jay Shetty

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Today, I sit down with Ryan Holiday to talk about living a life of discipline. Ryan and I share our thoughts and opinions on the different forms of disciplines and how they are formed in different cultures, the value of your time and with whom are you spending most of it, and how to be more kind to yourself and make decisions that are more centered on your well-being.
Ryan Holiday is an author, marketer, and entrepreneur. He is known for his writings on Stoicism and has written several books on the subject, including "The Obstacle is the Way," "Ego is the Enemy," and "The Daily Stoic." He has also worked as a marketing strategist for companies such as American Apparel and has written several other books on topics such as growth hacking and media manipulation. Ryan hosts the popular podcast, The Daily Stoic.
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
04:25 What is the real meaning of discipline in different cultures?
06:40 How do you overpower your own mind and learn to argue with yourself?
11:05 Discipline has to be balanced with sustainability, rest, and so much more.
16:22 If you look at your life calendar, whom are you spending most of your time with?
22:05 All the things we want in life are accidental byproducts of getting big things right.
23:38 What is the hardest discipline you’ve ever practiced?
29:21 Optimizing your personal life will make other things much easier to manage.
36:25 It’s never too easy to sit down with your thoughts but you can learn to get comfortable with it.
40:22 Are you getting better at becoming a better friend to yourself?
44:14 We can’t control what happens, but we can control how we respond to it.
48:25 How important is it for us to go through something difficult and grow the muscle to overcome it?
53:52 Ryan explains the importance of making choices that derive positive benefits in the most difficult situations.
01:00:40 You are bound to get disappointed by attaching to an outcome that is not yours.
01:02:41 Different people have different ways of consuming information and we should respect that.
01:09:44 When you create a lot of valuable things in life, the returns may double.
01:12:05 Why should you allow yourself to become different things?
01:17:16 Don’t be a copy of your former self, continue to take a leap whenever you can.

[@AndiOjeda123]

“You can be a Titan in your industry and a total amateur at home.” That really hits home. My Goodness. 23:52

[@sagarmandhani]

- Love is spelt T-I-M-E - Catch guilt now -> Change habits to get rid of the guilt - Practice facing hardship (eg. Coldplunge, exercise, bicycle, etc.) - Just start it

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[@7163rose]

Thank you for that concise side-notes love it!!!❤✌️🥳

[@victors16811]

I’ve been reading Daily Stoic for about two years, it’s part of my morning ritual, live changing!

[@Mpc5061]

Better read the real deal, the stoics themselves😂

[@troyallenart817]

Me as well Bro💯☯️💯

[@grimalkin5665]

just started reading it now, welcome 2024

[@victors16811]

@@grimalkin5665 great! Today was my last page! Tomorrow starting from day one! Happy new year! ✊

[@muhammadmukhtiar9037]

The stoics did nothing but to present themselves as someone who are a nature oriented people but that is not the truth. The truth is that thet want the attention for their philosophy and wanted to present it in a grandiose manner my friend

[@PaulTheFranklin]

"Most people will become people they don't want to be in order to achieve something." -Jay Shetty, 21:13

[@Kurt5Dobson]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

[@DarylSimpson58]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@Kurt5Dobson]

@@DarylSimpson58 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@DarylSimpson58]

@@Kurt5Dobson this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

[@TomRyan603]

We are blessed to have conversations like this publicly available. Wow… Was already a huge fan of these two, I knew it would be great, but this is next level 🔥

[@user-fk5tx5de3b]

His book changed my life. You changed my life, Ryan - from South Korea!

[@venkarri8534]

Whoever this guy is, he's on-point. Discipline is not about grinding all the time, it's about consciously doing the right thing at the right time, despite distractions, thus adding efficiency to your life.

[@laurieclarkson9180]

Injury and Illness are the most humbling experiences.

[@funnytv-1631]

Making something from nothing is an act of pure optimism. From you, something new has taken shape, and that’s amazing! This week, express yourself and find solace and relaxation by adding creative pursuits to your self-care routine. Commit to this deliberate focus to prioritize your happiness and wellbeing.

[@CuriosityIgnited]

This video is a great reminder of how Ryan's insights on discipline and self-control can help us achieve our goals and live more fulfilling lives. I especially liked his point about how discipline is not just about pushing ourselves to do more, but also about knowing when to say no and rest. It’s a balance that requires constant awareness and adjustment. I think we can all benefit from applying some of his principles to our personal and professional lives.

[@adelenethomas4236]

I have gone through a period of questioning a lot of Podcast content to choosing the ones that are going to inspire and challenge me. This one ROCKS! Recently, my partner and I had a slight 'wiggle' in our relationship and we both turned up for change and healing! Now........man we are experiencing stuff so much better than honeymoon periods! I realised that beyond all that I will achieve out there, love (being it, giving it, receiving it) is so damn important. I love giving love! This is 'home'. I'm about to start reading your book Jay. I believe in both of you. I want to celebrate you today (which you don't need as you understand your own value). Thank you for turning up, doing the work, being so committed to remind us, "we can too".

[@osmanmohamed2422]

Oh my god.. that went like 5 minutes. I could’ve listened to these two talk for days.

[@celinechoquette5338]

incredible ! Jay and Ryan ! TY from Montreal

[@user-gp5fr1wt9t]

I have loved Ryan Holiday for a while now, and I am trying to live like a Stoic because of him. But I recently came to find Jay Shetty, and his story is very inspirational. I am beyond ecstatic that these two came together. Thank you for this! We need Robert Greene in a trio, please. :)

[@fatinilhamfahim4468]

I've started reading Ryan Holiday’s book " Stillness is the key" from today and found this podcast now..🧐 What an irony!! 😃😃

[@bernicejones933]

Two beautiful souls and wayshowers you can see the authenticity much appreciated thank you both

[@Soulful_Pizza]

This was an incredible episode. Love your podcast Jay. Thank you very much ❤

[@liveinthemoment419]

I am not even close to you guys age, nor am I studying for neet. I am a mother of 2 trying to get back my career on track. I have the world against me, trust me it gets harder when you grow older. So work hard now so you don’t have to regret later. Rakshita, I have your videos on a playlist and use it to pick up myself. You are so much younger to me but I draw courage from you. God bless you.

[@user-bd1cq6rk5g]

Keep on mama 🎉🎉🎉

[@JerryHeughins-os2os]

It's hard to find your way when u feel lost. I started listening to exceptional people, and parts of my mind were opened to a new perspective. I started to c things differently and now I'm a different person still me but disaplined

[@Thacarshee]

"All growth has a leap in the dark"

[@JohnAVasquez]

I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. kzbin.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!

[@nathanleung5592]

Another purposeful conversation on the podcast! Keep up the good work. Enjoy these conversations 🎉❤

[@troyallenart817]

Always Amazing insight!! During the pandemic me and my family embraced it and really really enjoyed are time together staying home and being thankful daily to have each other..💯☯️😎✌️

[@haniesasani3822]

Min36: I have been dealing with the most terrible back injury ever in my sport life(as a trainer), exactly what Jay said, this made me become more mindful than past and forced me to slow my pace and take a look into my life. Its unbelievable that I had a roller coster of emotions . Hard to come up with this new version however Im still working on it and stay alive by wathcing you almost everyday🎉❤

[@bruceanthony4044]

I think if people truly understood the importance of time management, going about our lives in a different timely manner would be top priority. Don't allow time to dictate you, instead make the best of your time=life...

[@rydah1240]

Jay Shetty and Joe Rogan together on a podcast would break the internet.

[@LivelifewithJ1012]

So good- being a better friend to yourself. Love that!

[@williamcrosby5880]

Its cool how much their conversation about bringing success seeking to your personal life relates to my situation at the moment. I really love the insight.

[@dionnedivino]

I was listening to Ryan abt stoicism and now he’s being interviewed by jay! Mind blown😱 great minds think alike

[@peterroberts8700]

Ryan Holiday has changed my life in such a positive direction. I am blessed and grateful for the Stoic philosophy. Thanks so much Ryan. Plus I think Robert Green is a 💯 absolute genius as well

[@jennymichelle2573]

Omg ! RYAN HOLIDAY ! This has to be my favorite interview this far 😊

[@hollymolly4036]

Timely podscast, resonated with me greatly, thank you for making me stop by and THINK about it.

[@mariolongtin8271]

Great episode, two gentlemen providing tremendous value!

[@user-vw9uc8uz2g]

Great great question about “Dad Guilt” Jay! That is a very real thing. I have all this work I need to do on myself in order to be successful, but I have a lot of inner work that needs to be done. With my job, there is not a lot of time for my kids and I feel pressure and sense of urgency to change my mind and circumstances

[@shamtsegazgi2130]

Spending my time listening to this episode was worth it. love your podcast Jay.

[@sn0wsilver]

Damn so many gems in this conversation. I didn’t even plan to watch this. It came on unexpectedly and kept it playing the entire way through. Grateful for this content.❤

[@xeniacharmainesaluib6824]

This is certainly one for the books. Ryan is one of my favorites now :)

[@Karem.milian]

Amazing conversation ❤thank you

[@HUTCH_Does]

So much game in this video. Thank You both.

[@rafaelapereira5377]

Inspirational, going to finish my book !

[@d-lightbeats]

This is so true. In the Baha'i Faith, Baha’u’llah’ speaks of the veils of “idle fancies and vain imaginings."

[@courtneykarnes-crazynotcra4336]

Wow I feel so seen right now!! I live this! Or at least I try to!

[@berryfairy68]

We emerged unscathed because it was never a real threat, like other real moments in history 🙄 the realest part, was the trauma they caused and how prices on everything are super high now. That was the true goal.

[@sergiisinelnikov]

Great unfolding of deep thoughts, thnx!

[@OZ01209]

There is an opposite for everything. Ultimately life is about finding balance & moderation. ⚖️ If humans focused more on balance in every aspect the world would be a more peaceful place. Mostly within ourselves and our emotions. Thoughts dictate our actions. Check yourself before you wreck yourself! 🙌😉 • social/alone • humble/confidence • nutrition/comfort food • fitness/relaxation • awake/sleep • control/let go • compassion/judgement • kind/mean • right/wrong • respect/arrogance • faith/fear • self/others Etc.❤

[@rosetarotrealm]

Oh damn. This is going to be a good one 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@louisnforna8101]

Thank u guys so much for this inspiring show

[@muwosim7753]

Quality content. Thank you.

[@smu7270]

Opportunity Cost is not just for money spending... it's for everything.

[@leolover333]

Amazing information Thanks so much ❤

[@peterlewis8006]

two of some of my favorite people talking :)

[@lisag8930]

I don't mind for hollywood celebrity podcasts but i live for podcasts from academics, specialist and writers!

[@lisag8930]

aka, RYAN HOLIDAY! 🙌

[@mustafashebli6546]

Ryan and Jay today is Batman and Superman teaming up. Love it guys thank you

[@surlespasdondine]

To me time is infinitely more valuable than any other currency. So I'm not willing to trade in hours and hours of my life to become rich. I'm not interested in hyper productivity and the hustle.

[@jamalwoods453]

This interview was 🔥

[@loppan4534]

This was a good one. I think Ryan is showing a different side of him self in this interview, and I like it 😊

[@Eserr7856]

Do you mean Ryan holding a normal conversation about his life and stoicism and not just preaching about stoic principles

[@loppan4534]

😂

[@juank7364]

Fantastic discussion!

[@derekcowan6292]

LOVE THIS! Trust The Process!!!! Thanks Ryan & Jay!!

[@LivelifewithJ1012]

“It” isn’t me. Brilliant!

[@Mahdihny]

hello to dear jay shetty since i was know and i saw you on the youtube my life was changed besides anything i learn english from your videos too, i can't speak one word at past time but im now at the intermediate level i think, i hope wherever you are everything you want from your life goes as well you wish to go . if I have grammatical problem apologize me. big love from iran ❤

[@daniel_q40]

I was literally looking for some new Ryan Holiday podcast now, what a timing

[@leonardodesordi4853]

Thanks!

[@fitnesswithtajura308]

What stands in the way, becomes the way ✍🏽

[@adamweah8037]

Amazing information always, illness is another humbling experience . time is infinitely more valuable . This isnt a discussion about being miserable Economic and business leaders were voicing concerns at the start of 2023 that the year could be a difficult one. JPMorgan Chase & Co. Chief Executive Jamie Dimon said that the Federal Reserve may need to raise interest rates to 6% to fight inflation, higher than the peak level between 5% and 5.5% in 2023 that most Fed officials penciled in after their December meeting. Although I read an article of people that grossed profits up to $500k during this crash, what are the best stocks to buy/short now or put on a watchlist.

[@julietrollings9474]

Emotionally-charged decisions to sell off large quantities of stocks or other investments now lock in your losses, removing any chance for future growth.

[@ashwinaditi1039]

A 2022 Northwestern Mutual study found that 75% of U.S. adults admit their financial planning needs improvement. However, only 29% of Americans work with a financial advisor.

[@floydchusset3143]

Very correct; the bear market has contributed significantly to the growth of my investment. I was able to quickly increase my portfolio from $180K to $572K. Essentially, I was just doing as my financial advisor instructed. You're good to go as long as you get competent assistance

[@elliotwilson8874]

@@floydchusset3143 Would it be okay if I asked you to recommend this specific advisor or company that you used their services? Seems you've figured it all out

[@floydchusset3143]

@@elliotwilson8874 I won't pretend to know everything, though. Her name is LAURA GACE ABELS but I won't say anything more. Most likely, you can find her basic information online; you are welcome to do further study

[@likeris2]

we have zero control on anything. just relax and enjoy your destiny.

[@njr819]

This is such a nuanced topic. Getting land and generating sustainable methods of food, water, and power management will undeniably have un almost unfathomable impact on your life, and I think everyone would be surprised to find how little that can cost. If you're a wasteful moron and all you want is a million dollars, you'll spend that quickly, and even if you don't, you know its not sustainable or fulfilling you as a part of nature. And if you're totally okay with going back into the matrix, getting a space where you can detach from it and limit the time and money costs of being in it, will undoubtedly be worth it. if you're just wasting your resources, and as such, are still stuck in the matrix, of course you'll be miserable. It's all about where you're trying to go, and where you're trying to go once you get there. Having an attainable and sustainable check point can actually make grinding totally worth it.

[@bhindigosh1]

Great video

[@rubal1738]

Please! stop spotify podcast ads!!. Bro your videos have been helping me a lot.

[@reneknowlden3259]

Love Ryan's Facebook post looking forward to this podcast. Primary Beneficiary?!

[@BusraLilah]

By the 1:10:00 mark, as speaking about the person who got a taste of success and this totally reminds me of a story about an Author who wrote a famous book called "To Kill A Mockingbird", wouldn't write again....just because the Author thought, she would not be able to write better than this book ever. I might be wrong about what I know, but that was so interesting.

[@vinblack85]

I have a great life and family but the only thing needing tweaking is my focus to want to be rich and make money. I am grateful for my job but it is just renting my time for low income. I wanna get my family a house and be free with my time . I know even if I attain that it’ll just replace itself with something else but I swear I feel like it is such a condition to my fulfillment

[@jessicaivy487]

One top tip for a better life: Define your language and remove misery from the equation.

[@smarty.adviser]

In this enlightening conversation between Ryan Holiday and Jay Shetty, you'll gain valuable insights and practical strategies on how to steer clear of a life of misery and embrace a path of fulfillment and happiness.

[@logohs]

Jay what about the final 5?!!

[@nicolaspalacio4441]

46:59 How to handle difficult situations

[@brandnewyorker]

Beautiful 😊

[@blackhell1937]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@manonthemoon8765]

I think the higher discipline he is talking about is called mindfulness.

[@DJSTOEK]

❤

[@coreyringley]

Shetty out here crippin

[@marcek9910]

Wow, ads every 2-3 minutes now?! Great content other than that

[@royalrajpoot6915]

❤❤

[@gidonbenjamin8881]

Hi Jay ! You have been talking about confort zone in many episodes and how you are most of your time out of it. I kind of feel the same about me, always trying to challenge myself, but I was wondering if being out of my confort zone most of the time isn’t actually my confort zone 😅 What are your thoughts on this ? Can’t wait to see you in Paris on Sunday.

[@dolgormaachindug1150]

Where is his introduction ?

[@luminouswolf7117]

Anyone notice how often the term “addicted” is used Seemingly everywhere

[@kavithasaravanan6479]

Please bring our shivani didi, jeyshetty please 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️😘

[@Yosinthemoment]

Am I the only one that notices no more intros on guests?🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

[@MegaOmelette12]

I admire many aspects of the stoic philosophy but it concerns me when emotions are labelled as potentially misleading. Our brain's chemical soup is never wrong, only the interpretation is many shades. Listening with curiosity over listening with mistrust.

[@luisalbertoaboytes]

We lived through the largest wealth transfer

[@tomasr64]

I really dislike the hustle culture, its faceless, fake, lying world. There is a great alternative, called the 10 principles of burning man and the four agreements by DMR, and the art of living a displined life with values and walking your talk and empathy. Too bad that 30 years ago this hustle culture really began. People stopped listening to their elders.

[@ShikshitDhungana]

This video has too much insights that it's not possible to capture even 10% of it in one go. Can anyone help me get the transcript version of this video so that I can rather read it as a book whenever I feel the need?

[@sidharthasatapathy3491]

Bring Cal newport

[@drvren030]

He looks like the football/soccer player Gareth Bale

[@drewg7441]

For a second, I thought that was Jerry Seinfeld!

[@JessicaMadilyn]

I’ve got trading tips 😊

[@MikeSmith-rd9fi]

First

[@jeetdhindsa]

The caption for this video is quite self-referential and meta (Toxic Hustle Culture). It's interesting to observe that Jay Shetty leveraged the very same strategies and techniques associated with hustle culture, though he substituted the common get-rich-quick narrative with spiritual bypass content to carve out his niche as an influencer. The paradox of someone who allegedly led a monastic life embodying such vanity and materialism is hard for me to comprehend. Even Steve Jobs, despite his wealth surpassing Jay's, maintained a minimalist lifestyle after his spiritual journey to India. The majority of Indians are all too familiar with the crafty antics of babas and swamis featured on late-night Indian television and commercial breaks. It's fascinating to witness how Jay, a member of the millennial Indian diaspora has given this a contemporary twist. Ryan Holiday is fantastic though, these days it seems podcasts hosts just simply try to stand on the shoulders of giants.

[@hippie_thinking]

how he describes his surgery is similar to the first few weeks after birth

[@giordanobruno7943]

Made a living off of Stoics backs fr 🤝