S1E15: When Is Hitting Your Wife Allowed? | Sheikh Azhar Nasser

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[@asma7918]

I see Shaykh Azhar Nasser , I run to see the video. JazakAllah Khair guys.. Blessed to have scholars like him.🤲👏

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[@truebeliever786]

I've had a lot of arguments about this verse and after studying through the Tafsir, the verdicts of scholars, the original Arabic meaning and also putting into consideration the many verses of the Qur'an which prohibit abusive relationships and enjoin kindness (e.g. 2:231, 4:19 and 4:36), it becomes very clear to me that Islam does not allow spousal abuse.

[@truebeliever786]

​@Sven Andersson No, he does not. Even the most mainstream interpretations say that the measure prescribed in that particular verse (4:34) is not a "physical beating", but a tap, to symbolize the end of a relationship (basically something that doesn't inflict pain and leaves behind no mark or bruise, which in all common sense can only be a tap or maybe a light shove, if you get wild with it).

[@truebeliever786]

@Sven Andersson It's always been, if you look at the exegeses of the Holy Qur'an and most importantly, the example of the Holy Prophet. People just twist things around to suit their fancy, but that doesn't change the ethos of the religion, especially when it comes to marriage and marital relationships.

[@Thaqlain]

When you don't take Hadith Thaqlain as complete you are bound to go astray 🙂🙏🏼

[@gh0rochi363]

@Sven Andersson any Muslim that hours his wife is committing haram. This is since the days of the prophet. There are bad people of every group. The Bible does not allow you to hit your wide either but there are Christian men who do.

[@khadijatulkubra207]

If men have right to intimacy and sex, so do women. The issue we have in the Muslim community is that intimacy/sex happens when man decides and not when women want it. The need to fulfil a women's sexual desires, is overlooked by men. It's always about men having their needs fulfilled ❤️

[@Thaqlain]

Salaam Alaykum. We have shared the high importance Islam has given to the desires of women including foreplay. It is indeed sad that our communities lag or shun discussions on these topics.

[@khadijatulkubra207]

@@Thaqlain ❤️

[@Mohdzn]

i saved this video to watch it later and here i am!

[@Thaqlain]

Share it with your boys. Let's make sure none of our youth is known for abusing his wife 🙂🙏🏼

[@prince2847]

Jazakallah khair 👍 from India

[@LoopDoc]

Amazing lecture. Thanks for the clarification. I feel more at peace with myself.

[@Thaqlain]

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[@zainplays1092]

Ma sha Allah very nice video and information

[@zaidi684]

Jazak Allah Brother

[@shahbazraza2535]

@admin..... it would be nice if you also add the link to the complete lecture in your clips description. JazakAllah

[@Thaqlain]

InshaÁllah sure

[@zainplays1092]

14 masumins a.s Zindabad long live Ameen

[@yusufnida3358]

Nice knowledge jiyooo

[@user-gu5ph5zq2s]

Salam, Regarding the right of the husband. What if the woman simply doesn't have lust when he wants to. If she forces herself it will be unpleasant, painful and lead to a traumatic experience. Therefore the woman will build resentment towards her husband and she will associate intimacy as something that she has to undergo otherwise she is being sinful. We cannot act as if rape didn't exist within marriage. My question is: what do you mean by a "valid reason" to say no when the very basic of intercourse is MUTUAL desire. Men bring up this entire hadith about the wife being cursed by angel if she refuses but we know deep inside that this leads to building fear within women and to prevent them from standing up for themselves (as an actual human being with a will) so they can be use as commodities by men 24/7.

[@Thaqlain]

Alaykum Salaam, The best way is to communicate. Discuss this with your partner (if there are no other issues and the overall bonding is good). Many a times, communication solves issues. Seek expert support. Both religious and scientific.

[@user-gu5ph5zq2s]

@@Thaqlain so you acknowledge that it is morally wrong to force someone into intercourse just because scholars have decided that it is a man's right to have access to his spouse's body whenever he wants? ( and even if you don't there is Law)

[@Thaqlain]

There are rights and responsibilities on both sides. And the side of women, it is compulsory for her to be available for her husband incase he desires her. On the side of men, it is disliked if he indulges in intercourse without making sure that his wife is equally involved and aroused. Better communication and expert counseling can make intimacy enjoyable. We will highly recommend you to watch other videos of this series -- with you husband. 🙂

[@khadijatulkubra207]

Intimacy can mean holding hands, showing affection, kissing etc and not necessarily sex. What if a woman does not want sex and she feels obliged or pressurised, would that not be considered as marital rape? The hadith that talks about women who refuse husband when he wants his desires fulfilled, Angels deprive her of mercy, is problematic as it goes against be verses of Quran that say women have rights and treat them with kindness❤️

[@Thaqlain]

Salaam Alaykum. The 14 episodes before this one will InshaAllah guide on how Allah and His messenger wants a relationship to be. This verse, as mentioned by Sheikh, refers to some extreme situations only.

[@khadijatulkubra207]

@@Thaqlain May Allah reward you abundantly for the information you have provided. Nushooz means rebellious not beat? ❤️

[@Thaqlain]

Yes. More specifically, ill conduct.

[@Azakhana.Azadari]

Salaam alaikum

[@belhazardiman5359]

Admin what if the wife is sick (experiencing short breath) and cant do such intimacy, but the husband is insisting. Does the wife sin ???

[@mohamedkashwani950]

6:28 Shiekh says without a valid reason

[@Thaqlain]

In no condition Islam believes in marital rape. In fact if you have seen previous episodes of this series you will realize how much Islam wants it to be mutual and enjoyable. The gist is, don't deny without any valid reason.

[@Thaqlain]

If you haven't we request you to watch the previous episodes of this series 🙂🙏🏼 kzbin.info/aero/PLOXzVYnjThoq3-ZR43o7yt04vfkU_wOE5

[@belhazardiman5359]

@@Thaqlain In Shaa Allah i will. Thank you so much indeed its a big HELP!

[@belhazardiman5359]

@@mohamedkashwani950 salam ive stated the reason why a wife resist such intimacy, my question was the reason valid or not???

[@afshanfathima976]

If I go with the sheikhs interpretation of the verse you can better call it as a MISTRESS NOT WIFE. A mistress doesn't do any cooking, looking after household affairs she only comes for intimacy that's all. Whereas a husband-wife relationship goes much beyond intimacy. Even imam Ali has told several times about how important is wife's obedience to husband. If wife isn't supposed to do any of the household chores and is only to respond to intimacy then a man is better off with a MISTRESS rather than a WIFE who needs more commitments despite of doing the same job of a MISTRESS. Then in that case there's no point in marrying at all!!!

[@Thaqlain]

Legally, she is not bound to do anything. Ethically, it is her choice. This video from our series addresses the point you have raised kzbin.info/www/bejne/eIqcqoinq5hnY9U In fact, we urge you to listen to the complete series. We have addressed diversified issues from various scholars.

[@afshanfathima976]

@@Thaqlain but what about our imams didn't they know that a wife is legally not required to do any of that, when they explained the duties of a wife ?? Moreover then what's the difference left between a wife and a MISTRESS?? Then in that case there's no point in marrying at all

[@Thaqlain]

Islam has kept the life of women easy because she has been given a very important task to take care of: bringing a better version of human race to this world. That is why she is not obligated to do anything yet given tremendous rewards for doing anything. And it is from our Imams that women is not required to do anything as part of her "duties". However, we have added your question to our upcoming live session :)

[@afshanfathima976]

@@Thaqlain if she has to bring up a great human race she first has to keep them healthy by giving them home cooked meals , she has to raise the children unlike the sheikh who said that she's not required to raise children. At the end of the day she needs to do household chores in one way or the other if it all she wants a happy , healthy and wealthy family. And no imam ever said that women doesn't have to do so.

[@SilvioMaryjane]

@@afshanfathima976 Just Follow the Holy Quran which is the absolute Truth. and do not take one verse of the Quran , you have to connect all to get the whole picture.

[@khadijatulkubra207]

What does the would nushooz mean?

[@Thaqlain]

Ill conduct. More specific to the context scholar has mentioned.

[@khadijatulkubra207]

@@Thaqlain 💓

[@clementhaa]

What i dont understand is: the verse says beat ur wives if they re not obediant towards gods law. Why? U speak as if the verse is mistranslated. A direct answer would be nicer. Under what exact situation should we beat our wives and how severe should it be? As far as i know its haram to give bruises. Thank u

[@Thaqlain]

The verse does not say to beat your wife if she goes against the law of Allah. It is in regards to those ladies about whom you have doubt about their sexual misconduct. Then too there are 2 stages prior to beat. And in that case too, the laws of Diyah will prevail. So it is for an extreme case. And there are many similar extreme cases discussed in Surah Nisa.

[@clementhaa]

@@Thaqlain thank u

[@Thaqlain]

No worries. Do watch the entire series. Watching this episode alone will definitely cause confusion 🙂🙏🏼

[@unknown-gn8sd]

What are you on about sheikh, are you being threatened by your wife, or why do you feel the need of saying this stuff to us young men in a world where women's ego is at an ultimate high and you got feminists all over the place, men are committing suicide are being accused of nonsense, and what you want is put women out there let them compete with men she doesn't have to raise her children what kind of talk is this, you think this is the teachings of ahlul beit this is zahraa and om al banin is this rabab and zeinab what, it's not fair for men sometimes women crave sex more than men so a man's right is to have sex so that's what women are for just sex, no sacrifice no help no care just sex is this Allah's teachings, walah you are doing the same thing you say men took a verse from quran in surat nisa and said it's okay to beat women while you do the same, good job raising good mothers this way, it's all nonsense what type of deen is this walah you don't know what you are saying there's millions of ways where you could have at least made a little more sense.

[@Thaqlain]

Seems like you have missed the previous episodes of this series. We urge you to watch the complete series to have a better understanding. kzbin.info/aero/PLOXzVYnjThoq3-ZR43o7yt04vfkU_wOE5

[@saltypancreas5866]

You should watch the series

[@sitinurkhadijah1151]

Im sorry brother, you totally miss his point that the fact is your wife is not your maid. And therefore you should treat her with kindness and with respect, instead of asking her to do this and that with no manner and humility at all. Women out of love naturally will do all that. Its ingrained in her nature to make her house the best possible place to live for her husband n children . If you are talking about women who are influenced by the West then I have nothing to argue coz such women have forgotten their true nature, unfortunately.

[@gh0rochi363]

Fact of the matter brother that doesn’t matter. The point is how you should treat your wife. It’s not about feminism it’s about humanity.