(S1E2) Working Moms, Marriage, & In-Laws | TradWife, Homemaker, & SAHM

[@Baileyt22]

I am getting married this winter; I am 19 and he is 20. What's sad is that he is the most wonderful Christian man I have ever met, believes in the traditional gender roles and is determined, hardworking, and loving, but everyone keeps telling us that we are wasting our young years, and that me desiring to be a mother, wife, and nurturer is a bad thing. They make me feel stupid for wanting those things in life. My desire to embrace traditional and biblical femininity is teased and looked down upon: even by some people in the church! Your videos inspire me to continue to embrace biblical femininity with courage and to show it wherever I go! I have even been talking about your videos to my fiancee! But YES, I do feel that way! What ever happened to choice:( I adore having a man who loves that I embrace that femininity and strive for it and that he also embraces his masculine role as protector and leader. Your videos always encourage me. Keep making the, please! God bless

[@tumwinebarekye6201]

Wish you joy & happiness in your marriage journey

[@daliahpitter2737]

Don't worry about what ppl say. The good thing is that's a very great option. Stay encouraged.

[@michellehowell1228]

So happy for you both...God will bless your desires to serve Him in your roles!

[@YahsPreciousJewel]

Don’t listen to them, do what the most high has called his ppl to do! You’ll find that those ppl that are discouraging u are miserable and want u to join them.

[@cassiegrannemann1624]

My husband and I got married 3 years ago when we were both 19 and we got/get a lot of the same thing. You're doing what is good in God's eyes and living based off of his design which is a beautiful thing. Now we have our own home and I stay at home with our 6 month old son. It took a lot of work and sacrifice but I am so grateful to be where we are! God certainly blessed us. I hope he blesses you two as well!

[@abbiella]

My mother was widowed when I was 2. I was the youngest of 4 children. My mother went back to school and received 2 degrees to change careers and support us. BUT she chose to be a teacher so she was home and off work when we were out of school. I became a lawyer. She told me that caring for your family is priority #1. I had my time running a law practice and taught law but when child number two came I chose to be a part time law professor. I am home before my children get home. I have days that I don’t work and I relish my role as a home keeper. My hardest job is running a home, caring for my children (one with autism) and building my marriage. I am a family law lawyer with a Masters degree. I know what destroys a marriage and family. My priorities are straight.

[@LivingStoneRoxks]

This is beautiful

[@jourdantoliver4310]

wow. the section about the overextension of activities for children made me sad. my mom went from a single, overworked mom to getting married and still having to work really hard (my dad lost his job during the 2008 recession) and my GOODNESS was i in every activity under the sun. i begged to quit something, my parents always complained about how busy they were and how ridiculous my schedule was, and told me to be grateful for all of the opportunities i had (which i was, but that did not negate the stress). i eventually began to resent my parents for pushing me towards external activities instead of just spending time with me. i developed extreme anxiety that i still have to work through. wives, this is so real. please stay home with your kids or at least make intentional time to spend with them. i promise, they will be better for it.

[@erint933]

Thank you, that means a lot to hear

[@denise4263]

I couldn’t agree with this more, thank you so much for sharing something that has been heavy on my heart as well 🤍🙏🏽

[@themodernSAHMco]

Awwsshhh. I felt this! Thank-you for sharing.

[@antrionettemcdaniel]

Awesome advice. I am released with this. Thank you.

[@truthnotlies]

@@antrionettemcdaniel I agree. Reading this was a very good reminder for me when I plan for my children.

[@sincerelyjackie579]

Im from the south and there’s an old saying we had when someone gave good advice, but their delivery came from a place of rudeness. “Chew on the meat and spit out the bones”. In this case the book holds golden nuggets, but we as readers have to consciously look over the insults. I can’t remember who told me this in life but they said “we miss out on valuable information because we don’t like the person who is delivering the message”. I’m glad you spoke on the subject. Be blessed❤️

[@princessniyamiyaofyhwh1122]

I can’t agree more this is so true a lot of people disregard the whole lecture of profitable advice because of one small thing the person has done or said. It’s really immature and that’s why a lot of people are so confused why they are the way they are.. Because they didn’t take the great advice just because of a simple understatement , action or simply the character of the person delivering it.

[@sincerelyjackie579]

@@princessniyamiyaofyhwh1122 that person used to be me. I was immature in my thinking. I could care less what somebody said if I didn’t like them. Thank God for growth.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

@@princessniyamiyaofyhwh1122 Many roads lead to Rome. I prefer not to hear things in a low vibrational tone; my body rejects it. I can hear what I need to hear from multiple sources from a higher vibration.

[@truthnotlies]

Great counsel.

[@melissadonis1790]

That was GOOOOD!! Thank you!

[@lisafromindiana1718]

I am 51, so a different generation from you, but I definitely get looked down on for wanting to take care of my husband over devoting everything to a career. It is true that trying to "have it all" only leads to ill health and ill tempers. PLEASE keep speaking this truth to your generation!

[@Ezekiel144k]

Your generation (baby boomers) were the generation to push women to "have it all". Your generation pushed women to prioritize career over marriage. Its good that you were one of the few who prioritized marriage over career.

[@donnadixon8065]

You are so right, a man or woman must leave their mother and father and CLEAVE to their wife/husband. I had a time where I stayed home with my kids while my husband was the only breadwinner and someone called me lazy because I didn't want to go to work. At some point it was hard for me to find a babysitter so I just made the decision not to go back to work at that time. I'm sooo glad I did, because my kids told me that the other kids in the neighborhood said that they wanted a mom like theirs. Because I used to take my kids and the neighborhood kids to the library and museums in the area and made popcorn for them while they played with my kids on the porch. It was a good thing and I'm so glad that I did it. It made a difference in my kids lives and the neighborhood kids as well. Thank you for your channel. Keep up the good work. I was a Christian at the time too, a new one.

[@laurengiannopoulos9504]

Hi Bindi, i had to stop your video half way just to share some of my thoughts...wow there's alot to unpack here for me. First of all I grew up with a single mother who had to work full time for our survival. I always looked at my mother and felt that her working to provide for us was noble and when i became eligible, I would work for my survival too. After completing college I went full time into the work force and was financially independent by age 25. I felt so proud of myself that I was out there in the world providing for myself while some of my friends were still living with their parents. Working became my identity, it became who I was. Then I got married and had a baby. 3 months after going back to work from maternity leave I was absolutely exhausted. I only had 2 hours to spend with my husband and daughter every night and it was heartbreaking. I quit my full time job and took a part time job to be able to spend more time with my daughter. I was suprised at how hard the move from full time work to part time work was for me. I struggled so much because working full time and being this independent self sufficient person was a source of pride that had became my identity. Slowly God has been changing my heart and my priorities. My identity no longer lies in what type of job i have or how many hours I work in a week. Praise God!

[@audreybourgeois4626]

The same thing happened to my mother. She was an engineer with a great career, but when she became pregnant with her first child, she felt her true calling was to come home and be a full time housewife and homeschooling mother. Our family looked down on her, especially because most of the women chose to work full time until retirement. My sibling and I are both grown now and people have come to her to say they wish they had stayed home with their children instead of working themselves into the ground.

[@0207khenry]

I feel like once you learn that the Lord loves you sooo much. We get to have a husband.😊We are his helper. We help and he provides and protects. Being home and able to just be a woman. Cook, clean, garden, see my babies grow, self care. Not having to strain our minds and bodies with going in the world to work. Just the peace from that is overwhelming. Thank you Jesus. And a person to spend life with. Time to worship and pray. God gave us this gift. I used to hate that. I wanted to work and be independent and hated my husband. I was competing. Out of order. But once the creator our Father taught me my purpose and affirmed me. Nothing else matters or opinions of man.

[@naty1012]

Yes I agree but sometimes one income is not enough especially with inflation and in certain economic climates in certain countries. My husband will welcome the added financial support.

[@HerHealthyHome]

@@naty1012 honestly I believe it's almost always a way. Maybe there's a need to budget or scale down but the fact that my husband and I have done it for so long on a small salary really makes me believe that. We do better than the couples with 2 incomes around us. Trust Yah's (God's) order and he'll do the rest

[@mrsbefort1616]

There was a time my husband was finishing school full time and I picked up a job out of town to make ends meat. About 6 months later he asked me to come home and I did. We didnt have jobs, but he found something soon after. Not much, but it worked. Now we have a set of 1 yr old twins and I've been homemaking the for past 3 years.

[@HabitsofaHomemaker]

This was one of the BEST videos that I’ve seen on KZbin! This was a WORD! I am throughly enjoying this series. I’m saddened to hear that the author is not a Christian, but like you stated, she applies biblical principles. I would also like to open up more of this conversation on my channel as well. These things do need to be discussed. Thank you for being transparent, vulnerable and courageous to bring these issues to light and discuss them. ❤️

[@Bindi_Marc]

I would love to watch your take on the subject.

[@darlenepaul2918]

The author is Jewish!

[@liorajimenez3085]

​@@darlenepaul2918 And there is much that women can learn from them. As a Messianic, I "get" Dr. Laura.

[@cyrillalohi7122]

I can see why most would find it offensive. Deciding to serve your family whether you have a side business or a SAHM it's still so opposite from the status quo. Choosing family over career is not seen as "progressive" I guess. I do see the gems though and it may be in large part because of how you are commenting on it with a gentler tone haha. Keep up the videos! I like your perspective!

[@Bindi_Marc]

You are so right. Prioritizing our family, our very own tribe is seen as a lesser choice. Go figure. Thank you for watching and commenting!

[@msay4596]

I am a working mom, a registered nurse actually. My job saved me when my 1st husband fell into a spiral of addiction and abuse. I am now re-married to a gem of a man. I still work full time, but through careful career choices, sacrifices, and luck I got a full time work from home position that allows me to stay home with my youngest. I am not offended by this book, but like you said, it needs to be read with caution, because women or men for that matter, in scenarios of abuse need to leave. It saved my life and my children are healthier for it.

[@ashleymurcia8772]

I read this book as a new wife and I am so glad that it has come back on to my radar after 10 years. I can't wait to crack it open again. As far as other women in the family trying to undermine your marriage, I have recieved the oddest comments from my husband's aunts. His mother is one of five sisters and they all think I "worship" my husband because I care for him, serve him and feed him well. It was especially peculiar to me as a new wife- why wouldn't you want your nephew's wife to take excellent care of him? And be a good mother to his children? Why wouldn't you want your nephew to have the most amazing marriage? As time went on and their marriages fell apart and now all of them have boyfriends, I began to see that they were projecting their own issues and care and feeding of my husband was a condemnation of their lifestyles

[@LivingStoneRoxks]

I'm from Swaziland (Eswatini in Africa)... We have one of the worst economies in the world. But when I got married and had children, I was still unemployed and it really created a beautiful experience for me. So, when I got a job, I had this void and anger and hopelessness that I lost as a result of changing environments.. This video opened my eyes to how to balance and prioritize my family over everything else. It's such an overlooked topic that unfortunately hits home for a majority of us. I also faced pressure from home to get back to work, which I can't argue against due to the situation in my country. But all in all, my family is my life. God bless you and God bless His Word (Jesus), which is truth, light and the only way for all us.

[@darshellhowell1729]

Learning to put your husband first is the best thing to do for your relationship.

[@Bindi_Marc]

Game changer.

[@naty1012]

After God

[@katrinamalone5927]

I feel so blessed to see another young,black mother be successful on the path I set myself on 24 years ago. I was not successful because I allowed the naysayers discourage me and I did not know who I was as a daughter of The King. I praise God for another chance and to show me how He was leading me. I listened to Dr. Laura and read that book 24 years ago and got the jest of what she was saying then. All I can say is "Wow God Wow"!

[@j.j2846]

I was lead to your videos for some reason and now I know why. Your family sounds similar to mine. I'm unmarried but often feel guilty for desiring a traditional God filled marriage. Thank for this and God bless your marriage x

[@MoralGovernment]

My mother and grandmother distained women's work. My mother did the least she could get away with and put no love into her cooking, like it was a burden she didn't want. I was pushed to go to college when I wanted to be a SAHM. A guy I dated broke up with me because his mother said I was "just a nanny." Now I am a SAHM but I find myself internalizing that distain for women's work. Your videos make me want to clean. Thanks!

[@chellybarnard6394]

I'm just getting to know your content. And you're right! There is so much TRUTH in this book. Many women just have no idea how to interact in a normal family. Compromise isn't weakness. Pleasing your husband and family does bring joy to the giver, in the same way that it's fun to watch others open a Christmas gift you gave them. And yes, I saw so much of my family in these words. Thank God I was given godly counsel early in life.

[@janetnewsome3451]

I recently found your channel, and have watched many of your videos in the short time since discovering you. There is so much to your message, and in the review of this book. I am a new Pastor's wife, although my husband has been in the ministry for the entirety of our almost 15 year marriage. I am a former military officer, currently work full time and we have three children, and honestly am exhausting so often. I also recently suffered a miscarriage (also had one in 2020) and all of these things, even the idea of me going after a promotion at work, has me questioning what God wants me to do this from this season, on. Thank you for the truthfulness you graciously share. I am not there yet, but appreciate you so much for going against what culture, even church culture in a lot of ways- says with regard to Christian wives. Bless you!

[@theparttimehomemaker]

Having a job outside the home- especially a corporate one and/or a career- is a false economy for wives and mothers. Every weekend we dread Monday morning and every week the only thing that keeps us going is looking forward to the weekend. When we get home from work, we have little energy and patience left for our kids and/or husband. We barely have any energy left to cook dinner and/or start cleaning. What kind of life is this that we have chosen for ourselves? Feminism tricked us. I want out.

[@dwightluckey227]

I greatly appreciate your efforts to shine a light on the beauty of marriage. Having failed after 34 years, I'm learning that there were just so many things we both never learned before committing to the promise of "for better or worst". Hindsight, of course being twenty-twenty. I wish we had been better informed before doing so. Keep up the good work. Mr. Luckey

[@Afrodite96]

Loving this series! Definitely aligning with this subject recently along with making adjustments to my wardrobe to be more modest. Keep going!

[@Bindi_Marc]

Modesty! The Lord has been working on us both, then, in that department. Video coming soon on that very topic. Thank you for watching and commenting!

[@Submission_Warriors_In_CHRIST]

I think the pressure women feel from other women to be independent. Is that if you are a sahm you are vulnerable and are easy to be abused and hurt by men without integrety. To be a wife to a man who is in Godly is a thin line to being left destitute with no money, no food and no protection. Please be kind to those in your life that are trying to pressure you into work and financial independence. Marage is a sacred bond that can be used in an un Godly way. It is definitely better to train our children, family's and friends what a Godly man is too.

[@sklw9856]

yes all of this.... and most definitely need more things on Men being Godly men.. it takes 2 to have a healthy. marriage, not just 1 trying to cover it all and him too. it's it's togetherness. Find a man that when you rub his feet, he pick up your feet and rub them too.

[@naty1012]

Yes this is the heart behind it. As the saying goes you never know what can happen...it's a security net for women because lets face it, we live in a fallen world. God forbid that husband put you out of the home, what will be the situation?

[@erikajay2]

I am so grateful to have found your channel. These videos really motivate and re energize me. Thank you! I hope to find a good group of Christian like minded women to surround myself with. I am very careful of my company because peoples words and opinions can be damaging. I can relate to the bitter female family members.

[@DesireeMarie]

“Hey the good sis is trying to undermine your marriage sis!” 😂 great video I understand this one 1000%

[@Bindi_Marc]

You gotta keep your eye on the good sis 😂😂😂

[@hunibuni]

Some people are hard sleepers and need a very loud and shrill wake up call and respond best to bluntness or tough love. Other people need to have their hand held and their feelings coddled or they will rebel against the message. I think there is a place for many styles of disseminating the truth. people have to have some self accountability for searching for the truth (and recognizing it when they see it even if they don't like the messenger) and then finding a messenger they want to hear it from without completely sabotaging themselves by writing off the message itself.

[@meresadam]

Thank you for your videos! My prayer is that the blessings of your marriage would continue and that you would continue your good work blessing other women marriages ❤

[@livingeli7836]

This part of the book left me shook I couldn’t even think or speak I kept stoping and thinking through what I am hearing it’s like wow. Most times the toughest books are the most powerful and impactful.

[@RobynLeigh111]

I personally appreciate the author's tone. I find no offence in it. She's clear and therefore she cannot be misinterpreted.

[@beebi072011]

Thank you for your wisdom of explaining this book. I plan to buy and read it. I’m very happy I watch your explanation before reading it. I’ve been married for over 2 decades, it’s haven’t been easy, but I will not trade my life, husband or children for anyone or anything or job. I’ve been a working wife and mother, I’ve been a homemaker raising my children and family, through the grace of God and my faith I’m so much happy now and content that I will not trade my life with anyone. Now that my children are older, I’m back to my career because I want to and my spouse and children support me. Thank you, and I can’t wait to see your next video 💗🥰💕

[@Bindi_Marc]

Congratulations on two decades of marriage! Im sure you have a gem or two you could share with us wives too :) That family support is paramount and I'm glad your husband is aligned with your choice. Thank you for watching and providing feedback on this series.

[@HoppySabbathHomestead]

I listened to the audiobook and it was read by the author and didn't hear it as condescending or rude at all. These truths can hurt for sure, but it's in the pain after a hard workout that we grow our muscles. I tried to share this book on FB and got backlash, and ended up deleting the post that i thought was written in love. Marriage is so important and it makes me so sad that there is so much brokenness in the sanctuary of it worldwide. Thank you for sharing your experience, revelation and resources

[@mdavis9718]

I love your summary at the end, Ms. Bindi. It reminded me of Collosians 3:17 and I found it interesting, what Paul said in the verse after: 17Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father. 18Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Thank you for your commentary on the secular book and pointing out biblical principles to help us wives be godly successful in our marriages!💗

[@packnetadaija]

Some good advice I’ve gotten is do not go to your single or divorced friends for marriage/relationship advice because many times they will give you advice in a single woman/divorced woman mindset. Many times they will recruit others to be single or divorced like them

[@Kra-ri6fd]

I am previously divorced. The only time I would ever advise a women to leave her husband and subject her family to that horrid is if he is being abusive or possibly committing adultry. My kids and I were homeless for 2.5 months after I left my ex. Going through that was as if someone died. My heart literally hurt. I believe they call that broken heart syndrom. Divorce is an absolutely horrible experience and one that a person should avoid if at all possible. That is what I would advise someone as a once divorced women. That uis what I remind myself when things are rough in my marriage. I once had a friend who was going through a rough time. I mean a really rough time. Her husband and her started fighting during this rough time.... because of the rough time. She told me she threatened to take their kid and leave him. I told her to remember that the stress is the enemy, not her husband and she won't find another one like him so hang on to him. They are still married.

[@LaBonnieBelle]

I feel so grateful to have come across your channel. What a beautiful thing to come across a woman so full of grace and humility ♥️✨

[@MiraMira0ntheWall]

Thank you for your words. Newly married and I'm strengthening my armour with your words and practices.

[@shaunaf2811]

I am so grateful I found your channel. I am on the path to engagement and this is the type of wife I intend to be. Your message/experience truly resonates with me. Will be listening to this book on audible today!

[@kerri-maeashley8273]

Thank you for making this video! I am reading this book and we share the same views; both on the book and in general and in experiences as a mother. I have worked outside the home full time and I have been a trad wife now for over 5 years and it’s the most rewarding joy of my life. You’re perspective is right in line with mine and I thoroughly enjoying hearing your thoughts in general. Thank you for what you do on this channel.

[@roxannbrown244]

wow sister Bindi, I love so many of your videos. Thank you for making them!

[@Lynaelary]

I love where your motivation stems from, service to Christ!!!! The same applies to both husband and wife as we take our roles in the family.

[@naty1012]

Yea because alot of women use it as a manipulation tactic.

[@Lynaelary]

@@naty1012 Thank you, which is really bad. When manipulation is involved from either spouse, we a not living our calling and commitment to Christ.

[@stevieray7203]

oh man, this hit home! I have been going through a hard time with lots of losses past 3 years. Thank you for this help🙏🏻

[@terristrange]

I just ordered a copy of this book. I used to watch her show and was always impressed at her tough persona. Underneath that there was great wisdom and heart.

[@rozetaaciobanitei562]

I gave up my career when I was 27 years old, and now I’m 60 years old. I served my family of 6 children, a sick husband who eventually passed away at 49, a blessed mother in law whom in the last 15 years of her life battled altimeter,I still care for my 89 years old mother, and I feel so blessed and accomplished. There is more to it that God used me just because I said no to a carrier when I was asked to choose between staying home or my pride. And my children called me a wise, loving, servant mother. I don’t claim that I always been perfect and at times was not that easy life but I thank God for counsel, strength and patience with me.

[@Camrudd2014]

I love this! Thank you for giving your feedback as a married Christian woman! I will be watching the rest! I am in full agreement with you and the author. She might seem harsh but the truth can sting! ❤

[@fanceeish5465]

I am ordering this book. It’s funny how I found your channel a year ago about one topic yet back to binge watch over a completely different topic I live more. No one is giving this content but it is a much needed conversation. People don’t like to be told or asked to reconsider these days. As far as feedback in this video. I think it is spot on. Her novel may not be palatable but in reading the Bible we find truth hurts.

[@naturalypretty]

You are like a breath of fresh air. Thank you for all the information and insight. I genuinely appreciate all the work that you put into your videos because you are giving us the necessary information that could help us be good wives and mothers from a Christian standpoint which is not what we hear nowadays. I listen to a lot of podcast and content that have similar message to yours but theirs is coming more so from a secular perspective. So again I really appreciate your videos. Im not a mother yet, I am not a wife, though im engaged and can honestly say that I agree with everything you say about the importance of raising your kids and devoting yourself to your family. I’ve always felt this was of upmost importance, even over career, money, and anything else. To me, raising good kids is a lot of work but it’s more rewarding than anything else you could do. So thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@MrsLanders]

I love the commentary! My husband and I listened to it together. I think the author was just straightforward. I didn't find anything she said offensive or unkind. Sometimes in life we need people to tell it like it is.

[@InHisImage999]

It is not just your family sis, it is 100% mine as well. I watched the first video and was like yes I feel that, I agree. Now I'm listening to this one and I am totally and completely convicted. Like, my disappointment in myself is intense. I know I need to give myself grace though. I didn't know any better. I listened to something before that resonated with what you said about ending a conversation that may be leading to division between you and your husband. You have to be so careful who you tell your business to, if anyone. Even your family, especially your family. When my marriage was on the verge of ending, not one person in my life told me to fight to make it work or question my role in it all. My mother who hated her father, was divorced and single had nothing of encouragement to tell me and can I blame her? She never saw or experienced what it meant to make a marriage work or to stop pointing the finger and make a change in herself. Man this was so convicting. Thank you got taking one for the team and reviewing this book. I'm in tears.

[@LMPM0909]

SUCH a good series! I just found your channel and have enjoyed listening while working around my house in the evening. I haven’t read this book (yet) but can think of a few women on social media with ministries aimed at women who have such poor delivery; and I just want to scream, “would it kill you to display even an inkling of empathy to the women you are trying to impact?!” You can speak truth without compromising while still being kind, and you have absolutely nailed it. ❤️✝️

[@themillennialsewer5606]

This is so enlightening I can see mistakes I made in a past relationship so eye opening .

[@amandakennedy22]

I chased the career for several years and I almost lost my marriage because of it. I made a choice from then on to never let a job get in the way of my husband or children. A job will replace you in a heartbeat, you're family won't.

[@lisaebenezer1069]

You are a very wise woman. Thank God for giving you the mercy to understand the nuggets and knowledge He is giving you. Amen

[@lovealwaysjas]

I’ve been following Dr Laura for years. So much yes to everything you said in this video!

[@emilykaelyn9875]

Can’t even explain how much this series has helped me. Just finished all the videos in this series and I have a lot to apologize for 🥹 Thank you for showing us all this. God bless

[@Beautifulbeliever]

I am sure that many of us millennials have ran smack into the wall when it comes to navigating marriage! I know for me it has taken years, almost a decade to really apply what God truly wants from ME as a WIFE. Not for me to try to change my marriage after the fact of choosing my partner like you went over in the first video. I agree that as a wife, I am a keeper of the home; ( not a 'house wife' I guess because in english it is summed up as a washed up house slave that had potential) a keeper, a watcher, prayer warrior, care taker, nurturer. I can only do these things if submit to my husband and obey the word. I am loving the spiritual growth I've gained throughout the years and being blessed with the wisdom of the word. I am also guilty of wanting to please certain family members and for many years it built resentment within me. Not wanting to submit to my husband and seeing house work as truly unenjoyable. Not one time have I complained about the effort I put into caring for our 4 soon to be 5 children. My children are who remind me of how good I have it. They are fed, clothed, clean, and happy. The fact that my husband has a good paying job during this crazy time we live in shows me how I have God's mercy. And for us for keep it, I can't have the attitude I had before. I have seen your videos a year or 2 after I began to truly embrace my role and you were like a breath of fresh air. Validating that being soft, feminine, submissive, obedient were terms that were taken out of context and abused. That all of those qualities were what will keep my husbands attention and just make marriage much easier.

[@themodernSAHMco]

Girllll millennials have it tight with navigating marriage and work life…we have been told soo many mistruths. I am doing ALOT of unlearning.

[@linnag3117]

@@themodernSAHMco true they seem to follow society

[@AyoKaiChill]

Our families dont make us better or worse. Stop blaming "family". Also, be cautious lest he fall....into an unplanned divorce no matter how Proverbs 31 a woman may intend to be. Noone I know, PLANS on being a single mother much less one that doesn't have to work and yet still have the responsibility of taking care of her children. Never know, unless have walked the shoes...Just saying

[@tesajones5107]

These videos are such a blessing!

[@haleyheard6968]

@BindiMarc WOW! Girl, i watched the 4th one first and honestly that's when I asked the question "doesn't my husband have any responsibility?" But quickly was I convicted that his responsibility is not my concern. My concern is my responsibility to do what God has designed me to do as a wife! But nonetheless, i was absolutely going to continue to listen regardless, because truth may hurt sometimes but it is SO good. Thank you for making these videos, I would've never known this book existed, I've been struggling in my search of practical ways of being a biblical wife due to it being hard to find in biblical sermons. My sister sent this to me! SO good. Maybe one question i have for you is what if it's my very own husband that wants me to work and possibly do daycare? He says he wants me to stay at home BUT inflation.... which i understand is becoming a burden on the finances. You see, though, if i were to get a job all that money would just go to daycare AND the detriment of my newborns spiritual, nutritional, and familial well-being. I've ALWAYS wanted to be a stay at home wife and mom. So what am i to do? I feel subtly pressured to be like his mom who worked and took care of the home, but like we all know... that wears one out. It honestly stresses me out just by thinking about taking all of that on. I can't do it all, I'm not superwoman. And the stress of doing it has already shown in my ill-temperament.

[@themodernSAHMco]

Great question and I am in that in between too. 😅

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Listen to the "Susanne Venker Show" podcast no 145. It covers this issue.

[@haleyheard6968]

@@dumfriesspearhead7398 thank you! Will do!

[@haleyheard6968]

@@themodernSAHMco I’m sorry to hear that! I’ll be praying for us both!!!

[@HerThoughtCloud]

THANK YOU. For validating my internal feelings that seem too ridiculous to confess to the world. Literal weight off my shoulders. Now to do something about it.

[@strawberriesblueberries2258]

I agree with this video. I’m single and I can’t even work and do house work. It’s tough. How much more if I had to work full time and raise a family.

[@EmmaJane973]

I am thanking God that I found your channel. God is using you in a wonderful, wonderful way!! You bring encouragement and truth and admonishment in love, and it is so needed ! Women need this, what the Holy Spirit has/is showing you, keep sharing, talking, as you feel led. Thank you! *side note, you are so pretty! 🙂

[@kgwyneth]

Bindi, you are like a magical unicorn to me. I just love every word you say. I respect you so much for having become such an extraordinary wife and homemaker self taught. I love how immediately you put you faith into actions. Your videos have been very valuable to me. Thank you so much!❤️

[@onesweetlife2469]

Wow. Just wow. I’m taking all this in and totally agreeing with Dr. Laura’s viewpoints…already breaking out some apologies to my husband. Such an eye-opener!

[@keruboamoro]

Interesting words here... "The cruelest thing a wife can do is NEVER be happy... Happiness is more an attitude than a reality." It's a decision to choose to be content. Feeling satisfied is something to take control of.

[@libs_adventures]

wow... wow wow wow, the end really hit me when you were talking about how your ultimate goal in learning how to be a better wife is to please the Lord, not just your earthly husband. That portion really made me pause and wonder what my motive was in all my preparing to become a wife and become a mother. I'll definitely be praying on that for some time and reevaluating how I approach the topic of marriage!

[@heatherbaker7493]

i have watched alot of your videos and love them thank you keep spreading the love of god

[@Joey35ify]

Loved the video, especially the clarity about the motivation. It’s all for the Father’s glory.

[@gcinilembuli3657]

Thank you Sis for standing up as a mouthpiece of God about family values. It is so sad that society frowns upon Godly decisions to a point that it's easier to just vanish than stand for Christ.

[@kierstindanyail9802]

Been visiting your channel for a few weeks and am loving your videos. I know not everyone may appreciate your opinions or beliefs, but I do! Thank you for posting the videos that you do. 💞

[@EmemArchibong]

I have been blessed by your ministry. Your advice on how to go about your duties as a Christian wife and mother are absolutely insightful. I have been binge watching your videos. The glory of God shines through you. Keep doing what you do. Btw could you please do a hair tutorial on how you get your dreadlocks done like that (that style is stunning).

[@Rayeoflights]

“How happy is the one who does not walk in the advice of the wicked or stand in the pathway with sinners or sit in the company of mockers! Instead, his delight is in the Lord’s instruction, and he meditates on it day and night. He is like a tree planted beside flowing streams that bears its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭1:1-3‬ ‭CSB‬‬ This scripture gives us biblical instruction not to take advice of the wicked. God bless you and your channel 😊

[@michaelhodges8005]

So True Bindi We thank you for sharing this.... I am a guy and I am reading the book.. I am still learning...

[@yolande7871]

Thank you much💜!!!! I thank God for coming across your channel🙏🏾!

[@Luyanda-hu5io]

Very informative. Bless you❤🙏

[@sofiabasilasjvili8018]

Youre Gold !!💖 May God bless you and your family 🙏🏼❣️

[@keshnadonia]

Hi I’ve been subscribed for a while and I’ve been enjoying this series you started. When I heard you mention you were a home maker my ears perked up. I grew up with my mom and stepfather and it always felt that my mom was both a nurse and a home maker. After being home for a year and some change post pandemic, I really don’t see myself working in an office setting again. I’m curious to know if your main focus the family? Do you also bring in an income? This book sounds really good and would have been a great read in my women’s study class back in college.

[@Bindi_Marc]

Thank you for watching! I do have a small side business but I'll be phasing it out to direct that time and energy back into my family. I really do recommend this book despite her sharp tone.

[@erint933]

Goodness this gets me thinking a lot...bcs I'm a homeschool mother and although I have known I'm called to school my kids, in a way it is like working another job. Hmm... this is only my 2nd full yr though of homeschooling, so maybe my feeling totally spent by 5pm is bcs I'm learning to balance school and home life. I don't want this calling to get in the way of being present as a wife and mother, who needs to have love and patience for my family. Any thoughts from other homeschool moms?

[@anyamuenchgrieser8686]

I'm anticipating feeling that way in the future...I'm looking into buying a Classical online system so I'm not as much in charge but I don't have concerns about what the kids would be taught. But I definitely felt some strain when I was being homeschooled a couple decades ago!

[@caivail4614]

Amen to all of this. Thank you for an intelligent and gracious look at this divisive and important topic. Will need to work through a lot of this on my own and with my husband.

[@jeriannmahnich]

I LOVE HER!!! I would listen to her radio program, and GROSSLY UNVEILED me!!! 🤣😂🤣 WHEEEW!!! My family is a train wreck!!!… YESSS!!! Thank you, JESUS, for showing me!!! 🙌🏼❤️‍🔥 *dismiss the messenger and embrace the message-it’s truly for the reader’s benefit* 🥰

[@kathystearns9012]

You go girl. You're on the correct track. I too have those women in my family and I feel sorry for them and have tried to show them when I can but they don't any thing that doesn't see it their way

[@mrsleavelle1]

Loving your thoughts on this book. Thank you. Also, you said this dress you have on is from Mango, correct? I tried looking on their site but wasn’t able to find it. Do you possibly have a link for the dress? It’s beautiful!

[@njoolong]

I love Dr. Laura and have read several of her books, including The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, which I give as a bridal shower gift. If you have listened to her radio show for any period of time, you will see that she is actually very compassionate, empathetic and kind. She is also very direct and tells it like it is in order to cut through people's excuses and lies (mostly the ones they tell themselves). Some of her calls bring me to tears. You can literally see and hear the breakthroughs with some callers. Dr. Laura, though not a Christian, embodies many godly attributes. I totally disagree with your assessment of her harsh tone. She really does it to get to the heart of the matter. And if you read between the lines in this book, you will clearly see that she is hard on women because they have a lot of power to create a wonderful marriage and they get all the goodies when their husbands are well cared for (which is the whole point she makes)

[@spark4945]

Great job putting that into words! I love Dr Laura, it’s her passion for women to stop believing lies that sounds harsh, she is often misunderstood.

[@dorisdeal8729]

Love all of your videos Bindi! Would you mind sharing your homeschooling in your upcoming videos? Thank you❤ God bless you.

[@justpeachy4393]

The irony of much of what this author says is that she herself is a successful businesswoman...

[@dinascott8815]

I have worked my whole life, and I am now an empty nester. If only I could have focused on my home. I was divorced, for just cause, but my children so paid the price of that. Thank you for sharing truth that is unpopular. You are brave and will be blessed. This is truth, however harsh. I do wish you could add in the scriptures to show the biblical directives.

[@meganbracy2974]

Yes. Dr. Laura is HARSH. But she's not wrong. If you can get past her tone and get to the good stuff, it will be so convicting and will really help your marriage. Our men deserve better. We needed Dr. Laura to snap us out of our delusion! She did that for me. Im grateful to her.

[@Yapah.S.Da.K.O.S]

WOW!!! YOU ARE ON IT! MUCH WISDOM SHARED HERE. THANK YOU!!

[@indianam7689]

Bindi I agree with you agreeing with the author of this book, as a Christian woman myself. I learnt alot from this series (started watching last year, I'm repeating it now) and have been trying to align myself with these teachings in repentance to God through Jesus Christ my Lord and Saviour. Now I have encountered a problem with my husband saying he doesn't want a housewife, not because he needs assistence financially to take care of the family but just because being housewife is taken to be a negative thing. I have a 6 months old kid and a 2 year old, when he told me he doesn't want a housewife the 6month was 3months then. I tried to respectfully show him all the possibilities I could think of, taking such small children to daycare or having someone else look after them besides me but I didn't win. I am tormented everyday when I have to take my kids to daycare😭What do I do now?🤷‍♀️

[@ohkay1976]

Girl I love your name, it's just powerful in itself lol. Thank you for everything ✊🔥, seriously, much love and may you be blessed abundantly with treasures in heaven sis

[@salemsamson1098]

Thank you so much for sharing !

[@pattyhansen7563]

Like my husband says, " If it hurt, you needed to hear it." people (especially women) are way too sensitive these days. I read this book by Dr. Laura years ago & thought it had a lot of wisdom & was NOT offended by it. It changed the way I viewed marriage,for sure. We are supposed to be edified by instruction. discomfort is a good motivator to change.

[@donnadixon8065]

I used to listen to The Christian Home on Family Radio, and it helped me a lot as a young Christian and mother. Not saying that I agree with everything on that radio station but that program helped me a lot when I first got saved.

[@AleishaSimone]

This is so real, sometimes you lose your identity in the midst of life events! Coming to 2 years into marriage and I want to be a proactive wife for my husband so I can please God. 🙏🏾

[@mamawlife7852]

What if the woman has to work, thst she is the provider? She feels the way your saying but she has to work. She is beat down but has no choice.

[@lianaenbey]

Identifying mark of true Christians is showing love. Who is more important in our lives to show love to than our spouses, our closest “neighbor”

[@karihowell9559]

I loved your analogy of salt pertaining to a marriage, that was spot on and brilliant. I'd like to add to your ending statement you had about honoring God by being the best wife you can be. I would add that in doing that, you are also allowing your husband to become the best version of himself in the context of God. The chapter that comes to mind is Proverbs 31 where it states what an honorable woman is, but it mentions something unique when it says "her husband is known in the gates". By being a God -honoring wife and submitting to him she has not only honored God (the highest calling) but her husband has also had the freedom, power, and influence to become an someone who others look up to. When the home is in its proper order, the world will flourish.

[@LadySublimity]

Thank you for your tremendous service!🙏🏼 beyond grateful for you!

[@spark4945]

You are very wonderful and I absolutely love listening to you. But I’m old and I listened to Dr Laura and understand the reason for her tone.

[@lynnettehorning915]

I'm not much of a reader but I need this book. My sister just got married and I think she'd find it helpful as well. Thanks for summarizing it with such wisdom.

[@thepuffinpanda9139]

I get audiobooks from my library. That's another option.

[@Blueprintforauthors]

It is too much and I’m glad I had the insight to realize that in my own life, the book seems to share harsh truths that are usually hard to hear and accept!

[@Bindi_Marc]

We praise Him for opening our eyes. Amen? Amen! I wish she would have laced these truths with a little bit more love but I'm thankful for the truth regardless. Thanks for watching and commenting!