Sadia on "The untold truth about intimacy"

[@sadiapsychology]

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[@JohnADuerk]

I don't want to date someone who is too agreeable because you never know where they stand on issues that arise in a relationship. Always looking to 'keep the peace' simply isn't healthy or realistic. Some conflict is desirable because it creates opportunities to self-examine and learn so that you can grow. What matters is how you navigate it together. Side note: This isn't to be confused with a person who likes to fight regularly as that is dysfunctional.

[@banished4eva]

Wow I didn't know this! I'm too scared of saying what I want cuz my biggest fear is that a man will insult me or hurt me

[@kimmysander2447]

​​​@@banished4evaif a man can't handle what you want or you can't communicate to gain mutual understanding and common ground, then it's probably not even a relationship worth pursuing. Not everyone fits together and that's okay. The best way to find a good partner is to be honest with yourself about what you want and to voice it.

[@benjaminmoore528]

Not to mention if they're too agreeable they might be agreeable to the next person hitting on them

[@JohnADuerk]

@@benjaminmoore528 Hmm. I never thought about that. Thanks for sharing your thought.

[@JohnADuerk]

@@banished4eva The right person will always respect their partner and never mistreat them.

[@Sanskarpachhai07]

She has beautiful voice and such a nice charisma in her all podcats. Loved it.🤠❤

[@theautodidacticman_]

Intimacy is the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship.

[@ElimEx1]

Then you're definitely doing it wrong... I have no intimacy with my wife and we're very happily married and have a succesful marriage.

[@theautodidacticman_]

@@ElimEx1 that sir is considered a platonic relationship, and a platonic relationship is different from a romantic relationship. While both types of relationships often involve having a deep friendship and sometimes even love, people in a romantic relationship are typically physically intimate whereas there is no sex or physical intimacy in a platonic relationship. How are you confusing the two when we're talking about romantic relationships and marriage?

[@ElimEx1]

@@theautodidacticman_ Because you're confusing marriage with romantic relationships. You can have an extremely succesful marriage with no intimacy. Did you know that 40% of marriages are sexless? And those are the people reporting it (lots of people don't) and doesn't include the marriages in trouble, divorcing, etc and those numbers don't include non married people. So that means that most long term relationships are platonic. Now most of those are filled with anger/resentment because they didn't do that on purpose. Historically, a lot of power marriages were platonic (except for procreation purposes for legacies) and couples had lovers for love, romance and lust. This is a much better paradigm because society would be more stable if we brought that back. Marriages would be stronger if they were built to be platonic. At the core, marriages are nothing more than a business transaction. Legally, the papers you sign have nothing to do with relationships. We ascribe them that meaning because of propaganda, religion and movies and books. It's a fallacy meant to control.

[@cspace1234nz]

....what an unbelievable, unremarkable load of crap !

[@theautodidacticman_]

@@cspace1234nz please explain…

[@davidbigd9047]

This is my argument about believing men who have only watched porn are bad at sex or love making. I certainly do agree that those who watch porn and still have access to women or friends with access will never take the extra time to research how to properly please a woman. I, on the other hand, have come across many articles, books and videos teaching me on what sex is designed for and how to get her warmed up feeling comfortable in your arms while never going in expecting sex. Also, there's more to intimacy than sexual to build your bond as a couple.

[@TheNkonkolo]

Which books did you read?

[@edwardspetsnaz5366]

I never get bored listening to @Sadia ❤❤

[@douglaidlaw740]

I watched a discussion about a woman who in 5 years, had had numerous relationships (16+) with different men. When she wanted to marry, she couldn't find a husband. With her experience, no man could offer her anything new. I was the opposite; I had never had a girlfriend. I believe that couples should get naked only with partners they trust. This woman had made her body almost public property. She had nothing left to offer. Pornstars do the same.

[@ElimEx1]

It's the opposite. She had SO MUCH MORE to offer. Why spend the rest of your life with a prude who knows nothing about pleasure, probably repressed and can do nothing for her partner. It works both ways btw. Just imagine being stuck for the rest of your life with someone who is not compatible this way with you. Then you're miserable for the rest of your life.

[@phoenixrisin2269]

I’m a widower and married 34 years of my adult life. I’m lost in this 304 society. I was repulsed by the last 2 women I dated physically and spiritually when the truth came out.

[@natalic6088]

What truth?

[@Turtlefunny]

She’s so good.

[@RichardHorcik333]

She is on the spot, like always.💯👍

[@matthewpaterson2499]

She's right. Adore her, awareness.

[@frankevangelista2642]

I love Sadia because she speaks the truth.

[@peterohman8469]

Nobody has put it to Sadia that the fact that women blame men for everything that has gone wrong in the world is ruining relationships between men and women.

[@ricardofortuna5404]

Thanks for your input, Sadia 🙏

[@deathcador]

The guy is so cringe, but Sadia skillfully dismantled his argument (which he shouldn't have contested in the first place). She started by agreeing with him, but then countered, 'Therefore, men should be consistent in their demands. They don't want a good woman; what they want is a sexually crafty woman." Then he responded, "Define good." Lol, duh. I don't have such patience.

[@barbaranassar9361]

You have helped me so much. Thank you for sharing your knowledge

[@aryanalfa2444]

Long term is the way😊

[@creativeweightwatcherrecip8213]

Yes

[@francocarrieri1988]

A woman never says what she wants. She wants the man to do all the work, at both physical and psychological levels of intimacy. May be, mums should show their sons more kindness, to sensitise boys to subtler feelings (intimacy)?

[@alyciahall1111]

I disagree that marriage can't have wild crazy sex on a daily basis. It's a choice. It takes commitment from both partners, but if you're aligned.... 🙌

[@nickyb8089]

THIS WOMAN IS 100% RIGHT. (CAPS NEEDED) Stop interrupting her ffs. She knows what she us talking about. What she said at 8:32 is 100% FACTS!!! Most men dont want a wife they want what they see on social media etc then complain about all women. I literally had to stop dating a guy because of his mind set. He failed to see i am not like the last 50 women that did not know their value and had no boundaries. Time to swop beer goggles for find a wife goggles men!

[@PatriotResearchGal]

Having a zero body count is “problematic” but no one bothers to give advice on what to do with that segment of the populace : other to shame them as a reminder that everyone at one point sat at zero.

[@NAviationWario]

''Leave my hair alone today.'' Hahah.

[@AbdulAziz-vq7mj]

I have listened to this woman so much that I think i'm in love with her. I'm dead serious

[@scarlettkhan9667]

😊 aww

[@MabuleRiba-gq1jp]

😂😂❤

[@TV-oc4ml]

It’s called a parasocial relationship. Bro u need help

[@AbdulAziz-vq7mj]

@@TV-oc4ml I hope the Dr. that's going to treat me is Sadia.

[@simonmo5700]

Dude

[@gueditoguey]

Women still fail to realize that there are two very different categories for women. The ones we sleep with and the ones we settle down with. Yes, promiscuous women are rewarded with attention and sex, but we rarely settle down with those women. The positive traits she listed are absolutely what we seek in long term partners.

[@EmmanuelBaah-f4y]

Miss. SADIA, IS simply super intelligent

[@shawn_and_one]

Yeah she is, and she’s gorgeous.. I hope she a nice person in real life # total package

[@justdom1968]

Seems intelligent but if you thinks about what it is actually said, it just false red pill to please men.

[@frankevangelista2642]

She is a good woman.

[@drefhill]

but she say so much bullshit

[@btwthblood]

Sadia, wisdom! It's not common sense! I love how you distinguish morality from what he says. He could put me to sleep.

[@bill_monty]

I'm part of the ultra low body count gang so that must mean I am doomed 😔 (But I'll also do all I can to learn and please whichever woman I do ultimately get and hope for the best 😂🙏🏾)

[@linaleon5734]

A man who is not so experienced but is willing to learn can make for a much better sex partner. If you’re in your masculine and with a regulated ego.. predominantly learn to please a woman.

[@jwester7009]

Wrong! Just because promiscuous women get a lot og sexual attention doesn't mean they are wife material. Those are the women men practise on before they settle down

[@InstavidDocs]

I disagree. A woman’s worth isn’t defined by her sexual history. Marriage material is about character, values, and compatibility, not a person's past. Reducing women to "practice" undermines respect and the complexity of relationships, which should be based on mutual understanding and emotional connection.

[@jwester7009]

@@InstavidDocs I didn't say anything about sexual history or her past in general. I'm talking about present behavior and how it is defined regarding wife material

[@section9999]

I'm at a point in my life where I'm actually struggling with the idea that for me to be able to attract women I have no choice but to be toxic. 80% of the women I've tried to spark a relationship have told me I'm too nice and have overlooked me in favor of a toxic guy they constantly complain about. How can it be that this is the exception? Could it be that I'm somehow provoking that behavior somehow? I don't understand. I'm almost at the point of abandoning my integrity just to be given a chance. Where are these "majority of women" that she's talking about? I was never taught how to approach women in a toxic manner like she seems to suggest is usually the case I actually think there are waaaay more people in my shoes than what she's describing

[@scarlettkhan9667]

Be a nice guy, just learn how to play hard to get sometimes. So don’t reply to a text message straight away. And don’t be too available. It’s horrible that we have to act toxic to be deemed attractive. But please don’t become an A. hole just to get a date.

[@muma6559]

"they reward women that give them some push back", isn't that a strong woman who knows herself, the one that can push back or show her limits and boundaries? That's impressive and drives men wild. But it has to be genuine push back, no pretense

[@InstavidDocs]

I prefer not to date someone who's too agreeable because it's hard to know where they stand. Healthy conflict is essential for growth, as it fosters self-reflection and understanding. What matters is how you handle it together, unlike constant fighting, which is dysfunctional.

[@MellowSerenitycatdogcpbclo0x]

First comment woot woot!! Love Sadia 🙏🏾

[@mariodulz2017]

I find this interview very valuable. Because it was a very respectful exchange. Both sides have their experiences and both live in a long-term partnership. Regardless of the interview, this black and white thinking / this right and wrong thinking is disturbing. There is no question that we have access to many stimuli from the outside. But I believe that access to quick erotic experiences is no different than access to other stimuli that precede this urge. Especially social media. Points like, "Who do I have to be, what do I have to look like", "consumption in general", "nutrition that is definitely unhealthy". I think there are a lot of things that are a lot more damaging to the individual person and a factor in being less able to make a long-term commitment or feel good enough for a person than the porn industry. Even if you do, it's always "HOW" you deal with it and not what and how often you consume it. Therefore, the answer lies more in the mindset of the person and deeper than just the number of sexual experiences. Moreover, sex is much more than sexual intercourse. sexual intercourse is only a result of good sexual vibes that are generally maintained and actively triggered. Of course, everyone is free to choose what is important to them, and there is certainly a consensus on everything in science. What is more important is open and respectful interaction, regardless of experience. There is no right or wrong and perhaps it is precisely this understanding of each other that can connect people, even if they have thought differently up to that point or even think differently in the partnership.

[@escapevelocity8092]

A lot of this discussion is hot air. If you see a person and truly understand them in the core, and know how to make them feel safe and attractive and wanted, then any sexual encounter includes the soul and not just the body, and no amount of statistical projection can match that. Numbers mean nothing, and by knowing yourself and coming to know them intimately, there will be zero insecurity about pleasing them whatsoever.

[@markfennell1167]

So the answer is to always have multiple women. In series. And often at same time. This is true actually. And why most relationships should be openly non monogamous

[@BatBrakesBones]

You really are passionate. Yes.

[@ytfanfan]

Let us stop using the term "making love" when referencing sex. Love has got so many layers, not just a sexual activity, and by using terms created from a dated social construct, we are enforcing very wrong ideology and perception to our subconscious and others.

[@linahome1417]

You are amazing, true true 👏👏👏👏

[@melawieeinapfel8594]

I love it when a woman speaks for all of us women😉

[@btwthblood]

Next time, listen. She actually says, "I can't speak for all women."

[@timcastle1844]

Many of them, without a clue, do it all the time. When not doing so they are usually giving BS advice even when it's not asked for.

[@larsf.4756]

I don't think that a man who has been in long-term relationships is necessarily better at lovemaking, he is simply better at listening. Aside from feeling loved, I have not encountered two women who were going after exactly the same thing in bed, even though all had their preferences. But in hindsight these women weren't all that shy communicating what they wanted.

[@Jasiel.95]

Thanks for this.

[@tarigel-kithiri6619]

A dose of Sadia....

[@MiissMakoti]

Miss. Sadia can you please talk a bit more on self love? How can we focus all the attention and love we are putting out on ourselves?

[@BBartistic]

How can people go and f**k around with whomever they can... what a sad way to live life. Tom has such shallow outlook about love.. 🤦‍♀️

[@AlfredRoberts-eg9pt]

You're the coolest lady ever😊

[@curiousintellect6874]

I get what sadia's saying but I can say the EXACT same thing in terms of misinformation for men, For years women have said something along the lines of "Why can't I find the right guy" or "All i want is a guy who will treat me nice" whilst going after THE most toxic dude out there. This misinformation goes both ways.

[@gadget00]

The interviewer should have asked more questions rather than try to “add” to the conversation. Gorilas? Seriously? 😂 But maybe that’s me

[@BBartistic]

I felt the same.. awkward..

[@evanatbri-s13]

He went too much.... :/

[@lucindalaree9265]

Listening to this makes the case that men and women are not the same. XX or XY. That anyone thinks otherwise astounds me.

[@nixl3518]

That women who have not had sex with their partner for months are clueless that that might be a problem is quite naïve in a society like ours! If you started out a relationship with having sex every two or three days, if not more often and then it tapers down to hardly anyand you don’t pick up on the change, it only speaks to your intelligence and the major error that your partner did in choosing you in the first place!

[@ancaselaru7701]

Fixed ideas that miss out on natural chemistry that def makes sex so much more magical than any amount of experience

[@TSixSix]

Yet many men suffer from a lack of intimacy because the women he deals with let themselves go over time and or too lazy to please the man.

[@daurgo2001]

There is NOTHING wrong with a woman that has been promiscuous and being promiscuous doesn't make a woman a "bad woman". Sexuality has nothing to do with how good or bad you are as a person. Saying otherwise is toxic and shaming people.

[@finanzsystemhandel]

I like this guy 😁

[@hexadecimal5236]

9:45 Don't Make me LAUGH! Women know EXACTLY what men want. They just CHOOSE to only care about their OWN feelings. They behave in a COMPLETELY selfish way, and then they act SHOCKED when the man loves his second wife mistress or fwb and stops with his first wife or girlfriend. And when You DO tell women about your feelings or show vulnerability towards them they ATTACK YOU, for YOUR feelings. It's SHOCKING. BREATHETAKING. It's happened to me so mamy times and then women BOLD FACED LIE ABOUT IT even to each other. You really need to dig deeper because you're FAR from the Truth on this. Maybe you need to talk to Myron and listen to the women who OPENLY SAY my man was sad in front of me and I lost all interest in him, my man cried in front of me and I felt disgusted. IMAGINE! If a man said that ON SOCIAL MEDIA. Women would be burning his picture in the street.

[@nickyb8089]

You sound like you have experienced a lot of hurt in the past. Maybe you should look why you attract those kind of women. And I don't think someone like Myron has all the answers.

[@hexadecimal5236]

@nickyb8089 The Majority of women are like that and KZbin is full of evidence to the point where just pearly things and other women talk about it as well.

[@sevenstars4817]

That is the boring way of relationships. Am i right?? All these relationship gurus are very confusing

[@karma-uf6yk]

This is not at all true. Most married woman (who will talk) typically will admit they did not marry the guy who was the best lover because the best lover was the guy that was foe the streets. To say the less practice you have the better at it you are makes no sense. Now yes if the women you find have had only 1 or 2 partners in their life time then yes she would be correct. But the mast majority of woman in 2024 has enough experience where the slow jam and missionary love making isn't going to be enough.

[@andeydimitrov3685]

She is fucking gorgeous!!!!!!

[@fanstream]

Smart is so sexy 👏👏

[@wijnandvo]

Is she a real psychologist?

[@craigevans6736]

That’s not true women that get a lot of men are aggressive meeting men and the wifey material just is not aggressive meeting men.

[@professorprofessorson8795]

25? Got a pump those numbers up bro

[@earlygail]

Hahahha

[@banished4eva]

Any married guys in the comments: is it true that you'd prefer new women to be intimate with rather than just your wife? (Like how the man in the video was saying)

[@VN_Zadok]

New women while still being married? Or new women all the time? I stick with one wife only to be fully invested sexually and truly happy based off monogamy (she’s my one and only). s Since many men even in times past have had multiple wives and gfs at the same time of their wives they have less time to really invest in that one and only wife. So when she gets an attitude or is on the rag he has options to be satisfied elsewhere without trying to hard to make anything right or going through a waiting period while she’s on hers. If one wife is withholding sex and she’s all you have then it requires a man to be humble and seek out the relationship to repair it. Having multiple wives at the same time seems like easy way to not be too attached to one person and thus moving around to the other women causes each woman that you are married to to miss you since they don’t have you all to themselves and would be less interested in arguing and more open to good times thus making it easier on the man and more enjoyable as he hops around to each of his wives and gfs. But there’s always that option if one acts up he can move elsewhere Let’s flip it around though, would multiple men ever be married to one woman? Or would one woman like to have multiple men as their spouses or “side things”

[@banished4eva]

@VN_Zadok I meant new women while still being married. But new woman all the time isn't a bad question either- does that feeling happen for men too? Also I understand now why a man has multiple wives etc...I actually know of someone in my neighborhood who has multiple wives and I've wondered how he was ok with it because from what I've noticed is that none of the wives have any emotional attachment to him, and he also has no emotional attachment to any one of them specifically. That brings me to another question.. is emotional attachment important to a guy? Or do men not care about that?? And to answer your question, personally I wouldn't like to have multiple men, I can't imagine doing that to whoever I'd marry. It's more because I'd want the man I married to know that he's the one I want to put my effort, time and love into. I would hate sharing my husband with anyone. I'd wanna grow with each other and work on getting better etc... but I just wanted to see a male perspective cuz ik both genders think differently

[@VN_Zadok]

@@banished4eva I guess it depends on what kind of man the person is. Me personally I am content with one wife being my exclusive source of all my sexual experience and happiness. Men need to feel emotionally connected apart from sex, because we feel valued and respected as a person, as a man. Look at Dax “to be a man” song to see the importance of a man’s struggles that are always overlooked. So yes a true man needs this from his one wife to be emotionally and sexually balanced. There are men out there that don’t care or probably stuff their emotions and sex is just a means to satisfy the deep hole they have that no one truly loves them. Just like drinking, smoking or anything else that people do because they are unloved and don’t know how to deal with it. Thus multiple partners is just a means to satisfy the flesh as to avoid the deep inner hurt. And also some men do not care and are perfectly fine not being emotionally invested in any one woman and are happy to keep increasing their body count and banging as many women as they can with no intentions of having a family or truly feeling the weight and responsibility it takes to have a consistent partner they are emotionally invested in plus children they love and have to provide for. So that would be a selfish man, and only selfish women would fall for such a man As you gain experience it seems you would want someone with no experience so that they can truly be your everything and you would be able to rest in that because the person you were with before didn’t have that intent with you and you were able to see that. So now you see the purity in some one who sees you like you wanted to be seen and it makes it easier for you to know that this person with no experience can grow into loving you properly

[@nixl3518]

Interesting how the discussion never gets around to talking about character!! It’s not just about sex! If there’s no character and there is sex, it only last so long and to be frank most guys appreciate character and the sex comes later! Think about it!

[@craigevans6736]

That’s not true women who have sex with a lot of men are aggressive meeting men. Wifey material are more reserved when meeting men. If wifey material were more aggressive meeting men, they would get husbands faster.

[@corupito]

All this knowledge and wisdom certainly comes from experience...

[@scarlettkhan9667]

My friend slept with 5/6 men before her husband. She lied she only had 1 partner before him. She was used and dumped by all of the men before her husband. A lot of 1 night stands. Being dumped by guys made her bitter and not a nice person.

[@ehsanhaq155]

I have zero respect for the women who lie to their husbands about thir past.

[@Brent-z2s]

My friend proposes to his wife but asked if she was a virgin she lied and said yes the night before the wedding she told him she wasn't a virgin and had slept with one guy from his school and one guy who lived down the same road as him.

[@Sanskarpachhai07]

Damn.😂

[@mikhailmuraviev3316]

i disagree on it. often they mildly cool. many of them have some mental ilnesses. big piece of them have BPD, NPD, ASD. BPD are empty inside if you go a bit deeper. while some of average wifey can be wild really

[@abhaygoel4090]

But about the reverse ? the hyper promiscous woman marrying a normal man and then asking for an open marraige

[@V3ct0r_S1gm4]

Ask me why I've learned to be a misogynist...

[@xelxchimix1214]

No it means he can get women why repeat the same meal 🍴.. you don't eat breakfast at dinner again 😅

[@WarriorLionite]

Can I date Sadia ?

[@thulimalebane6911]

I think she's a relationship expert,I don't think she's a sex expert. What is normal love making? What moves or what positions does that entail? What is "normal" sex? Is there such a thing? Should there be such a thing? She sounds boring in that area

[@talltimbot]

Nice racing chair with the shoulder harness slots

[@A-Boogie-uw9hr]

Why do “men” feel the need to lecture her. It’s weird

[@yulianarose.ovalles]

❤

[@Aria-nl3xp]

Eve you talk about is failure wth!?

[@ablemedia8763]

Read the book, the manipulated man. Thank me later.

[@DMC_with_ME]

Promiscuous women do fall in love and settle down, too... Promiscuity doesn't mean long term risk of infidelity and relationship insecurity.

[@ryanbain618]

I disagree with this episode, no alpha man will fall in love with a female who has been around the block several times.......its like you falling in love with a stripper......

[@ML-lg4ky]

Blah blah blah

[@justdom1968]

what is good sex? Is sex the only criteria to vet a wife? Are single women single only because they are no promiscuous? Please listen careful what Sadia is saying before to slallow a bullshit.

[@MyMark12345678953]

He lost me when he said evolution pschologist

[@LalalandDream27368]

After watchingher statement about when a woman cheats, leave her but a man cheats are different, I stop watching this woman.

[@ReedProCreed]

.... she fine though

[@Jasiel.95]

Where is the whole episode? 🥲

[@KashiFu_72]

You all speak of love as if it's just a word to be tossed around like a ball.. Could that be the problem? 🤷

[@Talkitrhrough]

Which demographic is she talking about? Is this all Millenial and Gen Z? Successful men or miserably successful? Who is this for?

[@cristinamurray5608]

He thinks he’s a sex god like it’s his own personal psychologist session he needs to listen more than talk he’s not relevant

[@GiuseppeCivitella-go5ih]

I assume with all this expert advice that she has a successful marriage in Dubai and that money has no bearing on the object of her love 😂😂😂

[@jeffreycase9497]

4 layers of face paint is expensive

[@GiuseppeCivitella-go5ih]

@@jeffreycase9497 You hit it right on the nose !

[@saxycat]

first🐈‍⬛

[@ceciliamonteiro33]

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