HOW TRAUMA EFFECTS MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS

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🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: HOW TRAUMA EFFECTS MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS 00:00 🏛️ Open relationships can lead to putting desires over relationship needs, damaging commitment. 01:18 🚫 Forgiving cheating can lead to loss of self-respect and potential abuse, especially for men. 02:36 💔 Cheating can irreparably damage trust and lead to negative behaviors in a relationship. 04:44 🚼 Childhood trauma can impact adult relationships, influencing partner choices. 06:39 🏠 Absence of mother figure during childhood can lead to hyper-independence in relationships. 08:59 📱 Social media actions, like liking provocative photos, can damage relationships. 12:06 💑 Rejecting emotional connection bids predicts relationship issues and divorce. 14:11 🛋️ Couples counseling is valuable to maintain stable relationships, especially before having children. 15:41 📸 Being mindful of social media interactions with opposite-sex individuals is crucial. 19:05 💏 Quality time and attention can alleviate insecurity and maintain connection in relationships. 20:16 💪 Discipline is admirable; a disciplined man with principles and boundaries is respected. 21:13 💔 Jealousy can strain a relationship, and managing it takes patience; excessive jealousy is draining. 23:46 🎉 Utilize your 20s for personal growth, career development, and self-improvement, rather than just partying. 24:28 🌟 Fulfill your potential in your 20s to avoid regrets and maintain good mental health as you age. 27:07 💼 Life experiences in your 20s can shape your future; seek advice from experienced mentors. 29:43 👪 Starting a family is a goal; while every age is good for having children, be prepared to provide and be present. 30:54 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Choosing a partner for parenthood is critical; be cautious and considerate to ensure a healthy family environment. 32:08 👩‍👧‍👦 Consider using your platform to provide a balanced voice between feminist and "red pill" ideologies. 33:46 📚 Debunking divisive ideologies can promote healthier relationships and homes. 36:03 😬 Concerns about the next generation include hyper-sensitivity, offense, and excessive sexualization; fostering a balanced view is vital.

[@sadiapsychology]

Thank you ❤❤❤❤

[@AzharSinga12]

@@sadiapsychologybe open minded person you feel great in your life

[@Olans_669william]

​@sadiapsychology what is the best way to do that kind of situation that kids don't get affected? Thanks

[@statusquo1473]

At 33min there was mentioned a book? Which one was that? Im blindly guessing its Rollo Tomassi book or am i wrong?

[@dalmediatube]

I also would like to know which book it is that they both refer to. Does anyone know the title of the book, the name of the author, or a have a link to it?..

[@trinhttruong]

I love that primarily she is an advocate for children.

[@VontriceIyonn]

Prevention.

[@afrofaeries]

@@VontriceIyonnYeah because in some cases the most high value women cannot have children due to a disease

[@jarglee4471]

Although Sadia said many very important things about psychology I've a strong feeling she's primarily an advocate for herself. It's just another mean of promotion.

[@petercorinth33]

This is the embodiment of a masculine and feminine having a very healthy conversation.

[@TM-mx3rv]

Who is him?

[@Alexamw]

​​@@TM-mx3rv Mike Thurston

[@alyssawork8337]

It is good but it also sounds like a 33 yo man speaking to someone about some of his issues for the first time.

[@elvan5922]

Yes

[@elvan5922]

And it is natural.I listened some talks using this that method and it soundscapes do fake.

[@lanabos]

I love how she starts interviewing the interviewer. She is good. ❤

[@RR-et6zp]

Trauma doesnt exist for men

[@luckyyyinlove]

​​@@RR-et6zpThat's an ignorant and dumb statement as it goes against the basis of psychology-we unconsciously operate in life our via childhood traumas/emotional-nourishment

[@RR-et6zp]

its not a real field @@luckyyyinlove and no, that's not true

[@RR-et6zp]

its not a real field @luckyyyinlove and no, that's not true@@luckyyyinlove

[@amberalchemy]

@@RR-et6zpfrom someone who has supported very powerful and successful men to heal from their childhood trauma, I can attest that this is absolutely not true!

[@mayragomez5713]

I love the fact that she open herself and shows her flaws! love her!

[@mycuongnguyen7226]

This woman is amazing! She is the embodiment of a what a woman should be. Even when she swears she's sweet. She is the role model that young girls and woman need in this day and age. I love how she doesnt pretend to be perfect and can easily admit her flaws. I absolutely love this woman. I have been watching everything with her in it the last few weeks and I just love her even more and more. Great podcast! We need more of her!

[@josepablolunasanchez1283]

Sadia understands mental processes. She is a process analyst, very much like a process engineer but she takes care of mental processes of people. Acknowledging flaws is basically acknowledging a process. Flaws need to be identified before being fixed. You cannot fix what you do not see.

[@karinajanuary]

Her pureness, honesty and how grounded she presents herself is just next level of intelligence. Love love loved this vid 🙌🏽💛

[@morearth4222]

Sadia, "You owe yourself peace not pleasure"....😮 totally different message than the main stream.

[@336snake]

She has so much self awareness of herself is very impressive, and I love how authentic she is and not afraid to admit her flaws of being a jealous person. So few women are afraid or don't know they're insecure about something. We are all insecure about something and is wonderful when we're aware of it like she is.

[@RaffertyMBTI]

It is so great, interesting and helpful that she admits to her insecurities in relationships. Some women will just casually say "their looks" as far as insecurities go, but the jealousy she talked about, with humility, in such detail is important for men to understand. I never would have known or presumed either way, judging from everything else about her. It's useful to see patterns in the way people profess to be in relationships.

[@kathrynjohnson8979]

I love how every one of these turns into a therapy session for the interviewer 😊

[@maggib3971]

Very Refreshing to listen to younger adults who see the pitfalls of society and the need for discipline and in turn creating a strong foundation for children (our future) & families❤

[@surferscollective613]

It is. We do our best in the home but society, school,media,friends,government propaganda all weigh in.

[@MoniqueLCoates]

Why aren’t we talking about this more??? Thank you for this video, very much needed.

[@bernardoalvesexplains]

Sadia, your interviews should be played on national television with subtitles in all countries. Primetime. You have a way of reading people and finding the true reason and explaining things, I haven't seen anyone do it. I bet many people comment if i only knew that before...

[@chriestinenpape]

My husband is hyper-indepent. All of his female role models growing up, in his mind, had problems.... I recently mentally checked out of our marriage when he told me that my happiness is my responsibility and to find a hobby after I confided in him that I miss him from being gone a lot and I am lonely. The worst feeling when you are feeling alone in a relationship or marriage.

[@njah1590]

It's so hard this has been a message until now. We are now valuing attachment again

[@DoloresSimpson]

It's your husband's responsibility to "calm" your emotions especially when you had just told him that you felt *isolated* when he was gone so much. It's *his* job to *comfort* his wife when she needs emotional support, otherwise if this were to happen too often, ... she might be tempted to find *emotional support* from a man other than her husband. You should *NEVER* feel emotionally *ALONE* when you have a husband !!!

[@chloelol7611]

girl you wayyyy too pretty for that

[@angryktulhu]

lmao he's right tho, your happiness is totally YOUR responsibility

[@angryktulhu]

@@DoloresSimpson oh that's BS lol, NOBODY is an emotional validation machine, or are you telling me mothers should ALWAYS fullfill their child needs? Even if she works? Or ill? Or whatever? Don't fucking shift responsibility, it's YOUR responsibility to give yourself emotional support at first place - YES because we are damn adults and your partner is NOT your fucking parent - and ONLY if your partner feels like he/she can give you smth, take it with appreciation. Never ever give your advice to anyone please

[@darylmcginnis6033]

I listen to you a lot. You are trying to help the society because you see we are in trouble. Keep trying even though people like negativity and drama, keep trying.

[@sadiapsychology]

Thank you so much x

[@pod4771]

Brains + Beauty = Sadia Khan. Much respects 👊

[@janosik150]

What about brains and not a beauty ?

[@lilianaandjesus]

She’s gorgeous

[@jonesoac3065]

+ Super Crazy

[@incognito.502]

​@@janosik150why not a beauty? She doesnt look like a pig, a donkey or a frog. She IS beautiful.

[@janosik150]

@@incognito.502 what if she was not beautiful????? Then what????

[@champboehm7863]

You really help me. My dad is homeless now and was kinda out of his mind when i was growing up. Never really saw my dad be kind to my mother or vice versa. I was never abused directly but it was just constant insanity every night and morning. I just don't know how to love or be loved. Thanks to you and mike and chris who helped me find you

[@Tmo2024]

Pathetic

[@lylez00]

Why don't you take him in? I'd rather die than for my dad to spend a single night on the street.

[@lylez00]

@@champboehm7863 Understood. All the best.

[@oldscratch3535]

@@lylez00 I couldn't invite that insanity into my life. Its one thing if he just lost his job and needs to get back on his feet. Its another thing if they're mentally ill and/or drug addicted chaos magnets.

[@jessicamerced9116]

Sadia, you are a mom to women like me who feel very broken and are learning how to rebuild self worth❤ Your content is always inspiring and educational.

[@shyetloka17]

I knew I had trauma but I didn’t realize I need to go to therapy until I had my son for 4yrs already and realized my son was getting an unhealed version of myself. Having him brought up so many more emotions I thought I had let go of.

[@amarendrabhowmick8896]

I don' t know how I will describe this mystic lady.she is so clear cut in her perception in her portrayal of human relationship & explaining the delicacy & intricacy of human relationship in effortless way.

[@rcz2023]

I love your honesty, when you said that you struggle with jealousy I was shocked, you are an intelligent beautiful woman, thank you for being honest and vulnerable with your weaknesses.

[@Hælos.Ezequiel]

Thought this would be one of them red pill podcast where men just slander women. I've never been more relieved to be wrong. It's unfortunate, but these kind of unbiased interaction where men & women agree & are so rare to see nowadays

[@afrofaeries]

I agree!

[@afrofaeries]

Men and women need to support one another, I don’t care if red pillers and feminists disagree

[@Hælos.Ezequiel]

@@afrofaeries right! Personally, I'm just so used to seeing the negative of red pill & the negative of feminist content. We need more real content like this bc all of this "it's men's fault/it's women's fault" content has gotten out of hand

[@Candy_Mountain]

I’m only jealous or insecure when they give me a reason to. And I give way too many chances.

[@VitaKoreneva]

Childhood trauma-> Choices in Adulthood unless You choose to heal your trauma! So valuable!

[@kibibishaw1194]

So glad you came here! Two videos in, and you’ve re-riddled my biggest relationship issues. Sheesh, you’re a Godsend, Sis! 💖🙏🏽✨

[@esmiemolina7579]

I looooove how she admits her flaws and she’s just like us and how we women can be very jealous and crazy ❤😂 love her she speaks the truth.

[@josephgatambia5679]

I never get tired of listening to Sadia,she has made me understand women on a deeper level

[@Active10711]

Sadia is truly amazing in having a meaningful conversation ❤

[@jenniferrackow3976]

Thank you so much for revealing your insecurities and jealousy, Sadia! That made me feeling so much more relaxed about mine! ❤❤❤

[@d1xx893]

If women are more like Sadia, society would have been much better and healtly place! Thank you

[@ApplePieRemix]

Thank you also to Mike for being real and open to share some of his vulnerabilities and genuine doubts on life and relationships. In general this interview was so educational on how we could all be and care torwards one another. Faith in humanity restored

[@lanabos]

Sadia is definitely a role model ❤

[@RR-et6zp]

Trauma doesnt exist for men

[@BogalaSawundiris]

@@RR-et6zp it does, but by saying it doesn't exist some men are able to not be affected by it. Like fake it till you make it

[@RR-et6zp]

@@BogalaSawundiris men are built by adversity , women arent

[@angryktulhu]

@@RR-et6zp yeah they talked about men trauma and she immediately jumped into what such traumatized men should do to make their girls happy. Weird shit. Men do not exist to satisfy women. We are not fucking slaves

[@jeanjoelspatafora]

Wow. I’ve learned so many vital things here. I’ve never heard of Sadia before. I have to process what I’ve been exposed to here. Some of it is painfully enlightening. Thank you.

[@funygameur]

I've always been telling that : women and men need to work together not to fight. It's so refreshing to see someone on the internet talk that way !

[@aldorodriguez7310]

I love how authentic and humble she is❤ Gives me hope. 22:43

[@Xbox12469]

What a great conversation… she was like his elder sister giving great advices.

[@stellah2459]

I owe myself REAL love! I come from a very troubled childhood. I must chose wisely. I’m very quick to attract toxic men. I’m not giving up.

[@zbmlk]

Oh my! You are perfect❤️🪷🙏 Everything u say makes sense! I had deep depresion for 12 years( still have) but I've never seen a scycologist like you. Be blessed dear❤

[@mikeymaz9490]

Sadia, do it. Spread the message on a larger scale, God, you and the world will thank you

[@mezlandia]

I said “nothing” was wrong, in my 20s. I don’t do that now. But also, I don’t hear the question as often either. They know when something is wrong. It helps to love someone who can be as introspective as you. Communication is underrated. Stop being afraid!

[@Intruth-555]

This was a great interview. U 2 are awesome! The chemistry between you 2 was perfect. And i love how open an honest this sweet man was with her. And i definitely agree Saudie is a great role model for all women. Especially her energy is needed for younger women Loved this

[@Sam-jy5tj]

I’m not sure how old Sadia is but she seems wise beyond her years.. and also very open and honest.

[@nc_elle]

She says she's 33😊

[@Nah-ah]

My sister who’s been in a 20 yr relationship/marriage has found out her husband was having an affair for 2 yrs. And it’s been very difficult trying to work things out between them! She just withdrawn her love for her husband even tho he wanted to try make it work. They’re basically roommates! And my poor nephew has to live in this environment 💔

[@ZARA-to9fp]

It sounds like you are blaming your sister for withdrawing love for her husband while it was him who destroyed the family. She is just reacting to his actions. The only thing she did wrong was to stay. Now she is blamed for not trying harder.

[@RR-et6zp]

Trauma doesnt exist for men

[@growthefarmup2606]

Just yell her to get over it or break the family up. Then leave when the kid moves out... so many marriages like that today. Yea he fuked up. If you got a wife worth the name, respect her and she will respect you back

[@Sam-jy5tj]

They need to go to therapy.

[@AshAndCream]

@@Sam-jy5tj The first sane response to the original comment.

[@transitionsnc]

This is a great interview. Both Sadia and Mike are exemplary. I just wanted to say one thing about social media. I think women are so insecure these days because men are easily led. A seemingly innocent message (which may not be that innocent) on the part of another woman can easily lead to sexting, videos, and/or meeting up in person. Guys are easily led by sex and women know this. That's why they're hyper aware of social media. Not saying all guys do this but if a person has a large following, he's going to be in contact with a large amount of beautiful women. It's so easy for someone to be "cheating via social media" these days and their partner not even know what's going on. That's why when messages pop up, a woman wonders if something is going on because a lot of the times, there is.

[@helenalexander1402]

This guy presenting is so insecure. You have a girlfriend, grow up, stay off social media.

[@LMbe842]

Yes to mental health counseling and support being free and de-stigmatizing it. Also, thanks for the awareness around childhood trauma and how devastating it is on all fronts.

[@gabriellelynndalman192]

Sadia I am exactly the same with jealousy. I'm working on it and I know it is super draining sometimes to my husband. Really loved this conversation. Thank you for your expertise and insight.

[@jww6355]

Thank you Sadia Kahn! Love the information you put out for both men and women. You add hope and understanding for all us crazy-healing women!

[@2choosewisely2]

such a great effort in spreading healing for all positivity and healing

[@excellentcomment]

I'm frustrated with this video because it doesn't tell us who the man is. Now please forget I said it because.... the insight you provided is sooo helpful. I have a new sweetheart who suffered trauma in his family as a young teenager, and I've observed that he enjoys his time alone. Your insight makes it even easier for me to support him so we can both be happy and content. Thank you!

[@u.s.navyengineroommechanic9394]

I’m not deaf, but I appreciate the subtitles for the disabled individuals. Good job.

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

Great commentary . I agree , we are drawn to people & unresolved issues , it’s part of spiritual beings on a physical journeys

[@addiskidan1371]

This is a woman who you aspire to be really you are amazing. With all the ridiculous women out there degrading womanhood & relationships im glad a healthy ones still exist.

[@drt830]

thank you for vocalizing @3:38 as to what i feel and actions when I'm mad at allowing for allowing my boundaries to be crossed.

[@EmmaAhmed88]

May Allah put barakah in your work Sadia 🤲🏼👌🏼

[@akinun]

Sadia is the elder sister men always needed

[@MrDough89]

You learn something new every day. Definitely to start your own podcast

[@gracia130]

childhood traumas needs healing and very crucial for a healthy relationship and a better life.

[@marinafossey3129]

She’s fantastic ❤ I’m 50+ left 14 year medical working world and did the wife mother thing. She is spot on from my experience in marriage, relation-tips… please do a follow up

[@nicolasmoreno9442]

I have been in that same situation where the women who loved me was using that reasoning of "If he loved me he should know why I mad at him." Damn lady I'm precisely asking what is wrong and you are putting every obstacle imaginable when it comes to communication. But in a weird way she was right. I should knew better. I've now realized I will choose a better partner who doesn't play mind games and tries to establish a solid foundation. Wish me luck, maybe I'm asking for the impossible

[@chawo3456]

The jealousy aspect has hurt my marriage so much. I am now working on restoring what is left of it. I'm always suspecting things. It's such a bad feeling.

[@d2svpcfp]

Smart girl. A touch of class... 1. Open relationships 2. Forgiveness 3. Cheating 4. Dealing with trauma 5. Narcissistic mothers 6. Becoming hyper-independent 7. Creating emotional distance 8. Why women are annoyed 9. Men and women are different 10. Common issues in relationships 11. Should couples go to counseling 12. Problems in every relationship 13. Following girls 14. Being secretive 15. Being on social media 16. What is your ideal man 17. Are you currently in a relationship 18. Have you been wrong 19. Advice for 20’s 20. Do not settle in your 20’s 21. First time I fell in love 22. Mentorship 23. Money 24. Enjoying life 25. Having a baby 26. Choice 27. Female role models 28. Red poor things 29. Reviewing Myron’s book 30. Female guests on podcasts

[@bigweewee5944]

I feel that guy could visit some therapy. He is still amazing though. But you Sadia are on a different level of amazinness. I listen everything you say with passion

[@waladaislamicart]

Ma sha Allah Sadia, your work is amazing alhamdulillah. I love it. May Allah bless you.

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Love this woman. So wise. Such a force.

[@paulkalindi4401]

Watching Sadia is like attending a therapy session. I like how ends up doing some sort of psychoanalysis on her hosts. Therapeutic!

[@sadiqua7]

I just said that I think therapy should be a requirement the other day and definitely should be free! Love the social media part..men really don’t get the psychological damage they inflict openly lusting after other women.

[@kw7796]

Sadia, young women need to hear your message.

[@natalieboult3122]

Men more my dear!!! Check the title

[@ask4rockie]

OMG you all are a breath of fresh air.

[@Whatthe860]

Never stay with a man or a woman that cheats. Children will see and feel the pain caused and will grow to resent the family and the idea of marriage. Trust me staying doesn’t help the family.

[@elvan5922]

I agree.My dad always cheats and I can not love them anymore.

[@ceogoddess]

So true. Your life only begins when you have children. You realise what you have been missing out on. Nothing can compare to the love of a child.

[@Alex.Kalashnik]

I really want to be a father, but need to find and marry a good woman first.

[@grechelestrada4846]

⁠@@Alex.KalashnikI really want to be a mother and trust me living in the city you’re rare .. everyone seems to be selfish and afraid of the idea .. but then again might be a culture thing

[@elfinflower4881]

wow! It was so refreshing to hear that you get jealous in that way. I am like that too but I keep it quiet mostly but sometimes it gets the better of me, I'm with a partner who is very private and keeps everything to himself, he's a sigma, scorpio male and he get s so annoyed with me when I ask details of what he's been doing when he's out, I'm always so open and tell him every detail but he doesnt do that, he likes to be secretive even though i have asked him on multiple occasions if he could share more. It has fueled suspiciousness in me at times which he gets very angry about if he senses that, its been very challenging. But thanks for your honesty it has made me feel better even if I know I still need to work on it. Thanks

[@britneylucky7845]

Omg 😮 this is my issue wherever a man is getting closer to me. I want distance. I didn't have a father figure so I don't know how it is to be love by a man and how to behave around one that has interest in me. I wish I can afford a session with you Sadia cause I never understand this blog that make me find myself lonely. I ran off men from wanting me 😢 you hit it on the nail with this one. I'm a big fan of yours. Much love ❤️

[@mujahidabdulrazak2977]

Sadia is unlike none I love your ways

[@t.f.6297]

"You can't pick your childhood but your stuck with it for the rest of your life" 💯🙌🏾

[@anthonycraig274]

If a woman cheats and gets caught, if he does want to forgive her, the incident is still always at the forefront. The slightest association trigger set him off, then the man punish her. As he punishes her and he relives the infidelity, he then begins to despise her. I am sure eventually they will separate. Not leaving must be the fear of not having someone else.

[@elsa_nyc]

I have seen that happen from the women's perspective as well. Definitely not exclusive to men.

[@createone100]

It is certainly not impossible for a relationship to survive infidelity by either party! Why do people assume that couples cannot resolve and overcome infidelity? With maturity, patience, love, kindness, and a renewed commitment to responsible behaviour, both men and women can move forward after infidelity, without destroying the relationship.

[@prameshsahu1957]

@@createone100depends on how the infidelity occurs as well…was it just a moment at the party while drunk and unable to rationalise and just doing what feels joyful …or….was it a full fledged planned affair….so many things to consider…and not all cheated relationships are recoverable neither should be…cheating is the worst thing one can do to his beloved,not even death compares to that

[@RR-et6zp]

Trauma doesnt exist for men

[@anthonycraig274]

@@prameshsahu1957 it also depends if they come clean with remorse or if they lie and try and gaslight the partner until irrefutable evidence is presented.

[@Azrael-xl3jl]

First 10 min was scary, remarkable how similar our trauma made us.

[@2choosewisely2]

it teaches us that when there is trauma it can be healed, it can be overcome with healing, when you make an effort to heal the trauma

[@eviebernal2913]

He turned this into his own therapist session lol

[@inesesoncika]

Absolutely brilliant! More content form you please, Sadia!

[@LK-pb4no]

I swear the last few interviews I've seen with good looking guys like him, you can tell they are interested in Sadia when they are fishing but make it seem like it is part of their podcast but it's really for personal reasons. He's definitely into her and how can he not be. She is a great package except that envy side of her which really is or will be her own downfall. I love her interviews because she is truly refreshing to listen to and learn from.

[@Bwahzehdezooner]

AFFECTS is a verb. Effects is a noun.

[@catherineallen7398]

So happy i came across your social media, Sadia! Amazing

[@sunamiah2627]

That chap is not puzzling. His is a sigma male. Them sort of men are probably the most misunderstood people on the planet, also highly intelligent. Which dose not help when comes to relating with people.

[@hoodoooperator.5197]

High intelligence / Sigmas are puzzling to normies.

[@jonv570]

As a sigma male I can tell you sigma male phenomenon is total bs

[@gerritrikkers2631]

I saw a few of your video's and you are really generalizing everything!

[@dianalee1589]

yes a man was a cancer survivor as a young adult and now he is hyper independant who could not express love or take love

[@deborahkempton5884]

Fabulous. Love you sister ..thank you for spreading such truth for both woman and men ! Thank you for having her on the show!

[@Ccmimi127]

I love how she is all about children

[@stevenanderson101]

Sadia you are so gorgeous that its nearly impossible to focus on your great advice!!!!

[@macraeolinger]

This Lady is BRILLIANT!!!! WOW.

[@beloastropena7236]

As a man I enjoy listening to Sadia, as I relate with a lot of things she says.

[@meesh1002]

Lady is doing the lord’s work. She needs to educate all men in this. How in the world does this man not know this?!

[@jamesrussell1979]

Very interesting and very informative 👍 👌

[@cbkelli750]

I just happened to stumble across this video on my feedback. Wasn't sure what to expect - a bro podcast? Turns out, this was a really good interview. I was hooked the whole time.

[@naomiHernandez-z6q]

Thank you for being honest Saida you can tell that he’s not being honest

[@MonicaPerez-uc8dh]

❤ I love this girl. I have all those same issues. I don't feel so bad anymore ❤

[@lecastlevania]

Thank you for speaking reason into this mad world.

[@MrRickySoh]

The meaning of life is to make life Sadia… don’t let inner fear hold you back from having children for too long. It’s a story.

[@iam_trinikimmy]

For me, if the guy does something and I am upset & I do not say what it is right away, it means that I am trying to calm down before I say something. I do not want to cause an argument and yell, so I want to calm down before having a discussion. Also if I have told you several times about the thing I do not like and you do the thing again, then I am most likely not going to tell you again because I have said it over and over again before. I do not expect that the guy will be a mind reader, not all women think that men are mind readers.

[@elsa_nyc]

Grateful we have this information put there on you tube.