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[@ItalianGoddess]

Who else wishes they found Professor Sam's channel a looooooooonnnnnngggggg time ago?😁

[@seanbergin7567]

Hell yes to that.

[@nicknorizadeh4336]

It would've been life changing

[@shoniec5875]

Me

[@ChildofGod2890]

Same here.

[@asanabahrami2735]

Like before I was born kinda wish 😅

[@Dinglezz]

Always loved that quote by Huxley... as well as the quote by Krishnamurti; "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society".

[@annsmith4897]

OMG....I am NORMAL....😮😊 Life is SOOO HARD when you normal.

[@13elad49]

Everybody seems normal until you get to know them... Mark Twain.

[@resarm5007]

Self love, boundaries and self regulation mean that you're NOT mentally ill, even if you suffer from bouts of depression or other symptoms. This is so encouraging! I suffer with PTSD and bouts of depression. I've often questioned if I'm "ok" because people treat me certain ways. That's on them. I choose to love myself, avoid the toxic people, and have developed strong boundaries. I know my own self, accept myself, my flaws and strengths, and when possible, work to improve myself. I am learning more and more to trust myself that I can make good decisions and not self sabotage, and to trust my instincts and my own thoughts and feelings. They're valid. Despite what others think. I don't need the validation of others. I do struggle with self regulation, I do get triggered. But I'm working on that. Thank you, Sam.

[@leticiaperaza524]

That is the way!! congratulations Rese, I am in the same path, healing my self, improving my self ...thank you Professor Vaknin for helping us with your teachings and wisdom.

[@resarm5007]

@@leticiaperaza524 yes! 🙌🙏

[@ishootbishez6974]

Yeah idk how people can even think he meant PTSD / anxiety / depression no offense. That stuff is G-rated compared to the “behaviors” of personality disorders… the symptoms of personality disorders aggressively destroys lives. Not other stuff. Depression and other stuff is painful for loved ones around, but in a totally different way.

[@resarm5007]

@@ishootbishez6974 because if you LISTENED he brought it up! I quoted HIS WORDS. Thank you...have a good life!

[@gemcove5783]

@Resa RM: I am feeling exactly the same. After 23 yrs married to my Narc both my son & I have endured much abuse. Now that he is no longer evading our divorce because I had him served at Family Court this morning I looked for Professor Vankin’s videos & landed on this one. Oddly enough, my soon to b ex’s Birthday is shared with Hitler. He used to brag about it! We have a lot of healing to do. Thank u for your comment. I am going to share only the words with my Woman’s group tomorrow night. Thanks again.

[@HarryJoiner]

10:36 - Self-love, Boundaries, Self-regulation … If you have these three things, then you are okay, even if these are episodic reactions to life. 11:16 - Boundaries (aka rules of conduct with sanctions. They define where you end, and the world begins.) 12:55 - Self-regulation 13:43 - Internal vs External regulation: How do you know? 15:50 - Realistic self-love, the cornerstone of mental health 16:40 - Self-awareness (SWOT). The opposite of magical thinking. 17:36 - Self-acceptance, the acceptance of one’s self in light of one’s SWOTs. Change if you can. Accept what you can’t. 18:50 - Self-Trust. You have agency. Trust yourself to get by in a rough world. 19:42 - Self-efficacy, the ability to set goals that are “better than your best, but believable.” 20:44 - Be your own parent, whose job is to give their child “roots and wings” before it’s too late. Experience is secondary at best. 21:38 - Personality disorders are post-traumatic and lifelong. They are disfunctions of our whole identity. 23:55 - Huxley and relativism 24:45 - “If you’re happy and you know it …” 26:36 - “… is really flimsy.” Mental health phenominogy is real 30:34 - Mentally unhealthy people hurt others, like second hand smoke hurts others.

[@stickwitch13]

Thank you !

[@DonnaGoode-e2z]

Ok, well, what happens if they gaslight you and bait you until you absolutely lose it and then become unhinged as a reaction? That happened to me and now he is running a smear campaign and is saying I’m crazy. He’s crazier than me but he doesn’t see it because he’s never wrong in his eyes

[@EverahSnow]

Vaknin's sense of humor is my favorite. Makes me giggle so much.

[@healthychick9450]

This is spot on. As someone dx with BPD and after YEARS (over 30) of therapy, I know when I'm in the spiral of dysregulation. Everything in my life becomes chaotic, from excessive weed smoking, mindless social media consuming to fuel the spiral and rumination every waking moment. When I realize the pattern, I pull out the tool box of coping and soothing skills. I have learned what are my "triggers" and do my best to avoid them. I also set up boundaries. This made everyone in my life mad and of course, they tried to use my dx of BPD as a weapon. I need help, therapy, I will never be right in the head, etc...all because I wouldn't allow them to abuse me. . . People tell me I have a great insight on myself and life. It's because I was forced to do that through years of therapy trying to fix me, when it was my family that had the problem. Of course traditional talk therapy doesn't get into the depths of family abuse and when they do, its never from a point of trying to understand the victim of all the abuse. I now have no friends and no family, only one best friend. Im ok with this. I have a very fulfilled life. I travel, I do what i love for work, I help others that want to be helped and generally have peace. As the world becomes more unhinged, I spend more time alone, in nature, away from the psychos. . . Its mind blowing to see so many mentally ill people walking around completely unchecked. In NYC, not only do you have to worry about the homeless, but the general pop too. The amount of people that do things to antagonize others to get a reaction so it can become violent, or are generally apathetic and homicidal will blow your mind. You can't even have a conversation with most people, even in a professional setting without it turning into a federal case. They have been told by society and whatever political power that behaving this way is good and anyone with boundaries is bad. Everything is all about them, always and they never make a mistake and you are an idiot for saying so. I've had nurses yell at me and ready to square up because I told them that It was unacceptable the way they were treating me. One nurse became so belligerent when I told him I was recording the whole interaction. Yes, i document for my safety, because the same psychos will also play the victim in a heartbeat. Never the aggressors, never the problem, its always someone else. . . The world is sick but what is the answer? ~Eat, drink and be merry. For tomorrow we die ~

[@Stan-mh7bf]

30 years of therapy is simply money extortion, look for good DBT therapist.

[@woobielocks]

The answer on an earthly level is to restore what Reagan destroyed

[@woobielocks]

@@Stan-mh7bf ABSOLUTELY!!

[@AA10785]

I love you professor may you forever enlighten us with your wisdom I am glad your channel is safe .

[@samvaknin]

It is very far from safe. There are still 35 copyright strikes pending against both my channels.

[@ellieschmitz7837]

Keep on the good work professor 🐞

[@dulavati]

You're my God Father 🙏🏽 ​@@samvaknin

[@katbak8742]

" Self love is knowing yourself & loving what you know " Very clear, realistic & achievable, thank you sir! 😊

[@paullemiremusic3101]

I lost my mother to cancer when I was 13. I feel this traumatic life event affected my core personality to the extent that I have been in and out of depression ever since. One of the reasons I’ve remained single is because I know I’d not be good for a partner. I get overwhelmed easily. Sucks but why would I do that to someone… that is, bring them down throughout life? I’m fine just living with my awesome cat. We keep each company and I can focus on other things that interest me in life. Luckily I have friends, too.

[@ghenderson6717]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[@flyingsaucer2056]

I have gone through the same thing, except it was my father who died and I was 14. I don't like the idea of being alone my entire life, but relationships have so far been nothing but stress. Thankfully I do have my cat as well.

[@debbiesday8270]

Excellent explanation of self love. I constantly hear , "You must have self love." but nobody has been able to adequately explain what that is as you just did. Thank you.

[@leichin5778]

All my life I've been pushed to loosen up my boundaries and 'stop being so complicated'. Now I got PTSD🤦‍♀️ I realized that I should've never loosened up those boundaries in the first place, but I was too scared of being an outcast. Now I embrace the role of the outcast.

[@zimkazenstv6379]

Same herr the moment i loosened my boundaries i got PTSD

[@singingmama1980]

Good morning! I think you are a brave man. I wish my dad could have been as honest as you.

[@diamonddog8230]

Happy birthday Prof. Thank you for the substanciated content you provide through this channel. Good stuff.

[@facegoddess7235]

You’re a Taurus ♉️💜 I knew it was a reason why I loved you lol Happy Birthday Professor!

[@EtherealEncountersUnveiled]

My husband recently passed away. My grief counselor asked me if I trust myself to run my life without him. That was an eye-opener. Thank you for this video. It was very helpful, especially during this time.

[@countryman5329]

I'm really very sorry to hear of your loss, my sincerest condolences. It's very very tough indeed. I lost my father last year under fairly harrowing circumstances: harrowing for me that is, I think he was fairly o.k with it & I was by his side when he passed. I have suffered three prolonged episodes of severe depression over the years and fear it. I worried that if anything would trigger another & possibly last life threatening bout it would be this. Surprisingly though I have found hidden layers of strength that I never knew I had. Possibly because I've got very little in the way of external support networks, going down into the dark place just wasn't an option. I have been in a sort of numbed unreality and low mood for over a year though which is perhaps fairly "normal". I am just slowly starting to see the beauty in life again; the blossom on the cherry trees; the magnificent Oaks begining to leaf; the joyful faces of children as they come running out of school. Now, as well, looking back I'm amazed to find another thing, something very unexpected. I miss my Dad very much and every day but I am realising that amazingly i've grown as a person through this long grieving process. Once again though, I am so sorry for your loss, life will never be the same; it will be different, but it will go on.

[@EtherealEncountersUnveiled]

@@countryman5329 thank you so much for your kind words. I am so very sorry for your loss as well. You are so right about finding hidden layers of strength within. It is so inspiring to hear you are beginning to enjoy life again and see the beauty. That gives me hope. Yes, life will never be the same but at times, we have little choice but to move forward and honor their memory the best way we can. thank you so much again and God bless.

[@countryman5329]

@@EtherealEncountersUnveiled Thank you, really lovely of you to reply. It's been a pretty awful few years for everyone hasn't it with the Co-vid, lock-downs, now this horrible war. The way you spell honor can I infer that you are one of our fine American cousins?

[@EtherealEncountersUnveiled]

@@countryman5329 lol yes from the USA. Funny how little differences show more than we think. Yes. Covid made things so much worse in more ways than you know. You from the UK?

[@countryman5329]

@@EtherealEncountersUnveiled Yes, it's just the occasional spelling or style that tells. It would be interesting to get an American's view of the pandemic. I don't know the States at all, would love to visit but wouldn't know where to start. I'm a country gardener from the shires so cities aren't for me. I like the idea of New England in autumn as the trees are turning or maybe the Rockies in late spring when the blossom is out in the valleys. Have you got some favourite spots?

[@John-J-Rambo]

Yes! I am 'Normal'! 😀 Though still recovering from the ab-normalcy of a dysfunctional, flying-monkey-rich environment that to this day still pursues me and tries to paint me into a corner so as to keep me locked into a 'role' of abnormal-cy. I no longer consider myself a victim of these people, which is key to breaking the perpetuation cycle and thus the role they desperately try to keep bestowing upon me. When the anger at people's judgement/provocation attempts is replaced by indifference and a will to get on with one's life, all physical, mental and emotional side-effects melt away like snow before the sun's rays. I realize what was done to me and I take responsibility for my own reactions to it 😁

[@beatrix2942]

i totally agree with you, thank you for saying what you said last, "do no harm" is the best life guard, life guide. If we can not take care of ourselves, parent ourselves, than why on earth should we have children, and society should not make us feel guilty or abnormal about not wanting to have children, but encourage us for acting responsably.

[@Muuhinatotto]

I was raised to feel shame about my own health issues and that’s maybe why I dysregulate a lot to the point I find it hard to function in society bc I feel like I have to constantly hide my feelings and not express what I’m struggling . I can’t get any break esp bc people expect me to be normal, when in reality I have an invisible disorder . When I wasn’t the normally reliable person/“adult” that they expected, they get disappointed and frustrated and sometimes even snap at me and that’s why I don’t want to socialize with people bc they’re scary. But , I feel like I could still make things better and be honest with what I’m struggling that way they won’t hold any huge expectations.

[@jaimed.e.6384]

10:40 1. Self love 2. Self regulation 3. Boundaries

[@DiscipleOfHeavyMeta1]

Is that even possible in this hellscape of a world?

[@peymanghorbani6390]

Wooooooow just wooooooooow That’s why the only solution is no contact.

[@msshawniepooh1]

Oh, what a fiery wise one, Professor Sam. Happy birthday

[@neeksweeks]

Have a happy birthday tomorrow Sam. Your messages are greatly appreciated... 😊

[@zenjensyoga2662]

I agree and you shouldn’t be vilified for your honesty. It’s not victim blaming it’s personal responsibility for whoever and wherever one is in life, focusing less on problems and more on one’s own growth is key

[@maatlove597]

“Say hello to Minnie,” hilarious. Thanks again Sam. Another great video with clear, helpful advice 💕

[@stateof3740]

I appreciate your perspective. I find many other KZbinrs that do videos about narcissist. They seem to come from a strong place of victim hood. Getting attention online from others wanting to blame someone else in their lives. Yes narcissist cause harm, not denying that. It's strange to see their victims becoming egotistical in expressions of outrage. At some point you must let go and move on to be happy and healthy.

[@artsyalkalearnandgrowbeaut3731]

Thank you for giving me insight😊 I am feeling happy. I am on the right path. I am shaping and emerging into a healthy person after narcissistic abuse. I have become my best friend in the process. You’re my favourite prof.

[@BlueSky-ff4oy]

Beautiful encouragement to be one's own best friend. Thank you. Great video. 🙏

[@snacklepussPSN]

LIFE TIP: The only JOB that the human body has to do is to carry the brain through life. Simple but effective🤛🤝

[@RenatoLucianodeVasconcelos]

Amazing explanation professor Vaknin! This topic was on the spot, clear, reliable, precise like always! Thanks

[@qitae]

I think ADHD feels like it could be a mental illness based on what you are saying as well about self regulation and functioning. I like the psychologist Russell Barkley who doesn't sugar coat it and likens it to a frontal lobe injury rather than making people feel special.

[@ADHDad]

Russell also says that ADHD is the Diabetes of psychiatry - hugely damaging and easily treatable. It itself isn't a conduct, personality, mood or behaviour disorder. However many people with ADHD do develop those.

[@StartingPlanet]

@@ADHDad ADHD means your brain has a different shape and has difficulty in providing normal blood flow in the frontal lobe, it's like people who need eyeglasses because their eyeballs have a funny shape

[@ADHDad]

@@StartingPlanet That is incorrect, that level of restriction is not always found in people with ADHD. It is possible, but the issues are in the neurotransmitters below those. It would be more accurate to say that the frontal lobes request less blood because the neurotransmissions they'd be using to call for the blood work less well.

[@lindawest3388]

Fair point I get that mentally ill people shouldn't go around hurting people but we're not biologically wired to self isolate are we. We're social beings, who need connection and love like anyone else. Being mentally ill doesn't change that fact. Despite having BPD I still consider myself empathic, self reflective and considerate of others.

[@allisondoe3170]

I knew you were a Taurus! 😀♉️ Happy Birthday on 4/21!

[@hamishlawson5627]

Asking someone with NPD to stay away from people? But Professor Vaknin, isn’t that like asking bees to stop making honey?

[@diamondedevil]

sam has been instrumental in my understanding my own cptsd n ocd traits n healing those parts of me, i am so grateful that i have access to this information n listening to him on a daily basis does more for me than 100$ 1hr sessions w my 60yr old therapist ever did

[@yinyangtarot1111]

Happy birthday, _Profr. Vaknin. I wish you the best year of your life, ahead of you._

[@sviezo3420]

Admirable lecture. Valuable education for clinicians to use and apply. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and disseminating it on this wide reaching platform. I have learned enormously from watching your channel.

[@Jesse-bv1kp]

Glad you did this follow up video

[@anneofhearts]

I CAN'T THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR YOUR WORK xox

[@Streetkitt3n]

Thank you for your videos Sam! YOU seem “normal” 🙌

[@ОксанаБекмухамедова]

Happy upcoming birthday, professor! God bless you!

[@NastazyaPhylipovnaTchornaya]

As always, thank you Professor. Surprised to find myself only slightly (03/10) deficient in the self-love category, for obvious and transient reasons. Normality is nothing I can aspire to, since I am an introvert, taller than "average" therefore, "not normal." My character tends towards melancholy and seriousness, different from clinical depression, unusual in today's world. Perfectly fine by me, nothing to be proud nor ashamed of.

[@dkraai]

''normal'' : from Latin normalis, from norma ‘carpenter's square’ . Makes me wonder how many versions of this tool go around nowadays... Another good speech Prof, thank you!

[@osceolaindiana6548]

good morning Prof. , once again awesome content , really helps to figure ones self and why we tick he way we do

[@perseverancechameleon5581]

We share the same birthday! What are the odds. I find your work informative and very helpful in understanding what I endured at the hands of my parents. Thank you and happy birthday for tomorrow.

[@leticiaperaza524]

Happy birthday Professor Vaknin!! from Mexico...you are awesome, I love the content of your videos

[@andreadonegan4780]

I would say you ruffled a few feathers for sure with yesterday’s video 🥴

[@acolourist1798]

Happy Birthday Sam 🎂 for tomorrow. Thank You for your insights. 💖

[@gnomiefirst9201]

Our culture is defined by our idols and materialism. It exalts human and civil rights and yet a major portion of its economic foundation is built on the war industry. How can an individual not be in cognitive dissonance under such circumstances? I think being contrary may be a human phenomena; hence, it is impossible not to be contrary. Thank you.

[@leticiaperaza524]

Hello Minnie!! in agreement with you, Professor Vaknin, above all, professional ethics first.

[@georgianadan2474]

Happy birthday, Professor Vaknin! Thank you for your work!

[@steve1714]

Looking great for 61!

[@LibertyCairde]

My question on yesterday’s video is wouldn’t isolation exacerbate the symptoms of the mentally ill? Also why are friendships wrong to have for the mentally ill if they don’t hurt friends? I’m grateful for this clarification. I agree about romantic relationships and having children, but having no friends because of PTSD was a little extreme for me personally.

[@LibertyCairde]

I heard that part. A key feature of PTSD is a dysregulated nervous system, so it doesn’t fit the criteria of self-regulation unless my definition of self-regulation is perfectionistic. Healing trauma does feel insurmountable for sure!! I’m not sure I’ll ever really “heal” from it.

[@binathere2574]

@@LibertyCairde you will certainly be a wiser person.

[@liuba8477]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🌹 The best wishes from Italy! Thank You!

[@sambhavi16]

Thank you sir...what a commendable video

[@codywonkenobi9170]

Happy Birthday Sam Vaknin! and thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@missygordon]

Happy birthday! Wow. Sobering notions presented.

[@prachibhattarai3833]

Happy birthday Dr Vaknin ❤️

[@gorunsko31]

In defense of people with bipolar brain disorder: they take medicine, they hold full time jobs, made gourmet dinners, they are loyal to the partner and friends. I know because I am talking about my adult son. His father takes no pill for his covert narcissism. With age his passive aggressive behavior more and more disturbing. Just saying…

[@senadahasani3975]

Hahaha who is normal? I love you

[@joannjulian3417]

Much gratitude. For the teaching you provide, and best wishes for your birthay.

[@vital.elements]

"...in defiance of Occam's razor..." Now we need the short bus for the kids without special needs.

[@tristanjustice269]

How malleable are these mental health metrics in the transition from teenager to adult? In other words, it normal to have immensely poor boundaries & self regulation as a teenager, but then develop strong boundaries & self-regulation is an adult?

[@samvaknin]

Not really. Most personality disorders are already present in adolescence.

[@binathere2574]

@@queenmosessoul I'm no professor but I doubt it

[@MissBizy-lk1bn]

Ha! Ha! Ha! I love your humor! Happy Birthday!

[@Helen-cc8wl]

Very helpful. Thank you.

[@carolemiller4464]

100%%% to all. Thank you so much

[@linanndlima7599]

Absolutely beautiful 👍👍👍

[@scottnetuschil2432]

Normal? Is it not a cycle in a washing machine?

[@WhiteWolfeHU]

Prof, the question is if these mental issues are damage to these people and life long, how did society get to such a bad place??? It seems like if parents are not extremely careful, their children can become damaged for life..? So perhaps your suggestion is prevent any trauma from happening to children that would cause mental disorder?? Seems like that will not likely be possible.

[@Aries2372]

AMEN!!!

[@00Tamtam]

Happy birthday!!!

[@Aditya-cs2jn]

Amazing insights yet again Prof!

[@kellierubenacker9307]

Happy Belated Birthday! 🎉🎂. It was my birthday as well.

[@lykitagawa]

Happy Birthday 🎂

[@pennylee2803]

Happy birthday! Enjoy your special day

[@gretaciuriene1991]

My birthday on 21st April too 🥳 happy birthday professor 👍

[@ishlabrooks3597]

Thank you Sam for the explanation!

[@annalaurayuriyokomichi1572]

Very interesting the video! I would like to know how emotional regulaton may come through external objects, when self-regulation isn't work well.

[@resarm5007]

In a very unhealthy way...thru people you are codependent on to make you feel a certain way, thru destructive habits like smoking., Alcoholism, drug habits, shopping too much, anything addictive. Even dangerous things that trigger feelings of highs like adrenaline rushes that adrenaline addicts get attached to. Relying on things outside yourself to help fill the void, help you feel happy, etc. What he is saying is that you should be able to self regulate. Not feel extremes of emotions, feel easily triggered, dependant on anything or anyone to make you happy. You should just BE happy. This is why self regulation is important.

[@annalaurayuriyokomichi1572]

​@@resarm5007 thanks! How know if someone are using external objects to emotional regulation or only reacting?

[@resarm5007]

@@annalaurayuriyokomichi1572 um... You can WATCH THEM? OBSERVE? I mean cone on now! You see if they're doing these things. Don't ask dumb questions. You sound like a troll

[@brendaplunkett8659]

I didn’t think of addictions that way, as external coping and attempts at self regulation. That makes sense and why it wouldn’t work long term and they escalate.

[@brendaplunkett8659]

Thanks, well said!

[@bootstraptorcom4671]

thank you!!

[@X_Xis]

To be honest I don't know myself well enough to check this checklists, I can't trust my precipitation of myself and life cause I'm so manipulative to myself that now I'm not sure of anything, I'm probably just teenagering wrongly and overthinking being mentally ill.

[@Notarrusianbot]

Don’t worry that much. What he calls mentally ill can be easily translated in “stupid people “ . The majority of society are very stupid even with a degree. They don’t perceive themselves and when they’re tough in some way they keep doing the same actions over and over without boundaries. Doesn’t matter if you educate them as narcissists, religious fanatics, etc… That’s the problem. The elites that control society educate the stupid people to behave against their own interests and also against others interests. That provokes an internal destruction of society, demoralisation etc so the elites aren’t touched at all. They just have to put in power stupid people and they will do the rest. That’s why they control the creation of money and put in charge the stupid people ( politicians). We fight between us until total destruction. Believe in yourself and depending on your personal situation find a way to escalate in society avoiding at max contact with stupid people. They will destroy themselves and to you without a reason. My recommendation is to love outside the city having a personal transport and work in something that doesn’t require to interact too much with people . Understand that stupid people are spread in society no matter the social status. Today intelligent people tend to take precautions before initiating a relationship. That’s why is extremely important to trust in yourself and maintaining yourself active without using the social values of the mentally ill ( sheeple/normies).

[@emanuelabarani6570]

Happy belated birthday, Professor! 🥳

[@justinbanfi7022]

Could the prescribed isolation exacerbate problem behaviors of those who are mentally ill?

[@marinamarley2434]

Appreciate you sharing your insights

[@borsteldraaier]

Happy Birthday Sam !

[@francheskaflores2034]

Hi minnie🎀

[@victorshackapopulus6078]

People are so sensitive they get upset with themselves never mind anyone else.

[@angelbaybee3700]

This video and your previous video as well as a video about becoming entrained to a mentally ill partner are powerful. I have found myself living as a room mate of a person with bipolar disorder. She is on all the usual meds. She takes them and is functioning. I have become co-dependent. I help her sort out mundane details of her life. She provides me with a certain kind of high-flying fun. I noticed myself at times speeding up to match her rhythm. Before I met her people considered me productive happy and not one prone to laziness. Being in her presence does not make me manic at all but does give me an extra shot of energy. She is awful in the morning I am a morning person because we are living in the same house her bad morning moods or unpleasant to be around. The information in this video and the others had mentioned are excellent and give me a lot to think about. So far being roommates with her has been mostly okay. After watching your videos though I think I should probably be looking for a new place soon. If there's anybody who can comment on bipolar your thoughts suggestions comments would be welcome

[@TurlochOTierney]

I think it was a comment on depression rather than bipolar/manic depression, but depressed people are hardest on themselves (depressed people do not hire depressed people). I have bipolar, I try to steal other people's buzz as little as possible, and have several bipolar friends where I do not feel as much that I might be a burden. Your room mate will not blame you for moving out.

[@rebeccabowdentarot1584]

Happy birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉

[@amilabalic9417]

Naked truth again. Thank you 🙏🏼 I have learned from your videos so much and now it’s all making sense finally

[@Mima4Him2]

as always… thank you.

[@jpakos6701]

Thank you for everything

[@Diana_the_Goddess]

Oh,it seems like we "normal" are born the same day or at least near 😅 Your video may sound draconic but I agree with you. Living with BPD for 41 year (it's in the family ) I know how hard it is for maintain normal relationship...being in peace with myself and bring peace and stability for partner....So why should I torture anyone or myself? There's a lot of other things that I can do ( taking care of animals ), being a writer, a comic,a painter, musician and so on...We can lead quality life,that can be beneficial for us and others. Not for relationships and parenthood. Period.

[@healthychick9450]

Lol happy birthday Prof. Mine is next week.

[@MaciekRabizo]

Why would a normal person watch your videos professor xD They can't even believe that B cluster dynamics exist :D Thank you for another video and all the best!

[@MaciekRabizo]

@@JohnSmith-qs5fg You are a rare gem than John :D

[@binathere2574]

@@MaciekRabizo another rare gem here

[@MaciekRabizo]

@@binathere2574 Great having you on board :D If only more people would educate themselves in this subject, world would be a better place. All the best pal

[@dianemajor5141]

Happy Birthday 🎉🥳

[@sarahmoura890]

Happy birthday !!!❤❤❤ Felicidades ☺☺

[@natashacharlton5184]

Happy Birthday Professor!

[@melisahcollins7687]

What about in the context of workplaces Sam? Would the same principles apply? Should people struggling with long term mental illness refrain from work with others also?