Take Your Life Back, Own It

[@TheCosmicThread11]

“When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” Thank you.. best advice anyone has given me in a long time.

[@detoate123]

I entered the self help community at 25 yo dreaming of million$, tons of friends, perfect marriage and spiritual realisation. 13 years later I have a pretty good idea of what dark triad means, spending Christmas completely alone with an attitude of: appreciate a flower, be thankful for the sun, be resonably nice to your neighbours and let's call it a day :)

[@melissacole4903]

Absolutely 💯❤️

[@rabinraj15]

I feel you 🙏🏽

[@peaceangel-rl2hf]

And that is wonderful. Be proud of that! I totally get it

[@DRUMJUNKIE]

Wow, your words are touching me deep. Very beautiful!

[@NomoSapienss]

I love how you put it.

[@Sky1975lu]

Hello Sam. I have listened to many of your lectures translated into Russian. Your knowledge and experience are useful to me. Unfortunately, I don't know English well, so even if I raised money for a consultation, the language barrier would get in the way. You constantly say in your lectures that you are no longer young. I may be mistaken, but there is a light of beauty of a young man, and there is a light like yours. It is the light of the mind, of experience, of knowledge. Outwardly, you are also beautiful. And so it will be until the end. It's your genetics. Thank you for your lectures.

[@hanamustafa32]

This is the first video in my 28 years of life that I have actually written notes on. Your words must go down in history. Thank you so very much.

[@User2570-p7c]

The lottery win is not big houses, flash cars, exotic holidays and designer accessories. Once you have got these you will still crave more or better and will probably suffer a big dose of buyer's remorse on top also. It is the freedom to do as you choose, where you can get back to nature and connect with like minded people. From here real relationships will flourish..

[@User2570-p7c]

@@SM-gx3ho Thank you, lovely comment ♥🙏

[@memyselfi2005]

If more people knew this, we would live in a very different world. But I'm happy to know that you know this, as do I.

[@candycamus]

Nothing is more wrong than being right all the time, Nothing is more corrupt than conformity and nothing more noble than being oneself, so many gems in this talk. Thanks Sam!

[@davidimes]

Two years later, I still needed to hear this. Thank You So Very Much

[@memyselfi2005]

Absolutely beautiful video, isn't it?

[@Mandycapetown]

After a brutal discard by a narcissistic partner of 7 years I'm finding your videos very helpful. Thank you so much

[@-Mimi-1]

Same here after 5 years

[@Mandycapetown]

@@-Mimi-1 so sorry. Just know we are better off. Sending you love ❤️

[@cindy6576]

He literally saved me and gave me the awareness and tools to get my life back at 53 after a lifetime of narcissists and sociopaths. Keep listening. He’s the best of any of the you tube videos on narcissism. Evil is real in ordinary people and you will heal and feel liberated someday like I have for the last few years.

[@-Mimi-1]

@@Mandycapetown thanks. You too

[@MsPeppersmom]

Discarded after 13 years

[@carmenneves9250]

Your 'unsolicited advice' is today a life changing miracle for me. Like deep ancient wisdom reaching out to help me gain clarity in my.path from death/ victimhood to life/ self responsibility as the protagonist of my own life. Thank you from my soul to yours.❤

[@rubyrayn]

Thank you, Professor! Hearing your wisdom is like "coming home." I always sense just a little sorrow underneath your humor and insights. I wish you peace and happiness as well. Again, thank you for everything you share.

[@pryanikkable]

mr. Vaknin - you are the voice of the truth in this world. Your videos are the best thing I have ever seen on the Internet for my 31 years. Thank you so much.

[@PearlLV88]

He has helped me so much. We’d be lost without him. Narcissists truly were lost without him.

[@allyettiene1730]

So true 👍

[@erikscharer]

Today is my birthday and of all greetings and blue thumbs posted on social media this has been the the most sincere and uplifting of all. I wish You and everyone following this chanel all good for the coming year!

[@jozzz222]

Today is my birthday too! Happy birthday 🥳

[@suredid9970]

Happy Birthday!!

[@detoate123]

Happy birthday! 🎊🎉🎂🎈

[@Art-gb5ok]

Happy Birthday.

[@stayce751]

Wow. This video came exactly when I needed to see it.

[@janeydoe1403]

Fantastic upload. Thank you Professor Vaknin. Recently I decided to do just this (take back my life). It was such an epiphany when I looked around and saw that what I thought was "independent" of him, was actually me allowing him to rule and control in my life. Every decision I was making I was weighing against his potential impact on my life, happiness, safety. And that I was "stuck" because of him on whatever level. (Victim!) It's amazing what you can accomplishing when when you stop making excuses take responsibility for what you can change or do. I promptly got out of the rumble seat of his car and into the driver's seat of MY existential vehicle and we are rolling! By the end of 2022, I will be well into a road trip I should have taken 30 years ago. Destination Me!

[@mhashas1]

I wish I had a father or mother who gave this advice. Not having it resulted in a life not lived well. I have been searching for what seems like eternity and finally at 56 years on this planet, here it is. Thank you 🙏

[@bblue5227]

I am on a similar path, also 56, trying to get back my life. All the best to you, good luck!

[@deryacolak3910]

I thought the same ❤😂

[@pamelamacneil1331]

"Work on having a life worth remembering" Beautifully said and everything that "having a life worth remembering" implies, is worth doing. You have made this holiday worth remembering. Peace and Love to you.

[@estherraubald1736]

Thank you so much Sir.

[@suredid9970]

THIS VIDEO Is by far the best!!! I’ve written down your seven in my journal and I’m off to live my best life!! Thank You for all you do!!

[@Cosmogirl014]

Agree!! I SO needed this today.

[@syn2072]

How did it go so far?

[@DebraRead]

In 2024 wonderful words of wisdom by a benevolent, generous teacher, wise, loving, imperfect, understanding. Thank you, Prof. Vaknin.

[@susanjurasas6499]

I needed this Sam! I feel like I have no self identity anymore. I realize now that it’s because I gave him 100% of myself. He didn’t have “real”empathy, sincerity, love. He literally took all of that from me and now I have to get that back from him.

[@isabellkoller8339]

Dear Professor Sam, thank you, you made this video 11 months ago and it found me now. In Dezember 2021 I could not have imagined to have clashs with narcissists in series. If I had known I would have said "I quit life". In 2022: a tumor, the loss of my dog and my job, no contact with my mother...and I am still there, I can't believe I made it. I will take your advice for 2023 and I wish us all a really kind new year. Best wishes from Germany❤️

[@peterbuckley9731]

I hope you doing well dear

[@allyettiene1730]

I have just found it in June 2024. Thank you Professor Sam for all that you are contributing to help us recover and rebuild. May God's blessings be yours

[@lorenadeanda2503]

Your advice is like advice from the father I never had. Thank you

[@jameskirschvink4769]

Thank you Sam. You have no idea how much you have helped me recover with my CPTSD from my narcissistic father. I can't put into words the gratitude I feel towards your work and insights, they have provided me with so much light and clarity in understanding my dark and confusing childhood. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@jane_7193]

Sam, I appreciate your knowledge and it does reach me, definitely. I also enjoy your sense of humour. People take life too seriously. It' s a pretty short span of time, why not have fun? Especially after having and experiencing an extremely harsh struggle... Times for pain and suffering left behind! 😊 The knowledge you share in this video, reaches me just at the right point in my life. I have a life long history of doing the deeds of love and practical help for the members of my family of origin. I have opened my eyes, I am being used, abused and all my life, left without support. Love is not present, codependence and learnt roles are. They did need my help. Now, I am in the fork of roads, either I escape this becoming ill and dead, or move away, and call it quits. I am following my plans, releasing the bonds and preaparing a move of a home. ❤😊

[@spiritualhumantv4609]

Thank you, Sam.

[@Roniwalnut5461]

Thanks Sam.

[@jennysroad]

I love your sense of humor.

[@PearlLV88]

Mentor 💛

[@ShuaibuArome]

Thank you prof sam vaknin😊

[@natalie8439]

This is excellent life advice that I always needed from a mentor. Thank you.

[@runwiththewind3281]

Professor Vaknin, thank you.

[@samaralaliaabzu2837]

Absolutely LOVE this! I have listened to it many times. On the topic of establishing clear boundaries, I would add that we, ourselves, must also honor those boundaries. We cannot be the exception to our own rules.

[@adsupermusone8875]

Great insight! The world couldn't care less about you, deep

[@tamaragootman832]

this man has a lot of soul...

[@danielstokes2088]

I think relationships are about boundaries first and foremost. I know when I was married not having proper boundaries played a part in what led to the demise. There are other issues that are important in committed relationships, however my perception tells me that if you are able to institute established boundaries and follow them, which maybe the most crucial part of boundaries (i.e. maintaining them), you’ll be much more likely to overcome other problems and have a better relationship overall.

[@jillcline2361]

You are an oracle! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. It has helped me so much .

[@KlaraVedis]

I wrote the 7 rules and cried tears with a smile that came with the poem at the end. Truly amazing advices of experience & warmth of heart shared. Thank you ❤

[@sarilnn1603]

"Maintaining a separate ground," with autonomy, " with clear eyes*, independent of an outside source, is imperative. Dining comfortably, at your own table. Much thanks for your enabling raw & beautiful discourse Dr. Vaknin.

[@kundalinigirl6816]

Thank you Sam

[@CurrentlyLoading....]

Absolutely amazing.....I cried... So much truth here .... Wow. ... Powerful... I'm sharing. Every person with repeated victimhood needs to hear this....

[@aries_roman]

great advice.

[@carinaeichler7306]

Thank you Sam. This is exactly what I needed to hear right before the new year. You’re like the big brother I never had. God bless you 🙏🏼

[@nmv1968able]

Nothing that I could say right now can explain the gratitude I'm feeling after watching these words of wisdom, so I just want to say; thank you professor!!

[@varneycantodea237]

I needed to hear this now more than ever. Thank you so much Sam. I am eternally grateful for your presence in this world and your gifts of knowledge and wisdom. I wish you same beautiful future you wished us. Happy new year to you and yours Sam. Thank you so much.

[@elsiemarina2572]

This made me cry..I have just lost my mother and this resonates hard. Life is a dream and we are but a memory.

[@estherg.s.5650]

Thank you so much for this gorgeous message!! ♥️

[@SAB1208]

Wow!❤

[@floretika8262]

YOU are the real KING MR VAKNIN, my deepest respect to you!

[@user-wt9xm6xz6l]

Thank you for this Video Dr. Sam, it’s one of the best advice I’ve gotten in a while. Very impactful, thank you.

[@martinas8063]

Thank you for your diligent work Mr. Vaknin.

[@syedasameezahra6498]

Sam your insight, discplines the behaviour and it is a true motivation. As no one can stay motivated every time but the discipline make a real "Motivated Person".

[@hippotizer]

The truth in this video is astounding - THANK YOU ❤

[@sergiosanchez7912]

This is wonderful, Dr. Beautiful and meaningful words, all in all. Thanks for sharing.

[@marthadisarlo9011]

I have never heard such wise words before. Thank you, Professor Sam. You so kindly give words of patience and hope. A good soul.

[@dinaelmasry5534]

A magnificent timeless video that needs to be seen and carefully heard by every human being . Thank you so much Professor 🙏

[@PearlLV88]

Honestly. His kind, loving, and tender delivery just makes you feel so understood and accepted. I’m so grateful that I found him. He’s helped me out so much.

[@SandraWeaver-hh9rc]

My wish for you as well......please know you're helping me so much......

[@zentmyer37]

What a precious gift from this wise and loving person who freely reaches out helping others. I send affirmation and the best of well wishes adorned with blessings. I send thank you for the gifts of his caring that brings a spiritual comfort and guide in this adventure of life. Is true, the truth will set you free.

[@maggiehakkou328]

I’m going to write this in a journal to my son. When he’s 21 I hope he will be guided by your words of wisdom. Thank you

[@deirdrevrancken5042]

What a fantastic idea!

[@marianneturner8731]

One of you best Professor 👏

[@Kristina-tp2it]

Really good! I think that good thing is that you said all of those together! Cowered it all!

[@samaralaliaabzu2837]

Hope in one's self...such good medicine!

[@dddeen477]

How lovely, how uplifting, im down with every piece of advice you said.... my notebook is my proof . I Love you professor Sam 🥰 Thank you from my heart for every video you made for us. YOU CHANGED MY LIFE. I can now happily say after 5years of extreeeeemly hard intensive personal development work i can actually say i am living LIFE .... peacefully . Thank you God🌄

[@davorlovric4527]

Thanx man,love You

[@JillianReeves]

In tears.... just amazingly beautiful.... I can't thank you enough.

[@madyleneplaner4724]

A profound message. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Professor

[@SallySunshine-hs3fg]

Wonderful poem. So much meaning.

[@leonoraparker5689]

This is such healthy language, and though all your videos on narcissism speak to me, this one in particular gives me clarity and helps me see a practical way through my pain post break up with a narcissist. You are a guiding force. I thank you.

[@fatimakamal7062]

Thank you for all your wisdom , there is a light at the end of every tunnel .

[@heleneakerman8684]

How hopeful and comforting your words are. As someone who is searching and finding peace within myself, your thoughts and wisdom makes me excited about my life and future. Thank you

[@KarrenV]

Thank You, Sir! For evrey video that made me feel better and understood.

[@ahdwar]

That was very beautiful Sam, very inspiring and uplifting - yet realistic, your kind of realism which is very comforting. Thank you.

[@cdgarcia]

With this vid and others you’ve made I unexpectedly learned what a real relationship should be and understand the detriment of pseudo relationships does to one. I feel confident of how to develop a healthier relationship with my so

[@psyop.survivor1446]

This was a beatiful lecture Sam. Thank you.

[@jdu2613]

This is your best message ever! Thank you Prof

[@Lisa-bk2wm]

Thank you Professor Vaknin for this wonderful video.

[@jozzz222]

Thanks Professor, needed this 💕

[@cindy6576]

I love you Dr Vaknin. This is a gift as a New Years message. Thank you for all your videos which were the foundation of my healing and understanding of predators. May you be blessed exponentially for the way you bless others with your brilliance and insight.

[@catherineangel7]

I was pleasantly surprised at the poetry quoted and your honesty. 😊

[@vawnbernauer2359]

Thank You, Professor V! You re appreciated. You lifted the veil for me. Though, indescribably painful , I’m grateful. Your thoughts, lectures and candid musings have helped make some sense for me of what made no sense to me. & I lived it for over 25 years! You’re truly doing a commendable thing sharing your knowledge. Bravo! Happy New Year!

[@SuperGanapa]

Love yourself no compromise

[@janeydoe1403]

Happy New Year, Professor Vaknin! May your next 365 days around the sun be happy and as per Derek Walcott, spent in good company.

[@angelicasouza2086]

Prof. Thank so much! Your videos have been helping me so much and your words today are balsamic to my soul. You are saving one life here, mine. Thank you, thank you, thank you! This tide is turning and I’m going to get my power back and love myself and I will live a life worth remembering!! Thank you Prof.

[@GreyCat827]

Lovely and honest at the same time. Thank you.

[@vibehigh5280]

Happy Holidays Prof.Vaknin. thanks for all the knowledge you have shared with us through this platform.

[@warilaetamaraye8712]

I am all ears!!! This is all i really want to hear, learn, work towards!

[@Adam-ih9yy]

Thank you sir, i think all of us here observe and listening to you are very lucky and bless, may you live for another 60 years Prof.Sam Vaknin.

[@barry_g8443]

Excellent advice

[@rajpillay4920]

These are the 7 rules i'll be living by for a life that I want to create! Thank you Sam for your brutal honesty and getting so many out of darkness 🙏

[@strange_aeons5636]

The past week, every day, the videos you have released provide valuable insight into the exact questions I have been pondering lately. Today’s topic gave me clarity once more. Thank you Professor Vaknin for the work that you do.

[@kimberlygreenland3785]

This was the best thing I've heard all year. Thank you.

[@adriennsomerville7868]

Thank you, Sam! Perfect timing (as usual), I was just thinking about "my new life" in the new year! Best wishes to you, too.

[@JoJo-uf5om]

Definitely one of your best videos yet. I've listened to it twice already. Thank you for sharing!

[@marianneandersson7857]

Twice me too so fat...Tanks!

[@hasnasoliman6722]

This was the most genius, eye-opening, heart- and mindtouching video of Sam Vaknin I have heard and read ( the transkript) in the 2 years i follow him. An extremely valuable video. Thanks alot dear Prof!

[@Amber-yh5spiamchosen]

Wow! I have said the exact same thing the past 3 years I cannot believe how accurate you are everyone needs to see this and I mean everyone and I don't know how to get it out there for you I will put it on every social platform that I have thank you so much

[@DiegoDonati1975]

Thank you Dr Vaknin

[@robinbyrd4430]

Sam, you have helped me in so many ways through your honesty and sharing truth. Thank you for waking so many up, including myself! Big hugs to you professor🤗🌺💯👍🏽

[@snezanajuricevic1000]

Thank you dear Sam Vaknin, I hope for everything you say for me and for all human race ❤I am not naive, but I was, now, just hoping for better years, 2024. coming ...🎉🎉🎉❤ I promise to myself 7 points of your speech, I will see ... Happy New year 🎉 ✨ to you and I wish you all the best!

[@CherryBlossom-rp7fr]

I don’t tend to post many comments, but want to thank you Professor Vaknin for the gift of this (and all your other videos) together with sincere wishes for a happier, healthy and positive New Year ahead.

[@AZ-uh9gj]

One of the most condensed information I needed, as well as INSPIRATIONAL UPLIFT !! Thank you for this great piece you created to help many.

[@caz306]

7 step program for 2022 Thank you Sam and I hope you have a happy New year and all the best for 2022.🍰☕🍷🎈

[@ChrisOgunlowo]

Thank you