Should You Do Intercaste Marriage ? | English Subtitles

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[@simarkaur9486]

Content ke king ho sir aap shat shat pranaam

[@KIIXI]

Logical content!! , content toh bahut hai internet peh 🙏🏼🙏🏼😂

[@santoshgupta1561]

Very good content.....but do you think today's youngsters are open to such dialogue...I have serious doubt .What is the way out...

[@jyotisolanki7804]

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[@vanapalliramakrishna8487]

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[@Clarityinlife335]

​@@santoshgupta1561apna kaam banta

[@deepshikhasonkar8370]

My brother's marriage is intercaste ,my friend's marriage is interstate, my one another friend's marriage is interreligion all marriages are running successfully however my cousin's got married within caste is fighting court case for divorce, cultural and caste differences can be managed however personal difference cannot be managed , personal difference is main reason for unsuccessful marriage, so marry the person with whom u share compatibility and understanding do not give much importance to caste , religion and region.

[@manojitdebnath3177]

I fully agree with you. I have seen intercaste and inter-religious couples successfully living their married life for the last 30 years.

[@pnnp8757]

I wonder how many Muslim women will agree to have inter-religion marriage. Secondly to do inrer-religion marriage they need to 1st keep their burqas aside. So hindu girls need to stop promoting inter-religion marriage. We are from a country which has gone through a partition on religious lines which in turn was the result of demographic change. Muslims of Pakistan are ex-Hindus but that did not stop them from asking for partition. So deepshikha please wake up and don't be so naive.

[@subhodip3064]

U r wrong...maximum indians are hhappy marrying in their caste..the girl who goes to other caste suffers.....boys mother is unsatisfied.....and u have to face backlash from other society

[@supriyasingh1565]

Jo log Pak chuke hai apni caste ke relatives se vahi log intercaste kr rahe hai because apni caste me relatives shadi ke time pagal kr dete hai and aane vali Bahu court case.jahan compatibility ho vahi bacche life partner la re Hain this is good

[@supriyasingh1565]

​@@subhodip3064in these years mother in laws are adjusting according to their son n Bahu(of other caste).pahle vali saas badle leti thi

[@liveandletlive769]

I am a South Indian girl married to a North indian man. Yes, there are frictions surrounding cultures. For eg- i find North indians loud and speak with cuss words in normal conversations also. They're not bad people though.... But the good thing is that me and my husband married quite late in our 30's and we do understand the cultural differences and take our own time to respond to such differences giving each other time, space as well as freedom. There is no parental interference also. I guess marrying late does have a few positives also.

[@nitinreddy1592]

Lmao as if you got another option at 30

[@shashank5322]

Then why are you here? why are u watching this

[@dovarksan1770]

I was a Punjabi girl married to a south Indian , now separated Yes food is a very imp part of our lives , you can eat exotic food 7-8 days max , afterwards you wanna eat your desi food because that’s what satisfies your soul. Someone who ate rice once a week to have rice 3 times a day as a torture of sorts If I cooked my own food or gave it my husband they felt so threatened that I am trying to make that guy Punjabi.Even if I tried following their culture , their way of doing pooja , etc it was always pointed out that how I did it wrong , imagine they would bad mouth me in front of me as I cudnt understand their language. My husbands family was never interested in teaching me their language, it was only my office colleagues who taught me that language. Yes south Indians may be very educated ,soft spoken compared to north people, but they are hundred times more conservative with regards to their culture and traditions to the point of being suffocating. Most of the time I was adjusting , compromising .My identity as an individual had just vanished .Life just became about following their lifestyle. Imagine my educated husband left me outside my office entrance at 7AM as by 9AM Solar eclipse was occurring and he was not ready to have me on road at 9AM. I stood 2 hours outside my office. Intercaste , inter religion marriages do well when both the partners are staying alone abroad. As aboard both wont be able to follow their culture and food habits , so it is more easy. I have loads of IT friends who have done these inter marriages and are settled abroad happily. and yes parents should talk calmly reasoning out the things rather than just shouting and getting annoyed

[@mad_in_2020]

I am a Punjabi girl was married to a South Indian. His family and relatives were outright abusive towards my culture. I always loved South Indian culture but after the filthy things they kept saying about my community, culture, I feel very hurt. Outwardly they were very traditional but reality was they were not spiritual inside. And yes they wanted as much dowry as possible. Not at all simple and traditional people as they like to show.

[@dovarksan1770]

@@mad_in_2020 Yes very true they are religious not spiritual , all their prayers are for getting something from God , very greedy.

[@agnihotrivikas007]

Thanks for your guidance, I'm 25 years old and I will take this as advice for my upcoming decision. Happy new year to you

[@dovarksan1770]

@@agnihotrivikas007 Thank you...marrying is easy but getting a divorce takes ages..so please marry very wisely , love isnt the only factor in marriage as shown in our garbage movies.

[@agnihotrivikas007]

@@dovarksan1770 Thank you very much for your guidance. 🙂🙂❤️

[@princeofheaven19]

My entire family has always married outside caste and culture. My father is a Rajput and my mother is a brahmin. We were never adopted by both the cultures and for a long time there was hostility in both families. When time came to my marriage I was never accepted in both castes so had to venture out and marry a bengali brahmin girl out of love. Our family is doing exceedingly well and now there is no problems. My bengali family is very supportive of me.

[@nehashirodkar1273]

I am so happy for you... Stay blessed may you have a wholesome life

[@princeofheaven19]

@@nehashirodkar1273 Thank you for your kind words

[@nehashirodkar1273]

@@princeofheaven19 very few people like you actually say nice stuff about life and don't make it seem like undoable. Thank you for the encouragement, i myself am planning to have an intercaste marriage and have worked on the relationship for ages. Watching this video made me super depressed and got me questioning everything, but seeing your comment was the only good thing i needed. Thank you for being positive and throwing light on the good stuff in life...

[@princeofheaven19]

@@nehashirodkar1273 I understand where you are coming from and I will not paint a rosy picture. For me it was easier as we never had an extended family support from the time of my parents. If you are a first in your family doing intercaste and if both families are conservative then they will not support you and the couple is on its own. Secondly your kids will always be second class in either castes in the next generation. Love marriage will be their only option.

[@nehashirodkar1273]

@@princeofheaven19 my sibling has had a intercaste marriage and i know the consequences and it's very sad and depressing that society has conditional acceptance, but I'm tired of trying to fit in and i know the difficulties that will come but atleast someone is willing to start a life with me with an understanding of me and my life. My family has had a lot of intercaste and inter religious marriages and largely we are treated differently in our society. Eventually for us what has mattered is that the couple manage the marriage. Thank you for the conversation it really helped me reduce the stress in my head

[@aries2156]

I can speak for my experience - I am a Gujarati, born and bred in India for the first 20 years of life. Had a forceful arranged marriage within community at the age of 19. There were problems in the marriage from day one, but no parents/relatives came forward to help, talk with husband/in-laws to bring a solution, etc. Everybody acted dumb, blind, and oblivious. Finally took the decision, and got divorced after almost a decade on my own. Today, in a relationship with a white American with nothing in common except empathy, strong character, and good human values. As long as one is trained/knows how to be respectful, understanding, accepting, compatible, egoless, having integrity, willingness to work things out, mature, and minding one's own business in a good way, things can almost always work out, and thankfully these great traits are not caste/community/religion specific. Food, festivals, clothing, culture, etc are good common things to have but these things have nothing to do in the making of a satisfactory and succesful relationship and/or marriage.

[@sam-515]

Thanks for sharing..🙏

[@bhaveshoza7142]

how long you have been married to a white american?

[@doncorleone3901]

​@bhaveshoza7142 in a relationship not married. Huge difference

[@aditya-ml6km]

Come back to us once you finally have a successful marriage with your white partner.

[@rishaveagarwal3737]

@@doncorleone3901 exactly , bf aur husband me bohot difference hota hai

[@sujatamoorthy4312]

I am a north indian and husband is south Indian.... There are problems.... But I strongly believe if u r financially strong then....... Both sides will be okay ....money has the power to solve everything.... ..... Same cast marriages also have problems.....there r differences and problems everywhere....................we r living happily.

[@rahulsingh-ui9tl]

you are correct.Another example is of an Indian girl marrying a WHITE MAN. Tab kisi Indian ko koi problem nahi hoti as a WHITE MAN brings stsuts because we are obsessed with "GORI CHAMDI" .Then koi bi Culture etc nahi dekhta.Sab adjust ho jaata hain. Meri 2 managers the office ke.Unhone apne se 10 years+ older WHITE MEN se shaadi ki aur US chali gayi. Koi bi Indian parents ko problem nahi... STAUTS AND MONEY CHANGE EVERYTHING!!!

[@krishna_raj9331]

@@roughtough5901 😂😂 yes

[@apz7645]

​@@roughtough5901😂😂 rightly said

[@shahzeb3445]

@@roughtough5901 hahaha yes

[@emailshe]

Yes, when you want to depend on your relatives for everything then they will poke their nose into your inter region marriage If you are financially independent they don't get a chance to do their BS

[@thinzajeewa]

Anyone who are in love, please go for it. There is no guaranteed same caste or intercaste Marriage can makes you happy. The beauty of love is that it doesn't see one's color, religion, place of birth, it's ultimate connection between two people which many arranged marriage ppl won't understand in their whole life time.

[@rahulkhanna3030]

true

[@vandana5575]

EXACTLY....

[@narender7106]

Practicality beats all kinds of love.

[@SaiAbitathaDUCIC]

@@narender7106 well said

[@AnilKumar-ov5xt]

so true.....

[@arvindchahal7009]

Main issue is the couple living under one roof with saas sasur or joint family. Conflicts are bound to happen there. Even in same caste marriage it happens, you know the whole story. Thats the main issue. If couple lives separately then intercaste mrg or food etc is not a big issue. Ab ek hi ghar main sas sasur Tamil wife aur haryanvi husband rahega to kalah to hou hi. Vo to same caste main bhi hoi hai. Please don't discourage intercaste mrg as it is the best way out to get rid of caste system and close the possibility of communal hatred in India. Jab sab rishtedar ho gaye to danga fasad kiske sath karoge? Soche india Pakistani aapas main shadi karein to kya yuddh karenge?

[@divinesoul1313]

​@An Ethical Perspective right...ye khud nuclear family promote kr rhe the pichli video me...ki paisa hie sbbkuch h...2 ghar me rho..taaki rishta bhi Bach jaye ...or privacy b mile.

[@kalkiavatartruthanddivinep6582]

Insan mc soch aur impurities ke Karan Sara dukh hai

[@desijatt8341]

Naam ke aage se chahal hatao Mix breed weak buddhi

[@pnnp8757]

If u don't like caste, then why do you have "Chahal" as your surname?

[@rashgyl25]

I think this is liberal thought process and practical if parents also stay in megacities like mumbai banglore in nuclear families and have almost given up being too rigid in their practises. Issues come when the parents have a joint family, stay in their homeplace since birth and have a deep rooted connection to their practises. Then it becomes difficult because you cannot give up your parents. So it depends i guess on circumstances.

[@geetajoshi8372]

I am from Punjabi married to maharashtrian Brahman happily married for 50 years one of my daughter in law is Bengali and other one is English happily married for 15 and 20 years all are doctors very happy

[@deepakpoonia6749]

Becoz you are not following you culture there is no difference between a atheist family and your family

[@Akki-ri8nq]

So your English Daughter in law is Hindu or Christian.She is British or NRI settled in UK. To marry in another caste is fighter but another religion is wrong.

[@soonotyou2424]

I am a South Indian married to a north Indian, I agree with what he says. I find we quarrel on topics which is so normal in our community. Adjustment is not that easy on day to day basis. As long you live aboard it's ok. But it's a nightmare to imagine to raise kids in between two families.

[@sneakpeek6031]

why do idli vada combo with chole batura..better do a combo with sambar chatney..everything will fell in place

[@manojitdebnath3177]

I have seen many intercaste and inter-religious couples having a successful married life for the last 30 years. On the other side I have seen a marriage in the same caste but could not last for even a year and ultimately led to divorce.

[@pnnp8757]

I have seen many same caste marriages where the couple is very happy. On the other side I have seen inter-caste and inter-religion love marriage where the couple always fights.

[@SaiAbitathaDUCIC]

@@pnnp8757 good reply

[@chimtu9383]

Your comparison is totally wrong because what's the % of intercaste/religion marriages as compared to intra one's? Not even 20%.So you can't compare the two it totally depends on the partners and their families but still the lesser the variables the smoother the life would be in my opinion.

[@Gauravkumar-jm4ve]

​@@pnnp8757 right

[@hectorvivek]

i have seen many inter caste marriage which led to divorce and murder

[@arvindchahal7009]

Intercaste marriage or same caste marriage both are doomed if both partners are not enlightened and mature enough. One benefit of intercaste marriage is that it discourages casteism and improvement in child genes. Intercaste marriage se jaativaad shayad khatm ho jaaye india main. Assam Rajasthan wala aapka example theek nahi. Jo jahan rahega vahin ka culture adopt karega. Ye to same caste main bhi hota hai jab bachhe out of state ya foreign rehte hain to unko bhi apni bhasha aur food ka pata nahi hota.

[@prakharprabhat585]

Child takes the caste of its father in intercaste marriages. I have seen many such cases. Intercaste marriage will never eliminate the caste system.

[@jatinkumarshukla4472]

Intercaste marriage ke bachee ki koii izzat nahi hoti hai society mein.

[@swatiparekhji]

My marriage is inter caste and Inter region and we and both families are very happy since past 31 years. My only son may marry from entirely different community. So as future mother in law I am a little anxious. But as you suggested, proper discussion with the couple as well as both sets of parents is absolutely necessary to overcome all the hiccups.

[@ar66281]

Ye kuch bhi bol raha hai. Jab job karne jate hai dusre state me tab koi problem nahi hota hai

[@preethid1991]

​​​@@ar66281hota hai.. job karne dusre state mein jaoge toh bhi stereotyping hota hai.. aur phir bhi job karne ja rahe hai.. but idhar mein marriage ki baat ho rahi

[@rishaveagarwal3737]

@@ar66281 bhai job tu baar baar change karsakta hai marriage nhi

[@ankitasharma307]

Can't agree more...I have done an intercaste marriage, happily settled and from experience saying that yup..its takes hell lot of adjustments...so pl choose wisely

[@amu808]

Partially agree, Partially not .. I Being maheshwari marwari ( born and brought up in maharashtra) married to hard-core punjabi guy from jalandhar ... yes initially I faced many turbulence but later on everything went on smooth. ( many things like behaviour of mother in law or other relatives .... boy already knows how is his mother and other relatives.... boy should be open and transparent in depicting their nature to his would be wife.....) Whyy .. because mutual respect between husband and wife. I learnt cooking authentic punjabi food after my marriage and he learnt to enjoy my marawari plus maharashtrian food. I think in intercast marriage...... maturity and mutual understanding is utmost important factor ..... then everything becomes easier.... otherwise even u marry in same cast u will definitely hit the turbulence and deep stone.

[@amu808]

@@ashitmukherjee5934 may be but love , understanding and warmth of my husband played very very important role ...

[@NehaSharma-uf3zk]

True dear

[@shilpa.saachi]

Thank you for the video. The lines that touched me- 1. Samaj to jaisa hai Vaisala rahega. Vo nahi badlega. 2. Once your in laws reach 70 75 they stop interfering in your life related to cultural things

[@shiva.19]

Terrific Video Sir. I'm a 27 yr old guy. I once used to be an liberal leftist but became a conservative over the years when maturity kicked in. On this topic, I also developed the same thought process that you mentioned. People do not realise the amount of culture shock one can get in intercaste marriages, specially the girl after she starts to live with the boys family. Leave states aside, here in Bharat culture changes every 100 kms. Even different castes living in same city have very different way of living which has developed in their community thru hundreds of yrs due to their community profession. Liberals disregard this practical historic relevance of things over superficial criticism influenced by the urban city culture which is nothing but sort of western globalised culture. On a funny note, Since I'll be looking for a girl to marry in coming yrs, Sir you can start your own marriage agency only for people who watch your videos. Atleast one would be sure that the individual he/she is going to marry would be a wise person as they consume your content.😛🙏🏼

[@AshishSardana]

Marriage agency for Amit Sangwan's platinum subscribers - that would be a good idea, hah.

[@NA-vt6mz]

Marry a virgin girl not corrupted by any one it’s easier from ur own caste

[@naveenchaudhary4072]

*if your are liberal then you cant be leftist* And if you are leftist then you can't be liberal *you were basically pseudo liberal*

[@sanketmudgalkar9500]

Marraige forum for Sango life sutras followers is the best idea. !!

[@yashpalchaudhary9752]

@@naveenchaudhary4072 thats right... True liberal is a diff thing and being leftist is whole diff caste altogether...we should be liberal and practical..

[@PradeepKala]

I really appreciate that food wala part. Everyday food is indeed an integral part of a married life. 100% Agree 👍🏻

[@amitdivakar2113]

You are not just marrying a person you are going into a new complex world where the challenge is to make balance with adjustments towards different aspects of life.

[@ritusaxena4498]

Sir,you are so far sighted ,you understand the practicalities of life so well,the examples you give to explain certain situations are so relatable..they make understanding so simple and crystal clear.May God bless you with healthy life,society is indebted to you.Aap bahut punya ka kaam kar rahe hai.Please accept our gratitude 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@thefoodpriest6614]

Have faced this live. Have almost stopped talking to inlaws. Forcing me to do rituals, preferring hygiene in kitchens puja rooms but not in bathrooms...and thinking that teaching me a hygiene course as a part of bahu grooming.

[@Roopendrakumar]

Sir i have never seen someone talking on this topic so bluntly.

[@SangoLifeSutras]

Thanks. Pls share it with family and friends

[@Roopendrakumar]

@@SangoLifeSutras already shared on family group. 🙏

[@binithaprakash8697]

Nailed it. I am in a North - South marriage. Culture difference is a shock and believe me neither family accepts the boy / girl. Marry only if you have a rock solid foundation and commitment. Go ahead with intercaste marriage only if you make a beautiful difference in each other's family. Don't try to be possessive and break up a family in the process.

[@RajSekharK]

"Every action has a consequesnces. Ap action lete ho, par consequence nahi pata hota he, wahi me batata hu, so you take calculated decision." Really grateful that you are sharing all these life experiences and sutras with us,

[@vishalbahl7110]

I would stick to the advice given in first few minutes. If you do such marriage after a certain age of maturity, like 30years then you are smart enough to marry as you like. I have also done intercaste, inter region marriage and in my relatives we are seen as a great example of happy couple. So it all depends upon how mature you are and how much can you mold yourself for your partner's happiness. Btw, my wife is a doctor and is very good at cooking and can cook all kinds of Indian and western food items. So that may be a reason for my happy married life .. I don't know 😅😅

[@harshaaditya3648]

Have a happy life

[@harshaaditya3648]

@@vivek8580 yes

[@IamSoangelic]

What about u ? U don't cook

[@vishalbahl7110]

@@IamSoangelic i was blessed to have stayed alone for many years during studies and job. So even i know basic level cooking and can cook proper dinner whenever needed.

[@AnilPatel-ym4gu]

Lord Krishna said about 4 varna and to keep them separated atleast for producing future generations. Every caste has its own characteristics in their DNA. Don't play with GOD creation and its rule

[@alameludevanathan7399]

Marriages work based on the individuals concerned. Same caste, region etc helps in tiding over the initial years where there is so much of stress to adapt to the new customs, culture etc. But later it is on the individuals concerned to work on that and take a midway. As sir has stressed in many of the videos, we need to prioritise the relationships, money matters etc as he always suggests. Many inter marriages work while same type marriages end up in divorces too. General feeling is that of understanding the individuals and respecting, then all marriages would work.

[@Terahydron]

@@jptiwari8061 lmao spotted the Brahman

[@nadlefaz]

Agree, but as he said, added on variables in the equation. Two people happy versus 20 unhappy for rest of their life...

[@shaangaming350]

No , marriage is not individualistic . Family is inportant thing in sanatan marriage .

[@theunusualgyan9940]

​@@shaangaming350ha islye widow remarriage allowed nhi krte😂sati child marriage aur mere gaav mai th ek aurat ko 10 vche hai 32 yrs old bullshit saare riti riwaaz sanatan se hu

[@shaangaming350]

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[@mitashukla2818]

I am north indian brahmin girl married to south indian non brahmin family. Families background also stark difference. I would say well researched content and practical advice. Deep insights without any judgement. Below are my experiences: I was dark skinned ugly girl for my society, but in south i was accepted and appreciated for my beauty 😅😅😅. I am vegetarian, so my husband did ask me to cook non veg at home. And allowed him to eat outside. 🍗🍗🍗🍗. We both are working, didn't get much time to celebrate any festival and do ceremony. We don't live with our families and far from our hometowns. I missed gond laddu after my pregnancy 😢 In general We are neither accepted by North indian or south Indian famlies as family friends😂 But I kinda hated typical UP Brahmins seeing my mother suffering....so took big risk. I was lucky . . . .

[@premkumarspatil5402]

In these times when everyone fears being judged about political correctness of their speech, I have never come across anyone who is as fearless, pragmatic or who speaks with such depth of knowledge than you Sir🙏🏻 Personally, I liked someone and we were great friends, had I pursued it, getting married was not an issued However I choose not to move in that direction as there was nothing common among our families, No love lasts a lifetime, After few years it comes down to what u can choose to tolerate and bear everyday. Nobody is perfect, but the contempt of familiar imperfections is far better than the frustration of unfamiliar imperfections.

[@parthamp4751]

Superb clarity. When you are young and in love, practicalities are the last thing on your mind. This video is for everybody.

[@dr.prabjotsinghsibia7408]

Sir, your boldest effort yet. Lot of people like me relate to what you said but we’re unable to give logical arguments like these. Great job.

[@aarthishetty2214]

I totally agree, within caste marriage itself has so many differences . Mindset is affected by upbringing, environment . Even if one person is from city and other from town , mindset changes BTW appreciate the conscious effort " mahila"

[@jashanbhatia]

Sir aapki hr baat se agree krti hun. Meri arranged marriage huyi thi. punjab se MP mein ayi. Parathe, Sarno ka saag makki ki roti ki jgh poha jlebi aur kachori samosa pr zindagi guzarni pr rhi hai. Culture alg, khana alg, traditions alg, soch alg, uthna bethna baat krna sb alg. Do naav pr svar hona prta hai. Jaape mein panjiri nhi mili kyonki punjab mein gond aur soond se bnti hai jo MP vale digest nhi kr skte.... body mind sb out of control ho gya.... Sir ki baat Mano.... 2-4 din adjust krna aur life time krne mein frk hota hai. Bche sbse zyada piste hain. Husband ko punjab mein leftover lgta hai aur mujhe MP mein. Bahut tragic hai Smjhiye nya jnm jismein aapko poori past life yaad ho aur aap n is life ke rhe n uss life ke

[@simransharma9200]

I am north Indian, my husband is South Indian, we love similar food: on daily basis- south Indian and some occasions north Indian (I prefer it that way, our kids too are gastronomically south Indians). We both have similar value system and thought process. His family is also much more sane than mine :-), I would say decide on case by case basis.

[@sabhrestman6644]

Caste system in south india is very strong, pretty sure your south indian husband respects you because of your caste. which falls into brahmin category, for south indian family it's a way up, hence they try little harder when the person from north is from higher caste, as it will boost their reputation in their own community.Marrying into a brahmin family is a achievement in southern India but unfortunetly it goes away with time.

[@pnnp8757]

@@sabhrestman6644 please put in effort to 1st learn who all live in southern states. Your comment tells me that you think that there are no Brahmins in South India. Brahmins are found in every state maybe except few in North East. You also think that south India is one homogeneous group. They are not. Every state is different.

[@jitheshsrai4992]

​@@sabhrestman6644speak for yourself , come out of delusion bro there are brahmins in south india too and majority south Indians don't give a f**k which caste you belong they don't boast based on caste but they boast based on your career.

[@dineshpratapupadhyay6583]

If you marry a person from another religion, there is an immense pressure on you to convert. You may be a vegetarian and the partner may be a non vegetarian.

[@rachnasingh3991]

You put my heart out... last statement was the ultimate. No relationship can bear the burden of all the relationships

[@subha5059]

Totally agree. The lesser the adjustment the better. Thank you sir

[@gyaankatta]

After seeing this video.. आपका तजुरबा और विचार शक्ति लाजवाब है। Such a beautiful and pragmatic perspective। Already shared। Thanks for such guidance।

[@Ashishjaj]

Excellent analysis sir. 100 percent accurate and practical. When a couple fall in love they don't realise what will be the consequences after marriage and when they grow old they realise the mistake.

[@keshavfulbrook6698]

I am an American Hindu who lived in India and is currently living in Vietnam and in a long-term relationship which is both interracial and interfaith. I have eaten with forks, hands, and chopsticks. I have learned several languages of the places I have lived. I am Hindu and my girlfriend is Buddhist. I have always found it funny the stress around what I consider to be minor differences between castes that are made into huge inflexible obstacles to marriages and relationships. I find that in India, any difference is turned into a very big deal. Being a white Hindu, my ethnicity is often considered to take precedence over my faith because being a “foreigner” means being so different so as to practically be of a different species, even in spite of speaking 3 Indian languages (one fluently, two at an intermediate level) and being of the majority faith in India. These similarities are considered to not outweigh the difference of ethnicity (and is also why I did not marry in India as in general Indian society does not support these kind of alliances). This is my personal opinion, but I find the obsession with in-group conformity in India a bit extreme. I have not found the same issues in Vietnam in spite of it technically still being a collectivist society. Interracial relationships and marriages are common in much of the rest of Asia and generally work well without a great deal of friction. Individuals simply adapt to each other and often do so very well. I wonder if the joint family structure in India makes this more difficult because at least in a nuclear family setup, it is only the two individuals who adapt and not mothers and fathers in law and a whole assortment of relatives.

[@LiveTraderPrince]

Sir you are not a speaker on some bold topics, you are a true LEGEND, who is removing the dust infront of eyes, of thought process. Your words and thought process is on practical issues of life. I Respect you sir for your work. May god bless you.

[@auiiem]

Compatible life style is must for marriage. To provide peaceful existence. Which in turn leads to ultimate growth.

[@chitravp]

100% correct. I had a practical marriage where i only saw the education of the guy and his sense of responsibility thats all. Everything else paled in comparison to the potential and capability of this person. Though there were many issues the practical aspects acted as a cushion to the marriage. And after many years i discovered all marriages around me are same including the ones that started with lot of love. The practical aspects took over after a period of time and by that time we had developed love within our marriage. ;)

[@ajaykumar-banker]

Excellent video.Eminently sensible advice.Love transcends caste in marriages. But love rocket fizzles out soon.Then intercaste differences hit. Differences in families and lifestyle present problems specially to the newly wedded bride. Add to that differences of food habits ( veg, non veg,...) aggresiveness, customs, festivals in intercaste marriages. Be conscious of these and your ability to reconcile, and only then jump into an intercaste marriage, if you may.

[@MrHardikamehta]

What you said is time tested principles of our culture. Going against it has its own consequences. Very practical and correct guidance.

[@Terahydron]

Only Brahman terrorist have probelm with anti caste marriage

[@harshvig5342]

गज़ब वीडियो है जी . . आपके पास समझाने के लिए proper vocabulary भी है। . . .उम्दा

[@nazeerafazal9548]

Good you added English subtitles. Please do that to your other videos as well I hope you reach a greater audience and other countries too

[@manishkhedkar1309]

Oh God... U nailed it. What a great video. Much needed one. Very nicely articulated. Recently gone through this... My parents denied for intercaste/interreligion marriage. And now I understood what they were saying how factual that was. I was still in that pain somewhere. But after watching this, feeling much more lighter. Thanks sir. It's blessing that people like u exist. That's why I love KZbin so much.

[@Sabari862]

Very true topic My parents r intercaste and I have faced this confusion and ridicule in life Luckily I found husband who is very close cultural and religious like me

[@Nyrabargotra6302]

No Sir, you're not correct this time, i love your videos but this time your video is just about the food, culture and rituals. but marrying someone is not just these 3 things you've emphasizing. love is beyond all these, when we truly love we make compromise and sacrifices as well which comes from both ends. this restrictions can even go beyond the circumstances you made here. hamare haryana main hi 20 type ki cultural differences, is hisab se to padosi se hi shadi karwani padegi.. you haven't seen a bright side, these all points are silly points which can be ignored easily.

[@utkarsh144]

Love is low IQ thing, won't stay forever and marrige based on love will end as soon as love is finished. But marrige done for deeper purpose make partners adjust for each other and make sacrifices.

[@sunidhi1987]

Completely agree

[@harshsingh9130]

​@@utkarsh144what can be the deeper purpose ?

[@veenajajoo3228]

Very correct and deeply analysed video. Great work Looking forward for more such videos on different practical topics of life,relationship & career. Thank you so much again for making such a thoughtful and wonderful video👋👋👋

[@agnihotrivikas007]

Thanks for your guidance sir , happy new year to you 🎊🎊🎊🎉

[@archi8450]

Sir you're right on most of the points. But there are some exceptions I would like to mention. You are taking the example of haryana way too often. I am a North Indian born and brought up in Delhi and my wife is a malayalee, her parents too settled in Delhi in 1980's just like my parents. Both the families have very much adjusted to The Delhi culture and eat both North Indian and kerela food. I have been brought up in Mayur vihar which is a very culturally significant neighborhood with lots of malayalees in vicinity so I am well versed with the culture, even lot of my friends from school are from different ethnic groups. Our families respect each other in terms of food, language, rituals and traditions. And the example that you gave for the post partum mother eating "gond", gond is eaten both my North and South Indians, we eat gond ladoo and they make a 'panjiri' sort of a thing out of it. Port partum mothers eat dry fruits and coconut both in North and South of India. Another example of that punjabi girl living in tamil nadu is also not true. So many south Indians are fair in complexion and very attractive even they outnumber the North Indians in being quite attractive. Edit : my wife is from a punjabi dominated colony, rajouri garden and my family is originally from Gorakhpur.

[@jcbhatt4735]

Great inputs

[@vinayrawat7011]

I agree with you . Marriage is all about respect of each other, love, transparency and support, nothing else. Uncle ji is completely wrong and talking about few examples where conservative and narrow minded families do these type of things which is very less in percentage. Spread love ❤ not negetivity.

[@shubhagupta4303]

Thank you sir for so detailed analysis on inter caste marriages the content was very good and it will give lot of guidance to all girls and boys. Thank you !!

[@pari....18]

Sir u r helping and guiding us like our parents even more than that. Thankyou for your time and efforts.

[@ruchadeshpande3571]

All points are true. Our marriage was supported by both families (Marathi & Bengali). Initially it felt like there won't be any challenges but later everything got magnified. But kind of Ghosh family story. I advise my cousins to go for same caste marriage.

[@robertlee-nq6mg]

i married internationally. caste ko choro, videshi ladki se shadi ki hai maine. Marry who you like and love. caste ko maro goli

[@subhodip3064]

So basically ur unhappy in bengali family.... but thanks for coming in bengali family...when many bengali girls are marrying others

[@salaar75]

​@@robertlee-nq6mg1 number

[@gauravmishra1508]

exactly.. brahmans should not intermarry because we have different living habits than any other community..❤

[@salaar75]

@@robertlee-nq6mg Bhai how did you meet your spouse?

[@user-vu8ot1pq5d]

I'm from haryana and I'm punjabi My papa is punjabi My mother is rajput from up And I've lived my life happily 🙏🏼 I've dated a punjabi boy and meri nhi bani uski thinking process se but meri soch meri caste se bhar k logo se zyada milti h In some way I think mother affects your thinking a lot than your father But I don't think it is that much of an issue ki aap inter caste marriage karo hi mat Life m jagah jagah prr challanges milege and I would rather face them

[@pnnp8757]

"Dad is a Punjabi and Mum is a rajput from UP" Punjabi is not a caste.

[@shankarrajgopal5165]

Very practical advice. Well done, sangoji

[@Shrinath_official]

Nice thought sir ...thank you for making this 👍 ...all misunderstandings about intercast marriages are now completely solved 👌.

[@Tryambkeshwr]

Much required was this eye opener video. Sir, you touched every issue pertaining to this subject. This will surely motivate people towards a more practical approach in life. ❤️🙏 Chances of divorce and/or other conflicts with in the partners and their parents are imminent. Cultural exceptence and practice is not easy for any of them. Children to such couples do get confused by the culture differences of their parents. Regards sir for bringing forth such great content 🙏

[@lawanyaarvind2810]

Well said indeed, Sir. Agree 💯

[@Professor_price]

I belong to SC Community. I fell in love with a girl from Higher Caste, everything was good until the girl came to know about my caste. Now I am blocked everywhere, I have been even called a creep. Some girls in my class used to say that they do not want to marry any SC/ST guy. I graduated from IIT Bombay. I earn more than one crore yearly, still I am judged on my caste. I feel dejected.

[@sayantanghosh6714]

Bad for the society that highly educated people like you are facing this problem. I am hopeful that the problem will be solved in the near future

[@user-ex1dl3tx2p]

Please be proud of ur accomplishments and value ur worth rather than feeling dejected by bring rejected by a person on the basis of ur caste.chin up and look for smone truly educated and enlightend in the right sense rather than pitying urself.1 cr is quite a lot man n u must have reached here thru ur dedication n hardwork so appreciate urself

[@utkarsh144]

Then find some girl from your own caste

[@justathinker8669]

Judging based on money (1 crore) is also not right...

[@anujasmusic]

I have been through this

[@human_human_human]

Marry someone when you both can adopt and adjust each other's family and their lifestyle. Similarly makes your life easier, learned this after living with different people as room mate. Jitna insan mere se similar tha utna life peaceful tha.

[@viveksahajwani9244]

Amazing video. Great content and thought process

[@SandeepSharma-qj8wp]

Nice informative content produced after thorough research what actually happens in real life. Please make video on live in relationships.

[@bubblegum505]

Even Supreme Court of India, encourages it. For both scientific and societal reasons. No kidding, Google it....Thing is, only when you are mentally and financially prepared for marital adjustments. Scary part is when you attend family functions. You only need emotional maturity to sail through it. At end, we are just humans' guys. This is not any identity or exsistential crisis.

[@shivaniarora4072]

Great work Sir👏👏! Keep going and kindly make more videos on things to avoid and things to look for choosing a life partner.

[@duggiralatube]

You are so practical, pragrammtic and I admire your realistic suggestions.

[@Puneet786338]

My marriage is intercaste and interstate. Although not much difference in the state My sister married within state within caste. She is struggling with her marriage, mine is still smoother. It all depends on the compatibility of souls and families.

[@Realbits12]

I had a 2 states marriage and am really happy … yes i do agree in most cases you do make adjustments … there is loss of culture, a bit of confusion but the person you love and marry is worth all that … both can sort of make way for new norm… its much much better than sacrificing your love and marring a someone what ok compatibility person just so there is less issue… all this is dependent on lot of factors and different case to case but i believe if you find “the. Person” then such small changes are totally worth it 😊

[@rohitsoni6730]

Mag , keep it up Guide us with these untouched topics in our society

[@farooqabdulla06]

Such a complex topic explained quite simply and easy to relate/comprehend manner. My faith is not the the same as sanatana dharma but i am very impressed with this - "actions and their consequences". Too good. Thank you sir

[@varunempi]

Just employ good cook. Maharani Gyatri Devi was of Kooch Behar WB and married to Jaipur Royal Family. She has three styles of Kitchen and servants, Rajasthani, Bengali and French. One takeaway from your talk is that adventurous weddings are only for wealthy and rich. Not middle class. Ultimately the culture which should prevail is of Father, because surname is of Father not mother. And women has to adjust to husband’s household not vice versa.

[@rachnasingh3991]

That's how dumb people react on serious topic. Maharani Gayatri devi was a royal first and she married a royal. Unless no one will want to have a husband who is marrying third time.

[@varunempi]

@@rachnasingh3991 don’t digress as focus of discourse was cultural differences. And trivia like food styles should not be a cause of discord. Spend some money and resolve it it’s as simple as that. Forcing choices is cause of disagreement and stress.

[@San_home-chef]

I always wanted to have inter-community marriage. I did it, I got married in 2013. My dream came true

[@anirbanghosh1670]

Bengali girls has ultra level freedom, bengali men respect their daughters choice, that's why it is possible. In other community they don't let their daughter marry outside, but they accept daughter in law from other community.

[@sabhrestman6644]

@@anirbanghosh1670 Also bengalis are quite below average looking.

[@pnnp8757]

@@anirbanghosh1670 a consequence of that ultra level freedom is that large number of Bengali Hindu women end up marrying or having relations with Muslim men. How many Muslim Bengali women have married hindu Bengali men? I am sure the numbers are very less when compared with the former.

[@Beingengineer007]

​@@Diaaa982 direct action day reasearch karo

[@kumarabhishek1064]

​@@pnnp8757 and end up getting converted. Soon, Bengali Hindus will vanish and there situation will become like that of Bangladeshi Hindus. If they are proud of this strategic blunder, Bengali culture will die once including Durga Pooja and all that forms bengal.

[@tanyasengupta7121]

Isn't it more painful to adjust in arranged marriages where the bride has to go through several tests for years before several different relatives to ultimately considered as their own? There is no love from husband or in-laws or other relatives. But in love marriages, atleast the girl knows the boy from before and they have love for each other. She doesn't have to get approval from her in-laws and husband in everything that she does. She has a head on her shoulders

[@aravindarao9523]

wahhh u didn't understand the video at all and u have a very bad impression about arranged marriage please keep your movie bias and think about it going one level deep i would like to say That the u loved and know a person who was not the same guy with problems he talked about there is a difference in personality when he is having problems in one aspect and when he is having problems in many also when in love stage for atleast 3years a person will put his best version in front of u also there is 99% chance that u will marry a human and all humans have some level understanding nature

[@rashgyl25]

This is a fear of many north indian girls - sasural ka pressure - i would say maybe look a north indian family that is settled in mumbai, bangalore and other liberal cities - I am looking for a husband so i can comment. It will be my worst nightmare to marry in a small town joint family in the north. On the other hand for love marriage, love will keep your marriage for a few years, maybe a few decades also, but like Sir said, if your have to give up a lot for that love, love will fade and bitterness will creep in after a few decades - but if both families are liberal, like both set of parents are from nuclear families that stay in liberal cities - then love marriage may work

[@aravindarao9523]

@@kunalbhuradia 🙏 How dumb can u be I am not asking anyone to find me a perfect match Elders throughout their life would have developed connection and would bring in proposals after a set of filteration and finally it's between the girl and boy to decide Only few are lucky enough to find someone in there life journey 🙏

[@girijajoshi3419]

Sir, you have very aptly explained the challenges of intercaste/interstate marriage... The points you have presented are very very accurate... I confirm this from my own experience..

[@rajeshnaidu693]

Namaste, Agreed. God Bless you and your Family with Abundance.

[@vaijoyantakundu9670]

One of the best video of the channel...BOLD HARSH AND ABSOLUTE TRUTH

[@arjoroychoudhury6952]

One needs to have practical sense, common sense to understand the contents and importance of this video.

[@anubhavchaudhary8120]

I adore your practicality sir ...u explain these complicated topics in a holistic way . Regards

[@user-nx7rr9jw5o]

Very nice and brutally honest articulation...ek ek shabd sach hai...life is not a fairy tale and the aspects mentioned should be considered before taking the most important decision of one's life..

[@Rishabhgoyal14002]

Dil se khushi ho rahi hai, jab aise clarity milti hai na, to bht hi achha lag lgta hai

[@andrewcarnegie5342]

Majority of the video is dedicated to the social and geographical differences which in most cases have nothing to do with caste, thumbnail and title should have been around these differences but it's "inter caste marriage". Two people of same religion but of different caste that are living in the same city in same class of society, generally have much more similarity than two people of same caste but different background. These differences are social and geographical and in most cases have nothing to do with caste. I don't know how a knowledgeable and progressive person like you mixed all these things together so casually. I am sorry to say that you sounded like a Whatsapp university uncle in this video sir.

[@akshaysharma8940]

Caste difference also plays in…different castes have different eating habits …also different customs are followed in different castes! You should understand the context completely before making personal comments about anyone.

[@andrewcarnegie5342]

@akshaysharma8940 I can't talk with someone who's dumb enough to misunderstand my comment, have a nice day.

[@Terahydron]

​@@akshaysharma8940this is just excuse for Brahmans to spread more terrorism. Anyway the correct question is should Hinduism even be considered a real religion. And shouldn't all sc st obc form another religion. Castiests put out video like this is defence of Hinduism, like people are forcing Brahmans to lose their identity. Its about the hypocrisy, Brahmans look for caste in marriage and call everyone a hindu whenever they want to fight the Muslims

[@Terahydron]

​@@akshaysharma8940beef is banned right? What other differences are tou talking about. Everybody stays in hostel and eats the same food. Whata customs? All customs are made up.

[@Terahydron]

​@@akshaysharma8940there is no problem in being a castiest. The problem is Brahmans want to live like parasites,and feed on others lives. And make videos like this to defend caste Marry within your caste only and make it a separate religion,why call 100 crore indiana hindu if you won't even marry them

[@saumyapunekar8625]

100% agree on each point , i believed in the same so went for an arranged marriage and happy with my decision .Also do make a video on live in relationship at the earliest for young generation ❤️😇🙏👌

[@vikrant_bhise]

😅😅

[@Aam-Janta-Ki-Kanooni-Pathshala]

You have nailed it. All the issues that you have discussed are bang on correct. I come across similar issues being raised by couples in stressed marriages.

[@geetanjalisingh6875]

again a very nice talk... love hearing about difficult issues and you seem very evaluative in life and situations.

[@Pinkx07]

I agree with many points in the video but at the same time I feel that any kind of “inter” marriage (intercaste,inter religion or interracial etc) is beneficial in terms of removing cultural bias, bringing empathy and broader perspective and acceptance towards the people of other communities but yes one needs to be open minded for that.

[@AlmasKiranShamim]

Totally! I understand all his points and pretty much agree. But, I also feel 'inter' marriages are very important for our diversity and harmony. It becomes easier if the couple lives alone rather than with any in-laws. I have an inter religious and inter regional marriage, so that is really nice! The easy part is we are both Hindi speaking.

[@arjoroychoudhury6952]

@@bhadwamuhammad979 Well said. Very good, pragmatic and practical observation.

[@rashgyl25]

We women feel the need to remove cultural biases because we have been discriminated against for so long - almost a 1000 years. I would say the culture of India is important, it should not be removed. But if people want to save our culture then Indian men need to change their behavior's and uplift women more. Women have been discriminated against for 1000s of years. They should atleast be discriminated in favour of for a few decades. We still have reservation for the the dicriminated castes in India - when will a support system for women crop up?

[@rishaveagarwal3737]

@@rashgyl25 then u should read law , you will fear for your brother and family if u read law , it has become extremely biased towards men , an evil girl has enough remedies to put your brother , you and your family behind bars even though they are innocent

[@RituSingh-gz6dc]

You are right Sir I did inter caste marriage its been 13 years of my marriage iam still not able to adjust with family culture

[@sneakpeek6031]

Combo mix plate vada pao nehi chalta kabhi kabhi...

[@MegaKabir]

Basically this video was abt inter region marriage and not inter caste marriage. My marriage is intercaste but my wife and me are from same state, same city, same school. We blended very easily into each others family.

[@divinesoul1313]

right..title is wrong

[@rachelmatthew6771]

i am 24 and i have held same view mentioned in this video quite early. I have watched other videos of yours and that has been my view quite early in my life. Good to see you explaining and laying out the thought process. Lot of my friends think i am too conservative but they dont want to understand actual practicality.

[@Akash-Kumar-rajput]

Very true !! Awesome advice

[@rajeevagrawal9167]

Your efforts are great sir. You discuss topics which are need of the hour, and which everyone else avoids. Really commendable effort.

[@daljitkaur52]

Thank you so much Amit Ji for sharing life-changing videos🙏💐🙏

[@shreyavermaparganiha627]

I agree with many points ☺️ brilliant effort sir 🙏

[@San_home-chef]

You are right because when in 20s, people want to impress others and while approaching 30s maturity comes and people want a marriage should be more like a companionship

[@abhishekparashar8265]

The way you explain these topics is awesome.

[@kiransharma7848]

Brilliant piece of advice. Totally agree💯... Itercaste examples are 2 gud.. 😀😀🙏

[@Hetal28]

MAG I totally agree with most of the points you mentioned Bold and realistic topics 👏🏻

[@anandbiradar4904]

Thank you so much Sir. Vry Nicely said.

[@AllInOne-uh8hy]

Thanks so much sir makeing this video!

[@abhachitlangia3616]

Your style of explanation is simply outstanding. You have touched the topic till depth. Enjoy watching your videos.

[@myfamilychumbak]

I have intercaste marriage, certain initial adjustments, hostility was there but me and my husband are living happily since we first met i e. more than 30yrs with two awesome son. I saw scattered marriages with in caste. It is all about care love and respect, not caste.