Things I DO NOT Let My Kids Do (and reasons why...)

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[@brieagapov7203]

I don't know if this is weird of me but I don't let my son "kill" bugs or hurt plants. I always tell him that these are living creatures and they deserve our respect. He was shaking a tree branch roughly and we had a conversation about how the tree give us oxygen so we can breath. He hasn't roughed up another plant since. SPONGES!!!!! Love you Sarah! Such a great mom! I love the idea of having your child say thank you to the person who made their meal. So simple but so powerful!

[@brandyoctober5923]

I do the same thing. I feel like kids need to know they are living things too with a life just like us.

[@meaganmccullah8882]

I love this

[@annjames1837]

Does your son eat vegetables?

[@kdemarco2010]

@@annjames1837 vegetables are the product of a plant. It doesn't plant no good to hang on to dead fruits and vegetables. People plant these plants to grow fruits and vegetables to consume. 🤷

[@irynas.6904]

I don't know why that would be considered weird. It's essential to teach kids how to treat everything and everyone in their surrounding. That's also an important part of their emotional development to be able to understand that they can't destroy nature and living creatures just because they want to.

[@lexititus2323]

I don’t discipline my children in front of other people, minus their dad. I remember being totally chewed out by my dad, or screamed at by my mom in front of my friends or random strangers and I was so embarrassed and overwhelmed that I couldn’t even focus on what they were saying or what I was in trouble for (my parents and myself as a parent are extremely different people). I’ve ever had to resort to the football carry a few times when my daughter got extremely overwhelmed and lost it (she was tired). But I won’t reprimand them in front of other people, I think it’s important to show respect and compassion, even in tough situations. I also don’t undermine my husband in front of the kids, and vice versa. If I put them in time out, I take them out, not him. He doesn’t interrupt me when I’m speaking to them seriously. Stuff like that. And on the off chance it does happen, we apologize to the kids as well as the spouse, so they know we made a mistake. I won’t ever let my kids think I think I’m perfect, I want them to watch me handle all situations. I know this is more what we do as parents instead of what I don’t let my kids do but it’s similar lol. I don’t let my kids play outside or step outside without me knowing or being with them

[@braria9855]

Nice rules! A fix for a bit of your experience Sarah said in one of her older videos, that she doesn't let the child guess what was wrong or be confused about it. She explains what exactly the child has done, why it is wrong and what the disciplinary action will be. I liked this one too :)

[@OM08]

I like the part that you said of you put them in time out, you take them out of time out. My sister once put my niece in time out and as soon as my brother in law came home from work, he rushed to her room and got her out of time out. Later she came out sticking her tongue out while smiling... 🤦🏽‍♀️ I don’t have kids yet, but I agree with everything she mentioned on this video..

[@melekkeskin4173]

There's a saying in my culture that can be translated as; "Advice(or for kids education) that is given in front of other people is not advice, it is an assault"

[@lexititus2323]

@@melekkeskin4173 I love that!

[@lexititus2323]

@@OM08 one day I put my oldest in time out just before my husband walked through the door from work, so he had no idea what was happening. And she yelled at him from her room and I said her name warningly and as soon as my husband heard my tone he went “oops, she’s in timeout” and just sat on the couch 😂. God bless that man

[@lizanelson3296]

I think the best one is not letting them touch your phone. There’s a couple million parents out there that would have done themselves, their kids, and lots of other people (coming from the perspective of a school bus driver) a huge favor. Kids literally get addicted. They can’t look away from the screen. It’s crazy.

[@frozendonut722]

Yes! As a member of gen z i think that as generation we will raise our kids more off tech. We were raised when smartphones were starting to become mainstream and we know the harms having experienced it ourselves. I feel REALLY bad for the next generation tho they are soooo hooked on screens and they don't hve time to be kids before social media makes them 20 year olds. Most millennials were not raised with A ton of tech and they don't realize the harms. I was lucky because my parents allowed 30 minutes screen time everyday, and that didn't include babies.

[@nadiavanessak]

my little cousins love to steal my phone and play on it, text people, send snapchats to my friend etc. they nearly texted my boss at midnight the other day... and they also know that they can take it and shove it in my face to unlock it too. soooo annoying and honestly it's just bad behaviour to not respect someones personal item like that

[@angrygalamb]

Yes! I know a 3 year old who is constantly on HIS phone, necause yes, they gave him a phone. He downloads his own games, he picks up phone calls (usually his mom calling him but still) and i just think its absolutely crazy. I can understand why parents may give their kids a phone, for example for them to watch educative videos or download them some games that will make them smarter, but definitely not at such a young age, and all day long. Sorry for my english tho...

[@lizanelson3296]

@@angrygalamb Yep!-it’s crazy.

[@llk8978]

i have a 2.5 year old and thought I was doing 'well' because he's never touched a phone and I've never bought or let him play on a tablet. i don't have any intentions too either

[@annahaug2034]

i think an interesting video would be "things i let my kids do" with things a lot of parents don't let their kids do

[@danapettygrove9500]

I'd be interested in that video too!

[@jessicasantos6690]

I think she did that video a while back, but I would watch another one!

[@TheNerdistheWord]

Yeeeeees!!!!!

[@MindyourMatters]

Yes! I love to hear opinions....for sure

[@tinajsews2835]

Repent , Jesus Christ is coming back Repent.

[@Pyro_Chick]

I agreed with most of those :) I do not force my kiddo to show affection. I don't allow (mostly adults) into bullying her into giving hugs or other affection if she doesn't want to. She will generally give high 5's. But sometimes if she isn't comfortable with that either I tell them maybe next time and reaffirm that she does not need to give affection if she doesn't want to.

[@zelle408]

100% with this.

[@brieagapov7203]

Dude I totally do this too! My mom (grandma) has a hard time with it. but yeah I don't force my son to show affection even towards me.

[@melindaedgington9925]

I am still trying to teach the Grandparents to ask my children for hugs instead of just demanding it. It is so hard they think I am too controlling.

[@kathleentaylor8840]

I’m sorry but i don’t get affection aversion. Do you just throw money and books at them instead? Loyalty for looks alone instead of affection?

[@autismenlightenment]

@@kathleentaylor8840 teaching kids that affection needs to be wanted and invited helps them learn about consent for physical interactions. Demanding hugs and kisses of a child and giving them no option but to give and accept them against their wishes can lead the child to be a victim of or even a perpetrator of sexual and physical abuse. Think about it.....

[@heyitskaydee9199]

Something that my parents always enforced with my siblings and I was that you never point a gun at someone. No pointing nerf guns, finger guns, toy guns, pellet guns, and obviously real guns. It didn’t matter if we were playing or Messing around for jokes. We were taught that guns were something to be respected. I’m also from the west, so lots of people own and shoot guns frequently. It stemmed from when my dad was little and his friend took his dads gun off the wall, and jokingly aimed and pulled the trigger on another kid, not knowing the gun was loaded, and killed his friend. I thought it was weird growing up, but I’m glad I was taught that weapons are no joke and not for play or fun. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.

[@cynthiakalynowski6244]

I don't let me kids be rough with our dog or cat. From a very young age we teach them gentle touches and where to touch.

[@Goat.Cheese]

Thank you! I want to slap parents who let their kids terrorize family pets. Animals need to be treated with love and respect!

[@beeletsbeesleeved4758]

@@Goat.Cheese same!!!! It’s also dumb especially if you don’t know the animal. What if the dog is scared and bites? It’s not the animals’ fault if the kids all over it.

[@Evastime4]

Goals💯

[@sophies8573]

i once told off this 4 year old at the grocery store because he full on hit his puppy on the head and the mother wasnt around... can't believe people are teaching their kids that it's ok to be mean to animals...

[@Wenalexis]

YES. My boy isnt even one and he already stopped pulling our cats ears, tail whatever. I really payed attention when he got interested in her (kitty) and tried to teach him to be gentle, mostly because i didnt wanted to attend them all the time later on. This way cat trusted him and doesnt feel the need to "scold" him (scolding in my cat language is patting with paw and if that doesnt work she would scratch). My cat trusts 1 y.o. more than any other adult now and let's him do his thing :D Baby boy is on it's way to learn how to pet her, he does sometimes "pat" her too strong, but he tries to mimic how we pet her, and that so cute too look at. I cant understand why some parents pretend like they dont see when their child learns bad things like hurting animals etc.

[@Janinaneven]

As a neighbor to 5 kids (all 1.5 - 8 years old), I appreciate that you dont let your kids scream unless they are in real danger.

[@Elizabeth-rp1pi]

Really?

[@katarzynaczarnecka9189]

The trash thing: I taught my kids to pick it up and look for the trash can to put it into. We would always clean our hands afterwards of course. I explained is very bad to leave trash behind and some people do that and it's wrong. So now my kids never leave their own trash behind and pick up any trash they find on the sidewalk and they're the eco guardians of our neighborhood xD

[@savinanadab1831]

That’s wonderful!❤️

[@katarzynaczarnecka9189]

@@savinanadab1831 thank you 🖤🖤🖤

[@mandamoo8746]

That's the first thing that stood out for me.....there's a great teaching lesson in THAT as well; let's teach kids to pick up trash so it doesn't get into our oceans 😃✌

[@ShaieGold]

absolutely, we can't raise bystanders...

[@katarzynaczarnecka9189]

@Eden Wild well I would say it's not so much the age, it's more the parent's presence. My kids have been doing this since they were one. But I never just let them run around and pick trash, we go for the walk together and I observe what they pick up so I can react if it's something dangerous. Then I gently explain why this is something they shouldn't touch and I usually take care of it myself. Kids are smart and learn super fast if we just let them. For example, they now know not to pick up glass and call me to do it, but it's because we've found glass before and I told them to leave it to me as it can potentialy hurt them ☺️

[@saraheckenast7321]

I'm only 16 but I enjoy watching these videos because I learn so much and actually think about how I am going to raise my kids when I grow up. I was not raised so well, I have a lot of problems from this and your videos help me a lot to prepare for being a wife/mom. :)

[@alleycat616]

I’m very impressed with your maturity to think ahead like that at your age!

[@Craftomatic15]

I have a similar situation here I'm 18 now but I've been trying to learn how to be a better parent than mine were and I am afraid of giving birth but absolutely can't wait to be a mom so I can prove my methods of parenting would be way better than how my parents parented me

[@lacie3520]

I didn't have my first phone til I was 14. It makes me sick when I see 7-year-olds with newer phones than I have.

[@caitlindavidson6454]

Yes i wholeheartedly agree, i didn't get a phone until the christmas before my 13th birthday, I hate seeing people too focused on their phones that they don't focus on their children, or worse, they buy the children phones to keep them from annoying them. Having children is a choice, if you don't feel that you can give your children the attention they deserve, don't have kids. Simple as that.🥰

[@ACupOfChats]

@@caitlindavidson6454 That is way to early. 17 is the best time

[@caitlindavidson6454]

@@ACupOfChats your opinion, I was involved in a lot of after school activities and was often dropped off and left at sports centers, my parents felt I was responsible enough and that the necessity was there.

[@lyndsey268]

I got my first flip phone when I was 12, but I also had a lot of hobbies that involved me without my parents. So it was mostly for my own safety. But I got my first smartphone when I was 19, and I’m 22 now 😆. That was kind of my choice, I think I could have gotten one a little earlier.

[@caitlindavidson6454]

@@lyndsey268 exactly, different people, different needs, different opinions

[@emma-leeswift875]

When I was born my mum made the decision to be completely open with me any question I had was answered in detail making sure i fully understood like periods, pregnancy, smoking nothing was off limits and it stopped me from wanting to experiencing taboo things myself and I would want to do that with my kids

[@elizabethann5308]

Yes! I can say this is so beneficial. I have a good friend who's mom was this way and I enjoyed talking with her so much as a young teen. I did not feel the same shame from her as I felt with my parents. It's not that my parents made feel like I should be ashamed for my questions it's just that I am more comfortable asking personal experience questions to strangers than I am to people I know.

[@emma-leeswift875]

@@elizabethann5308 I get that I feel like also her answering the question I asked and if she didnt know helping me to find the answer made much more inquisitive as I knew there was always an answer to any question

[@Lupita94294]

Same, my mom was very honest and open about that stuff!

[@autumnssssss]

as someone who was constantly put into time out as a child, i don’t talk to my parents about my feelings. didn’t when i was growing up either. being isolated when i was upset about something taught me that my parents didn’t care how i was feeling. i’m not telling anyone how to parent, but it’s something to consider.

[@eloiseg8395]

I'm not a parent, but I can only imagine that to avoid the feelings you have had and still have because of the time outs you had as a child, that maybe having a conversation with the child after the time out, to talk about what happened, and how they are feeling, and what to do or not to do next time, could help? That way parents could still give the kids time out to calm down and cool off, but also take time after with them to process their feelings and so the child know they're still supported and loved?

[@rosaderosee7430]

@@eloiseg8395 well even if you discuss it later on the child is still left alone with all the emotions etc. I'm not a parent either but I get the same vibes from timeout like the just let the baby cry on its own thing.

[@eloiseg8395]

@@rosaderosee7430 it guess it depends also how the parent tells the child to go in time out... if it's with a loud voice, impatient, rude almost, maybe that does send off the wrong message. But, untill we have children, we can't really understand the patience levels parents need. Sometime my nephew is an actual pain, and I see my sister gentle parent him as much as she can, but sometimes there's a certain limit as well. As much for her as the mom than for him as the child. 🤷🏼‍♀️ so I'm kinda split between both sides (no time outs vs time outs).

[@Alexis_9339]

I do time ins. So basically I walk my kid over to the side and remove him from whatever is going on. I explain that he needs to calm down/take a break, etc. we sit, I don’t leave him alone. If he’s very upset we take some deep breaths, count, etc. then afterwards I have him explain why he had to take a break and discuss the behavior and ways to behave differently. My kid is 3.5 and will even remove himself from a situation, walk over somewhere and take a few deep breaths, then he jumps back in.

[@melissag0448]

They probably just put you in time out and didn’t talk to you. Like she said after you calm down the parent has to talk to you and tell you what and why you did what you did was wrong

[@brooklynnbreece9283]

‘Screaming’ this one needs to be broadcasted to all parents. Yes 👏🏼 thanks for being so real and honest.

[@stariehearts2366]

My neighbour has 4 little girls and they scream all bloody day. Can't stand it

[@s.a3099]

Seriously. I have four kids and I do not allow screaming.

[@toribravo9462]

My parents were extremely physically, mentally and emotionally abusive when I was growing up. I'm trying to be patient and I follow a Gentle/Responsive parenting approach.

[@ririimari]

Same & same. Love to you.

[@ririimari]

I struggle with seeing myself in certain things like if I raise my voice. Do you experience this?

[@toribravo9462]

@@ririimari I do.

[@ririimari]

I'm glad to hear I am not alone! Thanks and wish u the best :)

[@maddiepiens8326]

@@ririimari me too, same situation here. I never want then to feel how I felt as a child.

[@rebeccaroyals9011]

I didn’t realize there were parents that didn’t have there kids help with cleaning until i started posting about my 2 year old helping me wipe the table. I was blown away by the back lash saying “she’s to young let her be a kid” 😳 I was raised to help out and I’ve passed that down to my kids we all are a family that has responsibility’s and I love teaching my kids how to take care of themselves ♥️

[@bmorena]

Your doing good boo 🌹

[@tinajsews2835]

@Raven Carlton Repent , Jesus Christ is coming back Repent.

[@laurengaskell2098]

I was also brought up a way that I was engaged in house chores, even though my family had someone to come and clean, and a gardener. But I had house chores duties and garden work to do alongside them. I did not always like it, but mostly did. And it gave me such good feeling of contributing something to the family, I had a way to express love to them in this way. So it made me happier, I do not get this "let them be kids" in this context. Yes, they are kids, but housework isn't some horrible punishment, it is a way to improve self-respect and self-esteem - as a child would see that they can do something valuable (as I did). So I am very glad I was brought up without being guarded from housework.

[@rebeccaanne3083]

@@Mariah-jo1nr my son is the same. He cries if I put away the hand towels as he likes to fold them and put them away together. He also Ives sweeping and vacuuming. And dishes, he loves playing in the sink and helping put away dishes or set the table. He is a good helper and loves it as do I.

[@sarahj164]

I think I agree with this! This is the type of parenting I want for my future kids. I was raised in a house where everything had to be perfect all the time, we basically did all the chores while my dad sat down, and if one thing was out of place we would get in so much trouble. We couldn’t even go to bed any night with dishes in the sink, even if it was a Friday night and we wanted to relax. That’s something I’ve had to unlearn as an adult - because in my situation I really don’t think we were “allowed” to be kids because my dad placed such high/perfectionistic expectations on us.

[@annsteffes10]

I am a preschool teacher and I agree with everything you have said! Way to go! Parenting used to be a profession and most treat it as a hobby. You however do not treat it as a hobby. So nice to hear there are parents like you out there.

[@emilyaurand3766]

It’s so sad it’s turned into a hobby. Looking at the world and the social media world today we can all see what that’s done to children. When parents are their kids friends instead of their parents.

[@maritzah.4039]

Wow true!

[@crystalgriffith1075]

That's why I decided not to have kids. I have had 7 back surgeries, starting at age 16, and I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to a hands on mom. I didn't want my kids to be a hobby for me and end up letting my mom or mother in law raise them.

[@michiebutterfly7785]

@@crystalgriffith1075 I have an autoimmune disease that effects my spine, and joints. I have been on disability since my son was 7 and sick since he was 2. There are definitely some things I cannot do, but there are a lot of things I can! My husband is a great partner, and we support each other in every aspect of parenting! It’s not about the things you can’t do because of your disability that make it a hobby. Sarah’s speaking more of the fact that she has clearly put a lot of thought and planning into her and her husband’s parenting choices!!! It’s people like you, (who worry about being a good and the right, mama) who would make a great mama!!💛💛💛

[@naelariddle1659]

Parenting used to be a profession because people could afford to stay home….

[@claire7418]

I'm a teen but I totally love this series! It's so interesting to hear these points from a parent's perspective. Your voice is so calming for some reason; you should definitely consider a podcast!

[@MostlyCaffeinated]

Nobody ever told me to do it, but the very first time my very first kid full-up SCREAMED for no reason I decided that wasn't happening. Our go-to statement was "we only scream if it's an emergency. Is this an emergency?"

[@RebekahSBryan]

This is such helpful advice for the future! I love that.

[@acornsandhoney2763]

This works perfectly with my 2 year old. But my 4 year old just just screams and intermittently yells "ITS AN EMERGENCY!!" (even though its not) to justify her screaming. 🙄 Of course we've had countless discussions on why that's not ok. She screams for stimulation and has ever since Day One. Any suggestions anyone??

[@lexiswanson8112]

@@acornsandhoney2763 she sounds advanced enough to have you explain a criteria of what makes a situation an actual emergency

[@ahra6598]

@@acornsandhoney2763 perhaps, institute a consequence for false screaming. Read the boy who cried wolf to show how things can go wrong, or similar story. Provide an alternative to replace screaming. It depends why she is doing it. A 4 year old should know inside and outside voice, especially if she’s been in school.

[@robynhab]

My new neighbours could do with a chat with you! Their son talks and screams so loud. He had a sleepover the other day with a friend in a tent in the back garden. Up shouting till like 3 in the morning! So annoying.

[@lenassecond]

Can you make a video on how you discipline your kids? Like how you deal with tantrums, when they dont get along with others, etc?

[@lollsazz]

I think she already made a video on that quite some time ago

[@RobRoysDaughter]

Look Up Marshall Rosenberg. I Love His nonviolent communication.

[@MariaGonzalezGifts]

Yes to this I have a 2 year old daughter that literally runs my house 💁‍♀️she's the queen of sass around here 👸 👑

[@audraandrews4281]

@@MariaGonzalezGifts Because you are allowing it.

[@alyssapraiswater6422]

Okay, YES, to the screaming thing! I used to run an after-school program/day camp for kids and the rule was always "you can scream if someone is taking you, there is a fire, or you are hurt... that's it." and I will continue to apply this principle with my own kids as they get old enough as well as my daycare kiddos.

[@shellyrenee8191]

Being older, in my mid 40's, I have to say that everything you are speaking on is amazing. Keep being a mentor to the younger and older who are raising their grandchildren. Conversations are amazing for everyone. Keep up the good work momma. You are doing an amazing job.

[@Christine72487]

When I was a kid (I do not have kids) my mother was *adamant* that from toddler age and up I had restaurant manners. I knew what forks and spoons to use and I never threw food or made a mess or bothered other patrons. People used to comment "how do you get your kid(s) to behave?!" and mom was like "They aren't given a different option...?" Like, if we acted up in a restaurant my mom or dad would take us outside and that would be it - the other parent would stay and get the check and we would be told that we were the reason we lost our dining our privilege

[@ShiningForHim247]

“They aren’t given an option” brilliant! That’s how I train my 4yo. I tell him what he is doing is “not appropriate” and if it continues there will be repercussions. He really does well and all that nonsenses not an option!

[@itscool770]

It depends on the age but I think most toddlers don’t care if they lose the privilege to go out to eat... most toddlers don’t care to go sit at some restaurant for an hour or more and be expected to sit still and act like an adult when they aren’t an adult. Even I have a hard time sitting still for that long so I definitely don’t expect my toddler to be able to. My son was so good at restaurants up until around 13 months when he started walking and wanting to explore. At that point we just stopped taking him out to eat. Then around 18 ish months he started being able to chill for around 45 min to an hour if we were lucky and I didn’t expect any more than that from him. I try not to have adult expectations on a child. Going out to eat is not that important when they are at such a young age. That’s my opinion anyway.

[@ACC-2929]

Yes to all of this. People don’t understand why I don’t buy my kids an iPad or entertain them with my phone, monitor what they watch or listen, why I don’t let them scream for silliness, etc... I think parenting is a lazy thing for many now... not us.

[@Shadeadder]

YES about screaming. My mother never let us yell unless something was wrong, as a courtesy to the people around us. It amazes me how many parents just let their kids screech all over the place and disturb other people. They usually grow up to be the adults who have no volume control. EDIT: can y'all chill, i know ASD exists

[@jessicasantos6690]

Yeah, I hate it when kids scream. 😬 The other day I was inside and heard a kid screeching in the most obnoxious way outside for like 5 straight minutes. When they finished I heard parent say "good God!" But did they lift a finger to stop it? No!

[@hayleymarse2853]

Exactly. But at the same time, I always feel horrible for the kids whose parents scream at them for doing anything wrong. It’s super important parents discipline their kids but also respect their kids

[@jessicasantos6690]

@@hayleymarse2853 absolutely!! It's such a fine line. If you scream at your kid as a response to them screaming, that's not gonna do jack squat 😅 And they are little humans. They need to be taught, not punished. There's a big difference between punishment and discipline. The parent I heard the other day was so irritated and rude to their child for screaming (despite doing nothing to stop it). That's not okay. You start out by kindly telling them why screaming isn't good.

[@Growth234]

^ yes, witnessed this many times too :(

[@heythereitsissy]

My Mum always uses the saying “screaming is for emergencies” and it was so nice to grow up in a home where nobody screams!

[@allisonmiller3148]

Everything you said is THE SAME for me. Their friends think I’m very strict, even my parents think I’m strict, but my kids are extremely well behaved the majority of the time and it’s because we HAVE RULES and we enforce them. I’m glad I’m not the only one!

[@Carlyon100]

OMG. I agree to let kids be kids but also give kids boundaries and goals they can aspire to. Kids need to be Creative. Intentional. Deliberate. Consistent. Moderate. Respectful. Aware. Mindful. Motivated. Responsible. Capable.

[@claudiavega3381]

You are a great mom. I can't tell you how refreshing it is to see a mother who actually cares about the well-being of children.

[@TinaMartinez97]

The scream thing! Yes! Omg I never get why parents let their kids scream like they are being stabbed

[@mylifeisameme9408]

@Helena Lara Pena I personally agree with you on this not all kids are the same some need to let their feelings, stress, plus energy out

[@lizzylambardo8103]

@@mylifeisameme9408 I think it's dependent on the situation and the kid, but i also think there's generally better outlets for emotions than just screaming. You can dance, or stomp around pretending to be a dinosaur who is destroying everything in its path when you're that angry (though the only things you can throw around are soft things and only where things won't get broken). You can sing angry songs as loud as you can. You can punch pillows. You can put on tap shoes and stomp your feet on the concrete. You can scream into a pillow. You can take a baseball bat outside and hit a baseball as hard as you can against the fence. You can flop down on your bed, scream into your pillows and flail your arms and legs around. There's so many other options besides just screaming. And there's a difference between screaming and shouting, right? When i think of screaming, i think of those blood curdling, top of your lungs, something just scared the ever living daylights out of me and im traumatized type of scream. There's two scenarios for that: something terrible is happening, or you're on an amusement park/carnival ride. Screaming into a pillow is fine too, but just screaming at the top of your lungs out into the open air and disturbing anyone and everyone within earshot? That, to me, isn't really acceptable behavior. You can be loud, you can shout, you can make lots of noise. But to me, screams mean something is wrong, someone is injured, someone is in danger (or, you're at a carnival/amusement park on a ride).

[@alleycat616]

I just feel like it’s a normal part of being a kid. It of course depends on what they are doing and the location but for example, spraying the hose at each other in the backyard I would expect them to be screaming and acting silly not being noiseless mice.

[@Mescreamingstar]

My 26 month old, didn't watch TV at all, until he was 24 months. 2 months of having TV in his life, and I highly regret the dission to bring it into his life. He is now always asking to watch something. His individual play has changed, his behavior has changed.

[@katew1030]

A variable, or two, that can also affect this is the fact that he was turning 24 months (a developmental milestone) at the same time as introducing TV. His play habits and behavior would've shifted and transitioned around that time, tv or not.

[@valerieblomquist1253]

I was raised without a TV and plan to do the same with my kids. I consider my phone to be somewhat Tv like and I really want to keep them from being on a phone too. We will see how that goes tho lol... starts with the parents example!

[@Mescreamingstar]

@@valerieblomquist1253 we don't have a TV accessible to our kids. We have a large fishtank, and a large window that we have a bird feeder to look at. We tell the kids if they want to watch something they can watch the birds outside or the fish. Lol But we started giving them a tablet....witch is my biggest regret. They watch KZbin. And now constantly ask for the tablet.

[@RachelDee]

I have a 26 month old boy too and we avoid screens as well! Good for you! Remember, Mama. He knows your authority matters. He's trying to confirm exactly what the stable boundary line is. You get to decide what limits to enforce and there's nobody grading us when we realize we backtracked more than we wanted to. If there's an atypical day (week, month, etc), it's never too early and never too late to firmly and gently lay down the boundary again. I have friends with all various circumstances and some of them have decided to let TV time look different day to day while being more regular in other areas. Know where you want to be more or less lenient and how it's serving you guys well. It's *always* the worst the first few days, but it's worth it to rip the bandaid off, so to speak. Whenever you're ready enough to do that, just prepare yourself to be calm and stable in your responses. Reaffirm what choices he still has. You got this! P.s. Colin Kartchner is a great resource on scream time/social media and behavior for kids

[@elizabethdavis3417]

It's never too late to make it disappear again! My husband and Inso often say how blessed we are that the kids don't see TV. That said, I think they are.all the more sensitive to it when they do see it bbn other place or when we watch a movie, so we need to be really attentive.

[@mehamurmurs1686]

I like that you explained that your not judging others or hating other parenting styles. Sometimes videos like this can come off mom-shamey. But it really just takes all sorts and everyone’s different

[@natashajoym]

Oh my goodness, this is brilliant. You are an amazing mother! I’m not a parent but I’ve been a nanny for years and I’ve seen tons of different parenting styles. The way you’re raising them is going to set them up to be truly wonderful people.

[@erickr9187]

I am 30 yo and 9 weeks pregnant with our first baby. This video embodies exactly how I want to raise this child and all children that may follow. What an amazing mama you are 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@Littleheartz-y1t]

Im 25 yo and 9 weeks pregnant with our first baby 😍

[@erickr9187]

Congratulations!!! 🎉🧸🎈

[@victoriaannmiddleton318]

as a 65 year old grandmother, all of your comments are brilliant. How lovely if more parents took the time and patience it needs to instruct their children the same

[@trashpandageek]

I am still very young (23) but I couldn't agree more! I read so many comments on this page of women who seem to be great moms! More people should learn from this!

[@alexandravann6043]

Your parenting techniques are so refreshing. You keep on trucking mama, you’re doing a wonderful job 💚

[@readthefineprint9914]

I was looking for a good descriptive word to use for her, her parenting and just her person in general. That's it. It's refreshing. She is refreshing. Thank you @SarahTherese for being such a refreshment. 😊🍹

[@h.smith.6586]

Every time I speak of giving my son discipline, I get accused to beating him because I take him in the bathroom to do it when in public. I take him to the bathroom to not embarrass him but basically its a time out, one minute per year old, and discuss why it was wrong and what to do instead. Its the people that accuse me of abuse that have the biggest misbehaved kids. Lol

[@tanyajohnston8262]

maybe taking to your car or outside, would be best as taking to a bathroom may have other worries. Just a thought

[@tiffanywheeler48]

We also go to the bathroom usually. Vehicles are too public and still adds shame and humiliation. If your child is shamed, it’s not discipline.

[@h.smith.6586]

@Mira G if you reread my post you will see i don't leave him alone. I said we discuss it.

[@tanyajohnston8262]

@@tiffanywheeler48 that is true. I guess I'm thinking if it is a talk to discipline/educate, then outside or car could work.

[@tanyajohnston8262]

@Rebecca Kessler sorry I don't agree. Children need help to regulate first then if they need some time in quiet that is fine. I worked until retirement at Chldren's Aid Society and the best way to help a child is called the Circle of Security. This helps them to regulate their feelings in a supportive way. "Time Outs" does not show they are safe and secure or supported by the adult in their life but sitting with and allowing some time together, then talk and maybe a time for them if they need to adjust.

[@sylviafrida819]

My parents were always adamant about waiting for the other people to get served before start eating, wait for them to finish to excuse myself, always excuse myself politely and to bring my plates to the sink. I remember my parents' friends were always amazed by how my brother and I were well behaved during meals, even at a very young age, and now that I'm 28 yo I also get compliments for my politeness at the table. Being polite and cosiderate is THE thing I'm most thankful for about my education and opened me so many doors, both professionally and emotionally. (Sorry for any mistakes, not a native in English)

[@williamvanort536]

Hey Sarah! So much we do agree on. Thanks for sharing! I dont let my kids interrupt conversations that I’m having with another adult. (This is a work in progress) I don’t let my kids run the show, if I said we’re having chicken casserole I don’t want to hear them say I don t like that, let’s make this other thing instead. I want them to be grateful and we can talk about food they like a different day but not when I have already decided what we’re having.

[@kelly_turney]

Using mundane moments as learning opportunities was the best part of being homeschooled growing up. It helped me so so much. The same goes with responsibility, I feel like a much more responsible adult becuase of the trust and jobs my parents gave me growing up.

[@SavannahLewie]

I could listen to you talk about parenting for HOURS. So much wisdom for this new mama to soak in. Thank you! 💛

[@inni3642]

❤️❤️❤️

[@ciararobb8049]

Being a good mom is my biggest goal in life. Married...20... Still have like 7 years of graduate school... But I'm preparing 🤣😘 love hearing your ideas about raising children!

[@MrsReed-lf9iz]

My 10 year cousin wear acrylic nail and it kind of makes me sad. Let’s not grow up too fast kiddos.

[@gladysespinal1834]

This is LITERALLY how I was raised, and I am VERY thankful for my parents raising me this way!

[@cinthiaham1517]

There are no dumb kids, just kids that haven’t been taught acceptable behavior. All kids are smart, and as parents we can do better at teaching them to do well. But also no need to put down kids who ( due to lack of parenting) don’t behave to our personal standards, it’s not their fault. Children need more grace and love ❤️ Sweet video! Good topic and conversation starter! Keep it up mama!

[@Sarassparkles]

i love how well spoken you are, like i personally disagree with a few things but i completely respect and admire what you're doing for your kids.

[@servantwarrior880]

I really enjoy how many of her viewers agree to disagree and respect the other's differences.

[@kaitlynwagner1628]

My 6 siblings and i were raised almost exactly like this and honestly i loved it!! we felt so loved, but had alot of boundaries and had responsibilities and were taught to take care of ourselves! You're doing so awesome raising capable respectful kids!

[@katieanderson61]

I love that you don’t let your kids scream-it’s so annoying! And not touching cellphones-it’s frustrating to see a mom say “my phone is broken”-well you let your 2 year old play with it!! 🙄

[@jessicasantos6690]

Agreed. Kids have no business on any adult's cellphone.

[@sesil0060]

I want to add that make sure you talk about kids with disabilities might scream. I have an 8yr old with autism that does this Dino growling sound more then she talks. Is it weird because she's bigger yes but it's alot of behind the scenes therapy that goes on working on that

[@stariehearts2366]

Yes! Us kids didn't get a phone till age 16, I don't care what anyone says, no child needs a smartphone below the age of 16 or 17. If they need to communicate, a flip phone with no internet is enough. My 14 y old sis still has a flip phone and it's lovely knowing she doesn't spend time watching yt

[@jijiian]

Kids and mature clothing, THANK YOU. I know as parents or as just normal human beings we don't see our kids as anything but innocent and cute. But there are a lot of creeps that our kids may be protected from simply by dressing like kids.

[@hacky_sackin]

I agree

[@bun0500]

I think this is totally right but, maybe idk they want to buy a short skirt, they feel comfy and they think they look great on it, why not let them wear those at home until they grow a little older? Maybe that way you could let them choose if they want to wear it without putting them on risk

[@paws4amoment350]

As a Kindergarten teacher, I really appreciate the way you and your hubby are raising your children!

[@shannonochs1228]

I don’t put my son in time out. Typically if he’s being defiant, I talk him through deep breathing and ways to calm himself down without isolation. Usually when a kid acts out or is being stubborn, they need guidance for those built-up emotions. We read a feelings book and discuss what just happened. We talk about how to move forward to prevent that from occurring again. I just believe that isolation punishment doesn’t give a child the tools they need to properly handle outbursts. They need to know that their emotions are normal but how they handle them is key.

[@avartarjp]

Yes 🙌🏻. That’s also what modern psychology is teaching ☺️

[@Sarah-ty5ev]

Growing up, my parents always took the time to answer my questions and encourage my curiosity. I give them so much credit for doing that, and I really think it enabled me to develop and keep my love of learning about anything. That led all the way to me becoming an engineer, and I can’t thank them enough!

[@shelbobaggins0]

I tell my kids screaming is for emergencies only.

[@abrewer7931]

Girl yes with the clothes they had booty shorts in a 5t at target WTH!! Absolutely NOT!! Veggie tales music is always a go to in our house!

[@abrewer7931]

@@SarahTherese YEEESSS!! The cheeseburger song is my jam!!

[@tashainjena]

@@SarahTherese Don't forget The Hairbrush Song!

[@littlelambinparadise]

@@SarahTherese I'm not Christian but Veggietales songs are bops. I love My Baby Elf.

[@Michelle200794]

the screaming thing THANK YOU! I've gotten into so many discussions with my partner about this as his three year old is constantly sreaming the house down whenever something doesn't suit him or even just for fun. It get's to the point that we've had issues with our neighbours. And this is a great example that "it's just what kids do" is not entirely true. Yes it's what kids naturally want to do but it's on the adults to guide them on when it's appropriate. It's not doing little one any favors either, as people have commented on how it makes him very difficult to be around. Now, in public my partner will ask him to stop but I don't think it should be any different at home especially bc it must be so much more confusing beimg allowed to do one thing at home but not outside. I am honestly worried about how it's going to impact our future kids as I am not willing to let that slide with them so I'll end up having to explain why their big brother can scream his head off and they can't

[@myself0510]

I must have that mug! For coffee 1. Nail polish: I will occasionally paint my son's fingernails, when he asks for it. For the fun colours. Usually he wants the colour removed within 5 minutes. He also painted his entire hand with nail polish. But it's not a "grown up" thing, I agree with that, it's just play. 2. Agree with not sexy clothing. Though... I don't want to teach him to hide his body 3. Yes! Learn everything! Answer every question! When we don't know, we ask Google. 4. Yes, please! Teach behaviour! 5. I don't not let him watch cartoons. We just don't, really. He does watch Peppa and Paw Patrol and likes that but not really that much. 6. I agree with the music thing, I don't really listen to stuff with bad words anyway... 7. Yeah... We need a bit more structure for meal time. Not sure I like that bit about your hubby being the head of the household. Sorry, feminism won't let me. We have two heads. 8. Agree 9. He needs to ask permission, unless we're voice chat with Dad. Then he can touch it. 10. I should be stricter with that... He knows how to, we teach him how to, but I'm not strict enough. 11. That's a really nice way to keep busy. 12. Agree

[@hayleymarse2853]

The man being “head of the household” doesn’t mean he is any more important than his wife nor that she is “below” him

[@myself0510]

@@hayleymarse2853 look, to each their own. For me personally, the phrasing irks me. Same as the idea that they ask permission from the Dad not the Mum as well. I mean, I don't really like the idea of a head at all. Again just me but I've never asked permission to leave the table, I knew to wait until people finished. I'd rather make decisions together as a team and the team leader charges depending on the situation. Visit my parents, I'm team leader in the city because I know the lay of the land. Ditto for visiting hubby's parents. And my son is team leader when we go out for his entertainment (mostly). He decides where we go, what bus to take, how to get to the bus, where we sit on the bus, where and when we eat, if we eat out. I might play the Mum card when it comes to leaving.

[@hayleymarse2853]

@@myself0510 I definitely get where you are coming from and I mostly agree! I just was explaining what that meant. In my family, my dad is “the head of the house” but it is always my mother who my siblings ask if they can be excused, etc. It’s definitely different for every family but I think the term “head of the house” has evolved

[@hayleymarse2853]

@@myself0510 also, random, but thank you so much for still being respectful when you disagree! There are so many people who are extremely rude on the internet so it’s nice to see someone being mature

[@myself0510]

@@hayleymarse2853 Thanks! I don't know why I thought of that scene from Zootropolis after Judy buys Nick the ice cream and she tells him he's a great Dad...

[@gracecoffeeandchaos.3446]

I LOVE all of this. I have 4 kids ages 12 years to 10 months. Some of this I've learned as I went & through lots of trial & error-- You are incredibly wise, and doing a very good job.

[@melissalee1709]

You are basically discussing my childhood where my parents instilled great values and Christian character. It is very rare to see in your generation. I have kids around your age and I hope they will be a great mom like yourself. Kids need rules and clear boundaries. It will make them wonderful human beings for the rest of their lives.

[@desireediaz1712]

As a mom of 2 adult sons, my goal was to raise them to be kind, loving, respectful, productive citizens. I’m proud to say that at 35 and 37, they are that and more. To this day, my husband and I continue to receive compliments on how polite and respectful our sons are. As a retired administrator of a private school, I saw too many parents parent out of guilt because both parents worked. And because of that, these children were given anything and everything they wanted. And for some parents it’s much easier to give in to the temper tantrums than to impose any type of boundaries or discipline. I commend you and your husband for doing a great job raising your children. It’s obvious they’re being taught morals and values, something that is missing in many homes. Keep doing what you’re doing!❤️❤️

[@chocolatericecakes]

Oh these kids are going to be SUCH amazing people!! Love your implementation of rules at dinner, to this day I have the phrase “may I please be excused?” in my head from my childhood 😂 They must be such joys when they go to friends’ houses 💕

[@elisabethnuchowich2550]

I would love to know "how" you enforce/teach your rules and values to the kids. Especially if they are breaking them, how do you discipline them? What is your process?

[@grilledcheesebb2318]

Yessss, this!

[@elisabethnuchowich2550]

I think this may be what people mean when they ask you to share the "raw" stuff.

[@TheKnallkorper]

I do not hit my kids or time out for them. The only time I give them "time out" is when they literally need to take a break from being too crazy or whatever. But time outs consist of me sitting with them reading a story or practicing their penmanship, whatever.

[@DarlingKaya]

i feel sad that people have to mention that they dont hit their kids. Its illegal to hit your kids, it shouldnt be a thing to even have to mention.

[@TheKnallkorper]

@@DarlingKaya I saw a woman on TikTok that boasted about hitting her kids, and she called her county sheriff to see what was legal and what was not. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I was sick to my stomach when she said she could bend them over and smack them. Then she said “punish your kids”

[@Sabrina07197]

What a good and responsible parent you are. And so is Keeran . I work in schools with kids of all ages and most Times im disgusted by how theyre raised. No one is teaching them responsability and respect. Its crazy

[@Evastime4]

Not a mama yet, but the "scream" topic was really interesting. Never thought about it this way. Niiice ❤️💯

[@feliciamyers1377]

Love this! One thing I do not let my kids do is stay overnight at anyone's house unless there is an emergency reason to do so. 💛

[@hannahsharon1]

So many of these resonate with me! I have two 2-year-olds so we are in training mode. For the screaming thing, my husband always tells them, "The words of the pure are pleasant words." So now they will end it and say "pleasant words," which is super cute! Totally agree with dressing kids like kids! I also don't like the "Little Monster" and other shirts with rude sayings on them!

[@sarateixeira2561]

The whole "the husband is the head of the house" thing makes my blood boil to be honest...

[@joanareis4483]

Same, it gives me christian cult vibes, i dislike it very much

[@Jesswrites33]

For Christian families it isn’t about this like “domination” thing or something. The husband being the head of the house doesn’t mean he just makes decisions without talking to his wife or bosses her around. That’s not what it is. It still is a partnership in a healthy marriage. It’s more about trusting in him to be like a leader for the whole family, especially in spiritual matters. And this “position” so to say also comes with the responsibility to take care of his wife and family and protect them. Just thought I’d share because I see so many people misunderstand what this is all about. I used to view it the same way too.

[@sarateixeira2561]

@@Jesswrites33 I appreciate you explaining this in a kind way ❤️ I have no doubt they are very happy together, but to me gender roles make no sense. Why does someone need to be in charge and why does it have to be the man? So Sarah cooks, cleans, does all the chores and takes care of the kids while also working from home (to me it seems like SHE is the head of the house and looks out for the whole family) , but the kids ask HIM if they can leave the table? I have nothing against him, he seems lovely but I don't understand this, I really don't. And while I know it works for them and I respect that, she is an influencer and lots of young girls look up to her so this sexist message just doesn't sit right with me 😔

[@mackenziewesten8506]

Definitely! My family is Jewish (very lax, reformed), and I grew up with my mom making more decisions than my dad. It was always “go ask your mom.” They both cooked and cleaned. It taught me to be a strong independent woman with my own ideas and opinions. In my relationship, it is similar. We are a partnership, but I usually have the final “say” in decisions. But I also wouldn’t want to be considered “the head of the house,” because there isn’t one- we’re partners.

[@domain600]

@@sarateixeira2561 Hi friend! Such a lovely response. I also had a similar distaste in this idea that the husband is the head of the household. I really recommend watching this short video that puts this “submission” into perspective! kzbin.info/www/bejne/jmfZinajdtWsqKM

[@piadeldossi6551]

The best thing about being italian and listening to english-speaking music is that I can listen to whatever I want without my Kid understanding...FOR NOW.

[@lisamedla]

FOR NOW

[@jennmoore7960]

I love how intentional you are with your children. You are a wonderful example of training up children. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

[@jaelynrae8836]

wonder about what is considered “mature clothing” for boys? I hear a lot of parents saying that they don’t let their girls wear certain things or do certain things with regards to beauty. It just hurts my heart seeing how girls are so restricted in their self expression where boys don’t often have to think of that. What are your thoughts? Disclaimer: I support your choices and I agree in a lot of ways. You are a great mom and it is great that you are considering these things. But how do we make it equal for our boys so that our girls don’t feel like they are being held to a higher standard than the boys or have harsher limitations?

[@adagioborntrager4456]

Maybe possible walking around shirtless? Muscles shirts or tight clothing? Unfortunately women are over sexualized in this culture. When they wear something pretty it’s considered hot or sexy. But for men it’s just handsome or manly.

[@abigailbetts3421]

Honestly I think that girls have more clothing choices to begin with, so limiting what girls wear still leaves them with more options than boys. I agree with a previous commenter that muscle shirts and tight clothing are somethings that should be out of young boys closets. And there is a difference between something pretty and something sexual.

[@rebeccacarter3016]

@@abigailbetts3421 I don't know...after a summer hurricane, a muscle shirt is not a bad choice (no electricity for days and days).

[@merrimankaylynn]

Amen to this!!

[@lisamedla]

I'm supposing for boys/men the equivalent would be not allowing them to run around shirtless or wearing shorter shorts?

[@manuelafernandes3545]

I'm 16, and i don't have kids, but i love the way that you discipline yours. I believe that the childhood is the most important time of the growth as human, and I'm in love with how you are with your children ❤️love from Brazil🇧🇷

[@ladybugflv]

More parenting videos, please! Your kids seem to be raised so well, videos on this topic are those I enjoy the most from you and are so informative!

[@ArielSling]

My now 2 year old started helping me unload the dishwasher (by himself) at 15 months old. I didn’t tell him to do it, I didn’t ask for his help, he just observed me doing it all the time and then started doing it himself because he wanted to help “mama”. It’s his favorite activity still to this day. He does so much more as well, but I agree that it’s so important to help them build a sense of independence on their own. Praising them as well, is such a HUGE part of positive reinforcement and parenting. Way to go mama!

[@pbutler]

My mum used to paint our nails when we were little because we would sit still while we waited for it to dry and she could go and get some jobs done in peace

[@thetiredworm2100]

😂

[@conniehaberman6476]

My mom painted our toenails when we were sleeping in our cribs. Cuz that's when we were still enough for her to paint them & time to dry. 🌹

[@annetteelder-clark505]

As your little ones grow up, their interests will dictate your scheduling. One wants gymnastics, one wants guitar, one wants baseball, another wants to pursue photography. Then you have to school them & go to church as well. Honestly, it's exhausting. So as a Mom with grown kids, please keep practicing the "not over scheduling them" for both their benefit & your own. You only have so many hours in a day & whatever they love will require practice to get proficient in it, so one of my best learned lessons was limit their extra curriculars. They will evolve & interests will change, & you can be flexible, but definitely guard your time... cause you ain't getting it back. 🙂

[@millacernemusic]

This 100%!

[@QuirkandChaos]

I don't have kids yet, but I love listening to stuff like this, I guess as prep for when I do have babies. :) Thanks for sharing

[@jennifermizrahi98]

As to the painted nails- I think it is fine for BOTH girls and boys to do so. It’s about expression which is important. I don’t let my son touch my phone or scream. But I do let him jump on the couch. We are all different raising great kids:)

[@Lilaliba88]

What exactly would a toddler or 4-5 y/o express by painting their nails?

[@keirajones5062]

I have five kids and I've been a mum for 19 years. The main things I've always made sure to do are 1- never laugh at my children, even if they say something cute and innocently hilarious. 2- apologize if I'm in the wrong. 3- be readily available whenever they need to talk, even about the smallest things, all my kids, especially my oldest know they can come to me with the big things too and I will listen.

[@h.smith.6586]

I wasn't allowed to paint my nails until the 10th grade or wear makeup until I was 16 or get contacts until 16. I was the only one in my group that wasn't but I was ok with it. I believe in letting kids be kids as long as possible.

[@BriXheese]

Until I got to 8th grade I wasn’t allowed to paint my nails unless my mom did it, and even then it had to be a light color like pink. She never wanted to do it though so my nails were never painted lol

[@annakinskywalker]

I actually saw something the other day about contact wearing for children. The optometrist said that he recommends kids who are able to insert and remove (and properly care for) contacts to wear them as it could promote more playtime outside. Glasses can get annoying when you're running around playing sports and games, and but if you can't see well without glasses then you're not going to want to go pay outside much either. Obviously this 1 thing alone isn't going to get kids to play outside more, but it was definitely an interesting perspective!

[@annakinskywalker]

@@ruthpowell88 Exactly! Perhaps the fact that contacts require more responsibilities for hygienic reasons may make them "just for adults." But I feel like with proper training and supervision, contacts could be so beneficial for many children! Along the lines with tampons and menstral cups. It would suck for a girl who happened to get their period younger to not be able to swim and enjoy water play just because the products are deemed too adult. When it's not more aesthetic purposes and could actually be beneficial for the child, I don't see why they can't be taught how to properly use these sorts of medically necessary products 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@mestherm2562]

I find your opinion on clothing and nails interesting. As someone who grew up Christian and am no longer, this idea of modesty and purity feels quite prescribed by society and religion. The idea that painted nails and clothes cut in a certain way is immodest is definitely driven by fear and a desire to protect from the outside. If someone is perceiving your child as something other than a child than that is their problem. As a child who wanted to have painted nails and all different types of clothes, it came from a desire to explore, understand who I was and be creative. Because of my parents restricting this I felt this strange tension later in life to present myself as a more ‘pure’ version of myself to make others feel more comfortable.

[@hacky_sackin]

I agree in part with your explanation in that self-expression is very important in developing who you are as a person, but I do have to say that, with all of the horrible things that are happening to our young ladies today, protection is very important. But it shouldn't be compared to, or even equated to "sheltering", which is what I think a lot of our youth think is happening in their homes, but really isn't. With your statement of "If someone is perceiving your child as something other than a child than that is their problem.", I couldn't disagree more. I would actually say that it IS your problem, specifically because that IS your child. It is very important to let those people know that it is NOT okay to view any child like that. Unfortunately, today, it is easy to come across these instances, but that shouldn't be an excuse for not doing something about it.

[@popchinesemusic2023]

Praying that everyone falls asleep quickly and has a peaceful sleep. Hope you all wake up happy and well rested 👍😀😍

[@lena-aline]

is it weird that i wish i would have grown up with you as a mom? haha. i grew up with zero boundaries and felt completely out of control and it resulted in a lot of coping mechanisms that took me many years to recover from. you're wonderful

[@raeperonneau4941]

I love that you are planning rights of passage for your daughters! My parents were “older“ parents and were very big on certain things happening on a time schedule so that I always had something to look forward to. I couldn’t get my ears pierced until I was 12 I couldn’t wear, very natural, makeup until I was 14, I couldn’t Date until I was 16, and every year I got more freedom but also more responsibility in our home. My Dad took me to buy my first fragrance and my first pair of high heals. I am 58 and the memory of those moments are truly beautiful. Traditional cultures often have rights of passage to mark stages of maturity, more often for men than women, but I think they’re psychologically important for everyone.

[@briannashaughnessy714]

I love seeing the notification pop up when your video is being uploaded!! Anyone feel the same way? 💕

[@jessicagerlach6147]

Yep!! :)

[@danieeccc]

What a great mother you are! I'm 19 years old now, and have so much respect for how my parents raised me in comparison to others I go to college with. Your kids will thank you one day I promise!! Loved this video.

[@crystaldean7668]

I don't understand why you wouldn't teach your children to pick up garbage? 1. It would teach them not to litter. And 2. It would teach them a way to care for our earth. 3. It would teach good character. You can also teach your kids to wash their hands after. And you can supervise what they pick up.

[@tammytownsend5535]

Couldn’t agree more. “Not my trash, but my earth” should be taught to every child and adult.

[@candicesummers5427]

I think she is against it because: do you really want your child picking up someone’s cigarette, drug needle, dirty underwear, souled diapers, porn magazines, or used condom? (yes I have seen all of these items at a children’s playgrounds). I teach them to throw their own trash away and occasionally have outings dedicated to picking up trash and cleaning up where they are supervised, wearing gloves, and we have a place where we can clean up after. Sometimes when you are out and about, there is not always a convenient spot to wash your hands.

[@hacky_sackin]

I am so glad you are teaching your kids the way you learned as a child, and even how I learned as a child. I am 18 years old, and I find it so refreshing that your children are being taught the same way I was taught at their age, *especially as little ones. My little brother, who's 9 right now, almost always watches TV, and rarely goes outside. From as early as 7AM to as late as 8PM on weekends, and close to that amount of time on wkdays, with the exception of school time (which only ever adds up to about 7-8 hrs of the regular day). It's so sad to see this occur more frequently in today's society because these parents aren't giving their children the opportunity to grow and develop! :( I remember when I did not have access to the TV, or the devices we have today, because they were too new, and were not brought into my life! This allowed me the opportunity to go outside, educate myself, play with my sister, and create strong connections with my friends. This new technology is a blessing and a curse :(

[@Samsartescape]

So while you were talking about the music, I was thinking that I would love a video about your favourite Christian bands/musicians. I’m always looking for new ones ☺️

[@calliejay8246]

I agree 💯 mama! I am a firm believer that peace and joy can abide in our homes. I always want my babies to feel capable, safe, and loved.

[@newme123]

Giggling to myself with my 3 year old running around with blue sparkly chipped nail polish 🤣 we love it, such a fun mummy and daughter thing to do 🥰

[@vikmndza]

Haha same! It literally is blue with the ring finger being sparkly 😂 (also chipped btw)

[@mackenziewesten8506]

Exactly!!

[@Spectacululu]

I'm not a parent and I find things like this really interesting to listen to! It's quite therapeutic to listen to someone else chat and talk about themselves :)

[@katrinagraudina9803]

I remember how my mother painted my nails. My mom later explained that I didn't let her cut my nails other way. Only if she painted it later. I remember how i liked the clear nail polish with stars :) (Mom only painted my nails in nude colors or just clear with some sparkly things)

[@nicolecrane3119]

One thing that I did notice is that the first to items were very clearly about female appearance, without any sort of similarity for males.

[@erikathomas7671]

One thing we don’t allow is time outs, we don’t do them and we don’t allow anyone else to give them to our children! For us we prefer to talk things out instead of sending them away to forcibly isolate. If we talk about what happened, how they are feeling and a solution and then they WANT some alone time then that’s obviously totally cool for us. Just an interesting thing since that’s something you touched on that you do! To each their own ☺️

[@marianogueira7506]

100% agree. What’s the point of a timeout anyway?

[@victoriae16]

100% agree with every thing you said!

[@hisloveiseternal1]

This is all helpful. I'm taking advice from both sides and will see what works best for my child since everyone is different.

[@anamichele4485]

You genuinely help me be a better mama ❤️

[@d.c.1851]

I was over scheduled as a teen and I honestly think it made me socially delayed. I had no idea what people my age were doing because I was so busy with sports.

[@stitchedscorpio]

my dad was a teacher for 30 years and I was very much raised to ask questions. Whenever something would come up in conversation that he knew I wouldn’t be familiar with he would start the conversation and explain it to me in detail and this allowed me to then ask questions when I was unaware of what was going on. it really made me a life long learner!

[@Lemoncholy7]

The pretend nail polish idea is precious! I love that

[@julia.md2b707]

My mom did not let me run in the house which I think that I appreciate now. But she also had a rule that I had to follow the rules of other peoples house which meant if their kids were running and playing I could too. I taught me situational relativity which I really appreciate now as an adult.

[@AW-pp4ss]

I don't really care for the gender roles being forced onto children, but this is a pretty solid list minus that.

[@zenobiaaibonez844]

What number was that?

[@MihaelaClaudiaPuscas]

I love that you are genuine, not trying to appear different from what you are! Personally, there's nothing I enjoy more than watching genuine youtubers! We are much more beautiful when we show our true colours than we we create a character! Our imperfections make us fascinating!