If you've never been fat shut up (fat shaming)

[@urdadlovesme6754]

this is SO relatable. i also used to be obese and am now “thinner”/average. i come from a family of fat folks. gaining scares the ever loving sh** out of me because i’m just not comfortable with excess weight. but constantly trying to maintain is exhausting. im literally no one lol but my heart is with you and i appreciate your candidness!

[@chickenheartlover100]

I literally cried watching this because of how real you are. Like honestly you’re speaking facts and life’s hard for us

[@faithi428]

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Genetics plays a huge part in this, and it sounds like you’re doing all the right things. Have you had your thyroid checked? If it’s under active weight is hard to lose. Start there, and skipping meals just makes your body think there’s a food shortage and it holds onto weight, don’t starve yourself. Be nice to yourself and get that thyroid checked! All the best to you.

[@Atheenah]

I’ve battled with weight gain my whole life. I do the same things you do. I walk most days, I skip breakfast, I don’t snack and I home cook my food which is balanced. I’ve decided to embrace what I am and just continue to do the right thing for my health despite the fact that I can’t lose the weight. You are alright just as you are. ❤

[@Kat-zx1pj]

You should not skip breakfast. It's so much easier to maintain weight of you are eating breakfast and less in the evening.

[@nyachia]

Its so refreshing to have someone speak the reasonable truth.

[@zoyarh]

The video was a bit unhinged 😂 but I really did need this. I've been struggling all year and have now become obese again. The part where you said eat as much as you want but just eat healthy resonated with me. Going to start doing that. Thank you, Satch!

[@don_tastic6590]

Yes and yes. Unhinged but that was apparently exactly what I needed lol. I loved the bit about pinpointing the exact habit I need to change

[@emmaaustin123]

He is a sweetie in real life.

[@RachaelStephanie]

People are just horrible. I know people who will laugh at a fat person who is jogging and I’ll always pull them up on it…like “why Susan? Why would you make fun of a person who is clearly trying?” Anyone who has enough time in their life to mock someone over what they are eating or doing, is seriously projecting their own pathetic insecurities on someone else, instead of doing the work, LIKE the person they are mocking ALREADY IS doing. Really f**ks me off. Being judgemental is honestly one of the worst traits in a person.

[@juliawidmaier5334]

THIS 10000%, deeply angers me

[@petersmith5624]

Satch I can relate! Don’t give up keep trying! The calorie deficit never works for me. I did 1400-1700 a day and still didn’t lose anything! Keep training

[@anibalclericot1173]

You are completely right. Be honest with how you feel about yourself, but also be kind because being cruel also doesn't help.

[@gd24281]

This is giving me HRH Collection vibes 😂. Love you Satch 😂😂

[@natalieelizabeth7877]

It's really hard to change. A suggestion, I did go to a dietician and it helped me a lot, I was so lost on what to eat. When I am good I am good but change is hard to maintain. Where I am now, my good periods last longer and my slips are shorter and shorter. Also, get your thyroid checked. You are trying and it is important, good luck Satch.

[@Wild_flower_415]

I believe everything you say Satch. I can't believe people are trying to give you generic weight-loss advice in the comments lol as if you probably haven't heard it all

[@satchonstuff]

They didn't read the title of the video 😂

[@Emelia39]

I’ve been a ton of different weights. It’s amazing how much nicer people are to you when you’re thin. At my lowest I was really unhealthy and depressed and my TEACHER praised me for how thin I was. Like ma’am. On a better note: Im a lot healthier now and go to the gym and eat better and I do feel happier. Eating more protein and vegetables (in addition to carbs) did help with energy and fullness levels (basic advice, I know). Satch’s advice is good. I also recommend finding the easiest possible recipes that you can make that still have balance. Thinking about cooking all the time gets exhausted. Nutrition by Kylie teaches you how to make the laziest healthy meals that aren’t as expensive.

[@That_Grem_Kuro]

Always keeping it real Satch. I was obese a few years back and was fat my whole life so I get where you’re coming from. After so many other failed diets I finally tried keto and it really worked with my body. I know it doesn’t work for everyone the same but it was amazing to find something that actually worked. I’ve lost about 35 kg and am not where I want to be yet but am still working on it. I also stopped thinking of it as looking better and focused on how much better I could move and do the things I wanted to without getting tired. One thing I noticed is that I actually lost more weight when I wasn’t skipping meals. Doing that just slows your metabolism more and unless you’re trying intermittent fasting (and breaking your fast correctly) it won’t help much with weight loss. I hope you can get back to a place you’re happy with.

[@chickenheartlover100]

i always come back to this video when i’m feeling low

[@H3ll0Jackie]

Thank you for this ❤ I lost 100lbs, gained about 40 🙈 trying to get a grip before I gain all of it back. It's such a hard road.

[@Lowiese]

I’ve been skinny before and gained 35kg because of medication and the worst depression ever. The difference in how people treat you is insane to me. They literally act like you’re less of a person and you don’t deserve to exist when you’re fat. I felt horrible, wouldn’t go on pictures because I hated how I look. I feel a little better about myself now, but it’s still shit tbh. I try to keep reminding myself that the extra weight is literal proof of my strength. It’s proof I went through hell, it’s proof I dared to ask for help and it’s proof that I overcame my biggest battles. It’s what my body did to survive and I really want to be proud of that. So some days I hate to look at myself, sometimes I’m proud and I hate people feeling entitled to comment on my weight, or anything I do for that matter. They don’t know what someones been or going through and it’s none of their damn business either! 👏🏼🙌🏼

[@jes3927]

100%. When I was bigger people barely noticed me and were straight dismissive. Helped my anxiety but def not my self-esteem LMAO. I've always disliked myself in pictures but now it's def worse with aging starting. 😂

[@CSRaeburn]

Your answer is water retention and inflammation. I speak from experience, it's not necessarily fat that you've gained. For reference, this is what my week looks like: Monday: powerlifting, 60 mins yoga, 30 mins cardio Tuesday: powerlifting, 55 min spin class Wednesday: Ballet, 90 minute walk Thursday: powerlifting, 60 mins yoga, 30 mins cardio Friday: powerlifting, 60 mins yoga, 30 mins cardio Saturday: powerlifting, 60 mins yoga, 5k run Sunday: Ballet, rest Then again, I'm a) training for a competition and b) auditioning for a MT programme next year. Edit to add: Like you, I was obese, I was an overweight child, and I'm tired of being told that I'm just "meant to be fat" and to love my body because it clearly can't change. The body has mechanisms which allow it to change, which is why strength training yields muscle mass. If you are in the gym six days a week, doing strength training six days a week, your body is at its limit. Take a week off from strength training, do something light, like yoga, then see what the scale says. However, judging by this video, I don't think the scale is the issue. Not that you're looking for advice, but I think you should focus on non-scale victories. Step away from the scale, grab a tape measure and use measurements (in inches) as your progress. Find a sport or a physical hobby you like and focus on getting better at it. That's what I do with ballet. Again, not that you're looking for advice. I'm a far cry from the body positive crowd, but in the LGBTQIA+ community, there's a certain way we're expected to look, and it completely screws with you when you don't fit that expectation. Separate yourself from that image and find something that makes yourself happy.

[@CSRaeburn]

@@ElJay123 Water and sodium do have a tainted love story.

[@Pandy808]

Im 15 years old and i've been fat pretty much ever since covid started. My highest was in february this year when i was 224 pounds at 5'10. Around April I started focusing on weight loss and exercising more. I've now dropped down to around 180 and I feel a lot better. Losing weight has literally changed my life as my body feels so much better and getting around small places is a lot easier. It seriously changed my life and I pray for anyone who is overweight to try to lose weight.

[@simsirem]

I love you Satch. I never been fat, but I just want to let you know that you are the most genuine KZbinr I have ever watch and I know you can reach your body goals someday. However, if not anytime soon, know that it’s all a journey and you’re cool either way! Wishing you all the luck in whatever you want to achieve 🧡🧡🧡

[@jakec8338]

This is so true - I’ve been up and down in weight my whole life. Fat kid. Glow up after high school. Then up and down since. And the thing is with the fat gene… I’ve watched boyfriends of mine eat the same or worse than me and barely gain a thing throughout years of the relationship. And I ballooned out by eating like a normal person. If I don’t eat chicken & rice every night of the week, a shake for lunch and like vegetables to snack on, then I gain weight. Right there with you.

[@whyjordie]

I’m 5’9 and when I graduated high school in 2009 I was 270 pounds (19.3 stone) , got down to 160 (11.4 stone) at my thinnest a few years after I graduated and maintained that for 10 years and then Covid hit and I gained back 50 pounds (3.5 stone) and haven’t been able to lose it again. I feel you, bro. Just remember that weight loss isn’t linear - our bodies fluctuate based on our environments! Also I’m from the United States so I had to google what stone was and put in the weights I put here lol! You’ve got this, dude! I’ve watched your channel flourish and I hope you can flourish again too!

[@Manicpixie88]

OMG...he is the male version of HRH collection 😮

[@jmgirard7]

As a fellow fat person (im 100lbs overweight), it sounds like you're not eating enough. Then your body just holds on to every last calorie it can. I've been there many times (depression is a bitch). It becomes a cycle. Upping my protein and veggies/fruit has helped me. Plus I just started Weight Watchers and it's helped give me the guard rails for all my "yeah I know"'s when it comes to weight loss knowledge. I'm wishing you the best. 🤗

[@bigdumb1]

agree. skipping breakfast and eating low fat everything were big red flags

[@linneahulten405]

Good to get a simple reminder about living more healthy. Often it gets so complicated when people do videos about that. This was easy. Good work.

[@stacis.803]

Bouncing between laughing at you telling people to shut up/CaN cHoPpEd ToMaToEs 😂 and also tearing up because this hit home hard. 🙈😔

[@supertrooper6752]

I can totally relate and is where I am now - and in fact worse. But I'm trying to keep things positive and started working out again. This time, I'm taking a more sustainable route and not rushing it. Hoping for the best!

[@crystalmeier6579]

I struggled for years with being fat. 4 skinny, perfect sisters and me, the fat one.😢 I finally won the battle and continue to battle to stay thin for over 9 years now. I hear you! ♥ 😊

[@alanarama]

This is so fucking real, as some one who has had eating disorders, toxic positivity doesn't help them. If you feel like shit it's okay to say it and it's okay to acknowledge that and move on knowing feelings are temporary.

[@bea9631]

I definitely know this is true with women as well, I naturally have big chest, big hips, big ass etc and even when I was extremely depressed and eating next to nothing I was nowhere near thin. my boobs will never be small, my hips will never be small that's just my body and I've only recently accepted that. I just try to eat healthy and exercise and ignore what my body looks like compared to others

[@ketugrahagraha3673]

OMG! Thank you, Satch!!! This is the best video on the topic I have ever watched. My diet (the only one that I could follow for months and helped me lose weight) is very similar to yours. I don't count calories in anything. It's unsustainable, annoying, and people grow tired of it very quickly. I can eat any vegies and fruit without limitations (apart from potatoes). Potion size control is the most important in my diet as well. I eat whatever I want, but control potion size. And another thing that helped me personally - every meal includes A LOT of different things - rice/pasta/potatoes (i.e. carbs), tofu, eggs, cottage cheese I am a vegetarian), vegies, fruit, and a snack, but the potion size of high-calory foods is very-very small. It helps a lot. Because I can eat whatever I want I don't fill like I am punishing for something. The downside: I have to cook bulk and freeze portions of a lot of dishes, because cooking a few dishes for every meal is time-consuming. But it can be done.

[@lishan4657]

I feel you so much.. You have balls to say it loud.

[@missheycontrary897]

I think stress and anxiety have a lot to do with it, I’ve been big since puberty and had to go through a lot of issues, the one time I lost weight without trying I was genuinely happy for once with my relationship and friends at that time - didn’t even try to lose weight but people started commenting and all I could pin it on was happiness/less stress.

[@Simmer-In-Disguise]

"if you never been fat shut up" - SatchonSims

[@snaileriepimpson]

Sending lots of love Satch. Toxic positivity can be just as harmful as negativity. You hit the nail on the head with the medical issue. My experience has been a little different, I genuinely wasn’t bothered by my weight bc I was still active while fat so I didn’t feel uncomfortable. I haven’t been bullied very much either so emotionally I was doing ok. Then during COVID I became more sedentary staying in, and gained even more weight, and then was diagnosed with diabetes. HUGE wake up call. It was early though so thankfully I can maintain my sugar eating low carb and being on only one medicine. I started losing weight without trying bc of the diet change, but now I’m hitting a plateau. It’s really frustrating to go up and down and have to CONSTANTLY think about it. So this simple idea is so much better than CONSTANTLY counting shit. It’s tough but it’s doable to just make small healthy changes as opposed to endless protein shakes and diet pills lol.

[@andreab5356]

Truth. Genetics are so much. Our bodies are designed for an obsolete way of life. I've struggled with this my whole life (I'm 50). I lost the weight 'the right way' (for the era -every few years it all changes!) multiple times and then gained it all back, complete with all the misery and guilt to the detriment of the rest of my life. I chose to have the sleeve surgery about 10 years ago and do not regret it, for both physical and mental health. I still have to watch what I eat and activity level because my body will gain weight on fumes, but at least it is manageable now. It is not for everyone, mind you, but it was right for me. I hate that this is making you feel crappy rn.

[@samanthareimann596]

“My cats fat as well” 😂❤ As someone who has been extremely fit and now is now obese I really understand what you are saying. I’m just trying to eat healthier and motivate myself to exercise more.

[@Harley24986]

I’m so sorry huney. I’ve never been obese but I have had 4 kids. Eating salads and shit never did a thing for me. Not sure if you’ve done it yet but getting my bloodwork done showed a hormone imbalance which was part of my problem. Then found out my thyroid was a mess. The only thing that has helped me outside of lifting weights was eating mostly protein. The same things don’t always work for everyone. But please know that no one else’s opinion of you matters. ❤

[@TrashBinSouvenir]

Satch will always be real and I love it. Needed this.

[@dmvoz6263]

Please for anyone who might read it: don't starve yourself to death. I'm not a specialist, but any dietitian would start with this phrase. Also sometimes traditional ways (gym, working out and less eating) won't work. That's where you can learn that you don't know everything that needs to be done. That's why people can do degree in this field.

[@pathogenofdecay]

I'm starting to be amused by you saying "Yes you are.", Satch. lol It's becoming a catchphrase for you and I think it's a good one. lol

[@BrokenDollyTV]

Amen brother, I could hang out with my boi, Satchie all day. 😊 this video was just what I needed to add to my motivational content to keep me focused on my weightloss journey. I actually crave my daily workouts now, I love zumba. And we're now past the first 2 wks mark, and definitely developing a new taste palate for healthier foods and greasy stuff doesn't appeal to me as much.

[@AlexisTwoLastNames]

ayy! so true on the greasy food becoming less appetizing once you begin eating something healthier

[@allie4941]

I'm at my internship and I'm on my break feeling super anxious so I watched this video (it helped me calm down fyi). I've struggled with the same thing as you and I'm sorry people have been such d*cks to you because of your weight. You're super inspiring and motivating Sach! The tips you gave actually feel possible. People have always been horribly mean about weight while instead they could just be honest and supportive. I think your honesty is one of the most wonderful things about you. thank you! ☺

[@caitlinomeara377]

Oh Satch, we appreciate you so much and we follow you because we relate to you. I, like many, have struggled with my weight for DECADES and I can’t get down to what is considered a healthy weight for my age, sex, and height. There’s just no way I’m ever going to be 110lbs at 5’ without starving myself to get there. I’m starting to think that the magic moment when I start to actually drop pounds will be once I accept what my body can and can’t do, do as good a job to get through the day as I can, and remember that my husband and family love me no matter what. But some days are easier than others for sure. Keep at it, buddy.

[@juliawidmaier5334]

Satch I'm so glad you have this channel, you're so funny, insightful, soulful, and real, an instant follow for me. I relate so much to you on this, thank you so much for being honest.

[@magda_sw]

i love you so much for saying all this. my thoughts, my life, my experience exactly. apart from all the things you mentioned that help lose weight i would add not restricting ourselves with time limit, like 'i will lose 30kg in 1 year'. you lose it when you lose it. find out what should be the healthy weight for you and simply aim for it. to be honest this mindset improved my mental wellbeing and when i notice i lose even as little as 0,5kg in a month or at least not gain weight i just feel good about myself.

[@VelourFog.]

I never felt more seen, i struggle with weight fluctuation a lot through my entire life. Its so hard to lose the weight even doing the right things. Thanks for making this video. ❤

[@Sang15Mitang]

Different things work for different people. I was obese and got to a normal weight range mostly just by calorie counting and increased cardio. Calorie counting allowed me to learn how much I can eat a day to maintain a certain weight. I don't have to calorie count anymore because it changed my relationship with food and I have a more intuitive sense of how much of different foods I should eat. My problem before wasn't drinking too many high calorie drinks (I mostly just had water) or eating too many snacks (I barely had any snacks). My problem was that I ate large portions because I thought that was a normal amount of food when really it was too much food. Another thing I did that helped was I bought smaller plates. Even if I was tempted to fill my entire plate like I used to, it forced me to eat less because I just couldn't fit as much food on the plate.

[@h.a.6060]

It is not easy but not impossible. I was 97 kg in 2016 with a waist size 42 inches. I started a ketogenic diet with intermittent fasting. Now it is 2023 I’m 55kg in weight and my waist is 30 inches. A month ago I had a tummy tuck surgery to remove all the loose skin. Like you my weight kept fluctuating over the years but this time I said enough is enough. I said I need to take control of my life, self, and weight.

[@michelleh1464]

the faint point is uncomfortable

[@nich413]

So refreshing for someone to just say how it is. I’ve not been putting enough effort in if I’m honest.

[@noblepenn4816]

Im late with tbis reply but i get understand your struggle! But one thing that motivates me is to not think of WHAT i want to look like from the start. Get healthy first, the superficial stuff can come next.

[@sarahxniklas]

You are right. There are people who are born to be bigger than other people. And that's ok. Today I like the diversity. I was a fat child and I hungered myself thin and now I'm fat again. What I learned is that you are still the same person. You can have the same amount of friends and you can have the same happy live even if you are fat. And I don't agree with you that you hate yourself when you're fat. There are people who like themself with the body they have.

[@ArtfullyGifted]

5 years ago I cut out sugar and processed carbs. My food consists of meat, fish, eggs, small amounts of dairy and veggies. My weight and health dramatically improved.

[@CelineParky]

Soooo relatable! I have a binge eating disorder and fluctuate between losing or gaining around 6lbs every year. It's so tiring and depressing.

[@Toerworth]

Dude, it’s pretty hard to remain skinny in the UK. Idk I felt like I got fat just from the UK air. The food habits were wild. I came from a very healthy eating family traditions, but it f-ed me up bad. Also I never judge anyone for being fat, because I’ve been there. I gained weight for the first time in my life when I went to the UK. I also developed a disorder called compulsive or binge eating disorder. And I had it for 9 effin years. Gaining weight, loosing weight, binging, self-hate, dieting, binging again.. never ending loop. I red every book under the sun, every nutrition podcast, saw psychologists, woke up at 4am for gym everyday for years.. Until I lost it, I didn’t want to live anymore, what’s the point? What for? The problem was that nothing made me happier than food anymore. Nothing *could* make me even slightly happy. I tried hundreds of diets and food styles, but nothing was working until I sorted my head out. It’s really not about what you eat, it’s all psychological for what I’ve discovered. But it takes a lot of humbling. When I recovered I felt finally free. I can eat everything now, don’t really think about it and I don’t get fat, because I just don’t really care for food that much anymore. And I get fat easy easy, no question. Even on holidays. I mean, I enjoy food, but not like a drug like it used to be. What I’m trying to say is: diets aren’t inherently bad, but if you run from your problems and seek comfort in food, then it can become much more of a problem down the road.

[@meh_lady]

I was always like this and in my case it was everything to do with blood sugar regulation. Never in my life have I been a big eater, quite the opposite if anything, yet I continually gained. I’ve lost 90 pounds and kept it off for four years by avoiding sugar and carbs like the plague. A heavy carb day for me is 20 net. It’s the only thing that has ever had long term sustainability. If I go over 20 net, regardless of calories, I immediately start gaining. Just sharing my experience, would never push my choices on others!

[@SilentAcosta]

Been struggling with my weight all my life, losing and gaining weight. My entire family is struggling with weight though.. I can definitely understand how you feel

[@annaraccoon9837]

Oh, I relate so much. I also lose weight only when I stop eating during another depression episode...

[@aetaechoi]

you're so real for this. im in recovery for binge eating disorder and bulimia. not counting cals and just eating whenever my stomach makes noises is helpful

[@zsoltnagy1696]

you are so real omg this video is everything i needed in my life rn subscribbing immediately

[@juliawidmaier5334]

I've had a terrible relationship with food my whole life due to stress eating and just growing up in a household where food was generally carb heavy and oily, plus coming from a family where almost everyone was overweight or obese. You're so right that it's excruciating trying to lose weight when it seems like your body actively HATES the weight loss process. My goal weight has been 115, at 140 lbs today. It's so, SO hard to change my relationship with food, it's really like deep cutting into my psyche. But I support you so much, you're amazing and you are amazing at any weight. ❤

[@seanosims]

You are such a sweet soul. I've struggled with feeling fat/skinny my whole life. When I was in great shape, the comments I received were that I should have a hamburger, put on some bulk, etc. When I felt overweight, I was told that I looked fat on my wedding day (by my husband). I once was recruited for a fitness photo shoot and basically starved myself while constantly working out for two weeks. The shoot happened, I felt great about it, only to learn a few days later that the client didn't like the shots and decided to cancel the whole thing. Now I've learned that if I feel like working out, I will. Releases endorphins and makes me feel energized and I enjoy it. If I feel like eating that hamburger, I will do so as well. My weight is my "problem" and mine alone but it doesn't alter who I am as a person.

[@finnvision_]

Last year I lost weight and even when I was feeling down, I still had some kind of self worth in me. Now I'm gaining weight because of traumatic stuff that has happened this year. Your message was straightforward, which is good for me. December I will eat whatever but next year I'm going to eat a lot of apples 😂

[@rainessex]

You're awesome. Thank you for being so real. I was kinda the same, chubby kid, average looking finally after highschool, and at my skinniest at 130lbs in 2019 I was so unhealthy. Literally never eating, drinking all the time, with insomnia. In 2020 I ended up getting pregnant, having a super crazy traumatic pregnancy where I almost died (baby and I are okay now), but my hormones were crazy and honestly didnt feel normal again until Jan of this year to try and lose weight. I am 220 now and I'm the biggest I've been but I am actually the happiest I've been and eat FAIRLY healthy now. I do skip breakfast, invested in a desk treadmill, and walk even when im tired but its the holidays so I am doing the same with not limiting the joys of the holidays when it comes to food. Its been so hard though. I feel gross and hate the way I look but also know I went through a crazy traumatic life event most people will never experience. I hate body positivity too because I don't feel that way about myself. I used to fit into normal clothes and now I have to shop at basically 2 stores that carry my size locally. Its like society makes a conscious effort to make plus size people feel out of place more so. And the one thing that really grinds my gears is making clothes that ONLY look good on skinny people in plus size, like no I dont want to wear a crop top and high waisted jeans to outline my belly. lol After the holidays though I definitely am going to be better about portion sizing and low fat. I only follow one fitness influencer because she was actually fat and she had a good idea if you are craving like chicken strips from mcdonalds or wherever, to just get a small size of the strips and then put them on a giant veg salad with low cal dressing, helps with the craving and then youre not eating so bad. lol LONG COMMENT but yeah, I relate to you so much. I know you will be able to get up and going again. Thanks again for the great relatable content.

[@carleeclark2131]

I am so sorry that you're going through this it can be so frustrating. I can't believe people treated you this way it makes me so sad. ❤️

[@mateo_sid]

yup, some people are just unlucky in that department. not every body process food the same way.

[@regishel]

24:59 is so true, I used to have a problem with being too Thin, I would have no energy at all and people would look at my parents as if they were killing me or something, it was pretty bad. The problem is bad habits, if a person gets used to something it's really really hard to stop and even harder to stay away from your past unhealthy habits, I still sometimes need to remind myself not to go down that road, my problem was I hate food and sometimes I can't feel that I'm hungry unless I start to eat first, so have to find fun ways to make good food that doesn't test boring and I have to eat at the same time every day even if I don't feel hungry. I'm sorry if anyone felt trigger by what I said, all I mean is thin and fat is both unhealthy and not every gets that or even respects the journey.

[@PlamenaHadzhiangelova]

I can relate! Generics definitely play a big part. It’s so disheartening to be putting all the work and not see results. It’s really hard for me because I have a metabolic disorder. People are so judgy it’s crazy! Really needed this, thanks Satch ❤

[@madmuffin4484]

I battled with this and even struggled with an eating disorder for a time and I’ve finally just given in. I genuinely feel like I’m just meant to be slightly overweight and that’s okay. It isn’t worth the constant self hatred and struggle. I’m truly happier than I’ve ever been with my body while also being the fattest I’ve ever been.

[@Lilac_Roze]

This is why I love you, you are so reliable and this made me cry because this is what happens to me. No matter what I do I can't loose the weight and the only way i could was by starving myself. Almost passing out throughout the day😔. Thank you for making this video a lot of us probably needed to hear this.❤️

[@caposta5141]

I really wish I could give you a hug. I will shut up and don't give advice (I don't even have any) but I want to let you know that since you started to look after your health it IS clearly visible. I mean yes we mostly see your face and I only can comment on that. But maybe you gained back those weight however you look healthier than before (the red hair area) and your face's feature look much better. I'm saying as a straight woman that you look handsome and I'm being 100% honest with you. You have great features! Looking as sexy as we want to be is hard goal to achive but the most important is to listen to our body and look after it. And (what I've seen) you doing great with that I think. At the same time I hope you achive your desired look!

[@ДикГрейсон-х9ф]

You are so real for this. I was fat 'til my 20s and the hardest part for me was believing that losing weight is possible. I was stuck in this exact tioxic mindset of feeling good about my fat body 'cause I will never loose weight no matter what. Only after I admitet that I'm unhappy with myself I realised that even if nothing works it still worth trying. But it works, I lost weight and managed to keep it off. The thing is that work never stops, it's fine to sometimes have treats, but you have to check yourself occasionally About calorie counting and "you can eat whatever you want and loose weight". It's a bit of a fals advertisement. You can eat all of you daily calories in sweets and you will loose weght but you also will feel like shit

[@tragicsimmer]

I hate that you are going through this but I at least we're not alone. I get it, and it sucks.

[@AntaresSelket]

Fast food is the devil! Cut out carbs. I started the Carnivore diet and my metabolism sped up, I lost weight, and several health problems reversed. I've always been the chubby one in the family with a supermodel looking sister. So I can totally relate to what your saying. Don't give up, but definitely cut the carbs super low. I'm so glad you talked about portion sizes, because a lot of people start a diet and eat large bowls or plates of food, instead of shrinking that plate and bowl, and eating what's recommended on the box or can.

[@Simulant655]

I had significant weight gain a couple of times throughout my life, but I never had trouble losing weight until this last time I was trying to lose the weight, and no matter what I did it didn’t come off until I did some diet to reset my blood sugar or something for a couple months, and now I just eat what I want and it’s back to normal

[@teacherchristinamtn4741]

Having weight fluctuations is so incredibly frustrating- especially on the up-swing. I've gained *and* lost 45lbs in the last 3 years (multiple times) and it's so hard to adjust. Mine has medical reasons but it does not make it better or easier. I hope you have people who help support and encourage you no matter what your scale says. Your body does not make you more or less worthy because of what it looks like.

[@SimSweet]

I have always been a big child, when I turned around 13yr I lost A LOT OF WEIGHT. Like 10kg. But I was not eating enough, I was doing dance and a lot of running. I was like that until 16years and I started to eat more normal but I wasn’t as active, I started hanging out with the “wrong” people and yeah… fast forward, I turned 18, and I had gained EVERYTHING BACK. I was so insecure and new year started I lost 6kgs at most, I found a new hobby(jumprope) that got me on my track and ofc weights. That was during covid. Then when covid was gone, back to school I started gaining again, because I couldn’t jump rope everyday and for some reason I am hungier when at school, so I bring fruit or vegetables as a snack because I will starve if I don’t. Fast forward I am 21yrs now, I still workout but not so much as I used to anymore, I do it for being and feeling healthy, and I actually do feel good in my body, im not skinny, I do have fat, some maybe think its too much, but I found the right way to dress that compliments my body, I eat when im hungry and not when im bored. Overall I have accepted that no matter what I will always be slightly overweight, not like I can’t walk, I am very strong, I can run jump crawl. But I will never look like those fitness influencers for aesthetics. As long as I feel good, who give a Sh*t about that jiggle on the tummy. That jiggle doesn’t stop me from running or whatever.

[@Robynqsims]

And by the, skinny is also stress that kills me and busy doing it

[@mjuksa]

been fat my whole life, started dieting at a very young age, in result f up my metabolism, had pancreas problems -> lost weight, STILL was a little overweight!!!! my weight was still for couple of years, started treating my mental health, some pills made me loose weight, some made it difficult for me to eat, god i cant tell how frustrating it is... last meds made me gain 20 kg, it was INSANE, i nave never been larger than then. i am still overweight but fuck i will never diet ever again (unless my weight become a danger to my health), it has put so much pressure on me i couldn't have handled. but to each is their own way, and i really hope you'll find yours

[@TinaaTurnUp]

Seeing this a month late but I agree with you mostly. I was obese for years and disgusted with myself (not because of beauty standards but because it hurt and felt winded to walk up 1 flight of stairs) I’m 5’2 and weighed 220lbs… I now weigh 128lbs. What helped me was making sure I took 1 hour out of my day to just walk. I would never touch food until I drank 2 full bottles of water and I was intermittent fasting.. not on purpose but it just worked out that way. I would start eating around 130pm and not touch a single thing after 7pm. I lived off of fruits, vegetables and protein mainly with in moderation eating carbs. My body just didn’t crave carbs and junk food anymore. It’s a lifestyle change. Not a diet. Diets don’t work, lifestyle changes do.

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

17:38 I always attributed this to the lack of nutrition from high processed foods. I don't get cravings when I eat whole foods, but the more junk food I eat, the more my body wants it.

[@alex_is_out]

I relate so much. I've been overweight my whole life. A couple years ago I lost a lot of weight. It was so hard. It took almost 7 months of exercise and eating less than I needed to reach my goal (which wasn't even that low). Recently I've gained it all back. But I don't get it. I don’t binge. I cook all my own food. I DO enjoy going to the gym. One of the worst things though, when I was thinner people were so nice to me. Friends, family, complete strangers. It was scary. It was so jarring and completely twisted my view of everyone. I lost friends over it because it fucked with my head.

[@BrokenDollyTV]

This is an interesting observation about how people treat u diff. I've been skinny most of my youth and being mixed, always drew alot of attention from people without even trying. After kids and gaining a lot of weight, people don't treat me like a movie star anymore. It's really weird experiencing the other end of it, almost like you're invisible even though you take up lots more space. 😅 my husband and I are embarking on our weight-loss together and we discuss this effect of human psychology all the time. People are shallow.

[@ineedvyvanse3493]

Very relatable! I feel what you’re going through I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life

[@mery2488]

Satch i love you and i hope you feel good in your body.

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

I totally understand the pain and frustration, I used to be on a MAJOR weight gainer anti depressant, one of the worst ones for it, and also took up baking to cope with a bad ex friend breakup. I gained a lot of weight and have been trying for years to get to my goal weight but all my weight seems to do is fluctuate. I lose weight, then I gain it back, lose more, gain it back. It's horrible, and I have sensory issues on top of it so being overweight is so incredibly uncomfortable, I can't stand ANYTHING touching my stomach. You are definitely not alone in this, weight is incredibly hard to keep off, and for some to put on. Some people are just meant to be over or underweight, and many people feel the need to be self righteous and fat shame using the classic excuse of "I'm just worried about your health!!" When they have no idea what other people's health is like, just from appearance alone. And they ALWAYS simplify weight loss, acting like it's so easy to do and how in their minds, all fat people are lazy, and sit around eating loads of junk food all day. They're so annoying and self righteous. These people never stop to consider what others are going through or more than one reason that isn't assuming the absolute worst of overweight people.

[@thetealbarn6337]

As a person who grew up fat and continued have my weight yo yo all my life due to comfort eating and trauma... I agree with you 100%

[@Tylerpierre99]

Guys! Not to try and find causality where there may not be one, but im being serious when i say this; please speak to tour GP or Doctor and get a Thyroid panel test. If your GP wont, demand they refer you to an endocrinologist. I had a friend who literally starved themselves until they fainted and was ill, only to find they had a very underactive thyroid and the endocrinologist said flat out "you will NOT lose your weight until your thyroid is working properly". Their metabolism was so low that their body couldnt burn the calories and then they took levothyroxine for a year and lost pver 5 stone by eating more than they did before and felt great doing it. You may not have an underactive thyroid, but the NHS range for thyroid is criminal. A lot of people are underactive, but the NHS wont treat it with pills that cost pennies, but anywhere else in the world, they'd treat it. If you DO have an underactive thyroid, you can gym and workout all f**king day everyday and it wont drip the fat because your body is f**ked and doesnt have the energy in the cells of the body provided by the thyroid that normal, healthy and slim people have.

[@ChelleBelle9190]

Satch!!!! This was so needed. Thank you for brunt vulnerable. You've inspired me!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 thank you Love!!!

[@AlexisTwoLastNames]

that laugh after admitting to the McDonalds enriched my soul. so adorable w that twinkle in your eye hahaha

[@anasardinha473]

I feel you, dear. Know you are not alone. The best I ever was in my entire life I was going trough a fking depression... Taking pills to feel numb. Once I started getting out of it, guess what, the weight came back! So... If I want to be a skinny B I have to be constantly depressed... 🙄😶

[@kodaaz1598]

listening to this while in the gym lmfao I LOVE YOU

[@erinrhianne]

Dude I feel this so hard. At my biggest I was 210lbs. I've lost 25lbs this year, from cutting out almost all carbs and living off veg and meat etc. In a calorie deficit. Started exercising. But I'm still overweight. Not obese anymore, but still overweight for my size (I'm a 5'7 female). In September I just hit a plateau and now the weight has stopped coming off no matter what I try. And lately now that it's winter I've been hungrier and craving little treats to get me through the seasonal depression because I hate this time of year lmao. But I'm really gonna have to reign it in because even if my body does not want me to be any lighter than 185lbs I can at least not put on any more and go back to the size I was. I do think genetics plays a massive part in it and it's so frustrating when you say that and people with fast metabolisms think you're just making excuses and stuffing your face behind closed doors. I know a woman who is about my weight and roughly my height who is constantly at the gym and runs marathons and does charity runs and stuff all the time. She looks chubby but in our voluntary work she's always the one doing the bulk of the physical stuff (getting the wheelchair ramps in etc) and is clearly quite fit.

[@SydneyJohnson-rm9oe]

I understand. I remember being on my first diet when I was 8 years old. Im almost 30 now and I give up- Im having Gastric Bypass surgery next monday cause Im so done

[@BeautifulEssence.]

SAME! I agree with all this, it’s happening to me too smh

[@kolanutbae]

Man I feel you, I'm currently going through the same thing🥺

[@alynatorres5131]

im so glad ur saying this bc i literally have to eat once a day while working out just to lose weight

[@solitarymisfit]

I was overweight my whole life until I was in my 20’s and became unhealthily restrictive with my diet. Now I’m at an average weight, but it’s still more than I want to be. Sending love.

[@ariel78981]

watching this on my first day working out again i needed this thank you !

[@Kolby3884]

If you are on an SSRI that will absolutely make weight loss super difficult, near impossible. They don't tell you this but those meds slow your metabolism down like crazy leading to weight gain and lethargy.