Say your truths and seek them in others | Elizabeth Lesser

In a lyrical, unexpectedly funny talk about heavy topics such as frayed relationships and the death of a loved one, Elizabeth Lesser describes the healing process of putting aside pride and defensiveness to make way for soul-baring and truth-telling. "You don't have to wait for a life-or-death situation to clean up the relationships that matter to you," she says. "Be like a new kind of first responder ... the one to take the first courageous step toward the other."
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[@yan-linchen6476]

Thank you so much for this talk. Together with your book “Broken Open”, they gave me the courage to fall into the flame, acknowledge and accept my failure and try to reborn from ashes. Thank you!❤

[@claudtan9014]

I always wanted to do like what she said. repair the situation and find the soul within another person but sometimes the person just playing with your emotion and kindness. at the end, more hurt would be done to ourself. I'm not rejecting or attacking, I'm just preventing and protecting.

[@latinaseattle]

It had happened to me. In my case this person used to come back with new vibes and intentions but no, it only lasts for a couple of days, maybe weeks. I set myself to simply don't care about anything this person does, but then the hurt goes out to the rest of the family. Sometimes is so difficult to OPEN OURSELVES and plainly say "you are free to go".

[@x15Lovex]

Sad thing is most people have too many layers on top of their soul that it takes a lot of work to get rid of, and it will be painful so most choose not to unveil their soul. It is not until old age do they start to reflect and regret, by then it will be too late.

[@jordannguyen3235]

Wasn't expecting to cry, but I had waterworks coming from my eyes by the end of the video. Loved this Ted Talk.

[@latinaseattle]

Because it contains so much value to you too... now, you are also empowered for the best ;)

[@yawarkhalid]

15:19 We can do this with those who want to do this with you. It's nearly impossible to find that level of mental compatibility with someone today that they believe in the same solutions that you do, mate, parents or siblings.

[@DarkMoonDroid]

And children...

[@thewinematcher]

What a great talk. Healing broken and strained relationships is definitely an "Idea Worth Sharing"

[@latinaseattle]

I just love her words. Deeply touching speech.

[@paperfol]

Well I'm 20 and I was inspired a few months ago to be more open to people and try to understand people life and the world

[@LabRat10101]

Nobody seem to care about truth anymore, its all about their feelings now...

[@nevokrien95]

what truth like what is truth its so hard to tell and most of us arnt expert in most filds to say what is truth and what is lie

[@TempRawr]

tbh a part of this speech is how feelings are being faked, feeling aren't a bad thing and thinking about it that way is limiting. I assume you mean the people who are selfish or blind so they lash out and close up to others and themselves. This video is expanding on the idea of self and others, gotta be more geniuine and break down the barriers of repression.

[@decimated550]

it's not "feelings", it's "feewings". this talk is yakety schmackety

[@joeyzapata6786]

It's always been about feelings. Emotions make the world go around. Think about it.

[@user-ez5vq9fd2t]

Don't you mean "feel about it"? After all, it's emotions that make the world go around, not thinking.

[@tamipritchard9935]

A life lesson of hope and beauty. Deeply touching....

[@raquelc.c.4195]

I wish I could "like" this multiple times, like one says "I love you" multiple times. Thank you, it was lovely.

[@Poorstargazer23]

It's amusing how many people are uncomfortable with the word soul and it's use in this talk. Just something to think about.

[@theresearchnexus]

UNCOVER YOUR SOUL!! touching words ❤❤

[@tomaskuli177]

Someone sent me this. Yet we're estranged. Why? Because when we were teens this person used me to her advantage. When I was young I had this very strict code of support, truth, authenticity, and honesty. Others, not so much. Its always amazed to me the type of people who are always seeking self help - through religion, the Bible, self-help groups, what have you. And I've noticed they're the type who lack honesty, authenticity, truthfulness, supportiveness themselves. They're seeking what they do not possess and will never have. You either have it or you don't. Now I'm closed off. I'm tired of users.

[@dynamiclumbersolutions]

you are right about that, my ex was a horrible person and loved Lesser's book Broken Open (because it excuses cheating in a marriage, even fantasizes it)

[@ingridgranger9991]

From the soul...well articulated

[@noelj62]

Thank you. It's good to learn from your experience. It's surely painful but it's the pain that brings us to our senses most of the time. Liked the humor in your speech. Also I love the fact that you've avoided any reference to any religious figers or divine help, much appreciated.

[@duckdumbsmartpplimnotbored5175]

When I defeat things in DarkSouls I get paid in souls too.

[@aliciavazquez5611]

Brilliant! It is something so worthy to fight for, I am currently working on that.

[@CJ-jp3zw]

beautifully orated... She's a real speaker

[@reneeboley]

It doesn't get much more real than this.

[@cathycrayton1524]

God bless you for sharing your journey. It has inspired me to reconcile with myself and my sisters.

[@6YingWei]

哇！距離上次 Elizabeth Lesser 的TED影片，已經是五年前了。 很喜歡 Elizabeth Lesser 的關點。和對手共進午餐。=D

[@luticia]

i see and feel beauty in this speech

[@Nova-lk3uw]

this was beautiful, crying rn

[@shanghai_city]

I cried a little inside, very beautiful talk. I hope it inspires many to lead a more open and loving life towards their loved ones.

[@diverstalent]

Thank you ❤️

[@Star-Mac10]

Great message. Our world fuels off of lies which is why finding truth will always be a battle to obtain.

[@th3pankake]

Or you could just be authentic in the first place

[@summerhill8263]

Jerry Drysen Family dynamics are very powerful, especially dysfunctional ones. We learn them at an early age.

[@PeopleHealthTru]

There is only one Truth. The Truth = facts. Oprah's 'Your Truth' is the opposite - it's what people say when 'Your Truth' is not 'The Truth.'

[@LR-mh8hs]

You can do this when there are TWO open hearts...not when the other person is toxic or unwilling.

[@alexgagnon52]

Could not come up with a comment without sarcasm dripping from every word so decided to leave this instead.

[@DizzyDezii]

so many untruthful people are triggered in the comments

[@JAYDUBYAH29]

Let the well meaning cliches and misappropriated science metaphors roll...

[@JAYDUBYAH29]

It's a pity because the central message is good about relationships and staying open.

[@nico_rico3185]

Julian Walker you'd be surprised how many people this helps

[@JAYDUBYAH29]

Nicko K you know i am prepared to give you that, for sure... i just think that we can have positive, empowering and compassionate, creative, emotionally meaningful messages without a lot of the misuse of scientific language that creates confusion later... i also think we can do better than perpetuating naive usage of words like soul, when in fact we are talking about something non-supernatural that we have better language for nowadays.

[@nico_rico3185]

Julian Walker yeah I get ya. I would argue that words like "soul" definitely describe "humanness" though. You can't deduce the human experience. You can say where feelings come from, but to describe the feelings themselves, we use words like "sacred" or "transcendent" because that's how they "feel". So to call it "naive" is harsh.

[@JAYDUBYAH29]

Nicko K i hear you. here's my central point: it is fine to use words like soul if you are just talking about the experiential domain of feelings, meaning, metaphor etc (although i do feel that we can naturalize that concept to leave behind the supernatural baggage, by perhaps using a word like psyche, or inner life etc...) BUT when used in conjunction with a lot of scientific and medical language it mistakenly perpetuates an outdated and yes naive folk dualism between science, the body, medicine on one hand and the domain of our humanity, mind, "soul" on the other even as she is trying to draw parallels between the two.... it is a bit of a mess, and to make it seem as if there is some medical/scientific legitimacy to the old world notion of a "soul" that can now be defined in these terms as separate from natural processes is for me too problematic. also, what makes us most human is not an immortal, immaterial, spooky "soul" it is our complex brains and their capacity for discovering meaning, feelings, empathy, and self-awareness in the real world and our actual lives. so i am actually talking about taking back the domain of what she and many ascribe to a supernatural soul, and making our mortal, physical, emotional, and entirely natural human bodies themselves sacred without adding anything un-necessary.

[@seema5244]

This is incredible 💓

[@darlenelaski9716]

Thanks, Elizabeth Lesser for your message. The timing for me is almost scary because my mother and I had yet another huge argument this past week, in which she told me one more time she didn't want to see me again. She's also told me she's not my mother anymore and I'm not her daughter anymore in the past and I just am not going to partake in these hurtful arguments anymore. But, she's 81 years old and obviously won't be here much longer so I know what I need to do, I just don't have the compassion to do it and that makes me disappointed in myself. Anyway, thank you for your message.

[@megpemberton3091]

Awe inspiring thank you for sharing your lessons

[@elizabethheyenga9277]

Read the book, it is amazing! I fell in love with her sister, what a woman. As is Elizabeth

[@soulsourcetarot]

This is what I have doing. I did a video on it and most people loved it, some did not. Too hard to handle.

[@김수경-m9j]

ㄷ636ㅡ

[@miikakyllonen5871]

What a fantastic talk. Elizabeth is looking the problem straight in the face, and not scurrying around it.

[@LanceWinslow]

With endurance athletics - if you explore the pain rather than let it consume you, you soon realize which pains are real signals to be concerned with, real damage, and those pains that are not serious and you will fully recover from after your rest period. Good points in this video

[@yummyup2608]

meaning story. linking each other people by deep emotion.thank you so much

[@aravindashok8802]

Notification squad where are you at?

[@BobbyBerberyan]

You are an enlightened master. Thank you!

[@laurietworek3457]

WOW!! Thank you for sharing this, I will be sending it along, it really is such a beautiful eye opener, and yes, I believe we all can do this ... for the Soul of the World.

[@summerhill8263]

So incredibly beautiful in every way. Thank you for a wonderful Talk! AWESOME!

[@katanaheart]

Omg one of the best talks I've heard! Thank you!

[@thirtyonedailydays5377]

I am going to be a Midwife this year and this could not of come at a better time!

[@youryella]

Dayum. Just Dayum (in a good way).

[@kathleenwharton2139]

Jesus Said..”You cannot Serve God and money.” Elizabeth chose to serve God.

[@joly9196]

I was paid in love, l was paid in Saul This is the beauty in life Such amazing words 💗

[@SaraMohammed-fk7zg]

more than wonderful ♥

[@teresaolofson1377]

3 min mark If you Fight against that Pain Stop Resisting The Pain and Opened. As if the forces of the Universe Took Notice and Sent in a Wave OF Help.

[@TaniaMarie424]

My sister and I did exactly this last year. We found out we had more in common than we thought. Our love for each other is deep. It’s beautiful when you’re vulnerable. 🙏❤️

[@soumendranayak5963]

Supremely Hilarious, Touchy 😄😄💓💓

[@teresaolofson1377]

A Unquie Worth By Elizabeth "Lesser"

[@realtalkswitharedhead]

so beautiful. thank you very much for sharing your soul marrow with all of us!! big hugs!

[@okabae7927]

The message is okay but there's a ton of other bullshit in there.

[@404-h6d]

Tell ted talks about advertising

[@daniB0o]

Wow what a wonderful reminder. Thank you for this.

[@Peebee01]

What do you mean by seek the truth from others ?

[@stillwatersnightsky6533]

that is a brilliant talk to start one's year wit

[@luzmireyamendez6799]

Wonderful talk. Thanks

[@devyud5719]

The word Love does not have a meaning. Searching or believing in love is an invitation to exploit you.

[@AB-bt9eb]

Love Elizabeth Lesser! Brilliant...

[@Compassion3333]

The wisdom, compassion and healing extended through this talk is next level!!!!! Wow 💙💚💜 I really wish everyone could listen to this. To remember what truly matters 💕 what a potent beautiful soul, and what an incredible way to honor your sister by sharing this deeply impactful inspiring healing with the entire collective consciousness 💙💜💚 prayers of such immense love to you, to all sibling connections, to all loved ones struggling because so much pain is caught in between .. may we remember what truly matters… LOVE 🌍

[@blastoffmusic7146]

this woman is an angel

[@МируМир-ъ2ы]

Elizabeth, thank you! I was crying thoughout the whole talk...thinking how many beautiful things people miss out on when they hold grudges, when they don't see that magic divine light in the other and in themselves...We all should think more about that "deep time" - the true and pure existence for all of us. Love is really the best currency! You are a brave woman. I admire you a lot.

[@20NotTwothousand]

I listened to Elizabeth speak with Maria Shriver today about her new book Cassandra Speaks. I ended up buying an earlier book called Broken Open. I have many teachers, but I think Elizabeth's voice has been missing and I'm grateful to have found her. Thank you, Elizabeth! See you at Omega next year!

[@hansdampf7397]

great speech - thank you.

[@fellonacomma1129]

amazing speech

[@grahampalmer]

Just a thought on the greater family effect of this! We hear how two sister's 'souls' were joined by blood and an admirable 'unburdening', but how were the other two sisters 'souls' effected? Did they too have an epiphany or were they negatively effected by the 'joining' of these two sisters? I would be interested to understand the overall effect on the family dynamic.

[@PeopleHealthTru]

There is only one Truth. The Truth = facts. Oprah's 'Your Truth' is the opposite - it's what people say when 'Your Truth' is not 'The Truth.'

[@Dayzheart]

What if my truth will get me physically and emotionally abused ostracized .... the concept is beautiful and I wish I can do it but my reality doesn't give me this privilege ❤ I hope my future family be kind to each other

[@harshitaahuja8382]

Beautiful ❤️

[@tessjones5987]

Elizabeth Lesser's Ted Talk put words to our Pain. And a direction to follow out of it.

[@yawarkhalid]

13:30 what if other's don't want their truth to be sought? They become unreasonable and aggressive.

[@asciscomagic]

Thank you

[@nevokrien95]

we got rely into individualism hard which is good but we cod learn from more group orianted philosophy

[@manifestgtr]

"stay open"? that's kind of a graphic metaphor here, don't you think? hahah

[@bnote1990]

Beautiful

[@davidtollefson2693]

beautifully said ☺

[@NadegeHeinrich_Walk-In]

Merci

[@anne-marieloichot1579]

❤ Magnifique !

[@8101lorianne]

Why do suppose we "run" from feelings?

[@hoa7955]

I will uncover my soul! Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@MarietaTruter]

Amen!

[@TheIfeomaa]

I'm 3years late, but it's still amazing and necessary

[@Maheshwarkhetan]

The most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my life. ❤️

[@lindam.lasley5049]

Yes I remember being inside of the meyou.

[@chriski5455]

How beautiful. Thank you so much.

[@raybegum6614]

Deah's pic in the background

[@sunsulaf3061]

😢😭😢😭

[@mayaruhinda5918]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@mahparaparo1734]

HI vedios avaliable with titles?

[@diegopolo8979]

Beautiful, thank you!

[@selfelements8037]

3:42 The future is open source!

[@omnificent15]

My appreciation💕

[@jent.6622]

Absolutely beautiful!

[@มั่วนิ่ม-ฆ3ห]

She is delicate.

[@CAAnchalBatra]

wow !

[@dnzldehonor]

safe