How to practice emotional first aid | Guy Winch | TED

[@dani1741]

-Take action when feeling lonely -Change response to failures -Protect your self esteem -Battle negative thinking

[@dani1741]

Catherine Murphy 🙄

[@scaryshadow4690]

@Catherine Murphy This is exactly the kind of pessimistic mindset Guy was addressing

[@DrHussainQasem]

@Catherine Murphy When I apply this theory the results are out there. The catch is being persistent about it until it become natural. Which is really hard but can't say impossible as I clearly saw the results !

[@DrHussainQasem]

@Suffer No Fools All of us could go through this you are no exception my friend, just don't give up and take responsibility of working on your spiritual and mental abilities. Your brain and soul are like a living room it will turn into a mess if you don't clean it frequently. No one will clean your mess you need to do it yourself

[@DrHussainQasem]

@Suffer No Fools Then you need to talk to him and ask for empowerment, patience, clarity, and guidance. "Allah" or God is the source of all the good in this world, some times he answers ur prays by changing your situation to a better one , or he may decide to keep you in it because he wants to get the good part of u out (hard times get strong men) It might be easy for me to say as you r the one who actually struggles but you don't have many options really: Either to surrender to the hardship thus declining further down OR decide to get stronger and use all your energy including mental and spiritual to improve the situation. Read about other people who had even tougher circumstances than you. Someone was told he will die after 6 months because of cancer so he could have chosen to consume the time crying and weeping about his bad luck but instead he used what left of his power putting a positive impact on his and others life. You need to take the decision to be happy "as much as u could" do stuff you like. Stay away from abusers no one could steal your laugh or small life pleasures from you. Get bigger , get stronger, get perspective ask others for advice or wisdom.

[@isahjade1903]

"It makes us really afraid to reach out because why setup yourself for heartache and rejection when your heart is already aching more than you can stand" this really cuts me deep..

[@COVID--kf3tx]

Yeah that was the quote that really struck me too.

[@citruscomb]

Yeah taht was basically my whole thought process 3 years ago. It was so bad taht I never held a single conversation longer than a minute for nearly an entire year.

[@marketingcoordinator4247]

My own belief.. I always feel rejected as a middle child.. that is why I only reach out when I'm only at my lowest point.

[@shesshee6614]

This one hit home hard!

[@hazelsleep4264]

:',-(

[@liamc7097]

This video is a perfect example of the good the internet can do. Imagine how many lives this man has touched with his words. How many lives he has saved. All thanks to the world wide web.

[@jonhohensee3258]

At least 14, I think.

[@woosh_police4018]

@@jonhohensee3258 it has over 3+ million views

[@jonhohensee3258]

@@woosh_police4018 - Yeah, but only about 14 or 15 lives saved.

[@현셍]

@@jonhohensee3258 I don't think it's all about a number. Not only this video can safe someone's life but it could change non-suicidal person's perspective. As he said, many people don't know how to manage a emotinal damage.

[@jonhohensee3258]

@@현셍 - You're clueless.

[@haruhi_dayo]

I clicked on this video for the purpose of helping my friends who have mental health problems but this guy made me realise that it was me who needed help. I really appreciate this video

[@emmanieemma8996]

Wow, me too. Well, it has to start with yourself, right?

[@MrLuiz110]

Off topic, but I like your profile pic, honey works fan here😚

[@angielynlaquian9519]

Same rn..

[@anown315]

Like the saying, save yourself first, before saving other.

[@sofia895]

okay but me too omg

[@aashishbhongade8042]

I appreciate how Ted Talks named this video "How to practice emotional aid" and not "How to practice emotional aid on yourself " Because we all came thinking how we could help others...and returned learning how we could help ourselves firt

[@ΕυγενίαΤσιμούρη]

Sooo true! Its important for all of us to understand that we can't help anybody to be emotionally healthy unless we are too.

[@MissJoaris]

Indeed👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@katiebolmeyer3105]

That is why I came here! And I was about to click off when I realized it was a guide on how to help myself- until I saw your comment! I will now continue watching lol

[@madsbuss4667]

It's like you read my mind

[@Selyidar]

Um, no?.. I came here after a series of psychological self-awareness videos. So I never thought this video is about helping others

[@kristinet.3596]

I would watch this over and over again to remind myself about the harms of rumination. That I need to do something about this chronic anxiety and loneliness.

[@Womer-i8b]

The world is bigger than the life we live in. The walls that block us, never pierced the skies or ever crossed the seas, but we ourselves can and have.

[@hippieparents420]

Asking Google Assistant to tell you the first 1000 digits of Pi will help with breaking the cycle of ruminating

[@shaunnil8248]

so you're ruminating about the harms of rumination by rewatching this video over and over again?? .... sorry.

[@kristinet.3596]

@@shaunnil8248 No.

[@yongironi1367]

I really love how he addresses the issue of emotional health without shoving his expertise in psychology to the audience, while still able to get everyone to hear what he says thanks to his narrative-ish speech-which I must say is really easy to understand. We really need more humble professionals like him.

[@harshgangaramani8270]

What's his name??

[@TheDzi123]

@@harshgangaramani8270 Guy Winch

[@yvettefarala6329]

I felt the same way!!

[@shesshee6614]

I agree, he's quite relatable.

[@Jlong2o]

Love your comment. Totally agree! Thank you!

[@Manu-yw2nu]

He has such a calming, gentle voice. Makes you feel like everything will work out

[@nadvic1797]

Feels are sth concrete though! In case of emotional health, what could matter more than feelings? It is about feelings in the first place!

[@r011ing_thunder6]

@@nadvic1797 yeah you're right i was wrong and deleted the comment

[@Stereochemistry]

I find he rather sounds like a robot

[@checkitoutlove]

@@Stereochemistry yes

[@bea95]

@@Stereochemistry I know, right? It made me feel a little uneasy every time I noticed... Then I scrolled down to see if anyone else had the same impression

[@jwh0122]

5:40 Loneliness 7:32 Pay attention to emotional pain 7:42 Failure (toy-activation example) 10:58 Stop emotional bleeding 11:46 Rejection (divorcee example) 13:34 Protect your self-esteem 13:45 Rumination 15:40 Battle negative thinking

[@meekainc2650]

Thank you 🙏

[@fabiha.washere]

Needed this for a project. Thank you so much!!!!

[@prapanthebachelorette6803]

Thanks 😊

[@maiben210]

Thank you. Youre a star💛

[@JacobGrim]

Not the hero we deserved, but the hero we needed...

[@PoopGuy-fz5lk]

"Break a negative cycle before it begins" Damn. That hit too hard.

[@RicardoMartinez-yk7md]

👍😁

[@downtoawhisper]

12:44 This is something I have never considered. He's so right that we would never make a physical injury worse. We would protect it and care for it so it can heal. Yet, we don't do that with emotional injuries. We often make them worse with negative thinking. What a revolutionary concept to treat our minds the same way we do our physical body. I only wish we were all taught how to do this. It makes me want to learn more about it.

[@sd-xk7qr]

he has a very good book on it, Emotional first aid its called

[@pedroapples1680]

@Careful Icarus Ridiculously spoiled zoomers who grew up with actually competent adults.

[@itaygavish6694]

Thing is, I like physically hurting myself, so i guess I'm doomed...

[@tagaway6173]

@@itaygavish6694 yeah and I let a keloid scar get big, That when I went to get it fix (When I actually started to care, like 4 years laters) It couldn't get fix with the injections, no only cuz of size but it has it's own fibers (don't know how to explain it, bad english, but you get the idea. I didn't cause something, but I didn't fix it and now is a bigger issue.)

[@itaygavish6694]

@@tagaway6173 oof, I try my best not to cut but it's kinda useless because I can't control myself when I do. My depression takes over and I'm just useless. I know not to go too far but please don't be like me...

[@Olivia-pe5vf]

No doubt. You are a "REAL"Doctor. Your speech brought tears to my eyes. We tend to be so hard on ourselves. Thank you so much

[@irinasolomina1800]

Only Jesus is the real doctor, so you’re lying

[@ouuyou6584]

@@irinasolomina1800🙄

[@galaxyalexanderh5737]

Best thing I got from this--- treat yourself like a good friend. That is amazing

[@aishasaif7128]

Psychological issues were never our enemies, they just try to signal us for something that we are missing. So, we should know whats the core of the issue and fix it rather than fighting the issues off.

[@johnlouiscaga8565]

@@aishasaif7128 great point.

[@Anon221BC]

no it wasn't.

[@domo5227]

I teared when he he talked about how lonely he was when his brother "didn't" call

[@jonhohensee3258]

No you didn't.

[@akalixa]

me too! I was so scared I thought he was going to say he died and thats why he didn't call!

[@akalixa]

Belle R. literally same :( everything in life is just so sad now

[@mariyastoyanova31]

@@jonhohensee3258 bruh

[@jonhohensee3258]

@@mariyastoyanova31 - bra

[@PerfumeCognac]

Loneliness being purely subjective was such an eye opening statement. I feel like often when someone says they’re lonely someone else will point out all the “tangible” ways that they aren’t. But at the end of the day it doesn’t matter, you can be in a see of people but if you don’t have the specific connection you NEED then you will be lonely and it’s not for anyone else to perceive but you. That’s so powerful

[@whatisahandle221]

🤔

[@poshko41]

Listening to the guy's voice, he could have a successful second career narrating kids' shows on the BBC.

[@lalakuma9]

He narrates his own audiobooks, and yes, it's great.

[@clairek4523]

@@lalakuma9 - Thanks so much for making me aware of his audiobooks - this talk really spoke to me and I want more of it!

[@chermia97]

He is very easy to listen to.

[@asilver50]

I was thinking how much I love his voice. He's also a very good speaker. He must have a lot of practice.

[@carolinaarevalo7264]

My phonetics teacher would love to listen to this man

[@a.m.arteaga8369]

My sister sent me this because I've been struggling with depression for a couple of years and, to be honest, I really needed this. I really like the way he presents this issue, he seems so natural and passionate.

[@Eyanlakhani]

+A.M. Arteaga : Quick tip: You should watch this video often for it to hammer into your head :)

[@alexf4673]

I strongly recommend his book. I got it on amazon for less than $20. It is more detailed than this lecture and it helps so much

[@susanbehring3401]

It helped me too

[@gastruperstrasse]

Thank you for recommending his book. I bought it five minutes ago because of your hint.

[@nellynavarretevalle]

My ex recommended me this since he realized how badly I struggled with depression and a non-existent self-esteem, especially since he was majoring in psychology and still cared about me. The problem was I kept putting that off until now. I needed this too, and I really liked the way he presented the message.

[@camandresjl]

"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” ― Henry Ford

[@rod-j.y]

fr

[@gargos25]

This was probably the best TED talk I've ever heard.

[@beataylor4226]

I was just thinking this!

[@allisonbaird5750]

I agree! I only wish I’d found it sooner

[@learnwithalvin7327]

Same here, very powerful words

[@Mrs.HatakeKakashi]

The clarity he projected with the concepts were spectacular. one of the best TED videos so far.

[@saveUyghurs]

Agreed! A standing ovation was deserved!!

[@juanandresagostoconrad4481]

Hi Ted! I am a nurse. In my life I have to deal with many situations that mainly consists in loneliness and rejection even from my own family. It has been very sad that I barely had emotional support from my parents. This lack of happiness and a constant search for it corrupted by my surroundings has made me struggle all my life till today in my last semester for my Bachalor's. One thing that distinguishes me is that no matter what my situation is I will succeed. It has been extremely hard to deal with my father's and mother's divorce along with their rejection and cruelty to me. I know everything I just wrote is very personal but most people are scared of speaking about it, I am not because I know that the sun will rise again and I will be able to breathe and treat my patients with the love I never had. I am more than thankful for your studies, your effort and your determination to help people. Thank you!

[@rod-j.y]

fr

[@billcastanedo4467]

I hear ya but hang in there it sounds like you’re on the right track & God bless you!!!

[@benjmainthompson1322]

Thank you for your honesty and transparency about your feelings and emotions surrounding your difficult upbringing. This Psychologist has helped me see past my failings and failed upbringing too. Your comment also gave me hope that the future can be brighter.

[@rkohlikool14]

The reason he could talk with such conviction and also convince us is because he has been through it and shared the same honestly. Great Ted talk.! 👌✌️

[@Jlong2o]

True! ! :)

[@puppibanana]

It's so difficult being compassionate to yourself...

[@wewemcrhyne]

elm0505 you’re right. We are harder on ourselves than we would ever be on others

[@pracowniaswiadomosci]

that's why we have each other :)

[@ricardobondocjr.3460]

I couldn't agree with you more

[@silog21]

Oh yeah. It takes dedication to start shifting the horrible things we think about ourselves. But we can do it.

[@mementomori502]

So f4cking true

[@moragmacgregor6792]

I found myself close to tears a few times. That tells me that I have some emotional hygiene issues to work on. I'd like to watch this again with my whole family. I hope it would stimulate a positive, healing conversation. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights, Dr Winch.

[@sharonevelynmclaren6274]

Thank You for this 'first aid' solution to help our very sick Hurting World .. it is an urgent need to ALL living in God's wonderful Creation 💕🙏

[@roushnirafamajumder1578]

I've already opened a new playlist named "rewatch" section & put this video first on the list. I'll watch this again whenever I'll feel emotional pain.

[@KatarinaS.]

Being close to tears listening to this talk doesn't mean that you have emotional issues, it means that you have empathy. That's a good thing.

[@user5214]

@@roushnirafamajumder1578 reminder that this video exists if you are feeling in need of some emotional first aid ⛑️ ❤️

[@Jean980]

1. We value physical health more than psychological health. If we had a broken leg, we would not say walk it off. But we do that with loneliness, failure, depression. 2. Take action when you're lonely. Loneliness makes us believe those around us care less than they actually do. It is based on your personal perception. Loneliness can be as harmful to your health as cigarette smoking. 3. Don't let your mind be tricked by failure Are you aware how your mind deals with failure? People believe their setbacks means they're no longer capable and do not reach their potential. Our minds are hard to change once it's made up. We have to fight to stop feeling the failure. 4. Be your own best friend and protect yourself against rejection. Rejection forces us to call ourselves names and damage our own self esteem. We wouldn't get a cut on our arm and dig at it and make it worse, but we do that with psychological. Instead, we need to protect our self esteem. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would treat others. 5. Constantly battle negative thinking. Rumination is when you agonize over the same idea over and over. Study shows even a two minute distraction is enough! Battle negative thinking constantly will foster positive thinking.

[@nooral4315]

THANK YOU!

[@yusufsolomon2737]

Not to be dramatic but I genuinely appreciate you as a human being thank you so much, I was just looking for a way to write everything down and this was such a concise summary. You indirectly supercharged my healing and I appreciate you so much.

[@owenlee9474]

Nice summary

[@SubashGurung]

thank you

[@psilocylence]

Wow, thank you!

[@aliacka54]

One of the best Ted Talks I've ever watched

[@joantarala3274]

aliacka54 .. totally

[@rogene11100]

Agreed

[@user-qb4id8zn3h]

aliacka54 I agree as well. Could you suggest a few more you liked?

[@MorganAlexis]

Hands down

[@fernandocalazans1553]

then you are in trouble ... lol

[@debrasbarkle4896]

This was posted 7 years ago and I am just now seeing it. ❤ Sharing with my adult children and friends.

[@rachelw821]

Wow. The story about rejection and calling the "friend"...🤯💯💯💯

[@shoukifong]

Me everytime.. Even as simple as forgeting some people's name I still remember some small mistake I made 10 years ago

[@kiannasade]

This part made my eyes water🥺

[@hazelsleep4264]

It was his twin, not just a friend

[@rojodivagante]

Hazel Sleep she talks about the story of the women who was rejected

[@RachRACHbaby]

Man. I always see the right random TedTalk at the right time :)

[@feelalive649]

Yeah me too

[@dawnettsPOV]

Right? Thank God cause I needed this today and didn't know how much it would help. 🙂🙂🙂

[@relaxingmuzics]

even i just thinking about it and it appeared on my recommendation. sorry for my bad engs

[@alifarooqrajpoot]

May be these software algorithms are getting better and better at analysing our thinking and thus showing us relevant videos.

[@shernielyn3046]

Same.

[@aderiancreature8464]

When he talked about him waiting for his brothers call, I started to cry. I know that feeling so good...

[@wolfferoni]

Choosing to watch this video, despite the length, is probably the best thing I've done this week. How does this video not have more views? Everyone needs to watch this

[@Ludifant]

what an incredibly powerful talk. Being your own best friend as an emotional band aid. I must remember that.

[@prb16]

After recovering from a traumatic event i churned over and over why it ate into me, why it left me hollow. And i realised that it was less the event and more of how i had hacked away at my mind and soul by negative thoughts that i collapsed into a nobody. I lost my confidence, pride, compassion, desire to live ; all because of what i did to my lonely self within the four walls of my empty house. I hate to discuss my personal life but i know what it is like, so anyone feeling the same, please know what this guy has said is true. It is just a state of mind not the reality. You can change your reality by changing your state of mind. Bless you x

[@sogghartha]

Loneliness, failure, rejection, rumination.. sounds like a checklist of my life.

[@3dge--runner]

most of our lives my friend...

[@TheLawrence05]

at least you are not alone in this :D

[@MyMasterController]

That's a step in the right direction then :D You have the check list and now you can go and isolate the triggers. Which one goes where at one moment and make strategies on how to turn that into positive force for you in your own way!

[@SporkRevolution]

+sogghartha I feel for you buddy. And I often feel the same way.

[@spaghetti6155]

There is still hope my friend. There is still hope. I used to be in that place as well.. Up until today. But we can make it..

[@monkiram]

I used to be the worst ruminator you could ever imagine. Especially during elementary school, I would spend the entire day stuck in my mind, regretting everything I've ever done and reliving the shame. As I got older, I started to notice how this bad habit was making my life miserable, and over the years I learned how to be mindful of it when it happens and remind myself that it's not healthy, that my brain makes everything more negative than it is, and more recently, I've also started stopping it with distractions. I don't know how healthy it is because usually I distract myself by watching KZbin videos lol, but at least when it's TED Talks, I learn something!

[@takashiymatcha]

I have never related to a WHOLE video about what I have been struggling to since the pandemic and this video made me feel safe and that I am valid wherein a lot of times I do not feel that way in my life. In the past month, I worked as an intern here in our place and I started it with a whole different and new environment in my home/neighborhood and even all of the people I worked with were all complete strangers to me. I never let my guard down in that short amount of time I've been an intern so that the people there won't really know who I am, that I am a very vulnerable person and also have depression and anxiety. I couldn't even believe myself that whole time there, I was the strong person that I wish I could be in everyday, but I guess I really just have episodes in my life. Getting better everyday!

[@LemonWedge123]

Having any mental/emotional problems is considered weak and embarrassing, which discourages psychological "routine check-ups", among other things. Plus, letting yourself be vulnerable with a complete stranger is terrifying.

[@DSBrekus]

nullins Top notch fear mongering dude.

[@LemonWedge123]

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[@MagnesiumEnterprise]

nullins It's cool, bro.

[@coldcube]

Agreed. When I would explode with anger it seems that it was very embarrassing and disrespectful. After its over its like I've wrecked my own reputation. And then, even after that...it turns out that the way I thought people would think of me, wasn't even how they thought and I screwed myself over. All because of the rumination and failure.

[@coldcube]

LemonWedge123 Well if we are, then we know that what the doc said was true. Distractions work like a charm. It seems like I take failure too seriously. I guess certain people have to keep moving forward. Like myself. I used to be level headed, or a better description is **was seen** as level headed. But I think my reputation mattered most to me, and when I broke my own character I was disappointing myself. I can't depend on others to make me see myself how I want to be seen.

[@harryshin3209]

A little fact literally a few hours ago. I texted my girlfriend at uni some useless rubbish like "Whatcha doin anyway?, Ru busy?, When are you finished for the day?, Sweet!, Cool!" Naturally, eventually the fb messaging stopped because the convo went nowhere. I saw that she saw my messages but she didn't reply. for the next hour I kept flicking on my phone to see if she replied anything back ANYTHING... I felt bad, started thinking all negative thoughts. Felt really bad and sad. I always had problems with my emotional security. I went to a library, and watched this first video, to hear this man say something along the lines of: "once you've convinced yourself that you're a failure, it's very hard to convince yourself otherwise, to the point where we believe we are a failure and we never even try" "Our mind is hard to change once we become convinced we're a failure... You cannot allow yourself to say you can't succeed. We have to fight feelings of helplessness, you have to gain control over the situation, and you have to break this kind of negative cycle before it begins" So I picked up my phone and asked her what I truly wanted to say "Lets get that mango snowthing tonight. Keen?" and she replied ":)" ":)" ":)" "keen". This man knows what the f**k he's talking about. Respect to you sir.

[@carinamaren7779]

thank u for sharing this! It contains very precious information to me!!!

[@AnikóAmáliaVeres]

Thank you for sharing your experience! We really need reassurance and get a grip and step out of our own mind and be daring to reach out!

[@nicksheerin6520]

Harry Shin Your usage of the word keen is keen.

[@whatdoyoulivefor735]

Flippin' adorable.

[@lycheemyusic]

thank you for sharing

[@adneseljeset712]

A master in his field, making a difficult subject understandable and relatable.

[@gamerN77]

I've seen quite a few TED talks now, but this one is by far my favourite! Don't get me wrong, I love watching most of the other ones, but this one is really special in my opinion.

[@rogene11100]

Agreeed!

[@chickenskink1]

Maybe try journaling everyday for ten minutes, talking to yourself or about yourself, positively and compassionately. I've heard that it's a good way to slowly change the way you think.

[@tinachilla5652]

i confirm , personally it worked and i changed from a negative sad person to a positive and thankful one

[@chickenskink1]

@@tinachilla5652 that's really good! congratulations!

[@tinachilla5652]

@@chickenskink1 thank you !

[@chickenskink1]

@@tinachilla5652 you're welcome haha

[@tagaway6173]

For people that might struggle at first with the writing or self positive talk, There's also visualization of what you want or how you want things to be. But even that one was a bit hard for me, There's also the "How will you feel if X,Y,Z, happened already?" So trying "to feel" has work a bit. I know there are names for these. My English is bad. A bit of all might work to; Writing Self talk Visualization Feeling In a way you are doing the same thing, you have to think about X subject. Is just that we are all so different, lol. I used to get discouraged when certain things worked on others and no me Now I understand I have to keep trying to I find "my thing".

[@MM-yi9zn]

We should watch this every day! Brilliant, obvious but desperately needed!

[@niwe3631]

Ruminating is what I’m doing right now. I can’t stop hearing all the negative stuff I heard in a recent disagreement with a loved one. It’s overwhelming and causing me anxiety. I keep thinking bad stuff about myself. I want to be better. This video is much needed and I’m on my way to getting better. Thank u.

[@shafeequekottakkal5273]

Well said....

[@weekendmovie3793]

There are ways to help break the over thinking cycle. One expert I like is Reid Wilson. His KZbin channel under his name and his website, anxieties.com, have some great helps to understand the true nature of anxiety and how you feed it and gratefully how you can starve it. It is highly curable.

[@aboutdawntoday]

Try to force your mind off it by thinking of something else for 2 minutes like he said or better yet do what you would tell a friend to do if they came to you hurting like that.

[@IamKayneISO]

I was this before and even worse than my present condition. Not until I had spent months to attend positive seminar, the negative thoughts slowly faded. And I can control it.

[@EuropeanQoheleth]

Rumination is horrible stuff indeed. I speak from experience.

[@tuleybee2425]

Complaining Qoheleth I’ve caught myself in the spiral of rumination ..

[@cloudaltair1314]

Come acrossed this vid by accident, coincidentally I was having a bad day. I never knew I needed this to lighten up the burden I'm feeling. Thank you so much!

[@microbiologeest]

I just want to say that this Ted talk helped me a lot when I was in a dark place, thank you so much. Also, if you're going through something, life is hard but just keep moving forward and growing as a person.

[@squirrel36274]

holy crap.... he's absolutely RIGHT! I was on the verge of tears hearing him point out whats been the matter with me for the past 3years! I've been lonely, depressed, and have been nothing but negative to myself. But the moment he defined what loneliness is and does I knew b4 he started talking about how to change it. and my tears became of happiness. positmestic, hopeful, and encouraged! The encouragement that ive been searching for for years now. as simple as that, it was or is, like a slap in the face! how obvious! idk how long this joy of releif will last, however it doesn't matter anyway because I know now, what it is, and how to fix it. Thank you, thank you sooooo sooooooooo sooooooooooooooooo much! !!!

[@anshnoorkaur5994]

I'm glad!

[@sofifl]

How's it going now, 2 years later?

[@ashishkovuri3572]

Hey aerick how are you now

[@englahimla9451]

Yeah, how're you doing now, Aerick? Feeling better and more positive? How did things turn out? I'm really curious! (Hope everything is good!)

[@bendemare5270]

I'm happy you were happy Hope you're doing well

[@qualitycrazy5516]

I discovered this on accident. It was NOT an accident. I needed to hear this & God knew it. Such an amazing 17 minutes. Thank you so much! I am in one of the loneliest seasons of my life. I understand the importance of positive thinking. I didn't used to know how negative my thinking was. Even when my outward communication was positive, my inner monolog & self talk were negative. I'm trying feel so down, but I struggle. I look forward to listening to the Emotional First Aid video💗

[@briankelly85]

We take our kids for physical vaccinations, dental exams, eye checkups. When do we think to take our - our son or daughter for a mental health checkup?

[@andeggbreaks]

This should absolutely become common practice. Even someone who's generally mentally healthy would benefit from a psychologist session every year or so.

[@BruhWhyDidTheyChangeThis]

True some health professionals say you should do both. Your mind and body are interconnected, if one is out of wack it will mess with the other. Your mind also is your consciousness so it’s arguably the most important part of your existence and the most complex. You should check it all of the time

[@janpieterszooncoen2550]

Actually I was never taken to a doctor.

[@claudiap.6838]

''loneliness creates a deep psychological wund, one that distorts out percection and scrambles our thinking'' OMG! SO WORTH WATCHING! I

[@IceCream-t9w]

This video made me that I wanna study psychology 4 years ago .... and now Im a college student of psychology in japan. When I get tired I come to here sometimes. Thank you so much doctor guy winch you makes my confidence always

[@xiimarii4372]

Perfect voice for voice acting, voice overs, audio book, etc.

[@LazyOtaku]

Yeah, and a twin no less. They could of been good actors in a different life.

[@knowone1723]

this guy gave me a boost and let me aspire to become a psychotherapist

[@uim_Zalk]

Is it working out?

[@nihalmohammed6674]

Hope everything's going smooth now

[@syub2407]

hows it going now

[@jenaprithviraj0433]

@Deligah Hawkins, hmmm, just a psychotherapist..... not a real doctor. Haha. Did you read some psychotherapy btw?

[@limchenghao5750]

All the best!

[@LaysouKim]

This is several books and wisdom in less than 20 minutes. Breaks down what we need in a witty humorous way while passing the message, enough for anyone to start some serious introspection. Thank you.

[@MakeEmSay4]

Dr. Winch speaks with great compassion and understanding. He seems like a good man.

[@kalanyou3275]

Thank you for sharing your decades of experience for no fee.

[@MariChambers]

Pretty sure anyone who gives a TedTalk gets paid, but yes it's nice that Ted publishes these to watch for free

[@mrkm8436]

@@MariChambers I agree with you both, though i think the cost of withholding informations like these and not sharing comes at greater cost than any money could ever make up for. Good information and Knowledge is valueable, but also absolutely deserves to be shared. I'm really grateful for it too.

[@sakshi8302]

I absolutely loved your Ted-talk winch. Thank you so much for this amazing speech..this sentence helped me do much, "Treat yourself like you'd expect from a truly good friend." 💛

[@rachel.O-O]

I’m a twin and I say that everything he said about twins is true. I love his storytelling.

[@harshajoshii]

I love his tone of voice. He can have a great career in recording audio-books if he wants a change from patients! Not to mention this is one of the best ted talks I have watched.

[@Sinjinator]

I keep wondering, where is he from?

[@bluelly8516]

This is gotta be one of my favorite TED talk. Thank you Dr. Guy Winch, your speech really saved my life. Stay strong everyone.

[@Lintlikr1]

This guy's voice is incredible.

[@ilikecats9115]

"loneliness affects immune system" Me- *cough*

[@Aethuviel]

I moved to my first apartment when I was 20. Between the age of 20-24, I was sick 3-4 times a year. I had no friends. Then I met my husband, now nearly four years ago. I'm barely sick once a year, and fight it off almost immediately when I do catch something.

[@HeyPhonsi]

I agree. I am battling a life long disease and the minute I reached out for a shoulder to cry on, I started feeling healed and haven't had any physical complications for a month now. I started living again. In fact, my life is much better because a human very dear to me 'my mother' made me promise her that my primary goal in life should be 'to be happy'. I am honouring it and always will :-)

[@muhammadsaadmansoor7777]

@@HeyPhonsi you are lucky. My God bless you.

[@mmmuuuuuuuuiiiiiiiiirrrrr]

Aww. I'll be your friend, and support u.

[@lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385]

Get well soon tho pal and take some panado for that cold u have going on cough don't be silly cough.

[@inn_consciente]

Its really amazing how Guy Winch has come to realize these truths and vices about the human mind, this time through science, psychology, his observations of himself. Considering that Buddhism and other religions have done this for thousands of year now.

[@dianamolnar1384]

This is literally going to change how I live my life

[@heprynnrobertson8806]

🤗

[@jessicacis8246]

🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@shubhammhashelkar6717]

Same.. :)

[@joanapisan5433]

How are u now?

[@Ernthir]

I'm just 3 min in and already love this. "Just walk it off. It's all in your leg" XD

[@v.dargain1678]

Funny .

[@sebastianyu5383]

Ernthir same

[@carolinegreer7821]

2:10 "Walk it off, it's just in your leg." 3:28 "My brother is also a psychologist, so he's not a real doctor either." 4:13 "We decided to splurge and we talked for 10 minutes." 10:03 "I said "In the front seat" but that made no sense to him whatsoever, so now he thought I was on drugs."

[@lilacosmanthus]

Loneliness is a monster. It's so much of a monster I can't recognize it anymore. Am I alone or am I lonely... I no longer can differentiate. As soon as I am surrounded by people and overwhelmed by conversation, I want to be alone. But once I achieve it, I don't know what to do anymore and feel very awkward.

[@E-plunksna]

oh i recognize it very well what your saying. i was in rhat state for decades. after years and years of work with myself i realized, being alone is beneficial too. we need both - to practice connection with others as well as to stay alone. we need to be alone for some time too. and we need to know how to be alone without feeling bad. it's programmed into us "oh it's so bad to be alone, if youre alone somethings wrong with you", brainwashing. and then we suddenly find ourselves in "oh somethings wrong with me" and the state while being alone depends on how healthy and balanced i am. when i was very negative, dependant, disbalanced, injured,btraumatized, unhealthy psychologically, i was feeling awfully in any situation - alone or with people or even used to have problems with the ones i felt a bond with. as soon as i worked over a part of my psychological health, i began feeling better and better in any situation too. there's a saying - even shoes hinder a bad dancer. even the most comfortable situation can become a problem, if i am not healthy minded. and even the most challemging situation can turn into a lesson or joy or positive change, if i am healthy minded.

[@emskowable]

BEST. SPEECH. I’VE. EVER. HEARD. I’m speechless.. and just learned more in those few minutes than in all my 40 years of life 👏

[@clareciolli6049]

Hearing him speak on failure was particularly eye opening for me. I am recently out of a serious period of depression because of a failure. This gives me hope I can tackle inevitable future failures more mindfully!

[@nili8888]

his voice and storytelling are a emotional first aid as it is! everyone should hear his good message! 👍🏼

[@autumnparadox]

after a chain of horrific events and losing my life companion (my cat) while being untreated for depression and anxiety; i absolutely needed to hear this lecture. I'm so glad I stumbled in here...

[@MF-xp9tq]

I hope that everything is much better for you today. May you be blessed.

[@deniseposse55]

I am amazed by his words! In today’s world, where we are dealing with and struggling against so many variables that throw us off balance-like the internet, information overload and misinformation, the misuse of social media, loneliness, anxiety, depression-more than ever, we need to cleanse our minds. Thank you to Dr. Guy Winch for reminding us that the health of our mind is just as important as the health of our body. It’s possible to build a healthy body and mind in harmony. We need to make more of an effort to stay aware of this and apply it to our daily lives

[@libbyrichards5542]

WHY AM I CRYING, THIS WAS BEAUTIFUL!!!!!

[@eurocafeduo]

Tears of gratitude?

[@lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385]

@@eurocafeduo yes

[@axitamehtarashid5361]

Broke down too

[@soundaryabaswarajsheher6574]

Man the timing of this coming on my feed... It's my birthday, n I'm crying.. n this video.. thanks KZbin

[@allencarson4449]

Happy almost Birthday!

[@laqueenawarren8740]

@Soundarya Baswaraj Happy belated birthday! I pray what you were crying about is now history!! You are valued because God chose YOU on your special day!! Stay blessed!! 🤗🙏🏽🎁🎈🎂

[@harikrishnaraghuraman3348]

Happy birthday

[@frak7190]

"You wouldn't make a cut worse" is such a breakthrough for me to hear. This is such a good talk

[@trevorbaugh1335]

I could listen to this man for ages. He's definitely got a future available (if he's interested) in narration or audio books.

[@amandanavarro2465]

I love his thoughts on loneliness. Most people believe that loneliness is a choice, but it has a deeper meaning to it. Brilliant! 😬

[@awakenyourspirit2219]

I never beat myself up when I fail or get rejected I'm so grateful I never do the bad self talk THANK YOU MOM u teached me the strongest thing In the world 💙

[@khell2010]

How did she do that?

[@beebuenaflor]

One of the best TED Talks I heard! 👏

[@deimanteganyte1904]

Watching this again after having a really dark period of loneliness and suicidal thoughts makes a lot of sence.

[@jkdog3242]

I watched this Ted talk years ago, and I didn't remember that I watched it based on the title, so I put it in my watch later, got around to it, and realized how significantly this video changed the way I speak to myself. If I wouldn't accept the way a friend spoke to me, why should I accept or believe it from myself? This idea fundamentally altered the course of my emotional health. Bless this man

[@gonnahavemesomefun]

Speechless. Close to tears. Doctors should be psychologists like this first, then a doctor of the physical stuff. Bravo.

[@traebonay5928]

No they should not what???

[@patrickthomas3385]

This is exactly what I needed right now. I don't get to say this a lot, but thank you internet (and TED and Guy Winch of course).

[@Little_Nikah]

In the past years I've been watching videos like this, and reading about things like these... But oh lord. This is the first one that actually reach my mind. It's like he broke a wall that I didn't know it existed. There are no words to describe how grateful I am now... And motivated to know myself better.

[@JulianAbreu]

this was amazing. i had to clap at the end, i really loved it.

[@YashpalKrishna]

me too

[@byDora]

try Augusto Cury work

[@dylangoldberg6164]

I think by mental hygiene he's talking about not thinking negitivly

[@LyonPercival]

His voice keeps reminding me of Kurzgezagt ^_^

[@joppekim]

Funny because Kurzgezagt recommended his book on their video of loneliness :)

[@gorryhoren9302]

Don't you guys know? Kurzgezagt is his twin

[@elricedward3378]

Gorry Hören really bro ??

[@gorryhoren9302]

@@elricedward3378 no, im just kidding

[@phillip6215]

Loneliness creates a deep psychological wound, one that distorts our perceptions and scrambles our thinking. It makes us believe that those around us care much less than they actually do. It makes us really afraid to reach out because why setup yourself for rejection and heartache when your heart is already aching more than you can stand. this hit me like a train.

[@tanern1191]

Looks like I just found the most important video of the century.

[@lolagrandebutera9345]

i saw this video in the sadness moment of my life and in 17 minutes i was full of energy and happyness

[@marvlater]

Thank you for this talk. This is the best advice I've heard in years. It really motivates me to start interacting again with the community around me.

[@johanispro4219]

I think this ted talk is truly one of the best out there. It completely changed my perspective on live and health. Mental hygiene is the next step to becoming an even more advanced society and could solve endless amounts of problems we currently struggle with.

[@elianne5164]

Ted talkings... I never seen so beautiful talking about psychology ever.. also his voice is sooo sweet

[@flufflepuffle]

I have an anxiety disorder, ocd, etc, so I struggled, but the hardest part are anxiety attacks. I recently went on medication, and simply not having anxiety attacks anymore (so far) just gave me the energy to go exercise for the first time in years. I am starting to get better sleep, and my stomach hurts less. I don't want to cry every time I go to work or school.

[@pipkin5287]

As someone struggling with mental health issues since childhood, it was so incredibly cathartic to watch this talk. Thank you so much for speaking for us, for everyone's health. Especially speaking on loneliness. It's interesting to know that those whose words should fall the heaviest - those who have experienced mental health issues and would be taken serious under many other circumstances - often does not bear much weight with healthy individuals.

[@johndawhale3197]

Whenever I feel lonely or depressed I always remind myself that there are wonderful caring people in Colombia and the Philippines that will always take care of me and make me feel happy again...

[@rj3937]

This is the Gold Standard of KZbin... Guy Winch is fucking awesome. The way he empathizes with me (the viewers) with his personal life stories and hints us the solution of one of the biggest problem of modern lifestyle is simply amazing. Much love for both brothers and a happy life to you all who watch this wonderful ted talk

[@FurrySh0ck]

2:25 "Why is it our physical health is so much more important to us than our psychological health?" That's the story of my life in a nutshell right there

[@TheDenisedrake]

OH I needed this right now! I took care of my father until he passed away last September. I've been suffering from minor ailments since. Both my family doctor and physical therapist say I should see a psychologist. Growing up, only weak and deranged people went to a psychologist-- what an idiotic way of thinking. Thank you Guy Winch for explaining this so eloquently.

[@geekgroupie42]

sorry to hear about ya dad. i hope you get the help you need and feel better soon. and don't worry, lots of people think psyc is for weak people, i'm glad you know that's not true. it's actually for strong people, people strong enough to look after themselves.

[@TheDenisedrake]

geekgroupie42 Thank you for your kind words. The broken leg analogy really impressed me.

[@jamesevers6686]

Some of the most successful amazing people I know have a psychologist. Go be like them.

[@LazyOtaku]

James Evers emotional hygienist?

[@Chris-op7yt]

We all go one day, that's for sure. As long as we don't build up a litany of regrets. My mum died of cancer and it was a terrible thing. I am happy that her pain finished. The sad emptiness still comes often, but gradually getting lesser. hardest part was letting them go, after they already left. But we must do this as they only live in our minds now. I'm growing as many flowers as i can, as she loved flowers. I stopped visiting the grave as there's really nothing there and I'll just bawl my eyes out.

[@Dinky-zv4hc]

I wanted this ted talk so badly! I cried when he talked about loneliness. You can be around people, friends, family and feel disconnected and that creates loneliness.

[@3ngab1s]

Guy Winch's voice is very soothing. This was a powerful message, I felt like he was reaching out directly to me. I strongly believe this will definitely better my life. Thank you Ted Talks, I am so happy I found you.