Jerry Maguire: It’s Not How I Am Built (BREAK UP SCENE) | With Captions

[@kidzfromthebloc]

"my need to make the best of things and your need to be responsible, we could lose 10 years just being polite" is the most underrated line in this whole movie

[@annavickisantana]

Not by me. Personally, I think it was such an intelligent line for her to say.

[@jkkhutson]

It is so very true. Both individuals have to be honest and make a decide what is best before wasting years

[@corelltemple2939]

Human of her to utter. You have to FEEL love; at that point, she didn’t feel it.

[@clarissacantu8176]

@@annavickisantana I think she said that because she realized he wasn’t in love like she was. Like he’ll stick around because he has to, and she’ll make the best of it cuz She truly loves him, but that’s not fair to anyone.

[@caseyanderson6991]

@@annavickisantanathis is different watching as an adult … 1996 I didn’t really understand it

[@jihangamal5823]

The fact that she is the one who comforts him by reassuring he will remain friends with her son.... just shows what a generous and decent person she is.

[@piatmal49]

Lol... whatelse should she say - just being polite? Obviously they didnt see each other after their break up at all...

[@jihangamal5823]

@@piatmal49 Oh she could have gone silent and let him think he wouldn't see the kid again. And they didn't break up lol.

[@hothotheat3000]

It’s so weird. He was more upset at losing the kid than losing her.

[@piatmal49]

@@hothotheat3000 well, it was her decision and she was pretty sure about it..

[@kevintse2870]

@@hothotheat3000 it’s not weird because it’s obviously just a father-figure bond.

[@Superstar6249]

The beauty of this scene is it took her breaking up with him to make him realize he loved her.

[@Spocklee]

Wow touche 👌

[@aliensoup2420]

He knew he loved her, he just hadn't learned how to LIVE love. Everything was centered around HIS career, and not THEIR life. He hadn't yet figured out how to share his career with his life, and that his life was more important than his career.

[@natalie651]

I don't agree. The beauty of this scene is the reality of being with an emotionally unavailable person.

[@starkrebel]

Well he sort of guilt tripped himself into marrying her, but realized he needed her by his side in the end, because he did in fact love her.

[@evgeniyapanagushina4511]

Did he?

[@twilightblue8566]

Such good scenes. They break your heart watching it. Jerry wouldn't show his feelings, and Dorothy stood her ground even though her heart was broken in two. All he did was stare.

[@Akpar11]

Why dont they make beautiful movies like this anymore? I just want to go back to the 90's.

[@9cross]

Because people who make movies now are afraid to be genuine and would call this "cringe".

[@chrisjdarcy]

It's also that most of the modern writers are so sheltered that they have no experience to draw from to write a film like this, so they just regurgitate old movies that they didn't fully understand when they watched them in the first place.@@9cross

[@Gurugurustan]

Because the world is moving too fast now. We need to slow down.

[@bkit5]

Well the current generation want polygamy relationships like, open marriage and open girlfriends. No one even uses the word lover, it’s just friend or girlfriend 😂😂 😂

[@nivea2win]

They should make movies like this it explains love as it is ❤ love can be imperfect nd still be tht love you can die for..

[@vijai3]

She truly is a kind person.... Scarifice your own happiness to set someone free....

[@ilsevdg1194]

Infatuation is not enough. Friendship is not enough. You need the whole package. You need a true, deep commitment from both sides, rooted in real love. And you need to have the same value system. What a wonderful, balanced acting performance and what a wonderful, balanced script. Go, girl!!! Stay true to your standards!!!

[@fel8148]

Tom gives equally fantastic performance when he is jumping off a building and sitting on a back porch breaking up with a girl. What an actor. 🥹

[@terryprust9604]

That look she gives him after Ray jumps in his arms is heartbreaking and sweet at the same time

[@Midnight_priest]

For some reason when this movie came out in my twenties, I didn’t understand this scene. Now, in my forties, I understand completely.

[@annagarcia1527]

Me neither! I was 18 when this came out. Now as an adult, it hits my heart

[@ailecron7353]

I watched it when i was 10 y.o , now that i am in my 20s i finally understand it .

[@MichelleSPodcast]

That’s deep

[@fauziajasia2548]

I am 24 and I don't know if I understand it like you but this scene gives me feelings of love, like pure love that my soul desires like her

[@Meiran._]

Mind explaining to us 20 year old?

[@marymilo9916]

Renee Z is so believable here, such an authentic generous actor, she owns this role

[@DSMTheEditor]

Amazing that Cruise had two of the top four highest grossing movies in the US in 1996, this and Mission Impossible. Dude can crush it in so many types of roles.

[@dfa3366]

Lots of known actress audition for this movie but so glad they went to an relatively unknown Renee Z. Her performance sold her as a A list actress.

[@Nick64266]

As a kid I could never understand why people would break up like this. Just stay together! It was that simple! Now as an adult I find it’s actually very easy for people to break up like this and hard to stay together.

[@CheerfullyCynical829]

All marriages lose their spark after 5+ years. Breaking up because of that is childish and immature, as it's just life. It's never perfect and sometimes far from perfect. You accept it and make the best of it.

[@ChristianOne]

​@@CheerfullyCynical829No, that is not true. My parents were madly in love after 65 years together. What happens after 5ish years is that the initial "gas" runs out and now to keep the fire of romance going you have to learn how to add logs to the fire regularly. You have to learn to rebuild over and over during the years to make it a win/win situation as you both change and grow. The 5ish year change is the OPPORTUNITY for your love to develop roots to grow more deeply in love than ever before. Most people just quit instead of learning the new tools. You love your old dog or cat MORE over time, not less. You love your children MORE over time, not less. And my parents loved each other MORE over time not less. It is PATHETIC that humans do not make the time or put in the small efforts it takes to learn the skill sets and habits to accomplish this. Pathetic...because it really is not very hard to do. But there are consistent things that MUST be done or NOT done to keep the ties intertwining. There are records left from truly happy couples that light the path, there were studies done by Gottman institute over decades that light the path. Or...COPY how you do it with pets or kids. It is the same process. If you are a decent pet owner... you do NOT IGNORE your labrador's NEEDS for attention several times a day to be taken on walks. You do NOT ignore its need for food and expect it to take care of itself...you SERVE your pet. You do NOT call it some ball and chain when the dog puts its head in your lap and have your football buddies replace time with the dog. You do NOT disrespect your dog to its face or behind its back...no one thinks it is "cool" to hate on your dog for being exactly what dogs are. You don't push your dog away saying the "cuddling" isn't "as exciting as it used to be" that you think you need a new dog. You cherish cuddling that dog MORE as the years go by because you know someday he won't be there anymore. Your thoughts, words, and actions are lined up together to treat the dog well, to spend time playing...if you get bored, you play a NEW GAME with your puppy and you delight in the changes over time. You do NOT get mad at the dog for being dependent and having to pay a lot to feed it. When he is crippled with arthritis, you still love on him and treat him more softly and kindly and remember the pup who used to run wild. You FREELY extend your life/home/food/time/energy/love etc... to care for your pet Like come on people. If you were as good to partners as you are to your pets, you could be in love forever. Yes, it takes 2 reciprical people... but do YOUR PART CONSISTENTLY at least. Then if they "run away from home to get a new home..." then you can search for another. But each person needs to be responsible for their own output of consistent effort of giving towards their partner. If you sometimes beat your dog OR your partner emotionally or physically you will destroy love. If you don't take your dog go on a walk, it will pee on the carpet and it is YOUR fault, not a bad dog. Fix YOUR part, seek win/win solutions, make time TO LOVE (not to seek to GET), don't berate them and wow... surprise.. great relationship results.

[@sambitpradhan9218]

I have got this great guy and he LOVES my kid and he sure does LIKE me alot ..she showed jerry the difference between LOVE & LIKE...such a well written dialogue.....

[@udayjeetsingh9585]

Why jerry feels so real, his struggles, his pain, his victory feels so real. i think thats why this movie is so special

[@mariaelda6271]

The sound track of this movie is making it more beautiful, played at the perfect timing with the perfect choice of song... every single time...

[@caseyanderson6991]

I agree I had it bought it in 96

[@bconnphotography102]

5:48 You can see he does love her in the way he watches her walk away. He looks like "Don't go."

[@ARmirzaful]

He just doesn't feel it the way she does. She wants his soul...which is too much for him. That shows the difference...a woman always loves a man way more than he loves her. They are built that way.

[@Googaify]

@@ARmirzaful what an idiotic take mate. Why don't you just admit that you have never truly loved a woman instead of labeling us all as incapable of feelings. If you don't feel the same as your woman then you should leave, if you're a decent person at least so she's free to find a normal guy who will truly love her back. No person deserves to be with a partner who loves them less.

[@Ohsovivi]

" he loves my kid , and he sure does like me alot and I can't live like that !!!!!! That's not how I'm built .. 💔" WOW

[@arshinoor6202]

What it means

[@gregorypost2308]

What’s fascinating about this is that Jerry is trying to rebuild himself with the same tools from life that got him to exactly where he never wanted to be. It translates into his personal life with someone who is trying to love him. He speaks about personal connection, but continues to stretch himself thin. Her breaking up with him after that particular phone call was exactly what he needed to finally start to get it.

[@ojon12389]

"On the surface, everything looks fine. I've got this great guy. And he loves my kid, and he sure does like me a lot." Great line of summarizing their relationship at this point. He loves the kid, but is only committed to liking her and not truly love her.

[@caseyanderson6991]

I saw this in 1996 and it still one of my favorite movies “ what if I’m built that way “

[@20Kilogram]

This movie is an absolute fkn masterpiece from beginning to end, from any and every single angle you look at, i miss awesome movies like this.

[@CoudyCanvas]

When you are not whole heartedly into something it is good to take a break to figure out each other’s importance .

[@sermon007]

This is one of the nicest movies i’ve ever watched

[@belair344]

One his best movie he should go back this again

[@davetaylor8858]

Great scene, she loves him but feels she has to end it.

[@xxo8888]

"C'mon Jerry. You know this isn't easy for me," is heartbreaking. She loved him, but knew he only loved her son.. this decision was best for all of them

[@thecanberean]

You can call it what you want but this is great writing and acting.

[@JuanRodriguez-fj1nk]

"What do you want, my soul?" You know Cameron Crowe was channeling Bob Dylan when he wrote that line.

[@dimitries]

" She's got a secret garden Where everything you want Where everything you need Will always stay A million miles away" What perfect lyrics for this scene

[@R58-n8n]

Look at that state of the art laptop. Wow, how fast technology is advancing.

[@shugahhigh3204]

Hackers still use those laptops to this day

[@spongebobsquarepants-ne6lc]

Now Jerry is wearing glasses to cover his tears wow

[@karlasnyder9856]

Have to say my most fave movie. Best scene ever !!!!!

[@peacefulguy4145]

Nice to see adults talking in movies lol

[@starkrebel]

2:02 Unrelated to this scene; but would you look at that 1995 laptop?! It's practically a suitcase.

[@d2dar459]

Because it's 1995. Lol.

[@rups1390]

This is the best scene of the movie ❤️

[@veronikajamborova8016]

Movie?

[@ARmirzaful]

For me one of the toughest scenes to watch. Jerry gets put in his place for real.

[@sabeehbutt543]

You complete me was better

[@benleung6331]

@@sabeehbutt543The you complete me scene is good only because of *this* scene, becy we the audience see what a treasure Dorothy is, who owned up to her mistake (“it’s my fault, it’s not fair to you this whole thing”) as she lured Jerry into marrying her when he was in the lowest point of his life, and she tried to right her wrong by setting Jerry free. Dorothy is not the only woman who walked out on Jerry in this movie but if it is Avery(Kelly Preston) Jerry said “You complete me” to it will not even be half as good. If you understand about storytelling than you should realize this is the better scene.

[@hmph-]

❤️Tom Cruise

[@dee3971]

As a single mom, he is my dream ❤️

[@SpiritualSchmuck]

She had to break up with him so he didn't stay on emotionally unavailable pilot.

[@TAHNAEGENARO]

..."and he sure does like me." 😢😢😢😢

[@PernellHillMinisterP]

“I got this great guy who loves my kid, and he sure does like me a lot- and I can’t live like that, that’s not how I’m built “ “Dorothy” RZ

[@_Susnataroy]

Jerry at first married Dorothy bcoz he fell in love with her son but later fell in love with her. That`s actually a beautiful story.

[@hennysumar]

This scene...heartbreaking

[@rups1390]

That background music is just perfect ❤️

[@richardcalisi9188]

I remember watching this movie in Theatres, wow the Memories.

[@creyes1694]

Dealing with this at the moment, we’re taking a break and now she wants to talk later this week….a break is the beginning of the end of a relationship in most cases this sucks

[@maktwnmugs2619]

God don't put you in situations, that he knows you cant overcome..

[@SpiritualSchmuck]

I found the more I go inside and meditate the more my outer life matches that harmony.

[@mast3rchief536]

How did it go? Yeah it’s a horrible feeling. I remember this girl I was seeing, we were so into each other and I went on holiday to come back and the vibe was off. She started being flaky with the plans, saying she was ill and couldn’t come out with me that night. Then one day I asked her if we could do something together the day after and got the message of “I think we should go back to being friends”. Hurt like hell, that horrible gut feeling just instantly kicked in. You get over it though, a few years later she now is trying it on with me again, tried to kiss me and I’m long over her. I’ll kiss her back sometimes but now it’s like me just having control of not wanting to pick it back up with her, now I’m the one that fucks her off and she’s chasing after me when I few years ago I dreamed of having that back. Now I just have her as an option but chase after other girls.

[@ecomarinebd]

This happened to me. She took the advantage and was candid to acknowledge it even. That was very sad. False and truthful about it!

[@mariannefong4200]

Tom Cruise as Jerry McGuire: What if I'm not built that way? When you think of it his previous relationship was definitely not real. This was as real as he thought at the time its going to get.

[@Nervosity9]

This is what I am going through now. I’m “great,” but I’m not loved.

[@jwhite8891]

Right there with yah. Doing my you complete me try tomorrow wish me luck. Same to you

[@robertigram6398]

Isn't everybody

[@crossbearer6453]

@@jwhite8891 how did it go??? Well I hope

[@tanyaabbot1060]

We are living the same life buddy. Good luck to you.

[@Nervosity9]

@@tanyaabbot1060 and to you 😘

[@triumphefe-ogidi6918]

The fish face though 😂😂

[@janinealvia1848]

Gotta watch this again!

[@tomiang9149]

Beautiful renee,

[@javonmaley4359]

Tough stuff. I was with a girl one time and she had a daughter who liked when I came over we’d all watch movies and her daughter would lean on me between me and the girl and fall asleep and I think the girl looked at me the same way as Renee did to Jerry, her kid was cool as heck too. There wasn’t any closure with that relationship.

[@Vange-kw4ye]

"It was just a mission statement"

[@brooklynbaby6885]

What does this quote mean?

[@Vange-kw4ye]

In the beginning of the film Jerry has an attack of conscience and types up a mission statement to his former company stating agents should have fewer clients and better personal relationships with them. It was what first attracted Dorothy Boyd's attention to him.

[@hasithapriya7337]

Okay but can you pls explain why did he say it in this scene?

[@Cygnus75]

@@hasithapriya7337 He said it because the place in life he is right now all comes from that "memo", as Dorothy called it the first time at the airport. He told her it wasn't a memo, but "a mission statement". He lost his job with the company, his fiancée, and he was broke. He then took Dorothy's "offer" to calm his pain and to try to find his way back to himself, and it led to this break-up scene. All that happened because of the "mission statement" he wrote.

[@hasithapriya7337]

@@Cygnus75 thanks for the reply

[@ursulabarreto2844]

I love the part where it says if this is empty❤ this 🤔doesn't matter.

[@killa704]

Dick Fox the 🐐

[@trilllllllian4468]

omg the music at the end scared the fuck out of me.

[@elleb9275]

LOL🤣

[@escapelabyrinth]

Me too

[@nikitadas9671]

Lol why? It's such a beautiful song

[@MoonMoon-fx1op]

The music gets me every time in that scene

[@King_David_97]

How can we break up? If we were never together...

[@ROB-cc5nv]

BRUCE !!

[@YourLockerzPal]

If ❤ is empty, 🧠 doesn’t matter.

[@robertigram6398]

If ever get to point where need ask why do you love me thats the point both know what needs happen

[@AngryLawyer87]

Not necessarily. It's all contextual and there's no right answer

[@robopiplup5193]

And this is why things are the way they are now. It's perfectly fine to ask questions like these, and oftentimes it's self-inflicted. Communicate and take responsibility for your actions and feelings. Not everything is in your partner's hands.

[@jarenfromvenus]

Sweetest breakup ever??

[@suzygordon2331]

He seems to love the kid more than the mom...

[@Test-ju4fy]

That's the whole point of the movie

[@telialee]

@@Test-ju4fy????

[@telialee]

@@Test-ju4fyreally?

[@Merilm26]

Aw Jerry and Dorothy are in love it’s shame when they break up

[@vitocorleone8437]

Now i know where Katie Holmes gotten her inspiration from to "breakup" with Tom...this scene is so powerful and underrated imo.

[@sabbyfilm]

elaborate pls im lost hahah

[@hannahelie]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@twilightblue8566]

Katie Holmes had to save her daughter from Scientology.

[@karlasnyder9856]

Great movie….Renee where are you now?!

[@stephanieharper6047]

As, why do I love you. You loved me first when I needed to be love. You sacrificed to love me, you drove to love me. Then I fell in love with your face, your voice, and they way you held me. But I fell in love with you and I still am but I had to pull back and love me because you broke up and left me. I never stopped loving you.

[@Tiranga1947]

The part where she always leaves a Nice Guy 😊

[@IamMarjoree]

Figuring who best describes me pertains to the character

[@belleve5709]

Great movie

[@josedanielarteagatorres4452]

I thank all the Dorothy Boyds of my life...

[@elijahroberts3044]

Men of honor 1996 it’s a great movie from tristar pictures.

[@_solange]

wise.

[@嘟嘟嚕-v5t]

this is my favourite part

[@N3zukoooo]

I'm waiting for the scientology comments🤣💙

[@palomavonwood3423]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@HBKshowstopper]

I'll be honest, I never watched this movie but I know the "show me the money" reference. I just like this scene because Tom Cruise talks to a goldfish 🐠

[@beatrizsanchez3625]

Él " utiliza " al niño porque no quiere tener una conversación de amor con ella ya que no la ama y así es como en el jardín, ella le pide que se vaya

[@intermodus2180]

Yea.......

[@arshinoor6202]

Wht did they breakup

[@KILLAKINGD0M]

And We never saw Tom sit still in another movie again.

[@davs1wife]

Right… 😂😂😂😂😂

[@michelseiler3915]

She gave me strength

[@businesswalks8301]

this movie would NEVER work if she was a scorpio. if so, she would just sacrifice her kid to mess with his head

[@joaopedrosousa156]

João Pedro Souza Tom Cruise

[@ludd8489]

Anyone can explain that scene? Mayne my english is not good enough but why does Renee Z breaks up with Jerry?

[@rnguyen2516]

She wanted him to love her for who she was, not because of her son or because she was loyal to him. She wanted him to feel passion for her, not obligation. I hope I worded that right!

[@agricolaregs]

@@rnguyen2516 you said it perfectly

[@hasithapriya7337]

Can anyone explain the bachelor party part in this scene?

[@beatrizsanchez3625]

Ella lo ama demasiado como.para conformarse con el cariño que él siente por ella y su hijo

[@Lagerboyy]

Cry about it

[@MitchMarley1]

I respect Tom and Renee but can we give Bruce Springsteen his credit

[@ttigerbell6060]

Godam look @ that laptop

[@marvinlassegue9353]

She saw how Jerry talked to that lady in the plane. She wasn’t getting what she expected.

[@hothotheat3000]

This relationship was really weird at first. I swear he only married her to get access to her kid.

[@marvinlassegue9353]

If she was my wife or any type of lady. I would make show I listen and talked with her. I’m not saying I’m better than Jerry.

[@joaopedrosousa156]

Amanda marinho antes

[@mdgraystone]

I hardly recognize Renée Zellweger without the squinty eyes!

[@twilightblue8566]

She looked so much prettier before plastic surgery.

[@keydyariasnovoa6735]

Sub títulos en español porfa siiiiiiiiiiii 🙏

[@realTexans2024]

When she said why not like that I was like run jerry, RUN. The devil comes in many forms.

[@telialee]

when did she say “why not” ?

[@samiramirzayeva5937]

♥️

[@beatrizsanchez3625]

Comparto eso ,si amas con todas tus fuerzas y te quieren ,es mejor alejarse y quedarse solo o tener el cariño.del alguien a quien no amas

[@dudenotsoperfect9366]

Weird movie. The tone is off.