How To Compliment A Girl - Without Losing Her Respect

[@joshm5499]

I can't tell you how happy I am I found a channel that is tied to reality. There are so many "authorities" with crazy theories that go to the extreme. What this guy is talking about is how I behaved during my peak before I fell into a heavy depression. Genuine connection and care for people, not just women, can bring you far.

[@SamuelHallEngland]

Low quality compliments never work, that's for sure. It's nice to give and receive genuine compliments.

[@neltymind]

You're by far the most likeable guy in that field on youtube I've ever listened to. Men who wan to treat women with respect shouldn't be ashamed of that fact. It only shows they're decent human beings.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Thank you so much! It's easy to cop abuse from guys who think I should treat women worse - sadly there's no shortage of them.

[@kalasatwater2224]

When you compliment her is the beginning of the end

[@Dave-In-Greece]

Bravo...I'm starting a Coaching business here in Greece right now and that's the first thing I tell guys...the only difference is I do believe that there are intermediate complements that guys can give to open up a conversation...ie. if you like her dress, style, smile, hair style, tan (that's a big thing here in Greece, especially in summer) but NOT eyes, ass, legs. There's a balance between the two...BUT, YOU HAVE TO MEAN IT. I really do believe women can pick up on BS compliments RIGHT AWAY... Anyhow...I can go all day on the discussion...but I'll stop here...LOL Keep up the awesome work!!! Dave Arm

[@borneosislandbeauty3793]

Wow, I liked how you think and the way you explained the whole thing that's easy to comprehend. I didn't realise until now that women with low esteem problem needs approval and liked to be treated like garbage. I treated them with a lot of care and love but somehow they just always go with the bad boys, darn. This is like life threatening marriage if our desires of compliments is not compatible, luckily I found out the problem before it's too late.

[@YourWingmam]

Spot on!! Went out with a guy who gave me so many compliments that it was outright awkward. He was also using blatant PUA tactics that were a major turn off. They probably have worked on naive insecure Twinkie’s but he’ll never get a decent relationship wit those strategies. Your advice is solid. Glad you’re helping good guys see the light. Thanks! 👏🙏✨

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Thanks for the thumbs up, and yeah I've seen way too many of those uncomfortable compliments for my liking!

[@harmonica212]

I see too many men giving women compliments in these dating ads you see of women who have never been on the site that they find a photo of with a FAKE name and a FAKE age height etc and on Instagram Facebook Snap Chat and on dating sites. Before you judge you need to see this and what this guy says and what he sees A woman doing. The women know who they are who do what you see this woman doing. A lot of women give the narcissistic look making the duck face which is a turn-off to men and very unattractive-looking. What I see women doing is filtering their photos to appear MUCH more attractive than they really are by having filtered photos with FAKE hair extensions FAKE nails their chest pulled up so their boobs stick out to try and attract men when the woman is really a 4. or a 5. or a 6. or at best a 7. in looks and has the Dog ears etc should be ashamed of themselves and be banned from dating sites. You are online to meet men not play games and to deceive men. I am not a young man and I look for maturity in A woman. It is mostly young women I see do it that are in their early '20s to early to late '30s and early 40's I think you should give the woman a compliment if she has earned it and is deserving of a compliment. Men need to stop giving their #1 MOST VALUABLE Asset For FREE!!! This is the Crap that is really going on. It will depend on what A man is saying to A woman and how he frames it with how he says it. What I say to women when I first meet or write to women is stands out and is unique and different from what other men say to women. kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y32ZgoSep7ikjM0

[@NighthawkX02]

Your're not simply giving us good advice. You really are making us better men.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Thanks NIghtHawk :)

[@slomocalzone]

I agree. I’ve been with women who had daddy issues and they weren’t healthy emotionally.

[@Phat_336]

So true!! PUA just compliment based on looks and they act like NO OTHER MAN has given her compliments about her looks.🙄 High quality compliments are much more honest and it shows that you're listening. Spot on, sir!!! 👏👏👏👏

[@malteh.5075]

Your comment shows that you weren't listening properly to the high-quality PUAs out there. That's exactly what they are teaching. You don't complement woman on obvious things, cause that's what they hear all day, especially high-quality woman.

[@fesix1661]

the examples really help to get a better grip on what to say, thx very much

[@bradleydaniel1810]

Awesome video, with some really good insights. Thanks for taking the time to pass on so much free content....:)

[@toobasaurus23]

Great video! Your examples are excellent. Thank you.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

You're welcome bud!

[@toobasaurus23]

Can I buy your book in hard copy? I have it on my iPad but it's not a good medium to read. Can I get it from Booktopia? Many thanks in advance.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

I do have hard copies here (in Australia) but we don't usually sell them abroad. Have you tried the audio version?

[@toobasaurus23]

I'm in Newcastle in NSW. May I buy one from you? Can I find the Audiobook on Audible?

[@grawakendream8980]

Love your videos. Lots of great stuff. I don’t know if it’s the most effective but it aligns easily with my thought process. I like to think this is the way to do things. Teasing is a tough one for me since people’s feelings seem to usually get hurt if i tease, i just avoid it, maybe too my detriment. Maybe after socializing intentionally for months (it’s only been weeks), some fresh awareness will emerge-we shall see!!

[@carstan62]

Great video! Minor complaint: all of your examples of high quality compliments revolved around a girl's occupation. I still think I get the general idea, but it would have been nice to have more diverse examples.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

That's fair, I'll try to include more diverse examples in future videos.

[@carstan62]

@@SchoolOfAttraction Looking forward to it!

[@BLOISBOY]

Thanks for creating this channel and specially for this video. I don´t like treating girls like crap, I like to treat them well but it is hard not to seem to be needy.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Yeah, it's a fine line when you're just learning - once you get it though, the difference is night and day ;)

[@ruslanbagirov2390]

Actually that mentioned hq compliment so on point. Doesn’t make sense to me treating women like garbage even if u don’t want to in order to sleep with them, how are u supposed to be happy then?

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Absolutely! it's insanity sometimes

[@burn5394]

Thank you well said!!! I've had to learn that the hard way.

[@nomansson4628]

Surprisingly this is a lot better than the other videos I've seen on all this stuff. Still think nothings going to matter if you dont have the looks though

[@RJALEXANDER777]

Hate to say it, but isn't that fair? Why would you have a sexual relationship, committed or otherwise, with someone you weren't attracted to? Arousal must come first before anything more happens. Especially if you're looking for a one night stand or casual partner. Though, charm and confidence does go a long way as well. I'm baby faced, kinda short, hardly the most attractive guy in the room. But what the nail in the coffin for me is that I stammer and have very little charisma. Or at the least, a lack of self belief which pretty much has the same affect. If I was charming, confident, good at approaching people and had good social skills, I'd be getting far more interest from women. Looks aren't everything, and an attractive guy has more than just looks. It's harsh for those people who don't have advantages, but it's the way it is.

[@aronhighgrove4100]

I disagree. As long as you are decent looking and she isn't a superficial person herself, there is no reason it would not work. People change with time, everyone is aware of that, unless you are really very focused on looks. But nobody wants to be with such a person long-term. A fling for a short while, but a relationship with someone superficial? What a drain, no matter your looks.

[@Straga_Severa]

@@aronhighgrove4100 Not everybody can be decent looking, that's the problem. When you are talking about an "average guy", you are forgetting that 50% of men are below that line. And not all of them are there because they do not like to wash.

[@hassanwaked9312]

It is important to understand human behavior based upon reasonable facts rather than just following techniques!

[@KingSalaman]

Spot on! Great inside video bro!

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Cheers bud!

[@Guoenyi]

Good analysis! Thank you!

[@gyrga8861]

Man i last part. Hit me hard. I Just get i had only damaged girl in my life. I hate my self now for it

[@naterangel9717]

Awesome advice

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Cheers Nate

[@Thalanox]

Having read one or two blog posts by women about this subject, what the pickup artists who were stingy with compliments were doing was more of a tension-and-release strategy. The specific story told by the woman was that she dressed up for the date, or got her hair noticeably done up for it. The guy started the date and said "oh, I see you've changed your hair". This got the girl thinking a lot about "does he like it? does he hate it? I don't know!" for the whole date. Then, towards the end of the date, he said "by the way, I really like your hair". That release of the tension the girl was winding herself into was the emotional "fun" that she responded to. She made a point of saying that she had sex with that guy soon after. To clarify about this a bit, I mean a real blog post, not the mile a minute social media update stuff that blogs turned in to. It was a little while ago, but I don't think female psychology has changed all that much. A lot of this information, in a much more general sense, can be found in "How to make friends and influence people". I listened to the audio book of it a number of years ago, and found it to contain a lot of useful guidelines.

[@RJALEXANDER777]

Now that's interesting. Thanks for sharing that.

[@mr.mp3286]

Damn I did not think the HQ compliments could be that powerful but man really thought normal compliments were okay should still use them maybe not as often I guess

[@god6384]

it's only ok when you already know them very well obviously

[@bryanr93]

The only slight problem is it is almost always quite difficult to put yourself and a girl into a situation in which you can give her a really good compliment. I want to talk to a girl that lives downstairs in my residence here at university and I really want to throw in a compliment, but the best thing I can think of is just complimenting her appearance, just saying something like "you look really nice today". I know that's not a bad compliment, but it could always be better. But what else am I supposed to say? If she's cooking in the kitchen I could say it smells nice in the room, but she probably won't be. If she's doing work or something like that I could say that it looks interesting, but she probably won't be doing that either. What am I supposed to say?

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

OH well for you, it's not about giving a compliment yet, it's just about creating a conversation with her.

[@bryanr93]

@@SchoolOfAttraction yeah I'll try to do that, its not that I'm bad at creating conversation I'm just not the most creative person in the world so I probably miss chances to give compliments when those chances come up. It gets more difficult too because its basically impossible to talk to her alone, there are always other people around because this is a residence. I'll figure something out. Thanks for the reply.

[@aronhighgrove4100]

@@bryanr93 Ask her for neighborly help, then make it a longer chat.

[@78matt]

If you smell her cooking just say that smells nice when are you going to invite me for dinner/lunch whatever?

[@christianiliev3493]

How i think of it is that you should compliment women but as with everything there is a point where it becomes excessive you should know when to do it and when to stop or it just becomes annoying to them. So quality over quantity.

[@harmonica212]

Christian, this is what I say to women. It’s tough being such a sex symbol.😊 *Just wave and smile.* You must be feeling like a real celebrity, huh? 😊 I prefer to be noticed for my intellectual capacity and my character and the gentleman I am to you. 😊 It’s tough for me to be such a sex symbol. 😊 If I had a dollar for every compliment I’ve received so far, I’d be a billionaire. 😊 I'm not looking because you might think I think you are attractive looking? It is important to remember that not everyone who’s complimenting you is trying to have a romantic relationship with you or because you might assume men are trying to get into your pants or that it's about your looks. Beauty is only skin deep. I'm hoping you have a personality and substance and true character. 😊 It takes more than just a good-looking body and a pretty face. You have to have the heart and soul and a personality to go with it.😊 Yeah, I’m getting tired of being mistaken for good-looking like Brad Pitt.😊 Women are hoping that you will compliment them. Too many men compliment women and send emojis and memes. Men need to STOP Giving Away Your #1 MOST VALUABLE Asset For FREE!!!. They give compliments to women who have not earned it. Look what he sees this woman is doing. Most women JUST want attention from men. Women love getting an ego boost from men. This is the Crap that is really going on. kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y32ZgoSep7ikjM0

[@blueshirt06]

Great info thank you! I'm good at talking to girls but would just be nice to them without the teasing so they would like me and trust me as a friend but not be attracted to me even though i think I'm a good looking guy

[@ParkerBG]

My opener to a girl on Tinder named Dorothy was "Are you sure your name is Dorothy because you look more like a ten, man!" Worked very well.

[@mattrose4629]

Hi there, I recently came across your videos and your content is exactly what I was looking for. On this video in particular you mention creating friction using playful banter, which I understand is quite important. I was wondering if you’d be able to expand on this. I find myself defaulting to a small handful of playful games and they’re starting to feel stale to me. Is there a different approach I could use for this interaction?

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Hey Matt, well really I'm talking about teasing. Making fun of a girl in an affectionate way. That creates the playful banter that women really get into and builds a lot of attraction.

[@RJALEXANDER777]

Something similar to how you take the piss with friends. Obviously some of what a guy would find funny a woman wouldn't, and vice versa, so you've got to be able to get to know someone a bit and be able to "read the room" so to speak.

[@galihcd]

Is there any difference between how guys and girls think, perceive, or respond about compliments that directed toward women who obviously get complimented on a daily basis since forever and men who seldom receive it or almost never? If I were being complimented and I'm a guy who seldom receiving any positive feedback growing up and also I believe I'm not attractive of a person, of course I would be suspicious and ask myself "what's this person selling? Why is he/she complimenting me?" Unless I'm stupid enough to not realizing the deal he/she was brokering But for women who get complimented all their lives most likely are indeed beautiful, or at least for the guy who give it. Should their respond be the same like what you mention in the video?

[@harmonica212]

Too many men are complimenting women way too much who have not earned it. Men need to know their value as A man. Does she like your photos. Does she comment on your photos or write to you back? Too many men you see commenting on these dating ads and Instagram photos and on dating sites give likes emojis and have memes with the heart eyes popping out to A woman who is not A real woman that is just a FAKE photo and profiles of A woman who does not exist on the dating ads you see. Too many clueless men say the wrong things that turn women off. When you talk about PUA's this is the only PUA guy who knows what he is talking about who actually goes out and meets attractive women '8s '9s '10s that are high caliber looking. This video is called STOP Giving Away Your #1 MOST VALUABLE Asset For FREE!!! You need to see his point of view before you judge. I have seen the same thing with men and not one woman comments back to A man. Women need to earn it. Too many women are getting an ego boost from men who compliment women. Watch what this woman is doing. She should be ashamed of herself. They should not allow this kind of Crap from these kinds of women. They should be kicked off dating sites and banned from going on dating sites when they do this type of Crap with men. You women know who you are who do this, this is a turn-off to men. It makes you look very unattractive-looking to men and when you have the dog ears etc online and women who filter their photos to try and appear MUCH more attractive than they really are. You can tell the photos you post when they look filtered and have the FAKE hair extensions the FAKE nails It is not honest or attractive-looking to men and a turn-off to men. Shame on you for deceiving men into thinking you are MUCH more attractive than you really are when you are really a 4. or a 5. or 6. or a 7. in looks. I don't do it to you so stop deceiving men. Women can learn something from this video. I'm into a mature woman who doesn't play games and pull this type of Crap with men. kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y32ZgoSep7ikjM0

[@cosmopolitanbay9508]

Most women have self esteem issues, therefore "it" works

[@ronnie4661]

That’s fax but you gotta initially treat them good to get your foot in the door then you can start being toxic to get them hooked

[@sinsinter7814]

I imagine complementing a nurse or a lawyer who doesn't get enough salary, its like in the wolf of wall street when the investigator visited Di Caprio on his yacht :D

[@Soloeagle54]

I can do the compliments, the problem is that I'm a terrible jokester. My sense of humor doesn't lend itself well to witty, spur-of-the-moment kinds of jokes.

[@jay6831]

CavemanFTW when u tell yourself that Your telling your mind to believe that. It makes it hard to become better at that, but it can be your skill too, u just have to work towards it with and always with a Positive mindset of this Or just about anything needed in life lol. Serious though

[@Soloeagle54]

@@jay6831 You make a good point. I appreciate the advice

[@Chris-xx2dg]

This channel to me just means how to become an actor. Whatever happened to being genuine?

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

So the underlying message of this video is not to supplicate to women, or to use vaccuous compliments, and you interpret that to mean 'how to be an actor'?

[@Chris-xx2dg]

@@SchoolOfAttraction I really think you play on people who are not comfortable and confident within themselves. You reinforce that by telling them look this is how you you should be acting. Instead of actually wanting people to feel good about themselves, you just teach them how to pretend that you are actually like that. Yes that's acting.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

I think you've completely misinterpreted what I'm saying.... In fact my whole mindset is helping men become more confident versions of themselves. Perhaps you should rewatch a couple videos because you're pretty far off base.

[@مدرسهپزشکی]

thanks

[@sylvicalias]

6:47 7:00 Same reason I'm subscribed.

[@edwardk3]

These rules about compliments only apply to men. Women who give compliments get what they want.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Only because most men aren't requiring genuine compliments ;) - I require genuine compliments so fake women don't get traction with me.

[@edwardk3]

@@SchoolOfAttraction yes, sadly men are starved for any positive words. It is not surprising given the state of things today. I appreciate the work you do. Men sorely need support and love.

[@grade36oggg53]

LMAOO are you watching porn over there OMLLLL pls dont say that

[@aronhighgrove4100]

Why not? Much better than the many other kinds of teasing people suggest.

[@londonfinancial]

the first car salesman who complemented you just wanted to be nice. if your self esteem was high you would feel comfortable but you already said in other vid your self esteem was very low so you felt awckward someone complimenting you. you would just ignore that part if it was low -q compliment.

[@aronhighgrove4100]

When your confidence is high, you notice this even more, but it will upset you less and you just chuckle. You will still make that person work harder, though, to make up for this cheap attempt to convince you. If he wanted to be nice only, he would not immediately compliment you on your first decision, trying to close the deal.

[@einareinarsson8662]

I have a princip that women are not worthy of complimants on her appearence before they deserved it. To deserve love and complimants sex is necessary. It seems rude bit guys... Listen. Its about managing her ego. Without sex there can be no love with woman. Love comes after sex.

[@suzie5813]

Hahaha. Take my advice. Do NOT use his approavh of "playful banter" unless you really want to come off as an awkward moron.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Been teaching it for 12 years - oh also been using it for that long too, been with quite a healthy number of women in my life as a result. How many women have you picked up?

[@harmonica212]

@school Of Attraction, it is A woman so you would say how many men have you been with? It sounds like she has had no luck getting men that are high caliber looking that is a Brad Pitt or a Chad looking type of man.

[@johnloa2009]

if your a white guy, u can talk to her anyway u want, and she will still love u

[@SPRMarksman]

most ignorant comment of the year award goes to this guy ^^^

[@topman8565]

If they're foreign more likely

[@nomansson4628]

What the hell world are you living In... every white guy i know has had a hard time with attracting and success

[@DiegoGonzalez-go2qy]

That's not the case where I live but please tell me where you live ... I am looking for a place to go on holiday :-)