5 Worst Flirting Mistakes Men Need To Change

[@v-future1444]

1. Laugh and Smile too much... That's a very femenine thing to do. 2. Agree everything she says... You don't have your own opinions or what? Stop complimenting her too much. 3. Interview mode, stop asking personal questions, it gets really boring fast. If all your conversartions are about looking things in common it's too forced. 4. Talking too fast, not getting comfortable. Talk slowly, bring pauses and stop looking like if fun is happening somewhere else and you want to escape, watch your body language. 5. Not speaking clearly or loud enough: Train your voice, women don't like guys who talks like they are telling a secret all the time.

[@OlympiaSophie]

Finally a concise list put together!! Agree that the art of flirting is knowing NOT what to do. Great video!!

[@MrFrobbo]

Spot on Damien, nicely summarised within the traditional KZbin time window too.

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Thank you :)

[@jeffnoisette]

Not smiling too much?! That's a tough one! It's like you're telling me to stop the sun from shining!! I smile even when I don't even want to! My cheeks have a mind of their own 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@larutmrs3313]

i think that he meas smiling when you don't feel like smiling, you know, the typical awkward smile that people make when they feel socially nervous, there is nothing wrong with smiling a lot as long as you mean it, I smile a lot and girls often tell me that i am very approachable because I look very friendly, and that's really good, because it makes it easier to gain her trust.

[@jeffnoisette]

@@larutmrs3313 yeah, if that's what he meant, then cool. Otherwise, smiling for me just comes out when it wants. I've actually gone online to research why that even happens!! No answer🤷🏾‍♂️

[@duncecan3047]

I don't always laugh but I do smile a lot, like I subconsciously smile all of the time when I'm around people, wish I could not smile as much but i can't really stop unless I get genuinely upset

[@OlympiaSophie]

I believe that if it genuine and not a forced smile that's fine, women especially pick up easily on fake vibes. It's those forced smiles that make us cringe, as I'm sure men may feel the same about us

[@duncecan3047]

@@OlympiaSophie yes forced smiles do be on the cringe side tbh

[@KayNovember26]

I believe your eyes should smile as well, that's a genuine smile! Nothing like a fake, forced smile. See ya!

[@Zemohc]

Cool video. Cool Cool. Awesome. Nice. Omg. Number 5 is exactly why I don't like bars or clubs. Damn. Talking about having a vibe. That is not the place for a conversation. I don't know how anyone does it. I sing along to punk rock songs so, I'm loud enough. Hearing anyone else though. That's something else.

[@nusretabi7222]

Nothing really to do with this video but I literally just confirmed that my crush likes me... I feel so free and good about myself right now! I found out I'm a natural flirt I did everything right. To everyone out there don't be afraid to make moves for body contact, when seing hints she likes you!!!!

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

That's awesome to hear!

[@Stoney3K]

You do have to keep in mind that there's a big difference between good-natured teasing and 'negging'.

[@OlympiaSophie]

This is so true!! There is teasing and there is manipulating a person by picking on their insecurity to keep them "hooked"

[@Key_Di19]

Vechtsport (boksen of worstelen) en zwemmen in het zoutwater(zee of thermen) hebben mij persoonlijk enorm geholpen en veel rustiger gemaakt. Ze werken net als een verdoving. Zo hoefde ik nooit voor de spiegel te staan of video’s met mij op te nemen:) Daarbij wordt je reactie in de noodsituaties veel veel beter. Over je vijfde standpunt. Mijn goede kennis is operazangeres. Met betrekking tot het zingen zou ze met jou het eens kunnen zijn:)

[@mbw6785]

Thought he opened with “so you finally fucked up the courage..” Man I need my ears checked

[@WhiteWolfBlues]

I really cracked up on the advice to record yourself speaking than cringe real hard when you listen

[@drallagon]

#5 is killing me now that I'm in Germany, not only flirting by making friends haha feels bad, man (in German, which I have "advanced" level, but still not enough to keep the attention/interest).

[@mizroc]

good. but push-pull is not a loving action

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Not when it's done from a place of manipulation.... But if I see a girl and we're bantering together (not mean banter, the fun, affectionate kind) - that's also a form of push-pull - but iti's much less manipulative.

[@Eyefinitus]

Isn't that background music from the game Quiplash?

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Haha, I'm honestly not sure, I've never seen it

[@matrixman5507]

Can you make a video about "men love idealistically, women love opportunistically"?

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Well I don't really quite see the world that way honestly... But men and women do fall in love in different ways... Men fall in love much more quickly than women - which can create that above impression you posted about. Could make for an interesting video...

[@matrixman5507]

@@SchoolOfAttraction This is a big topic in the red pill sphere. "women can never love a man the way he wants to be loved"

[@kalebdye4378]

@@matrixman5507 pills are never the answer, my dude.

[@kamalsmusic]

If we just aren't good at teasing or if it doesn't feel congruent with our personality what do we do? I've heard very mixed things where some men say its absolutely necessary and others say it's not...

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

IT's just a skill you need to learn through practice - teasing isn't 100% necessary, you can pick up women without teasing, but it tends to make it MUCH easier. Humor is cited as one of the top 5 attractive features in a man by every study into women's attraction.

[@kamalsmusic]

How can someone go about practicing it if it's hard for someone to think of "teases"? Usually for me it doesn't come off well so

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Hop on an online dating site, and spend time every day brainstorming ways you could tease women based on their profiles. You don't even have to contact the women, just get regular practice using your brain that way - Alternatively, get involved with an improv comedy course.

[@thomasvan3786]

Damien, I had a great date with an amazing girl last week. Problem is, she is not as convinced as I am. I asked her for a second date, her response (text): "I am busy right now, but soon maybe?" I fear she is losing interest. What should I do ?

[@MrFrobbo]

She isnt sexually attracted to you (right now), she has multiples of men too, so you must not reply, give it 3 days at least, try one more time by teasing her then if that's a no go MOVE on

[@Pma686]

"Soon" and "maybe" are the breadcrumbs being sprinkled at your feet. Use those feet and walk the other way

[@thomasvan3786]

@@Pma686 I 'm trying to walk away, but it's hard when you like someone and know that you won't meet a girl like her anytime soon.

[@Pma686]

@@thomasvan3786 I've been there more than once. It's not about her, it's what youre lacking within yourself in which she fills that space. Once you figure it out you'll be alright. Life goes on and women aren't that special. Never put them on a pedestal

[@thomasvan3786]

@@Pma686 UPDATE: I kept quiet for 10 days and asked her one more time yesterday. I was expecting a rejection, but she said yes! I recommend watching YT channel 'Dating Advice 4 Men Who Love Women'. It gave me great insight in the female mind and how to deal with it.

[@f34rlesssavage56]

I didn't do any of this stuff, but as soon as I told my crush, she blocked me :(

[@Fallenscion]

If that's true, there are two possibilities: 1. She's insecure, vain, proud, or otherwise unpleasant - and you should move on because a relationship with her would be unhealthy anyway. Or 2. You built up a substantial "creep factor" before the confession - and she feared that you wouldn't take rejection well, so cut off contact instead of wanting to deal with her expectation of the aftermath. If it's 1, then you lost nothing, and learned something about her character - so take the lesson as a good thing that you didn't waste time pining and move on. If it's 2 though - look at your own behavior. Are you the type of person that builds up this big fantasy before you ever confess your feelings? If so, knock it out - it shows through and it's really uncomfortable to be on the receiving end of. I've found the best way to avoid this is to just approach the moment I think I could possibly like someone. That way I don't have time to build them up in my mind or put them on a pedestal... And since I haven't formed the deep attachment to the fantasy, I also come across as less concerned with their opinions. I don't necessarily get rejected less than I used to, but the women I'm rejected by are more willing to be friends/acquaintances - and I've had a few relationships through women I've been rejected by introducing me to their friends.

[@f34rlesssavage56]

@@Fallenscion thank you, I think it's 1. But I'm pretty sure she blocked me because was overwhelmed and didn't want to talk to me ever again, thank you for your guidance

[@zizou357]

Got a question. Can too much eye contact be an issue while interacting with a women?

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Absolutely! The golden rule is, ease off on the eye contact when you're doing teh talking, give pretty strong eye contact when shes' talking. It's normal to look away regularly when talking, thinking what to say, finding words, retrieving memories etc. In fact, if you DONT look away while talking, it can easily look really weird...

[@brbhave2p00p4]

She: farts Guy: LOOOOOL Not very masculine

[@abelbabel8484]

You gotta fart back

[@kool4209]

@@abelbabel8484 nah you gotta call her an disgusting bitch for offending your nose holes and make her sleep outside as punishment

[@xMckingwill]

Sheesh LOL its not about being masculine its just weird.

[@abelbabel8484]

@@kool4209 Na, you gotta fart back

[@abelbabel8484]

@Sausej Just don't shart yourself

[@colasalz2]

i don´t smile a lot, I guess that is a german thing ...:)

[@SchoolOfAttraction]

Well yes, you certainly get different patterns of behaviour in different countries/cultures.