SECRET SERVICE AGENT Reveals The 3 QUESTIONS To Get The TRUTH OUT OF ANYONE! | Evy Poumpouras

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Evy is a multi-media journalist who regularly appears on the Today Show, NBC, MSNBC, and GMA covering topics on national security, law enforcement, and crime. She was the law enforcement analyst for HLN’s Dr. Drew On Call, a hunter on CBS’s The Hunted, and appears on History and Oxygen networks. She holds a Master of Arts in Forensic Psychology and a Master of Science in Journalism from Columbia University.
As a member of the most prestigious protection force in the world for over 12 years, Evy served on the Secret Service’s Presidential Protective Division for President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama. She has also protected presidents George W. Bush, William J. Clinton, and George H.W. Bush. When not safeguarding the world’s most high-value assets, Evy worked complex criminal investigations, operated undercover, and was an interrogator for the agency’s elite polygraph unit specially trained in the art of lie detection, human behavior, and cognitive influence.
Evy’s TEDx on Words: Your Most Powerful Weapon and online interviews have drawn millions of views. She is a sought-after international keynote speaker having consulted top-tier organizations to the likes of NASDAQ, McKesson, United Technologies, Wells Fargo, Corcoran Group, Tyco, Skanska, Lockton, and SOCOM. As an adjunct professor for The City University of New York, she teaches criminal justice, criminology, and policing.
Evy’s actions as a first responder during the 9/11 terror attacks on the World Trade Center in New York City bestowed her the United States Secret Service Valor Award.
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[@suzannedawson4120]

Lying is probably the worst thing one can do in any relationship because it's a double edged sword. 1) you're betraying the trust of the person you're lying to. 2) you're assuming that person is dumb enough to believe it. Now you’ve managed to judge, belittle, betray, confuse and disrespect them all in one fell swoop. Leaving a mess of confusing emotions behind when you walk away thinking you've gotten away with it. Everything comes to light eventually.

[@laurakirkegaard6870]

totally agree

[@aniketthanage8906]

Accounts which you think you are not accountable for. God holds those accounts and makes you hold accountable some where in life , for you moved away with out paying for it. #Believe #Karma #Patience

[@Americanwoman74]

My husband to a tee.

[@tiffanybooth1563]

plus why be with someone u have to lie to...

[@suzannedawson4120]

@@tiffanybooth1563 the real question, I think, is why would you want to be with anyone who lies to YOU. ❤️

[@Glad2BGolden]

13 minutes in and I now know why having conversations with people are so difficult these days. We have no patience with each other’s story. People sometimes cut me off and change the subject even if I’m answering their question. It’s very frustrating, I’m at the point of where I either give short abrupt answers and move on or just opt out of the conversation altogether. Having an honest long conversation without being insulted or gaslighted for your opinions or ideas is a thing of the past.

[@BryanBarcelo]

Sorry you have to go through stuff like this, unfortunately, I know a lot of people like you described, this is what I've learned to do. I finish what I was saying, even if I have to talk over them. And I don't outwardly acknowledge their new topics, I stay on their original topic and when I'm good and ready, I'll steer us to their second, third and forth topics.

[@lkern6238]

Happened so many times, I just stopped telling people stuff...makes things a lot easier knowing I won't be interrupted or just cut off mid sentence.

[@mschellylove3588]

I can relate😩. I get frustrated

[@quiqui_m283]

And it’s becoming a normal thing now to shut down other people and call it opinions 🤦🏽‍♀️I hear you sis

[@Facebodyfx]

I'm feeling the same way.

[@averyryder8080]

“One day a man named Truth and a man named Lie stood by a river just outside of town. They were twin brothers. Lie challenged Truth to a race, claiming he could swim across the river faster than Truth. Lie laid out the rules to the challenge stating that they both must remove all their clothes and at the count of 3, dive in to the freezing cold water swim to the other side and back. Lie counted to 3, but when Truth jumped in, Lie did not. As Truth swam across the river, Lie put on Truth’s clothes and walked back in to town dressed as Truth. He proudly paraded around town pretending to be Truth. Truth made it back to shore, but his clothes were gone and he was left naked with only Lie’s clothes to wear. Refusing to dress himself as Lie, Truth walked back to town naked. People stared and glared as naked Truth walked through town. He tried to explain what happened and that he was in fact Truth, but because he was naked and uncomfortable to look at, people mocked and shunned him; refusing to believe he was really Truth. The people in town chose to believe Lie because he was dressed appropriately and easier to look at. From that day until this, people have come to believe a lie rather than they believe the naked truth.”

[@alic6419]

Interesting tale!! 😊

[@markusonify]

Profound.

[@disallowedstone8849]

I thought about Jesus when I read that

[@FlamesOfThought]

Thanks 😊

[@winbin6418]

Nice

[@DejaDrewit]

Omg she’s married to another interrogator 🤣🤣🤣 can you imagine them together her: “tell me what happened with the milk in the fridge” him: describe the milk you are referring to.” omg i’d love to see a reality show of that 🍿

[@freedomforever1962]

😁😆💪🏼😅 I know!...

[@johnmurphy3078]

Reality shows are for young teenagers. Grow up

[@cosodesign8953]

@@johnmurphy3078 ohhh that makes sense why reality shows are centered around adults and adult issues. Cause they are for teenagers. Shoot, learn something new everyday.

[@DejaDrewit]

@@johnmurphy3078 i don't understand why people have become so brave and rude to people on the internet. there's no way in hell you would walk up to a person and say that to them. maybe you should grow up and learn some damn respect and keep your dumb opinions to yourself. Your mom clearly didn't teach you any better. If you don't want to watch reality shows then don't.

[@DejaDrewit]

@@cosodesign8953

[@annexton3795]

Here in South Africa we had a phenomenal detective named Piet Byleveld. He had a 99% success rate because he treated his suspects with utmost respect - shook hands with them, always wore a suit and tie, was never aggressive or intimidating etc. Result was they would take him into their confidence and ultimately confess, and these were serial killers who had committed the most terrible crimes. I wish someone would do a movie of the guy.

[@a.p5079]

What happened to him?

[@introspective_One]

The suits alone & the death stare is intimidating to me! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@AliceSusanHarding]

Colombo was a bit like that.

[@JoanaCompletoND]

That’s pretty interesting!!

[@aka_izzy]

Thank you, I'm looking this guy up now!

[@noninoni9962]

I told my kids and grandkids, "Once you're caught lying, your credibility goes down the toilet... And, sometime during your life, when all you have is your word of honor, that may make the diffence between jail, prison, your job, and even your life."

[@crand20033]

Good one, but it's almost impossible to know if someone is lying to you until much later after you were already hurt.

[@labab1048]

I used to tell mine, when you tell the truth, you only need to tell one story!

[@uknasa007]

well said

[@brujalinda]

@@labab1048 simple

[@DiandraStarShine]

that is SOMETIMES true...and sometimes *lying* has saved one's *own* life and/or the lives of others. as *circumstantial & situational ethics* are not only about nebulous concepts that no one has ever had to consider in *real life* situations - but they can be VERY real ideas that must be made use of. esp., in *socio-politically unstable places and other kinds of dangerous places,* ALL over the world.* some people have had to tell untruths or have had to *omit* the truth, in order to survive and/or in order to save the lives of their very own families, in fact. and it's far too easy for some of us to get caught up into being biased about what is moral and what isn't, per our *own,* limited life experiences. esp., when juxtaposed against certain conditions & risks that many millions of others have experienced, who are from all around the globe. and no egoic need for oneself or for others to 'be right' is worth risking one's own life, esp., when it involves ALSO risking the lives of innocent others.

[@divineluna1373]

My dad used to say :” Lies have short legs , they don’t get you very far “!!! 😉👍🏼😆

[@arainadiaz9219]

Depends, if you own media, politics and banking systems.. With enough propaganda and power, BS rules. Example is this global mess.

[@que_the_durbanite1359]

@@arainadiaz9219 Word!

[@jesusruiz2374]

Wow! Very true.

[@janetcampbell9286]

Your father was correct in the long-haul. Lies catch up with the person running the con. Con people do get their lies over on quite a few people before they are finally caught.

[@anamoisinho7628]

Mine too 😅

[@musicbeyondwithboushra]

She's the one woman I never get tired of listening to ALL her interviews. There's always something to learn. She's eye opening

[@lewishowes]

❤️

[@zainabrose96]

Same here

[@AnaS-sp2zl]

Totally agree 😊

[@LucidLuciASMR]

I just discovered this guy and her and I just bought both of their books and I'm officially obsessed and I know for fact this is going to be absolutely life-changing for me

[@auaticamazon]

“The more you fail the more confident you become”. .... thats gold !!

[@brad9529]

Its so true that, I can absolutely attest to this, I fail so often but its made me successful

[@Tes73792]

In the long run, this is true. But in the short run it can very easily make you loose confidence and belief. This is where you should keep pushing.

[@nicolebarnett8702]

Along the lines of It's not how often you fall but how often you get up.

[@frankwalliss9169]

@@brad9529 8

[@johnmoreno5965]

Not me the more I fail the more I'm like fuck

[@leeboriack8054]

T. E. D. technique of questions open dialogue to learn about a person's communication style. 1. Tell me, 2. Explain to me 3. Describe to me

[@strawberryloli]

Thank you!!

[@anthonyalexander5110]

That requires me to listen

[@sarahballachey3242]

@@anthonyalexander5110 lmao

[@gemspiritmessages2754]

@@anthonyalexander5110 🤣👏👏👏

[@a111oveWrldWde]

Thank You! ✨😃

[@2024Miracle]

So many hidden gems in this interview. "I will let the world tell me no first, but I will not tell myself no first." "Fail as many times as possible." She is so insightful! Her eyes are out of this world but her strength and inner beauty are out of this universe. May God bless everyone!

[@gigantopithecushominoidea8779]

did you get that from a Hitler speech? no backing down no matter what... that's pure narcissism btw (one billion humans can say I'm wrong , but no! I know I'm right , doesn't matter how many times I fail with others I'll keep my plan, I won't change for no one) Thinking about other people is the healthy thing to do, imagine living with someone with that attitude, that's called tyranny.

[@p.as.in.pterodactyl1024]

@@gigantopithecushominoidea8779 It's not narcissism, because a true narcissist would reject when the world says no - the point is not doubting yourself up until the world confirms any doubt for you.

[@stonward]

Man-hating garbage.

[@nicoleowens2318]

@@gigantopithecushominoidea8779 the world has been wrong before. Evolution? Gravity? Bacteria? A heliocentric universe? Those things were all laughed at by scientists, leaders, and average people for a very long time before the people who theorized those things were proven right, often after their deaths. She's saying not to give up until the world shuts her dreams down, but she won't give up on herself and what she believes in. How that's narcissistic I don't know, but I guess you are free to believe what you want. You're probably the only person that took it that way though, based on the comments. Which is actually a little ironic based on what you said.

[@LRaine73]

I stumbled upon this. Mad praise. Such a phenomenal woman. Eloquent, strong, intelligent and articulate. Every woman needs to listen to her speak. Such great lessons on empowerment, commanding self, pausing for intentional speech. So many skills to learn here about self and others. Additionally, straight up stunningly beautiful inside and out.

[@Nick-hv8gj]

Only the weak need empowering.

[@ArinaThomsen]

You need to read her book "Becoming Bulletproof"

[@monayfromdabay]

I was listening to her, and Im like…I like her and what she’s talking about.

[@patrickfarrell6353]

Men, you should also listen to her speak. Look at those sexy lips, those beautiful eyes, so sexy. As far as the content, I wasn't paying attention. I think it was something about lies and a New York city steakhouse. She sure is hot. Man. Yup.

[@BasedAFPatriot]

I agree with everything you said and she's very intelligent and knowledgeable, but she needs to bring it down just a notch. I think everyone should think good of themselves, but a little humility goes a long way. I don't think she would take criticism very well, or maybe she is never wrong (in her mind) 🤷‍♂️?

[@shelleymariejohnson503]

It is rare to listen to someone and find everything they say real and helpful information. I am so glad I watched this.

[@anotherone5926]

"real" is virtual. Learn Anatomy. This is yt ...like tv ...totally controlled, by it's creators.

[@shelleymariejohnson503]

I think you didn't listen to her very well.

[@anotherone5926]

@@shelleymariejohnson503 Nor did they See what they're looking at. Hahahahahahahaha!

[@andrew_koala2974]

I am relieved am pleased to know that you used the correct word >someone < and not somebody There is a big difference in meaning between Someone and Somebody /everyone & everybody, Most people today do not know the difference and use them interchangeably. Ther is also a difference in meaning between ON and on / OFF and off Schools today do not teach the difference so people do not know.

[@shelleymariejohnson503]

I can't see the relevance of your comments.

[@Sunny-kl8wy]

I taught my 8 year old to say no to things. I think it’s safe & healthy to say no and not worry too much about feelings especially when it’s unsafe. Healthy boundaries

[@cosodesign8953]

There is nuance there tho. She isn’t speaking on unsafe situations. She is speaking on regular interpersonal interactions. As an adult, just saying no can leave negative consequences. I don’t think children are fully in a place to completely vocalize their reasoning for no so it makes sense for a 8 year old or child. But as an adult that skill should evolve to know situationally when “no” is enough and when a rejection deserves more than a “no”.

[@loveishappiness7330]

That is great. I heard someone say that if you cannot say no then you cannot really say yes!

[@kennethporst4359]

But did you teach her feelings or just answers...?

[@ohdear2275]

And "No" can be a complete sentence.

[@pchsndcrmfrvr]

I like this and all of the responses. Very thought provoking. For me at least!

[@beccareynolds4625]

When you know you know. Trust your intuition... every damn time 🙏🏻

[@changeforthebetter3049]

yes i ignored mine and learnt hard way

[@80sbaby90]

Truth !

[@lilithjesus7718]

When you've been raised by a gas lighter, sometimes it takes a hell of a inner spirit & few decades to even begin to differentiate between fear, your mind, your heart, and your intuition.

[@jchinckley]

First, learn the methods sociopaths use to gain your trust and at least some body language. That will help your intuition determine the truth. Also, get people to talk about themselves enthusiastically, that is the one way you can get to see and know them for real. Pay attention to everything because everything they say, every gesture they make and every expression they take means something, and your intuition needs to learn that language and properly interpret it. Too many people don't do this and their intuition leads them wrong because sociopaths exist and they do their best to mimic appropriate tells. But mimicry is seldom perfect and no one can mimic anyone else perfectly.

[@DarkerSideOfDawn]

I’ve witnessed both my ex and his mother lie without batting an eyelash. It’s actually more comfortable for them to lie than tell the truth What baffles me is how comfortable they are with lying . It’s normalized for them

[@rare1walking]

Some cultures are like that. The person who tells you what they think you want to hear is maddening. Believe your gut. It is a waste of your time. I just had a false friend give my private personal life write-up to a group of attorneys after...he showed it to two other people and wouldn't tell me any of the parties for 'my' protection. That betrayal and bs ended our friendship immediately. Shocking. After explicit instructions not to share my writing with anyone. Knowing he had done this 5 years before and enjoyed my support the whole time was the absolute end. Deception. Disrespect. For his convenience. When someone then refuses to be honest after years, they are pathologically ethically undeveloped.

[@freedomforever1962]

There are people like that!🙄 I was just as supprised as you. I thought everybody told the truth 🙈🙉🙊.....what a rude awakening..... years ago. Now I feel that everybody lies, some more, some less, some on occasion according to the situation. 🙄 🙏

[@rare1walking]

@@freedomforever1962 Well, people lie to themselves. Denial. They don't have to tell all, because they don't owe that to everyone. We have filters and boundaries. But we can avoid and avert confrontation if someone we don't know presses us. "I won't talk about that.." But fundamental lying. Everyone? I know as teenagers for instance, we can tell parents we are doing one thing and do another, to explore life. There are persons who don't deserve our total honesty or loyalty, but to lie to deceive or omit truth which harms another can become pathological. Heavy on the path. Situations involving safety or survival are also possible to deviate or avoid, but character is built from simple choices in everyday life. I had parents that made me want to avoid dishonesty. My Dad used the term 'embellish' while my mother simply chose not to deal with things. Ie: loyalty to family might involve silence or denial. I always thought good mental health came from seeing life as it is, instead of acrobatics and denial. You live with self 24/7. Shouldn't we like ourselves? But truthtellers are not popular. Anyway it's a primary experience as most of us grow up perhaps... the kind of awareness people get when they don't want to be like their parents, at least in some ways. We strike out on our own. But the truth is, no person has the same life and experiences to mold their presentation in life, and even with similar experiences, the results can be quite different, according to personality, support, etc. Just thoughts.

[@rowanalexander3051]

You can always feel the frequency of people who lie their energy is super draining

[@HeavenlyLights]

@@rowanalexander3051 WOW. SPOT ON. 🏆

[@jazeli02]

This statement resonates with me and I never thought it this way!!!! Unconsciously, I do this! And I can see it now!!! -----> " a lot of people speak really fast because they feel they are not worthy of somebody's time. 'I dont want to take so much of your time, so I will speak fast'. " Wow!!! So much wisdom in this interview. Thank you!

[@mariamaiff5115]

DMX spoke really fast...

[@mrmanq9517]

@@mariamaiff5115 DMX had severe anxiety and I fear it drove him to substance abuse

[@archangel369]

@@mariamaiff5115 What does DMX has anything to do with this interview - focus on yourself!

[@elainemayronne7419]

I've noticed that when I speak quickly, it grabs some people's attention. Mostly the people who get distracted very easily. I've also noticed that fast speakers can exude a sense of urgency to others. Especially when they're loud while speaking quickly.

[@ginatucci201]

Thats accurate , I feel like I lose a person if I slow down

[@willpower8515]

When you know someone is lying to you it takes discipline over your emotions because you have to go with it to find out the eventual truth. It is especially hard when you have a vested interest in the person and it takes a toll on your trust especially if you have previous trust issues you are trying to overcome at the same time.

[@jamesmorell1758]

Many times people lie simply because the truth truly is either none of your business, or would benefit no one. The one's who get most upset over lying are people who love chaos or don't have not enough to lose.

[@aliyafichtner8843]

I'm glad to see men here speak up because basically men hurt us so much

[@stoneydement9242]

@@jamesmorell1758 interesting,your right of course,that technique creates drama which we need less of,gossip is one term,if a person needs to creates this method,they can't be trusted to tell the Truth. being so use to telling lies,makes is to easy to obscure the truth,

[@TosinDFreshPrince]

Being in a toxic relationship will have you learning all this techniques naturally

[@Subjectiveopinion.]

Facts

[@Debonair.Aristocrat]

When you learn to _leave_ , you'll become a better person.

[@AngelInAHoodie]

Black Mexican married to a Caucasian/puerto rican baby mama, father to a soon to be 3 year old boy and im trying to get my divorce, your comment couldn't be any truer!

[@susanpenkala2713]

@@AngelInAHoodie please save your marriage. Were all horrible. We all need forgiveness. Its 2021 please dont move out from your kid(s). They need a man in the house. Heck get separate rooms but put your foot down!

[@AngelInAHoodie]

@@susanpenkala2713 Iv given it 8 years, I have to get out before we make 10 or ill get stuck with spouse support.

[@anngood4141]

I once asked my fiancée if he was fooling around on me and he nodded yes while saying no. While I didn’t catch him in the act, my intuition told me to ask the question, and the way he responded gave me even more information. I ended it and he is free to live the single life out in the open instead of behind my back.

[@cynthiacole6140]

Body language ... always watch that cotradictory head nod!

[@Dreamfyre_16]

Trust is earned not just given. I don’t trust anyone 100% ever.

[@GG-bb1pj]

Unless a person is a walking red flag, I give people a chance ... even to lie to me ... that way they have a chance to learn to stop creating reasons to lie when I cut them off.

[@jennifershentrich4039]

Crazy huh.

[@sallyannenaylor5412]

no one can be trusted but you give them a chance and its always a gamble but good usually out weighs bad so the odds are in your favour.

[@sddhvjlsdfhvjlsdfhvlhvkjsbnvs]

Try "calculated trust" technique.

[@vaquera9368]

We gave our kids trust until they began to lie and break the rules at home. My daughter was notorious for that. That’s when she had to earn trust back. She didn’t like that approach, but she was the one who caused that change.

[@ENFPerspectives]

@33:00 control @35:00 boundaries @51:00. Liars are vague in lies and truth tellers give simple answers? That’s somewhat obtuse. @1:15:00 Building Confidence @1:27:23 ❤️ 1:28:50 Question to ask yourself when sharing hard truths Nice talk

[@DanielleSamoneJohnson77]

Thanks! Great points! 👍🏾

[@fireeye33]

awesome 👏

[@Nick-tb3hh]

thanks

[@grinning_owl]

Whenever I get the impression that someone thinks or suspects I am lying, I can become rather wordy in an attempt to convince that person that I'm telling the truth. Whenever I did that with my hubby, he accused me of "protesting too much." Which I thought was rather unfair.

[@SD-hs2pk]

Thanks

[@ladyt_speaks_truths3923]

1. Do the right thing no matter what 2. Make your own decisions. 3. Fail as much as possible (you're putting yourself out there by doing the work even if you fail) - this goes back to what she said about getting out of your comfort zone. When she spoke on her mother's mentality as to why she wouldn't understand I can totally relate to that. As the same when she said either you're going to get fearful or angry. I can honestly say I got angry and my belief in myself grew stronger although others seen my strength as being stubborn but it's to the point that it doesn't matter if I'm misunderstood/what others thoughts and opinions are I know where my anger stem from - poverty mentality/family generational chains. So I have stepped out of my comfort zone and am planted and doing something abt the root of my anger. All I heard was it's not time and you have to crawl before you walk and I was like crawl for how long before you walk and how long must I walk before I climb. I had to step out from under that. Did it make ppl look at me in a negative way? Yes were there criticisms? Yes. Were there struggles? Heck yes but what is in me wants to come forth. So if I have to walk it alone so be it.

[@asiamonna5289]

Congratulations 🎉 to you my life story in the current moment

[@asiamonna5289]

@Donald Mickunas 🙌🏾

[@michealbarnes981]

I tell my little boy to take an “L” 1 of two ways. A loss or a lesson. A lesson is easier to succeed with.

[@swederoorad2318]

Congratulations for moving on. God bless you!

[@doreenplischke7645]

Yup. With you on that.

[@penelopes.9696]

When I was younger I lied and stole things. Never got caught. When I told the truth I was accused of lying. Now that I'm older I'm a more authentic person. I realized I was in survival mode for a long time. I made excuses for myself. No body is perfect and there's always room for self growth.

[@prodriveress]

The more you fail, the more confident you become..... thats so true. Fear of failure steals confidence.

[@robertcronin6603]

Yes - in so many ways.

[@alexcrawford5539]

I failed uni twice, don't think it's helped me with my confidence much

[@tahu1349]

Doesn't work for bank robbers, marriages, and sky diving

[@EHH848]

@@alexcrawford5539 Fear keeps you sharp. Failing is the opposite of Succes. And the beauty of our universe is that. When you experience failure in something. You will succeed in something else. But you will not see that if you focused on your failure and keep your negative and low selfesteem. The Universe existing in pair's.and Symetric patrons. So when you experience failing or failure. Focus on the feeling of succes you will experience. It will come . Like sun after rain. Dark become Light. Etcetra etcetra. You wll live a "glass is halffull" live. And eventually understand that failure is only failure if you approciate it like that. Failing/faillure isn't real. Learning while living. Focus on your succes stories and feel the power of convidence controlling your fear or anxieties. You are more than a test, diploma or any other nonsense achievements...scared to fail. Isn't a natural human feeling. It is planted in our head. "You good, special and the only 1 of the millions seeds that didnt die, but evolve in life." If you slowly repeat that. You noticed how your brain can't process that in once. So you see now. How small and not importent that paper is. Love&Bless

[@tahu1349]

@UCX6LZ08frMTvE-Ji8kXo2yw failure isn't helpful if you die

[@BlackWolf-uk2yb]

I have also met people who repeatedly ask others for 'advice' and continue to do so until they find the one person that advises them to do the thing they actually wanted to do anyway! They also tend to omit certain information whilst soliciting for advice in order to steer the response to the one they want anyway! Powerful, inspirational and fascinating interview. Thanks Lewis and Evy.

[@rodan5052]

I no longer ask my kids “How was school” their reply is always the same...”GOOD!” The day I asked them after school “What was good about school today??!!”” The look of 😳

[@AutitsicDysexlia]

What do you ask instead? "What happened at school today / Anything interesting happen at school today?"

[@rodan5052]

@@AutitsicDysexlia yes, it took them by surprise when I began to reformat the question about what they did in school or tell me how your day went, share something interesting or not interesting in the beginning of questioning. They were more into detailing and would recall almost the entire day with enthusiasm or sometimes “oh my goodness dad...” it’s a treat now! we’re at the point where they’re coming in already running their day down before they even drop their backpacks and take shoes off 😂

[@madhuparthasarathy62]

@@AutitsicDysexlia What was it you enjoyed in school today or what was a funny thing that happened in school. Something specific on those lines.

[@dominickan10]

Thanks for that insight. Very helpful.

[@rodan5052]

@Carie Dawn that’s a good one!

[@OhhNaturel]

"I will protect you. I may not know you, but I will protect you." Such a powerful statement I felt that very deeply.

[@actuallybusiness1622]

*The most important skill in the world is control your mindset, because it controls your actions!*

[@leeboriack8054]

"Control your mind, or your mind controls you." The Buddha

[@143prettycool]

How to do control our mind set.

[@kevincostner6751]

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[@maca5868]

Control emotions with mind. Or is it chicken before egg kinda argument to say so?

[@roodlyfbuts8006]

Did anyone ask?

[@willpower8515]

Patience and extreme tolerance is needed toward people and remaining silent is key. Don't give into your own loneliness, go through the feeling by yourself is the only way. Once you reveal to much about yourself it can be used against you and the truth can hurt you also when you know you have to be honest when you are trying to actually cure/improve yourself.

[@leeboriack8054]

~At 35:00 Lewis asks about dating after abuse. ~Evy said we intuitively hand over trust too fast, because its EASIER. Giving trust is done in calculated increments and it is harder work. ~Get to know your date w T. E. D. technique of questions. 1. Tell me, 2. Explain to me, 3. Describe to me

[@shaneraja5242]

TED ! Love this acronym

[@Unsupervised2]

Love everyone, Trust few, Everybody’s real, But not everyone is true.

[@matthewdenckla6567]

^^^^^ I am here for this and totally agree!!!

[@Canyoudigityesyoucan]

Love many Trust few Always paddle your own canoe 🛶

[@11kwright]

One of the best comments on here, I’d say.

[@magnificentme3770]

Vulnerability is honesty. If you can't admit to being negativity effected by anything in life, you are living in survival mode and only worried about your comfort, honesty makes people uncomfortable

[@ohwhatelse]

ummm, you are making blanket statements here that just don't fit. heck, i'm disabled & am very often bedridden for days, weeks or months. i easily admit negatives in my life but, i am still, & often in survival mode! & it has nothing to do with "comfort"! when the negatives get me down- literally- i am simply NOT comfortable! LOL. now, about "honesty makes ppl uncomfortable"? maybe you're referring to confrontational ppl expecting you to answer nosy q's. forget that. but, i don't know anyone- in my circle- that is uncomfortable with or about honesty. your circle may differ but, you can't truthfully make one-size-fits-all, blanket statements.

[@magnificentme3770]

@@ohwhatelse A physical disability would impact anyone's life. I'm referring to those who can't even admit to mistakes, misjudgements or anything that makes them feel was unaccepted. Even having insecurities (and we all have some) or admit to feeling overwhelmed bc doing so is admitting that you can be hurt, that you're not unbreakable bc it doesn't fit with their idea of what an acceptable and valid person is. They're priority is their own comfort, which isn't typically telling the truth

[@lugnerthelisma1246]

Hmmm! I don't object to your opininion, but I tried to be like that but I can't because I detest when people decieve me and lie to me. It is kind of making me become a bad ass to you.

[@magnificentme3770]

@@lugnerthelisma1246 I'm not sure I understand quite what you mean. You tried being vulnerable to people and they lie to you?

[@lugnerthelisma1246]

@@magnificentme3770: No, I mean when I tried to be honest naturally to people and they deceive me, this would make me crazy. I don't condone dishonesty. Why should I make myself a victim?

[@jystme2437]

I was married to a narcissist and now I am a listener and watcher I can't help it . This helped me 🌿know I was sane, not crazy😢i use it in my everyday life and I can't help it 💫 its my protection 💙

[@freedomforever1962]

Agree! 👏🏼

[@jenniferlee7167]

This woman is mesmerizing--I could listen to her for hours. Thanks for the video!

[@NiecyYoungTV]

Jezebel at work....a demon

[@jamesshriver4822]

I couldn’t get through this hour,that’s why I’m waaaaay down here in the comments! Just wanted the summary for the three “red flags”

[@louiseforde5502]

It takes great discipline to not return unkindness with more unkindness. Amen and thank you!! This is so valuable and helps us to remember that it is often only you that you need to impress. It's about who you choose to be and the values you honor.

[@18436572gmc]

I drive a bus motorhome and people cut me off or race to get in front of me them hit the breaks. If I get mad, they or “anger” wins. It’s taken a lot of practice and time to say “Bless your heart, I hope your angry rushed life gets better “ and I find that I’m in a better emotional place. I’m the beginning I would pull my loud train horn and give them the bird and later realize that I feel yucky and it becomes harder for me to find my relaxed happy center. In a way it’s like the devil’s trick to spread anger so “Not today Satan”

[@davidhatfield7533]

@@18436572gmc I liked your philosophy .I have gotten the finger twice in my forty years of driving. It was because I suddenly realized I was in the wrong lane and had to get in the other lane or be in big trouble . I realized that I had frightened these two guys. Fear comes and them anger comes so we can fight off the danger. A natural human reaction. We have to fight our own emotions so we can ourselves have a happy day. Someone once said that there should be a hand sign for "I'm sorry" or "it was my fault, please forgive me" to respond to " the finger"

[@pollyzacholl4893]

@@davidhatfield7533 sign language:sorry would be easy I don’t know about the others

[@tortugamoon2073]

Omg... I love this woman! She is so emotionally intelligent and articulate. She makes soo much sense and gives such good advice. Thank you for interviewing her.

[@lauras5113]

YES, absolutely!

[@ValerieHalla-no1else]

She needs her own show! Every time I see this amazing woman, she is on fire. So intelligent, interesting, and captivating. Never a dull moment. ... Oh and Lewis is great too. Lol

[@shafiekahmed7520]

What is her name?

[@susanwilson2831]

Lewis who. 😜

[@noninoni9962]

I never realized how much someone will lie untill I got married. Twice... But, I must thank them for teaching me how to recognize how people lie, why they lie, and to what lengths liars will take to keep their lies from discovery.... These 'life lessons' made me a great law enforcement officer and investigator, AND kept me from getting in long-term relationships with other liars!!

[@stevejette2329]

My lying ex would leave long voice messages for my son. We would go thru the recording, one sentence at a time. He learned A LOT. (PS - Her FIFTH marriage just failed".)

[@GinaJohnson-if6hr]

I appreciate that she admits to being a fighter. I’m also a fighter by nature, and am so inspired by her level of self-control. If she can do it, so can I!

[@Deepak-Brl]

She has been such a non-selfish person in today's world. A Gem.

[@Debonair.Aristocrat]

I have no idea who she is, my bad but man, I could grow old with her in any life.

[@kaihanstein52]

Her notions about lies and not saying "no" when she means it... Not my type of girl. Neither my type of friend. She is a gem: looks gorgeous and never hurts. But I could never be sure about her feelings. (but hey, its just my view)

[@andrew_koala2974]

Thedeep non-selfish WoMan NOT non-selfish person i A PERSON is a genderless DEAD. CORPORATE fiction. Created for the purpose of conducting commerce No one is born a PERSON. The PERSON im-PERSIN-ates the living breathing soul You have been successfully indoctrinated to accept the PERSON as yourself The word PERSON has been so entrenched in the language since the 15th Century that it is difficult not to use it. When you learn what it really means and the implication of it. you will no longer use it. Go do your homework, and open your eyes and ears. You can do it. Think Deep. Then think Deeper. COMMENT REFERENCE: Thedeep.2021041651252 NOTICE to third party responders: When you do not see your name in this comment, your responses and replies are ignored, unread and notifications deleted. I do not have the time to read your three-word illiterate sentences [S]o get the point

[@Deepak-Brl]

@@andrew_koala2974 I was not here to give the English language exam. I have learned 5 languages in life and I still don't care if I type 1 English word wrongly( you think it's wrong). Those who understood my comment understood it without giving grammar lesson. How many languages you speak/type 100 per cent correct? But thanks for the information. Can you tell few more English words which should not be used anymore? We were taught old British English in school. Please help humanity with updated better English. By the way, it was a nice helpful comment except for the last line. The last line is very unkind.

[@betablestt]

@@Deepak-Brl I am a native English speaker and you writing 'person' is fine as your focus is not on her gender but her as an unselfish being. This person - @andrew_koala is not being too thoughtful I think. Amazing you know 5 languages. Keep bringing that good love to the world!

[@g-muni5855]

Wow, thought I'll watch this conversation for a minute and be done. All the way to the end. So much gold nuggets here. Much respect and Thank You!!

[@Raptanax]

I had a person once tell me that it was hard to tell if I was lying because I am constantly giving off tells that I am lying, whether I am or not. Then he said it was because I was a philosopher, and deep inside I believed that anything might not be true.

[@susan8822]

The sky is falling!!

[@inthewind3976]

what is up is down

[@emilymaybe5405]

sometimes when i’m telling the truth i get visibly anxious which looks suspicious but it’s only bc i’m scared they’ll THINK i’m lying

[@XavierGuillaume]

Love her! I need to watch this interview over and over. There were so many gems hidden in here. It's a lot to process. Evy Poumpouras has overcome so much, and has so much resilience. We can all learn a ton from her!

[@shastina5493]

She is a remarkable woman! She would be great as a role model for the younger generation! The world could use more people like her! 💯

[@richardpotter6313]

Darn right!

[@smoothtwh]

As long as she thinks lying is okay, NO!!

[@jackievaldez4785]

Totally agree 👍

[@rustybolts8953]

"Sometimes when I'm being irrational" Few have that level of self awareness. Mainly because when we are being irrational we don't want to know.

[@Jessica-fj1zc]

Lying is never inherently bad, that was a lie we were told, it depends on context 100%. Sometimes we have to lie for survival or self-preservation.

[@barstarnyc9987]

That's a fact... I see someone in this comment section that understands the game of life...

[@gncarter2424]

I get you but lying is a sin. It’s a lie no matter the case. Our body and soul knows lying is wrong.

[@andyhelton3597]

Tell me more

[@asiamonna5289]

@@gncarter2424 agree

[@joysoyo2416]

Or to protect a loved one.

[@carolyndelong4737]

She’s amazing, I am going to put the information and knowledge into action . I’m done being a doormat and dealing with a narcissistic person in my life . Thank you

[@michelemurphy3541]

Evy P is so rad. My Grandmother was a Gallanos Greek and they are wicked brilliant people. I miss her so much~watching these interviews brings her back in a way~North East Coast | they even look alike:talk the same way. I learned from that wonderful woman how to dare to go after my own life-huge gift to build others, both by example and encouragement-which is what I see Evy doing through every interview. It is really wonderful to see.

[@shabnamrafique3638]

Another lesson from this video; be careful who you trust; if you have to lie to an individual can you trust them with your truth?

[@brightermedia]

Human nature stuff: beyond interrogation, this is the art of conversation and connection: many gems: Put yourself in uncomfortable situations: fail often: ask yourself: do they clothe you, feed you? If not, why are you worried. Also, letting it go. Also listening. A skill lost. Empathy = see through others eyes..

[@dehartfamily3091]

The last 50 minutes talking about confidence was arguably the best advice one could give another human. I’ve never watched this podcast, but I’ve seen her in other interviews…this interviewer has elicited the most listenable interview since the Mike Tyson podcast I saw a few months ago.

[@lewishowes]

🧡

[@bradywilson3560]

I've never heard or seen her before but I think she is so cool. I love her personality and the way she handles herself.

[@jtru77]

"Let the world tell me no and then I'm okay with it...it can't come from me first." ...Wow, thank you for that!! 🙏💖

[@mcmars273]

This woman is sharp as a tack, profound and soulful too!

[@blisterpacman]

maybe.. to be honest.. i wasn't looking at her during most of the interview I thought he was interviewing a child

[@mgildelreal]

Yes, she is! Ive watched her in another KZbin channel.

[@denishawatson5]

Not a child. Too many face and neck wrinkles...

[@johnnyfreedom4117]

Evy is incredible. Lewis, you are young, you felt like you had to reach on what greatness is. I empathize. Evy said it best. What she said encompasses every aspect of one's life. If you're ready to go, you're ready to go, you checked all the boxes.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@marama49cabrera57]

I love the way she expresses EVERYTHING. Smart super smart person! Gracias Lewis!🙏🏽

[@DiutoAjoku]

I'm sorry, but her EYES are PIERCING enough to make me spill the truth! gorgeous too!

[@johnnyblaze2257]

You sound Goofy!😂😅🤣

[@llc1976]

agreed! They are literally smokey grey!

[@DiutoAjoku]

@@johnnyblaze2257 😂😂 I meannn... you’re not wrong

[@johnnyblaze2257]

@@DiutoAjoku I saw your channel, you have a gorgeous face, but that whole wig thing is scary!😬

[@baddielashcosmetics8010]

@@johnnyblaze2257 so what are you bullying her for?

[@chasingclouds7101]

You've just saved my life. Being a black female in a different community I always went in with fear and insecurity. No more of that.

[@THEBOSS-vn2ky]

Black, white it don't matter stand up for your fucking RIGHTS. You got One Life to Live. remember that. Start everyday, looking in the mirror brushing your teeth say to yourself. ( I am ) I am a white man, doesn't really matter what color I am. Just remember Jesus Christ loves you. God bless you.

[@3333Storm]

@@THEBOSS-vn2ky @chasingclouds I completely understand. Being a black female I put myself down especially now in corporate space.. It's scary. When I was young and free people put me down for being black. I lost myself and confidence. Fear and insecurity no more.

[@THEBOSS-vn2ky]

Hang in there kid you got this. go to Jesus Christ.

[@nessaash2622]

@@THEBOSS-vn2ky Yes, Jesus loves us and is the only way but also don’t disregard someone’s experience. That’s her experience as a black female; this isn’t about skin colour, it’s about her experiences.

[@raslaanraslaan3334]

@@nessaash2622 jezus loves us and we love hem, but he’s a messenger not the SON of God. He never said that he is the son of God or he is God hemzelf in the Bible

[@lisbethsalander1723]

No eye contact or looking down is a show of respect to a person of higher station in Indian Subcontinent Culture. I know I was brought up in that culture. So cultural context is really important. It is changing though because of globalization of the dominant cultures.

[@melissadolan7827]

I am a former Special Investigator. You must "norm" a person to effectively assess their responses. A good Investigator would detect personality or cultural based responses.

[@lisbethsalander1723]

@@melissadolan7827 Thank you for your understanding!

[@ginatucci201]

I'm not Indian but I find myself doing that

[@andratoma9834]

When in Rome, do what Romans do….In other words, WHEN that South Asia native looks NOT in your eyes, and moves OUT OF ASIA, learn to BEHAVE like the natives of that other place, and look straight in the eyes!

[@melissadolan7827]

@@andratoma9834 When a person is stressed they will return to habits that are natural to them. Habits of origin become their baseline. Stress does not indicate guilt. It is a natural reaction when they are being questioned by authority. In that moment of anxiety.... the current culture they are living in has absolutely nothing to do with their habits of origin. Flip the tables. If you were in Asia and were called in for questioning then your natural habit of origin would be to look the investigator in the eye. If that Investigator is not trained properly then they could completely miss your habits of origin and instead read you by their own culture which would me that they list you as confrontational.

[@saraha.3224]

What a fantastic guest!! So informative and smart - super cool to listen to her. 🙏

[@scyke]

"how are we going to win the war if your like this? how are we gonna win the fight...." gave me the biggest chills ever, wise words during the warzone.

[@SuperCracow]

The thing that struck me most about her was her kindness even in a job where one would not expect it

[@Wendyj55]

Yeah ..... for me, kindness is the real wisdom.

[@miyagifatghost2684]

For sure but that woman analyzed EVERYTHING around her before she even stepped in that room! The look in her eyes is VERY sharp.

[@genourbanrain]

That’s the key...

[@Marin3r101]

What the hell are you talking about? She is secret service agent they serve the nation as a security force for our elected officials. She isnt a god damn CIA deep cover agent in Iran.

[@c.calliecoleman1531]

Yes. I liked that, too. But I think what I liked best about her was showing she was just like us, like capable of using curse words like us. Because at first glance, and after she had said a few words I actually thought she just looked like a person who had it all together, having not a problem in the world. Until she went deeper into her conversation, and you know she's been through some stuff. And there's no telling the horrific scenes her eyes have seen. She say she don't take her work home with her, but things she's seen has brought a great deal of wisdom, to her eyes, and they are just beautiful. They say the eyes are the mirror, of your soul, and her's shine through. For her to have gone through things, and come through it sounding genuine, truthful is what some call a realist. My kind of people. Reason why I said I liked best to see she was like us, is because it humanizes her. I recently began breaking a habit of putting people I admire, on a pedestal, like being starstruck when I see them. For one thing, they don't want people looking starstruck at them, they want to be treated like normal people shop in regular stores, and not be bugged by fans wanting autographs, and the other thing is you be more comfortable yourself,.being in the presence of these people, once you take the stars out your eyes. I use to do this with a good minister, thought he was perfect, and sinless, but then he told us of a few things bad, he did as a child, like stealing candy out a store. It was actually funny, and everyone laughed including me, but what it also did, for me, was humanize him, he was just like us, with same faults we have. Then I realized, for years I had been putting stars, on a pedestal, so I ceased from doing that. Because just because they look picture perfect, on screen, they are still just human beings, and treat them so. Sorry for this long comment. This is like therapy, for me, writing out my confessions. Hope I didn't bore you.✌🏽

[@Attabasca]

When she points out how someone saying during a lie detection test, "Absolutely not" instead of how they were saying "No" (basically deviating from their baseline) reminded me of Jim Clemente (former FBI profiler) saying, "When you're telling facts, you simply have to state them. When you're telling a lie, you have to convince the person that what you are about to say is true." Saying "absolutely" is definitely an attempt to convince someone that the word that follows, is true.

[@aijazahmedsiddiqui3050]

My father in Pakistan used to say :” Lies have short legs , they don’t get you very far “!!! 😉👍🏼I told my kids and friends, "Once you're caught lying, your credibility goes down the toilet... And, sometime during your life, when all you have is your word of honor, that may make the difference between jail, prison, your job, and even your life."😆 Thank you Lewis and Evy! Everyone between the age of 16 and 60 needs to watch this TED (tell me, explain n describe). A complete gem.

[@bluechakraascension126]

Awesome interview, thank you for sharing. I can spot liars a mile away. However, most people who are highly intuitive learned from childhood abuse or any abuse they experienced as I did. You start noticing people’s moods so that you know if you can be around them or not. Yes, when you are told to be quiet and are not allowed to speak over and over you learn to watch and observe people very well and letting people speak first and watch their manuerisms of everything. So easy to notice their mannerisms after watching and observing. It does take a while to learn their ways but after many years or decades you can spot them so fast. Just need to learn self confidence in your intuitive abilities. Your gut will never lie to you.

[@justinamusyoka4986]

I had bad childhood and now as an adult i dont easily trust people first time,i take my time trying to avoid repeat episodes after we get used. Thank you for pointing that out.

[@justice-keithlittle9310]

You know how you come across a video or something is recommended and you click on it just because? I don’t follow this channel but happy this popped up. I will now subscribe.. THIS IS GOLD.. and I needed it.

[@IwasBlueb4]

This lady is stunningly beautiful, has an extremely logical mind and makes a subject interesting

[@freddyperla7944]

I don't think she's that beautiful, she just has some brilliant eyes.

[@Pigeon946]

The wonders of make up, and a lot of it.

[@nightmaster6381]

She also has like 5 pounds of makeup on and enough oil on her face to cook 15 pieces of chicken.....

[@taynadelmar8608]

She has great eyes with a piercing stare, a photogenic face shape with high cheekbones, but probably also fillers. But the orange colour just puts me off.

[@LittleLouieLagazza]

Pancaked makeup...hiding behind a heavy lie.

[@lalainearias4496]

It was a good conservation intelligently word of wisdom “TRUST what you FEEL not what they SAY” I got so many lessons I’ve learned. by just listening.

[@locomoco2012]

No. arias. Cause women at work be like I FEEL LIKE" all damn day

[@christopherbloor3901]

That's not good advice though, and isn't exactly what she meant. If you just did what you feel, then you'll just remain comfortable and not get anywhere, you have to listen to what others say and decide what's useful, even if it makes you uncomfortable to do it, especially if the person is showing you evidence for what they're saying.

[@inconnu4961]

"Haters are good!"- Poumpouras And she is so right! They can make you smarter and more adaptive! Thank your haters, if not out loud at least inside.

[@Arthur_CNW]

Ah, Evy. This is the third interview of hers that I see. She's just pure power and presence. What a woman. What a human.

[@ingridgrosu218]

A genuine role model, powerful and grounded

[@williampayne425]

Tb

[@garybaxter7297]

@@ingridgrosu218 for everybody not just you gals.

[@b-zar8912]

@@garybaxter7297 When did they say that she is a role model only for gals?

[@MrBurtonf]

When it comes down to it, it doesn’t matter what other people think of you. It only matters what you think of yourself. You’re the only person who is responsible for what you do and say.

[@jeannienotofthisworld8365]

Love, love, love Evy! She is an amazing powerhouse. Such a huge wealth of knowledge that she shares with us 😍❤

[@evashuma]

I love her father's lesson " how we gonna win the fight if you're the victim? "

[@c.calliecoleman1531]

I can really see how that toughness Evy has, a lot came from her Dad. He did a fine job with her. I was listening as she described her Dad growing up, and how tough he talked I thought if I had a Dad like that I would be fighting like an alley cat, at anyone who messed with me wrong. I wouldn't be scared of nobody. Lol. But the good thing about Evy, is her toughness is so equally contained, she know when to use it, and how to use it, and don't abuse it. She's a very good teacher.

[@MysticalCheshireKat]

@@c.calliecoleman1531 agreed

[@stonward]

Funny, 'cause if she was a guy she'd be in receipt of a father...

[@nickbargas7352]

The exact quote "how are we going to win the war if you're like this, how are we going to win the fight if you're like this, stop!" Although her father taught her to never feel like a victim I don't believe there is anything wrong with expressing an emotion like sadness with tears for someone you love and respect that is not going to be in your life anymore. Expressing genuine and honest emotions that are appropriate to certain situation is very healthy and I don't view it as a weakness but as a strength. I love her self awareness!!

[@mandm2349]

@@nickbargas7352 hmm. Nope... stop being a cry baby and find out a way to not be emotional to the point it destroys you. Thats great advice.

[@leavesofdistinction1679]

5 ft. 2 in. strong lady. Wow. She is amazing. So many obstacles have been overcome to get to where she is. Her persistence to get her education is commendable.

[@Deepespressomoon83]

Amen.

[@andreaellerbeee]

When your isolated in an abusive relationship with no one in the same state you really learn how to do this!

[@ramanpreciado2241]

Have you picked men at your level or did you always go for those out if your league???

[@patriciawoldemichael319]

@@ramanpreciado2241 what kind of comment is that ???

[@suncluster]

@@ramanpreciado2241 thank you for showing us your maladaptive behaviors. I am sorry you are so insecure. You really should work on that with a mental health professional.

[@Baalaaxa]

Practically everyone lies. But as kids, we're always taught not to lie. But still we see and hear adults lie all the time. No wonder we get uncomfortable about lying. There's a huge internal conflict and feelings of guilt, at least for a typical honest, responsible person. For some people lying comes much more naturally, especially if they're not emotionally invested, or feel any guilt about it. But the important thing is what you lie about; do you lie to protect someone's feelings, or for not revealing something private or compromising about someone. Or do you lie for your own benefit or for escaping your responsibilities. Do you lie to commit or hide a crime, do you lie to disguise another lie, or do you lie for some greater good? Sometimes absolute honesty can be just as hurtful or damaging as lying. Usually being honest can hurt you or someone else in the moment; but if you're caught lying, that can come back and haunt you later, hurting many times over. So, honesty and lying are both tools, and we have to pick the right tool for the right thing at the right time.

[@doctorx1924]

A friend of mine joked the other day about how our parents always told us when growing up to never lie but once we graduated college they both told us to lie about stuff on our resumes to get jobs. We both jokingly said basically they were telling us "Lying to us is bad and disrespectful but feel free to lie to other people to benefit yourself."

[@andrew_koala2974]

How does one learn to lie.... It is the parents that teach their sons and daughters by telling them lies from the day their sons and daughters start to talk. Then the So-called education system i.e. indoctrination system tells students lies starting on their first day at school. It becomes classical conditioning of the mind, as Pavlov and Skinner knew about. As well as more currently Professor Benjamin Bloom, a behavioral psychologist.

[@mrspp2081]

Proof that God is an artist because Evy is a Masterpiece!! She has beauty and brains 😍

[@jenniferkerstetter9781]

Triple threat so to speak

[@Lietotajvards9]

​@@jenniferkerstetter9781 why triple?

[@tenrouseimei7952]

I have no idea who these two people are never heard of both of you (living in germany) but what i can tell is that this was genuine and just the right things for me to hear at this moment. Thank the algorithm leading me to this and thank you Evy, thank you Lewis for sharing your greatness ;)

[@richardpotter6313]

I agree 💯! Came out of nowhere!

[@tiffanyfoy1039]

Same here😁what town of Germany are you in? I miss that place so much 😏

[@tenrouseimei7952]

@@tiffanyfoy1039 Heya Tiffany i am located in Karlsruhe really awesome city what i can say staying for ~ 3 years here now.

[@tiffanyfoy1039]

@@tenrouseimei7952 stoopp itttt 😀that's where we was station at omg this is so.cool I miss KARLSHRUE soo much u don't even know how😁😁what part.of town do you reside in I need some visuals it's been a long time ago🙄

[@tenrouseimei7952]

@@tiffanyfoy1039 i got some free time next week i maybe can take some pictures need to get used to that altough i am not actually someone that is into making photos ... may need to open an insta acc for that ;D

[@darrenyoung7707]

That was an amazing interview. Thank You, Evy and Lewis. I connected with so many things in this interview, and the depth of Evy's replies are quite remarkable, considering how "plastic" things have become in our society. I have always been the guy who goes left when others go right, back when others go forward, and vice versa. I am only now, at 54 years of age, beginning to own the fact that this does not necessarily mean I'm wrong, although that is obviously sometimes true. Whether or not I can turn my experiences and knowledge into something to help other people, remains to be seen. I'm trying to figure out my path forward in that regard, but that is my goal. Thank You for the inspiration.

[@luisaa.7906]

She seems relaxed in this interview, and Lewis knows how to connect with people. This is interesting and fun.

[@IBader-vi9br]

She has my dream job

[@IBader-vi9br]

Awesome

[@tammyhall1783]

Savour the moment. Greeks rarely, if ever relax.

[@allwellandgood8547]

What a woman! Learnt so much, I could listen to her all day! Another amazing interview, thanks Lewis ❤

[@MrWeareone777]

Female power !

[@lorrainecouture2684]

The interview was so informative. Design your own life as you want it Also along the law of the universe: Believe it & you will see it. State your intention in any aspect of your life & watch what happens. Dreams will become reality. ❤

[@RRTench]

Stunning. I watched this on a whim. Then I couldn’t stop watching, listening, learning, recognizing, and realizing. The knowledge, life lessons, wisdom and inspirations offered by Evy Poumpouras are offered in nearly every answer and example she gives. A 5’ 2” articulate, engaging, funny, touching, beautiful, insightful, and brilliant powerhouse of experience and training is translated into real-life terms in a way that anyone can find from one to a dozen takeaways. I could not get enough of her. Of course, kudos to Lewis Howes for guiding the interview with his thoughtful questions and dialog. Thank you!

[@K3chocolate]

I’m currently reading her book and I love it! I found her interviews back in February and have been watching all of them. Thank you so much for this!

[@lewishowes]

❤️

[@pellaxestorba4836]

Yes...and make up...is also a lie. ......hmmm.

[@briantmartin83]

Sociopath lol

[@briantmartin83]

@@pellaxestorba4836 Aww are you jealous? Hahaha troll

[@npcloadanotherbowlinger3357]

@@pellaxestorba4836 Covid-19 was also a lie. the vaccines were the governments method of retaining the money they lost giving out stimulus checks. They want to see how many people lost their faith in God.

[@sandrajdavis1236]

Prayer Wait Watch See ....Actions Speak ..Louder Than Words . Pray Let God Show The Truth About All Things

[@a-k9161]

Pls grow up.

[@user-sc5yo4bo2j]

@@a-k9161 😄😄😄

[@serene5345]

So true. If you're confused about how someone feels about you, believe their actions before their words. And pay attention how you feel around them. Your body will tell you the Truth.

[@amazon1606]

Amen

[@patientlywaiting4mykingsou49]

Especially in governments, in the name of Jesus Christ!! Amen!

[@Evolutioninthestars]

This is one of my favorite interviews on KZbin. So many gems in this video. Thank you for such an enlightened conversation. 💚

[@user-sc5yo4bo2j]

These are my thoughts too 🙋

[@antoinette4995]

Yes, she gave a lot of very valuable information

[@martindesjardins4282]

I really like her talk. I wish I had more people like her in my life. Thanks for the interview.

[@janelllazaro1732]

Love how she admits that innocent people are jailed that says it all that means that their guilt has not been proven but they are locked up anyway this judicial system is not impressive it's corrupt

[@Alan-zj5fz]

Corrupt .

[@michaelworthy9381]

Not new or revealing!

[@kmktruthserum9328]

personally i have faith in the system. of course some people will slip through but if people didnt try to get away with bads things then we wouldn't have this issue. and i dont really like the government but its people who i think really should be to blame

[@Alan-zj5fz]

@@kmktruthserum9328 View on property taxes which I Believe = Extortion.

[@kmktruthserum9328]

@@Alan-zj5fz yea i agree. i paid to own this land but yet i dont actually own it, im renting it

[@selenajet6525]

I love how she is still a badass yet in touch with her femininity AND she is short too? Truly anything is possible!!

[@robgoodsight6216]

Equilibrate, decisive and absolutely laser focused. She is one of a hellaofaperson! I admire her!

[@cubiczirconiabeard5366]

oh, you just like tarted up petite blondes

[@robgoodsight6216]

@@cubiczirconiabeard5366 ...as in: trust her professionally. Then yes. Is she attractive? Of course. Would I like to find a companion like her. Yepp big time.

[@perasperaadastra3737]

Yes, she is absolutely impressive. I will listen to this again, just to learn more. What a role model

[@robgoodsight6216]

@@perasperaadastra3737 ...good alias!

[@shireensaroea946]

Me too. I’m rather impressed

[@Dani-ef3cf]

1:46:38 The School of Greatness Evy Pompouras’ 3 Truths (to this point in life): 1) Do the Right Thing Even When it’s not popular. 2) “Make Your Own Decisions” 3) “Fail as Much as Possible.” I love their conversation, sharing, and, teaching. Above all, I love and sincerely appreciate Lewis’ and Evy’s HONESTY! This IS to me, their GREATNESS! Blessings 🙏💙🤗☮️

[@lewishowes]

👍

[@stefaniecuadra2582]

I wish she would be a narrator for audio books. I love her voice so much!!

[@RinJames18]

She narrates her book Becoming Bulletproof on Audible. It's great!

[@stefaniecuadra2582]

@@RinJames18 I didn't like it for some reason... maybe I gave up too quickly it was a little boring to me

[@MrWeareone777]

@@RinJames18 She's is the new. " Your mission, should you decide to accept it". This tape will self destruct in 10 seconds".

[@G0ETTIN]

Say „no“ to people in a way that doesn’t hurt their identity

[@mellophriend]

What does that mean?

[@francisdolarhyde1866]

you will never be a woman

[@TonyC0101]

@@mellophriend I took that to mean that you have to view a person as separate from their ideas or requests. For instance, if someone wanted you to do some idea of theirs that you don't like, you should tell them: "I don't like that idea. I like you and no offense to you, but that idea doesn't sit well with me." (or something to that effect). And you may have to remind them AND yourself that it's not them you don't like, it's their request or idea. Which is hard, I know, because so many people equate their identity and self-worth with their ideas.

[@mellophriend]

@@TonyC0101 yeah I agree. Thanks for the explanation

[@jacqchurchm2293]

Worked in Fraud for an insurance company and appreciated this interview greatly!

[@moe9246]

Excellent advice about self talk! “You wouldn’t want someone else to call you an idiot. Why would I call myself an idiot? I’m not an idiot”

[@Cassandra-..-]

Love how she demonstrates all of the strategies on this guy.

[@ejenkins4711]

She could be messed with about her appearance.

[@ejenkins4711]

@Matthew Green absolutely, can't we all thank god

[@skolar702]

One the best interviews I have seen hands down. I could have listened to this conversation for hours. 👏👏👏

[@habibaawada1239]

I was looking for a new interview of Evy like two days ago and didn’t find any I had not watched yet, so I’m really grateful for having logged in today and finding this on my newsfeed. Thank you Lewis for that and most importantly thank you Evy for your presence, insights, your courage/strength and the passion that you embody. You truly are an inspiration. ♥️

[@marieburton8753]

Do you know how to prove a man wrong? Let him have his way. And stand back and watch

[@jctorres6112]

how bout a woman??

[@ChristiansPrayingTogether]

This is absolute truth !

[@marieburton8753]

@@jctorres6112 we are always right. See men aren't even programmed to 💃A) turn around when it's even apparent they are going the wrong way. 💃B) Stop to ask for directions. 💃C) use instruction manuals And last but not least. 💃D) Know when it's time to find someone who knows the answer.

[@marieburton8753]

@@jctorres6112 how about a few?💃💃💃💃

[@jctorres6112]

@@marieburton8753 im sorry the men you have met have made you think that way. but just like woman all men are not the same