3 Secret Ways Doctors Blame Patients

Over 50% of patients are unhappy with their medical care, and it doesn't help when they get blamed by the medical system. Learn how to change the conversation from blame to advocacy with your doctor.
Join Dr. Anthony Kaveh as he delves into the controversial topic of why doctors sometimes blame patients. Learn the truth behind this practice and discover how you can advocate for yourself and your loved ones. Dr. Kaveh shares three specific examples and solutions to help you navigate these challenges and ensure you receive the best care possible. Don’t miss the live Q&A at the end for more insights!
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Timestamps
0:00 - Introduction: Dr. Anthony Cave
0:04 - Why Doctors Blame Patients
0:22 - How to Prevent Blame Shifting
0:31 - Example 1: Lipitor and Muscle Aches
1:57 - Strategy 1: Recognize Labeling
4:36 - Strategy 2: Chronic Fatigue and Pain Patients
7:01 - Example 2: Psychosomatic Diagnoses
9:56 - Solution: Be Objective and Keep Logs
11:30 - Example 3: Palpitations in Women
15:24 - Strategy 3: Ask Critical Questions
17:02 - Conclusion and Empowerment Tips
17:53 - Live Q&A
#PatientAdvocacy #MedicalTruths #HealthcareTips
References:
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12650234
www.nature.com/articles/news....

[@rhondabarrett9853]

I recently saw my surgeon & I told him I was tired of being gaslighted & if he didn't answer my questions that day, I would go over his head & not stop until I got answers. He pulled up a chair & told me to fire away. I had 15 questions on my list but he ended up answering 18 & showing me on the wall chart & on my scopes. I'm so glad I confronted him. I've had 35 operations & I'm only 61. I know my body better than any doctor.

[@jeanninemedart3720]

I was gaslighted for 2 yrs. Nobody looked into my symptoms, turned out to be lung cancer. Nothing on an x-ray, 4 cm on CT scan

[@MedicalSecrets]

How did you feel walking out of the office? How do you think your surgeon felt?

[@michelemcguire8995]

Amen

[@cherylkat2342]

I understand that I had a arthritis doctor who said all women are crazy need to be on Xanax and other strong pills I walked out went to my regular doctor who figure out all the things wrong with me . Used the right meds we went through a lot before we found what worked ..Xanax got flushed it was the bars . I just took one I was out

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

Rhonda, I love your post. It sounds like something I would do. And loudly, lol...

[@kathybradshaw9235]

How many Dr's hate that you are sharing this? I bet a LOT of them! Thank you for tearing down these smoke signals!

[@PinkHawk191]

My former adult congenital heart doctor blamed me for my issues. I can’t control what my heart does. He also yelled at me while I was in the hospital recovering from my second open heart surgery. I didn’t do anything to deserve the way I was blamed and treated. I have had residents and fellows lump me in with the people who abuse opioid pain medication. I have been shocked by that. My narcotics pain medication helps me to function. I don’t deserve to be treated like a bad person.

[@CarolReidCA]

Sadly, some doctors do that. I had a similar experience a couple months ago. A doctor on the transplant team was a jerk... accused me of being an addict, and he was wrong. He threatened to have my blood drawn again, after a phlebotomist had just drawn me (& I'd already been poked about 20-30 times.) I was drawn again, and when he returned, I told him to look at my labs... Ironically, despite his several inaccurate assertions, it was, according to the other doctors on the team, the Tamiflu I'd been given at another hospital about 2 weeks prior that they attributed to the cause of my liver failure. I don't drink, never drank much at all all my life. I haven't had any alcohol for many years, not even socially. I know they have to check by blood tests, as they have to know what is going on. That 1 doctor didn't have to say what he did. He was a jerk, AND he could've run a drug screen on a prior ROC that was just drawn. If I ever wind up back there again, and I'd I ever see him again, I'm going to request he be barred from any of my care at that hospital (Cedars-Sinai). After he got the results, then he wanted to blame some vitamins I hadn't taken for over a month, and then only periodically. I counted the vitamins I'd taken before I got sick, and it wasn't even close to being them. The rest of the team said it was very likely the Tamiflu. Interesting, as several others have since agreed, yet if you look up Tamiflu, some sites say it "never" caused a problem... others say it has. A study with Tamiflu killed every rat in the study via liver failure. I made a report to the FDA, and I'll never take it again. It is dangerous, IMHO. I have health issues from this incident which may be long-term or perhaps even permanent, that severely affect my quality of life. I am still undergoing work-ups and will be for the next month or more. It affected my heart, lungs, and other organs. It's going to take a while to sort it all out. Tamiflu, IMHO, is poison.

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

@@CarolReidCA Thank you for this.

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

To me, the ones doing that, are on drugs themselves. Drug misuse is common in the medical community. Shocking, I know.

[@globalCreatorsstyle]

Unbelievable. Dismissive behaviors add more pain. I'm sorry this happened to you.

[@eleonorabartoli2225]

Report him if you can!

[@trish87563]

Medical doctors shouldn't be calling anyone borderline, unless they're psychiatrists. For any other physician, it's out of their sphere of competence. Leave that to the psychiatrists and the psychologists who are trained in that diagnosis.

[@iSheree]

I am borderline as diagnosed by a psychiatrist mainly because of my fear of abandonment. I adhere to medications that I must take and do what doctors tell me to do as long as I feel it is right for my body. For example, recently I was pressured into an IUD and I decided against it because the safety data sheet said “contraindicated (not safe) for those with liver tumours or liver disease. I have over 10 tumours in my liver, so I said it’s not safe and I don’t feel comfortable. They’re telling me to ignore that advice from the company themselves. Now they are refusing to do so a hysterectomy despite non stop bleeding from adenomyosis for which a hysterectomy is the only cure. I also have severe endometriosis. This is totally unfair.

[@shawnamorgan6846]

And the ones that are trained need to stop using it as a bandaid diagnoses when they don't want to deal with us

[@helenevangeliste140]

All of the psychiatrists, psychologists, and therapists have been taught to gaslight their patients. I've seen and known many psychiatrists, psychologists, and therapists that are way more broken than I am. I at leas try to laugh through all of what I'm going through. They are first to keep their own feelings deep down inside while listening to somebody else's problems. Very sad. Our doctors are not allowed to connect with us anymore. In the American medical system, we are all nothing but sheep...

[@helenevangeliste140]

By far the most sympathetic human beings in the medical field today are either neurologists or neurosurgeons. They actually do care ❤

[@williamrussellmorley]

psychologists are full of crap and jealous they couldn't make it to medical school so their aim is to control via words which many people "believe in"... thomas szasz the great PSYCHIATRIST said "There is no psychology, only biography and autobiography"

[@giraffe912]

Not really a secret, patients have known we’ve been blamed for years. There are some good docs out there but unfortunately seems to be the whole system is built just to blame patients.

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

I have about 3 spinal issues. All congenital. Affected my walking when I was little. So I was seeing a PT guy after knee surgery, and he starts harassing me about my "posture". Oooooo, I was angry. I said, First of all, YOU are not treating my spine. Secondly, you're NOT a doctor to be giving your opinion on my posture. Shut it. Third, and most definitely last, I ride my bike 5 miles to play on your stupid little toys, UPHILL. I offered to show you my x-rays, and you refused. I think my rehab is done. Your services, no longer required. He tried to say he wasn't signing off on my contract. HIS boss, who I knew from church, was really nice. He told the guy to zip it. When did medical people get so controlling?!?

[@giraffe912]

@@JaneJones-uh5le I had my driving license confiscated for 8 months because a doctor forgot to fill in a form, and then another one who never had met me filled it in a wrote i was su*cidal. I wasnt. It was on my record from a few years back and he wrote it as currently. I wasn’t allowed to get upset or angry or anything. Spent the whole time having to pretend to be fine about it to get it back. Confronted the dr about it and he just said he had to do it because its the law. When my record says low risk and the law actually states that only high risk people cant drive. But this was turned on me because i asked for help with maintaining good mental health because I was about to join a stressful job. I ended up losing that job because they took my licence. Couldn’t afford a solicitor so its my problem.

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

@@giraffe912 😳. See, here's where it pays to have a friend with you. Someone that won't take no crap. Another doc, or someone official.

[@giraffe912]

​ And in the UK where I live you can only see the doctors that are in the area local to you. The only ones in my town are the same group, so would literally have to move out to find someone else. Ended up paying for a private psych evaluation to prove i was sane, since the waiting list is around 3 years on the nhs.

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

@@giraffe912 No perfect system, huh.

[@kathybradshaw9235]

My PCP doesn't trust any electronic devices but my blood pressure is wacked and has been 58/37 to 289/167 which resulted in a stroke. My PCP told me that those numbers are not possible even though i was at the ER when they were recorded. I've had 36 strokes, concussions, TIA's, fractured skulls and brain bleeds. I am extremely blessed to still be functional to say the least. I've been gaslighted for 30 years and i refuse to be treated that way ever again. Thank you for doing what you are doing! .

[@user-ci4nl5ex9l]

My PC never believes a thing I tell him he said it's not physically possible I told him maybe he should go back to school and get a few more. Hours under his belt cause I don't trust him anymore he says I'm just depressed I said he'll yea I'm depressed I'm depressed and pissed because I have a whole journal of my symptoms that u just say there's no way that can be happening to u so yea I'm depressed not because of me because of u

[@PSYCHICVIBES]

The real question is why have you had 36 strokes and all! Holy shit!

[@TR-nv3if]

I know someone who had a form of wolf Parkinson’s syndrome…he had an extra electrical loop in his heart that caused heart racing ( 400j.. 5he a would happen periodically and he’d have to get fibrillated.. he had an ablation whim stopped the electric signals from continuous loops. His cardiologist said he’s cured now and he now lives a normal life..

[@jeanninemedart3720]

I'm a nurse working in hospice. It's easy to label people but I've taken over families that others were having trouble with and most are just not being asked deep questions because you'll find out they aren't compliant, or more often they were never educated well enough to be compliant. I had to educate and demonstrate how to turn and position a pt 2 days in a row to 1 family. They finally video taped me and got it right.

[@MedicalSecrets]

Very good example, thank you for sharing. I totally agree

[@redhotmoon1656]

Yes! Home health nurse here. Not sharing eye and nose medications has been a huge one that I educate the same family about over and over.

[@Ldk0988]

I began having constant 24/7 headaches out of the blue in my mid 30s. The first neurologist I saw tried a couple of meds that didn’t work. He then told me that it was probably stress from my job (I’m a teacher and was not working in June) and that perhaps I needed a psychiatrist. Twenty years later and I still remember how devastated and hopeless I felt that day. I finally found a wonderful neurologist who took me seriously and worked with me for many years, finding the root cause and treating me with such compassion. She was the most caring, amazing doctor I’d ever had. First doc was out of his depth and I’d have totally understood if he’d admitted he didn’t know and referred me to another doctor instead of implying that I was crazy.

[@beatricesiaw8776]

What was the root cause?

[@Ldk0988]

@@beatricesiaw8776 decreasing estrogen due to perimenopause; the headaches were a physical response to it. I currently take a Vyepti infusion every 3 months and Lyrica daily to suppress the headaches. It’s worked well for me so far.

[@amandabrush4677]

I recently had a crisis of hyperkalemia leading to cardiac malfunction and a very scarey ER experience and a stay in the Cardiac ICU. My care in the hospital was excellent. However, when my cardiologist visited my bedside he scolded me for eating too many tomatoes, potatoes and bananas. He instructed me not to eat a whole banana, but only half. Later I found out that one of my previous medications, prescribed by him, has a high risk of hyperkalemia. He is no longer my doctor

[@riekebusch2293]

@amandabrush4677 Did you tell him that? If yes:great! If no : please do, so he can learn about his mistakes!

[@lindatinsley8094]

I have pots

[@rhondabarrett9853]

The damn doctor is more than likely the one that is borderline.

[@MedicalSecrets]

Me? Really? I don't find your comment particularly kind

[@redhotmoon1656]

​@@MedicalSecretsprobably not you. I'm guessing a past experience with another doctor

[@tamn9446]

@medicalsecrets there are not many doctors like you. I hope that changes. People have bad experiences with doctors like your videos discuss . Great channel. Thank you!

[@Cosmos77727]

​@@MedicalSecretsI am sure he referred to someone else, you're super cool doctor!😊

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

I know you never meant Dr. K here & that you referred to rude Dr. you saw 😊

[@shawnamorgan6846]

I left a drs office literally in tears from her calling me down to the lowest for using a wheelchair to deal with my Fibromyalgia, well if I could actually get into the pain specialist and get some appropriate pain care I may not need to

[@elizabethc3842]

Tell her to kiss your lily white posterior 😂

[@RSDNancy]

Pain clinics don't actually treat pain anymore.

[@gregh4284]

I once requested to see my patient records. They were shocked, seemed offended but afterwards they became better communicators and were more cautious about how they interacted with me.

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

One doc tried to argue with me about that. I got my records.

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

I asked to see something in my Husband's records yrs ago & couldn't believe what I read. "She said some bad things & some good" another wrote received 7 page letter from Wife 😮 OMG what did that happen to do with Husband's health. Shows more important that note (for all) "KEEP AN 👁‍🗨 ON HER"...would like to know what that had to do with patient's good care/treat. Awful to think have to walk on egg shells & watch Ps & Qs. All best to you.

[@gailhicks6547]

When I asked to see the results of one of my test Iwas told the records were his property. I didn’t get to see anything.

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

@@gailhicks6547 They lie. There's a paper they have you sign, to release them. They count on most being uninformed. I'm good at making a scene 😂

[@kitsiewr]

The snarky comments they write on your record - then if you try to get a "second opinion", the new doc will see all that first.

[@cindyhalpern3187]

The ER doctor who said that about me suddenly had to rescuitatate me. I was dead for almost 4 minutes. He totally revised his charting on my severe Asthma. He had to rescuitatate me other times when I arrived by rescue squad. But he always acted quickly and never doubted me again. He would save my life many times after that.

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

Once, I was being treated in the ER for my asthma. I had an attending male nurse, who was nasty. Of all the nurses, I got Chimney Stack. AND he was dismissive and sarcastic. I finally got so angry, I yanked out the tube from my port (wasn't being used), walked out to my ride, port still hanging from my arm and, said Take me home. So they call as we're driving, telling me I need to come back. So I did. They asked what happened, and I told them. That's when I found out, we have EVERY right now to be treated by any nurse or doc, and can tell them to go fly a kite 😂😂😂. So next time I went there (for an assault), I asked what happened to Chimney Stack. They let him go. Turns out he was a visiting nurse, and the other nurses didn't care for him. They said he was like Pig Pen, with a waft of cigarette smoke, stinking up the hallway wherever he went, lol!!

[@elizabethc3842]

That is awesome that you pointed out to others that you do indeed have the right to fire a doctor or a nurse. I had a nurse tell my doctor that I wanted to decrease my pain medications, I called for meds because it hurt so bad, she told me the doctor had changed the order. The next morning I was a mess, the doctor said if I was hurting so badly why would I ask him to lower my dose. I told him I had asked for more not less because it hurt soooo bad. He raised me up higher than it had been so when that nurse came on shift she jumped down my throat telling me that I didn't need all that pain medications as I needed to get ready to be discharged (I was discharged 25 days and 2 operations later not then.) Anyway she wouldn't bring the meds when it was time, she let me go two or three hours after it was due and said she had so many patients she was doing her best. In the morning the doctor came back and I was a mess again. I told him what she did and how I got even less than the previous night. He was so mad because I was just chasing the pain. Turned out she only had 2 patients (ICU rules at that hospital) and she believed that pain was a state of mind and I was just using meds as a crutch and I probably was just a drug seeker. When she was assigned to me on day three I called the doctor before he left, told him she was there again he came to my room, reamed her infront of the charge nurse and told them to get me someone who would follow his orders. He told me I had a right to fire a nurse and have many times.

[@JaneJones-uh5le]

@@elizabethc3842 Bravo. I never knew we could do that, until my ER visit.

[@jaeljade3609]

I hope that Packerfan 73 gets help for that stomach pain. The University of Wisconsin in Madison had a great surgeon who helped me when other doctors wouldn't. I had an endoscopy and HIDA scans that showed nothing and stomach meds for IBS did nothing. Finally, that kind surgeon, who said I had been through enough, said he would take a look. Turned out my gallbladder had been dead for quite some time. I had been really sick for more than a year. I was literally tearing out my hair with pain and doctors refused to do anything. I'm not sure why the HIDA scan said my gallbladder was fine on two occasions, or the endoscopy wasn't effective, but I've always felt grateful for that doctor who didn't think I was just an hysterical hypochondriac. I know my own body and I've been right every single time something has been wrong with it.

[@JEWELZYOUTUBE]

I'm glad you got the right person to help you.

[@jaeljade3609]

@@JEWELZKZbin Thanks, me too! You can't give up.

[@JEWELZYOUTUBE]

@jaeljade3609 No, you can't give up ever 🤗

[@elizabethc3842]

Endoscopy doesn't go to the gallbladder only the esophagus and stomach, you would have needed an ERCP for that... to bad you didn't get one because you would definitely been treated after that.

[@jaeljade3609]

@@elizabethc3842 Yeah, I agree, I went through a year of hell. At the time, though, I don't think they were thinking gallbladder.

[@melissaroth4467]

Old or young doesn't matter to me. A curious doctor is best for me. The doctor may not know the answer, but they will find out. The doctor with a curious mind has the drive to solve things. A curious mind seems to be able to mesh previous knowledge with new knowledge so they have more possible solutions.

[@divadaedalus]

Thank you for this. During Covid I had a major fall down a hill into trash cans and a solid wooden fence. Compound fracture of the fibula lengthwise. Six inch plate. Surgeon suggested a knee replacement on the same leg. Had it done. Did great until 8 weeks out. Even more severe pain and balance totally off. Got the typical “you’re older” code for weak and whiny so your recovery will be about a year. I was already back walking 3 miles a day and graduated out of PT two weeks early. This went on for four years with pain and imbalance getting much worse. Four falls in five years. Two concussions. Face planted Christmas Day. Broke a vertebrae in my neck, broke my hand and hit the sidewalk so hard it sent my heart into a fib. Finally blessed with an amazing neurosurgeon, orthopedist and cardiologist. Ended up with a pacemaker, a MRI that showed that the knee replacement was put in sideways turning one leg in and causing me to trip, and my hip was out of joint because of it. The Drs. explained why, with no history of back pain before all this, my vertebrae are degenerating rapidly and the bones are pinching the spinal cord and nerves. Doing intense PT but was told, very kindly, this week that there is no way to repair this and it will end in paraplegia. All because I was just a “whiny old woman” to the PA working with the surgeon and who did not chart any of my calls. Ageism is very real in the Medical profession. If you have parents, grandparents or elders who are important to you the greatest gift you can give them is taking time to go to appointments with them. It will positively effect their treatment.

[@elizabethc3842]

Everyone should take someone with them to appointments and if you feel you aren't being treated right you need to tell the doctor you would like to record the appointment so you remember what you are told... it's so funny how kind and attentive they are when you have a witness and a recording device. If they say no you can't then they are hiding something and you don't need that anyway.

[@macherie1234]

​@@elizabethc3842 I complained about an Ortho doc to my husband. He went with me the next appointment then said, "he's not as bad as you said... he's worse!" Our complaint to patient services was the last straw and I had a new doc one week later.

[@wsue1038]

Oh my! 😢

[@msjetta5818]

Have a similar experience with the “ageism” diagnosis. I’m now facing permanent nerve damage in one leg with moderate-severe muscle atrophy, all because NO Dr would take my symptoms serious, or even consider referring to another Dr who could figure things out. Prescribe antidepressants, pain meds and gabapentin to combat the symptoms. I’ve walked around with nerve impingement since 2018. Steadily gotten worse. PT , injections, steroid packs etc. the list could go on and on with all I’ve done. And now I need back surgery and won’t even be able to make a full recovery. I’m so sickened by all of the gaslighting and now, after listening to this video, I think they probably have me labeled, or something. I had an active life. And now……… good grief, I feel like I’ve had my real life taken away, and I shouldn’t have happened

[@LUVN4GIV]

I have blood in my urine and have been told it’s not an issue. So ridiculous. My nephrologist nearly let me go until I said, “Really? So that’s it? My urine is pink or looks like Dr. Pepper, and you don’t want to see me again?” After I left, I got a call. He ordered one last test. It turns out I have a rare condition that causes bleeding and severe back pain called Nut Cracker’s Syndrome. I thought I couldn't find the right mattress! Thank goodness I had the nerve to say something! Thank you, Dr. Kaveh!

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

Proud of you & you definitely should be proud of yourself. Keep sticking up standing up for yourself that's terrible what happened to you. Makes you wonder if anyone cares lucky you are persistent as have to be life is so precious & short. What if happened to their life or their family member? Good people speaking up....can do as truth ❤

[@pattyb1491]

@@jangriffin-fi1yxI’m

[@pattyb1491]

I’m so happy

[@reflectionsinthebible3579]

Never heard of that. What do they do to treat it?

[@jimmydandy9364]

That shit for brains of a nephrologist should lose his license in my opinion. How the fuck did he get his license, dismissing that gross hematuria is NORMAL, without running tests to determine the cause. It could be anything from harmless and treatable, to very serious conditions. (Infections, stones, cancer, kidneys, bladder) - unless of course Nephrologists are more interested in dyalisis patients for $$$$......... Your doctors should have ordered urine and blood tests.

[@juliepietruszka5089]

I wish more doctors were as aware as you are of how it feels to be a chronically ill person.

[@melissaroth4467]

I have a doctor I need to fire, even though her patients say she is the best. It doesn't matter what hurts, "That's not rheumatoid arthritis." Her PA told me that since blood-work no longer showed the marker, I no longer had rheumatoid arthritis. (It showed again 6 months later). I had to correct her, as there is such a thing as sero negative! None of the biologics have made a difference so now I take nothing, except for a pain killer. One that helps less than Advil. Yeah, I need to fire her; especially since I only get to see her once a year and the rest of the time I see one of her PAs who seem more like they are students and not ready for "prime time" yet. I also need to fire my gyno as she treated me very poorly during my last annual and refused to answer my questions. On the other hand, I love my primary!

[@JEWELZYOUTUBE]

You can find a new doctor. I had to do that with 5 years of him gaslighting me and saying I was a hypochondriac when I only saw him when there was an issue.. that was 10 years of having an irregular menstrual cycle ( he said it was normal to bleed almost all month long), so I changed doctors. I said he was not very good at his job and called me a hypochondriac. My new doctor sent me in for tests, and it was some weird name where my cycle did not stop and caused more cycles through the month. I ended up having a hysterectomy. Over 10 years of feeling like I was in labor ( which I know the feeling due to having kids)

[@RSDNancy]

I fired my mom's cardiologist and had no problem doing it. The funny thing was he sent her a letter telling her what I did. He sent it to her home address when he knew she was in the nursing home. She laughed when I read it to her.

[@iSheree]

I have actually been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder but this is due to my fear of abandonment etc, I have no trouble adhering to what doctors say but only if I feel that it is right for MY BODY. For example, I recently was pressured into agreeing to have an IUD. But I read that IUD is contraindicated in people with liver tumours. I have over 10 of them. So I have said no thank you to the IUD. But they wont do a hysterectomy now because I wont try the IUD first. This is so unfair. I am bleeding non stop and need iron infusions, soon I will need blood transfusions. I have zero quality of life because of my adenomyosis and endometriosis. So unfair. Edit: I am also a cancer patient, a chronic pain, chronic fatigue and chronic disease patient, disabled from birth with spinal bifida. Hospital negligence destroyed my hearing. I also have POTS and an undiagnosed autoimmune disease. I have had plenty of doctors dismiss me, blame me or gaslight me.

[@shawnamorgan6846]

I was misdiagnosed years ago with BPD, I actually have PTSD

[@iSheree]

@@shawnamorgan6846 I was diagnosed with bipolar, ptsd, borderline and ocd. So who knows lol. Sorry you’re dealing with mental health issues. ❤️

[@tammy5926]

I was bleeding heavy for years and my OB Gyn did a uterine ablation. No more periods and I avoided a hysterectomy. You should research it and ask your doctor about it

[@iSheree]

@@tammy5926 unfortunately it isn’t going to work and isn’t an option for me. I have severe adenomyosis that shows up in scans. That procedure would make it worse and not fix the underlying problem. Same with IUD. I have severe endometriosis with bowel adhesions so I need to remove it all. :(

[@tammy5926]

@@iSheree Oh ok. I wasn't sure if it was an option so I thought I would pass it on to you. Best of luck. 💕

[@susannasenti2871]

Severe pain causes me to have volatile blood pressure.

[@R_Pope]

I went to the ER with severe abdominal pain. The ER doctor and staff were amazing. Apparently I was pregnant and they couldn’t rule out an ectopic bc they couldn’t see anything in my ultrasound. The problem was from the OB on call… she blamed me for not knowing I was pregnant and not going to the hospital where my OB had privileges (this hospital was 15 minutes closer to my house). She said I wasn’t in enough pain for it to be ectopic and sent me home to follow up with my OB. Long story short, it was a ruptured ectopic. Luckily I clotted instead of bleeding out.

[@deeheart9988]

I went into surgery, all of a sudden, I saw the cardiologist leaving the room and nurses were taking stuff off me! I asked what happened but no one would tell me. It was ablation surgery and I was awake at the beginning. I didn't know they'd give me something to forget. Got to the recovery room and Dr slides outside of room and points to me and said "I'm not operating on you again unless you're completely knocked out!" I didn't have my glasses on so I wasn't sure who it was and nurse in the room wouldn't say. I found 2 burn marks on front of chest and 2 on the back. Apparently they shocked me when my heart rate went high. Later he told me I tried to jump off the table!! Well, I wonder why. Sorry so long story.

[@joyceturner2929]

I truly love my doctor. If I’m not sure of his advice I will provide a different opinion and he has agreed with me a couple of times. He’s about the same age as my deceased son so while he has no idea, I’ve sort of adopted him. I’ve seen him for over 10 years. We have a great doctor/patient relationship and i’m so grateful.

[@pebble_19-]

And so lucky 😉

[@joyceturner2929]

@@pebble_19- I know it!! He’s followed my journey of nephew getting his medical degree and last year his mother passed, we shared a spiritual moment for her this year. I truly am blessed.

[@lisadugan5292]

I maintained a log and pictures of rash. Doctor accused me of trying to build a disability case. So much for trying to get to bottom line diagnosis.

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

That would put me off him. I'ld go other Drs.

[@chiarac3833]

I'd be geta better doc...

[@possumofantikka8160]

drs would do much better if they would practice medicine instead of playing miami vice.. they are getting way out of their lane in the most damaging ways. the amount drs bill for stuff they definitely did not do is shocking and across the board. they are fine with filling your records with fiction to cover their a$$, before listening to you about the body you have lived in for likely longer than they have been alive... a real dr tries to find the answer. if they cant, they ask for help. most drs today are playing defense in abject terror of the DEA. patients and healthcare are not their motivator. you know, perhaps if they ever stopped committing constant malpractice, they wouldnt have to worry about legal issues.

[@NYDebs]

Currently had a hospital who did BRAIN surgery yank out a catheter without deflating it! After seeing crusted blood on my legs they cleaned me up , 2 wks later tt caused a bladder infection that led to a bowel blockage & I ended in another hospital for 4 horrid days. I filed a complaint & don't want to sue but make sure NO ONE ever goes thru this. It worked & I was told not to pay the bill (my part $1600) & it will be resolved in 30 days. All this after I was told I had to take meds that almost killed me or Doc would NOT do the brain surgery. Done with docs & meds that mess me up but grateful I'm even alive💕blood thinners for a patient with anemia. WTH just CYA for surgeon?

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

You poor thing ❤ what a horrendous experience hope you are lots better now.

[@elizabethc3842]

Blood thinners aren't the devil, there are times and surgeries that need them. Brain surgery can cause clots and those clots can cause strokes, pick your battles.

[@e.1766]

My kid & I both have POTS. It took me 30 yrs, & extreme deterioration for me to get it diagnosed. Since then, I'm not getting treatment, & also have aquired 2 additional diagnosis, FAP, & Factor 5. I'm Still being told 'I don't need to see a Dr/I dont Need 'Help'', even w/ 3 genetic conditions. I'm homebound, on disability, & looking for new Dr's; which is a challenge! Since I already had POTS, I took care of my kid, & they're doing Great. Me, not so much. I'm assuming I'm going to be a GI cancer & amputee in a few yrs at the rate the Dr's are going; I think they Want chronic illness patients to just die so they don't have to be bothered doing actual Work. Thanks So Much Anthony, for your Compassion towards patients ❤️👍🏼

[@elizabethc3842]

I think the government wants chronically I'll people to die because we are a financial burden. They are taking pain medication from people who need it and have never abused it or strayed from their pain contract. The patients are doing either suicide because they just can't take the pain, buying dangerous street drugs, or just becoming bedbound which hastens death. If those on disability died off they will have much more money to blow on stupid pet projects like researching the three pecker horned toad!

[@estelleadamski308]

I injured my knee, my ortho has done 2 X-rays, both neg. He gave me a cortisone shot, felt fine for 2 days, in 48 hrs. the worst pain almost in my life. I couldn't walk for 3 wks. w/ out a walker. Every step I took was agony I went to the ER to be checked for DVT D -Dimer test was neg.. After 3 wks. I went back to my ortho, he did another x-ray, there is no swelling, warmness, redness, although pain w/McMurray's test both laterally & medially. Last yr. I hurt my other knee(different ortho) all test were neg. also, but, he ordered an MRI and I had a complex meniscus tear, bone contusion, Baker's cyst, tissue edema & loose bodies. This Dr. seems not inclined to order an MRI, he's only relying what it feels like to him on physical exam. I'm sick of it!

[@elizabethc3842]

Advocate, insurance pays for second opinions, call them and have them help you set it up.

[@RSDNancy]

I had a guided cortisone shot in my ankle last summer and it was fine for a day or two then it was the worst pain in my life (and I have CRPS). I called the surgeon and was told it was a cortisone flare and take Tylenol that's the best they could do. It lasted a couple weeks. I had an ankle replacement 5 months later same ankle and it never hurts like that cortisone flare.

[@estelleadamski308]

@@RSDNancy Thks for coming back. I had researched the cortisone flare myself, my ortho days it's unlikely I got that , no warmth or swelling.. He says he has no idea the cause. Yesterday AM I was up 20 min. doing things when I couldn't walk, limping badly, Painful. I sat down, put my leg up and one of the worst 30 hr. of my life. Sharp electric-like pains jabbing ,not letting up. My husband got me a Tramadol , 2 Tylenols. I was actually screaming w/ ea. jolt. Last yr. I had a meniscus tear ,bone contusion, & Baker's cyst in my other knee and had surgery. For some reason my ortho thinks if he can't physically feel anything w/his hands then nothing is wrong. Another ortho ordered the MRI on the other knee & did all the pre-op stuff, he no longer does surgery, so I can't go back to him. It's Mayo. So far it's been 2 1/2 mos. since injury and I am sick of it. One knee last yr. and a new knee this yr.!

[@estelleadamski308]

@@elizabethc3842 I'm in the Mayo system, they have lots of ortho docs. I injured my knee last yr. A DR who no longer does surgeries ordered the MRI and did all the work- up on me & then sent me to the surgeon Thks for the tip, I've never heard of Advocate. 2 1/2 mos. into this and my ortho says he hasn't a clue as he can't feel anything wrong, no swelling, redness, etc. but terrific, pain still. All test were neg., but, it's something wrong.

[@suseanneegoulet1033]

When the medication doesn't work as intended, or the side effects are worse than the condition being treated, discontinuation of the drug isn't "noncompliance", it's common sense! I personally have been prescribed drugs in the past that were later WITHDRAWN FROM THE MARKET that simply weren't all they were cracked up to be!!!!!!! If it doesn't work, I'm not taking it, period!!!

[@willieknows2708]

Gratitude 🤲 Your Way.

[@ellenbruckermarshall4179]

As a female, autism spectrum, super-sensitive with C-PTSD, they always went straight for the osych and anxiety diagnosis. Despite my tick bite rash, joint pain, POTS, and neurological deterioration. When finally I talked my GP, an orthopedic doctor into signing for the Lyme test which I paid for out of pocket, he yelled at me because the results showed bands which he did not understand. Treatment by a competent naturopath began to help, but GP put attention-seeking & bipolar in my chart.

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

Agree we need more like Dr. K who are honest as that is true caring for life understanding & empathy for life ❤

[@cariley667]

Your Sessions are so incredibly Educational ! Wish more MD’s could interact more like yourself. U are a real Blessing for the Medical Community. I tell people about your postings often. ~Chanda in TX

[@wsue1038]

Amen!

[@ninner196]

Supratentorium is a big word for saying it’s just all in someone’s head time 5:25 into video. I have heard these terms for years and they are demeaning to patients. I worked as a nurse specializing in trauma and I also taught A & P at a higher level and loved to help others and introduce nurses and interns to the world of trauma, so it is actually even more demeaning to talk about a pt, in front of or around using language that they don’t understand. I have pulled some fast ones being gaslighted too especially since I do speak Latin and English isn’t my first language. But at the same time I too have really terrible health and I just smile when someone corrects my Latin. My doctors that have treated me for years completely understand the walls we confront and even though I am probably the worst one in anesthesia preop I try to make sure that I actually know the plan and ask because when I don’t I am given what I am allergic to or what sends me into tds and not to be able to sit or sleep for at least a week, not exaggerating. I guess what is really sad is that no matter how many laws that can be made what is lacking is empathy and love for our neighbor and sadly these were and are supposed to be the reasons why the medical profession should appeal and not to our craniums 😊btw I am having major surgery this coming month and I have anxiety, EDS, PSA, chronic fatigue etc and I once again will be accused by someone that will open there big mouth and I will have to have both of my DPOA’s for health there. I try to make everyone’s life easier it backfires and so I have my DNR filled out and so many have no clue that quality of life has to count, it just does. Thank you for your input because there has to be communication and kindness. Hope that you are well Dr K!😊

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

We need more people like you in the Health Industry ❤ in fact, every Industry outside.

[@ninner196]

@@jangriffin-fi1yx that was very kind of you, even though I am very disabled I volunteered what I could do through Covid but since the American Disability Act is in writing, there is no place for experienced, disabled nurses in the work place. Although there is a desperate need, what is ignored is as clear as water. I know so many disabled medical professionals that would love to work even a day a week, it all adds up. What a load it would take off of so many , also what an attitude adjustment it might bring to those whom despise seeing another nurse in a wheelchair. I can’t even begin to describe the errors in nursing judgement and how to handle a physician who blatantly berates pts and staff other than someone has to calmly take charge and unfortunately it happens too much. I could go in to some really really bad scenarios that happened and I actually am glad that I was there because I blew the whistle on a very large hospital ‘s staff from Director to trauma surgeon and several doctors that were up to no good. Nobody is perfect but behaving obscenely and threatening staff physically and sexually is something I will never tolerate. In a world where we need help it sickens me to find the scum but I am never afraid to call it and it is equally as important that any patient ( pt) should love themselves enough to always have an advocate that is assertive and respectful and I can’t emphasize that enough. Please stay with your loved ones in the hospital, do not let them be alone and don’t take a back seat if there is some miscommunication.

[@elizabethc3842]

You're so right! Empathy has become a dirty word. I got fired from a rheumatology office because I would listen to the patient and talk with them while I did their xrays ans dexa scans. I would chart what was said to me so the doctor could address their concerns. When I was asked to report to the Dr I knew they were firing me because the other staff hated that patients asked if I could room them and help them. (The doctor was just as bad). I had enough of them anyway (I used their fax machine to send out resumes for a new job during work hours) because several of their patiens committed suicide and I told the people investigating that I thought that the way they treated patients in that office contributed to the high suicide rate. I still stand by the fact .

[@dougpowers1965]

OMG, almost the same exact thing happened to me. I didn't get labeled as non-compliant though. I was on brand Lipitor for years and then it ended up on the "non-formulary" list at my insurance company. I had to try the generic for Lipitor, Atorvastatin and 2 other brands, Crestor being one of them before they would approve paying for the brand Lipitor again. One generic caused Rhabdo of the upper arms and shoulders, Crestor caused Rhabdo in my calfs, so weird. It took me months of specific PT to get the correct muscles built back up without over exercising the others that were unaffected. So insurance finally approved me to go back on the Lipitor as it's the only statin that works for me. Now, YEARS later, it's free under my insurance, not even a copay. Go figure. Sorry I wrote a book here.

[@donnagreyerbiehl7043]

I had a pulmonary doctor for 1 year. She never ever once asked how I was doing or how was I feeling, even after being hospitalized with double pneumonia. She blamed everything, and I do mean everything on being obese. I asked her so no skinny people ever have lung disease & trouble breathing? She got really angry when I asked her that. After dealing with her for 1 years, I decided I had had enough of being treated so poorly by her. My last visit with her I confronted her & then she kept saying she wasn’t prejudiced against fat people. I told her she very much was prejudiced against fat people. Then she said she had friends who were overweight. Told her I don’t care what you say because how you treat your patients who are overweight is far more telling. Told her I was done with her nonsense & wouldn’t be seeing her again. She was in tears & I was in tears after that visit. 2 weeks later, she had her clerk call me to schedule my next appointment. I told the poor clerk that I had told the doctor I wouldn’t see her ever again & that she had been told not to call me again. Thankfully, I found a new pulmonary doctor who actually listened to me & worked with me to get my lung disease much better controlled. I continue to follow with him & it’s been about 14-15 years now! No one should be treated poorly or blamed for things that aren’t their fault. All of my doctors know that I’m going to say what’s on my mind whether they like it or not, but most of them have said they appreciate that because they always know where I stand on things. God bless you Dr. K

[@cosmoplakat9549]

I once went to the ER bc I was very sick, coughing, felt weak and hot, and had trouble breathing, and urgent care was closed. The doc screamed at me, asking why did I go to ER with "just a cold," and they booted me out without even listening to my lungs or doing any exam at all. I went home crying and was extremely sick all night. Next day I went to urgent care. That doc (a PA) listened to my lungs did an x-ray, and I was diagnosed with pneumonia and given a script for an antibiotic and codeine cough syrup.

[@wsue1038]

What a shame you were treated that way

[@leilap2495]

Yes, I was mislabeled as bipolar then borderline. These two diagnoses do not lead to help for someone like me. I had to go outside of my HMO, pay $2500 for neuropsychiatric private pay testing (that is a deal compared to the going rate now). I also had GeneSight testing done because I was not responding as a patient typically would to many medications. I was very motivated, because I noticed I was being treated differently by healthcare providers, then got a release of my records. In the records, at the top of my problem list was borderline! I was shocked to see what should be a confidential record right there on top. The sad thing is that I was misled to believe I was borderline snd “splitting” with my husband when he was unkind to me. In hindsight, I see they were blaming me for having an emotionally abusive spouse, that if I could have a different perspective, it would be less abusive. Um, no! I presented my test results to my HMO to correct my medical record. It took months and multiple calls and messages to finally correct my chart.

[@elizabethc3842]

I loved when it was all paper. When I switched doctors I hand carried records, when I read them and doctors said unkind things because they didn't figure out what was wrong with me I threw those pages out. I was made to take those are you crazy tests by several doctors. When someone finally figured out what is wrong with me I went back and told every one of those jerks that they were wrong and just couldn't get past their own superiority to find the real problem. It's easier to start with a new doctor when they don't have a preconceived opinion of you. Paper records hid all of that and gave me a clean mental slate before a visit.

[@annakarenina3188]

Thank you so much Doctor. It really helps to hear things from someone on the other side of the desk. Youve helped so much through my cancer diagnosis and treatment: putting my foot down that i knew there was something else wrong. It turned out i was de novo stage 4 cancer, and it had been missed on earlier scans as i wasn't advocating strongly enough..... The pain was brushed off as "this pain is too old for it to be significant" -- its pain i've had for a few years, but in the precise spots the biopsies found the metastases. Thank you..... If i hadn't seen your videos, i'd have gone through more than one round of chemo, which does zero for this cancer (albeit, it did make the bone mets sites burn then feel better for a few days). It's thanks, in part, to your video/s, i'm now of the right treatment, and getting radiotherapy for my spine. Thank you for this.

[@meredithcook9586]

You just opened my eyes to the generic atorvastatin n leg pain

[@RSDNancy]

My fiancee can't tolerate it either because of the severe leg pain.

[@meredithcook9586]

@@RSDNancy i have to ask cardiologist about it switched me to thst because of atherosclerosis

[@RSDNancy]

@@meredithcook9586 my fiancee has had 4 heart attacks. Last one was the widow maker.

[@annakarenina3188]

Struggled for years with doctors who wouldn't believe the levels of fatigue and my fainting -- told anxiety..... I used a HR monitor on my phone, documenting what actions I was doing when: and finally that anecdata I got, I was diagnosed with sinus tachycardia (and put on bisoprolol -- it changed my life).

[@elizabethc3842]

I think the new watches are going to help people.

[@marcfavell]

Another huge problem in the medical industry is being a narcissistic and having a very large ego that gets in a way of good care .... That's when the doctors not too busy gas lighting their patients! Good video, keep up to good videos 🍀🇨🇦

[@sammygalasso549]

My pc couldn't find anything wrong with my blood tests and told me the reason why i felt so crummy was because i had to be depressed and put me on prozac...8 months later i was diagnosed with stage 2 her2pos breast cancer..one of the mos aggressive sub types

[@CarolReidCA]

I'm so sorry. I hope it gets resolved soon.

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

❤ 🙏 wishing you well.

[@elizabethc3842]

Saying prayers for you.

[@delmar418]

Hey Kaveh! Thank you so much for your videos, especially about anesthesia fear. I'm 61, I recently had my first surgery EVER. I've been in and out of OR's, I was a medical laser technician. I'd come in mid procedure and I'd see the patient on the table, sometimes "bucking." If you don't know what that is, someone here will explain. I would say to myself, "glad that's not me." I had a morbid fear of general. They wouldn't allow me to meet the surgeon who would operate on me. My anxiety propelled a paranoia that the CIA was planting someone to put me out for good. So I created a tolerable perspective to get me through and went all Jedi knight, I Zen- mastered it through. The general was seamless, the surgery happened literally in the blink of an eye. I never felt "going out" I just felt the shake of the gurney as they were wheeling me to recovery. Awakened I asked if they did the surgery and affirmed it was successful. I imagine how alien abductions might resemble the affect, loss of time, no memory of what happened, sans the alien and the interstellar conveyance! You helped me through.

[@donnasheren6800]

Blame my doctor came out and told me it was my fault. Turns out it was his fault.

[@arbonneladyTN]

I just had some vein surgery last week.., I followed the pre-op directions to a T. The office called in 4 RXs for me to pick up. My directions said NOTHING about a cream I picked up.. when surgery was beginning I felt the first shots… he says to me I shouldn’t feel it IF I used the cream!!!! I said nothing was said about the cream in the directions …and in FACT the directions said to take a shower and do NOT apply any creams & lotions!!! He seemed ticked at me🤷‍♀️

[@katherine-joygunning7696]

Been intimidated and browbeaten by so many doctors I’ve said screw ‘em and have gone holistic and changed my diet some and have sought out chiropractors. I’ve found two and the first one saved my life (I was three millimeters from being internally decapitated due to being manhandled by an ex husband (Thank you Dr. Mike). Wish someone had bothered to notice my head was on at a 45-degree angle sooner. I wouldn’t have manifested some of the problems I had for as long as I did if somebody had noticed who had the expertise to do something about it.

[@juliekelderman4041]

I've heard of it.

[@elizabethc3842]

That's unkind. Oh, that cream doesn't do crap it still hurts.

[@brendahepler6756]

This is why we dont trust Drs and most patience dont anymore and people have had nurses lie and cause trouble for their patience in their office. I keep my cool and refuse to get angry just go around these kinds of people.i wont let them upset me their not worth it, when its happen to me and others.

[@changingme1412]

Well, after suffering ME/CFS during 35 years... I have heard it all. I got no help until the last year. I got referred to a specialist clinic at that time. The waiting time was more than two years. But then I finally solved my ME/CFS. I tried one more thing... after 35 years of trying thing after thing, I finally have a life.

[@pobrien864]

Age related - that cop out is my pet peeve. I have high blood pressure that was first diagnosed back in 2009, but never had an explanation for why it came on other than advancing age - like we should expect to get these chronic conditions because they are an integral part of the aging process. We now know that adult onset diabetes is not due to age since pre teens are coming down with it and AMD did not exist 120 years ago.

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

Hello just wondering if you have OSA (Ostructive Sleep Disorder) this can cause I believe low/high blood pressure. Maybe if want could ask for Sleep Study if you've been told stop breathing in sleep or have lack quality of life. Maybe go to your local chemist if feel need in W.A. here you can arrange to take home small machine (CPAP) from chemist use for Sat week take machine back then they simply download inform you if have or not. Failing that a GP can just give Epsworth Sleepiness Scale Test in surgery then if need a Polysomnegraph Test stay overnight in Sleep Unit in Hosp. I think best to get to crux of the matter instead of just taking blood pressure tabs as mask cause more probs. Hope get sorted wishing you well.

[@waitaminute2015]

If the Dr recommends you change your diet drastically to vegan and walk a half hour a day, would you do it? In the meantime more tests could be done, but going vegan can lower BP in days.

[@pobrien864]

@@waitaminute2015 I already walk my dogs a half hour or more each day and swim 2000 yard workouts 3 times a week. As for the vegan diet you would have to have some irrefutable evidence that it works for me to even try it on a trial basis. When I was first diagnosed I had just finished 6 months of intense training for my first triathlon…

[@elizabethc3842]

If you have diabetes and high blood pressure you need to have your kidneys checked. Kidney disease or damage causes high blood pressure. I'm not saying that is wrong with you I'm just saying it's something you would explore.

[@pobrien864]

@@elizabethc3842 technically I have reversed my type 2 diabetes and am hoping with additional weight loss to do the same with the hypertension. Kidneys are fine I have at least annual checkups and blood tests for that and liver are fine.

[@vicki3671]

I was ignored and disbelieved by doctors about neck pain that went untreated to the point I've lost some of the use of my right arm

[@kristinashepherd3003]

I once had a nurse practitioner tell me to walk more when I complained of severe fatigue. She said I was depressed. Told her no it was physically. Come to find out I had Breast Cancer , had to go to a real doctor.

[@moniquekelly1725]

It is wonderful to see a Dr like yourself educate patients on potential pitfalls when things are not being resolved on a level that requires a review of the situation and attiitudes. Well done. Thank you all of your insightful and educated videos based on your experience and knowledge in the medical field. MK Australia

[@cherylkat2342]

I was in hospital 3 x with pain in stomach colon they did test .. then in 2 weeks the colon blew a hole.. almost died…

[@elizabethc3842]

I bet you had an AVM right? I have been there and I'm on blood thinners, blood was pouring out of me, my body just kept making me push like I was having a bowel movement. It was so hot and I could feel my life running off the table and onto the floor with my blood. The nurse who was taking care of me saved my life. The doctor was very young and inexperienced, he panicked, but the nurse grabbed him, said you are ordering ffp (oh, fresh frozen plasma) and you will have people squeezing it in... There were three nurses squeezing bags of ffp into the two veins in my groin and the port in my chest(I have no veins that will hold an iv they just blow so they have to go into arteries but my port in my chest is a true life saving device)... it saved my life but by the time the helicopter landed at the trauma center 100 miles by air I was a giant hive. Because I have autoimmune problems I have built an allergy to my own blood type and when I need blood they have to factor it. I hope they can always do that because every transfusion brings more antibodies. I loved the nurse that saved me, my husband and I brought him a special gift after I got out of hospital 38 days later.

[@kaitlinbeste]

I've been getting judged for being "put together" when I'm in pain since I was 20 and me trying to fight judgment ever since then. It because they will care when I look old or look decrepit and 12 years later I can see things breaking down and I look into the future like dang how can I advocate? It's only hurting myself to not complain and look tough but I'm not a guy... they don't understand i feel weak

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

Keep strong tell truth like you do you will find ways. Hope you find someone from Health Council maybe who can help assist "advocate" for your rights ❤

[@damonmelendez856]

What do you mean by being judged for being ‘put together’? I know for a fact they judge you the worse you look. If you’re an older man in the hospital & haven’t shaved in days, they will def think less of you.

[@waitaminute2015]

If you are disheveled they'll think you're a drug seeker or have other issues. Being put together I don't think works against you unless you are in high heels and a heavy handbag which you would avoid if you have pain. ?

[@davkmv]

I have started taking someone with me to appointments after watching your gaslighting video. I have fibromyalgia/CFS. It always gets blamed when doctors can't figure out the answer to a new problem. Yes, they will check blood tests and even do other tests, but if nothing shows up, it must be fibro (even if I take logs, it doesn't always help). The result is that unless something is bothering me to the point that I can't cope with it, I don't bother with a doctor.

[@ConnyGermangirl]

Thanks for the advice, hugs from Texas.

[@MedicalSecrets]

I hope you learned something new to advocate for your health!

[@athenakelly6030]

I am a nurse, I’ve seen it for years, however, I will always advocate for my patients. It was always the same doctors doing it.

[@MedicalSecrets]

That's so unfortunate, that a small number of offenders can cause so much pain

[@judyferguson3185]

Statins do the same thing to me and I tried all brands/manufacturers before I just said enough. I also have fibromyalgia which magnifies ANY pain almost unbearable. At least my cardiologist didn’t blame me, she worked with me to find something that would work. I am a retired RN and have seen this happen behind the scenes. It makes me hyper alert any time dealing with a doctor on a personal level, I’m afraid they won’t believe me.

[@deborahegley477]

Waited till early hours in England to watch you (2.am) I missed the first live half hour, so pissed off lol love watching your videos. We would not get truth videos like this in England 😊

[@michelemcguire8995]

Im soon to be 65,and ive always told the dr what makes me tick and what works.

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

You have to as don't be a guinea pig. You know what works & what doesn't have to keep speaking up. Get them to note in your records what you just told them ❤

[@deborahegley477]

Half of the drs are straight out of college/ university, one Dr who I saw was barely out of nappies 😅

[@chiarac3833]

Even the best docs were straight out of school once... the rising stars are easy to spot if you're fortunate enough to encounter one.

[@elizabethc3842]

😂 did you tell them that, maybe you would have made their day?

[@JulieTobin-Ruszczyk]

And some are brilliant

[@meredithcook9586]

Ive found numerous times younger drs tend to discount what patient says

[@cherylmcnutt9905]

In high school and college, I had a part-time job working for four doctors. The older partners were patient and approachable. The two younger doctors were pompous and had no patience with their patients or staff. They didn’t like eye contact and didn’t like being bothered.

[@iSheree]

I had the opposite problem. It was older doctors that did this. Meanwhile my cancer was spreading, my autoimmune disease was getting worse, etc. My health declined so much I went on a desperate doctor search. Found an amazing young doctor and the rest is history. Unfortunately my cancer is incurable and I am severely disabled now.

[@leahparker9033]

All the good doctors are on KZbin.

[@jeanninemedart3720]

I just read an article on Mrdscape today on all of this about PVCs, ST, and Afib. Very interesting.

[@MedicalSecrets]

Is it consistent with what we talked about?

[@jeanninemedart3720]

@@MedicalSecrets yes, I felt like it was exactly what I read! It had been a podcast with several docs who all said the complaints need to be investigated.

[@monicastraub3372]

I had a cosmetic surgery over a year ago. I'm not as thrilled with the results as I hoped. I ended up with a divot in both knees. I've been honest about my disatification with him. He tried to correct 1 of my knees because it is more noticeable in my left knee. It worked a tiny bit. I still don't love it, but nothing I can really do. It could look worse. I overheard a receptionist talking to a nurse saying that I was a problem. I guess they write it in your chart notes! I followed all post-op instructions and did everything I was told! I never got an apology. I do think complications happen to all doctors. They're human like the rest of us. I understand that it could be somewhat of just how my body decided to heal from it, but I wasn't the one who cut me and stuck myself with a cannula completely out on a table! I know doctors try and cover things up because they're afraid of malpractice lawsuits. I wouldn't sew unless it was a huge disaster!! It's small, but bothers me because I was trying to do something for myself to improve how I feel about my legs. Instead, he gave me something else to be self-conscious about! I don't completely hate the surgery as a whole, but when you shell out thousands of $$$$. On elective surgery! You want what you paid for! I do hope he feels bad about what happened even if he can't express it to me. I still don't dislike him. at least he tried something to fix it. He said he was worried to try to do more because at least it looks a bit more even to my right knee. He said he was worried it would end up looking worse if he did more. At least he was honest about that. I just won't ever let him cut me again.

[@lezup]

Thank you for mentioning POTS.

[@kathybradshaw9235]

I can't take statins. it was torturing every single night. Medicaid insisted that i had to have them. it took me several years to finally convince them to finally put me on something else. I still have them occasionally but not every night all night long. I feel like when I have them my legs will break or my muscles and tendons will tear. Iit feels like my ankles will twist off.

[@cmotherofpirl]

Medicals cannot force you to take a drug.

[@CarolReidCA]

Have you asked your cardiologist about Repatha? I had a runny nose right after the 1st injection, and flu-like symptoms for about a day, then I felt better. 2nd dose gave me pain the next day that was severe, then it got better. It's rough for me, but some people don't have an issue with PCSK9 inhibitors. I don't know if it's appropriate for you, but I would suggest talking to your doctor about them.

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

Correct you poor thing. Not fair have to be so careful if pain in legs from taking statins they can I have read in cases be responsible for ripping tendons from legs.

[@elizabethc3842]

That is a common list of an allergic reaction to them. My nephew has those exact symptoms and the doctor told him you can actually get torn tendons and muscles if that happens. Don't take them, look for a different solution

[@cmotherofpirl]

@@elizabethc3842 statins are not a solution to anything.

[@yorkiemom7858]

Dr K, you should be training other doctors and it should be Required! I am a crohns patient who has lost a colon and many feet of small intestine use of steroids has of course caused osteoporosis requiring 3 spinal surgeries, so I have a whole lot of experience with physicians. Trust me when I say, you dir are a rare bird indeed! We are often identified inappropriately as drug seeking patients but I assure you I am not. This should be an unacceptable option for physicians whom are typically just incompetent IMO. I find you very refreshing in a pool of many who are just not happy in their job and writing us off. Thank you so very much for your compassionate care!

[@richfast4wrd]

Yes, please do a whole show on recalled generic medication side effects because the insurance companies act like I have to get the cheapest medication, but if these other countries are messing up on the quantity, I need to know this so this way I can instruct my doctor accurately why regular medicine should be used over the cheaper one and so the insurance company cannot question my doctors authority when ordering the correct medication and the circumstances surrounding this reason

[@sdd123]

I have lupus and have MANY drs appt. ITT took 10 years of chronic sickness I mean every type of illness you can imagine from pneumonia to sinus infections to UTIs Pio gangrenosum I mean the list is endless and I want you to know that no one believed me for over 10 years until I finally took myself to a rheumatologist after reading an article about Lupus. When we are on pain and feeling horrific, nobody needs to be told that it’s in their head.

[@dc9926]

I am legit mentally ill. When I go to the hospital I am dismissed because of that. Apparently there is no way I could possibly have a physical ailment. It can be very hard to get care.

[@stephanieward7487]

I've had a UTI off and on for years. Right now i've had 3 rounds of antibiotics since March 1st. I have also had a kidney cyst, in the beginning they said it was a simple cyst, that has continued to grow since 10/2020. Now they are not labeling it as a simple cyst. My platelets have been low since 10/2020 also. Every blood test I have my platelets are low. I also suffer from chronic pain and acute chronic pancreatitis. I only tell you this to say that my doctor has refused to do any further tests to find out what is going on. My doctor speaks down to me all the time. I am seeing him tomorrow and if i'm not satisfied I will be looking for a new doctor. He rushes thru everything and walks out the door. I am so fed up. I just had MRI's of my abdomen, brain, chest and neck and shoulders. One of the findings is cirrhosis of the liver among other things. My pain management doctor has took over and referred me to a urologist and after that if no answer he will refer me to a nephrologist. I am planning on speaking up tomorrow. Like you said I know my body. Thank you for your videos. They really help me.

[@Bfnnature]

I have done to an er with neck issues.before I had the chance to say a single word the doctor walked in and said "we aren't handing out pain killers today." I told him good because I am not here for pain killers then his entire mood changed. I get tired of doctors assuming everyone just wants pain meds to abuse.

[@aliceduggins3328]

My daughter had her once a year breast check up and she discharge on her right breast in 2009 and they said she was fine. But no she was not, she fainted, she had 180 heart rate, she lost 67 pounds unexplainable weight loss. She goes to a client in 2011 and they tell her but you look fine. So finally in 2012 they tell her she has breast cancer in the right breast where she was discharging. The trauma of the health problems she suffered, waiting for someone not to ignore her.

[@Racingirl911]

You are a blessed angel for sharing this inside information! We, as patients need to hear this type of information. Thank you!

[@MedicalSecrets]

I hope you learned something new to better advocate for your health!

[@Racingirl911]

@@MedicalSecrets Oh, I learn a whole lot of things from you! 👍🏼👍🏼😊

[@leecarlson9713]

I was told by a dr at Mayo Clinic that whatever I had, it was all in my head! This after 10 days of tests, procedures, exams, etc. it wasn’t in my head-an allergist in Little Rock, AR diagnosed me with Epstein-Barr Virus. Just knowing there was a name for my problem was a huge relief. (I did not pay the patient portion of the bill at Mayo. That doctor was so sure I was a noncompliant patient, that he gaslighted me, spoke down to me, and managed to make me feel helpless and furious. I have also been accused of having Munchausen, because I see a number of doctors. Although, I do have to say, I burst out laughing at the Munchausen statement, because I have a lot of health issues, but very few people know just how many issues I contend with daily. So that was a shot in the dark, what was aimed to hurt me, and failed miserably. I also had a nephrologist scream at me that I was not doing what he had ordered me to do, because I was not getting any results, and he accused me of lying. He was a doctor from another country, and evidently expected the identical results from each patient. My PCP at the time had told the nephrologist that “Her body has never read the textbooks,” because I would frequently have different results from a treatment. Had another doctor tell me, with a big smile, that I was “one of THOSE patients,” when I warned her I may not have the normal results.

[@jillgaumet8416]

The worst is the post C-19 vax injured getting told, "You're just imagining your GBS"

[@kv6826]

S!ck to high heaven of being told that my actual life experiences: the symptoms that I have are “in my head”. • Seizures, loss of speech, loss of ability to walk with loss of feelings in lower extremities, loss of short term memory…. All after seizure activity: Seriously even after seizure has been witnessed. It makes no sense how an individual will “make it up”. It’s just disgusting. I’ve lost faith in the medical community. • I want to work. I can’t stand to sit doing nothing. I’ve always been busy & hard working. Yet apparently it’s “all in my head”

[@pitterehrhart]

I am a retired ER Nurse and rarely tell anyone of my Fibromyalgia diagnosis because of the "stigma" of medical professionals that patients with "Fibro are all drug seeking". I personally do not use opioids due to having siblings that are opioid addicted.

[@auroraaustralis5470]

💓 thank you Dr Keveh 💯

[@patriciaseldin4585]

Took my Metropol for 8yrs religiously. My BP was low and kept getting lower. My Cardiologist wouldn't listen to my pleas as I was falling. Until I broke my ankle, 8wks later in PT my coccyx, and then fell in his office. 108/59 he listened.

[@MedicalSecrets]

I'm so sorry to hear about that. What did they say??

[@andreahunter7281]

I was born with a very visible congenital jaw deformity that I received full NHS (United Kingdom) funding to surgically repair. After a 7 year (!) wait for treatment I questioned when my surgery would take place. In response, the surgeon wrote to my GP (local doctor) suggesting I had "Body Dismorphia" & should see a mental health professional. My doctor put him straight & he eventually performed my surgery (which didn't exactly go as planned & I needed a revision), but it was very hard for me to trust him after that!!!

[@Ctkare4k9]

Now this was way back in the late 1960’s,but my gynecologist,who was a much loved doctor,told me (at age 16) I most likely had menstrual cramps because I had seen my mother having them! 😡

[@MedicalSecrets]

oh my goodness!

[@elizabethc3842]

What kind of a bull poop thing was that to say? I have to know, was the doctor a male?

[@Ctkare4k9]

@@elizabethc3842 yes,he was. My next gynecologist was a woman who was absolutely wonderful!

[@meredithcook9586]

Is there such s thing as opiod resistance? I was given dilaudid n fentanyl together for 4 rounds witb no pain relief. Loopy but no pain relief

[@janetf9076]

My physician made me aware of the fact that pain meds might not always be as effective since I am a redhead. I’ve been reading every thing I can about this and it seems to be true. It’s good to know.

[@KxNOxUTA]

If you have hypermobility or EDS, then you also can experience that anesthesia is wonky, especially the local ones. The connective tissue struggles seem to interfere with them. It's yet to be researched. I understand it's still anecdotal experience by doctors specialising on EDS patients?

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

​@@janetf9076Yes I have heard read been told this is true about redheads.

[@lorikendrick5076]

I think there must be opiod resistance. I am having spinal pain and nothing is reaching it. I've had many surgeries and many pain relievers. I think my body just doesn't react the same to them. It's very frustrating.

[@elizabethc3842]

​@@janetf9076yes, that is true it's the same for anesthesia, hopefully if you ever need it they know because redheads are the number one patients that have bad anesthesia experiences, sometimes they are even awake but paralyzed so makes use you voice your concerns and maybe bring some documentation with you incase they think k yourekidding.

[@kimberlieverschoor3814]

I was told last week that my diagnosis of Dysautonomia, MCAS and EDS are not real but are my way of dealing with stress. I don’t have a stressful life! It took 25 years to get a real diagnosis because doctors just called it depression. Once I got a real diagnosis and proper medical treatment, I can now function like a semi normal person!

[@elizabethc3842]

Then don't listen to them you know better.

[@gregh4284]

You're very helpful, Dr.

[@ElainesAutoimmuneAdventure]

Thank you for this video! This is such valuable information for patients especially those with chronic illness or chronic pain. I’m so appreciative of what you share here.

[@MedicalSecrets]

You are so welcome. I hope you can share this message with others!

[@sharontaylor3156]

I had a full body rejection to a bladder tack appliance that caused me to be in a wheelchair for a little over a year. I had to learn to use my muscles again and to walk I was in severe pain, had double vision was diagnosed with the brainstem stroke by an ER doctor, but they couldn’t find it. Then I was told it was all in my head. Two weeks after I had the device removed I started to feel the tips of my toes. I will never forget being told it was all in my head. I even have a video of how I started to learn to walk again. I can now walk without a walker or a wheelchair.but I have developed multiple auto immune diseases because there’s still a little bit left in me. I was so frustrated when they told me it was all in my head! Turned out I had an allergic reaction to this, and apparently other people did too.

[@marycerovski1911]

Thanks!

[@lesakey2445]

I had my radius lengthened and plated. About 4 weeks in I began having excruciating pain under my cast. At 5 weeks I went in and the removed my cast and had an xray. It showed my plate had broken and the radius broke again. The first thing the PA asked is “what did you do?” I said “nothing”. Again he asked if I’d hit my cast on a wall. Really??? My surgeon came in and it was obvious he was angry. He sent me home in a splint for 10 days as is until repairing it. When I got home I realized they’d not called in anything for pain. 10 days-broken wrist- open splint -nothing for pain? It felt more punitive than an oversight. When the notes for that visit showed up on mychart it clearly stated, “SHE broke the plate” not “the hardware failed” as you’d expect. Please tell me is there any logical way a 62yo woman can break a steel plate through a cast and not make so much as a mark on the cast? Talk about the blame game…

[@SandieJones]

I could tell you some stories of how I was treated by doctors who assumed I was either over exaggerating myself or literally making it up. Because of those ex-doctors I was diagnosed so late that I became completely disabled before I received a diagnosis. Those ex-doctors caused me to not only get sicker faster, become disabled; they were the reason I was permanently denied SSDI. I am now out of a bad marriage-caused by my illness and lack of income-but have to rely on my kids to get my bills paid. I have no faith in doctors anymore.

[@sharontaylor3156]

I also ended up doing physical therapy for a year and a half, and I still have to do it often on for the rest of my life. All of this over a bladder tact and doctors saying I can’t be allergic…even after 6 surgeries!

[@dianewristen]

THANK YOU

[@gailtrotman5256]

When it comes to surgery (both hips done in 2019 and May 14th 2 weeks ago) I meticulously follow ALL the instructions in the pre-surgery packet - and my experiences and results have been excellent. My relationship with my Family doctor is fraught with disagreements. My blood pressure and sugar is an ongoing disagreement. At her office, BP is high160/88 but at home and after surgery, perfect. Around 117/76 -Optimal - heartrate in the 70's. All pre-surgery tests were normal. After surgery I asked them if they gave me anything to keep BP lower and they said No, didn't need to. What's going on? I'm so gad I refused the BP medication and watch sugar intake. I will continue to eat well, lots of veggies and get back to exercise and walking soon with my bright new titanium hip #2! 🤗

[@caroladams7249]

Yes, have heard of it!

[@debmikols814]

Premature ventricular contractions ❤❤❤ 14:51

[@psychedelicpython]

I had a primary doctor for about 17 years. I’m not sure why I kept him for my doctor for so long. I didn’t know why I was having chest pain and heart palpitations, and my pulse was 110, sometimes going up to 130 and faster. I had really bad migraines and pressure headaches. My muscles hurt really bad, and then it felt like my bones hurt. I started having memory problems in my mid 40s. My white blood cell count got up to 35,000 and stayed there for over 3 months before slowly coming down, and this told me I had an infection going on. My doctor didn’t do anything but put me on different prescription medicines. Recently my arms, hands, and fingers have become numb, my headaches are unbearable now and happen almost single day, my memory is worse, etc.. Not one doctor has ever checked me for Lyme disease. In 1979 over a two week period of time about 41 ticks were removed from my body when I went to Indiana. A doctor I saw a week ago ignored what I said to him about the numb arms and severe headaches, along with other things. I’m in so much pain now and things have gotten so much worse over the years. It feels like doctors are ignoring me when I tell them what is going on.

[@elizabethc3842]

Please go find another doctor, when you see them before they even have your medical records ask them to test you for lyme disease, tell them about the ticks and that because of how bad it is you would feel better having a definitive result to relieve the stress of that. If thrpey blow you off find another doctor. If you live in the USA you can also go to Sonora Quest lab and order your own test, you just have to pay for it. My husband's last labs were about $175 but he had a full panel of tests just one shouldn't be as high. It would be worth the peace of mind.

[@elizabethc3842]

I Lupus Chrones disease, RA, Addison's, antiphospholipid syndrome, in other words I'm an auto immune mess, but I can't tell you how mean doctors have been to me. I have taken that are you crazy test so many times. When the doctor gets to that point, it's time to find someone who wants to help you. I went through some horrible care and accusations before I was properly diagnosed. I had to nearly die from a massive blood clot that migrated to my lungs, heart and brain before anyone said maybe there is something wrong with me. I am always terrified before I see a new doctor. My disease has progressed to stage 3 kidney disease and chronic pancreatitis which is so painoful but because of the "War on Drugs" they are taking away the pain medications that help me to have some quality of life for what life I have left.

[@katerinachelmis568]

It took me 22 years of daily migraines to finally get a doctor to finally give me any kind of preventative medication. They started when I was 5 and as a kid doctors told my mother I was faking it, then that I had anxiety and then that it was normal for puberty to have that many headaches. Then as an adult treated like I was trying to get painkillers to abuse or told it’s normal for women or once again that I have anxiety. Then after I got fed up trying to get real help from a doctor I started taking marijuana illegally to treat the migraines. Which shortened them but didn’t prevent them and I continued to suffer every day. It was only until I was 27 and I sad down with a neurologist and said “look I’m suffering every day, no one has taken me seriously for 22 years, I don’t want to smoke weed for this but I literally have never even been given the opportunity to try prevention because idfk. I understand people try to get drugs they can abuse, I just want to prevent the migraines in the first place. I’m begging you please”