Self-care that works for your season

Self-care in motherhood is a hot topic these days, but the advice can be difficult to navigate when it does not feel practical for your season of life. Or perhaps you are feeling guilt about establishing self-care routines for yourself. Elizabeth helps moms overcome anger and overwhelm and embrace peace and wellness in their homes. If you are in a season of motherhood that has you feeling burned out or easily angered, this episode offers practical strategies for taking care of yourself while still prioritizing your role as a mother. Join us for this uplifting conversation!
In this episode, we cover:
- What is burnout and why does it lead to anger?
- The starting steps for climbing out of the hole of burnout
- Taking your self-care to the next step beyond basic needs
- Changing your mindset about what is life-giving and realistic in your season
- Choosing to adapt when things don’t go as planned
- How to ask for help when you are feeling burned out
- First steps you can take today if you are stressed or overwhelmed
- Strategies for finding pockets of time for self-care without using screens
- The benefits of giving your kids quiet, independent time in the afternoons
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ABOUT ELIZABETH
Elizabeth is an anger management coach for Christian moms. She is the host of Emotionally Healthy Legacy podcast and a mom of four. Elizabeth is super passionate about mental health and emotional wellness in motherhood. She supports stressed Christian moms in overcoming anger and embracing emotional stability, empowering them to leave an emotionally healthy legacy for their children's lives.
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[@leahwilliams4008]

Elizabeth is my coach!! Her program is wonderful!! She really helps you work through gaining positive strategies to be the mother God is calling you to be. I struggle with anger in my mothering and she helped me gain skills to have peace of mind!

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Thank you for sharing with us!

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

Thank you so much Leah!

[@rebekah517]

Such a timely episode. I'm in that season of living in town, no fence, little kids, no family or friends near by. And I also find myself falling into the self pity trap of "oh poor me, my expectations werent met." Really enjoyed listening and found this so relatable and helpful. Thank you. ❤

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

I'm glad you were blessed by this episode!

[@elle1253]

This episode was life giving! I struggle with the guilt of being away from my kids for any amount of time. Growing up my mom always told me that moms don’t need breaks (we went to public school)😂😂😂 as a homeschooler I can confidently say that I do need a break once in awhile! I love to walk around in my garden while my kids play in their jungle gym, just a little bit, every now and then is refreshing!

[@elizabethandreyevskiy3407]

So glad you were blessed by this episode! ❤️

[@gloriack7976]

Unfortunately I was raised with the same mindset and instead of feeling guilty I feel angry when I need a break. Then I feel angry that I'm angry. Or annoyed, really. Gardening and building a life with my kids that is visually rewarding for those kiddos and me really was a game changer. Letting them play while I do the hard stuff in the garden is also therapeutic because digging in that dirt and expending that energy really does help in moments when you are just over the top frustrated.

[@snicole6731]

Love this. My life-giving things are getting my house cleaned and organized so the space around me doesn’t add to the mental overload, and going thrifting without the kids 💛

[@rosiehelminiak2947]

Yes, I feel like taking care of my home is life giving to me as well. I actually find social activities to sometimes be more stressful.

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

yes!!

[@amandagarthe6416]

@@rosiehelminiak2947 totally agree!!

[@hannahthehomesteader]

Same! When I am without kids, I love getting my home in order. It brings me peace. People always chide me for not resting but they seem to conflate rest with leisure. Having my home put together is very restful and life giving for me.

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

Love that! It's so important to recognize what is life giving to you! I love organizing and decluttering too! I feel so much better when I do that!

[@TheMennomilist]

I totally reacted and was overwhelmed in the early days of motherhood and can relate to some of the things that probably a lot of moms go through and am glad that I was able to target things and work on them early on. I enjoyed listening to what Elizabeth stated throughout this.

[@randomusername704]

I think what you were trying to say is " what happens when you give yourself too much self care? Like you're becoming selfish and selfcentered and need a reality check?" because 1) we can fall into this trap 2) we can believe we are doing this when we're not

[@elsamccowan2122]

This was so so helpful. I should have listened to it the moment it came out. My husband is a full time first responder who works 24hr shifts and is also in the military, so learning how to make time for myself has been extremely challenging. As I learn to navigate motherhood, your channels have been such a blessing to my family and home.

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Love to hear that...thank you!!

[@lucysky930]

Love this talk. I needed this. Please talk more about millennial parenting. I’m a millennial and I am guilty and want to improve always. ❤

[@chelseapercy4144]

Random, but sometimes I start listening on Spotify and then come back to finish the podcast on KZbin. It’s always so interesting to get a picture in my head of what your guest looks like based on their voice when I listen on Spotify ALWAYS to be surprised when I show up here!

[@kristinanderson8270]

I was thinking this same thing with this episode.

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

Haha I do the same when I listen to podcasts. Great to meet you Chelsea. I hope this episode blessed you in some way.

[@MonicaBU]

For me, the reason it was hard to ask for help is because the people I had accepted help from in the past overstepped their boundaries with me and my kids in some pretty hurtful ways and it damaged a few relationships. I was trying to avoid that from happening again.

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

Oh Monica. That can be so challenging when someone does that. I hope you find some other trusted friends who you can ask for help. It's totally understandable why you would feel this way.

[@bdrummond5414]

Very helpful! This podcast was much needed this morning 🙃

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Glad it was helpful!

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

I'm glad you found it helpful! I pray it blessed you!

[@ANG-cu1lj]

Such an important episode! Waking up an hour before the home is the best form of self care for me. Currently pregnant so helps me bond with the little one. Thank you from Florida as well!

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

Hey! So great to connect. Congrats on your pregnancy! When I had my little ones I would use the first nursing session in the morning to pray, listen to worship or devotional. Now that my youngest is almost 3 I am able to get up before my kids and have that alone time. It gives me so much more capacity!

[@PostView24]

No matter how hard I try, this may come out wrong, but I feel this vibe I am feeling needs to be said. I love Lisa, avidly watch Farmhouse on Boone, know she is a faith-based person and respect her immensely. This guest, and another recent guest, come across as women of the Christian Nationalist faith. I am not saying they are, but the extremely soft-spoken, almost childlike voice reminds me of the Duggar family. It also reminds me of the KZbinr who was recently jailed for abusing her children. It disturbs me on so many levels and it surprises me that these two women are guests on this channel. My opinion of Lisa is so far from how I feel about these women, that I am surprised she chose them to interview. It makes me second guess the foundation of these channels.

[@Sam-sc1hd]

Are you basing your “vibe” on the sound of her voice or do you have actual reasons for saying this? If so, can you please share?

[@randomusername704]

I'd also love to hear about how she coaches through very difficult baby/child

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

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[@mfpJ4ever]

Thank you for this episode!

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

I'm glad you found it helpful!

[@tarabanks4676]

Hi Lisa, you mentioned in this episode a book you are reading about millennial moms. Would you be willing to share the title and author? It definitely piqued my interest :) thanks!

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

The Opt out Family

[@yadymoncayo294]

Thank you ❤

[@veritatis7114]

Getting enough sleep is high priority, at least 5 hours if you can and eating at least one and optimally two good nutritious meal(s) a day.

[@mola.s]

This episode came at just the right time for me! I will definitely be checking out her podcast. It is hard for me, especially as an introvert, to get thru to my husband (an extrovert), of my need for time to myself or to do things only I enjoy. The last time I went out with just 1 child, he was calling and texting me, complaining that I was out too long. Any advice on dealing with this aspect?

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

Hey! I'm glad you found this episode helpful! It can be so tricky when husbands do that. It might be very helpful to have a proactive conversation with him about this. What you need to help yourself feel better - time to yourself for 2 hours without any calls or texts unless it's an emergency. Give him a list of things that he needs to know to take care of the kids. Also- this takes time. The more he does it the better it will get. He needs more opportunities with the kids alone so he can practice how to meet their needs and connect with them :)

[@fertilehomestead8879]

I am really struggling with this! I am a widow to nine children and I am struggling with being bitter and angry especially when I have a child that spews hurtful angry things to purposely hurt or get a reaction. I have not been engaging in his anger, but it is still emotionally draining. I just wish it was me who went to heaven and not my husband so many times. I just want to get away for a while and not have to have the responsibility of everything weighing on my shoulders.

[@gloriack7976]

Just want to wrap my arms around you and hug you so hard. I am deeply sorry that you are dealing with this grief and this pain especially with unhelpful grieving processes from your sweet children. I will pray for comfort and strength to flood your home. Lean into Jesus. He is there in the hurt.

[@emotionallyhealthylegacy]

Oh sweet mama! I am so sorry for what you are going through. The circumstances are very hard and I can see why you would feel this way. Do you have family or friends or church family that can help you and support you? You are not meant to do this alone.

[@fertilehomestead8879]

@emotionallyhealthylegacy I have people that I can text, and they pray. But, I share things with people, and no one does the hard job of trying to talk to everyone as a family unit and help me with them. Even though I asked our pastor at the time months ago to help me and talk with the children. No one is willing to do that. We have since left that church because it was three other people beside our family. But, other places, people are, I guess, too busy or don't know how to help or it is just too messy. Thank you for your prayers. God knows I could use them.

[@fertilehomestead8879]

@gloriack7976 thank you so much for your prayers! It means so much to me!

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

how terribly heartbreaking for all of you..I pray you feel Gods comfort and you and your family will get the support you desire for healing.

[@sallyapple3935]

Your make up looks good….

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

thank you! It's Toups and Co.