The Covert Narcissist - Not What You Think...

[@tnw1003]

All very true

[@carolovesteven]

You got their number. Recent bf turned out to be a covert narc and his tactics exposed my sister who is a covert narc too. Years of abuse. Coverts are the most damaging. You never see it coming. Absolute blindsides. The Lord heals and reveals. Thank you. ♥️

[@zion367]

Great explanation! Especially the plausable deniability aspect. Its really petty and cowardly.

[@Brightestlightt]

I know someone like that. So covert perfect gentleman using flattery, making false promises to lure me, silent treatment, but I left after 3 weeks of dating! And never looked back !!!!! It hurt at first but I’m better today 🎉

[@lucyloo7457]

You look amazing!! ❤. We have all missed seeing you! I look forward to more videos. ❤

[@SelfLoveU]

Thank you! I am working hard to stay presentable. XO

[@o2bmrsdarcy]

Spot on as usual! I love your matter of fact way of dealing with these issues. Your videos always come out right at the time I need them. Thank you, thank you, thank you for continuing to share your healing journey. It helps to know I am not alone. 💐

[@LawrenceRoss]

I like that not only does Jenna put the ❤️ emoji on a lot of the comments, but she also replies to the ones that stand out. She seems like a sweet woman.

[@SelfLoveU]

🎀

[@TaylorBurke-e3m]

I've been listening since 2017. I've learned so much from your videos!! Thanks for the content.❤

[@SelfLoveU]

You're welcome! :D

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Very happy you are on video! I’ve experienced female friendships like this….when I catch on & am healing they are very passive aggressive

[@SelfLoveU]

Thank you! Good point! Passive aggressive.

[@CultureCritic17]

This video is excellent and I'm putting it in my favorites.

[@SelfLoveU]

Fabulous!

[@icgreener]

It brought me closer to God. The covert Opened my eyes to an evil I never knew existed 😳

[@LovingLightx]

Exactly the same for me, allowed me to deal with unresolved childhood trauma, opened my eyes also to evil and most definitely brought me closer to God. Something beautiful came from something purely evil in the end. Praise Jesus 💕

[@sandieem1]

Thank you for educating us on this 💗

[@vincentpocketmonster]

Pleased to see you on video! You look great 💞 God bless you Jenna I love you very much 😘😘😘

[@SelfLoveU]

Thank you! I appreciate you.

[@doglover9902]

Sooo happy to see you again! Been watching your empowering videos for a long time. Thank you

[@SelfLoveU]

So glad to be back!!! Thank you!!!

[@lejci38]

Great to see you again!...Very well explained...I suspect I'm going through this with my father. But cognitive dissonance is huge, I'm going back and forth with it for several years now.."He is! Is he? ;Maybe I exaggerate, maybe it's me..?" Cause it is so subtle, it was more obvious only when he was in crisis after my mothers' death. That was a shocker. But still...I'm in constant doubt. The fact is that my head is spinning and I'm a mess - anxiety, brain fog, exhausted, questioning myself and my reality...it sucks.

[@SelfLoveU]

Hmmmmm

[@godzillamanstreb524]

@@lejci38 he probably is…..you’re body is telling you something…..the body keeps the score…. I feel same about my sister ..she is💔….well, maybe not😅….. I remember it’s a spectrum too

[@nali466]

Thank you very much for all your help and sharing your knowledge. You sparked a light in me, since I broke up with a ex-boyfriend who is a sociopath 8 years ago. Since then I listen to you and I want to thank you, because your words have helped me heal.

[@SelfLoveU]

Awesome! Thank you for your kind comments. I'm glad you're finding healing.

[@inetpathfinder5767]

Also, covert narcissists do a “dog whistle”. For example, covert narc would ask you loudly a very uncomfortable question when people that you know are sitting around the table at a dinner party. She would find the most inappropriate situation (most of the time at a big gathering) to mention something loudly that was very hurtful to you, but only you and a few others would understand that it related to you. Something about the family, children, ethnicity, etc

[@SelfLoveU]

I don't see this as a covert narc tactic. This seems more overt narc. But what do I know?

[@clairesweeney4334]

I think all narcs use this tactic. Although, makes sense with the covert approach n that it is done in a way that nobody else can pick up on what they are doing but you. So, you can’t call them out on it bc you will look crazy since no one else knows. Narcs SUCK!!

[@VintageJunker]

Dam, you nailed it! Hidden, hidden, hidden. my mother was a covert narc-100%, devoid of the empathy and compassion. Just fake compassion.

[@SelfLoveU]

You don't realize until you start getting boundaries and calling them out. Then you realize, oh man. They never cared at all.

[@peterwalker6009]

You are gorgeous Jenna. x

[@bluedogfish2]

The covert will trip themselves up because they have no real/emotional empathy

[@SelfLoveU]

They are wounded, but that's not a good reason to allow yourself to be abused.

[@RealinDealer]

This is triggering for me. There's quite a few people in my life like the type you're describing.

[@VintageJunker]

My mother constantly pitted my older brother and me against each otherI It was horrific. It was a very long and troubled relationship, with my older brother finally committed suicide after a life of abusive drinking.

[@SelfLoveU]

This can happen to children of narcissists. It's very sad. My channel is here to help and validate people who have been abused to help them see themselves as the lovely people that they truly are.

[@LawrenceRoss]

When will you be posting a new video?

[@LawrenceRoss]

Would it be safe to say that the covert narcissist is able to blend into society much like a chameleon?

[@SelfLoveU]

Yes

[@LawrenceRoss]

Thank you for your reply. You are the kind of person I would like to eventually meet in person one of these days.

[@MohammadGhannam-ge9ug]

Jenna can i can talk to you emergently, i am experiencing mass abuse from tge country i am in, it needs explanation because it is different, and you might be able to share the story but anonymously about me, but expose this demonic country.