Hòw do you deal with a friend who does not compliment you, do you have to tell them to compliment you, it seems needy. Its easy to deal with overt digs, but passive ones are hard.

Thank you!!!!❤❤❤❤

Thank you for educating us on this 💗

So well explained thank you ❤

Jenna can i can talk to you emergently, i am experiencing mass abuse from tge country i am in, it needs explanation because it is different, and you might be able to share the story but anonymously about me, but expose this demonic country.

Thank you very much for all your help and sharing your knowledge. You sparked a light in me, since I broke up with a ex-boyfriend who is a sociopath 8 years ago. Since then I listen to you and I want to thank you, because your words have helped me heal.

Fabulous!

This is triggering for me. There's quite a few people in my life like the type you're describing.

I like that not only does Jenna put the ❤️ emoji on a lot of the comments, but she also replies to the ones that stand out. She seems like a sweet woman.

Yup. Get it. Been there ... now I'm new and improved!!! I learned more about my insecurities through this and way better off on the other side

Also, covert narcissists do a “dog whistle”. For example, covert narc would ask you loudly a very uncomfortable question when people that you know are sitting around the table at a dinner party. She would find the most inappropriate situation (most of the time at a big gathering) to mention something loudly that was very hurtful to you, but only you and a few others would understand that it related to you. Something about the family, children, ethnicity, etc

It's very common on Facebook too. People turn nasty on you for no reason at all.

My mother constantly pitted my older brother and me against each otherI It was horrific. It was a very long and troubled relationship, with my older brother finally committed suicide after a life of abusive drinking.

Dam, you nailed it! Hidden, hidden, hidden. my mother was a covert narc-100%, devoid of the empathy and compassion. Just fake compassion.

You look amazing!! ❤. We have all missed seeing you! I look forward to more videos. ❤

The covert will trip themselves up because they have no real/emotional empathy

Great explanation! Especially the plausable deniability aspect. Its really petty and cowardly.

You got their number. Recent bf turned out to be a covert narc and his tactics exposed my sister who is a covert narc too. Years of abuse. Coverts are the most damaging. You never see it coming. Absolute blindsides. The Lord heals and reveals. Thank you. ♥️

I know someone like that. So covert perfect gentleman using flattery, making false promises to lure me, silent treatment, but I left after 3 weeks of dating! And never looked back !!!!! It hurt at first but I’m better today 🎉

It brought me closer to God. The covert Opened my eyes to an evil I never knew existed 😳

Sooo happy to see you again! Been watching your empowering videos for a long time. Thank you

Would it be safe to say that the covert narcissist is able to blend into society much like a chameleon?

This video is excellent and I'm putting it in my favorites.

Great to see you again!...Very well explained...I suspect I'm going through this with my father. But cognitive dissonance is huge, I'm going back and forth with it for several years now.."He is! Is he? ;Maybe I exaggerate, maybe it's me..?" Cause it is so subtle, it was more obvious only when he was in crisis after my mothers' death. That was a shocker. But still...I'm in constant doubt. The fact is that my head is spinning and I'm a mess - anxiety, brain fog, exhausted, questioning myself and my reality...it sucks.

I've been listening since 2017. I've learned so much from your videos!! Thanks for the content.❤

Pleased to see you on video! You look great 💞 God bless you Jenna I love you very much 😘😘😘

Very happy you are on video! I’ve experienced female friendships like this….when I catch on & am healing they are very passive aggressive

Why why why why. It makes no, beep beep sense.

That's a great summary of this huge subject.❤Thanks.

I think this accurately describes a person who I previously considered to be a boss. She did this to everyone, but I think I got the brunt of it, and I think it only exemplifies as to why after five years of this torture, I just could not take it anymore and quit.

You deserve flowers. You're beautiful. You're messages are lovely.❤

I fell for this big time and got hurt in the process. I really need to know my worth. I need help with this.

I needed this tonight so badly...so heartbroken I feel my mind stretching out for miles wondering about her.

Thanks Jenna it's hard to recover from codependency but keep on there is light at the end of the tunnel God knows.x🕊️.

Totally, understand what you are saying. The guy that I was with told me that we was meshed together that I didn’t have an individuality anymore. He got controlling and possessive towards me. There were many times that he tried to run my life, isolate me from friends and family, constantly looking over my shoulder to keep me in line so to speak, while basically cheating and doing as he wanted too. When I would try to break up with him, he would go to the hospital for psychiatric help as he called it. Basically, that happened more than once when I told him that the relationship wasn’t working between us. When I did go my separate way, he had the acidity to tell me that I was living in a fantasy and was delusional. There was obsession from him for months and then through out a couple of years. Periodically, he will have a piece of important mail addressed to him to come to my house. I just return to sender! What a jerk! It was a lesson learned for me. An eye opener to say the least.

If we can take a positive message home from gang gaslighting is that most times we shouldn’t be in that situation- for example you were pushed out of that church but those people were toxic and not worthy of you so getting out of that church and moving along benefited you. Though I appreciate how hurtful it was to you at the time.

Sounds like you’re all learning a lot about yourselves 😂😂😂…gotta love a good smear campaign 🙄

Painful reality! Thanks Jenna

This hits Jenna. I've seen a few people in my life fit this behaviour, Is excruciating to watch them pretend their helping other people when they are in the worst shape out of all of those people. Great message, good to see you. ❤

No it’s very hard Jenna👋🏻👋🏻💓…..but after many yrs I’m feeling it more & more….coming from narc family really disrupts your sense of self

I come from a very difficult life with my father who was a covert narcissist, he was very manipulative, depended on me financially, and was psychologically and emotionally abusive. I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing and never had a good home life growing up. I managed to escape that and had to go great lengths to get away from him, I was lucky to have known the people that supported me and helped me with that process. I went to go be with my extended family that had found me on the internet, they flew me in first class to go be with them, and they thought I was a gift from grandma that passed away, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately, I guess they didn’t. What seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my psychological wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, their love was like a benchmark, I couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am, I would hear them say “But he wasn’t raised that way!” “Oh it’s just gonna take time” , “I just think he just wasn’t raised properly” …and it felt like I had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved, and if I don’t, then it’s basically ‘bye peace out can’t live with your family’. I can still remember how my aunt was like “You’ve been going on 3 months!!” …It’s just unfair to me how my upbringing pretty much got robbed by a narcissist father and is something no kid should ever have to go through, while my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’. My aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and said “why not come stay here?” She would ask this weird question “What are the advantages that you think you have of being here?” but in my mind I’m like ‘I didn’t come here just so I can gain some kind of material advantages or benefits, I came to have a life here with my family just like any other kid would’. I told her “I don’t know” , and she replied “then why did you come live with us honey?” I had unfortunately received some invalidating comments from others that I’ve tried to speak to about my trauma, they’ve said things like “why should they love you” and “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and another person said “you don’t seem to realize that you’re wanting a warped and distorted image of your family by wanting a life there with them” lol, and he called me a “poster child of emotional immaturity”. Even a former friend who I thought would always be validating of my experience, ended up going against me and said “Well they raised your brother! They raised him and not you so he’s their kid!” and he laughed at me, and I’ve basically been labeled as having some kind of “sense of entitlement”. This has all put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid gets to have a family home life with their families and siblings, I believe it is the most basic thing a kid can be allowed to have… I tend to think if my friends can live with their families, why can’t I live with mine? So for a kid to live with one’s own family he has to be born into it? …I have had someone that recognized the validity of my feelings though, and that person said “how on earth can you not be allowed just the same if not more”. I just wanted a life there with my family… why would that be a bad or wrong or reprehensible thing? I can’t believe that, I went through that whole process, of getting away from my father, and finally got to go be with my extended family after my whole life of them not being in my life and going through a nightmarish life with a narcissist father, only for it to, pretty much, backfire? All because, they ‘raised my brother and not me’… I thought I would be their kid too… They bought a condo and now my brother is living in it for free…

This monologue was going so well until the phone fell down and scared the bajeezus outta me ha ha ha

"Prover Mode" is a deep concept that could be used to understand how we enter all sorts of defense modes, both with others and privately. Excellent investigation!

Ya'll just seriously stupid idiots!!!

Botox much?