Introducing Yourself and Others (A Guide to Etiquette)

[@Gwoog55]

As a pretty vulgar person at times,( working to fix that 😅) and a bit socially awkward, I need lessons like these:) thank you Dr. Cooper!! God bless

[@paulacoyle5685]

same and i have the added handicap of being a woman and a tomboy! @Dr. Jordan B Cooper when you said you had a hard time with small talk boy I definitely can identify. I would rather just skip that and get to the more important stuff! We're getting that social cohesion and just making people feel generally comfortable is equally important in many ways. and especially before they will trust you to discuss contentious big issues with them!

[@ChristianCombatives]

These are all great, two things in particular that I had to force myself to do until they didn't feel awkward was to grant intentional eye contact (we are used to looking at screens all day, but receiving eye contact feels like a real connection. Not staring at a person, but being aware of where your eyes are pointing, and returning them to the person to whom you are talking. The second thing is to smile. A lot of people want to be tough or serious and appear in control of a situation, but a sincere smile goes a long way in order not only to make the other person comfortable, but also to display confidence. It makes it look like you WANT to talk to the person and you enjoy the experience. Again, being conscious of smiling inappropriately or at inappropriate moments, its a great courtesy if you are able to take the social pressure off the other person. Being a pastor meant learning how to do these things when I would sometimes rather just be an introvert or avoid an uncomfortable conversation that needs to happen, but it has also been a great benefit in the military when dealing with generals, diplomats, and other people of significant status. It is possible to be respectful, not too familiar, while also treating the other person as a person and not just like a celebrity. It can be difficult to find that balance if you aren't being intentional.

[@bradleytarr2482]

Even if, years from now, it turns out that I die receiving Last Rites from a Roman priest, I know that I'll die with a much deeper appreciation for Lutheranism, thanks to you. :-)

[@candyclews4047]

I agree Jordan, as an old lady with arthritic hands, I give men permission to give me a limp handshake! A gentleman at Church shakes my hand gently and then cups his second hand over mine. I'm swept away by his charm, every time.

[@Mr.Truxton]

Here in Finland, we always call people by their first names. If someone is a pastor, you may say pastor before the first name of course. But pretty much the only place here people are just called by their last names are hospitals and the army.

[@strivenword]

I met you in the airport once, 3 years ago, traveling from Charlotte to Syracuse - the plane was delayed until the early a.m. I had seen your channel before then and since have sporadically followed your videos, but nothing until this video ever inspired me to comment. I feel it’s an important subject, because I feel respect is the only way I can repay the awesome people I work with and worship with, but I have a hard time restraining myself from speaking presumptuously when I have an idea or a thought that feels relevant to me.

[@DrJordanBCooper]

Are you the Catholic dentist from Syracuse? Glad to see you're watching!

[@anewmaninchrist]

I appreciate this series. Please keep it up.

[@jordand5732]

Prepping my resume and doing some interviewing. The etiquette videos are timely!

[@danielhixon8209]

I agree about our culture being “too familiar/informal” with people we don’t know well. Whenever the barista asks me my name for my coffee I’ve gotten into the habit of saying “Mr Hixon”

[@johnkarpiscak1134]

You only get one chance to make a 1st impression! Being that we are ambassadors for Christ, this is important stuff when meeting the world.

[@catfinity8799]

The new fistbump is “dapping someone up.” As a new high school graduate, I absolutely hate it. Not only is it a stupid fad that will probably be replaced in a year or two, and I'll have to flounder to figure out the new gesture, but the initiation gesture is the same initiation gesture as a handshake. You can, if you want to, subtly make it clear that you are initiating a handshake by holding your arm out at a larger angle, but most people don't do that. They just hold their hand out, and you have to guess what they want. If you guess wrong, it's really awkward. You're either being rude, or you're a klutz who doesn't know how to dap someone up.

[@newme1589]

Im pretty sure it comes from black American culture (same thing with "fam", "ong", certain dances, etc), you give a "high hand shake" (not a low classic hand shake), while doing it you, you use the other hand to hug (and your chests tough your hand shake hands). You stop with the hug, the. You "dap them up", you let go of the high hand shake, slide your hands together until your fingers can curl, you hold onto each others fingers and do another hand shake motion, up and down. Im assuming that this is to make sure you dont have blades hidden in your fingers or something, like classic handshakes were to make sure you dont have weapons in your sleeves/arms

[@sparky4581]

If you see me in a place that requires a special fork.... You problay didnt see me.

[@Goblin-Nixon]

Thanks for this series. Do you have any resources like books for learning more about etiquette?

[@LutheranGuineaPig]

For my fellow autistics, if you look at the bridge of the nose, the other person will think you're making eye contact.

[@anyanyanyanyanyany3551]

I'll just say that as someone coming from an Asian background, calling my seniors and elders by their first names, even after we're acquainted, just seems unusual and I'll never get used to it. I always endeavor to call people by their titles, whether it's Mr. or Ms., Dr., or any other title that they deserve and their first or last names. Is there a point in history of western culture where calling seniors and elders by their first names became the norm?

[@jordand5732]

Jordan, this comment is more geared towards the video which you posted called “why i dress up”, but i was hoping to get your attention by posting on a video that is more recent. My question: where do you buy suits and dress clothes from? Im lookiny to buy from american made or something where workers arent treated poorly and am looking for guidance on good companies to buy from. If you dont see this or respond no worries. Thanks!

[@DrJordanBCooper]

It's hard to find much American made that isn't inordinately expensive. Most of my clothes are Spier and Mackay or Brooks Brothers. Finding older Brooks on ebay is often the best way to find quality at a good price. And it used to be made in the US.

[@jordand5732]

@@DrJordanBCooper hey, thanks. Solid idea. Appreciate your time you took to comment. God bless and keep you.

[@rscottr]

What is proper response when a child addresses you by your first name?

[@dylan3456]

These are cute and fine but the real education in etiquette comes with spending time with people from another culture. That's when you learn what matters in all these rules and how to be humble without being ingratiating, and so on. How are we American Lutherans at spending time with people from another culture?

[@paulacoyle5685]

re sexual jokes it seems wise not to do it at all even with "the guys" (if you're a guy) as you suggested, because you're encouraging other men to treat sexuality in a vulgar & flippant way (frankly I myself have been guilty of such things in the past with girl friends as well so it goes both ways).