Set Goals That Work FOR Your Enneagram Type (Not Against)

[@AbbeyHowe]

I would love to hear from YOU! What’s your type and what are your goals for 2024?

[@kindauncool]

I think I'm a 5 and I'm going to try to ignore how embarrassing it is not only to ask for an accountability buddy but also to share my progress with them. I might try to do the coffee dates thing.

[@artsyanne1192]

I’m a 4, and I have 2 goals. One is to work toward a new career, something more fulfilling with better pay. The other is to take steps to turn my art into a successful side hustle. I agree with what Abbey said about 4s running out is steam quickly once the excitement surrounding a goal wears off; that is so me. Starting out small and building up to bigger things will certainly help!

[@kriannmon]

As a 9w1, you brought up the tears at the very beginning 😢🥺😌 I've never felt my voice matters, and I've never really made goals for myself. I've always just gone along with what I think is "supposed" to come next, or what (I imagine) others expect me to do. That might be easier, but its definitley not fulfilling. I do want more, I just don't often know what that "more" is.

[@Avionne_Parris]

First of all, love the hair highlights, Abs so cute! Second, the striped wall background, it's like my literal favourite design on a wall! It was somewhat difficult focusing because I kept being distracting by the wall :) Third, your elephant Christmas sweater is absolutely ADORABLE! Fourth, thanks for the Lemon Drop cameo, missed him so much :) Spot on, with the type 7 advice, every year for the past 5 years I've vowed that this year I'm gonna be a published author then get distracted with a gazillion projects and zero follow-through. Not gonna lie, I panicked when you said to prioritise ONE project for a few months but I totally get the reason behind it. Variety might be the spice of life but too many spices can make a meal taste awful :) Hope that analogy makes sense (it certainly did in my head). EDIT UPDATE: So, turns out, I'm a type 2 but I do have 7 in my tritype (2-7-1) so the stuff I said is still relevant :)

[@ElodieN_INTJ_Typology_Insights]

It's fun you said that, because I was distracted by the harmony of colors of the wall too.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Wow- love that analogy for sevens about spices!!! I can tell you’re a writer 😉 Thanks for your sweet and thoughtful comment, as always. The yellow wall is in my parent’s house!! Isn’t it cool?

[@peggydemchak4776]

I'm a 6 and i don't like accountability partners. The pressure of potentially failing with an audience is too stressful. 🙃

[@Hadrianna2004]

Lol guys you seem not to be even fit for life 🤣

[@Hadrianna2004]

Best if you withdraw from life then

[@mestimac]

​@@Hadrianna2004 Best if you gfy

[@ElodieN_INTJ_Typology_Insights]

I like how it's true for my entire tritype 583.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Awesome!! Hope it was helpful

[@ElodieN_INTJ_Typology_Insights]

@@AbbeyHowe One day I made a list of ideas for videos, months later I found this list when I cleaned my desk/notes/papers, I checked/did half of them, I was happy of the progress. I always have the impression that I am not productive. No matter how much I do, It's never enough 😆(biased by my own perception/functioning) 3 Take break, 8 enjoy the process, practice self compassion, do non productive things. Yes it's very helpful to know 💛

[@trinaq]

Happy Christmas, Abbey, and Best Wishes for 2024! As a Type 2 People Pleaser, this certainly resonates strongly with me.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Happy Christmas to you! ❤

[@naa7210]

i really liked this vid. not only tips are for sure useful and accustomed to each type but also i think i like the format. (tho a little breaks between next type, or some sound or something would make it easy to focus for me 😅 )

[@ranikster9955]

OMG 9w1 here so true ❤

[@lindaweedmark6025]

Type 4 and that was spot on. I actually do make lists and use colourful highlighters and stickers.

[@Crysta1986]

Type 5w6. You're right. I'm bad at asking for help. I think I am going to do this with my resume.

[@EnTeoríaIlustraciones]

I'm a type 5w6, but in terms of goals I lean more towards 4... I tend to lose motivation, may because of over planning and wanting everything to be done perfectly, and I put a lot of pressure on myself sometimes. I've finished my career totally burned out because of that. And I also forget about taking care of myself, and my mental health

[@padenjames]

Such a great video and amazing tips that we can implement from all types. Thanks, Abbey!

[@talithialee9608]

Type 2 and wonderful advice!. Thank you

[@mollieirvine1026]

Thank you so much Abbey! This was actually super useful- you never disappoint! I hope you have an amazing Christmas and New Year!!!

[@ghiajohnson1547]

Oh yes, Type 4 here😜🤪😵‍💫🤣!

[@AbbeyHowe]

❤❤❤

[@Bella_Sharpe]

Great advices! As an 8 I often make these type mistakes, I'll keep these in mind. Cheers!

[@fangirl365]

The type 4 makes sense, but as someone with executive dysfunction, it’s a bit difficult to put into practice XD. I’d be curious how neurodivergence could affect the advice given.

[@ritahertzberg5762]

T4w5 here. Perfect timing! Thank you so much!

[@JemicaM]

4/3. I'm usually setting way too many goals and then hating them by September. So I'm trying an overall theme this year: The Year of Discovery. Well, that was the idea, but TBH I'm still trying to figure out how to do it all. 😅🙄

[@shaunrussell4558]

You’re amazing Abbey!!🥰🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️thanks for all of this encouragement for us!!! 🎉I’m a type 9… and I really needed to hear that my voice matters!!💞💖💚that was SO nice!! It’s true, I never know what goal to set because I’m always worried they’re too big! But, I like the suggestion of making a list of things I love to draw from! 🙌🏼this will help me maintain the peace even more!! 😅🙌🏼🙏🏻❤️Happy New Years to you and yours Abbey!!🎉🌝💫🍀🍀🍀

[@amandawilson8212]

I’m an 8 and this was so great. Thank you!

[@LatoriaMck]

Daaaannnng shots fired (type 6). I GOTTA take care of myself first. Got it😅 I keep making it optional lol.

[@Amuztak]

As a type 3 what makes me happy is going from one goal to another. The non-stop makes me happy because that is what makes me feel accomplished. In the end I end up burned out because I have so many plans and goals in my head which I visualize them as improvement plans to make me a better and more capable person that I end up stressed and I become a type 9. It's easy to me to focus on one goal at a certain moment but hard to focus on one goal in general and I end up not knowing what's the best goal for me to get the best outcome. Also, if I can't do something 100% I freak out and punish myself, like "why on earth didn't I achieve this goal??? Why couldn't I do it?? Am I that weak??. 💀

[@mysterical-]

Im a 9. What goals do you set? I sort of know what goals matter to me, but the conflict pulls me apart lol, i don't know which one matters most either. The specific target outcomes I make, I think "how do I try *not* to achieve it? after all I am fine where I am and that outcome won't make my life better, I don't deserve it, nobody said I could have it, whats it supposed to do. I'm lacking the proudness, it doesn't have to be done. What if its all a fake happy feeling in the end towards it?" 💀💀💀 Can we swap.

[@kindauncool]

You look so old here Abbey you look great!

[@AbbeyHowe]

😭 whatttt thanks I guess

[@NavBee]

​@@AbbeyHowe I guess she meant to say that you look so mature here 😅

[@kindauncool]

+@@NavBee I guess? I think she looks older and it complements her features so nicely.

[@Robin_Hood_X_Beast_Boy_Forever]

I dont date. Sorry.. advice not taken. 5w4.

[@NavBee]

I also can't do that 😭 . But I think she was just giving examples

[@montecristo9880]

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