Setting Boundaries for Yourself and Others

[@annatmarshall5133]

I find myself tolerating bad behaviour and....then getting angry with the person...and then getting angry at myself. Round and round we go.

[@JohnchapterVersesand]

You're not alone... The only thing at that time i am developing nowadays whenever I couldn't tolerate someone is I silently say "Lord Jesus please help me how to react now" for at least 10 times... Try it, well this might work for you...

[@katpellot7646]

It takes a certain kind of finesse and practice to set healthy boundaries. I write down my response and say it out loud a few time before telling the person.

[@ItsViolaRose]

I find myself constantly being ordered around by people who call what they're doing "setting boundaries" but like, the only way to please them is to leave.

[@marieconstantia4441]

We’re we separated at birth? I’m exactly the same way!

[@JohnchapterVersesand]

@@ItsViolaRose what are those boundaries they set? Was it ethically good for you? just asking

[@danielfox8638]

You know, the timeliness of Father’s videos is actually insane sometimes. They always seem to freakishly line up with exactly what I need to hear at the moment...Definitely doing God’s will!!!

[@ricardotabares8771]

As the saying goes, it is not coincidence, it's Providence. 🙏

[@lrose1076]

Holy Spirit is abundantly around us!

[@ericapimentelep]

@Rejoicing In Hope you don't have a dad or had one? What do you call him? Sir? Or by his name? 🤔

[@dailybread300]

Rejoicing In Hope See 1Cor 4:15 where St Paul calls himself father. Follow the teachings of the Catholic Church upon which Christ founded and you will be not led astray.

[@mikelao8434]

What do mean by insane? He’s one of the most sane dudes I’ve ever heard. I must say he is phenomenal it’s one of the reasons why I’m involved in the Church.

[@nightfangs2910]

If you try to set boundaries and enforce them with folks, you will find out rather quickly who will no longer want anything in any way to do with you, just be prepared for that outcome, doesn't mean it's wrong to set boundaries but be ready 👍👍

[@HaDao205]

I told a guy I'm not going to tolerate his lateness anymore. Reinforced my boundary by refuse to meet him if he is not on time. Haven't meet him in a long time.

[@thaisass6024]

I have a family member who would grossly takes advantage of me, take credit for what I do and also I recently found out spreads lies about me as if I do the things to her that she actually does to me... I keep feeling like "family is everything" but what you've said has definitely been happening when I tried to set boundaries and it seems my home life has become infinitely worse... it's like I now have to fight for her or something. what would you do in that instance?

[@chickychickeroo9703]

So very true. Well said.

[@SharonCullenArt]

Well that’s just silly. Okay so take the abuse?

[@robertwandlaincourt314]

At 60, I'm finally learning to put up healthy boundaries. I'm not willing to be stepped on anymore & this includes family. It's difficult because I always want to help others. Unfortunately, my niceness is being equated with weakness.

[@crenshaw2186]

Yep there’s a difference between being good and nice

[@kelvinroy2782]

Thank you for this Mr Robert! I'm learning this now! Its difficult because it's someone in the family!Need to set my boundaries! :D

[@robertwandlaincourt314]

@@kelvinroy2782 you're welcome. It's difficult because I tend to be a people pleaser but I'm definitely sticking to my guns.

[@Cube_Ernator1077]

"60" is the New 30! When we were '30', that was the time we Should have put up Healthy boundaries and we Might have changed our lives, for the better. I'm turning 60, in a couple of months too and have realised my many past blunders! God Bless.

[@robertwandlaincourt314]

@@Cube_Ernator1077 thank you for sharing. I totally agree. Unfortunately, it took years of experience & just being tired, to put a stop to the insanity.

[@rdbare4216]

Many Christians seem to believe it’s forbidden to set boundaries with abusers. Thank you for at least hinting that isn’t the case, and that people should be held to a standard.

[@Donna-cc1kt]

Wow. I’d never heard that - ever!

[@rdbare4216]

@@Donna-cc1kt It’s seldom stated that plainly. It’s the attitude that that one dare not end relationships nor condemn abuse-that forgiveness means denial. That’s very common.

[@eddiy335]

Christians think it's forbidden to set boundaries with abusers? Interesting! never heard that before.

[@tinag7506]

True...it's important to stop enabling toxic behaviour...if we keep enabling it the person doesn't grow and ends up being their worst version

[@elizabethwilk9615]

Yes I was always confused about this bc I was told to forgive since being a child

[@camillefearonlygod3516]

“You will never change what you tolerate”

[@joaniemiller4362]

Amen

[@melissaprince3229]

Thank you Father Mike for everything you do.

[@lukemccann]

Amen

[@nawwww]

@izaak siqueiros 2021 Christian channel why is that?

[@gracechang9624]

Enlightening. Thank you father mike

[@Grace8381]

@Rejoicing In Hope What name do you sometimes use for your dad or to refer to your dad (or someone else’s dad)?

[@seeweedmaps4665]

I agree. It depends on how much you are willing to put up with.

[@GUAYABAFELIZ]

This is an eye-opener. It takes courage to set boundaries! I found myself tolerating rude behaviors, thinking that I wanted to be nice and inclusive. This only generated resentment in my heart. I finally found the courage and started to, little by little, set some boundaries. People said I changed. I am trying to speak up for myself.

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you,,

[@bluebear7061]

Scam report this

[@kenritch3941]

50 + years, and I am finally applying this technique to my life, it feels so wonderful . . .

[@chomperthefirst533]

@@bishopdavidoyedepo5490 Nice try ‘Bishop’!

[@lmlmlmlm7627]

Ah! How painfully true this is. A few years ago, I allowed a man (a Catholic man, wonderful in many ways) ghost me, and then come back. I shouldn’t have allowed this first time. We went around the mulberry bush a few more times with the same pattern of behaviour- ghosting and me allowing him back. Each time we were back on, I was filled with anxiety about when he would just one day decide to disappear. Each time, I was more and more careful with my behaviour, less and less free, just to avoid a ghosting. It didn’t change the inevitable - he ended up ghosting me once and for all (well, it’s almost 3 years, so it’s been the longest stretch)... point is, when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

[@lilyofthevalley4740]

What is ghosting?

[@Ingrid0410]

Yes like when your spouse has 2 affairs

[@lmlmlmlm7627]

@@lilyofthevalley4740 like when a person disappears on you

[@lilyofthevalley4740]

@@lmlmlmlm7627 Thanks. Thought so but just clarifying.

[@lilyofthevalley4740]

@@Ingrid0410 oohh....that is worse 😥

[@Christina-cf9ot]

I've heard of setting boundaries with others, but it was eye opening to turn that back on myself. I tolerate so much negative behavior from others and from myself.

[@mmut8602]

That is really good and helpful insight. Thank you!

[@binamartin8864]

Agree. Totally opened my eyed.

[@manleybryant7]

I truly have to agree with you on this one Father Mike. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said : “ no one makes a fool out of you without your welcome cooperation.“

[@helenrosario6857]

Fr Mike I’m a 70 yr old, how I wish I learned this many moons ago, but thank u for this invaluable lesson.

[@DianneElizabeth64]

I learned this when I was turning 50 & my life changed

[@Vargolis]

Wow I thought I was late to the party at 31 as its made me miserable. Happy for you youve found it

[@deb9806]

My daughter just said to me your boundaries are too fluid, you get upset with people too often who push you. You need stronger boundaries whether about behavior or speech. I think seeing this was a gift. : )

[@coolcat7830]

My narcissistic parent treats me with constant disrespect. I’m very low contact at the moment & it’s a very freeing feeling.

[@frassaticars4694]

Hope he/she turns around and seeks forgiveness, praying for you Emma

[@dustinfulks8166]

As a non catholic Father Mike is the best a making me sit back and think about things. I thank God for Fr. Mike. He has helped me more than anyone. 🙏🏻❤️

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@scojo6377]

God bless you. Which church?

[@crenshaw2186]

Although this is from a Protestant perspective, the book “ no more Christian nice guy” helped me a lot. There’s one for women too called “ no more Christian nice girl”. Being good instead of nice takes courage.

[@trinidadraj152]

Boundaries end up being healthier for everyone involved

[@KM-ok6pk]

Father Mike, your videos touch my soul!! I feel like you’re my friend, you have a perfect balance of humor and seriousness! Yesterday I saw a man running in my neighborhood and he had his phones speaker turned up... When I heard it I was like hey... I know that voice.. it was you Father Mike and your Bible in a year podcast he was listening to as he ran! I’m blown away at how many people you have touched. Thanks for making this Lent a special time of reflection.

[@londontipton7780]

Wonderful story.

[@micahjhoffman8329]

People will consistently treat you the way you see yourself

[@nancyvelazquez9388]

Thanks to people that don't love me ..I learned to forgive. I learn to love my enemy. And because of love I put boundaries and pray for them 🙏 Everything you do do it For Love♥️

[@Nao_chan369]

Watching his videos always makes me rethink, smile, a strive to be a better person not just for me but for God as well.

[@jasmintorino6129]

The challenge arises when dealing with narcissistic personalities; individuals who wield their power and influence as a means to avoid making compromises or recognizing the boundaries of others An authority figure, such as a parent or a boss comes to mind.

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@Vargolis]

That's tricky. If you are in a job for example and the job is important to you, the idea of confronting your boss about their behaviour could see you sacked at worst or subtly discriminated against / not rewarded etc. V difficult!

[@juliasamarin9507]

I have been way too tolerant in my life ... I put up with so many things that stepped over my boundaries and didn’t say anything for fear of losing that relationship . I wish I learned about setting boundaries in my 20’s ... I might be someone different now but we are not supposed to look back. I think we need a relationship etiquette book since the advent of cell phones. It’s hard to resist them.

[@battlevain]

Some great points made but you have to choose your battles and often bide your time. When we tolerate bad behaviour, we sometimes have to look at the greater good. It takes true wisdom to navigate around some people and sometimes turning a blind eye to an offense is the better course of action. Proverbs is full of wisdom about dealing with quick tempered fools. We have to always try to be wise, patient and discerning.

[@deborahb1861]

This is very true. I have started standing up in a more constructive way ... It's a lot more work than I am used to ... But it is better. Thank uou

[@CedanyTheAlaskan]

@izaak siqueiros 2021 Christian channel Literally nothing to do with the comment

[@pjsmith4369]

How does one deal with adult children and grandchildren who should know what is right and wrong and do what they want anyway - I am talking prostitution to earn money, bisexual activity and promiscuity, drug addiction, no formal school since junior high ( Grade 7 ) - so many issues I can’t begin to name them all? They have all been brought in the Church, but only one out of 5 claims to be Catholic. Do you simply tolerate everything and do what you can? Without our help, 2 would be on the streets. I know you are discussing smaller matters, but I never know if what my husband and I tolerate can be changed. We are talking years of behaviour - with promises to change. Or do we continue to pray for them and be there for them? My daughter thinks prostitution is a valid occupation. My granddaughter claims bisexuality and lives accordingly. They both ( no surprise ) say they are “ spiritual “ but not religious. This has been discussed with priests and with them, so prayer is my hope. And not to cut them out of our lives.

[@lynnem635]

Pj Smith, never give up hope and continue praying. Try your best to discern what God wills you to do in each family members situation. Don't act unless the way is clear and clearly from God. Pray and trust that God hears every one of your prayers (throughout all the many, many years) and is answering all of your prayers in the most loving and best way for each family member. Wait on the Lord and trust Him completely concerning your family. Be at peace. All is well. Remember, with God, nothing is impossible. Remain in God's peace. Trust God. This is what I have learned in my experience, I hope it helps.

[@jokersquad34718]

Father Mike: Thank you and God bless you, for all that you do for our youtube community of worshipers. You are sincerely, appreciated.

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@domenical.2261]

This is so important. Literally my entire week has revolved around setting clear boundaries and the importance of it! It’s crazy how it has been my main topic of conversation these days and here father Mike posts this video 🤣

[@lrose1076]

Holy Spirit moments 😁. My landlord is about my age and sometimes speaks to me as if I were a child. I plan to respectfully set this boundary. Thanks be to Holy Spirit and thanks be to Fr. Mike. God bless.

[@joolz5747]

Happens in my family. And instead of discussing drawing a boundary the person just automatically draws a boundary by ignoring or distancing. That is not ok. Talking honestly about it makes more sense! Yes?

[@melissaprince3229]

Maybe the person just ignores because sometimes the other person is not ready to accept their behavior is hurtful. And they ignore to avoid a hostile response. Sometimes removing yourself can save a hostile situation.

[@eddiy335]

You don't always have to discuss boundaries although I think that it's good to talk if the person is a family member or a close friend.

[@GenevieveKBusch]

That’s called manipulation. Some people feel boundaries are attacks sadly. Happens in my family too. I put up a boundary and am the bad guy. Idc. I need to protect myself.

[@melissaprince3229]

@@GenevieveKBusch I think the issue for me is if you have previously set the boundary but the person continues to cross it. I guess that is what I mean by they are not ready or willing to change the behavior that is causing the rift. My wish is always for mutual love and respect.

[@481kristen]

As long as the person who is setting the boundaries does it respectfully and calmly. I had a friend scold me big time when she didn’t appreciate my opinion. So then I started keeping my opinions and thoughts to myself, thinking that is what she wants. After many months had gone by, she then tells me that she is interested in my thoughts and opinions. So now, I try to avoid saying anything that I think is going to make her mad. It may not seem like it after reading this but other than that she is a good person and a good friend. I have just accepted this is just how our friendship is. I am fortunate to have several good friends that welcome my thoughts and opinions. So again, if you’re the one that is going to set the boundaries, do it calmly and respectfully.

[@MP-in6hm]

Thank you Fr Mike, It is truly changing our tolerance to wrongdoing by accepting our identity as Children of God and knowing that we always deserve respect, love and tolerance is the key to a well-being and a life healthy life journey.

[@InHisSservice]

So important! Adorable. "Would you please not do that?" and "We get the behavior that we are willing to tolerate..." Some lessons that I WISH I HAD LEARNED AS A CHILD.

[@joannawarren6029]

Father this is rlly what I needed. I have been struggling so much with telling people to stop what they are doing. Thank you sm

[@francesdumaliang6132]

Oh my, this is so on-point timely…I sooooo needed to hear this. Praise to You, Lord Jesus Christ…Amen🙏.

[@barblacy619]

So true! Picking up grandson at preschool today, we wait in line outside, a twenty something mom allowed her 6 year old to pummel her and she just let him. He wanted her attention and she kept talking ignoring him. I had to turn away. Needless to say my grandchildren do not hit me, not after the first time.

[@erikastar125]

I can totally relate to the “being late” comment. It’s reserved for a special few because they tolerate it! I loved this video :)

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@katkat2340]

God Bless you and keep you! Just awesome Father and Priest! I’ve just ordered your Baptism dvd as I trust your great relatable teaching! You are the door , the bridge, the place to come back to church authentically!

[@matthewmontano9695]

This is true. I think God had my back on this one. Wasnt even a full thought yet showed me a solition. God is good always man.

[@josef56]

More than ever today we are in spiritual warfare! Share this with everyone! God Bless!

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@rosebalavitch6695]

I always let individuals talk down to me. It makes me feel stupid. I always thought if i saw say something i would the bad person. But now hearing Fr. Mike i can stand up for myself and not let people talk to me that way.

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@FINTZZZ]

I agree with not tolerating bad behaviour.. Perhaps we should be less fragile and more resilient too...

[@blancasonora714]

There are so many kinds of relationships in which this simple act of respect can save. The toxin in a toxic relationship - not the actual people being sociopathic This is a great practice especially for community groups but also personal relationships like family, friends, pointed spousal issues - needed BADLY. Thanks again, Fr. S.

[@lorrainecox7728]

How I wish I had known this as a new bride.....I could have saved myself some terrible grief....I'm 81, but it is still good to hear this. You are such a blessing to God's people. Thank you!

[@onewhowaits7674]

Fr. Mike, I love your insights, your honest smiles, and especially your laughter. Thank you so much.

[@onewhowaits7674]

@Rejoicing In Hope My dearest brother in Christ. John said, “My little children, I am writing this to you so that you may not sin; but if any one does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous” (1 John 2:1); “No greater joy can I have than this, to hear that my children follow the truth” (3 John 4). John also addresses men in his congregations as “fathers” (1 John 2:13-14). God be with you always, for you are a beloved child of God.

[@seanm3883]

Great advice to make a positive impact in others as well as ourselves while still being kind and living our Catholic values.

[@kjosemaria9373]

Thinking of a friend who is striving to be a better person. I pray Mama Mary will give him the strength to follow your advice here, Fr. Mike. God bless.

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you,,,,

[@bluebear7061]

Scam report this

[@angeljttan2093]

Thank you Fr. Mike. When I tried to be nice, I tolerated rude behaviour of somebody. And it keeps happening again to me from one person in the group to another person. Now I do realise to set that boundary right from the start and also within myself too, or else I will never get out of that tolerance.

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@claudiagutierrez6336]

I really needed to hear this. I just need to regroup my own thoughts and be able to clearly communicate what my boundaries are. I am used to being quiet and trying to be calm. But then things build up. Thank you father Mike, God knows how to communicate through his messengers so very well. May the Lord always Bless you father. Please pray for us all that are here. 🙏🏼

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you.

[@Mary_b]

So well explained as to WHY we set boundaries for ourself and others. Thank you Fr. Mike

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@Mary_b]

@@bishopdavidoyedepo5490 Chairman! You best not be trying this nonsense on me-o.

[@CedanyTheAlaskan]

Came for the thumbnail. Stayed for the message

[@bestguitar11]

Amen, and Amen!!! The Catholic Church bringing the Truth and the Thunder!! Very well said Father Mike Schmidts. Every one of these videos inspires me.

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you,,,,,

[@bluebear7061]

True scam report this

[@LauriKunes]

When I stand up for myself it always backfires. That is why I am alone .

[@mariat2465]

This priest is amazing! God bless him !

[@muriukinuthia9493]

My friend Annette and I are really enjoying the Bible in a Year podcast. Thank you Fr. Mike! Your KZbin videos are also an enriching addition to our lives.

[@MindfullyCatholicChristian]

Couldn’t be more truthful. People think that because I practice as a psychotherapist I am required to accept and approve of every opinion/be ok with being insulted or berated if I express personal views. Also yes, there are behaviors/thinking patterns within myself that I have tolerated for too long.

[@GinnyandEric]

Yes Father 💯🙌 this can relate to timeliness, dating expectations, things at work, parenting... the list goes on and on. Don’t settle!

[@kategenn8944]

@Rejoicing In Hope this is such a misapplication of text taken out context. if you read farther along in St. Paul’s letters, you will see a variety of examples of Paul exercising a spiritual fatherhood over the different Christians, and tradition reveals to us that this has been practiced even back into that time.

[@patrickrusso9919]

The timing on this is amazing. Were talking with a friend about enforcing boundaries abiut abusive behaviors

[@katpellot7646]

Totally agree Father Mike. Setting healthy boundaries, is important to my peace of mind.

[@sofiacastaneda6600]

Watching this video helped me make a decision that I was indecisive about and that was in rewards to my job. Now I know what I have to do because I am not willing to tolerate this behavior anymore.

[@sharonholmes6083]

Thank you! This post is exactly what I needed to hear!

[@christiandpaul631]

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[@kolibriflyer3555]

I do agree father. I am still dealing with narcissistic people where I live. I had to set boundaries to protect myself from further emotional abuse. I am also aware that these disturbed souls cannot and will not change their behaviors. It's up for me to set boundaries for myself, and keep a healthy emotional outlook in life. Not to forget, I pray to God to keep me safe, and away from these emotional abusers & controllers.

[@amyparker1762]

What a great message. One I don’t think I’ve taken time to ponder before. Thank you.

[@californiamom4913]

Thank you father Mike 🙏😇

[@erinmccormick2644]

Thank you Father Mike. This is exactly what I needed to hear today.

[@lorrainegomes5788]

Excellent topic. Just being 100% honest. Thank you.

[@anitamalavoloneque4909]

This message is so important and have found it to be so true as well. I also like how Father Mike explained how to go about explaining the behaviour that one will not tolerate because a lot of the time it’s not what we say but how we say it. Thanks Father Mike

[@luis_techie]

Love the video. I feel like anyone with family members that argue could set boundaries, especially when arguing with siblings; haha. I find myself tolerating a lot of behaviors that I should try to communicate. Even more important is trying to stop tolerating negative things that we do.

[@normacindy7226]

Thank you for your advice, father! May the Lord continue to bless you and your ministry

[@SharonKBM]

This one hit me hard. I have trouble setting boundaries and when I finally do, the two closest people in my life do not respect them anyway and I have a hard time with the confrontation that always comes about afterwards. I just never thought of it as receiving the behavior I am willing to tolerate, but that is the truth. Just writing this out makes me realize how weak I am. I have a lot to think about and pray about.

[@michelleferrao8888]

Thank u Father Mike 😊

[@debbie4503]

I needed to hear that about changing myself. There's plenty I can see that I don't want from other people. And I have set boundaries on myself because #1 God doesn't want me to be like that. #2. I don't want to be like that. I made those boundaries for myself. I needed this video to remind me. Thank you, Father Mike. I'm going to write the behaviors down that I want to change in myself. And check it often.

[@lorettagallagher9577]

So true.... ty Fr.Mike

[@jmkm333]

Definitely needed this. Put a lot of things in perspective for me. God bless padre!

[@xjasonxbx1]

With some people, when I set boundaries I get scolded or have assumptions made about me. Just for a simple boundary.

[@angelabrosius2559]

So true and important to have courage, tools to hold yourself accountable and perseverance to try, try, try again.

[@Sherldon4sure]

I always thought my nice and loving kind personality was the problem.Almost lost myself,personality and character💔. I’m grateful that the Lord led me to the concept of healthy boundaries with others and most importantly within myself,I’m so happy I don’t need to stop being nice and caring at all just need to practice healthy boundaries.GOD BLESS YOU ALL.🙏🥺❤️

[@margaretferrara1008]

Yes I agree Father so much..thanks, you always are a guiding lite. God bless you.

[@JohnTwoFive]

Thanks for the continued wise counsel, Fr. Mike!

[@violetkrisan7996]

Thank you father Mike! This is all I need to hear and be reminded! It's not only the courage to set boundaries around us but also in ourselves as well!

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you,,,,

[@bluebear7061]

Scam report this

[@geesegoosegirl]

Gosh darn, I sure love Fr Mike!

[@bronxboy1998]

@izaak siqueiros 2021 Christian channel I haven’t seen seventh day Adventist spamming before

[@tracymartin8721]

You hit the nail on the head setting healthy boundaries is essential for a healthy happy life Christ had healthy boundaries fallow his example he will supply the grace necessary to hold them in place keep them in prayer daily and you will prevail through and by his strength we are more than conquerors this is why he died to set the captives free whom the sun sets free is free indeed in boundaries there is freedom and rest God bless❤️

[@luisamedici5890]

THANK U 🙏 👼🏻 THANK U 🙏 👼🏻 THANK U 🙏 👼🏻 FATHER SCHMITZ! And God Bless you! 👼🏻 Pax n Shalom! 🙏🙏🙏

[@jovialhoneybee]

This happened with one of my bosses...I'm ADHD and have HUGE issues with time management. I've had jobs were managers tell me to be on time. I try but still struggle. Over time they just wouldn't say anything. They would mention the work I do is more valuable. Then came the boss that changed my perspective. She told me that no matter how hard I worked if I was not on time it degrades all the work I do and she finds it extremely hurtful. But it gets better she actually took the time to listen to my struggles without judgment. I told her it's been a bad habit for years and after a while I just stopped trying because it felt like there was no point. She did not fire me and actually worked with me. Meaning I would try every day to get there a little earlier than the day before. She even taught me how to prioritize tasks. I really saw God's love, mercy, and discipline through her and I'm so grateful to have met her! ❤

[@lydiaannmartinez451]

Holy smokes!! That was great Fr. Mike..😁 boundaries are important.. very important. And are a must.

[@ChiakiNanami736]

I’m mildly autistic, so boundaries have always been a sore point, both in terms of me perceiving others' (especially as a woman, where people expect me to be strong in this area,) and in terms of being totally unable to set boundaries without being a jerk 😕

[@eleonoradf3395]

Same for me.

[@scojo6377]

Idk if I'm autistic or not for sure, but I usually just avoid those people and situations without saying why instead of saying whats bothering me. (I'm a man by the way) I guess that can be pretty rude and confusing now that I think about it.

[@georgesandraos5377]

God bless you always Fr. Mike 🙏 According to myself, I am someone who is willing to improve my bad behaviour more than others bad behaviour that might be intolerable, but for sure up to a certain extent. I completely agree that we need to stay humble to accept fully that we need to improve a certain bad behaviour 🙏

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@carolinehowell5362]

So true, so simple but so hard. "We get the behavior we tolerate". So important to learn boundaries and practice making boundaries early in life.

[@RebeccaSaladino62]

God speaks to me so much through your videos Father! Thank you!!

[@patriciabhat2843]

My behaviour towards others is more often than not guided by "do unto others, as you would have them do unto you". This has proved to be a very powerful and effective guide in my thinking, attitude and behaviour. Whereas tolerating ill behaviour of others towards you is as good as condoning such behaviour, accepting it as 'it's an alright kind of a thing' . It does harm to both the receiver and the giver. Standing up against such behaviour on the other hand brings (in most instances) at least some iota of realisation at some time or the other and we hope a change in them too. This is a tried and tested 'receipe' I have engaged in especially at my place of work in the last 22 years. Thank you Fr Mike for this pragmatic sharing.

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you,,,,,

[@bluebear7061]

Real scam report

[@patriciabhat2843]

@@bishopdavidoyedepo5490 It would do you good to refrain from your evil inclinations and falsehood.

[@moorieman]

Thank you so much Father Mike. The way you put all these topics you talk about into simple and understandable words is simply amazing. Every video I watched from you so far gives me a boost to be myself and to be better. And I must admit I am not a Christian. But your message is universal. Keep doing what you are doing. We need more people like you!

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you

[@Richie016]

God's love surpasses all calousness and casts away any wickedness that dwells within the ignorant.

[@godschild_hope1289]

Did I need to hear this Father Mike. I've been complacent for way too many years. I'm learning as I grow.....although I still fall back. Praying for all of us to be bold, stand strong in the Lord and set boundaries. God Bless!

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you,,

[@bluebear7061]

@@bishopdavidoyedepo5490 stop you are being reported. God hate this

[@SevenDeMagnus]

Thanks Fr. This sure helps simply the decision, significantly. God bless you.

[@frassaticars4694]

Thank you Father!

[@claudiaarias5421]

Padre su video me lo envió mi prima (que es como mi hermana, que vive en California) soy Colombiana, no se inglés, entiendo muy poco, pero con el traductor de KZbin... he captado el maravilloso mensaje, lo que dice en este video es tan revelador para mi en este momento... es como si me quitara una venda de mis ojos. Es la forma de encaminar ese Si definitivo al Señor. Gracias.

[@cathycalrow2729]

I wish this comment had been written in English. The video is in English.

[@Pallanos7]

She says she understands very little English but she managed to play the video using KZbin subtitles. She thinks the message is wonderfull and she finds it revealing right now for her life, like following a path to our Lord. Finally she is grateful for it.

[@sajalipathirana228]

So true,an answer I've been searching for.Thankyou so much Father Mike

[@annaforever160]

The level of tolerance for each person varies according to different situations. For instance when I'm with family I am more intolerant with the little imperfections I see in the behaviour of my close ones because reconciling with family is easier. But when with the people I come across at work, I have no choice but to show more tolerance with them and so I behave accordingly. Even if some things that they do may not be proper or if it annoys me, I'll have to patiently bear with it because it is necessary to be in good relationships with them if you have to survive there and it will give a clearer vision about what your work looks like so that you can function more efficiently.

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you,,,,,

[@bluebear7061]

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[@mathewayers3803]

@Anna Varghse: I'm so glad you said this, because I'm the exact same way (especially with my friends). I don't know if it's because we know our own families more and it's just easier to get more irritated, but I don't know if I'm just "people-pleasing" with my friends. But it's good to know that I'm not the only one like this.

[@joyyoung3319]

Thank You Father Mike. God Bless You!

[@melissajorgensen7917]

You teach people how to teat you by what you tolerate. And I very much struggle with boundaries and consequences.

[@deraralk3916]

Thank you Father.

[@anneturner2759]

Right on Fr. Mike 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[@shirleysteward]

Thank you Father Mike💕

[@bishopdavidoyedepo5490]

Child of God as I was praying. God ministered to me in a revelation as I view your profile, to see things around you, I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them, in prayers, i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, for God immediate intervention in your life, Render a seed offering with Anything you can afford or give to the motherless, sow it to ( EGHOSA ORPHANAGE HOME ) in Edo state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help, call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on WhatsApp or call them now on [phone] Tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah i4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you