Setting Healthy Boundaries: The Art of Empowerment, Not Control

[@lisadyer5151]

Sometimes, maybe twice a year, I get a massage to help relax my nerves. This helps with buildup of a bad marriage and being a caregiver for my mother who has dementia.

[@yvonnemiles7433]

It’s frustrating when they say “I’m just venting, I’m not asking you to fix it” But it’s the same problem over and over again.

[@lwitherspoon7069]

Sometimes there are extenuating circumstances why people fall asleep behind the wheel ask your friend if her car recently came from being serviced.

[@monaperry2635]

Is there an email for Leslie Vernick, I would love to connect with her, and hear her objective view point and open for correction on my situation with my husband.

[@leslievernick]

Unfortunately, I'm not able to respond to personal situations via email. Very soon, though, I will be offering a Moving Beyond Coaching Week. Please keep an eye out and hopefully we can get your questions answered there!

[@goldenrulebanner2896]

Steward yourself.

[@Olivertwist1967]

This is the first video I've watched and am so grateful. I won't be able to take part in live ones, as I am always busy at the times or days you seem to have them. I am unsure how to 'register' for the correct webinars though. When I go to your site, it just has one listed and I try to input my info and can't see the input boxes. Anyway, my question is... when I say or show my 'no' and my husband becomes a martyr and goes into a depression as well as often physical issues manifest, I don't know what to do. He has helped me through many depression moments in my life but I can't seem to be able to help him without getting drug back in to his 'needs' for what I said 'no' to in the first place. Help.

[@zuuumbaaa]

It seems like your husband has an issue when he is told "no". Do you feel free to approach him and bring your concern about this? If you did that, how would he react? If you do not feel safe bringing him a concern, you may want to check if you are in a destructive relationship. Leslie has a video called "Difference between a difficult, disappointing and destructive marriage" that may help you. She also has the book The Emotionally Destructive Marriage and Natalie Hoffman has the book Is It Me? Making Sense of My Confusing Marriage.

[@Olivertwist1967]

Thank you! I feel like he does that because he hates letting me down and when I don't "desire" him, he feels something is wrong with him. I can explain it to him so many times and tell him about all my abuse but he can never truly understand. I feel bad that he is affected by my past abuse and the person who did it is dead so there is nobody to be mad at for it. It is what it is. I know we love each other but sex is his love and it just isn't mine. @@zuuumbaaa

[@yvonnemiles7433]

Not good at saying no