Sex Addiction and Narcissism | Know What is What | Dr. Doug Weiss

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For the last 30 years, licensed psychologist has helped thousands of couples deal with issues like sex addiction and intimacy anorexia. In this video, Dr. Doug discusses the similarities and differences of sex addiction, intimacy anorexia, and narcissism.
For many whose spouses are sex addicts and intimacy anorexics, they feel like they’re living with a narcissist. The reason is because addicts are immature and selfish in their addiction. They also don’t have a lot of empathy, use people, don’t recognize their consequences, and don’t care. In the process of trying to figure them out, the partner looks it up online and see that many of their spouses’ traits align with narcissism.
The truth is they may be narcissist, or they may not be. It may just be the result of being a sex addict or intimacy anorexic. The symptom clusters of the two topics look very similar. How would someone discern the difference? That is what you can learn in the next few minutes.
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Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.
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[@shatteringthemask1871]

Dr Weiss, the odds of you hearing me out of the thousands you deal with are next to none. I want you to know that I am a mom of five daughters, been with my husband for almost 18 years. I found out in 2018. I’ve bought every material you have. I booked an intensive three years ago where I finally had hope but he lost his job and it was ruined. Since then, I am still so alone but I have NEVER stopped watching you. Please never stop, you are the only man that has ever heard me, without even knowing me. I don’t know I can go on anymore like this. I want to thank you. Keep going

[@DrDougWeiss]

Thank you for your kind words and for sharing this. It breaks my heart to hear that you have gone through such hardship and for the pain that you carry right now. You are not at fault for what transpired, and I want you to know that you are not alone. In spite of this, it is vital that you stay in encouragement and have a source of support for yourself. If you need to talk about this, you can call our office at 719-278-3708 to connect with one of our counselors or phone support groups. Or if you haven't already, you can join our free Partners Facebook group for community support: facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa

[@leticiabarnes9614]

What you said here made more sense than anything I've heard in the last year.

[@Vandi8419]

This is NO WAY possible for me- My husband is narcissistic, porno addicted, social media addicted, was molested as a child, hes mean to only me and kids- and SUPER KIND to everyone else- he doesnt believe anything wrong with him- which is why I am the one trying to study watch and learn more- he wont do anything- I was just trying to learn to help me and kids COPE- until I move out...hes 48 years old been married a long time- he wont leave though CAUSE I am a VP and make alot of money....I will have to leave....

[@katrinaburgess825]

Thank you! This was like having an epiphany. I thought my husband was narcissistic with a sex issue. But the entire definition of narcissism didn’t fit. Other things you said made so much sense and for some reason i feel like a weight has been lifted

[@Chris_The_Cameraman]

❤️❤️❤️

[@belindariojasjones2540]

I’m currently contemplating making my exit from my 4 year marriage. I’m married to a sex addict/narcissist. Our psychologist assessed us about a month ago. He argued with our counselor because he felt left out. He’s no longer counseling with her. He has been in a 12 step program for about 6 months and has an accountability partner. I recently caught him having an affair. He didn’t share with his group. I don’t trust him, or believe anything he says. I don’t think this will work. I have endured his rages for 4 years and I’m ready to leave. Lately his rages have become more aggressive and verbally abusive. I have my own counselor, thank goodness. She helps me keep things in perspective. You have amazing information and knowledge. I would like to get more info regarding your counsel in my situation. Thank you

[@DrDougWeiss]

I'm sorry you have experienced from this situation, your pain and trauma from this are real. You can join our Partners phone group and Facebook group for guidance and support. www.drdougweiss.com/groups/partner-groups/ www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/#womens_partner_of_sex_addicts_group

[@lavmerc352]

I’m sorry to hear that. Your situation is similar with mine. Except I’ve been with my spouse for 16+ years. It was just a couple years ago when I realized I’m married to a narcissist. I had to do counseling to heal and restore my emotional health which in turn has affected my physical and mental health. I have 2 kids who have been deeply affected by the lack of love, emotional neglect, betrayal of this man. I’ve tried to leave, but due to my codependency issues, including financial and mental instability, I feel very incapable of raising my 2 kids on my own. I am better now than before but I feel very tired. I feel my energy has been reduced all these years. But I have more self love and awareness and boundaries, very very important. Now I’m looking and focus onto healing my children. I hope you find help and solution before it destroys you and the people you love. @DrDougWeiss, please help my family.

[@manbearpig7950]

Well it's been 2 yrs, I hope things worked out and that you have found peace and happiness.

[@wishes8737]

I found out my husband of 20 years was living double life, long term affairs with 2 of my friends which were also wives of is mates , affairs at work , porn ect He denied everything except the one I had verbal proof of from her all the others he gaslit me refused family counseling, said he had ptsd from work, lined up one of his women and abandoned his family and all I got was that he was sorry for his sins of the past , blamed our marriage took no responsibility went for 80% in court and I’ve been broken ever since. It’s so hard to her these men owning their behaviour for their family maybe he just didn’t love me.

[@DrDougWeiss]

Sorry to hear about your situation.The pain and trauma you have experienced from this are real. We have a Partners phone group and Facebook group available for support. www.drdougweiss.com/groups/partner-groups/ facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/

[@quatervois7966]

It's not only men who are sex addicts/narcissists. Believe me.....there are plenty of women out there that are sex addict/narcissists.

[@immers2410]

@@quatervois7966yeah, I just came out of a relationship with one of my

[@elizabethmale1773]

Since WHEN, do narcissists answer questions honestly. Do you really think the narcissist isn’t going to slant their answers? Pfft. You’ve never lived with a somatic narcissist.

[@1010QUEEN7]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@leeamadei1042]

@@1010QUEEN7 they never take responsibility they never admit to the thigs they do to people

[@frosty_farms]

Exactly. This guy obviously hasn't met my partner

[@soumilyade1057]

The point I wanted to clarify. It always is "what do you think?" "Oh I do nothing for you, right" "oh yes, I am to be blamed" whenever I expres myself, it's mostly taken as a confrontation. No matter how drained and upset I feel, it's always me who's deemed as being over demanding and apathetic.

[@brooklynbutterfly3240]

They hate honestly, it deflates their false sense of self

[@justmebecky5937]

I’m a recovered cocaine addict. I didn’t care about anything then. No empathy. No compassion. Now I’m Healing from a situation with a sex addict or narcissist or idk now. After listening to this. Idk. It’s so very sad when you care but don’t anymore.

[@DrDougWeiss]

I think you might want to watch the "Narcissism, Sex Addiction, and Intimacy Anorexia" DVD to help you further or to get a psychological test done. www.drdougweiss.com/product/narcissism-sex-addiction-intimacy-anorexia-dvd/

[@wendymccolm]

Why would anyone want to heal if it’s serving them? They seem happy - sincerely curious as I had to walk away from mine and feel so crazy

[@carolannday9082]

Not all addicts don't care. I'm an addict and I care deeply.

[@carolannday9082]

I really don't like that you said that, "All addicts don't care." You're wrong! You saying that makes me think you're all about money. I respected you, I actually bought one of your books, but now I'm second guessing everything you say.

[@DrDougWeiss]

I’m a recovering addict myself so I care and you do too in your recovery in the addiction. It’s not that the addict doesn't love or care at all (although in some cases it can be), it’s just that in the addiction other people take a lower place/priority in their lives. An addict can still love but as long as they don't work towards recovery, they don't care enough about others to fully stop the behavior, they care more about themselves. The more the person submits to their addiction (puts it first), the less they care (the less empathy they have) about those around them.

[@claudiastanciu1805]

What does caring equate to you as an addict? If you care you should start caring and loving yourself first in a healthy way, before even thinking you care for others around you

[@jacquelinenoel149]

I think this is why I just ended it with a man I was seeing... it's sad because I don't know if he would even get tested, ex marine 30yrs

[@Thankful305]

He won't get help. He believes he's not the problem!! Even though he definitely acts like a teenager with no empathy. And prides prides himself on 'not having a problem with porn like most of his friends !' He'll soon be my ex husband. I couldn't deal with constantly being ignored, hated and abused because of his temper tantrums when I shared my own thoughts concerns and opinions. If I agreed with him, he was happy. Ugh! Just like a child :/

[@DrDougWeiss]

The pain you have experienced from this is valid. We have a Partners phone and Facebook group you can join, along with the Married & Alone phone and Facebook group as well for support. www.drdougweiss.com/groups/partner-groups/ facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/ www.drdougweiss.com/groups/married-alone-groups/ facebook.com/groups/MarriedandAlone/

[@NevaFreeman-fr6vu]

How do I get me husband to commit to help? He’s been cheating with prostitution for years. He’s 76 this was so helpful

[@willw7523]

He’s too old to learn better

[@Narcjus]

The narcissist I knew made out he was a sex addict. I think it's the opposite. I think they are too in control of their sexuality.

[@ozzmetalhead1969]

My ex, just recently , for lack of a better term, emotionally divorced me. She shows signs and traits of narcissism. But I figure out that she's a sex addict. I think she's both. As I sit here emotionally taxed to the point of going to inpatient mental health how do I figure this out? Because if she hoovers me I will go back to her right now. I don't have very much money because I'm disabled. I just need ansewers!

[@DrDougWeiss]

After reading your situation I would recommend you talk with a counselor.

[@funnyvalentine1983]

Thank you so much. This makes so much sense and it helps me understand my partner.

[@amberh3333]

And what do you do when you are poor? Let your marriage fall apart? No pastor is equipped to handle what NY husband has told me. But it's ruining us. I've put 20 years in this. But I'm at my wits end and he ruined us over and over financially...so how do I get help?

[@DrDougWeiss]

Thanks for reaching out, Amber. I'm not sure where you're located, but Heart to Heart Counseling Center has low cost support groups and affordable therapy options available. There are also helpful books and resources that can be helpful at www.drdougweiss.com/store Also, follow Heart to Heart Counseling Center for occsional free groups.

[@azilahchan1]

This! Wow. I was in a relationship with a guy who claimed his wife filed for divorce because he was sex addicted. He said he would have flashes of women in his head that would make him get to the point of complete dysfunction throughout the day and he would end up mast*rbating multiple times but the urge would never really go away. Being with him for 2 years + I was never mistreated sexually but he did have anger issues and was rather immature when it came to making decisions in his life. I loved him so much and was willing to work with his issues but he ended up returning to his wife and children, absolutely gutted. Now you have really just summed all of that in this 9 min video. I have so much better understanding of his situation now. I wished he knew how much I wanted to work with him on his issues.

[@jonobioway5105]

Good day Doctor you speak so much sense, addictions are seem directly related to a childhood trauma and the root cause of insecurities, depression and projections of passive aggressive behavior. I recently broke it off with a 36 single mother that lacks the maturity to acknowledge and take responsibility for her hurtful behavior and can't take any constructive criticism without being told she's being bashed but meanwhile back at the ranch she constantly projects her fears. How can we fix this problem and heal our hurt?

[@DrDougWeiss]

She would have to want help, aside from that you can't really do much. If she agrees, you two could do counseling to help get to the root of the issue and heal your relationship.

[@estherbeechy8204]

Oh the is so helpful!! Makes so much sense now.

[@reginaldwitcher96]

Yu made the most sense out of Narcissism ,than i ever geard before. Great Lecture Doctor. First time that i have heard this. Wow. Great Info

[@Harleyrider1976]

My ex narc was a huge sex addict but very rarely could climax. (Sorry for being so blunt).. when we would have sex, he would always demand that I say how good he is and that I’m only his. Over and over, he needed to hear this. I don’t understand?

[@themarriedcouple9924]

Low self esteem. Usually the mother didn't nurture him enough and his father wasn't reassuring enough. That's all it is.

[@mommovesherbabies2384]

He masturbated too much from his sex addiction.

[@keldub7123]

20 years of pain and confusion, for me. Ive walked away a few times but i keep getting drawn back. I thought he was narcissistic, have bombarded my brain with info on narcissism as he displays the same symptoms with me but everybody else gets a completely different person, the wonderful sypportive person that he can be. I seem to be thee only one who is granted 0 care factor. This alone has made it even harder for me to understand what was going on for a long time. Lots of porn use by him, lack of intimacy and little to no empathy and every other immature symptom you just discussed. I have felt broken and alone and uncared for so many times throughout this relationship. He hasnt committed to counselling in the past, he hoes once or twice and then doesnt discuss it again. Theres always an excuse why he cant go. This topic gives me hope again, i just need to convince him it is worth looking at because he shuts any conversation down about how i am feeling,. He haa a nack of turning things around to avoid the "talks" MY question is, can you help me find or recommend a therapist in Melbourne Australia? If not, do you offer zoom appointments for international clients? Thankyou so much, Kelley 🙏

[@DrDougWeiss]

What you have experienced all these years his mistreatment is indeed heartbreaking and traumatic. Recovery is available to him but only if he chooses to get it. If he is unwilling, he will not get better and things will get worse. We have many useful sex addiction recovery resources at: www.sexaddict.com/sex-addiction-help-resources/ In regards to him being a different person to everyone else, check out intimacyanorexia.com and see if this applies as well. Regardless, you have experienced partner betrayal trauma in your relationship with him. You can start your own healing and support for yourself. We have partner betrayal trauma therapists available to help guide and encourage you through the process. While most of them are located in the US, we do have some in other countries. You can check out our AASAT website to see if there is one in your region: aasat.org/find-therapist/ Aside from that, we do offer phone counseling/groups and virtual counseling. You can contact us at 719-278-3708 and our staff can answer your questions in regards to this and how to get started. We also have a Partners Facebook support group you can join as well. You don't have to go through this painful situation all by yourself. facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/ The Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook are resources that validate what you have experienced while helping you to work through it. www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/ You might also find the DVDs "He Needs To Change" and "Why Do I Stay, When It Doesn't Make Sense" helpful. www.drdougweiss.com/product/he-needs-to-change-dr-weiss-video-download/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-do-i-stay-video-download/

[@starseed462]

There is no stopping a sex addiction narcissist! . I have no time to. Change or. Convince a 64 year old man

[@sandracaezza7234]

My ex spouse is an addict . He is a retired RPH has decided to have a PO Box & gets steroids. Very child like, gay porn maybe gay now????? Playing a large victim now. He was supposed to dump me , I however monitored his phone for months & after 24 yr of recovery,relapse etc the gay porn was the end. I do believe his emotional growth stopped at abt 14 His last day here was 1-1-23. If he’s gay he should be drug free now Right ?????? Not so, always an addict needs that dopamine hit anyway he can get it

[@stephenwilson1012]

You might have just saved my life

[@mightyleonidas1545]

Dr.weiss I am at the end of my rope. I am struggling in my marriage big time. I think you already know why. But i need help,I am willing to pay for insight,advice,therapy,anything to help my marriage get back on track and so our family can move forward! What steps do I need to take to get in touch with you?

[@olunicholas4362]

Dr Weiss, thank you so much for your videos, they're eye opener. Please how can I make my husband seek help? He cheated on me big time (emotionally, sexual and financial). I am suspecting he's a SA because of the way he was begging for phone sex from his affair partner. He lack empathy and act immaturely. How affordable is your service?

[@DrDougWeiss]

You can call us at 719-278-3708 to get information about the cost. You can't make him do anything though, the choice ultimately is up to him. The trauma you have experienced from this is real. You can join our Partners phone group or Facebook group for support as well. www.drdougweiss.com/groups/partner-groups/ facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/

[@1010QUEEN7]

You are married to a narcissist

[@ivetabombalova3933]

Divorce him! Do not give your power away! Your husband is teaching you a lesson of self-respect and self-love. You deserve to be loved and respected. You must let him go in order to be free. He is your karmic contract. Once you realize what this connection is teaching you, the relationship will be over. I can guide you by giving you the necessary spiritual tools that will help you to get out of this toxic relationship. I do this for free. It is up to you to make the choice: a man with a title or an abused woman who used to be a prostitute. Think about it carefully because this decision can change the direction in your life. Whether positive or negative that is up to you as we all were born with a free will to choose.

[@teresanolivo4075]

I'm suing mine. He played me for a fool hiding his porn addiction from me for 4 years. I'm going after him with all I got. Sue him for every last penny. I'm getting my Justice

[@jensbornagain]

Question. My husband has been a sex addict for 34 years and my therapist said after all the things I told her is most prob a narcissist after finding out about his porn strip clubs and affairs 2.5 years ago he swears he isn’t still watching but my gut tells me he is so far it’s never been wrong just I also don’t want to just assume cuz now I do have insecurities in our relation. I don’t think he can just stop this behavior with any help. He won’t get help. What are the signs he is still in this behavior ? He is depressed. Angry unmotivated etc but the all of a sudden when he comes home from work he is very happy. I stayed before if he continues to act out I will divorce him. Please help !!!!!

[@DrDougWeiss]

He can take a polygraph to verify his being free or not. His refusal will give you information as well. You're correct to believe most people need help, both group and counseling. Your trauma from all this is real and it would be good for you to start getting help for yourself to heal by calling us at 719-278-3708. If you haven't already, join our Partners phone group and Facebook book support groups. www.drdougweiss.com/partner-group/ facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/

[@dawnbarker9148]

My husband is a SA. His CSAT tested him and he scored VERY high in narcicism. We are 3 years d day. He says he has the addiction licked and doesn't need recovery. He still has addictive behavior. Is there any hope or should I just give up. I can't make him care or get better.

[@DrDougWeiss]

Only you can decide if this is an acceptable relationship. If he has decided to not grow, then you can either accept or not accept his decision.

[@ruggedlifejewelry]

Can you do an intensive long distance if the person cannot take off work? How much are your packages? Thanks

[@DrDougWeiss]

Sorry but our intensives are only done in person here at our counseling center (people usually travel here to do so). We do have regular counseling over the phone as well as phone and Facebook support groups. You can call us at 719-278-3708 about our rates, availability, and resources and we would be happy to answer these questions.

[@azremwarcross4656]

Great comparison but in my case he was Covert tested and data proved the person in my situation has NPD so it does help to be accurate to know the test does not lie . He also and has sex addiction including drugs and alcohol addiction and sex offender. So it is important to be accurate about it don't try to diagnose the person only phycologist have the way of acessment. In my case of my situation I believe the phycologist acessment.

[@lancenorman6721]

I feel I’m a sex addict and want to get help. What can I do to start getting the help I need?

[@stacymcclure3531]

Wow. This is enlightening. TY for what you do & the fact that I can learn from the right source about what my fiancé has been dealing with & what’s happened to me during this relationship. I’ve cried my eyes out so much over the pain that I’ve endured not understanding this sort of thing. I feel hopeful to heal from this soon. There are no good counselors in our area so I just might be scheduling a trip to visit you!

[@DrDougWeiss]

You're welcome. Your pain from this is valid. I hope all goes well. We also have a Partners of Sex Addicts phone group and Facebook group that can give you support if you'd like to join. www.drdougweiss.com/partner-group/ facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/

[@kibby5774]

WHAT IN THE H@** MAKES YOU THINK A NARCISSIST WOULD GO TO ANYONE????

[@lindaaposto175]

Why? Why is my devotion so distorted by my partners inability to control his behaviour 😢

[@AmericanMoodSwings]

Great information!

[@krissykritter700]

First of all of us have narcissistic traits and narcissism is not a diagnosis for a mental illness. Like most other personality issues it is on a continuum. Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental illness. The person doesn't have to be diagnosed to do a lot of damage in relationships. I've been with somatic types and the evil crappie did behind my back is Way Beyond just the sex addiction and it has very little to do with sex it just has to do with thrill-seeking and attention-getting. My ex is now in prison and is a sex offender so I can tell the difference between a sex addict who feels remorse and a narcissist who doesn't mind hurting people at all. The big tip-off to whether a person is high and narcissistic traits is their ability to take accountability. They never admit to a fault or any wrong and probably not going to go see you for help. Not all sex addicts are narcissists but I don't believe it stands on its own I believe all addiction disorders are caused from a deeper issue but that's just an opinion

[@ihartzfam297]

ALL human beings do not have narcissistic traits … all humans have the ability to be selfish or self-centered but that is not the same as being on the narcissistic spectrum. Also, if you truly have narcissistic personality disorder, it is exactly that - a personality disorder. Personality disorders are not the same as mental illness but they are all [mental illnesses and personality disorders] diagnosed through the DSM (the diagnostic manual for therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, etc). I only say this because there is so much disinformation and a narcissist likes to use the idea that “everyone” is a narcissist to gaslight and emotionally abuse the victim.

[@desiredhaven4019]

"FIRST OF ALL"?? HA! WELL, I GUESS YOU TOLD US DR. KRISSY KRITTER!! Is someone a little full of themselves?

[@gemimapuddleduck28]

It all makes sense! Just a shame, he didn’t, or, want to see it, to get the help 😢

[@xxfr8_trainxx601]

Hello, Dr. Weiss, I spoke with Lisa this afternoon. We are getting ready to schedule a 5 day intensive with you complete with polygraph and possibly neuromod. Is the MMPI given within the first couple days? Would you recommend the neuromod for SA/IA/PA and possible narcissist? Any help would be appreciated. Thank you for all you do.

[@DrDougWeiss]

In our intensives with me, the MMPI is done on Monday or Tuesday. As for your question on the neuromod for SA/IA/PA and possible narcissist, yes I would recommend it.

[@pedrosanchez6406]

Please can you make a video about sex addictions and drugs? I was kind of homeless traveller living in a bad environment with people from streets flirting and be' flirted and my mind and her , wasnt stable. Now i feel bad for that way feel so guilty

[@epidancefitness]

Hello doctor..i want to clarify my emotions about my partners behavior..im looking into a narc and sex addict as well but i dnt know how to validate it...ive been into anxiety already and too much pain...i want to confirm my observations about narcs on how to identify it..im open to questions dr.pls help me validate

[@bellesterbeatty3571]

My narc is an addict. Drugs, alcohol, gambling, power, and children. All topics mentioned are scary and expensive. But kids? God forbid!

[@Chris_The_Cameraman]

THANK YOU DOCTOR!❤️🙏🏻

[@DrDougWeiss]

You're welcome

[@hix9306]

I want to seek help for myself !

[@IloveTheHolyOne]

Thank you very much!

[@josephineobrien5293]

Hello Dr. Weiss, i live ourside of the US, hence calling your office isn't possible for me. how can I get in touch with you? Do you have an email address?

[@DrDougWeiss]

You can email us at [e-mail] for any questions you may have or about our helpful resources that you can use.

[@milaboeva3714]

But what we can do or think about people who realise it, admit they are wrong but still say it’s who I am, deal with it and give me what I need if you don’t want me cheat on you 😢

[@pietergeldenhuys5030]

Very interesting

[@user-qm3kv2rm8u]

I been with my husband for 26 years,let me say that we both have done wrong,but my question is my husband has sexual issues and he won't get help because he is in denial,any suggestions

[@DrDougWeiss]

Here at Heart To Heart Counseling Center, we have a variety of different resources available regarding marital issues and sex addiction. There's in person and virtual counseling, support groups, and even our 3 or 5-day intensives, which provide a condensed counseling experience in a short time. You can contact our office at 719-278-3708 and we can help get you started. However, it is important to understand that he has to be willing to change. If he doesn't want to get help and heal, he will stay the same. You can get still healing and support for yourself though with one of our certified therapists. We also have a Partners Facebook group you can join for encouragement and support. You are not alone in this. facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/

[@victorkroud3642]

A psychologist informed us that addicts are narcissistic. Their feelings take priority over all other things.

[@adriantoogenuine]

Thanks so much 😢

[@classyme05]

So this is what I kinda realised this is my personal experience... society makes you believe p0rn is normal... but me personally its bad... I remember I used p0rn to be a witch to my husband, why? Because it made me unattached cold towards him I felt no emotions towards him like if something in me switched... I stopped when I realised the big rabbit whole it can put you in from your brain wanting more and more and more to the feeling of not finding your partner attractive or not wanting to be intimate it was just scary of how it can mess up your mind and mess up the relationship as well. Then again drs will tell you its normal but then again why will pharma say any different if they make money from erectile disfunction and everything addiction comes with it. Fallow the money makes you wonder why its so accessible and free right at your finger tips...

[@authentictothecore]

It would be so much easier to get the good information here if you didn't spend so much time on self promotion.

[@terencehennegan1439]

Agreed 👌

[@johnjaeger8103]

Hoping to come and get some help. Where are you located?

[@DrDougWeiss]

Our counseling center is in Colorado Springs, Colorado. However, we do have licensed therapists in other states and countries around the world. You can call us at 719-278-3708 for more information about our place or you go to aasat.org/find-therapist/ to find a therapist in your area.

[@thadallen7508]

Dr wise I need help can't find right class here in kc

[@DrDougWeiss]

Which class are you referring to? You can call us at 719-278-3708 and we will try to help you find what you are looking for.

[@DianeBrandstetter]

Thank you

[@DrDougWeiss]

You're welcome

[@R.Inferno444]

I really just don't kare no more

[@libo6368]

Excellent

[@gozitan5]

Great video. Thanks !

[@DrDougWeiss]

Glad you liked it!

[@pheranmyemmanuel6882]

I need someone to talk to, is there anyone ?

[@DrDougWeiss]

You can call us at 719-278-3708 or email us at [e-mail]

[@pheranmyemmanuel6882]

I really need help 😞

[@jensbornagain]

I am with you. Unless you are rich and can afford 300 for a therapist there is no help. 😢

[@SouLightness]

What do you think of going to a therapist, mention there maybe sex addiction and the therapist sanctioning polyamory or viewing pornography? Siding with the possible narc or addict...

[@user-zj7ei9fw5n]

Can Sex addict or NARCs fool an NMPI?

[@DrDougWeiss]

Not in my experience but the questions need to be worded precisely and the polygraph person being credible. If you need help with this, call the Heart To Heart Counseling Center office at 719-278-3708 to make an appointment to speak to a counselor.

[@user-zj7ei9fw5n]

Thank you. Do you do intensives for sex addicts with assessments then measurement testing for narcissism? Then do you coach the men on changing habits such as DARVO so they can build emotional intimacy with their betrayed partners?

[@Vandi8419]

in other words, what I was trying to say is he does not think he has a problem with any of this- so he isnt going to get tested or talk with anyone- I was just trying to learn so I can cope= oh and he is also a alcoholic- I forgot that- we have zero relationship- he drinks alone outside at night about 3-4 times a week- he is a Functional Alcoholic though- he works- He says SEX withme SUCKS cause I am boring- and he says he has to take care of himself (so he uses Porn) Cause I wont take care of him- hes said this statement for YEARS. LATELY I have noticed a NEW Characteristic- PARANOID- I took him to a BdayHotel Weekend- just us- to be away thought we could have good SEX- he would not TALK about what feels good to me or anything- cause he was WORRIED about people hearing in the hallway or through the walls at the HOTEL???? so WEIRD- We got married at age 28 =we are now upper 40s / early 50s- I was telling him I have to rev up to getting turned on- a women takes more time - he was telling me this is BORING- and NOT to Insult his "Manhood" by telling him what makes me feel good- he said he has made MANY Women feel good- I SAID- YES, but that was back in your 20s- we are older - he is offended - he makes fun of me and so on- he is super kind to any outside people and super rude to me and kids- I am currently in a PHASE where he is IGNORING Me- so I was doing some research.

[@carolboldt]

This is never spoken about! Perhaps, my hundreds of video viewing's on narcissism from various different sources are INCORRECT? I am a very sexual woman (healthy) but th man I am involved with, the sex with so many others, his view of sex, how he views HIMSELF as a male sexual person is OFF! you shared with me that he was sexually abused as a child and as an early adolescent? perhaps narcissism is not the diagnosis....

[@Vandi8419]

this video was a year ago, but hopefully you will see my comments... ty

[@jesusacruz8165]

I walk away to my ex narc .i found out hes living double life .he use porn and pick up prostiture .and different woman .before discarding period hes comparing to my daughter which is 38 years old. Shes divorce now because i walk away i use to contact my daughter but he was manipulated by her dad .im worried she might be a next target .she live alone and vulnerable together with my grandson .im worried shes down because of divorce and im worried that my ex is sex addict and i think has a bad intention to my daughter so help me God.i wish you can respond about my worries .thanks a lot 😢

[@Progamers0.0]

waw maybe !

[@aliciamilne8535]

Is it an npi test?

[@DrDougWeiss]

It's the MMPI test which is used to diagnose mental health disorders and conditions.

[@aliciamilne8535]

@@DrDougWeiss thank you!

[@DrDougWeiss]

@@aliciamilne8535 You're welcome

[@paucher]

My husband doesn’t want help.

[@meawesome1651]

But narcissists use people not only for sex they need supply including emotions,money, etc..

[@Wahhhhhhhh-hhh]

Fake books in background

[@mistert7958]

Green screen, three cameras, enough already!

[@jordanjefferies7977]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@Lionila-tb7zv]

🙏 😢

[@mariemoro5214]

🙏

[@Progamers0.0]

help me ! its my wife

[@DrDougWeiss]

You can reach out and schedule with one of our counselors or coaches at 719-278-3708.