Sex After SCI (Spinal Cord Injury) | Can You Get an Erection?!

[@brenreidy8763]

The amount of admiration and respect I have for you two is off the charts. I need not explain why.

[@LA-86]

It is admirable when people are willing to share their experience

[@danielcolon203]

Tku 4 the support

[@johnavery5586]

Hello and great to see you both combating these issues together, I had my MVA in 1980 leaving me a T6 Incomplete break, I was 18 at the time. With little to no information on sex and or intimacy in general we were largely left to blunder through life, affecting males and females alike. I have since experimented with all manner of sexual matters, medication, positions, communities, and life coaching with Tantric Sex. But still, I find the dating game is littered with stereotypes and bigotry based on misconceptions. So thank you both for your effort to enlighten both people with disabilities and the wider population.

[@Zee-ob1pe]

I’m glad you are an open couple about your sexual life. You made this an educational video. I remember seeing another interabled couple and they were angry at commenters for asking questions related to their sex life (Sabia and Loren). The human mind is curious. Some people don’t mean to be rude.

[@PARALIFE]

It's not the easiest thing to discuss in public, but these things are important and hard to get your head around after a SCI. Hopefully these videos will help some people 😀

[@CarlThompsonIsCool]

Great video! Thanks for being so open to educate others! I recently started a channel with my girlfriend (I use a wheelchair, she walks), we're hoping to be able to share the realities of interabled relationships and reduce the stigma around disability 😊

[@PARALIFE]

Glad you enjoyed it! It's not the easiest topic to talk about but it is important. We've had a look at your channel and are looking forward to seeing more from you, good luck! 😀

[@vishnudaspute5326]

@@PARALIFE you guys are doing a very good job, taking very much efforts for our SCI community. Your all the videos are being realy very helpful. Is the Vaccurect pump useful for us . Have u ever tried to use. I purchased it but irection dosent stay for enjoying the sex. Is that injection Ok to have sex.

[@autism_momma_LosAngeles]

Excellent job teaching this topic in such an easy to understand video

[@mikehughes2668]

Guys that was a really good video, questions I have wondered over the passed three months so thanks for being so open about it. So many different aspects to sex and intimacy is so important. Learning so much from you both, keep the videos coming. Thanks.

[@PARALIFE]

Thanks for the kind message, we're glad you found it useful. It's not the easiest topic to discuss but it's so important!

[@aarondaniel9022]

I've been a paraplegic for 23 years now and paralyzed from nipples down. And yes there is still sex life after the injury. True I can't feel below my injury level but, she can. And that makes up for my loss, to know I can still preform the best way I can.

[@aidenbross]

Bro it’s actually fucking awful. Do you feel less horny since you can’t even feel your dick? I’m watching a show on Netflix about a quarterback who is paralyzed which is why I found this video. I’m sorry for what you went through how bad does something like that hurt?

[@aarondaniel9022]

@aidenbross it's still in your mind it just doesn't control the equipment. But as long as you are strong minded it's the effort that counts. Besides who doesn't like hearing the best sexual person I've been with is in a wheelchair . Fact

[@someonerandom6379]

Really appreciate this conversation. My partner didn’t find any tablets worked properly so we have moved onto the injections. They do work more reliably but the worry of the erection lasting dangerously wrong has been an issue. We have become far more creative and both realise that sex isn’t all about an erection. Especially if ejaculation isn’t possible.

[@PARALIFE]

We're glad you found it helpful! Thanks for the info about the injections. Sex is definitely more than just intercourse (but having that option is nice)! Ejaculation is possible for a large percentage of men with SCI (but not necessarily through intercourse). We are planning to make a video about this soon.

[@someonerandom6379]

We have tried numerous options but 8 years post injury he still hasn’t been able to achieve ejaculation. We have spoken to lots of medical professionals and other sci men and sadly it’s very common not to be able to ejaculate. If you make a video please ensure you make this clear so people don’t just think they’re unusual or partners don’t think it could happen if they just tried other things.

[@PARALIFE]

@@someonerandom6379 We're sorry to hear that it doesn't work for you, but thanks for the feedback, we will definitely make it clear that it unfortunately just doesn't work for some people!

[@RsRj-qd2cg]

I used to use trimix and it worked great. But at some point I realized that a penis pump and ring were much cheaper and worked just as well lol. Plus I can just take the ring off after we're done. With trimix, the erection is stuck there for 3-4 hours! And you're only supposed to use it every other night. There are definitely ways to be intimate without intercourse too. One of my partners in college was also paralyzed and we just made out and did nipple stimulation. We tried PIV once and managed to make it work but neither of us could feel it so we switched to 69'ing which worked way better.

[@kathymaslowskibrightflower9638]

Thankyou for sharing & being open about this subject 🙏🏽🌈🌟

[@PARALIFE]

We're glad you enjoyed it 😀

[@alannahhouston5798]

Hi there! I'm an OT student in NI and came across your videos as I'm currently doing an assignment on housing adaptations and psychosocial changes for a person with paraplegia. I am interested in including sex in my assignment and was so grateful of this video! I was wondering if you had any info or if you could direct me to somewhere about the experience of a paraplegic woman during intercourse? Thanks for your content, it's been so helpful to see toilet transfers etc. Take care.

[@HappyHibee]

Not sure if you ever got the info you were looking for or if you even still need it but this video is a fantastic example of how sex works from the perspective of a paraplegic woman. I hope this helps? m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/aJyXlX2BZbd0jpo&pp=ygUNc2NpIHNleCB3b21lbg%3D%3D

[@birhanezemichael2678]

i am new to your channel. i am paraplegic and i hope the channel will help me finding good information related to my disability.

[@PARALIFE]

We're glad to have you with us 😃

[@milahh6422]

Thank you for learning us a bit more about your life style

[@LulaS]

Very interesting! Thank you so much for sharing that and keep up the awesome work.

[@PARALIFE]

Thanks for watching! 😃

[@dlbrittain1976]

Thanks guys...its a very important subject. That doesn't get much discussion..

[@PARALIFE]

Thanks Dan :)

[@dlbrittain1976]

@@PARALIFE 😊👍

[@katphillips6045]

So you can’t even feel sex? That must be so frustrating! Thank you for sharing

[@PARALIFE]

It can be a little frustrating, but I can still feel the other aspects of it, so I can still enjoy sex. Thanks for watching 👍

[@eyeyamI]

@@PARALIFE I would imagine you can also get pleasure out of knowing your partner is enjoying it.

[@PARALIFE]

@@eyeyamI exactly 😊

[@clemsonbloke]

@@PARALIFE Forgive me but I had a question. Are you able to ejaculate? I mean for say if you wanted to have children? By the way I am a gay guy and I just wanted to say that you are a hot guy man! Take care.

[@mysoundmindz]

Great educational video. Thanks

[@sjp4u338]

So sad. I’m sorry these young people have to deal with this. 😢

[@barrylyndon80]

Horrible, nobody should have to deal with things like that.

[@repeekyraidcero]

Fascinating. Thanks ! Finally some actual answers.

[@Lifedisabledd]

Respectfully thank you for talking about this.

[@gaurav2009june]

Thank You So Much for this informative video. I am working as neurophysiotherpist.

[@miss_aliciak]

This was very enlightening thank you 😊

[@aidenw207]

What is the point of sex if you can't feel anything below the waist? Just to go through the actions and motions?

[@B1998-u3t]

Getting your partner off is the point

[@mostazezo]

😭 extensive nipple rubbing

[@eyeyamI]

This was amazing. Thank you.

[@Christian-oi4zx]

Do you still respond to comments?

[@anandkumar-gc8im]

Hello...will u please suggest any pill... I am c2-c3 injury level.. 2018 Now i am able to walk Have 40% bladder control.... I do almost everything apart from weight lifting.... But erection =zero...

[@PARALIFE]

It's a difficult one, since everyone is so different. We would recommend contacting your doctor or urologist for advice 👍

[@anandkumar-gc8im]

@@PARALIFE sure ♥️

[@mekharikendrick9067]

Im t10 and im 17 in rehab right now

[@rudedudesonu9909]

Complete or incomplte

[@rubyrose1231]

Thanks so much sharing ❣️❣️

[@PARALIFE]

You're welcome 😃

[@danielcolon203]

I meant to say the medication called HIMS OR HIM will it work if I take it an hour before having sex

[@davelarson5672]

I’ve really appreciated your candor. This will sound stupid. I can still walk, so I thought my ED was from the pain of mentally worried about the possibility of the increase pain with pelvic thrust. That’s why I thought it was in my head (as in brain, you dirty minded people). Even laying flat on my back and my wife doing all of the work, in many ways, it still didn’t care. Delete this if it violates any rules. My tongue works fine and I enjoy using it (it’s always been an arousal for me and obviously her. However, she wants intercourse. Because I didn’t think it’s physical, I never talked to my doctor. I will next visit.

[@PARALIFE]

Glad you found it useful. Everyone is affected in different ways, and the only way to know is to talk about it! Hope everything gets sorted 👍

[@ايمنمعتصم-ب1ه]

We need translation to arabic Thank u four this video

[@PARALIFE]

Unfortunately, we don't speak Arabic, so can't provide a translation. However, we are happy to upload a translation if someone provides us with one 😃

[@morgancalvi6675]

Sildenafil, or Viagara, can be bad if you use it and you have heart issues...or a C4 injury, which affects the heart beat...so discussing it (many people will go and try it based on your talking about it...just wanted them to know it may not be the best thing).

[@PARALIFE]

Good point, definitely important to consider the side-effects and check with your doctor before trying any new medications.

[@crazybaboon1749]

First off all respect to you guys; but I would correct the statement at 1:26 below T11 you can get bot relex and psychogenic erection if S2,3,4 is okay.

[@aidenbross]

I think I would actually just kill myself if I became paralyzed man. You’re a legend

[@tonyc.5344]

Now almost 50yrs old and a father of 2, I got paralyzed as a teenager and lost sexual function. I'm not 100% sure of this but I do believe that masturbation helped me regain function.

[@dilipkachhap8841]

Can you help mee

[@B1998-u3t]

You can feel sex now. ?

[@rexultimus1422]

lol 😂 i’m fucking dead

[@richp.1234]

What's so funny bruh?

[@danielcolon203]

I'm paralyzed from the chest down but have had sex multiple times it's just been a long time am I anxiety is the most part if I take the medication himself an hour b4 can I still proform

[@danielcolon203]

I ment 2 say the medication call Hims will it work 4 me

[@julianarreola6318]

Can men with spinal bifida have children?

[@PARALIFE]

This isn't really our specialty, but some men with spina bifida can have children! It probably depends more on the specific person and injury, since everyone is different

[@JohnSmith-sj2dk]

Tadalafil is better, with less side effects and longer lasting

[@malsawmtluangamalsawma6735]

I'm spinal injury why my urine is like burning it so hurt a lot

[@sanbrimo4547]

If you're a male , you must have prostatitis or a UTI (urinary tract infection). Consult your Urologist, pronto !

[@joenissan]

If you can’t feel it, why bother having sex at all?

[@jacksprat3287]

its for her

[@ajsgaming932]

Hey I am Ajaroo Ram From india T11 complete injury I want to chat with you

[@vishnudaspute5326]

Where are you from

[@guntherw6819]

If you need to get it up, and remain at it all night go'ogle Mario Volpstein's stuff, trust me you will be amazed and yes, you will have "singing" starting the first day.

[@samjordan6166]

I have tried viagra but I'd did not work well. I also got a uncomfortable headache from it

[@glenntankard2534]

I am incomplete C5-6 w zero sex feeling. Tried viagra w no luck. I’ve given up.

[@aarondaniel9022]

I'm a complete t-5 t-7. Dude get trimix. I don't feel anything but she does

[@glenntankard2534]

@@aarondaniel9022 Awesome thank you I’ll give it a go

[@angelcastillo5298]

Can I please message u guys i hot few questions

[@PARALIFE]

You can send us a DM on Instagram or email us if you'd like

[@jonvan2451]

🫡 my friend

[@drooshmaroosh8261]

You need to animate yourselves a little more. You have a sort of deadpan delivery, although the content you are communicating is good.

[@ingebeckmann3534]

Droosh, you're being a douche.

[@drooshmaroosh8261]

@@ingebeckmann3534 Why don't you go back into that hole you crawled out from if you have nothing better to do than act like a troll and post rude comments.

[@v4v819]

@@drooshmaroosh8261 "if you have nothing better to do than act like a troll and post rude comments" You're projecting...

[@alexojideagu]

Most British people are not as hyper or animated as Americans, including KZbin. Also it's a sensitive topic.

[@covenetslayer1497]

So I was in a car accident about 5 months ago. I had damage to my t10 and t11 and it was incomplete. My girl wants to spend time with me but I can't get it up and I have no idea how to tell her.

[@PARALIFE]

It's a difficult one, we suggest being honest, talk to your doctor about ways to get it up and enjoy the other aspects of intimacy 😀

[@covenetslayer1497]

@@PARALIFE alright thanks for responding I appreciate it 😊

[@sanbrimo4547]

@@tonybilly5878 Somebody up there likes you, congrats !

[@scoonii4420]

Doggy style is still a strong possibility

[@JAHalmightyful]

What about ejaculation

[@sandralyons4997]

I think I'll go out and find a boyfriend in a wheelchair!!

[@mostazezo]

💀

[@nobodyaskedyou9004]

They really talked all that shh to say nothing. We know how impotence works. It’s a direct question that your circling around giving texts book answers. The answer is clearly No! Just say it damn.

[@geno5169]

I thank you for sharing your amazing story together! This wA very interesting! I took Cialis at age of 56! My eyes got blurry then I lost my vision from taking Cialis! I have those injections to help me get hard! It’s not sexy to ask my wife to jab me! But she doesn’t mind!

[@حمضياتالجميح]

I used Viagra 100mg and I'm T12 and still nothing

[@LuisAyala-z9n]

have you tried a penis pump?