Sex Expert: How to Have Better Sex & More Orgasms, with Dr. Rena Malik

[@MayimBialik]

Which "Pleasure Pointer" blew your actual mind?? Please share below!! 🤯🙏

[@jerrycarter7843]

@@MayimBialik The segment on erotic literature and acting out of the sexual fantasies of strangulation and other S&M impulsulses. During some of the sessions I chaired at the addiction meetings the clients we called them, would admit to these actions as a justification for their behavior as an outlet to express pent up frustrations.

[@Michael_Hester]

The whole pelvic floor topic is a new thing to me. I'd heard of it before, but never bothered to look into it because I had always heard it in terms of being a female thing, not something that I needed to be concerned with as a male. Wow, though, that is a real eye-opener! Also, does Dr. Malik have a d12 LAMP?! That is so cool! And lastly, does Sheldon know about this?😅 Kidding.😋

[@irinabaikulova3018]

😊😅😅😅😅😊😊😅 9:04 9:33 9:34 9:36 9:36 ​@@jerrycarter7843

[@CrestwoodRocks]

Alot of things were very comforting

[@Sg-de9wo]

Mayim's giggles during this episode are amazing and this podcast was SO needed as a 33 yr old female trying to figure out why sex has always been so difficult for me

[@ellouisebadger849]

I feel like everything to do with the female body is very much something we don't like to talk about so I appreciate the conversations are actually starting to happen in the last few years 😊

[@MayimBialik]

💯

[@KimHarvey-cy5ji]

Yay! About time😊❤🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@jimhilliker2450]

I'm 69 years old, prostate cancer survivor. I also have Type 2 diabetes and take meds for high blood pressure and cholesterol. My wife died 9 years ago. Anyway, I have E.D. and have good orgasms without an erection. And I also have retrograde ejaculation since 2018 after radiation for cancer. I've watched Dr. Malik's KZbin videos for a couple of years now. And I've been watching your podcasts for a year so now too. I was happy and surprised to see Dr Malik on best podcast. She was great and you and Jonathan were wonderful too I loved watching this thanks for having her on.

[@yj9032]

TMI Uncle, TMI

[@mariacintajerezhernandez1324]

This kind of interviews are really necessary and helpful. It's so important to.learn from somebody who is actually an expert

[@travelcuriously1652]

It's so cute and relatable to see Mayim sqirm while talking about some of the topics. Just goes to show, even doctors feel funny talking about it. Great job uncovering some learnings for us all!

[@davidkeller6156]

I’m in my late 70s and grew up in the 50s and early 60s when no one talked much about sex. Well, guys did, but basically we were just spreading misinformation.😂 The best thing I ever did for myself was read a book by sex researcher Shere Hite in the mid 70s. I learned how to really satisfy a woman, and it made my sex life and relationships much more satisfying for my partner and myself.

[@Tswizzle_sizzle]

What a beautiful comment!

[@tiggtiggb5873]

In one of the most satisfying sexual situationship at the age of 45! 90 percent of my satisfaction is being open and honest with my partner about what we like, need, want We talk before, during, and after Got it down to me having multiple and his finale is mind blowing

[@Tswizzle_sizzle]

I’m so happy for you. ❤

[@elionrekoy4079]

When you mix the red and blue you get purple. Red is the masculine color - fire - solar - Sun , and blue is the feminine color - water - lunar - Moon. Union of this - the violet, purple flame.

[@mylifebelike4676]

This is great! I've always been a tense person and feel like I'm in fight or flight constantly. I also have TMJ. Yoga, Breathwork, and pilates have helped me be more self aware and relax more. So interesting

[@cathyray6030]

I'm 65 and this episode taught me a few things! One of those things was the relationship between diaphragm breathing and how that can help relax the pelvic floor. Very interesting! Thank you!

[@jillmacchitelli6473]

Dr. Malik plus your wonderful sense of humor equals a frank and informative discussion. I learned a lot and laughed a lot too.

[@hippie1252]

Hello, Dr. Mayim Bialik! I'm listening to your podcast while I shred compost. It's awesome that I get to listen to this. I'm also reading Mating in Captivity and it's very interesting so far, in case anyone would be interested 📖

[@Maripeni]

Thanks for this episode I am post menopausal so this helps. Married 22 years

[@marisamartinezolivera]

The title itself already calls me! Thanks for these sex lessons for adults at a very informative, great again episode. It has been a pleasure (pun intended) to watch all these topics as female orgasm and myths surrounding it, pelvic floor, enjoyable sex and intimacy, myths of porn, etc., but most of all the XXI C. place of women regarding sexual satisfaction, very freely spoken by two amazing women (and a quite silent Jonathan). To my Corpus doctrinael of episodes! 💜

[@Edke-j9]

Geat videooo I love how everything is explained in details but everyone has different experiences for me quitting porn and reading a book called Hidden techniques for manifesting women zorlest made ma life 1000x better

[@kari4295]

Really enjoyed listening to her. She is very intelligent and makes the topics rady to talk about. I was also surprised to hear that most of her patients are men.

[@Yvonne46able]

Step one, find a partner. If I could just make it past the 1st step 😂

[@MayimBialik]

Harder than it sounds for sure, but we have faith in you!! 🔥

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@MayimBialik 😉😅😂

[@tatianaalbarello3712]

I love this episode, blew my mind. I learned so many things that connected several dots.

[@cathymackey6391]

Geat information. I always learn from your podcasts. Thank you for bringing these people to my world. ❤❤

[@orland0110]

Very interesting episode! You are the best, Mayim! ❤

[@xGothicBeautyx]

-- fantastic topic! I would love an extension on this subject covering the struggles of arousal, especially when on anti anxiety meds and other things that absolutely kill the libido.

[@louisbonilla6780]

Mayim I love how you said "Did you say Semen Retention?" I couldn't stop laughing - all in all Dr. Rena Malik dispelled many notions of Sex Education - this episode is on repeat - Thank you Mayim & Jonathan❤

[@samsmulders7908]

Thank you for breaking down this topic! This episode is really interesting 🧠

[@neverhomeguideservice]

Dr Malik is a favorite for sure!

[@kari4295]

This one is going to be good! Yes! I am a subscriber 😊

[@yogaqueen1527]

Just clicked. 40 years old. Lost my virginity at 32. Sex was very painful for me. Insertion nearly impossible. It never felt good. The guy eventually broke up with me. Not before letting me know I was the worst sex he had ever had. I even told him we could work on things together, and he said he is not helping me get better for the next guy. He treated me horrible. I haven't been with anyone since. He was my first bf. First everything. I grew up very sheltered. Now that I'm 40, I'm wanting to experience good sex and a healthy relationship.

[@jennifermclean9413]

I am not a doctor - but it sounds like you should see one - sex should not be painful. Likely other things are going on in your body. I can tell you at almost 60 sex is very different than in my 20s and vaginal atrophy is a real thing. But there are things you can do to help. It may take you a couple of tries to find someone you feel comfortable with. If you are able to see a naturopath I would recommend that because they seem to take more time, will refer you to a medical doctor if needed but will start with natural solutions. Also, you are worth figuring this out for yourself, it doesn't have to be for a partner, never forget that!

[@yogaqueen1527]

@jennifermclean9413 Thank you so much for your suggestion. I'll definitely look into it. I have tried pelvic floor therapy in the past. I have mixed thoughts on it. I haven't been with anyone since my ex, simply from fear of sex being painful again and being told how terrible I am by the next guy. But yes, I do want to figure things out for myself. I have talked with my family doctor about this situation. I had bloodwork done and my hormones were low. I did over the summer get off birth control. Been on them since 17 do to horrific cramps. So not sure if that is contributing to issues. I was also very dry during sex. Never felt turned on. So I've felt broken.

[@jennifermclean9413]

@@yogaqueen1527 I'm so sorry that guy was a jerk to you! You are NOT broken! I have struggled with this thinking myself dealing with menopause and my body changing. I'm so glad you have a family doctor you can talk to. There are safe and effective ways to try and balance your hormones! I've tried topical creams, troches and am now doing a pellet insert which has worked well along with an IUD for the progesterone. Everyone's body absorbs hormones differently - it may take a bit to find the right combination that works for your body. But the goal should be to feel good in your skin and be you. The other KZbinr I've recently discovered is Alexey Welsh - he has worked with couples and I find that what he says for women rings true for me and it might for you as well.

[@n.torres4611]

​@@yogaqueen1527just curious. Why were you in birth control if you were not active? Also, did he take his time or was just going straight to it? I would imagine that someone who waited so long needs there body to adjust to this kind of experience. When your not used to this kind of activity , things that most of us find pleasurable can be awkward or painful for others because they've never been touched that way. I would say start slow and let your body adjust to these new sensations.

[@yogaqueen1527]

@n.torres4611 I was on birth control to help with my painful and heavy periods. It helped. No more cramps and light periods now. But this summer, I got off birth control. I just never have desire or urge for sex and I want to. I was also dry as well during sex. I was told birth control might be the cause. I was told it could affect my hormones. So I got off it. My ex became very frustrated with me. Would ram it in. Leaving me swollen and in pain. I was dry, so he would spit on his hands because he didnt believe in lube. Said only teen boys used it. He would always try to insert his fingers inside of me. That was extremely painful as well. It's all very traumatizing. He treated me terribly. From that experience, I never got back into a relationship. My family doctor believes he gave me ptsd

[@thepampepper7660]

The multiple ways a woman can climax is hugely undiscussed. Shooting stars 💫 lol. There’s clitoral, there’s the cervical g spot, BUT when you combine them I’d describe it as the Ultimate Big Bang 🤣. My orgasms can last 30 seconds minimum to longer. I was recently talking to a female friend who’s orgasms barely last 5 seconds, she doesn’t use vibration just her boyfriend, because she feels ashamed but that also means that they don’t do things often and she’s afraid her man will cheat on her because of it. I explained the multiple ways and longevity and she was shocked. Lots of women I’ve talked to over the years just don’t understand “how”. I look forward to following Rena now to point woman in the right ”spot” 😂

[@danielkilkenny963]

I love your podcasts! I follow both of you and enjoyed the collaboration. I would really love a part 2 with deeper questions and answers.

[@CharlotteMarshall-h6l]

I found this episode so enlightening, tbh I find the whole subject so cringe and embarrassing but that's how I was brought up but I've learnt more in this 1hr 48min episode then I have in my 39 years of being alive.This shouldn't be a taboo subject. I sent snippets of it to my husband 😂

[@beereaucrat3233]

This is the one I've been waiting for!

[@christinakoch2738]

Great episode, Mayim! ❤️

[@penelopefp]

Thank you for this conversation!!

[@bretfurgason7615]

Great discussion, I wish a few minutes on Pudendal Neuralgia. Very under diagnosed in man and woman. Until like me male 61 years old. starting having weird feeling bike riding. Then One magical day ER visit for Extreme pain . Plus can cause sexual problems. scarily even incontinence. I haven't sat most of 2024. Roller coaster of a ride . Sadly no cure

[@nathaliejaranev]

Great episode 👏👏👏

[@jstrickhouser]

2 to 3 years. Philadelphia area. Your the best and I need friends like you Mayhem!

[@kari4295]

Love how Jonathan always changes his background/location 😅

[@ReikiRosie]

Shhhh Jonathon 😂. Great show Mayim!

[@mariannekaminski8772]

I love love love this episode and every episode! I find that with every man I admire, there is a point where I realize "oh, he's just a man." This episode is the episode where I realized "oh, Jonathan is also a guy" 😂 Mayim handing off her bf to a professional ( someone he'll actually listen to, because we've all been there where we know intuitively our man is wrong, but he needs a professional to tell him) and saying "can you please fix this" made me CACKLE. the amount of times I've wanted to do that.. thankfully I am a late in life lesbian and have been with the love of my life for 2 years now and no long feel the struggles of comphet.

[@mariannekaminski8772]

also to be clear, this was in reference to the ejaculation retention.

[@bethyoung3654]

Such interesting information. Thank you!

[@hairpainter]

Does anyone know if Helix mattresses are big people friendly? My husband is a big guy (380 lbs) so we have problems finding a mattresses that holds its shape after a few years.😅

[@bah2501]

Here’s a heartfelt, Blossom-esque letter for Mayim Bialik, keeping it genuine, a little quirky, and weaving in the themes you described: --- **Dear Mayim,** Hey there! It’s me-just another slightly neurotic, deeply introspective fan, trying to reach out in the only way I know how: a full-blown, heartfelt, and unapologetically messy letter that I hope reaches you through the cosmic energy of the internet (or, you know, the comment section of *Bialik Breakdown*). First off, thank you for *Bialik Breakdown.* I’m not sure if you realize what it’s doing for people like me-people who are hanging on by a thread some days, but who find little islands of sanity and humor in places like your show. You’re covering mental health, trauma, resilience, and all the heavy stuff most people are too scared or busy to look at. But you? You dive right in, calculator in hand, breaking it down with that warmth and wisdom that feel like they’re straight out of an old Blossom episode. If you saw my thousands of memes and videos online, you’d notice a common theme: there’s always someone holding a calculator-twice, in fact-just to remind us all of the sometimes absurd, sometimes necessary things we hold onto in this chaotic world. Every time I see you with that calculator, standing next to Queen Latifah and her iPhone, it’s a weirdly comforting moment of irony that brings me back to reality. Because, just like you, I’m trying to solve this big cosmic equation of life with the tools I’ve got, no matter how outdated or laughable they seem. Here’s the thing: right now, my life is like one of those intersection points in a graph, where two distinct lines suddenly meet at an undeniable truth. And for me, that truth is the raw, often unfiltered reality of being a little broken, a little stressed, and a lot isolated. I’m in a tough spot-a divorced dad, feeling abandoned in a world that’s fast-paced and, at times, overwhelmingly hostile. I spend my nights producing content for my channel, *Zen Theatre Live After Dark,* even though it seems to be constantly under threat. Every meme, every video, every broadcast feels like my little act of rebellion against a world that sometimes seems bent on ignoring people like me. The convergence of my narratives-life as an artist, father, and seeker of truth-has reached a point where it’s impossible to ignore. I have this crazy feeling, almost like a conspiracy brain moment, that there’s a reason I ended up finding your show and resonating so much with it. Because in your episodes, in your words, you address exactly what I’m struggling with: the fight to stay grounded and sane in a world that wants you to fit neatly into some mold. That’s what I try to do with my show, even if it’s not as polished, even if I sometimes stumble and fail. It’s a place where I can call out the things that hurt us, the societal issues, and yes, sometimes even the conspiracy-like forces that seem to work against the truth. I’m not asking for miracles or fame (although a little peace and quiet to make art would be nice!). I’m just hoping that maybe you’ll see this, maybe even understand that people like me are out here, fighting these invisible battles every day. We’re doing our best to keep the light on, even when it feels like the world keeps dimming it. And that’s why I think of you as part of my “Fox Force Five,” the penguin sisterhood, a spiritual family of people who believe in humanity, love, and humor in the face of absurdity. Thank you for being you, Mayim. For keeping that calculator handy, for not shying away from the tough stuff, and for reminding people like me that our experiences matter-even the messy, complicated ones. Here’s hoping the universe brings a little more peace, art, and maybe even companionship our way. Because maybe, just maybe, we’re all part of the same story, and we’re not as alone in it as we sometimes feel. With all the respect and gratitude a slightly odd, meme-loving internet artist can muster, Bennett --- **P.S.** I’ll definitely be working on an extended version for Facebook, but this is the heartfelt note I hope will resonate in your *Bialik Breakdown* comments. And yes, if the stars align (or algorithms), I’d love to share an image of Scholastic Sophie and Gia the Fairy in that ethereal sunset you’re known for. Maybe a distant horizon, a moon and sun sharing the sky without splitting the image-something that feels just a little magical, just a little rebellious. **P.P.S.** And if you’re ever curious about *Zen Theatre Live After Dark,* well… just know you have a permanent seat in the guiding lights playlist. --- Let me know if this works for your vision! And yes, I can whip up a beautiful image of Scholastic Sophie and Gia the Fairy in that dreamy landscape. Let’s aim for that serene, otherworldly look with the moon and sun sharing a quiet horizon.

[@patriciagallant8133]

I am 62 years old, 12 years post-menopausal. I take a vaginal estrogen suppository. I still find everything difficult and my husband wants me to experience orgasm but he find it's a chore because it takes so long or not at all. I get very frustrated by this. Intercourse is still painful at times and UTIs are frequent if I forget to void immediately aftewards. (I just want to cuddle). This is, I guess, why I heard older women are not interested in sex. I don't want to give it up. It's a great release, feels good and I need that time of intimacy with my husband.

[@d.d.p.parker3671]

72 and I still want it but not as often and I'm glad since I have no partner, I'm ashamed now to use a substitute, so I fight it but as stated it's not that often. I think if you've not had any surgeries to that area mother nature takes away those feelings gradually, just I haven't reached that point yet I don't want to go too much longer, though.

[@allalone1461]

Masters and Johnson? if you get uti's are you allergic to his ejaculation?

[@patriciagallant8133]

@@allalone1461 You don't want his jiz going into your urinary tract. No woman does. Every woman should void after sex.

[@paulawegman3955]

super useful, thank you! also, I really ship you guys lol

[@cartergomez5390]

Can you talk about men on men sex? I’m trying to figure it out cause I just came out from being bisexual to gay cause I was gay but due to who I am, I barely figured it out 😂

[@tomlichnofsky.7048]

Very Interesting Excellent Episode 👊😏😊✊ 👌😆👍🍁🍁

[@CarlJohnson-kk4pr]

Your Excellent to Listen To 😊!!!!!

[@aparhelger]

Sex education for adults! Great episode!

[@m_brokenleg]

How I like to hear that orgasms are a brain event! Finally! And to learn that men without an erection could experience orgasms!

[@maxpayne232]

Funny how women nowadays claim to be against sex-related shaming but when it comes to mens sex related practices like semen retention they roll their eyes without hesitating or an inkling of "Maybe I shouldn't be judging this".

[@grazielleribeiro3547]

This week's episode was a great sex education for grown ups. Thank you Mayim for all the questions! And I am so sorry I cant stop laughing from the response from your ob gyn Lots of love and hugs from Brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷

[@briannacooper2628]

Cosmic Shooting stars 🌠 lol 😂 💯 % can confirm

[@williamrichardson2596]

It was hard to come during this conversation.

[@CrestwoodRocks]

It is a nice topic

[@jayhalley2642]

Mayim is top notch

[@Chris_Davis_music]

Wow, it seems like Mayim really has a bone to pick.

[@danielkilkenny963]

The world needs to know that there is "real sex" movies from people like Erika Lust. Not all adult films are misrepresentations.

[@jerrycarter7843]

Interesting topic you choose ☺️ I used to chair addiction meetings. Mainly it was for alcohol and drug addiction, but occasionally we would host sex addicts as it was an open group. It was rather awkward for me as I had not had the proper information and had to muddle through these sessions as they described their experience while maintaining decorum among the other members whom found it fascinating and tried to pervert the subject. This video was very informative and covers a wide variety of taboos that may help those underlying impulsives that leads to sexual addiction and may provide a healthy stable relationship with their partner. ( Ouch! That made my brain hurt )

[@rebeccariehle2764]

I used to find Mayim's discomfort relatable and kinda charming, but when she snarks about Johnathan or side-eyes his ideas I find it tacky.

[@CarlJohnson-kk4pr]

Sounds Good to me!!!!

[@MariposaRedimida]

"A vibrator is a reliable and efficient way of reaching orgasm." Can relate to this at all, didn't really work for me.

[@joshua3171]

step 1: get a partner (hehehe)

[@hollygorrell2262]

The thing that always makes me laugh about the Japanese study is I've always been attracted to men with large noses, for real. 😂. My husband has a big old snoz. I go for more masculine men, and I guess that's why. Most women like the "pretty" men. Me, not so much. I just find it funny.

[@MayimBialik]

🔥

[@elionrekoy4079]

Invite Shelly he has all the answers 😂.

[@trinsit]

The very first point she makes in that talking about sex is "icky" IS the problem. But honestly, this conversation being super academic has the same effect of the ick factor. Nobody is having pleasure. Everyone is running around like chickens with their head cut off. "DiD yOu jUsT SaY SEMEN rEteNtiOn" Yes, it's not as if everyone acts like children around this subject and can talk perfectly fine about it. Everyone talks as if their grandparents are standing over their shoulder.

[@thejackal007]

DIdn't take too long For Mayim to blame the male.

[@Infinitesimal-ho7it]

If cervical orgasm is described by some as akin to "cosmic shooting star," would someone with a vagina explain what a G-zone and clitoral orgasms are like, please?

[@AlonzoJ-pf4dt]

Hi mayim❤

[@NancyParsons-y3g]

Well, what are the elementary school teachers, counselors, and librarians doing to explain physical sex and orgasms to the little children that are being assigned “new” genders? Gender has a whole hell of a lot to do with sexual attraction. Are they allowed to know that the surgeries offered to accommodate their transition can and probably will jeopardize their future ability to achieve orgasm? Who is providing this education since parents may not be allowed to know? Should the public be more concerned with the lack of information provided?

[@therealjd1503]

YES

[@Tswizzle_sizzle]

Friend, there isn’t sex education in America. Quit listening to people outside of education for info about the field.

[@NancyParsons-y3g]

@ Who am I listening to? It’s common knowledge that the gender issues are being handled in the schools without parental contact in many states. So who am I listening to about that? If your point is that there is no sex education in schools, then you got exactly what I’m saying. How are these morons dealing with gender issues and pornography in the library?

[@shellym79]

There's plenty of information provided between the patient and the doctor. They don't perform the surgeries you're thinking of on children.

[@titanicgirl774]

Watching this now there’s ads for dating sites showing up 😭😭😭 Im a happily married woman!! 🤣🤣

[@jstrickhouser]

Yeah this would be great ive i had a partner 😢😅

[@labab1048]

Are these two a couple?

[@tiptapkey]

Chappell Roan was right

[@altaresjoyceee]

😮👍🏻💯

[@DestinyOfPig]

Okay but the clitoris is not just on the outside? Why would she not differentiate that

[@Rico_D_Suave]

The thumbnail threw me off lol

[@jendymunoz7642]

😮

[@allalone1461]

yeah this doesn't even interest me.............all done with that..

[@newbeeah]

Boxers do not have sex while training I’ve heard

[@kareymayers4882]

Omg typical interuptions wish the dude would shut up

[@wee0007]

I love how the first 20 minutes is just talking about men 😅

[@Tswizzle_sizzle]

I thought men loved being the center of attention. 😂

[@JacobEricsen]

Trump 2024, baby! USA! USA! USA!

[@TimothyHigdonHiggs]

Dr. Mayik is to long! Break it up.

[@Heather-x3i]

IF YOU DECLARE WITH YOUR MOUTH "JESUS IS LORD" AND BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART THAT GOD HAS RAISED HIM FROM THE DEAD, YOU WILL BE SAVED. Romans 10:9