Sex in Marriage | What is a Christian Couple Allowed to do in Sex? | GotQuestions.org

[@stephaneamani6476]

*Romans 12:2* "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will."

[@NewCreationInChrist896]

Amen, it’s sad how strong believers haven’t matured enough to know homosexual sex acts in a heterosexual bedroom is an abomination and approve others to practice this activity, like they can. John 14:26 🕊️

[@NewCreationInChrist896]

@@oreally8605 In Satan’s world it’s not shocking at all, the world is full of compromise. 1 Corinthians 3:16 Do you not know that you yourselves are God's temple, and that God's Spirit dwells in you

[@donshotwell8238]

@@oreally8605 Did you even watch this video?? 😂 Start at timestamp 3:02. The video CLEARLY states that things of that nature are, and I quote, "adultery." Next time, maybe view the material before getting "butt-hurt," pun intended, over absolutely nothing. 😂😂😂

[@jesseholder9795]

I know this is 3 months too late, but could you just spell it out? What are you being passive-aggressive about? What is your issue with the video and what do you think is being said as a posed to what the bible says? And how do you know what a passage means in relation to the topic when it is not specific, thus allowing for the temptation of you putting your interpretations above God's intent of the scriptures?

[@jesseholder9795]

​@lisaloveministry7530 Could youbhelp me understand what spcifically you are taking issue with? Did you watch the video? Do you believe that sex is only a sin that is required for us to procreate? What are you being passive-aggressive about? What is your issue with the video and what do you think is being said as a posed to what the bible says? And how do you know what a passage means in relation to the topic when it is not specific, thus allowing for the temptation of you putting your interpretations above God's intent of the scriptures?

[@Htownbiggs52]

This was a MUCH NEEDED video. Thanks and God Bless

[@addyap208]

Amen Thank you Paator. Your sharing has been so biblical and enriching. May God continue to bless you, your family and your ministry

[@kikiTRINI]

Good, succinct, biblically airtight teaching for a very important and less spoken of topic. Thank you!

[@kerrijohnstone7588]

Brother, you didn’t mention sodomy. Now obviously, some people will think that sort of me is between two males. I don’t believe that is the case. I believe that sodomy is anal sex. And yes, I believe that sort of me should never be practised in a Christian marriage God has made very clear that sort of me is a sin it’s just something I think. Perhaps you should mention next time. God bless

[@bobboscarato1313]

@my name Some folks are really sick!

[@Joreel]

​@@kerrijohnstone7588but as you said, this is just your conviction that God placed on your heart. The word Sodomy doesn't exist in the Bible. It was first used in the middle ages by the Catholic Church. If you believe God has told you it's wrong in your life, then you should follow that. But since it's not actually found in the Bible in reference to married couples(man and woman), only in reference to homosexuality (men and men or women and women), then it's an area that God hasn't actually spoken on, so it's left up to married couples to decide if they want to include it or not. But thank you for sharing your opinion with all of us.

[@LindaHorn-j8k]

And sodomy is brought up throughout the Bible and Christian couples shouldn’t be practicing the same type of sex.

[@terrymcdonald3731]

In the marriage bed, if it satisfies physical needs and spiritual relational connection to the unity between husband and wife as God has designed, then it is permissable, for it honors God. If it only satifies a lustful desires that do not connect hearts sprirtually, or emotionally to the place of unity and love, then it is not permissable, for it does not honor God. It really is about the impact to the relationship and the hearts involved.

[@Gloriagal78]

Agreed. I believe it’s very easy for a spouse to tell whether or not their husband/wife is engaged on that level, or simply using them as an object to fulfill desires that aren’t of God.

[@saraliza3137]

Are sex toys and things like that divinely inspired? Because it's you going to the world for something that's essentially a substitute for God's Holy Spirit and His presence in your bedroom and your sex life. None of those things were created out of God's Spirit. Why are Christians running to the world regarding anything to do with sex instead of going to our Creator Who gave this to us as a gift and asking Him about it or inviting His presence into all of that?

[@uncoolrunnings]

Thank you - I was just about to comment something similar. THE HEART behind even consensual, marital sex is important to God. Am I doing this to nature/build trust and intimacy with my spouse? Or purely for self-gratification?

[@saraliza3137]

@@uncoolrunnings This! And even with this I have never seen Christians asking God to teach them how to have sex his way or inviting them into the bedroom the sex life their marriage their love relationship etc. I see them taking what they know of sex, which is worldly knowledge, and acting like it's sanctified now because they're married, even though they've never seen what sex God's way actually is. Which means they don't have the fullness of His love friendship affection and the intimacy He intends for them to share between themselves & with each other, which is affecting how they show up outwardly in how it doesn't end up showing the fullness of God & His love to the world for the outward witness part.

[@VictorianMaid99]

Is god in bed with us?

[@Godly_character]

What I'm sure of is, satisfaction in sex has no limit. When you allow this style the desire to have another style will come. It is important that been satisfied with the other person is important.

[@marquishajerry1126]

No not the other person, your spouse, that's all.

[@ricodorsey1169]

Good finding people like this

[@larrypresnall5360]

Short answer? Anything to which both parties (within marriage) consent and by which neither one is harmed, physically, emotionally, or otherwise.

[@henrka]

This is so wrong, so for you sex is some sort of a tool to get consensual pleasure with your spouse ? How about sex is good if we want children and bad otherwise ? Don’t you think that is more biblical ? If the goal of sex is pleasure within marriage don’t you realize that every unbeliever would agree with your flawed thinking ?

[@MrsShine4Christ]

So, what about older couples who've gone through menopause, or a needed hysterectomy? Or, a pregnant wife? It's not just to have children. ​@henrka

[@MrsShine4Christ]

What if they try and can't have children? They shouldn't have sex anymore, just to show love to each other?

[@henrka]

@ Older couples lose their ability to have sex as they age, most men after 50 start losing their potency. Hysterectomies is a form of body mutilation used as a form of contraceptive, same as vasectomies.

[@henrka]

@ infertility is not the norm, but yes they should keep trying, the example is Abraham and Sarah. God can open the womb of a woman any time. And the same logic applies for older couples, Sara was very old when she first conceived.

[@paulgill5986]

Anything they want between a couple who is married, as long as it's just between the two of them.

[@mikechristian-vn1le]

1 Corinthians 7:2 doesn't seem to specify that marriage should be exclusive, but instead that it's the means, the institution, the outlet for desire, to avoid sexual immorality.

[@maryelizabeth4971]

Thank you this really helped

[@lordbealampontomyfeet9245]

It’s none of anyone’s business what married couples do in the bedroom. That’s how problems gets started like envy, and perversion.

[@VictorianMaid99]

Right

[@kennethfok]

That’s why people have sex in private. It’s not for us to be a busybody about what they are doing. It’s between the couple and God and the couple needs to give of their best to each other so that they both enjoy that act of love making. Get into any position that is most comfortable and pleasurable for both to enjoy.

[@Joreel]

​@@kennethfokThis is true. What Christian couples do in their bedrooms is their business whether it's oral, anal, sex toys, multiple positions, etc. As long as it's mutually consensual, not one of being hurt but it, and it involves no one else, the sky's the limit as to the freedom God has given us there. I honestly wish more people believed this though.

[@ronaldbobeck9636]

Okay God established his laws . Back to Father Abraham moving forward with the Old Testament Prophets . Continuing with the Christ himself and with the Authors of the New testament and the Apostolic writters and the early Church Fathers. If you want to ignore God teaching that is your choice. Your free will.

[@kennethfok]

Even if there are rules from God, I think it is between the couple and God. We have no right to interfere into what the couple is doing in the confines of their bedroom. Sex is a sacred act performed out of the public’s view so what they do is none of our business. The couple has every right to do whatever that pleases both of them.

[@PinkJoy143]

Wow, you made it plain. I’ve never heard anyone just get to it (no pun intended) without the awkwardness as if you're teaching married kindergartners. Good teaching backs it up, aligning their words with the Word of God.

[@Ytacclia]

What if one person consents but is visibly uncomfortable? Is it sinful to one or both people- how does what work?

[@VictorianMaid99]

It is sin

[@Mike-zy5fk]

@user-bz6zk9kz9v IMO, and that is all this is, it depends on the level of discomfort, details, and nature of the couple. There is mild discomfort, and traumatic pain, and the two are not the same. I can think of a couple of things my wife was hesitant and not 100% comfortable with when initially trying, but now she'll flirt with me on our lunch calls and tell me she is getting aroused at the thought of us doing those things that night. Some of what she wasn't sure about she now literally begs for at times. Rarely does one partner have the "what would you think about possibly trying ___" conversation and the response is "wow, I've been thinking about that very thing for days now." That never happens to speak of. Apprehension is normal, but the other partner should always be treated with 100% choice is their willingness, and gentleness and understanding. What if it's procreative, vaginal, missionary only--the kind some say is the only legit form? If someone has clear discomfort, there is a mental hangup or medical issue, not a sin issue. With that said, you should always treat your spouse with the utmost compassion.

[@Joreel]

Then they need to talk about it and adjust expectations in the bedroom. It's okay to consent to trying something new, but at the end of the day if it doesn't work for both people, it needs to be tabled and they need to find a new balance. It's always about communication and loving your spouse and putting their needs first as best you can. I've been married 27 years and our expectations and what we enjoy have changed as we get older, but the communication is still as important as it was when we first got married. I discovered she liked some things I didn't know she'd like as various times in our marriage and some of those things are still done and some things we simply stop because we got older and they were harder to do.

[@whatdoyouwantfromme1029]

Do everything as long as you agreed 👍

[@holmavik6756]

Anything that does not cause diseases or other harm. Obviously, both parts have to agree on their activities.

[@FLDavis]

Song of Solomon 1"1 The song of songs, which is Solomon’s. 2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine. 3 Because of the savour of thy good ointments thy name is as ointment poured forth, therefore do the virgins love thee. 4 Draw me, we will run after thee: the king hath brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will remember thy love more than wine: the upright love thee

[@patricj951]

Short answer: this question is outside of what God's word has to say. Every attempt to answer it is personal opinion and extrabiblical. It's completely up to each couples to decide and no one is allowed to judge about it. It's simply not your business what other do.

[@spencergsmith]

As long as it’s consensual between a man and a woman in a marital relationship.

[@Abigael.777]

Yes, but it is important to talk about it, so that there is an understanding, I think that everything is always allowed when both want it, except toys.

[@bradykenny5485]

Be careful to use the line of thinking that because the Bible doesnt explicitly mention it, therefore we cannot know. The pastor, and christians everywhere use biblical principles to determine these things. For example, abortion is not mentioned as sin in the Bible. But we know it is because it is murder, based on the biblical principle against murder.

[@epic8640]

What’s the best way to start on the road to disappointment and frustration, on to a cold and a dead marriage? Let sex with your spouse become a duty.

[@VictorianMaid99]

It is a dirty job...

[@epic8640]

@@VictorianMaid99 | That's when the devil did his dirty job

[@Abigael.777]

​@@epic8640Exactly, it's not dirty, it's something beautiful that has to be done whenever possible and there is time, sex in marriage is a blessing from God!

[@Abigael.777]

That's right, sex in marriage is not 'dirty' it is a blessing from God!

[@kananayah]

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge Please pray on the matter but know that Yahuah judged Sodom and Gomorra for sexual immorality! Sodomy: sexual intercourse involving anal or oral copulation. Also in the beginning Yahusha referenced Adam and Eve from a pure standpoint. Since we know they were naked and unashamed that they were made with a pure mind. They did not manipulate objects for sexual stimulation. Ask the Holy Spirit for guidance on this, just because you don't "see it" blatantly doesn't mean the concept of it being wrong is not imposed within scripture. Phillipians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praise worthy- think about such things"

[@shisur2037]

Is kissing private parts a sin?

[@Pamledger478]

How many sex positions are there in marriage? The Bible doesn't cover that.

[@deepthoughts8393]

Nope. Not following

[@hermesgabriel]

Your definition about sodomy is wrong in my opinion.

[@saraliza3137]

Before I even start this, is anyone ever teaching people to go ask God what He designed sex for? To invite Him into their bedroom and their sex life? To ask Him to teach them how to have sex His way? To sync their sex drives up with Him and with each other because the Bible doesn't say anything about mismatched sex drives or men needing it more or all the other bull crap we typically hear in church or in the world. To let God heal whatever trauma, influences, teachings, or whatever has influenced how they look at themselves, each other and all of this? I would think that specific verses regarding sex, which is always mutual for both, is predicated upon the relationship with God being healthy and being a priority. Not legalistic but actually having a good relationship and receiving God's love for yourselves and loving each other mentally spiritually emotionally and physically, not sexually, as brother and sister and as husband and wife the way God wants and desires in order for the sexual expression to happen the way it's supposed to--the way He intends. I've seen way too many teachings were there is an out-of-balance emphasis placed on sex, like it's just a thing we do because we're married. Like we think we're pleasing God just by doing this instead of understanding it's an expression of the love connection friendship affection intimacy etc God has gifted us with. It's also taught that it's a male entitlement and a female obligation. That men need it and want it more, they have to have it so the women better give it or she's sinning. A lot of pressure coercion manipulation abuse happening because of too many teachings like that. If the relational elements, the love and all the other things I already mentioned aren't there between you and God and between each other all the sex in the world is not going to fix it. But sex is talked about like it's some great fix it all. Like just keep having more and make sure you're doing it because it has to be a priority, heavy emphasis on how much of a priority this is, even more so than this other stuff which is supposed to be the foundational elements sex is being expressed out of. And should be a way bigger priority! Does anybody teach it also exemplifies and symbolizes an aspect of our relationship with Him? How the intimacy connection & oneness we're supposed to experience with each other is just like the intimacy connection & oneness we enter into while worshipping God? I'm afraid to listen to this because I've heard so much awful teaching within the church about this.

[@saraliza3137]

Also the whole book of the Song of Solomon! The Bible also says to trust in the Lord with all your heart and to not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path. Pr. 3:5-6 A lot of common, or rather, trendy, sexual practices are rooted in pagan worship rituals and or things involved in torture and imprisonment. If you don't know what God's purpose is for sex in the first place, your foundation is off. Would we even want or be interested in certain things if God's power presence Spirit and love is in that bedroom with us? I have yet to come across anybody teaching on this from that angle. It's just, well, if the Bible doesn't say stuff, go have fun. That's not submitting yourself to God in all your ways. That's leaning on your own understanding.

[@saraliza3137]

The other reason why it's so crucial to ask God to teach us how to have sex His way & the way He designed it to be is because everything we all know about sex is stuff we've learned from the world somehow. All of it! Even if you want to use toys or change positions or whatever. Whatever you know of that stuff is stuff you learned from the world somehow. It's not what God taught you about it.

[@frelife700]

Thanks sir the way you explained is more blessing to me.

[@mainnahibataunga9712]

​@@saraliza3137 can you tell me in which position a couple should have sex ? Is there any specific position written in Bible ?

[@bobboscarato1313]

Sorry your message is too long and I've lost my interest!

[@littlephoenix4037]

1:50 I'm confused. I heard the church I go to use this verse to say that a married couple can have sex as much as they want and it's not lustful. But back when Jesus was walking on earth, I'm not sure contraception existed, so couples constantly having sex would constantly be having new kids. Is that really the Godly thing to do? Especially as the couple (especially the wife) gets on in age and cannot concieve and/or healthy kids as easily. I'm just looking for some clarification here. But I really am unsettled by the whole "It can'tbe lust if you'remarried" concept...

[@VictorianMaid99]

It is just goobly goop. I hear all these religion answers on the video but no practical answers

[@ABezuidenhout370]

The early church and all of Christianity up until the 1930's believed that birth control and contraceptives were sinful (there were contraceptives even in the early church's days people used potions and unnatural sexual acts to try and prevent pregnancy and even made their own condoms) Martin Luther, John Calvin and all the early reformers believed birth control to be a sin yet you will not find a single Protestant denomination today who will stand on the truth that their predecessors believed. One by one every denomination compromised in their belief that birth control was sinful starting with the Anglican church. Only the Catholic church refused to compromise and in the 1960's Pope Paul IV reaffirmed the church's previously stated position on the use of artificial birth control, calling it "intrinsically wrong." The Pope then went on to make four predictions of what would happen if the pill were to be legalized: 1. open wide the way for marital infidelity and a general lowering of moral standards 2. Governments would coerce people into using contraception and intervene in citizens’ sexual relationships. 3. loss of respect for women 4. a loss of humility regarding humanity’s role, we would begin to see ourselves as the ultimate masters of our nature And he was right what good has come from us as a society using birth control, condoms and other contraceptives? Look up natural family planning if you would like a non sinful alternative to condoms, contraceptives and artificial birth control. God bless!

[@ABezuidenhout370]

Also God made sex for two purposes namely for procreative purposes and unitive purposes (meaning to deepen the love and bond between the spouses) However one must never separate the procreative purposes of sex from it's unitive purposes because God never intended for the two to be separate. For every act in marriage to be chaste it must meet both the procreative and unitive purposes of sex. Let's take IVF for example: it's procreative but it's not unitive because there is no sexual union which takes place between the spouses which bonds them together. Therefore it's not within God's will because it separates the procreative purposes of sex from it's unitive purposes. Let's take BDSM as another example. It is possible for BDSM to be procreative but hitting, choking, tying up your spouse during sex does not bond you together so it's non unitive and therefore BDSM should also not be practiced in a Christian marriage because it also separates the procreative from the unitive. Unnatural sexual acts like oral sex, anal, hand jobs, fingering, sex toys (which cause the man to waste his seed) are all non procreative and non unitive so it's not within God's design. Not saying God wants us to conceive every time we have sex but we should at least be open to life resulting from that act so if it is impossible that a baby could result from the act you are doing or it's contraceptive then it's wrong. Seeing sex as both procreative and unitive puts it in it's proper place because yes sex is pleasurable but the pleasure of sex is not an end in itself. Sex was made pleasurable so people would procreate and that's why a lot of people try to separate sex from it's procreative purposes because they want the pleasure that comes with sex without any of the responsibility that comes along with having it and that is wrong in God's eyes. So to answer your question sex in marriage is not lustful as long as you're open to life and you're not seperating the procreative from the unitive.

[@littlephoenix4037]

@@ABezuidenhout370 Thoughtful answer. Thanks!

[@Joreel]

​​@@littlephoenix4037Some of what he said is biblical, but much of what he said is also not supported by any scriptures in God's Word. If sex was only for procrastinating, then married couples who could not conceve would be sinning. Couples who have had all the children they can have due to age would be sinning. Couples who have developed medical problems that require the uterus to be removed or a vasectomy would be sinning. All of them would be sinning according to his interpretation of God's will for sex because they are continuing to have sex and they can't conceive a child through sex. The Bible also doesn't speak to hand jobs, sex toys, fingering, or anal sex(other than to say that a man laying with a man or a woman laying with a woman is wrong because it violates God's design for marriage). It says nothing about a husband and wife engaging in it or any of the other things mentioned as being sinful. There isn't a scripture in the Bible that forbids any of it. Oral sex within a marriage between a man and a woman is also encouraged by God as you'll see it referred to in Song of Solomon as being a good thing that is blessed by God. It was the Catholic church back in the middle ages that forbade it, not God. They forbid many things they thought were sinful based on the personal beliefs of the Pope in Rome. Do we follow the teachings of the Pope or God?

[@JimDeferio]

This was a horrible and faulty presentation. There are definitely some things that a married couple should not attempt to engage in no matter how "loving" and "other centered" they pretend to be. Would God approve of irrational behavior, especially behavior that may result in an infection or disease? There are 12 biological systems within the human body and eleven are complete within each body but ONE isn't, the reproductive system. For the completion of the reproductive system a person needs someone who is perfectly complimentary - the OPPOSITE SEX. The reproductive system should ONLY be engaged with the reproductive system of the opposite sex. So-called oral sex and so-called anal sex is not what God designed the human body for. You should not be mixing the reproductive organs with the digestive system of another (the anus & rectum are part of the digestive system and they are sewage conduits). "Oral sex" and "anal sex" are irrational and depraved expressions that are in no way connected to God or love for they are based purely in lust and in an irrational mind. I could go into all of the severe medical consequences of mixing systems but you an search that out for yourself. One more thing: God destroyed Sodom & Gomorrah and Adah & Zeboiim for sexual practices that ignorant Bible teachers are advocates for. PHILIPPIANS 1:9 "And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in KNOWLEDGE and ALL DISCERNMENT,"

[@DaniSZZ649]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts sir

[@LindaHorn-j8k]

Thank You! That was Excellent! You explained that so well.

[@JHH1027]

As a Catholic, I agree! For slightly different reasons. The Catholic Church teaches us that all sexual acts must be completed with the man ejaculating inside his wife’s vagina because the sexual act must be open to life. Sex Is for bonding and babies and if you take one away from the other, it’s a sin. Onan was struck down by God when he spilled his seed in order to not impregnate his deceased brother’s wife, Tamar.

[@JimDeferio]

@@JHH1027 Robert George is a Professor at Princeton University and also a Roman Catholic but this is not about sects but about Natural Law and the Bible. "Marriage is a comprehensive union of two sexually complementary persons who seal (consummate or complete) their relationship by the generative act - by the kind of activity that is by its nature fulfilled by the bearing, rearing, and education of children. The procreative-type act distinctively seals or completes a procreative union. Marriage ...is consummated and renewed by acts of organic bodily union and oriented and to the bearing and rearing of children." ("What Is Marriage?" by Girgis, George & Anderson. 2010. Harvard Journal of Law & Public Policy, Vol. 34, pp.245-287) "Such a union can be achieved by two and only two because no single act can organically unite three or more people at the bodily level or, therefore, seal a comprehensive union of three or more lives at other levels. Indeed, the very comprehensiveness of the union requires the marital commitment to be undivided-made to exactly one other person; but such comprehensiveness, and the exclusivity that its orientation to children demands, makes sense only on the conjugal view. Children, likewise, can have only two parents-a biological mother and father. There are two sexes, one of each type being necessary for reproduction. So marriage, a reproductive type of community, requires two-one of each sex." ("What Is Marriage?" by Girgis, George & Anderson. 2010. Harvard Journal of Law & Public Policy, Vol. 34, pp.245-287)

[@JHH1027]

@ I agree with you. Also, the Bible is a Catholic book.

[@CH3353N1NJ45]

Anything that is possible between lawfully wedded consenting heterosexual adults as in one man, one woman.

[@nikokapanen82]

Anal sex included?

[@jmaalona]

not sure where the Bible says you have to be “lawfully” wedded. The government shouldn’t be considered a necessary part of marriage. See how easily the government gets people to think it’s essential?

[@PennySmart]

​@@jmaalona I tend to agree with you. Exclusive monogamy. After all, in Bible times, Isaac took Rebecca into his tent publicly, that's all, it doesn't seem like they signed anything, much less appeared before an official

[@ethanbolen4425]

@@PennySmart but they were premoses pre law

[@CH3353N1NJ45]

@@jmaalona As in Lawfully Wedded in the Eyes of the LORD.

[@CompleteInJesus]

Very respectful and biblically informed explanation. The only part I can't understand is sex toys. Even if you use them with your spouse, you're getting some level of sexual pleasure from something that isn't your spouse. This brings in outside pleasure and disrupts the exclusively and oneness of sex. It confuses me how any Christian could put sex toys in the gray area category.

[@shisur2037]

Using sex toys is a sin, it's not natural. Wrong teaching

[@marquishajerry1126]

​@@oreally8605 I agree with you on that too. Romans 3:4 Amen.

[@tuchieinductivo]

Agreed.

[@alandab]

@@shisur2037 BS! just sayin'.

[@jesseholder9795]

​@@shisur2037biblical backing or just your opinion

[@oldtimer6528]

Some of y'all need to read Song of Solomon.

[@mikechristian-vn1le]

It seems to me that the claim that both husband and wife are bound to not require that the other do something that they are not "comfortable wth" is falsified by Paul's command that, within Christian marriage, our bodied are not our own. ,(I can always get my girlfriends to do what I like, and love it, so, in my own case, i would be much more worried that my (future) wife would want to do something to me that i didn't want.)

[@Abigael.777]

I think it's better to wait until you get married to have God's permission for sex, and if she is a woman of God, don't worry about it, she will know how to please you, because she will know the Biblical principles of giving herself to her husband without reservation.

[@icysnow57cold64]

I have a question. How comfortable are most couples actually are with each other? I heard that most women do not like getting naked and changing their clothes right in front of their boyfriends or husbands, and most women do not like their boyfriends or husbands getting naked and changing their clothes right in front of them, and most women do not like to shower with their boyfriends or husbands, and most women do not like to sleep in the same bed as their boyfriends or husbands. And I heard that when a woman has sex with her boyfriend or husband, she is most likely very uncomfortable during the whole experience. Also, I heard a reason why many women are comfortable getting naked and changing their clothes right in front of their platonic female (and male) friends (and vice versa) is because they are comfortable being naked around them and they are comfortable with them being naked around them since they don't see them as anything sexual, it's also another reason why they have no problem sleeping in the same bed as them. And also, l heard that a woman getting naked and changing her clothes right in front of a man and sleeping in the same bed as him is a very friend-zoney thing for a woman to do to a man since that means she doesn't see him as anything romantic or sexual at all. A girl being comfortable enough to be naked around a guy means he is in the friend-zone. She trusts him as a safe guy. Many girls are comfortable being naked around their male best friends because they know that their relationship is nothing more than that of a real sibling. Usually when a girl has that kind of relationship with a guy, it means she feels safe enough around him to believe he won’t try anything. I am a asexual male just to let everyone know. So I am not interested in stuff like dating and sex. So that's maybe why 3 of my platonic female friends felt comfortable getting naked and changing their clothes right in front of me and vice versa, because me and them don't see each other as anything romantic or sexual at all. So if those things are true (which I'm not sure), then that means that platonic love might be better than romantic love is, and that romantic relationships are not special.

[@sandragonzalez8910]

Your wrong if your sleeping with other women because you need to be married in God's eyes

[@kanutethegreat2908]

Wtf 💀

[@uslanja]

Wow. Alot of comments from "the weaker brother". If you believe something is a sin, then for you it is. So it is very simple; don't sin!

[@kikiTRINI]

While I agree with the direction the video is heading I have my reservations about sex toys. The bible is clear about the basis of a marital union I.e. between a man and a woman. Adding a third object or entity contradicts this. This to me includes a toy. Despite it being inanimate, it becomes a part of the intimacy. We know that all things are lawful but not suitable. This can act as a catalyst for one to step outside of the boundaries of marriage. Still a good video.

[@BriannaClaudius]

Yes it's a good video, but I don't quite agree about the sex toys.

[@shisur2037]

I don't agree with sex toys. But is it a sin to kiss private parts?

[@LMike2004]

@@oreally8605 Thought: Sodomy is sex between men. Can a man and women then ever commit sodomy?

[@robbob3717]

@@shisur2037 Nowhere does the bible call it a sin. Make your wife happy.

[@saraliza3137]

I personally think sex toys are the world's substitute for God's Holy Spirit & His presence in the bedroom the marriage & that sex life which is supposed to be a beautiful expression out of the love and friendship and intimacy God's blessed that husband and wife with. I don't think I've ever heard Christians encourage or exhort other Christians to seek God's face about what His actual design for sex is, to teach them how to have sex His way because everything any of us knows is typically knowledge from the world somehow, to infuse our marriage love & sex life with His Holy Spirit His presence & His love and to invite Him into that aspect of our marriage as well as every other aspect of it as well. I've seen some people so desperate to do away with purity culture that they'll embrace all kinds of things claiming it's freedom in Christ. Or talk about how the Bible doesn't really say things about whatever so whatever. We're supposed to trust in the Lord with all our hearts & lean not on our own understanding but in all our ways acknowledge & submit ourselves to Him and He will direct our paths. That's not just for when we're having problems! 💗

[@ericafair9983]

Good grief. We as Christians are so limited. Look at these comments: "missionary only" Really? It's none of my business what you do in the bedroom but please, if Missionary is the only thing you can do, good on ya but don't put it on others. "No sex toys"? Again, do you. As long as it's not sinful. Are sex toys a sin? Think about what sin is. Is missionary the prescribed Biblical position? Does the Bible literally say only missionary? It's none of my business but please don't tell me what to do in the bedroom. Sadly, right now, I took an antidepressant that not only gave me an allergic reaction but it has made me aorgasmic. Look into it. It's horrible!

[@JohnGodwin777]

Two out of 58 comments say missionary only. One might be a troll, the other has half a dozen replies saying he’s wrong.

[@sarahlawrence599]

@@oreally8605 hebrews 13:14 says nothing about sex

[@JohnGodwin777]

@@oreally8605 you are making the verse say something it doesn’t. It says sexual activity within a marriage is pure but outside of marriage it brings one under divine judgement. “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews‬ ‭13‬:‭4‬ ‭KJV‬‬

[@ericafair9983]

@@oreally8605 if...

[@bryant475]

Please stay away from pharmakeia as best you can, especially psychotropic meds like anti depressants. Is the aorgasmia permanent in your case? Pray about it, cleanse your body as well with good plant based nutrition! My health play list has more info on that! God bless!

[@GSpotter63]

I have always had trouble with the meaning "and the two shall become one flesh". I think some people read into this passage things that the original author did not intended... The Greek word here is σάρξ (sarx) and pertains to the physical flash... I think the original intent here was simply a reference to children where the flesh of the father and the mother become one flesh. Which is actually what happens at the biological level. I have heard the LGBTQ community use this passage to help justify their behavior. But if taken strictly as the passage indicates (procreation) then it excludes their relationship as a marriage. Do married people become one with each other emotionally and socially, yes they do but is that the intent of this passage?

[@VictorianMaid99]

They connect only for a short time then they go back to being two

[@GSpotter63]

@@VictorianMaid99 So, is the life of the child ( the blending of two indavidual into one) a short period that then separates and goes its own way? I think you're missunderstng something.

[@VictorianMaid99]

@@GSpotter63 you might have a point there.

[@GSpotter63]

@@VictorianMaid99 The act of a man placing an appendage into the slot or hole of another individual is not an act of two becoming one flash no more than a practithologist checking for hemorrhoids produces one flash. The only accurate and true understanding or meaning of any writing is the one intended by the author not the misconceptions of those who read it 2000 years later. Translating a word inaccurately in order to fit an agenda Is called a deception.

[@SuperICEMAN15]

TDE when Kendrick Left! 😂

[@tell-it-like-it-is8305]

Praise the LOAD!!! 😂😂😂

[@deanfry879]

Because of what is written in Leviticus 12, I once asked a woman if bearing a daughter took more out of her than bearing a son, which she affirmed. In everything I have heard said about marriage, I have never heard anything said about the wife getting the rest she needs (see Ruth 1:9).

[@VictorianMaid99]

True

[@yomamatx]

What do u mean ??

[@deanfry879]

@@yomamatx Ruth 1:9 is the only place in the Scriputres where a woman blesses another woman, and that blessing is for rest. "I will make a helper suitable for him," but most men misuse their wives in some way and, though he may provide some of her needs, it falls short due to laziness, ignorance, or both. I would not be surprised, when the Lord comes to judge, if many men are charged with committing adultery with/to their wives. What is written in Leviticus 12 strongly implies this is possible.

[@randellwhitney9850]

​@@deanfry879can you explain some more please What do u mean by commiting adultery to the wife?

[@randellwhitney9850]

​@@deanfry879 or with their wife

[@Adnaw-n5l]

Well done!

[@JoeNicholson-w9b]

Im not married to my partner. Financially we cannot afford it at the moment. We have two children together and I pray often we can be married. We are married in all but name. We are both dedicated to one another and want to spend the rest of our lives together. I pray that the Lord sees us as one flesh. Are we really in sin if we dont have a pastor or reverand or whoever say we are man and wife?

[@kristiankayy_]

You are in sin unfortunately if you are not married! Hopefully God will make a way for you to get married!

[@tehZevo_]

If you can afford two children, you can afford to be married.

[@rg524-8g6]

Biblically, yes.

[@mrx-od3ji]

@@tehZevo_ i love kids but i dont want to have any but sex is something i dont like even if i was married. I love life im proud i was given the gift of life but i wont have sex .

[@mrx-od3ji]

@@rg524-8g6 whats your opinion on sex? 4 me i dont like it and wont do it.

[@LMike2004]

Thoughts: Sodomy is a man who has sex with a man. Therefore, can a husband and wife ever be sodomites? Is it the type of sex that God is concerned with or whom is having sex with whom? As long as both are willing and there is no adultery, then it is my belief that they may do what they wish. Not sure about "toys." (Edit- The Lord gave me a subtle 'no' on any anal for man or woman. Not appealing at all anyway)

[@VictorianMaid99]

Yes they can

[@Joreel]

Sodimites referred to the people of Sodom and Gomorrah not married couples. Sodomy isn't a word found in the Bible as it wasn't coined until the middle ages by the Catholic church who forbid any sex outside on the missionary position by the edict of the Pope in Rome. The Bible doesn't address anal sex between a man and a woman who are married so unless someone has found a new Scripture in the past 2000 years, it's an area that God doesn't address which means it's honestly up to the couple if they choose to engage in it in the privacy of their bedroom. Same with fingering, hand jobs, sex toys, tickling yous spouse when they're blindfolded, etc.God does address oral sex in Song of Solomon and he's blessed them in their pursuit of it together.

[@marvthedog1972]

@@Joreel i agree with this, also, Sodomites refers specific to male homosexuals and the term homosexuals to females homosexuals. If you don't believe me then read your Bible and wonder why Paul states "Sodomites, homosexuals," within the same sentence. wouldnt that be the same? No because the words in greek have male and female connotations to them. So technically if man and wife want to have anal sex then that's up to them and it's not sodomy. It's all a matter of choice and comfort zone. If one does not want to then one should not pressure the other to do it.

[@jakestone5377]

Sex Is holy in a Christian marriage between a man and a women.

[@ClementineMarceline]

I thought sex is a sin

[@uncareid5557]

But where in the Word is it forbidden to take a second or third wife? David, the man after God's heart, had eight named wives (and probably many more) and at least 10 concubines (again, probably many more). When he took Uriah"s wife, God did not condemn David's harem, but his adultery, and said God told David he could have had more wives! When David was old and cold, why did they search out for a beautiful young maiden to keep him warm? Couldn't Bathsheba, Abigail, Michael, and Ahinoam have taken turns with the job? No, this post menopausal gang handed off husband warming to a younger woman. And when David could not do the deed his reign had come to an end. Multiple wives was a matter of finance not morality. The Western monogamy only teaching has no root in scripture.

[@VictorianMaid99]

Good points

[@Joreel]

Most of those were for political marriages and God was never happy with David about it. Look at what doing so did to his reign? He spent 20 years on the run from Saul. He lost his first born by Bathsheba. His later children were so messed up one raped his sister and was killed lled by his brother, while another drove David off the throne and slept with David's wife's in public. God didn't let David off for having g multiple wives, he was punished quite often throughout his life and in the end all but one of his kids survived to take the throne.

[@uncareid5557]

@@Joreel Read your Bible, Joe. David was condemned not for many wives but for taking another man's wife. He was on the run from Saul because of Saul's pride and disobedience. The sword did not leave David's house because of his adultery and murder, not because of his harem. As already stated God said he would have given David MORE wives. You are blinded by your Western upbringing. Please back up your first statement with one Scripture reference. Let me save you the time, it is not there.

[@didao28]

I don't think sextoy is good.

[@sed.aba01]

It’s not

[@Abigael.777]

Yeah, is not good at all!

[@ClementineMarceline]

Then why do some married couples use them?

[@americanzero]

That may be so, but don't force your views on others

[@AsItIsWritten66]

Wonderful!

[@Cassie27200383]

So what happens when the husband has to take medication because of a medical condition? How can the wife just take his body as hers when he can't get aroused? This part of the Bible has had me confused.

[@LemLures]

How can I know someone’s good works is from faith? and how can I know someone’s faith is from God? Is it then that I must know God to recognize Him? In order to then discern properly that Gods Spirit in dwells within that person. And if I am excited to see God for I am joyous to be with Him. Do we not then have the strength to continue to wait on Him to reveal Himself? I will then hold up scripture or Gods Word and compare to test all spirits to see if it is Gods Spirit that I may remain joyful. For I know He will give me strength to wait longingly

[@TheGospelGuy]

Sex isn't just penetration. Sex also involves hugs, kisses, rubbing, etc. Even if you can't get aroused, you can still have sex. Think about it like this. If you wouldn't do it in front of your mom, sister/ brother or friend, and involves physical contact, you can classify it as sex. Sex can be verbal, physical, emotional, and mental. Possibly spiritual if you know what I mean. You can still show your significant other how much you love them even without your penis involved. If you do it in love, it's in line with God, and the other consents to it, then there's nothing wrong with it. Hope this helps.😊

[@niecybaby1960]

When the Bible says your body is not your own, it’s not to dominate over each other, it’s more of a reminder that you two are one. I can hear your frustration and so does God. However, as Christians our focus is not to focus on ourselves so much. If your husband is ill put your attention on praying and asking God to heal him and to strengthen you so you can be a support to your husband. I know we live in a world that’s ultra focused on themselves but the Bible says God will keep you in perfect peace if you keep your mind on him. He also tells us things to think on e.g things that are honest, lovely, of good report and praiseworthy. Talk to your husband and see what he can do in terms of sex, when he’s having a good day, be compassionate and empathetic towards him putting yourself in his shoes, go to the doctor with him and discuss the side effects and look for another alternatives. You can do this! And remember God loves you, he sees you, and he wants to come closer to you. I love you too ok. Be blessed and in closing it’s also ok to find a good marriage counselor. I pray this helps.

[@Zevelyon]

He has hands and a mouth. Teach him to use them.

[@Cassie27200383]

@@Zevelyon if it isn't pleasing him he isn't really for it.

[@donho7857]

Scripture DOES say Sodomy is sin. Sodomy is defined as Anal and Oral sex!! Yes Oral sex is Sodomy! Please do a quick search and most will realize that this is a sin.

[@davidm5415]

This is blatantly incorrect. The verb "sodomy" does not appear in the Bible. the word "Sodomite" does, and this refers to, VERY SPECIFICALLY, what the people of Sodom and Gomorrah were doing.

[@gontse1386]

​@davidm5415 what were they doing?

[@deepthoughts8393]

Oral is not sodomy.

[@LindaHorn-j8k]

Absolutely Correct! Thank You so much for saying that! Because there’s also the act of sodomy which isn’t natural. That’s why if a man ever raped and sodomized a woman he would get extra time in prison for the sodomy.

[@LindaHorn-j8k]

You’re absolutely correct!

[@donmcc6573]

Whatever they want.

[@skippy675]

So would it be a sin to invite over the priest or pastor who performed the wedding ceremony? So that he could sit in the corner and watch? That's always a turn on for my wife an I. We know God enjoys watching me rail my wife. But an earthly audience is pretty cool too!

[@CC-jj7ne]

It really doesn’t matter what’s right or wrong when you are married to a woman that doesn’t care. She’d rather give it to someone else bs giving it to the one that she said I do to. And younger generation women cry about not being able to find a husband. That’s because us daddies are telling our sons, it ain’t worth the hassle.

[@joannawert3095]

One bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch. If God says he who finds a wife finds a good thing, should you be telling your boys otherwise? Also, married men actually profit from marriage more than women do. They make more money and live longer.

[@CC-jj7ne]

@@joannawert3095 God is referring to a woman that understands her role as a wife. And of course, it is a good thing. But in today’s time, women have forgotten their role. You can’t use God when it suits you. That sounds exactly like the woman I am married to. Luke warm water is spit out.

[@joannawert3095]

@@CC-jj7ne I raised and home educated our seven children. I cooked, cleaned, decorated, planned meals, shopped, did laundry, decorated, held family events, and more. My three sons are married to godly women who know their role. Likewise, my three married daughters fulfill their roles as women of God. There are many such women in my church and neighborhood. So, no, I am not using God when it suits me. I see it firsthand every day. Your bitterness is showing!

[@joannawert3095]

@@CC-jj7ne We have seven grown children. For three decades I was a SAHM and home educator. I cooked, cleaned, decorated, preserved food, worked in the garden, breastfed, shopped, planned meals. took care of special occasions, and did laundry. I took care of the kids when they were sick - three with chronic ear infections, one who had an immune deficiency disease, pneumonia, bronchitis, chicken pocks; you name it! We raised them in the faith, attending a church 25 minutes away and going up to three times a week. I started a homeschool support group and made sure they had opportunities to create, learn and grow outside of our home. Our three daughters (youngest not married) and three daughters-in-law are good wives and mothers, having 1-7 children, each. The oldest daughter works as an ER nurse part time, is a pastor's wife, and homeschools her four boys. Though her husband helps out with the boys, she is the one responsible for most of the household stuff. Our oldest son's wife has a Masters in counseling. She works for Better Health from her home. Their daughter goes to a Christian school. She, primarily, is the one to take care of their home, though our son helps with shopping and such. Our one daughter-in-law is home with seven children aged 5-12 (one set of twins). She also homeschools and takes care of the responsibilities of their home. One of our daughters has three children and is a professor at NYU. She planted a garden for the first time this year and helps with the lawn in addition to household and kid related chores. She is solely responsible for taking them to church. Another daughter-in-law does the paperwork for her husband's business, takes care of household duties, and cares for four children five and under. This fall she will be starting to homeschool their oldest. And finally, one of our daughters has five children who are six and under. She cooks and bakes, has a menagerie of animals, keeps up very well with her home, and homeschools her oldest. There are many more women like this in my neighborhood and church so I guess you're living at the wrong place geographically. Or perhaps you need to attend a more conservative church.

[@mrx-od3ji]

@@joannawert3095 i been single for 42 years i never dated i never got married and i have no kids . I dont need a wife and kids im happy living a single sexless life but i wont judge people if they married with kids or not i respect they choice.

[@samueltrevino3690]

Sex unites husband and wife

[@ezrealboni2783]

Is withdrawal method in sex is sin or using condoms or take a contraceptives is sin? God Bless you

[@shisur2037]

I don't think it is a sin. Is kissing private parts a sin?

[@ezrealboni2783]

​@@shisur2037Then Judah said to Onan, “Sleep with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.” But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother. What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death also. Genesis 38:8‭-‬10 NIV

[@ezrealboni2783]

Hope some reply to my msg the you

[@ezrealboni2783]

So withdrawal our sperm cell is not. Sin?

[@ABezuidenhout370]

Yes it's the sin of Onan. All those things you listed render the act of sex sterile.The use of contraception, any non reproductive sexual acts and spilling your seed are all sins. Sperm was not meant to be wasted, swallowed, spilled onto the floor or go into a napkin but it was meant to go into the vagina so that it can bear fruit and bring forth the next generation.

[@amyli092]

I'm not religious, but I really do not like the scrutiny or judgment that comes with Christianity as a whole, whether it's from other so-called Christians or just from the bible. I guess I just feel that the things stated in the bible shouldn't be taken so literally when it comes to the whys and hows of sex. God gave us the freedom to choose. Education is the first step so that you can feel more prepared, and the next step is knowing when the time feels right. I wholeheartedly believe in waiting to have sex after marriage, but I also believe that sex can enhance a marriage or relationship and doesn't have to be limited to just procreation.

[@LindaHorn-j8k]

I don’t think that sex in marriage is meant to be limited to just procreation but I believe that’s our guideline when it comes to the type of sex.

[@kurtn652]

Hey. It is no ones Business!!!!!

[@justapilgrimgoinhome]

Wouldnt the use of sex toys be like commintting inordinate adultery? Isnt it saying that i need more than what you are able to do for me? What about sex with a robot?

[@ABezuidenhout370]

Hi sister/ brother :) Yes using sex toys is sinful and can be seen as adultery because you are having sex with a toy instead of your spouse. Exact same thing will apply when having sex with a robot because you are having sex with something that's not your spouse so it's adultery within marriage and fornication outside of marriage. Another reason why sex toys and robot sex is sinful has to do with God's design for sex: God made sex for two purposes namely for procreative purposes and unitive purposes (meaning to deepen the love and bond between the spouses) However one must never separate the procreative purposes of sex from it's unitive purposes because God never intended for the two to be separated. For every act in marriage to be chaste it must meet both the procreative and unitive purposes of sex. Let's take IVF for example: it's procreative but it's not unitive because there is no sexual union which takes place between the spouses which bonds them together. Therefore it's not within God's will because it separates the procreative purposes of sex from it's unitive purposes. Birth control does the opposite of IVF. The sexual union takes place but it's closed off to procreation thereby rendering the act sterile. So birth control separates the sexual union from it's procreative purposes. BDSM is another example. It is possible for BDSM to be procreative but hitting, choking, tying up your spouse during sex does not bond you together so it's non unitive and therefore BDSM should also not be practiced in a Christian marriage because it also separates the procreative from the unitive. Unnatural sexual acts (oral sex, anal sex, hand sex, sex with robots, sex with animals, sex toys ect.) are all non procreative and non unitive so it's not within God's design. Not saying God wants us to conceive every time we have sex but we should at least be open to life resulting from that act so if it is impossible that a baby could result from the act you are doing (you could never make a baby using a sex toy) or it's contraceptive then it's wrong. People can look up natural family and use that instead of condoms, birth control, artificial contraceptives and unnatural sexual acts should they wish to space out having children. God bless!

[@Neptune997]

Riiiight! Biblical perspective also says Abraham, Jacob, Jacob’s sons had many wives. Solomon had many wives and Concubines.

[@Joreel]

And none of that was suggested in the video... you really need to watch it again because you missed a lot of stuff. He never suggested multiple wires or concubines.

[@spencergsmith]

Description does not equal prescription. Just because biblical figures practiced polygamy does NOT mean it was condoned by God. Every time someone had multiple wives in the Bible, things ended poorly.

[@Rory-co4vm]

@@spencergsmithwhy did god give David the wives of Saul if he merely was permitting it instead of approving?

[@spencergsmith]

@@Rory-co4vm please cite the specific instance in the Bible of God “giving” David the wives of Saul.

[@Rory-co4vm]

@@spencergsmith 2 Samuel 12:7-8 New International Version 7 Then Nathan said to David, “You are the man! This is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says: ‘I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. 8 I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more. I’m quick boi

[@ntsako4654]

Amen 🙏

[@ispyurmom9674]

Its very clear that sex is sin and never does the Bibble say its okay for husband and wife to have intimacy with one another.

[@rg524-8g6]

Bot or not

[@markm4418]

Look up what sodomy means. The word sodomy came from Sodom and Gomorrah.

[@superfreakmusic7681]

This is on the whole very balanced. However, a very taboo subject is that many older couples do get to a stage where the guy needs porn to 'get things going' so to speak. I'm going to get so much hate for saying this but lets just be brutally honest, it's because he's not as physically turned on by her as he used to be cause her looks have faded. There I said it ! Its true, no matter how much people want to deny it. So porn allows them to keep having sex. If this is forbidden then their sex life is prob gonna end up on the rocks. No amount of denial or simply telling him he HAS to find her as attractive as he used to is gonna work. Sorry to sound so harsh and brutal woman (I am one btw)

[@henrka]

First of all, marriage is not a license for sexual pleasure. All I can say is that the bible is clear in condemning the seekers of pleasure. This video fails to mention that any type of pleasure seeking within the marriage is sin, secondly this video misses that not just the chief if not sole purpose of sex is reproduction. Reproduction is not just the exclusive goal of sex, but also a consequence of the sexual act as well. So, as to what is permissible, it must be made abundantly clear that any form of contraceptive or abortion as a means of turning the sexual act into a sterile pursuit for the sole purpose of pleasure is necessarily not permitted by scripture. There is no wonder, that the church is so messed up today with guys like this one espousing a wrong view of sex, that will of necessity result in adultery and fornication. This is so because once we are of the thinking that sex is for our own pleasure as long as it is within a marital context, it becomes practically impossible to stay loyal to one’s spouse in heart, word, or deed as long as there is another woman in this world other than our spouse capable of providing us with pleasure. No man is capable of confining sex to marriage if he is of the thinking that the goal of sex is pleasure.

[@FaithinJesusChristalone]

Thanks for sharing a biblical explanation

[@norayr3975]

@@oreally8605 Oral sex is not a sin. The video even explained it. Hebrews 13:4 makes no mention of oral sex. In fact, Song of Songs 2:3 suggests that oral sex is accepted by the Bible. A husband and wife can do whatever they want with each other. As the video explained, a couple cannot bring a third person for a threesome or swap spouses because that would be adultery and thus, defiling the marriage bed.

[@MaineiacSean]

Well.... ive read the bible and . Whatever you want between you and your wife . There are no other instructions.

[@jeannieab5218]

This guy is correct!

[@maryjulia745]

Sex toys? Seriously? Read the Song of Solomon. See how a husband and wife loves one another.

[@Neptune997]

I do have questions. But it’s not in the Bible. Like how does collision between 2 neutron stars create heavy elements.

[@ronaldbobeck9636]

According to the Catechism of the Catholic church. The reference S in the Catechism say that foreplay and positions are allowed . However , every time there has to be the possibility of a pregnancy occur ing. Offense Against the Dignity of Marriage. 2392, 2393, 2394, and 2394.

[@Lilaliba88]

No matter what a man and a woman do when they sleep together, there is ALWAYS a slight chance that pregnancy occures. Even if they try to avoid it through various methods.

[@joannawert3095]

@@Lilaliba88 Good point!

[@WayTruthLife3]

Do you have a view on the Catholic requirement that it must be open to procreation? Must we really always finish the act with intercourse?

[@johnalexir7634]

They're grownups. They're "allowed" to do whatever they agree to, as long as nobody is harmed. Can we please treat people as adults with this stuff

[@ClementineMarceline]

Whatever

[@johnalexir7634]

@@ClementineMarceline Brilliant reply🙄

[@ClementineMarceline]

@johnalexir7634 Excuse me? I wanted to see a peaceful KZbin comment section and what I see is some annoyed comments people left under this video. How mature. 🙄

[@johnalexir7634]

@@ClementineMarceline I put forth an opinion, one shared by not an insignificant number of other people if you look through the comments. Your "whatever" reply struck me as juvenile and dismissive, which is why I reacted as I did. If I misintepreted than maybe it might be seen as harsh. I just believe that grownups can do what they mutually agree to do on matters that the bible simply is not clear on (though some people think it is, but that's more based on their preferences and what they might want to insert into their intrepretation on subjects like this where there's no clear and consistent answer given.)

[@haidercoversynthpianomusic747]

Allnaughtythings.......

[@JharryYggtgytdfyfg-ep9pe]

AmEn

[@maiasaigal657]

Is it normal to get distracted while praying the rosary? Is the rosary prayer still heard after being so distracted?

[@AstroMonkey88]

The rosary prayer is heard, but not accepted. It’s a practice of the false religion that is Roman Catholicism. If you are saved by grace alone through faith alone in Jesus Christ alone, know this: that all prayers said by us are heard by God. Jesus sits enthroned in Heaven making intercession for us to the Father. No human does this, but Jesus. Likewise, we have His Holy Spirit who is our Paraclete, interceding for us and offering up groans to deep for words. This is done according to the will of God.

[@arthouston7361]

@Aleksander He’s quoting the ideas of the Bible, and that God does hear all prayers…..so the only person you have to be is a believer and Bible reader. 2Timothy 3:16-17. Catechisms written by men do fall under the category of false teaching. FYI.

[@AstroMonkey88]

@@aleksander5102 If anyone teaches a different Gospel than the one given to us, he is to be accursed. Saying the Roman Catholicism is Christianity is assuring people on their road to hell. No one is saved by works. No one is saved by praying to and worshipping Mary. No one is saved by having faith in the papal office. Our theology comes from the Bible, not Rome. It is a duty of Christians to denounce false gospels and institutions seek the destruction of the church.

[@escapethematrix40]

@@AstroMonkey88 Well said..🙏

[@Gloriagal78]

@@AstroMonkey88 You’re absolutely correct. The Roman Catholic Church is not only a false world religion, but it also fulfills all the classic hallmarks of a cult. One only has to compare Roman Catholic theology with the Word of God, to see that for themselves.

[@donho7857]

davidm5415 the words Trinity and bible are NOT in the bible but they exist. So does Sodomy or a man many not lay with a man as with a woman.

[@maractusthecactus1790]

Missionary position. The entire marriage. Nothing else 😂🎉❤

[@randycomerford2038]

Boring

[@usefulidiom]

I really hope that is sarcasm.

[@bobboscarato1313]

How boring and unexciting!

[@randycomerford2038]

@@usefulidiom No it's not, that is boring.

[@VictorianMaid99]

No other position, never do anything else

[@MusaVimbi]

in my point of view, I assume that sex without intention to make kids is a sin. As God said that we must not be happy with earth(Y) things. And I assume that giving the reference of letter written by Pau (Corinthians)l shouldn't be more reliable than what God said himself.

[@Godly_character]

1 Cor 7:3,4 says it all

[@schnob92]

Can you say it all and save us a minute of searching

[@deepthoughts8393]

None of anyone’s business

[@ClementineMarceline]

Whatever

[@shanevassallo]

Why is this even a question?! 😠😡ANYTHING, you're married!

[@ClementineMarceline]

Why you getting mad? 😂

[@doneure5454]

Ugh, no dude, no one is thinking about honoring god while they're have sex.

[@movieandshowclipsss]

uh yes tf they are!

[@trunkstrafficschool7514]

As a religious person myself I feel like god will still love me the same if I have sex before marriage which I will

[@stelasenna]

I wouldn’t recommend you to do it. When God says something if you don’t to it you’re disobeying and God only wants the best for you so somehow smth can go bad.

[@HansKillius]

Anything the couple pleases to do. Nobody else's business. Keep your nose out of their love-life.

[@HansKillius]

The cited Romans passage does not spell out anything about a couples' sex life. Not an iota.

[@dennismcdonnell7853]

All these made up New Testament Laws of Constantine’s Bible need to be checked against the rule book you were born with. Otherwise, God must have different standards for different generations. Assuming that everyone is born with the same degree of God consciousness, then our ability to make judgements about what He desires us to do and be should be within all of us. If there really is a reward for good living and a penalty for bad living, then we must have been born with the correct amount of discernment, and knowing the obligation of living above the line between these two states, assuming that God only wants us to experience the good living. If on the other hand, He wants us to to understand the extent of good and evil, either by experience or observation, then perhaps some stumblings are allowed. Since we are not to believe that we can pay personally for any part of our salvation, and since we know that Jesus paid the full price for all of our sins, and since He is not required to die more than once for our sins, and since God put us into this earth environment and opportunity to be tested, then it seems to me and the intellect that I have been born with that God is quite happy for me to go through life according to the influences of my conscience and that of His Holy Spirit, and even to make a few mistakes and corrections along the way. ….May I say that your well intended efforts to make people sidestep their testing may not be what God intended. What if the Books that have been handed down have been altered, or pieces lost. With the scrolls that have been found in the past, and the ones they have recovered from the tunnels and catacombs under the Vatican, and we also know that many early church documents and letters were burnt if they were not politically expedient…..what has God said about all that ?? Scriptural learning is very necessary, but being led by the Holy Spirit as our teacher is far more trustworthy. I do not see that the character of God requires this harsh level of perfection demonstrated in the New Testament, when the New Covenant was to be written in softened hearts by His Hand and Spirit. Jesus is the Word, …..He is not a book.

[@kns5700]

❤

[@chrissysvideos]

Agreed! Amen!

[@nikokapanen82]

Even though the Holy Spirit was extremely strict with me telling me directly that He does not allow anything kinky in sex, only "Adam knew Eve" sex which is basic man-on-top sexual intercourse. So no oral, no anal, no sex toys, no different positions, etc. However, because none of this is in the Bible, this means that if some couples do practice all this kinky stuff in bed, it cannot be sinful until God Himself tells them it is.

[@jmaalona]

The Bible never said what Adam and Eve did or didn’t do.

[@PennySmart]

Many serious Bible commentators think that the Song of Songs refers, among other things, to oral sex.

[@JasperRuffin]

I doubt the Holy Spirit spoke to you and told you that. You're idea of kinky is not everyone else's definition.

[@JackmeriusTacktheritrix-000]

@@JasperRuffin Agreed

[@John-pu5kz]

Where in the Bible did it say Adam was ontop?

[@Neptune997]

Sticks & stones May break bones. Chains & whips excite like what happened to Jesus 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@JoshJarrell-t9t]

Whatever they want as long as it’s still consensual and just the two of them. Did we really need a you tube video to figure this out?

[@TheBirdmon17]

I dont think oral sex is allowed tbh...there is an ritual aspect from the egyptian book of the dead on mouths & toys are representing phallics. Certain sex positions may also mimic occult symbols like missionary & reverse cowgirl

[@BIZARREADVENTURER]

Wait, If we can't even Do missionary, How are we meant to Have sex, then? Missionary is like the most widely accepted vanilla position I'm just genuinely wondering

[@TheBirdmon17]

@@BIZARREADVENTURER you dont see animals do certain postions tho....only doggstyle. This is something even i struggle to know too but i thought to comment about since i notcie that the freemasonry logo looks like the missionary position

[@BIZARREADVENTURER]

@@TheBirdmon17 LOL! Good thing my husband loves doggy and Lazy doggy...Yeah, I didnt know it looked like freemasonry. I was just curious lol not trying to rude. TY

[@BIZARREADVENTURER]

@@jjjj-ss8dq Lol Well yeah, I'd Imagine not. Thank you ! I Was flabbergasted people could view God's Union (In any way) As wrong as long as it is between the two married under god. Proverbs 5:18-19 18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. I Always thought Sex In a marriage was a gift, A celebration Of Our Love and commitment as god intends.

[@glider1157]

That's caca...