Sex & Relationships Q&A With Calum McSwiggan! | Melanie Murphy

[@etheriaa]

there are very few people whose 30min long video i'd watch but mel is definitely one of those people

[@lizstubbs2969]

witchintraining well said, I'll be honest I could watch mel all day :-)

[@confusedsomnimoo903]

im a lil bit in love with both of you and also so glad this video is 9 years long

[@ayloak291]

Ali Le F 9 years lmao

[@CalumMcSwiggan]

Watching this for like the 4th time and I love you so much. I love us x

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

I love us too! Can we film again when I'm over this month? Do you reckon you'll have any free time? *Caspar moment* CAN I KEEP YOU!? *dramatic piano music* *tears* xxx

[@dylanlcreser]

You work together, you should make more videos together

[@maddyhatter2454]

Losing my virginity wasn't my sexual awakening, because I am still a virgin. But I've educated myself through research, and talking and listening to my friends (and watching videos like this). I already know I'm a pretty sexual person, and I have a good idea what kind of sexual person I am. I have sex toys, sent sexts, exchanged nudes. I function like any other sexual adult, mentally and physically. It's just by circumstance that I have not had actual intercourse. And it pisses me right off when people think I'm innocent and don't know anything about sex or know myself sexually. I'm almost 21, I've had plenty of time to think and explore on my own. I don't need to have had sex to be a sexual person, or experience sexual frustration, or know things about sex. Especially bdsm, I'm into it but I've had people say I'm not coz I've never done it. There's more than one way to have a sexual awakening, and having sex is just one of them! THANK YOU SO MUCH for understanding that "losing your virginity" is not the end of innocents!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

I don't like the word "virgin" full stop, the way it is often used...our bodies aren't designated property, a vagina untouched by a penis isn't a "virgin vagina" just bleh the whole concept throws me xxx

[@maddyhatter2454]

I don't even know why people who haven't had sex are looked down upon so much. It's not my bloody fault! I haven't met anyone I want to have sex with, is that such a crime? Thanks for the reply, I totally agree xxx

[@emily1celebfan]

YES GIRL YES!!!!!!!!!!!!! Literally me!

[@maddyhatter2454]

OMG! I'm not alone! *hugs*

[@Girlwithadeathnote]

I'm in the same boat! I'm 20 and still a "virgin". And you know what? I don't give a shit. :) I'll have sex when I'm good and ready.

[@Yolanda.Winston]

1.) Absolutely looooooooooooooooooooooooooved this video! 2.) You and Calum are gorgeous human beings. I love the chemistry you guys have together. I was literally smiling for 32 mins straight. Actual friendship goals. 3.) Pleeeeease make more videos together! 4.) This is hands down one of your best videos.

[@liteeshahughes238]

I came out to my nan yesterday as bi. It went very well

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

I am SO proud of you and happy for you! x

[@KingdomHeartsLoverer]

I feel people get so caught up with what society says. I'm 23 never been in a relationship and quite honestly never felt compelled to do so just because of other people's opinions. Too many people I see just get in a relationship for the sake of being in one...which doesnt allow them room to grow because they arent with the right person who allows them to have that room for them to do so. I know its hard sometimes to do but just give zero fucks about what ppl think of you and I guarantee you will feel so much happier.

[@stevie]

😏😏😏😏😏😏😏

[@flymetothemoon_13]

Stevie ooohhhh. move now stevie!! you lucky lessiiee. 😊

[@portiadee3016]

Stevie omg it will be a dream couple...😍😍😍 my gay heart waNts to explode💥

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

😍😘

[@rosaagersnapbone1313]

OMG STELANIE IS ON!!!!!!!😍😍

[@josefine5693]

this is the first 30 min-video that I've ever watched all of it AND I LOVED IT^.^ you two are so sympathetic and intelligent and i could just listen to you for hours^^:P

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

I'm so happy you watched and enjoyed all of it! :) xxx

[@livbrady8308]

Mel taking about friends being couples...little does she know 😂

[@kerrymcfetridge7508]

You are actually my favourite person ever! Not a lot of people are as honest as you are and I love it so bloody much. What a beautiful human you are

[@aoibhk7786]

I love your guys' friendship and how open you are with each other.

[@amandam5607]

This is one of the few 30 minute videos I've watched that I enjoy from begining to end, and the advice is just amazing 💚

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

SOOOOO happy you watched it the full way through and that you enjoyed it! Makes me so smiley to read that! x

[@EstherAdriana92]

Love this! I'm 24 and a virgin, and I do agree with what you're saying, it's not something you loose or you give to someone. But for me it's just that the first time is something you will always remember, so I want to do it with someone I really like and I haven't found that person yet. I'm actually am going to start a series about this on my channel as well :)

[@EstherAdriana92]

That's awesome! I used to feel a bit embarrassed about it because no one would talk about it, but I recently to go into a different direction with my KZbin channel, so in the next few weeks a lot more content regarding this will come up :) For my next series I'm going to interview some guys from Tinder about this topic, so if you have any specific question you would want me to ask them let me know ;)

[@EstherAdriana92]

For me personally, I don't even feel like I necessarily need to be in a relationship. I'm also quite introverted so it takes me some time to feel comfortable around people, even if it is just for friendship. But if I would feel comfortable around someone and would feel attracted to them and want to have sex with them, but not be in a relationship that's fine with me too. I just don't think I could just go home with a stranger, because as I said it takes some time for me to feel comfortable ;)

[@kiiirbsss]

i love waking up to new uploads. nothing like a laugh and warm cup of coffee to kick-off a morning.!

[@xMissEileeneileenstevenson]

Hahhahahahahahhha, when you said that you're not Sims and Callum yelled "HUPLA!", I full on lost my shit! Got the giggles now!

[@ErinsHoose]

I LOVED THIS. I used to encourage EVERYONE to go out with their best friends. I've been friends with Fraser for around 10 years, started fancying him about 5 years ago then he asked me out around 4 years ago. The hardest thing EVER was going from friends to something more...I didn't know how to do it. But it's been a great relationship! We unfortunately split up a couple of weeks ago and I know it's probably going to take a hell of a long time to get to the way we used to be, which is a shame. I'd still encourage people to go out with their best pals...but to accept that things might be VERY different if you break up. xxx

[@maloumasereel966]

Erin it really can be great!! To be honest it went naturally with my (now) boyfriend, we've even gotten better friends now :)

[@ellejayne8468]

I actually love you guys so much! It's so nice to hear people being so open about their sex lives, most people I know find it weird or too awkward to talk about anything like this in real life. Thank you for making my day that much better :)

[@cass-a-dilla]

This video was such reassurance for me that there are likeminded people in the world when it comes to sexuality. Just everything in this video. Yes. You two are so refreshing

[@logostic123]

This is literally the most amazing relationship video I've ever watched, hands down. It covered just about every little thing I've ever wondered about sex and relationships, and in such a relatable way. Amaaaaazing job :)

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Aw wow! THANK YOU for such a lovely enthusiastic comment - really encouraging! :) xxx

[@KatHorrocks]

LOVED this! Your sex videos are so fun to watch and SO refreshing to see on a female KZbinrs channel in particular - wish more people talked about this stuff (myself included if I can pluck up the courage one day!)

[@shauna3548]

OMG I love this 😍 this is two good , your relationship with each other is gold like talk about bestfriend goals 😂💚

[@aileensaysheyy]

please collab more haha! I genuinely had a good laugh!!😂

[@saartjetoetjebella]

Such a cool and open video! This is why you're one of my favorite KZbinrs. Sex shouldn't be shamefull. It should be fun. I also never heared of a side before so I'm superhappy I learned something! Thanks guys!

[@AnnaDublett]

You two are so amazing... the chemistry between you two is sooo cute and I love how you can talk openly about topics like this and be able to have such a positive attitude about it☺️☺️

[@isabellerea167]

i need friends like you guys, i wanna have deep talks about stuff like this 😂😭❤

[@toe300]

I love all these honest chats, I'm such and open person and my friends being disgusted when I talk about this stuff so these make me feel so great ☺️❤️

[@jessika_robin]

I love having these longer videos on as I'm getting ready. And all the laughter is making my day! 💚

[@Cheese52617]

Found your channel the other day through suggestions, and I'm love with your channel already! I've already binge watched a lot of them 😂👌🏼xx

[@CircusGirl44]

Yay! Your collaboration videos are always fantastic! Love your channel so much :)

[@confusedsomnimoo903]

HEY YOU GUYS ANSWERED MY QUESTION this is literally the best video

[@blueneonstars]

You two should start a podcast together! Take care, angels! 💕

[@queentalksanddraws1307]

PLEASE COLLAB MORE WITH CALLUM!!!!! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOU GUYS TOGETHER!!

[@caleighmcparland3337]

Please collab more often you two are hilarious together!! Honestly this made me feel so much more comfortable with the idea of my first time so thank you both!! Btw I'm new and Irish so hey Mel x

[@toasterchild]

You guys are super fun together. Would be cool to see more collabs in future.

[@mayhelen]

This was amazing. Simply amazing! I loved every secod of this!

[@hkonecny]

"Last time I tried to do double burger, I ripped open." HOLY SHIT I CAN'T HANDLE YOU TWO

[@nokelia]

I'm new here, but I love this video ! Also Melanie, you are so pretty ! You looklike Zoey Deschannel and Emma Stone mixed together, so pretty :) I'm gonna watch both of your channels. ♥

[@AliceKikyou]

Wow like I just had a day long shoot and watching this afterwards is such a good takeaway from all the stress. Gonna enjoy this with some chocolate and beer. 💚 xx

[@susannareid3563]

Yessss Mel! I'm going to get me a nice cuppa tea, have a sit down and watch this!:) I love your content so much & you're like a big sister to me so this channel is where I come to get advice:):) Love you lots, hope you're doing well xoxox

[@mylesnorton54]

I watched this while drinking my coffee. You two are so cute! Please make more videos together! 💚💚💚

[@LuisElkes]

This is like my 3rd time watching this. Apart from all the important knowledge giving it makes me PISS myself. You two together makes me happy

[@piperlove2249]

this was such a funny and informative video. you guys should collab more, you're rely funny together

[@QuietSpriteASMR]

This was amaaaazing. I adore your channel, always so inspiring and joyful 💖💖

[@katherineliriano6164]

You guys are so genuine and open. I wish we could be friends. I have a crush on Calum, but given the situation, I'll just give a shout out to him. Hahaha. Great, funny, open video. Loved it :)

[@laurajeanrobins6995]

I so appreciate these videos, realised I was actually bi myself when I first found your channel, and my whole sexual life so far finally makes sense! My relationship with my male partner is now stronger than ever after being together for 7 years with him not being surprised in the slightest when I told him! Xoxox

[@austinblankemeyer7968]

I not only watched both this video and the one on Cal's channel from beginning to end, I actively suppressed my urge to press "Skip This Ad" on both 2 min.+ ads just because I appreciate you both so much and want to support you both.

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

you absolute SWEETHEART I can't cope with how cute and sweet that is

[@austinblankemeyer7968]

OMG this was my first ever KZbin comment! As in, ever in the history of me watching KZbin! I can't believe you actually responded!! I'm actually blushing right now. Well since I'm sure now that you'll read this, I think that you are an absolutely FANTASTIC human being and one of the several Bi+ KZbinrs that I found while I was struggling coming to terms with my own bisexuality (super conservative upbringing, not knowing bisexuality existed, etc.) I have to tell you that you will never know the positive impact your sexuality videos had on me during a difficult and sometimes dark time of my life, and you continue to be a role model for me as I work on becoming more confident in myself as a sexual being. Thank you Melanie! I can't wait to see your channel grow like I know it will! (After all, you have to stay more famous than Cal now don't ya ;)

[@JessiQuinn]

honestly tho dating my friends has always been the best thing I've ever done. even though my friendships afterwards are gone completely, I felt the most fulfilled, happy, and comfortable in those relationships while they were happening.

[@alexmalcolm1999]

I'm a 17yr, nearly 18yr old girl. never even come close to having a boy as a friend, never mind anything more than a friend. I now feel like I NEED to have a relationship, someone to feel close to in every single way humans can, and I don't know what to do about it.

[@anna369garcia]

god, 30 golden minutes of melanie's cuteness

[@miladinovicstasa]

you move your hands so gracefully i'm mesmerized

[@clitizenerased]

honestly i could watch the two of you talk like this for hours

[@TheCeska90]

I just came out as asexual to my close friends, they didn't get it, they think it's impossible. I'm kinda broken

[@IK-ky3kj]

TheCeska90 don't worry about them, they just don't understand because they've maybe never heard about it before.. I really don't think your friends are saying it out of malice but rather they don't just simply understand. Maybe if you tried to explain it to them more and tell them how important it is to you, they would be more understanding. Hope things will go better with them in the future xx

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Nobody knows you like YOU know you ;) When people question my sexuality I remind myself that their understanding of it doesn't really matter all that much. I just pull together with people who do understand me :) x

[@hanaowens5988]

TheCeska90 You're so brave ❤ never forget that x honestly they just don't understand yet x but you don't need them to understand or accept it for you to be valid and authentically you x

[@sarahxx4347]

TheCeska90 uh gurl you're not alone - when i came out as bisexual to my friends and family many of them said that they don't believe me and it's just a phase and stuff when it's CLEARLY not. anyway, i came over this when i just started thinking about something else. you don't have to talk to them about your sexuality. they are your friends so just enjoy being with them as you did before when you haven't come out to them :) also i believe you :) i hope this helps xx♥️

[@GBSightings17]

Asexuality is definitely real. My sister is asexual. You'll meet people who won't understand you but that doesn't mean they're right. Far from it! xoxo

[@sonachu9130]

The burger analogy 😂😂

[@mckenna2337]

HOW DID I NOT KNOW THIS WAS A THING?????? THIS VIDEO IS GREAT CALUM YOUR VIDEOS SHOULD BE 30 MINUTES LONG PLEASE also I found Melanie from Calum's channel probably the only one YOU'RE WELCOME

[@applebt1]

Paused in the middle. Can't help it, I have to comment 😂 YOU LOOK GREAT TOGETHER! ❤️

[@lunalovegood3342]

i LOOOVVVEEE this!!! i’ve recently been binging all of mel’s sex related content, especially the colabs. i LOVE IT. just everything about it. and i love educating myself about all of this stuffs too it’s really interesting (and not even in a dirty way) just genuinely interesting

[@brynneferguson7988]

Im going on 3 years with a guy, we say were in love but I don't know. There is nothing wrong with him, but I have never felt so lonely. Its scary to think that my life will be like it is now for the rest of my life but it is also equally scary to think that he is the best I will ever get, I'm confident in myself but I have never been good at holding on to friends or meeting new people. I would be easier for me to stay with him but I want more. I don't know what to do anymore. I just thought my life would be more than it is today. Anyway, you're amazing and your openness and honesty is so refreshing. Thank you

[@blackcatinahatreilly1683]

Brynne Ferguson maybe you could tell them how you feel and if that doesn't change anything then maybe you should find sombody else, I know you said you find it hard but when you find sombody that you definitely don't feel lonely with it will be worth it. Good luck! I hope you never feel lonely again

[@HilltopFarmHomestead]

You do know if you guys got Aladdin & Jasmine then Roly has to be the Genie!

[@RedsMakeupBag]

I love your longer videos, they're great to have on in the background! This is both hilarious and informative xx

[@KarinReiser]

you two are HILARIOUS!! I'm crying laughing.. What a wonderful open and trusting friendship! Period. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

[@sazdocuments]

I love love love how open you guys are it’s so comforting bc no one talks about stuff like this! 😂

[@gloria_2412]

My crush on Melanie is exponentially increasing after this video.

[@aLeSsAsWeEtY]

This is hilarious! 😂 you're amazing together! And the fact that you do kinda look like a Disney princess from the side distracts me a lot during your collab videos...(this is a compliment) 😏😉

[@baileyboland9403]

This is honestly my favorite video I've ever watched on youtube, and this made boh of you two of my favorite creators!

[@gingerjodie7007]

probably one of my favourite videos of you, the connection between you guys is great!! This is such a nice, cute and honest video I love it.

[@confusedsomnimoo903]

okay 26:30 the look and lip bite before "full of lesbians?" MELANIE YOU'RE RIDICULOUS and also same

[@aliceh7663]

This video was so long. THANK GOD 😂😂❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ love u two 😭😭❤️❤️❤️✨✨✨🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

[@102FunnyBunny]

Loved this video! Also, pleeeaasee can you do a tutorial on this eye makeup, Melanie?💚

[@lauram10x96]

Omg not even lying Mels facial expressions at 26 minutes is 😯😍😍 I fancy you! 🙊

[@Simple-annie]

"Hakuna my Matata" lmaooooooo

[@Katannaism]

Looove this video! It was way too short ahah! The interaction between you guys is amazing - it'd be grand to see more collabs. Maybe with Riyadh as well? :D

[@chrissyluvspeace]

i love that you guys said that you sometimes wish you had the opposite bits because I SO RELATE! i just want to see what sex feels like for guys. and it has nothing to do with wanting that to be my life, just curious what it's like. same thing with wanting curly hair, i want to see what that's like, but i enjoy my own self.

[@UserxError]

Yes! More videos together! You two have such great chemistry! Absolutely loved your advice! 💚

[@lent_ils]

Uuhh best explanation of sex ever (in the body confidence bit) 👌🏻on point x

[@paulinemartens9900]

This is so enjoyable to watch because the great connection you guys have is so obvious! love this video :DD

[@rebeccapeace]

I very rarely watch long videos.... but your content is too good to cut short! lots of love x

[@SafiElegance291]

Yay 30 min video. Mel you could literally make a 2 hr video and I would watch it.

[@themisthomassin5690]

This was awesoooome please collab more often and make more videos like this!!

[@Salmox-]

Ok I've just found my favorite video on KZbin! Thank you so much for this piece of gold!

[@ayloak291]

Calum is hilarious 😂 I love this sm ahhh

[@fannyslam]

Awesome video, very eye-opening and the honesty and trust between you shows, love friends like this 😍💚

[@amandas5056]

"We're not sims" hahahah

[@poppyadams8912]

I loved this video! Was proper laughing along like I was there & friends with you both 😂 Classic drunk chats I have with my friends too.. had you been drinking? Haha x

[@giovannapjt9051]

Beautiful Melanie you made my day! You guys are so funny! Thank you for making me laugh! :)

[@baumblume1083]

I found the part about virginity the most helpful. For me “losing” my virginity is something special, and to that moment I kinda thought that’s how everybody feels. But know I realised that it doesn’t has to be that important to everyone and they still have values. Thank you for that😘🌈

[@picklemwuah]

This was amazing!! I am now a fan of you, Mel, and I would love to see more collabs with you guys, I usually do not watch a KZbin video for half an hour. 😊❤😊

[@picklemwuah]

*Melanie (or Mel, if that's ok)

[@sillyoddsocks]

Melanie your eye makeup is on point! Both your videos are amazing, and you're both very pretty. It's wonderful having more sex positive role models available for the younger generation to grow up with. Keep being awesome =)

[@fransiskadevi7038]

You guys really open my mind about sex and virginity. I am 29 years old and I've not done it yet. It might be cause of the cultural thing (where I come from the women are expected to have their first time after the marriage). Even though I live in Germany but I have not found the right person, with whom I am comfortable. I hoped that I found you earlier

[@fatimxh]

fransiska Devi do you gurl💪🏽🐉

[@OptimisticPessimist5]

Mine is Aladdin too!! I like brown eyes and dark hair too, Aladdin is like a cartoon version of my boyfriend 😊😊

[@SonnetVA]

Hi Mel & Cal! My question was about the trust issues - thank you so much for your advice and I will definitely use it going forward! Love to you both! J. 💚

[@madad5575]

Melanie this Is Amazing ! I love everything that you're doing. I'm learning so much, about myself through yourselves.

[@madad5575]

I have seen this 5 times already. It's amazing, I want to pay attention to everything that you say guys. I hope you do one with Hanna

[@midge218]

Havent watched your video in a few years but I love this new Melanie, well new to me with all the sex and relationship chats ect. Keep it up

[@indiand6460]

BUT YOU ARE both super famous and amazing!

[@cherylbaker4290]

She is such a nice person she has a warm personality and she is beautiful too

[@Toothamie96]

💚💚💚💚 this was so funny loved it need to do more colabs with cal and your sister together love you all so much love your way of thinking 😍

[@helloimsaz]

Omg you two are just like me and my best friend 😂 Just discovered you Melanie and I love how honest and funny you are! x

[@vibevendetta9080]

Omg yes, please collab more! Calum is adorable, I know he's gay but I totally ship you two haha. Also, wow...I feel so special, you answered so many of my questions! 😍 my day is officially made 💚