how to survive a long distance relationship | Melanie Murphy & Thomas Q&A

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Let us know in a comment if you are in a long distance relationship OR if, because of everything that's going on, you are now...I'd love to know how you're finding it! And be sure to reassure one another too and offer your own advice! These videos are always to spark discussion and to have a big, global chat! xxx

[@supersoyka]

I was..he broke up with me 6 days before because of that..We had so perfect times..I love him,I can’t without him. I’m really in pain..We’re only 5 hours apart..

[@jazmine6530]

I’ve been in a LDR for several months now, separated by UNI. I’ve always looked up to you and Thomas, and was a viewer from the very beginning of your relationship! (Was a viewer when you mentioned being not sure about monogamy, even. It’s been so amazing watching your journey) Anyway, this gal I’m with is totally the one for me. I can honestly credit you for being the one to help me feel comfortable with my bisexuality, and now I credit you for being someone to look up to in my LDR. I’d say we handle it as best we can, but I absolutely relate to all the crying and difficulty. Now because of the virus, we don’t know when the next time we see each other will be, which is something we usually count on to get through. But I know we’ll make it.

[@MissMayhem2024]

I was, we’ve now been together 11 years, married for 3, have 3 kids, had the best dog in the whole world, and now we own a house ❤️ we stayed in contact through msn messenger (anyone else remember using that!?) and Facebook for the most part)

[@jennylewis2404]

Melanie Murphy I am in a long distance relationship but of what’s currently happening the time not seeing each other has increased a lot

[@EmppuRocks]

I was in an LDR for over a year!! (Nov 18 - Dec 19) We were friends for almost a decade and things finally grew together. We talked on the phone every evening and did Skype calls almost every night. We'd watch TV/movies together by being on the phone together and synching up our streams. He's a night owl but I'd have to be up for work at 7 AM so I would often fall asleep with him on the phone and he'd wake me up in the early morning to tell me goodnight. I love him so much! He moved in December to be with me and now we're quarantined together and it's actually been so nice. We're settling down a little now (coming out of the "honeymoon phase") and I love seeing him every day and not have to leave him to go to work in the mornings, which was always hard. If I get stressed he tells me to go to the bedroom, turn something on the TV, tucks me in with my favorite stuffed animal and leaves me alone for a few hours. I'm so thankful to have him in my life and I feel lucky to be in love with someone who works so well with me and knows me so intricately.

[@frankiep-w1594]

In my experience losing the feeling of love can sometimes be because of unrelated difficult times your life... I felt i was falling out of love with my partner but waited it out - looking back I realised I had just been really depressed but was projecting it onto my relationship and generally feeling numb, not just in my feelings towards my partner. Now that I'm doing a lot better I have no doubt I love him still :)

[@martaparedes1799]

My boyfriend (Australian) and I (Spanish) were in a long distance relationship for 3 years, until last September. Watching this type of videos helped me when I was sad about the situation. It was one of the most difficult things I had to deal with sometimes but it was all worth it. Now we are stuck in quarantine with each other and thanks to our experience we appreciate every second of not having half of the world between us. So to anyone dealing with a ldr, don't lose hope, your time will come too 🥰

[@JJ-tb4ih]

Similar situation for me & my partner! Except 3.5 years. Stuck with him during quarantine now (made it to australia 1 week before aus closed borders) and happier than ever

[@martaparedes1799]

@@JJ-tb4ih 3.5 years is quite a while, I'm happy to read you made it before they closed the borders, it was meant to happen ❤️ I've been in Australia for 7 months and as you say, happier than ever 🥰

[@nihalhathaway4089]

that gives me hope :) with what frequency did you see each other? my boyfriend and I have about the same distance atm...

[@martaparedes1799]

@@nihalhathaway4089 we couldn't see each other in person (just the flights were too expensive for us) and at one point I had to choose going to Australia for less than a month on holidays or waiting a bit more and spend at least one year here... So we waited

[@nihalhathaway4089]

@@martaparedes1799 ohh okay. but you did it! I'm in kinda the same situation right now...

[@ravina6686]

HOW DO YOU KEEP GETTING EVEN PRETTIER EVERY VIDEO? LIKE YOU WERE ALREADY GORGEOUS! IS THIS NOT EVEN YOUR FINAL FORM? AHHHHHHHHHHH

[@Annabelle-]

you read my mind, I needed this video! My husband and I are currently dealing with a long distance marriage because he is in the military and this virus has made our distance even longer. it’s absolutely awful being pregnant all alone in a one bedroom apartment :(

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Annabelle J 😭😭😭😭😭 I wanna hug you sooo bad!

[@amyvictoriab]

Anyone in a relationship right now just sob through this entire video? I genuinely wasn't ready for long distance at all.

[@annaboxberger2746]

amy victoria I’m in a relationship with my boyfriend 5 months this Friday but we’re very lucky that we’re together during this hard time he arrived at my house just 2 minutes before 12am when the lockdown was announced after Leo made the announcement my boyfriend was going to stay with me anyway during this time he just came a day earlier I’m very fortunate ☺️ I don’t know what I would’ve done if I couldn’t see if we could only video chat, call and text I’d find that so hard I’m so happy and lucky for his company. But I really feel for the people out there who were gonna or plan to go on a first date or 2nd/3rd when the lockdown was announced

[@erikas3264]

Me and my boyfriend had a LDR for 3 years. Now he finally lives with me and we're getting married this summer! :) The longest we haven't seen each other was 5 months... You can do this people! ^_^ Good tips in this video! :)

[@ggandbb1702]

When me and my (now husband) were dating for around 2 years, i had to move to Cork from Galway on my own for a year. He proposed when i left. I missed him so much and we visited one another much like you guys did. My college course was soo busy that i rarely got home to galway but my fiance cane to visit me and would stay a few days at a time. I literally had no time to do anything with him when i got home every evening but to be in his presence while i worked on my college work. He was amazing and i appreciated him still visiting me even though i was so busy. x we are now together 11 years and married 6 years with 2 lovely children. That year away from one another was hard but we managed x

[@taraoconnell7820]

GG and BB 😭😭 I love a happy ending ❤️

[@dawnforlife]

Beautiful story :)

[@ChocOliker1797]

me and my partner are seperated for a month now, the longest we had to go without each other was six weeks when i temporarily had to move away for uni, we don't even live that far away from each other, only about 200km and before we saw each other every week for 2-3 days, but due to closed borders in europe bc of the coronavirus, we don't know when we'll see each other again. it's breaking both of our hearts and there's been phonecalls with us both crying at the other end because we just want to be together but we can't. so far we're managing well, our communication is way better now, we're texting everyday, talking on discord everyday, watching netflix and youtube together and playing videogames. I just want to lay in his arms again tho. Thank you melanie & thomas for being such incredible role models when it comes to LDRs and in general, I really look up to you and best of luck with the baby and all!!

[@missholidaygolightly5566]

Ich fühle total mit dir... Ich kann meinen Freund auch wegen den geschlossenen Grenzen nicht sehen. Wir skypen jeden Abend, aber dieses Gefühl nicht zu wissen wann wir uns wiedersehen dürfen und deswegen nichts planen zu können ist echt hart...

[@ChocOliker1797]

@@missholidaygolightly5566 woher kommt er denn? meiner schweiz...hoffentlich haben sich die grenzkontrollen bald erledigt realistisch gesehen können die das nicht ewig durchziehen :/

[@missholidaygolightly5566]

@Marina aus Spanien. Das heißt bei uns dauert es wahrscheinlich noch richtig lange, denn da ist ja grade richtig Chaos... hoffentlich geht es bei euch ein bisschen schneller und ihr könnt euch bald wieder sehen!

[@francyfey4646]

Marina hallo, ich bin in der gleichen Situation. Ich Schweiz, er Deutschland 😔

[@FwieFlowerpower]

Mir gehts genau so.. Ich bin in Deutschland und er in Dänemark :/

[@AnnRey18]

This is exactly what i need now... I'm already in a LDR and we were planning my trip to see him this summer but due to covid I had to cancel my plans. So heart broken but you gave me some hope and ideas. Thank you for that. Take care xoxo

[@MatthewCoast]

"Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity." - W. Clement Stone

[@harryboify]

I really needed that. I was going to see my long-distance (US to Europe) boyfriend in March, but the US banned travel three days before I was meant to fly. Now we're not going to see each other for another four months, bringing us up to a year in total. Been having those spiralling thoughts recently and was scared to watch the video in case it made me feel worse, but fortunately it made me feel better! Thank you

[@caitlynk430]

Same boat as you! 🇺🇸🇬🇷

[@thespeculativedrewcrew8485]

I really feel this. I hope it helps to know others are in similar situations & we can get through this hard time of isolation & separation.

[@emmaruth7102]

This was v v comforting. Found myself forced into ldr (although hes not even that far away really ) and have had a few of these questions myself. Thank you mel and thomas 💚

[@dawnforlife]

Having been in a LDR and physical touch being both our love language, it’s so true that even the simplest thing like being able to hug each other at the end of the day, is cherished and not taken for granted ☺️

[@maneskinnnnn7190]

A long distance relationship would be the best type of relationship for me, cos I wouldn't have to see them very often. I love being alone and especially living alone with just my cats, having to see someone all the time would really get on my nerves.. and I like doing what I want whenever I want without having to consider someone else. If I only had to see them once every few weeks it would be ok.

[@javeriaparvez9075]

Melanie your hair looks amazing xx

[@sarahthomas9055]

My now husband and I were in a LDR for over a year before we closed the distance. We had 200 miles and a country (I was England, he was Wales) between us. We relied on facetime, texting and royal mail in between the visits. I remember we always tried to have the next visit planned in before the one we were on ended. It would be a weekend of time. Friends told me it wasn't a real relationship, that I couldn't possibly get to know him properly, but he never let me down, and I knew that physically being together, didn't mean that you would know someone more. I clocked up over 10, 000 miles on my car driving to and from South Wales/London. He did similar (although his car often ended up being AA relayed home!). It was so, so hard leaving each week - there would be so many tears! We finally closed the distance a year and 3 months later and I truly believe that our LDR roots have made us the couple that we are today. We are able to communicate so, so well because, in an LDR that is all you have! We got married may 2019 in Gretna Green with our closest friends and family with us ( there were 13 of us in total including 3 children) and it was perfect. I still look back fondly on our LDR days - although glad that we no longer have to say goodbye!

[@AnjaTodorovic]

What surprises me about you two each time I see you, is how normal and likeable you are! I cant wait for baby to be born, you're gonna be fantastic parents and have so much fun!

[@cparada106]

This video is so perfect for the moment! I know quarentine is not the same as not being in the same city or country, but for me, this has been like a long distance relationship were I havent seen my boyfriend for one month and a half, which I know is not much compared to other long distance relationships, but I was used to see him almost everyday. We study in the same university and we live kind of near so we literally saw each other all the time. Now, things have changed so much and we don't know when we will be able to leave our houses. It's a hard moment but watching Melanie is always an inspiration and makes me feel much better!!! thank you so much for your videos

[@blueandpurple5467]

lol i fully felt like mom and dad are telling me about phone sex which was.... weird?..

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Blue and purple 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@melanie7071]

Blue and purple hahahaha

[@shannongalvin1827]

when lockdown first happened my boyfriend said we would have little FaceTime dates etc but two weeks later there was none. So I just communicated that I was annoyed and felt he wasn’t putting in the effort he said he would. Now this week he’s been calling me here and there and it’s just so much better!! 22 days now without seeing him 🥺

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Shannon Galvin communication is everythinggg 🙌🏻💚 ugh it’s such a strange time 😭

[@sierraestrellita]

Right now I’m in a long distance-close distance quarantine relationship, but I’m going to be moving away from my long term boyfriend a little over a year from now, so this is like a trial run for us. I love y’all and I love hearing from other successful long distance relationship success stories ♡

[@cassieve25]

Thomas saying "I'm not going to take this off" is the sweetest thing ever 😆 hope you both are staying well

[@Creatureexotics]

I haven't seen my partner for four weeks now, I know that's nothing compared to some but goodness I miss him all the time. We FaceTime every day, play games online etc, we even read to each other 😂 but I can't wait for the day I get a cuddle! We were JUST about to move in together then all this happened too!

[@tasha3529]

Am I in a long distance relationship (or any relationship for that matter)? No. Am I going to watch this video anyway? Yes 😭😂

[@niyatisavur919]

Exactly 😂

[@heike_p]

Same girl! (A long distance crush doesn't count, does it? ;p )

[@Oliviakp]

Me and my partner have always been long-distance! Im from the UK and he is from Portugal, stronger then ever after 5 years together! The longest we have gone without seeing each other is a couple of months so this will probably go on much longer, but I feel like we’re used to this/ well prepared! We have a plan and a future to look forward to which always helps :)

[@anap.a]

stay strong!! I'm from portugal and in a relationship with a german, sucks having to rely on a plane and airport to see him right now... but better times will come!!

[@catty90at]

Guys I am in a long relationship from 11 years... and very happy 😅 we are both introverts and we match perfectly with this type of relationship, but it's not a thing for everyone!

[@ShayBaby427]

My bf and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years and we're always long distance for about 2 to 3 months during the summer while I'm visiting family. We both thought that 2020 would be the last year of long distance for us, but the universe decided otherwise 😂. Like Mel and Thomas said, it does take trust, communication, and flexibility. It's hard, my dudes. But we'll get through our QLDRs (Quarantine LDRs) and come out the other side much stronger 💚💚

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Sharayah :/ I adore this comment! 💚💚💚

[@ShayBaby427]

@@melaniemurphyofficial And I adore you!!

[@kaisak6657]

I am in the exact same situation right now, my bf and I have been together for 2,5 years and we are used to being apart for a few weeks to a couple of months every now and then but this time we won’t see each other for at least 5 months which is so difficult 😭 good luck to you, I’m sure you will be stronger after this all ends

[@nanais_33]

Currently in France, I am in a 4 years ldr for work reasons. We were suppose to finally live together in April but now we can't. I just want to say that sometimes it is normal to not "miss" the other person. I'm still in love but I am used to not seeing him everyday so sometimes I don't miss him but the thing is that I'm still thinking of him everyday and when I wake up or when I go to sleep I have a thought for him. But I would say in my opinion it's normal to not always miss your partner. You are right communication is a key in a relationship and it so important in ldr! Sending good vibes from the south west of France! We are all in this together! 💜💚

[@brihannonstrathern8801]

Thank you so much for making this, this makes me feel less alone in my situation and reminds me that when I see him, it will be so worth it ❤️

[@missholidaygolightly5566]

That's what I'm telling myself, too. But it's soooo hard sometimes...

[@brihannonstrathern8801]

@@missholidaygolightly5566 I know it is hon, I'm in the same boat but if I can do it, you can too ❤️ sending big loves your way X

[@missholidaygolightly5566]

@@brihannonstrathern8801 oh you're so lovely! It's kind of reassuring to know, that we're all in this together. Sending you strength and a virtual hug! x

[@Kdimi22]

I am in a long distance relationship for few years now .. In the beginning i was afraid and everyone was sayng to me that it won't last but if you both want it and try for it you have nothing to be afraid of.. it is hard but it's worth it!

[@romalo2140]

My fiancé and I are long distance, he works in the merchant navy and unfortunately lots of methods of communication aren’t possible for us, sometimes no internet at all. He’s generally gone for 2-3 months at a time, longest has been almost 4 months. He’s been gone since the start of March and don’t know when he will be able to come back. It’s so worth it though, but not going to be closing the distance until we have a kid in a few years. We take every day as comes but it’s getting easier after a year and a half of doing it.

[@freyabalfour8710]

Me and boyfriend are long distance as I am at university about 500 miles away from home. Now I am home for lockdown and unable to see him. Definitely finding it challenging at the moment being home and not seeing him. Thank you for the reassurance from this video, we struggle with keeping energy/ excitement just through FaceTime etc. However we really value time together when we see each other. Only 4 years apart to go!💖

[@BloodSisterProductions]

I haven’t seen my boyfriend since January :( I live in LA, he had to go to Germany, was supposed to come back in February (long story at the US boarder) then was supposed to come back for an event in March which got cancelled due to the virus and now due to the virus it has been the longest we haven’t seen each other. And mostly I am fine during lockdown. Very aware of and very grateful for my privilege. The only thing that gets to me is how much we miss each other. Thank you for this video I feel like I wasn’t able to express this omg

[@claraontheroad3049]

Sending you all my compassion and support! I'm in a LDR (France-Canada) and we were lucky that we saw each other in February, not realizing that the lockdown was around the corner, and now her visit in June is most likely not going to happen because borders will still happen, and I'm afraid I won't be able to visit her for a month in August-September like we planned... Which is really rough. But hey, well make it work! Good luck!

[@BloodSisterProductions]

@@claraontheroad3049 Best of luck to you, too! I really try to turn my grieve into being more positive like "how lucky you are to miss someone so much" but it hurts. And it's okay to hurt. And we will all be so so so happy when we get reunited with our loves! Just imagine that day for a second! I know it won't take today's pain away, but it will. Sending you love! We'll get through it!

[@christina9819]

Sending you my compassion and love as well! I am in Greece my partner is in Germany, haven't seen each other since January.. it sounds so close yet the whole virus lockdown thing makes it so difficult. But if there's mutual love and support everything will be okay again! Hope you get to see each other again really soon!

[@darinc6555]

The ADTR intro definitely took me back. I’m currently in a LDR; he’s in Ireland (where he’s from), and I’m in LA. We’ve been dating for almost 1.5 years now, and we’ve been consistently apart for about 10 of those months now (although I visited him for a week in winter). Surprisingly, quarantine has allowed us to call each other more often, but we’re now uncertain when we’ll see each other next. We’re both hoping to get our postgrad degrees in the same time zone at least! Time will tell. Anyway, this video was super helpful! Class content as always. Thanks, Melanie!

[@sophiakeogh7082]

I was having a really hard time I’m with my boyfriend 9 years and we would see each other almost every day. I haven’t seen him in 5 weeks and he lost his new job due to covid, but .. I am lucky because my boss said he could have a job with us as he was looking for people and asked if I knew anyone, it’s in a different section but I’m happy as he now has a job again and I’ll see him at lunch.

[@Ambs2023]

Oh it’s sooo reassuring to hear you shared some of my experiences/feelings, Melanie! Thanks so much for this video!

[@jessmanning9523]

honestly is so wild watching your videos since before you got together and then being on this journey with you, you gave me hope about long distance working for people but you also helped me to gain a better understanding about how to communicate properly with a partner and not to settle for anything less than i deserve! so happy to see what the future holds for both of you 💚xxx

[@bonh7401]

My partner and I are now in a long distance relationship - this year he took a job in Sydney and I live in Melbourne. We’ve been together for 2.5 years and it is so hard - I can’t leave to be with him as I only have one year left of my nursing degree and I’m currently working two jobs as a disability support worker. We’re best friends and it’s hard not seeing your best friend anymore and then not being able to see your other friends due to isolation. However I have noticed I’m reading more, I’m hanging with my family more, having board game nights with my siblings, I’m painting more and I’m loving it. I have more me time. Although I want to be with him more than anything - I need to use this time to finish my degree, work hard and enjoy my family time before I leave and be with him next year.

[@esterbosschaertdevroe2323]

Thank you for this! My boyfriend and I were abrupt put in a long distance relationship because of the lockdown (the last thing we said was "see you later!" haha). The first weeks I found it very hard, like I didn't want to accept it. Now I see the positive part of this experience. But at the same time I discovered how much he really means for me, the way I miss him and how much energy I get just from skyping with him. We also learn how to communicate better, and how to share our love in words (something that we found difficult before) instead of actions and affection. It makes us more emotional open. This period also learns me to let loose of control (not knowing when we see each other again). I just try focussing on today and reconnecting with my mind, fantasy and nature. I think our relationship with each other and ourself will have improved after this.

[@thespeculativedrewcrew8485]

My partner & I LDR. I'm in Australia & he is in the UK. We have been together nearly 2 years & most of our time apart has been two 8 months cycles. It was going to finally go down to 4&5 then covid happened & I don't know when I'll see him physically next. I miss him every day & I enjoy knowing there is a community of people out there in all kinds of situations faring similar & fighting for love.

[@Aisling464]

The Speculative Drew Crew My boyfriend is in Australia and I’m from Ireland. I’ve been here in Australia for 7 weeks and leaving in 2 days. We are hoping we will be able to see eachother soon but who knows with the corona virus when the boarders will open again. We’re praying it will be sometime this year. Will be the hardest goodbye ever but we will get through it. Stay strong and hang in there.

[@JennyAndNateFan]

We weren’t long distance we stay around 40 minutes away from one another and luckily we both drive but...we are long distance now it’s so difficult 😔

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Morsmordre 😭 I can only imagine! 💔

[@Ridikulucius]

My partner and I have been in a LDR for about 3 years now (5 years of relationship in total) as he is working in England while I am finishing my degree in France. The quarantine had his job asking the personnel to work from home so he actually came back a month ago and we've been living together through this isolation period. We are really grateful for this unplanned time we get too spend together ! Some pieces of advice we collected allong our LDR : be grateful for the little things, make a big deal of seeing each other (organize a little surprise when they visit you for exemple) , share your dreams for the future (we love house hunting online or looking up the profiles of shelter dogs), COMMUNICATE a lot, trust the other to listen and make them understand when and why you have been hurt by anything they could have done (without judging them), know than no one knows what is on your mind except yourself so you have to tell if you want to settle en issue, also tell them when you feel positive things (I still get butterflies whenever I receive an impromptus "I love you" in the middle of my day), understand that the other may want some time for themselves as you are also allowed to get some time for yourself, try not to stop having fun while being away from each other. And maybe you won't work it out, it is ok bc LDR is hard and not for everyone, try not to beat you up if it doesn't. 💚

[@hannahleon4192]

Use to be long distance with my boyfriend, now husband about a year ago, and it was so hard, especially going back home. We are happily married for 4 months and letters and video chats were essential. I didn’t have an iPhone, so we used Facebook messenger video chat and it was a game changer. We fell asleep over video chat and phone call, watch Netflix together, and just got to know each other for who we were on the inside. Love my new hubby so much ❤️

[@chempanda6388]

I never thought I'd be in a distance relationship till it happened. We were in the same city and in a relationship for almost a year, then he moved an hour ish away. It's not much too far but this is new to me and thank you for making an enlightening video.

[@kaylaalyak8964]

My parents did long distance for a whole year between the US and Japan ♥️ I don't know how they did it.

[@kitsune2184]

This comment is not helpful at all but I just wanted to share. My boyfriend lives only 2 streets away, it is a litertal 5 minute walk from each other's houses and yet it feels like a distance relationship. Its been 5 weeks since we last saw eachother. Thank you for the great video.

[@annasin90]

kitsune omg, same!! We’re practically neighbors, but the lockdown doesn’t let us see each other ;(. We know it’s for the better, so stay strong!! You’ll reunite soon. X

[@KatDeLeoneVideo]

Melanie! Your hair looks so beautiful and fluffy 😍☁️

[@dashafeld7621]

Mel thank you thank you thank you for your openness and honesty!!! You and Thomas are an example of a healthy, loving relationship💚 I still remember the monthly vlogs in Spain, so incredibly happy for you! Kisses

[@katiebenning1816]

Me and my boyfriend are LDR and have been for 7 years. Even we are struggling not seeing each other for this amount of time! The only thing I can suggest if you have been a couple for a while is don't worry about the texts and calls do what you want to do for the day and you'll have plenty of things to tell eachother in the evening and even doing that can add a bit of excitement because you'll both be wanting to spend time with each other in the evening and will want to speak to each other more!

[@reettaoo77]

Been in a long distance in the same country for over four years now because of our studies. It's worth it though. 💚 Thank you for talking about this, I'm sure a lot of people will find this useful

[@Emily_nb]

I’m in a LDR with my boyfriend, me being in Australia and him living in the UK. We try to set times for FaceTime but because of the time difference it doesn’t always work, but that’s ok! We trust each other and it actually makes it easier in isolation because both of us aren’t doing much in our lives so we aren’t missing out. I haven’t seen him since January and the longest I’ve been without him is 3/4 months so this time will definitely be harder with the travel restrictions and not knowing when we can internationally travel. We have been together for over a year now and wouldn’t change a thing 🥰

[@gianaspiteri5440]

I'm in the same situation as you girl! boyfriend is in Australia and I'm back in Gibraltar and haven't seen him since February, he was meant to come over in Sept but looking very unlikely, hope the talk about borders being shut until 2021 doesn't end up happening :(

[@Emily_nb]

Giana Spiteri yes!! Let’s hope that doesn’t happen x

[@annalee4412]

Did anyone else notice when he took her hand when she was talking about her insecurities 😍😍 AWWWWWWWWW

[@Kimjourney]

I‘m in a long distance relationship for 9 months now. I live in Germany and he’s living in New Zealand this is why we haven’t seen each other in 8 months. It’s not easy but we facetime daily, watch movies and stuff for it to feel less lonely. Guess it’s good that we both like to talk everyday because that’s not for everyone. Planning to go visit him after my studies in September for 3 months, hope it works out due to the situation!

[@ohpinkiepie]

You are goals! My partner & I have been long distancing a few times already and now we are separated as we're self-isolating with our families. I'm glad we have learned what is best for us, good morning texts and late night calls will do most days. He's not much of a texter so I don't flood him with messages and I don't like being interrupted so just like you guys, we ask before we call. It's so nice to hear someone else's tips and experience, thank you for this video, I really appreciate it 🥰

[@katriel_n792]

I am not in a long distance relationship, but I just have to watch every video you make together because you are my favorite couple ever. Thank you for creating such a valuable content, having a relationship like yours is a goal and inspiration for all of us.

[@lenkavolkova9873]

The fact you had If It Means A Lot To You by A Day To Remember play at the beginning is honestly the loveliest thing ever. When I heard it live it brought tears to my eyes. I noticed Thomas had an ADTR t-shirt on in one of your videos and I loved seeing a fellow fan! Love the video!

[@Saulele147]

me and my boyfriends are in LDR for 4 years now but we haven't been seperated for such a long time ever before. oh boy it is hard but I keep reminding myself that it's worth it. thank you for sharing, Mel! It's really nice to see you both happy and together and it gives me hope!

[@peggyrobert7734]

Born on the same day. We've been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years. Now Married!! Successful long distance relationship

[@Chanit24]

This video further proves how sweet you both are! It's so great you found each other and you're so dedicated to the love you have for each other x

[@sammiejohill1376]

Thanks for the video, tips,and because I'm going thru this now. I'm in a long distance relationship now,and I'm praying it will be over soon. But I'm trying to be humble, strong, positive, and motivated. It's not easy,but trust, loyalty,faithful, and communications goes a long way in a realtionship. And also with the conovirus going on as well makes it harder, and mix emotions at times. Please pray for us. I truly appreciate you guys taking the time out doing this,and because I know so many individuals all over the world is going thru this same situation.

[@mikaylariordan137]

My boyfriend and I recently celebrated our 2 year anniversary over Skype. I'm currently living in New Zealand, caring for a family member, while he is in australia where we met. With the border restrictions it means I won't won't know when i will get to go back. He is still working during this time so he can distract himself during the day, whereas I'm not so it's much more difficult. Keeping busy is so important or else I go crazy overthinking. But I cherish every phone call, face time and random message. I cant wait for this crazy time to be over so we can be reunited. Love you mel and thomas, thanks so much for the reassurance on the topic xxxx

[@annikae2625]

For me Corona currently means I can finally be with my bf everyday. We were living 6h apart before because we study in different cities. And we weren't offical when starting long distance either:D i'm really scared when Uni starts again non digital 'cause I' m getting too used to this

[@quasirot7575]

Yes yes yes!! I wanted to write so many comments while watching, just tips that helped us during our 4 years of long distance and than you talked about every single one of them. Great video! I hope everyone in the comments can put long distance behind them soon :)

[@amberjadeharding3241]

I went travelling for 2 months and now isolating, I saw him though a window when I got my car and it was hard. The idea of getting the butterflies/lust back again when we do re unite is keeping me going 😊

[@juliajuliaf]

My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship since I moved away for uni in February last year. We miss each other so much, but we also FaceTime often and visit each other every month or so. Now I'm isolating and doing uni work from my home town, except we're both social distancing with our parents and we still can't see each other. We know we can manage but it's really frustrating (especially for me, since being home=seeing him almost every day). Only thing keeping us sane is the amount of work we both have to do. Thank you for the videos that never fail to cheer me up xxx

[@laurenvanacken]

I’m in a LDR for over a year now. We haven’t met in real life though, but we were looking forward to see each other in november. With the virus being around, I don’t know if it will still be possible to meet each other (I keep hoping). It’s kinda difficult to see people complaining nowadays because they can’t see their loved one for a few months. Like my boyfriend and I literally are 5000 miles apart from each other. We have been calling every day, a whole year round. So I think you will survive those few months. And if not, then you gotta take conclusions out of it. It’s harsh but true...

[@katechurchyard9722]

Me and my boyfriend were together for around 4 months when he moved the China for 3 months (we’re from England) for work, I was working full time so the time difference meant we could hardly ever call or FaceTime, it was horrible! We both have jobs where we work away from home a lot & now the bloody lockdown, so although it’s horrible we’re kind of used to it.. love watching videos like this, it’s very comforting!

[@helantopia]

thanks for the video

[@lorna2351]

me and my boyfriend were together for 10 months before he had to move 300 miles away for a phd. when the lockdown happened, nothing really changed but it's interesting to see how other people are dealing with what we see as 'normal'

[@katem9718]

I've been long distance (Brit dating a Canadian) for the last 2 years, and have only been spent a total of one month with my SO in person! Quarantine is in many ways easier for us at the moment because we've both finished school early and so have nothing to put barriers between us spending time together (apart from timezones), and it's been so interesting seeing our friends who have been forced to go long distance working it out for themselves. We've made long distance work for so long that I'm actually very comfortable with it, but it has put a spanner in the works with our plans for me to go to prom with them in Canada this summer... Still hoping that I'll get to see them again this year though, I miss them dreadfully!

[@catelisahill1283]

Because of the self-isolating quarantine, this is the longest me and my boyfriend have spent apart in the 7 years of us being in a relationship. We're both considered at risk due his asthma, his parent's age, and my t1 diabetes, so it's safest for us to not risk spreading anything between our households. But it sucks. This video is so helpful for us, even though the 3 miles distance between us isn't exactly 'long-distance' 😅

[@ReadingwithHilary]

My now fiancé and I spent our first two years long distance when we went to college and then again for our eighth and ninth year because he became a commercial fisherman. I thought the second round would have been easier but it wasn’t. It didn’t help that I was constantly worried about his safety on the boat. That position actually opened up because a man had fallen overboard the year before and my fiancé was brought on. I grew a lovely friendship with one of his crew mates’ girlfriend because we would travel together to visit them. Her boyfriend would also have a stronger phone connection so she would get more updates when my fiancé’s phone wouldn’t work. She would send me daily updates that they were safe and I truly appreciated that ☺️

[@loveinki]

I've been in a ldr (Germany-USA) for over 3 years now. We usually see each other just 3 times a year and quarantine destroyed our plans for this whole entire year. We will see each other a lot later and won't be able to do things we were looking forward to since last year

[@morgano9319]

My most recently started relationship was mostly long distance. We became partners after a few dates and a LOT of talking via OKC then they moved about a month later to another state. We had weekly video chat/video game date nights, weekly overnight voice chats (falling asleep together on the phone and waking up the same), and a whole lot of talking via various digital means. Everytime we had a trip planned we would do countdowns of how many sleeps were left until we'd see each other again. They've since moved back to the same state as me (well, into my home with my other partners) and it's glorious but definitely was a bit hard during the away time.

[@charlottepeet1615]

For me, I don’t generally feel love day to day, usually only when I speak to my partner or something reminds me of them. I’ve learnt not to panic about this, I think I would know if I didn’t want to be with him. I’m just content!

[@oliviabrink]

Doing long distance until August due to Quarantine and having to leave college. It’s tough but this video made me smile so wide. It gave me hope!!!

[@chiarav.7866]

thank you for saving 30 minutes of my day, life in quarantine can be so boring. 💗

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Chiara De Cillis I feel you! I need to break up my work (definitely have less on that usual!) with audiobooks, Netflix and YT...I’d lose my mind without them! 😂

[@beadc7627]

The bit at 26:55 feels too personal and intimate to be on the internet. I felt like I was intruding on your relationship by 'being part' of that moment. The way he looks at you omgggg

[@WhimsicalASMR60]

I agree 100%

[@itsmehaley2]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 years but have been long distance for 4 years (going 2-3 months at a time without seeing each other) and we're finally moving in together this fall! It all totally sucked, but really encouraged us to build some VALUABLE relationship skills. All my love to you and Thomas!

[@itsmehaley2]

Also - we watched stranger things over FaceTime too🤪

[@lydiakessler5402]

Mel, you look like an enchanted vampire in this video. I say this in the best way possible. Gorgeous hair, skin. You are glowing!

[@taraoconnell7820]

Not long distance thank god. Honestly though watching these videos has made me push past my single ten year stretch. Seeing you guys fall in love and watching how much you guys love/respect each other, look at each other etc gave me hope. Pushed passed it and met the most amazing man ❤️❤️❤️ thank you both. I know ye are far from perfect but it’s beautiful to see a healthy balanced relationship. Thank you 😘

[@claraontheroad3049]

I'm in a LDR and thank youu for being so open about being in a LDR and giving realistic advice. I'm currently in France, my girlfriend is currently in Canada, and we've been together for 16 months including a year long distance... So 6 hours of time difference (most we had was 9 hours when she was living in California), we usually only see each other every 2-3 months for 1-2 weeks. And as were both still pursuing our studies in our respective countries, the end date is not there yet... And now with the quarantine and borders closed, she probably won't be able to visit me in June, and I don't know if I will be able to spend a month with her in August-September like we planned... So we might have to spend like 8+ months apart for the first time. Which isn't fun. But we're very happy, in love and dedicated to making it work! Thank you again for feeling like this older sister full of fun and good advice!

[@Delfinreiterin]

My boyfriend and I know us since 17 years. We are together since Christmas. Buuut…. I went abroad in November and he lives over 800km from here. We managed to see us once a month. And now… we are not allowed to cross the borders. We don't know when we are allowed to see each other again. One month seemed so long before. Now, it has been nearly two months and it's really annoying…. He tries to find a job here, so that we can live together soon. And we couldn't even talk about it in personal.

[@turnerhannah69]

I'm working as a Radiographer in Tallaght hospital at the minute and my boyfriend of 2 years is in Wexford. Finding it very tough but thanks so much for making this video! I know we will make it through and have good times again. Stay safe xxx

[@twilighter_182]

I've been with my boyfriend for a year, and he's moved out to another city far away, and it's been three months since we've seen eachother, and I feel the same way as you said in the video! I need constant reassurance that he still loves me or for him to text me or send me photos of anything just to know that he is thinking of me! Also I'm very much a "clingy" as telling him sweet things and constantly remind him that I love him and miss him, but then I feel like I'm a pain in the ass even tho he says I'm not hahah, so yeah. In general, I can say we're okay, but sometimes it is a bit difficult

[@missholidaygolightly5566]

My boyfriend lives in Spain and I live in Germany. So we're doing the long distance thing anyways. But what's so incredibly hard at the moment is, that we have no way of knowing when we will be allowed to see each other again... Thanks for the video, Mel 💚 I think I'll go back and watch all of your old monthly vlogs from when Thomas was still in Spain, to distract myself a little

[@jules.e279]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now and we only live 5 minutes away from each other but because of quarantine i haven't seen him in almost a month :( We've both been keeping in touch and facetiming every night. Despite not being able to physically be with each other, we've gotten closer and I'm super grateful for that. This video was definitely so comforting though, especially with all the fears and anxieties that come up when you're away from the person you love. Thank you

[@bagofhammers7479]

Yous both look gorgeous, hope the two of you and baby are keeping well ❤

[@larifarycharis5312]

I CAN'T. WHY ARE YOU SO CUTE TOGETHER!?!!!!

[@kindofwackyyy]

I was in a long-distance relationship, we were about 9 hours' drive away. we recently just broke up. I'm not sure why on here end other than I got '' I need to work on my self, but I still love you''. I have no idea what the future will hold but when I see relationships like this it gives me hope. Hope that maybe one day things might change for the better.

[@googlestinx]

Thank you so much for sharing your love. I have only just started an LDR (never yet met in person) however, from day one I knew I had found my soulmate. The song that gets me through is Clannad 'in a life time'. It sums up our new quarantine love journey. You are such a beautiful couple. Looking forward to your Golden Anniversary video, surrounded by your great grandchildren!!

[@nadiacoutts9772]

I’m in a long distance relationship, my fiancé is currently overseas for a few months and on a normal day to day basis we only see each other at weekends because of our jobs

[@gracegracegraceee]

You have both a beautiful sense of humor 😍😍

[@emilymarrs832]

This has helped me so much thank you, both of you ❤

[@chronicallyalicia_]

Thank you so much for making this video! My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years and doing long distance for a year because he’s in the British Army and I have no idea when we will next see each other. Seeing you both together and watching how you got through it gives me so much hope for the future. It’s so lovely and comforting to hear someone else’s experience with being long distance and just what I needed so thank you! 😊👍 Xx

[@kate2189]

I really loved this video. It was so comforting, felt like I was sitting and chatting with friends who understood what I was going through and could offer some kind advice. My partner and I have been in long-distance since the lockdown started here in the U.K., and it can be so hard sometimes - it was nice to smile and laugh about it for a change instead of getting lost in the heartbreak of it all. Thank you. xxx

[@ceidigal]

I was/am in a v similar situation to yous back then! We became best friends all last summer, started dating at the Very end of summer and then like 2 weeks later I left for an Erasmus year in France lmao.... Navigating the dating stage long distance is a Mess and I definitely relate to the insecurity/not-sure-if-they-still-like you feelings. Definitely also agree on how long distance puts a gigantic microscope on the relationship and forces you to communicate a lot more than you normally would early on. I came home last month and thought that was the end of long distance but evidently not 🙃 . Really liked the video!

[@hayleyjs4162]

My boyfriend and I have only been together four months but we’re not in isolation together, it’s been hard :( thank you for making this video, it has helped reassure me that it will be okay!

[@linasharkova]

My (now) ex-boyfriend of 3 years and I had been doing LDR for half a year because we went to Universities in different cities and I think that loving one another isn't really the key to dating long-distance. The key is having a future together... So my ex and I realized that we did not know what our future would look like together thanks to this quarantine.