Sexual Harassment|Groped in the supermarket

[@dirkeldritch4880]

"...and she gave me some advice for next time..." The fact that she said 'next time' is really sad. it's sad that we, (in general) have to prepare for 'next time it happens'

[@DamianSzajnowski]

Being prepared is useful. Moping about that is not.

[@loumarmit]

I was walking in the park literally just outside my block of flats, taking photos at 3ish. This group of teens come round the corner and see my camera and start yelling things like 'give us your bag' and 'I'll stab you' and I just kept walking, slightly faster, towards my flat. Then this guy walking in front of me quite a way stops, asks me if they are yelling at me, and then waits for me to catch up to him. His presence scared the group off and I walked back to my flat alone, and cried. I told my boyfriend and he held me and consoled me. Ever since then I have carried a personal alarm on my bag so that I can feel safer walking alone. I hate that these kinds of things still happen, and that people get away with it. Stay strong all of you and be the good samaritan.

[@TheFetchh]

I truly hope one day you can feel safe and that one day you won't have to carry an alarm or worry about someone following you. This is something I too face living in a major city. I think there's hope for people in our situations.

[@poppyparadeposhboutique5461]

Just because you think nothing will ever come of reporting him does not mean that you shouldn't do it. Thank goodness for your roommate!

[@erikfuckscats]

I've lived in Las Vegas all my life and I once went to a arctic monkeys concert at the hard Rock cafe . when the concert was finished I went to a Walgreens that was next door cause I wasn't going to pay $5 for a can of red bull at the cafe . I saw a girl that was with her friends at the concert, but that was by herself at a fat burger waiting for her ride. at first I felt like a creep but I sat next to her and introduced myself we split some fries and we talked about our favorite music. half an hour later her mom came and I was glad that I talked to her cause there's a lot of drunks on the strip and a lot could of happened in 30 minutes.

[@YesterdaysWonderland]

Dude, respect for that.

[@ciliavandam3593]

Good job for doing that !! That's something to be proud of and there should be more people who do that !

[@vintriste]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us. You should feel proud of yourself for being so open and being strong enough to recount the awful things you have had to deal with. I'm sending all of the love I have your way, and I hope you know how much you mean to us, and personally, how much this video means to me.

[@Qcknd]

Crystal Dunning Thank you :) I'm glad I could reach out to you

[@vintriste]

Qcknd​ Almost all of your videos are relatable, to me at least. I'm 27 and been living back with my parents, so my situation is similar to yours in those few ways. And honestly, your voice is really very soothing and comforting. You just have a really chill vibe and it helps me unwind.

[@ravishing_rogue]

It disgusts me that people think these are okay things to do. It disgusts me even more that many people today don't consider sexual harassment the crime that it is.

[@shannteao2094]

Im sorry to all the men/women who go through this Its actually sickening Youre brave to move on my dear

[@beccamarie8649]

those things are so horrible, im so sorry they happened... the disrespect some people have for other people is disgusting. i work in retail hospitality too and it happens almost every night, just little things you know... but i can't even imagine what i would do or what i would feel if something like what happened are your work, happened to me. i admire your courage for sharing this and speaking about it. i had never thought to change up my public transport habits but now that you mentioned it, i definitely will be. thank you for making this video - it is such a difficult and icky topic but you're right, it needs to be spoken about. hope youre doing okay xxx

[@lulululu4267]

Thank you for being so open on this topic. These disgusting beings don't know and don't even care how big is the dammage that they are causing while they pleasing themselfs... By scaring and disgussing others, and mostly against women. Not something this serious but, other things happened with me aswell, just because I'm a girl... And I was't even dressed pretty, I was in hat and scarf and thick Michlen doll like coat. So this was just because I am a girl, alone, and they thought I couldn't protect myself. And yes, in these unexpected situations, you don't know how to react, and also I'm always afraid if I yell back or hit these people, kick them on the soft spot if they come closer, I will be the criminal, and they will be the victim... so these thinkgs also paralize me in these situations... :(

[@caturation]

Thank you for this video. Everybody says "if something happens, react!" but they don't consider people like me, like you, who just think/hope it was an accident, who don't want to make a fuss about it, who just freeze and don't know what to do. I'm really glad you're okay and that despite your experiences nothing bad happened to you!

[@metroskyes5974]

I recently moved to a new city and i constantly feel uneasy leaving. My advice to you is to get a mini hairspray. Cheaper the better (means more alcohol in it), granted it wont hurt as bad as pepper sprays but itll burn enough and not considered a "concealed weapon". Or even a small thing of axe.

[@Cholekelman]

Sexual harassment makes me sick. It happens to men and women and not enough people speak up about it

[@wildfloweratheart1111]

It baffles me that a lot of men think its acceptable to do these kinds of things

[@blackjack3446]

lillovebuglily you do realise not only men do that

[@sandragreen92]

Thank you so much for this video! We are not alone! You really helped me feeling less bad about my experiences and the fact I wasn't able to defend myself either... I send you much love and strength from austria!!

[@rorykilmartin9964]

Thank you so much. I was only 10 when a similar thing happened to me walking home from school. I was so scared for years. I'm glad you had your roommate at the time, and i'm glad you're healing

[@michellelee487]

It doesn't matter if you have tattoos or how you dress. Men shouldn't treat you like that. I went on a camping trip years ago and my friend's husband kept making stupid sexual remarks to me when she wasn't around. He told me lets go to the bathroom so we can touch each other and kept asking for a blow job. He was there with his wife and two kids so I was just ignoring it. I didn't want to make a seen and didn't really know what to do. I walked down the hill later on to use the bathroom I purposely waited until he wasn't paying attention to go and he came running down after me when he noticed I left. When I got to the bathroom I turned around and I screamed at the top of my lungs get away from me, get away from me. I just stood there and screamed that over and over until he finally turned around and ran back to the campsite. The harassment with him went on for a long time. He would text me "oh are you scared" cause I wouldn't hook up with him. Looking back now I would of handled it differently but when you're put on the spot you don't knew what to do. I finally told him if you text me one more time I'm forwarding all these messages to your wife. And after that the harassment stopped. And I told a girl about a different incident with him and she confronted him. He called me and was "trying to keep me quiet" and I told him I don't care anymore. If he doesn't stop I'm gonna tell everybody. Once I stood up for myself and he realized I wasn't going to keep quiet about it, he went away and hasn't bothered me since. These men pick there victims. They don't just pick a girl at random. They find somebody who appears to have low self-esteem, knows she won't defend herself, isn't gonna talk, and know they can get away with it. And that may be why you were picked. Not because of your tattoos or clothing. I used allow myself to be victim when I was around your age. Not just the guy I mentioned but I had other bad experiences too. Now I'm about 32 y.o and I learned to speak up for myself. I no longer tolerate it. Here and there I get caught off guard. I'll be riding my bicycle through the park and men will shout sexual things at me from their cars. I'm not even wearing a sexy outfit. And if somebody makes a sexual mark at work, oh your legs just wanted to see them, your employer should side with you. You shouldn't be afraid to speak up for yourself at work. They don't need a customer like that. But it really is everywhere. I hate to say that but it happens everyday and all the time to women. All we can do is learn to defend ourselves. Don't take it personally, don't lose sleep over it cause they win that way.

[@CognitionSpeaks1]

I felt so upset for you while watching this. I do not get how creeps think they can pull shit like this. I mean, it's not hard to find a consenting adult, it really isn't.. and yet they insist on being predators. I'm sickened by people who are like this. You are brave and thank you for sharing your story.

[@wichitahimsa8372]

i am so sorry that this happened to you. it makes me sick to my stomach knowing that there are people like this out there. i felt your pain when you looked away from the camera to recollect the situation and explain what happened. on a lighter note i've really been wanting to comment and let you know that you are literally the only youtuber i can sit and listen to for thirty minute videos. you're just so intriguing and beautiful and innocent spoken. you're videos make me happy :)

[@emyemyemyyyy]

Oh love :( I've been through similar things and I completely understand. Mine was much more recent and I'm still recovering, please know you aren't alone. I'm proud of you for making this and talking about it, it did me a lot of good. Sending love and happiness

[@chloeviolets6865]

it's really awkward when kids get a bit too disrespectful. A few weeks ago I was with my sister, waiting in line for a ride in a theme park. There was this family behind us in line with a child that was about six years old at most. I'm really short for my age and I have therefore shorter legs. This kid wrapped his hands around my legs and was touching my inner thighs. I was wearing shorts because it was really hot and this kid started tugging on my shorts. I didn't know what to say or do. I looked back at the parents and tried to get their attention. I then realized that they were watching it happen and already knew what was going on. I tried to ask them to get their son off me but they just laughed, it wasn't until my extremely tall boyfriend came up behind them to pass me my drink that they finally detached their son from my leg . I don't know if it was because of my boyfriend or not that they stopped but it most likely was.

[@mickmchenry9574]

I remember one specific time I was walking to work (I was in Philly at the time as well) and walked by a group of men outside a bar around 6pm. Some of them were catcalling me, but one in particular made a comment about my tattoos and how much he liked them. I thanked them but kept going, and he followed and asked me more questions. I answered him but was pretty curt, because he was probably about 3 heads taller than me. He kept pestering and I eventually ignored him, and that made him mad, so he pushed me against the wall and tried to hit/grope me (this was after 5 minutes of him following me). I have never been so scared. Luckily, I screamed and a few passerbys pulled him away. I really appreciate you telling your story and speaking out about what happened to you. That's very brave! Thank you!

[@sophisaliverightnow]

it literally just baffles me how people can think this is an okay thing to do to someone. like who tf goes to a shop and sees a girl and thinks 'oh yeah i know what i'll do, this'll be great' and just grabs someone like that???? i'm really glad you shared this with your audience to bring a little more awareness to things like this, don't forget that you have a whole lot of support from us xxx

[@vailroman5085]

Thank you so much for sharing your heart. I am so encouraged to be more alert and vocal. I actually had a customer come into my restaurant today...friendly guy. Seemed like a normal young man, dressed up and hanging out with his friends. As he was leaving he thanked me for bringing him his jacket, but put his arm around me and lightly kissed my neck. Usually I am one to stand up for myself and not take anything from anyone. (I am a small girl and don't ever want people to think they can get over on me.) But this time, for some reason, I couldn't say anything. I was embarrassed and didn't want to cause a scene. But I know that God wants me to stand up for myself and having stumbled upon this video, I feel inspired to even more & not just for myself, but so these men won't think they can do these same things to the next girl. You are so strong and I am so grateful for your vulnerability and honesty. ❤️✨

[@liziuhh]

Im so proud of you for being able to talk about this. The experiences I've had with touching have been with partners or people who I was interested in, we were friends and I was interested in them. I was close with them and I trusted them, and they did stuff I was uncomfortable with, but I never said anything to them or my parents because I don't like confrontation. In middle school, my bully basically said he was going to take me in the bathroom and do stuff whether I wanted to or not. He never did, he was all talk, but it really fucked me up for a while, everything he did really fucked me up. When strangers say stuff, like trying to flirt and I'm not interested, my automatic response is "I'm 15 and my dad is a biker, leave me alone." Even though neither of those things are true. To this day, my parents don't know anything that has happened to me because I'm too scared to tell them.

[@karissarawr]

I take the bus every day. I live in a decently small town and even though it's an okay town, the terminal is in the middle of downtown and there can be a lot of sketchy people taking the bus or at the terminal. this video helped me realise the severity of harassment and how it can happen to anyone, anywhere. I'm glad you talked about what the detective told you about switching up your route and stuff. I would have never thought of that. thank you for being so transparent and open about this stuff. I just found your channel about a week ago and I'm already obsessed with you! love the content, love your personality! stay safe, xoxo

[@TheDadagibberish]

Thank you for this video. I'm sick of hearing about these creeps, and I'm so glad that in your last story someone helped you. I'm a man, and I honestly don't understand how some other men develop into heartless creeps. Thanks for being strong and posting this.

[@amanda-2]

Qcknd, I'm so sorry you went through that. I live in NYC and had experienced the same situation as your grocery store and subway experiences. You are very brave and strong to open up and share you stories publicly.

[@UC4md8XBqWGU-GtFcgx3DUyg]

I work in food and I can't tell you how many times stuff like this has happened to me. It is very true that you just don't feel like it's real at the moment. Or you feel like you just have to ignore your temptation to break down and just help the next customer and act happy. You're so strong for sharing your story to so many people! Ive never been able to.

[@SamM-pd5cj]

It's really important to talk about this! I'm very proud that you're finally able to talk about this. I'm sorry this happened to you but you lived through it and it's great to talk about sexual harassment. It's disgusting and needs to be controlled

[@himboking]

as someone who has been assaulted before, this made me really emotional. watching this, i could tell how much this really affected you. i know this isn't going to mean much but i'm really sorry that this happened. thank you for sharing your story.

[@TheStarStrangled]

I work at a grocery store just like that and I get customers that scare me and make me uncomfortable. One in particular is a regular and he always tells me how pretty I am and how pretty my smile is and stares right at me the whole time he's bagging his groceries. I've had customers tell me that regular customers of ours followed them through the store and made them uncomfortable. I ALWAYS tell a manager. Even if nothing comes of it, at least people are aware. I'm sorry something like this happened to you. Never be afraid to report people (especially if they had video evidence). It never hurts to make people aware of creeps, and if they know what they look like (like with our regular customers) they can keep an eye on them.

[@LeonSKennedysHoe]

I'm so sorry this happened to you! I wish that people in this world had more dignity. 💙

[@darrenjenkins9169]

I think its really brave of you to share your experiences, especially because they're so personal. It's kinda sad that there's people who have to look out for this stuff every day and I know from my personal experiences how devastating it can be and the negative effects it can have on a person. just remember you are strong and like, you should never be afraid to speak out and stand up for yourself x

[@river1216]

I want to hug that kid who stood with you on the platform. That's awesome. There are so many weirdos in this world, and we need to protect each other.

[@thestarspark2288]

Hey, I'm from Melbourne, in Australia. I'm a young woman in my early 20s, and although no one has ever touched me, I've had many many situations in public places where men have verbally street harassed me and other subtle things that are really horrible. I live in a high socioeconomic suburb, which is considered very safe, lots of young families and old people, but this happens all the time to me. The most vulnerable I have felt was when I was walking down my small quiet suburban tree lined street in the middle of the day. I was just going out to grab a takeaway coffee at a cafe around the corner, and then come straight back home. I'm walking along, and I hear a car come up behind me, it slowly drives past and this guy has his window open in the front seat and is leering out it at me. He was looking right in my eyes, with that 'look', the creepiest most disgusting stare right into my soul .Its the look that says "I want to do awful things to you". He keeps driving, and is looking back at me. This all happened in seconds, and as you said I wish I had reacted, at least given him the finger or something. I was scared, and so I did nothing, and he drove away. I was so shaken, but I went on auto-pilot and grabbed the coffee, so I got it and went back home, and when I did I just couldn't stop crying. I felt so violated, it crossed a line, I couldn't even feel safe from perverted creeps even walking down my own street in the middle of the day anymore.

[@BreannaBaozi]

When i was in 7th grade, i was passing through the isles in the classroom before my class started to get to my seat. I brushed up against this boy accidentally and i said sorry. He said "You wanna be like that?" And then he cornered me in the corner of two desks and started to brush his butt up against me. The teacher wasn't in the room. Everyone laughed at me. I cried at my seat for the duration of class and the teacher noticed me crying but he didn't talk to me about why i was sad or crying. I haven't told anyone about it, even my parents and it happened almost 5 years ago. Thankfully, i moved so i went to a different school, but it really has scarred me.

[@ambersampson5447]

Oh my word... It's scary how things like that start at such young ages and that they'll grow up thinking it's ok when it truly isn't and there are laws against that shit for a reason. I hope you're ok now I'm so sorry

[@ambersampson5447]

Also that teacher sucks

[@Nisu58]

It's ridiculous how people have to rearrange their time schedules or "learn" how to not leave a place at a certain time. This makes me so sad every person who sexually harasses physically or verbally should be arrested. I know how hard it must've been for you, I've never been physically harassed but I have been verbally. And honestly if I was in your position I would've shook it off and been like this can't be real it was a mistake but it's not a mistake he did do it and you can't excuse it. I would be scared out of my mind and I wouldn't know how to handle it either. :( I'm so sorry this happened to you. And honestly thank you for shedding light on this I feel more alert.

[@KeelySheridan]

This video has made me nervous actually. Last week at work I was touched inappropriately, it happened very quickly and I told myself "I this really happening? It has to have been an accident". But this is so recent I'm still unsettled by it. Thanks for uploading.

[@crystaltippex]

I remember when I read about what happened to you at the supermarket on tumblr and that story still cross my mind at times because I can so relate to that feeling of "he didn't mean to" or trying to convince yourself that it's fine. I think I wrote you back then and said that I'm sorry that it happened to you but I want to say again that I'm so sorry that those men thought that it was ok to treat you like that. You are so strong to be able to speak about it and your reaction when something scary happens to you is never wrong. It's an instinct and you can't control it. Hearing these stories makes me so upset because it fucking sucks that you don't feel safe to wear short skirts with tucked in t-shirts anymore and that that man took that from you. I have experienced similar stories of men touching me or in other ways being harassing and having things like that happen to you changes aspects of your life. I don't feel comfortable wearing short shorts or skirts anymore if I go out in the evening, I always bring jeans that I can wear when going home alone. And it fucking sucks that I can't just feel safe however I'm dressed or look like. You're strong and great and I hope that you have experienced your last one of these stories. Lots of hugs!!!

[@jessicaramirez2752]

I can totally relate to this video in its whole essence. What gets me the most is when I talk to other people afterwards and they say "why didn't you say something to them or do something to them" especially boys (in my experience). People don't understand how hard it is because you put so much blame on yourself. Even though I'm 16, men do not care and it's disgusting and i feel worse when it should be the other way around. I have been sexually assaulted and its been so hard for me to trust guys and go into a relationship because of my experiences. Thank you so much for making this video it has definitely helped me!

[@jessicawakem3307]

Dear god, I do not know how you remained so calm! I would have FLIPPED. Also, SO thankful I don't live in Philadelphia! In my state you can carry whatever you want concealed.

[@luannjeanette611]

I live in a city in Canada where it isn't very safe for women to walk around by themselves. I've been robbed, and groped a number of times. Now that i'm attending college, i've been harrassed and cat called by my "fellow" male students, and i DO NOT feel safe. I walk home alone at after school too, and now that it is winter it gets dark around 4:30-5:00pm (when i get out of class). I carry pepperspray. I have it in my hand when I walk home. Sometimes I feel like i'm waiting for something to happen because I carry the pepperspray. I think i'm traumatized by these experiences and I don't know if I will ever feel safe..

[@EvaSoek]

Aw no Qcknd! All the hugs to you 💕 it's so sad that those pervs are out there and feel entitled to harass someone like that. You're a great person and I love how you use your experiences to help other people and make this not only about you, but about educating people on what is happening and how to deal with it. I feel like you are so caring towards other people. You are really inspiring, I think you add a lot of value to people watching you on youtube 😊 kisses!

[@HottiePlusCutie1011]

I have an experience that I don't exactly look back on too often. I was only 10 or 11, and there were these 2 guys in my class, one of them had asked me to be his girlfriend a year before this, saying, "You're hot. You wanna be my girlfriend?" I was in 4th grade at that time, so I said no. But back to the incidents, these 2 guys kept following me around at the waterpark. I didn't really think about it since I knew them and talked to them sometimes. I was swimming through the lazy river, and one of them grabbed my thigh, pulled me back towards him, and slapped my butt. I just kicked his hand off of me and swam away. He did this numerous other times, just without grabbing my thighs again. The other guy would follow me around and slap my butt whenever I went to dive under the water. I never reported these things because I was young and I didn't realize what was happening. I also thought it was normal because I knew them and they did it to other girls too. Looking back on it, I should've kicked them in their stupid faces. I cut off all contact with them a year after, when I realized what they did.

[@dmphax]

You're right it can happen anywhere. I live in small town New Brunswick, Canada, and I've had a guy grab me by the wrist and try to get me to go home with him, in broad daylight in front of a store. Thankfully I wasn't groped, but he sure did bruise my wrist. I didn't file a report either, and I avoided that area for a long while after. When I finally did decide to venture over there again, I was in the grocery store nearby where this incident had occurred, and he appeared in an aisle I was in - and he remembered me. Worst feeling ever. I got out of there quick and got home. Haven't seen him again since, thankfully.

[@mandaloouise]

Personally I've never been harassed physically.. but verbal abuse has been a thing that happened a lot whilst I was going up. Waiting for the bus.. people would drive past and shout out the windows at me.. stop me as I'm walking home and say crude things.. even follow me.. Its such a horrible situation.. and I get what you mean with the out of body experience.. I just want to hide and crawl away until its over.. which I wish I didn't do when I look back :/

[@AARluver08]

Stay strong! I was groped earlier this year in a parking garage and I can't go anywhere anymore without having the feeling that some man is going to assault me again. It took me such a long time to cope with the fact that creeps like this actually exist and something could happen to me.

[@raddareneeradda]

It's so brave of you to share these experiences Amanda. Honestly, it's awful to hear that all of these terrifying things happened to you on plenty of occasions especially since you're such a good person and we all know you especially don't deserve any of it. Thank you so much for the insight and I know that I will keep more alert after hearing these stories and I'm sure you will touch a lot of young men and women's lives with this video for the better :) And honestly if I could, I would move to Philly and be your personal body guard because you shouldn't have to live in constant fear. And after seeing the video through to the end I really just want to reach through the screen and give you a massive hug and I just hope that things start looking up for you with this topic and everyone who means harm just fucks off lol

[@hannawithoutthe_h]

Hey I just want to say that I'm so sorry for what's happened to you and thank you so much for making this video. Sharing your own personal struggles helps others who've been through similar situations and spreads awareness in general

[@YUNGCOMCASTREMOTE]

Thank you for sharing this. I live in Philly, too and I am sexually harassed every. single. day. Verbally. Sometimes physically. I am more confrontational and will flip out and always have a knife on me. But, sometimes, you do freeze, and tell yourself it isnt real. Thank you for sharing the information the detective gave you, too! I take SEPTA daily and this is really useful. Thank you!!!!!!!

[@cognitohazard3]

my friend and i were leaving a concert in camden at like 1 am and there was a street blocked off so my dad was trying to figure out how to get to us to pick us up and we walked past this bus stop filled with people a couple of times trying to find somewhere that my dad could reach us. a lot of the people in the bus stop were drunk men. some were old and creepy-looking while others were younger and looked just like anybody else. every time we walked by they would make some sort of suggestive comment about us (i was 15 and my friend was 17) and the last time we walked by before my dad got to us one of the younger men grabbed my butt while his friends stood and watched. it was the most terrifying experience of my life and i'm so lucky to have had my friend with me because she pushed him away from me and we were able to run down the sidewalk away from him. thank you so much for sharing your stories it's comforting in a weird way the know that i'm not the only one who felt like this. (sorry this is really long i don't get to talk about this a lot)

[@chanii7294]

My now ex best friend ended up being obsessed with me after his girlfriend dumped him. When I rejected him he went crazy and started saying I've done so many nasty things with him (which qualifies as sexual harassment) and when I got proof the school did nothing about it but tell me if anything else happened to call them. It didn't stop and I tried getting help again but the same thing happened. I was only 14 and he ended up paying guys to put their hands up my skirt as revenge and I switched schools. I had to be the one to leave. Nothing happened to him and he's just doing it to other girls too. I can't wear skirts anymore without shorts under it or something. And even then I'm paranoid.

[@awesomeraingirl]

It's so important for people to help other people who are in those scary situations. Like I have been followed and yelled at down a street with a friend and people passed us and no one helped and it was terrifying. I could have died, my friend could have died, bad things could have happened to us and it was obvious what was happening to us and there were people around and NO ONE helped. I hope I can be there for people in the future because I know how helpless you feel in those situations. Much love to you Qcknd, thank you for sharing your story.

[@tony5896]

That was awful of those horrible people to do, and I know this must have been very hard to talk about, but thank you for sharing. this is an important issue and the more light that can be shed to help prevent it the better. I especially enjoyed your bit at the end about the boy who stood next to you. I hope more people can be like that and I think that your call to action will help us to be more aware for not just ourselves, but to help others. Thank you

[@DreamsInWild]

Thank you for sharing this. I know these sort of experiences are hard to talk about, but I think it's so important that we as women share them so we can make people understand that this is something that happens all the time to many, many women. These stories are why I am a feminist and why I believe that we need feminism. It's so frustrating to try and explain to people (men usually, unfortunately) why I am scared to walk home alone at night, or why it's so awful to be catcalled on the street. I have been extremely lucky because I have never had a situation escalate to the point where I've been grabbed, assaulted, or worse, but I have had some very unnerving experiences despite that and I always fear that next time it will be worse. I am a HUMAN BEING. So are you, and every other woman in the world, and we don't deserve to live in fear or treated like we are nothing more than toys for someone else's amusement. I am really sorry you experienced these things, but I appreciate you sharing them. Hopefully it will help bring more awareness to this issue. If even one person takes something positive away from this video, and goes away determined to stick up for a stranger the next time they witness something like this happen, then I think you have already made a difference :)

[@starhill6792]

I can sadly relate to some point and I live in a small city/town. I mean, it's awful, but it feels better to know it doesn't just happen to me. There are some places I don't go anymore. Just like how you support us, your viewers are here to support you.

[@TwilightKimvideos]

I know this video was filmed awhile ago, but I want to say thank you for making it. I know it's hard to talk about these things without breaking down or feeling stupid/ashamed. I've had several scary instances where I didn't know how to react. After each time I said, I will do something different next time. But in the moment, I always froze up. I'm glad it isn't just me. I'm sorry that man has taken your confidence to wear mini skirts away. I have a similar issue with shorts/skirts/dresses. I always wear leggings or tights with shorts underneath so I'm always covered. Hopefully one day, you will feel more comfortable again.

[@Bimbolobotomy]

I'm so sorry these things have happened to you. I know how scary and how disgusting you can feel after something like this happens. I suppose all you can do is report (if you personally want to) defend yourself to your best ability, and just be strong, and keep going. Love you and your videos so much!

[@honeymoonbeauty]

Your grocery store story gave me the chills, you shouldn't of had to go through that. I was once followed of a bus I think I was 14 It started when I sat next to this Middle Ages man. He was murmuring something and I could really understand him and when a seat was empty In front of him I decided to sit in it as I felt a little awkward. He then started murmuring again and breathed heavily down my neck which I knew wasn't right I got of two stops before I got off and he came up to me he smelt of smoke and alcohol and it was like he was extremely close to me. And breathed down my neck wants more. I then rushed of the bus without out saying thanks to the driver and he followed me for a bit. At this time I didn't know what to do and I rang my mum who was working away and takes the train home with her friend she told me to come to the train station I was in tears and when I saw my mum I hugged her and on the bus home, she wanted me to report it and I never really had to talk to...

[@honeymoonbeauty]

...a police man before or had a incident to report after thinking about it we got hope and reported it and was told that the Police would come round and take a statement. It took them 2 hours to come and during that time I washed my neck as I felt uncomfortable and when they finally showed up I told the police man what happened and he wanted a description of the man which was hard as he was sat down most of the time. They game me a number to call if it happens again and that was that. I never saw the man again, I reported it to my school and they didn't even bother warning students about it. But ever since I hate people breathing on my at all whether it's in my face or accidentally I hate it and I tell people not to breathe on me heavily.

[@honeymoonbeauty]

Btw im 17 now. So that was a couple of years ago.

[@MySummer97]

thank you for making this video! I live in a very small town and still I get shouted at all the time .. I haven't experienced anything as bad as you have but it's still not ok .. thank you for reminding me of that and reassuring me that I don't deserve that kind of treatment. Nobody does...

[@CaptainCummerbund]

I'm so sorry that you had to experience all that. It's terrible that stuff like that is so common in our society.

[@helzbelz138]

I'm sorry that this happened to you. I'm sorry that this has happened to me, and i'm sorry for every single person this will happen to in the future. As a heavily modified "alternative" woman i get a lot of attention wherever i go, i'm 27 years old, i work in retail and have been dealing with this type of harassment for 10 years. You learn quickly the signs of someone who is just a genuine person interested in tattoos etc and someone who is trying to hurt you. About 6 months ago a dodgy customer at work started following me home so i had to change the way i walked, but he still found me, i ended up running home one night, and i ended up telling my manager and he told me never to walk home alone ever again. There has been too many instances like this and worse. Protect yourself.

[@cassie1750]

In high school I had a "friend" I guess, who was very touchy. He started out by always touching my face, my hair, telling me how soft I was. It made me so uncomfortable but I brushed it off because I knew he was complimenting me, and I didn't want to be mean to him. Eventually, things escalated and he started hugging me. He would come up to me with no warning and hug me, and he would push himself against my breasts in a very obvious manner. He did this for a year, and I just couldn't make myself say anything. Soon enough, I started getting tired of this. I had a boyfriend now and I really felt uncomfortable with another man touching me. One day, he went to hug me and he pushed himself against me and I had had enough. I asked him, politely, please don't hug me anymore. He said okay and then hugged me again a few moments later. I said again, politely, please don't hug me again. He said okay, and then did it AGAIN. This frustrated me, so I said STOP touching me. He got so mad that I wouldn't let him touch me that he yelled at me, and told our mutual friends that they couldn't hang out with me anymore. I couldn't believe it. Eventually, he actually groped another girl at my school. And he was expelled. Another time, one of his close friends was interested in me. I didn't feel the same. I made it clear, that I didn't feel the same. But I was happy to be friends. One day i'm at my locker, and he just comes up behind me and hugs me with his crotch pressed against my butt and I can feel his chubby and I couldn't help but scream. It was embarrassing and I actually apologized to him but it was very weird..I've been shouted at, followed, and chatted up. It's scary and I always tremble and show i'm afraid and I hate that. I get a lot of older men following me around in public, or staring at my chest or any part of me. It's an adrenaline rush and I feel clammy. Once, a man followed me around in Walmart down every aisle. And would un-apologetically stare at me, with this stupid smirk on his face. He didn't leave until my boyfriend publicly ostracized him. Another time, a man followed me and a friend at a park. He was obviously drunk, and he was screaming at me to come get into his car. He was getting violent and it was terrifying. These are all times that I ended the day feeling disgusting, and like shit. I don't ever talk about this, and it feels nice to say this and get it off my chest. I love you qcknd.

[@saffronbleu1]

Thank you for sharing your story. It's so sad but I think 90% of all women have experienced some sort of sexual assault or harassment like this in their lives and more people need to share their stories. Thank you!

[@becca8557]

I just kind of accidentally stumbled upon your channel and was browsing through your videos (I was sucked into like a 2 hour youtube vortex) and I have to tell you, this video (and you, yourself!) was such a breath of fresh air. I don't mean that in a condescending way or to minimize your experiences. It was just nice for me, as a young woman, to hear someone share similar experiences to mine. This summer I was cutting the grass (I live on a main road in a suburb of Detroit) in sweats and a long t-shirt, when in a matter of 15 minutes I was called a bitch, a slut, and even had someone throw a used condom, full of who-knows-what at me. A few weeks later I was hiking a trail when I had a really horrifying experience -- I went to the local PD and they blamed me for it. I guess I shouldn't go out in public by myself? Silly women, huh? Anyways, some of these experiences I've had lately have left me feeling so disgusted, used, and helpless. It seriously sucks that you have had these experiences, and it sucks that I did too, but I think/hope that by sharing these experiences we can encourage other women to find the courage to share their experiences and to force men to look at what has become accepted and normalized treatment for the women in our society. Good luck in all that you do, you seem like a really genuine and kind person! xxo

[@KirstyDaviesyay]

it blows my mind how a lot of men feel that because you're a girl thats an open invitation to be sexual and crude, i've had a fair few guys online talk to me about sex or say that my sexuality is "yum", and regardless of the amount of times i've told them that i dont want to talk about that kind of stuff, they keep pushing. regarding experiences in real life, very recently i had an elderly man walk past me several times and smell me in a shop, when i realised he was full-on staring at me i stormed out of the shop. regardless of this man's age, it made me feel very uncomfortable and i was careful to avoid him for the rest of the day. what you said about never being prepared or expecting something like this to happen is so true, you don't expect people to be so overwhelming and rude

[@wasteofoxygen28]

A very honest and raw video all the way to end. I really appreciate you sharing this, I can relate in feeling like I have to be on defense and always alert. I'm sorry for what you've gone through. Shared it on my Facebook so everyone can see what it's like and why people don't always report harassment. This is a great teaching tool I think. Again I'm sorry you had to go through it but I also believe it can help others

[@laylah9542]

I'm so sorry that happened to you QCKND. You're so strong and we love you and support you always :)

[@thesoothingsurf]

Girl, you made me cry twice here. I'm so sorry this stuff has happened to you. (I've had stuff happen, but it was by a relative or two...or three.) I grew up and still live just outside of Boston. I was harrassed by a coworker. I used to like to go there just to lose myself in the hustle and bustle. I was around 20 then. Now I'm 50 and for years I've mostly avoided going there. When I was 28 I was robbed at knifepoint (it was a big case cutter) by a female wanting her drugs. Then my next landlord was a peeping Tom. To this day I don't turn my lights on at night (except the kitchen.) It freaks me out. Now I'm contemplating making a career change and I'm interested in a job in Boston, but I need to make a trial bus/subway run to see if I can handle it on a daily basis first. I have depression and bad anxiety, and it gets in the way nowadays, but I still tend to not want to think ill of anyone, as far as keeping my guard up all the time. I'm not naive, just a little more trusting (outwardly) than I probably should be. *hugs*

[@DitteMariaJensen]

I used to work at a supermarket from I was 16 to 18, and one summer when I was 17 we weren't a lot of people at work, like properbly only 2 or 3 at a time and this homeless alcoholic kept comming in to the store. In my town we have a lot of homeless people, and a lot of alcoholics who are completely harmless and the sweetest people you can meet but this one... He was so uncomfortable to be around, and he would litterally come in to the store 7-10 times a day and buy one or two beers everytime. To all of the other staff members he was "just" rude, and would yell at them and so on, but I was the only one who were younger who worked there at the time so he would keep flirting with me, and asking if I had a boyfriend and how old I was, and eventually he would start calling me by my first name everytime he came in. The most uncomfortable thing was when he began telling me that he wanted me to give birth to his babies and he would stand outside the store when I got off at 8 pm. I told my boss so many times and it wasn't till I said that I was going to quit if they didn't do anything that he was no longer allowed in the store, and I would get my dad to pick me up after work untill I never saw him anymore. Luckily nothing happened, but knowing that he would've properbly raped me or something if he had the chance scared me so much!

[@MorixMemento]

This really helped me, I get harassed at my retail job every single shift and I feel powerless. So thank you (:

[@aFunnyWorldWeLiveIn]

I have had the same experience in terms of parents' reactions. I think it makes people scared to think their child might be defenceless against predators so it's easier to be in "denial" and think there must be something you should/could have done to protect yourself.

[@steven.sp0hn]

Those stories were awful. I’m so sorry that happens to you. Nobody should have to go through that. I am here for you and everyone else who has gone through similar things.

[@mm92806]

Thank you for sharing your experience!

[@stkaringten6604]

Thank you for sharing 💕 when I was younger I would have never spoke out if I was sexual harassment but thanks to video like this one I now have the courage to stand up for myself. You're very brave and I admire you a lot :)

[@justanaverageunicorn2715]

You poor, poor girl. I've suffered too. NONE of us deserve this to happen. These perverts deserve jail time; how dare they think it's ok to do these disgusting things?! Sending you supportive vibes and hugs Qcknd. Xxxxxx

[@TheCathieC]

Hey, I'm sorry that happened to you, something similar happened to me, and it was awful. It's so disgusting that people feel like they can touch other people with out their permission. It really sucks. Lots of love from Ireland.

[@FloralFidelity]

You're so brave for sharing your stories! I'm so sorry you've been through those things. It definitely is an important topic to talk about and I learned a lot from this video so thank you for sharing! Since moving to a city for college I've definitely tried to obey my instincts more and keep alert which I feel has definitely helped me.

[@lagatitabruja]

I am so sorry this had to happen to you. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. my first reaction also would've been to scream at him or make a scene. But thinking about it you never really know how you're going to act if you were put in that situation. It's sick that women have to even worry about this ever happening to them. It's good you took action to her learn how to protect yourself. On a side note I went on eBay and bought that pillow you're holding as well as the donut and strawberry!

[@Soti_bun]

i experienced many very similar situations while i was living in greece:( and unfortunately it's much more accepted there so there was never a time i felt i could report any of it. i totally get what you mean with the 'outer body' experience thing. and i to this day years later, i still imagine the different ways i could have been "stronger" (both in the physical and mental sense) to protect myself better in those predatory situations.

[@Joyceline]

It's a shame that we can think of a ton of precautions we can take to prevent being victims of sexual predators and perverts, yet you don't hear much about all the ways we can stop people from doing disgusting things to other people and teach them to not be a**holes.

[@QuelaMeownston]

The audacity of these people is absolutely deplorable. Even worse is how frequently these kinds of things happen. You're right about being a sitting duck while at work in the service industry. I used to work as a bartender and often heard all kinds of gross crap while behind the bar. Most of the time I was able to stand up for myself because of the setting (a bar) but I still kind of had to pick my battles because putting up with a certain amount of it meant more money for the business and for me at the end of the night. Now I work in a mall and it is much harder to deflect. The fear of losing a sale creates a toxic environment where employees don't feel like they can assert a standard of being treated with decent human respect, and customers get away with acting like total animals. It's gross. I like to think that if someone was brazen enough to trick me into letting them look up my dress and then grabbed me afterward, I would absolutely have been able to kick them out without my managers being upset with me over the loss of a customer. People in the service industry deal with enough dehumanizing bullshit as it is, we shouldn't have to put up with being flat out sexually harassed.

[@timothykoshar65]

I did some work in Philly and it first it seemed like a great town but the more I was there the longer I seen the bad people and the seedy side of it. Got to be on your toes in that town, and we never went out after 9 p.m. I'm sorry about your experiences, but thank God for good men out there, we are still out there.

[@hunterak4751]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I love your advice and your stories. You are wise and intelligent.

[@stevie456]

im so sorry that happened to you ive been in a situation like that and it was at peter piper pizza and this man came up to me and asked me if he could see me naked and i was just so terrified and scared and you know as a 16 years old i didnt know what to do i told my grandparents and they just didnt seem to care and just i have nightmares to this day but your so inspirational and just you give me hope to go on in life and not to be afraid

[@book_dragon5347]

I was traveling at 19 in London. I didn't know the bus system very well yet and I got off at the wrong stop. I'm really good about being aware of my surroundings and I noticed this guy was following me for like 3 blocks. it's the middle of the night and it's a residential area. No reason for him to follow me. I'm pretty small. Something easily could have gone wrong. I was so mad that I was lost and had some weird guy following me that I turned around and yelled at him to leave me the f*** alone. Idk why that worked but I ended up reaching my destination safely. I was lucky. Shit happens to people everyday. I'm truly sorry for what people go through, what you've gone through. Everyone should watch everyone's back. You never know when you'll need someone to watch yours. Like...put that good karma out there. What you put out comes back to you.

[@Chokolectrik]

Watching this made me remember something that happened a few years ago. I was waiting on the train and had noticed this man (in his late forties or fifties) looking at me kind of strange (weirdly you always kind of make stuff like that out to be that you misinterpreted that look someone gave you). I didn't make anything out of it and just moved away from where he was waiting. The platform was filled with people, it was broad daylight so I wasn't weary. When the train arrived we got on at different entrances. I sat down and about 2 minutes after he had slowed into the wagon I was sitting in and sat down in the four-seater next to mine. Still thinking this was just a coincidence I turned on my music only to look over at him and see him with his eyes closed, pretending to be sleeping and touching himself. His zipper was open and his privates were on display... Although I wasn't alone in the wagon I didn't know what to do so I just got up and stood in the area where the exits were...

[@lecrae4123]

This mad me SO SAD! It's sad that people do this. NO ONE should have to deal with this.

[@avrilcuttecrap]

You're cute, you always make me cry when you open your heart like this.

[@Qcknd]

Avril Guarino Aw i'm sorry :( But thank you

[@avrilcuttecrap]

Qcknd No I didn't mean like, "sad crying" or yes maybe it is but it's okay !

[@mndyD9]

Thank you for sharing, I've had similar things happen... Idk if it's because I am so petite but I honestly have a violent temper and I do feel that though I'm small it helps kinda scare people off. Sometimes I feel like if you act crazy it scares ppl off as stupid as that sounds. But yes as someone who is tattooed I get a lot of weirdo trying to talk to me. Stay strong luv and don't let these creeps keep you from being you, you have a beautiful soul and a lot of ppl love you!💕🙏🏼

[@hunicakez]

Thank you for sharing your story. You are a strong woman and as a woman myself, I understand, I care, and I thank you for your strength and courage.

[@rashopa9101]

I live outside of the city, and i don't go to it often. Unless i have to. Gives me anxiety, it's crazy. If someone's with me, I'm fine, but I still worry about something happening. I'm sorry you had to deal with that shit. And I just realized this was posted almost a year ago! But I just found your channel, and i love your vids =)

[@lex3913]

I'm sorry these things happened to you Qcknd, and I wish you luck and health out there in the world! Thank you for sharing your stories and making your voice heard. Lots of people ask, "Why didn't you ____" and you're right, it comes from them wishing they could've been there to help. But ultimately...it's so hard to tell what you'll do until it's happening, and typically it's too late. Predators teach themselves to look for those opportunities. Hang in there, look out for others, as you said! We have to be there for each other!

[@XxImtoochillenxX]

When I lived in NJ, everyone seemed to respect women (to an extent) at least where I'm from. Then I moved to SC, and NO ONE respects women. Here, we are objects. I have experienced sexual harassment, discrimination at work by companies and customers. What can you do? If you're too passive you might get taken advantage of, it might escalate, but if you're too aggressive the same thing could happen. So many labor laws get broken down here, and so many people discriminate against others for their skin color or their gender or their sexual orientation and it is socially acceptable (at least where I am) and... it's not okay. I will not go anywhere alone, not even the more upscale "safer" areas, because I have felt unsafe there as well.

[@mywingsareyours]

I have a lot of sexual harassment stories but almost all of them are just verbal and not physical. I had a guy follow me off the bus and a guy drive alongside me jeering at me and trying to follow me home. Those were the scariest verbals. I have one physical assault story and i was almost raped. I was about 10 or 11 and we were in Seattle. My parents were talking in a café and i wanted to go a block down to look at the ocean. A group of super stoned guys started serenading me with a guitar and encircling me. The forced me back to where we weren't visible from the street and shit went down. Luckily i was able to get away and they just watched, they didn't come after me.

[@ungelisteterkanal]

I don't even want to like this video, because I don't like what you had to go through, but then I like that you told the world what happened to you, because I'm sure there are thousands of women and also men who went through something like this and don't know what to do and might be afraid of telling anyone about it. I hope you won't experience more bad things! But we never know...

[@lex3913]

I can relate so much...from several different experiences. Most recently, I was at a show in my city and a man grabbed my chest from behind when we were in a crowd. I am normally the first person to react when a friend is in trouble, but as soon as it was me.. I was in so much shock that I didn't know what to do. I was lucky that a friend was there and she started screaming at him and hitting him and started shouting to all the people around us. The guy looked sooo scared and that was the only solace I have from that experience. I have not been to a show ever since.. and that's one of the reasons, because creeps use it to sneak up on unsuspecting girls. I was on the train in Chicago with my mother and my older sister in Chicago and a random man gave me a flower.. I didn't know what to do so I said thanks. He then sat in front of us and pulled out his junk & started masturbating in front of us! My mom was mortified and had never experienced anything like that before because she never goes to the city. I believe the man was ill or possibly disabled, but my sister immediately moved us away and went to get the security. A coworker at my first job tried to choke me because he was upset that I refused to cheat on my fiance with him.. and he had to be fired because at work he actually hit me in the stomach. There are so many other things I have experienced too that are similar... I get exactly how you feel to a point. I have pepper spray and I carry it with me always, not because I want to look vulnerable, but because I want any asshole who comes up to me to know that he's gonna have to fight me!

[@kkw4034]

Even though nothing has happened to me I feel so uncomfortable when I go outside and see boys staring at me, since it's summer I don't go outside as much exactly for that reason, because I want to avoid being harassed

[@cjnell1]

Hearing this story made my heart hurt. Growing up in the streets of new york city things like this happened to me all the time. I never got touched many times but it did happen and it saddens me. I hate the fact because you are dressed to your liking you have to be subjected to being touched. The first time i spent the night at my dads house in 2009 my dads wife's nephew molested me while i was asleep. i woke up to my sweat pants string being undone and i kept feeling tugging whenever i did fall back asleep. it lasted for 3 hours. I told my dad and he was enraged until his wife and my ex husband convinced them i allowed this to happen. I was in the army and i have been trained to kill but i am still a human being, a woman. I went to counseling to get over it and i am glad i did. Now i carry a taser with me. 5million volts. You are not vulnerable. You are a beautiful woman. I am so glad you have over came this and took the right steps to get over this. But the anxiety i still feel when i am in crowds. Even though these men may think what they did is not horrible they took our security feeling when being out in public and it takes weeks, months, years to get that safely feeling back but even then the feeling of being secure 100% never comes back. I am so sorry these things happened to you. These people are sick and its saddening. I am new to your page and i love your videos already. Im a new subbie. Sending you virtual hugs. Stay strong. You have an amazing husband who has your back and that's an amazing thing.

[@peachi_]

Both myself and all of my female friends have experienced some form of harassment, whether it was verbal or physical, it's disgusting how common it is :(