Sexually Abused by Father | Male Sexual Abuse

"I was scared to get killed. So I just...I just did what I had to do-masturbate him, make him cum."
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Charles Dickens wrote stories about childhoods like this. Actually, Dickens’ stories were not permeated with the kind of horrific physical and sexual abuse that Jean-Paul endured. Jean-Paul was born into a family that was riddled with addiction and generations of violence and abuse.
One scene: Jean-Paul, 12 years old, lying semi-conscious on the floor in a spreading pool of his own blood, after a savage beating by his own psychotic mother. Hours later, his father awakens him and tells him never to speak about this to anyone. And a second: alone with his father in a remote, northern Ontario cabin, forced to masturbate his father, terrified that he would otherwise be killed in an alcoholic rage.
There were many years of struggle, years of addiction, delinquency, suicide attempts, and of violent behavior (he became a gang leader). Nights spent alone in a bed, hugging himself, weeping. But there were also angels - a guidance counselor, a doctor, a police officer, nuns - who brought grace into Jean-Paul’s life at crucial moments, who no doubt saved his life. At age 19 he attended a weekend Catholic retreat and, for the first time, experienced the love of God. He never again used drugs.
And now this scene: Jean-Paul, age 19, at a psychiatric hospital to see his mother for the first time in five years. She is a shattered shadow of herself. She begs his forgiveness. And Jean-Paul embraces her, and gives her his forgiveness. After having the spiritual experience that cured his addiction, “I knew a little about forgiveness.”
Today, Jean-Paul helps to protect the Governor-General of Canada, he speaks publicly about child abuse, giving hope to others, and he remains faithful to God and to the boy who survived a childhood beyond Dickens’ imagination.
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1in6 is a national nonprofit organization supporting the estimated 1 in 6 men who have experienced sexual abuse or assault. At 1in6, we believe that the tens of millions of male survivors who have had such experiences deserve to live whole, meaningful lives, but we know that isn’t always easy. Entrenched myths about masculinity, the stigma and silence around the issue, and a lack of male-specific services are just some of the barriers men face to seeking help and addressing emotional wounds in a healthy way.
Men who feel unsafe to disclose and seek help may risk exposure to social dysfunction and mental and physical health issues, including but not limited to: depression, PTSD, suicidal ideation, addiction, isolation, fear of intimacy, confusion about sexuality, interpersonal violence, and feelings such as anger, guilt, shame, and distrust.
We help men overcome the negative effects of past experiences and reclaim their lives by offering information, outreach, and free and anonymous services for men and their loved ones, as well as service providers working with men.
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[@alanolson6913]

My perpetrator was a neighbor, it was when I was aged 5 - 7. He also told me that if I told anyone that I would be taken away and never see my family again because that’s what is done to boys who tell. I believed him (how was a boy of 5 going to protect himself). I’m 70 now. Good, loving wife of 42 years, 3 great children who are terrific adults. Yet the hurt, the shame, the sorrow of a lost childhood never truly ever goes away. It’s part of us every day of our lives.

[@MothersPills]

Why any parent would do such a thing is mind boggling. So sorry you had to go through this.

[@TemuulTK]

Wow what a wonderful man! He survived and lived through the most horrific abuse. His father I hope was punished what he did to him!

[@larakillian4108]

This is heartbreaking! I’m so sorry you had to endure such a horrible childhood

[@GeneralGrausam]

Thank you for your courage. I stand with you.

[@BobJenkins-ez1jl]

I'm completely horrified. This world is a relentless nightmare. This poor bastard

[@wesleyshelby8163]

I’m so sorry Sir. My sorry of course can’t fix the destruction. When those who are supposed to love and protect us damage our lives the most. Sometimes people are safer in the world than around their own families.

[@laraoneal7284]

This is so much more common in families , but too many don’t want to know about it. Ppl don’t want to believe a child. It is despicable. This is why victims don’t come forward. It is not ur fault. Pls come forward & keep telling until you find someone who WILL BELIEVE YOU. Blessings to all of you.

[@Sparklesissavage]

I'm so sorry that happened. ❤ we are all here for you 😊I hope you are doing better now

[@Gutntagged]

my father was just out of vietnam, he was called back from active duty , because of the abusive treatment of his 4 children by his 16 year old wife...he began molesting me and my brothers, at Langley Air Force Base, in Langley Virginia, i am 57 years old, i lived under the house for almost 3 years, in and out of mental facilities through most of my teen/adult life, your story is very much the same as me,although you are stronger than me, ive tried to die several times...i guess i cant do anything right

[@dma124]

I can’t even begin to tell you how sorry I am that you went through this. I went through a similar horror, but not like yours. Friend, know I’m with you, and you’re in my thoughts..

[@johnathanstevens8436]

Oh yeah, I've heard that, "what love is". I am really sorry man (hugs)

[@Musa_Somali]

Oh my God.... That's awful.

[@caterinadelgalles8783]

Thanks for talking about this ❤

[@wolfpower1111]

Yu sir are An earth angel. ❤. Hug. 😢

[@devisingh6785]

❤so sorry, wish you much strenght🙏

[@juleerowley9706]

Adults doing these things to children...omg...filthy devil's walk this earth

[@vanessab4969]

Im so sorry this happened

[@davidh9844]

What kind of MONSTER does that? To his own kid?

[@kurtiscunningham9352]

Or any kid or adult no means no period

[@julieta5376]

A lot of people. Abus3rs are mostly inside the family

[@ChicagoWest-y2z]

I told the truth and now I have no family no friends and it's been 15 years I often wish I would had kept my mouth shut or God would just take me already

[@Richard-t9w3c]

God bless you

[@kurtiscunningham9352]

Facts evil people

[@DonaldHarrington-vl7zq]

My adopted dad was a drug dealer he transported narcotics using the sales trailers for clothing at the NASCAR races he was very dangerous

[@Siberaborn]

So??😂

[@Nathan-e7o7y]

I don't understand why anyone abuse their kids parents are supposed to protect their kids from harm im a victim of sexual abuse i was abuse at a camp for the disability and other times hopefully you getting though this

[@sagginights6419]

Sorry you had to go through this.

[@olesyamudrenko863]

Do you keep boundaries with your father? Is he still in your life?

[@joyrose9597]

I'm sorry this happened to you

[@Juliemc446]

💔💔💔😢😢😢

[@danjones3746]

😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@coreyjames3928]

oh my God 🤬😢😢😢

[@SophiaM-le1hx]

😢😢😢😢