Shadow Integration - The ASE Method

[@amir4459]

Thank you man! You have made an immediate positive change in my life and taught me how to deal with all my shadows :)

[@JevonDangeli]

Glad you found the ASE Shadow Integration method useful. More free ASE resources here - authentic-self-empowerment.com/blog/

[@MrAmitArun]

Beautiful, just beautiful. It does not get any better than this. What a gentle way to treat one of the most difficult and challenging part of our lives. You do have some serious techniques to offer. I am glad that I ran into this video. Many thanks to you, you are doing god’s work

[@JevonDangeli]

You are welcome, Amit. More ASE training videos of this kind coming soon!

[@agnimaat1131]

Dude this is brilliant. Beautiful technique, thank you.

[@JevonDangeli]

Glad you like it ;-)

[@bettertvreceptionwithfoilf7100]

I can't bring one "hero" to mind. I don't feel superior here, i just don't believe in heros.

[@JevonDangeli]

If you don't glorify anyone, then there's no such shadow do deal with, but if you are emotionally triggered by certain people, then there's probably a shadow involved.

[@windcu]

This is brilliant...I just feel lighter going through the steps. More videos please!

[@simon7342]

Very helpful video, thanks for this.

[@JevonDangeli]

You're welcome!

[@rossjackson7174]

Very interesting and effective. Thank you.

[@JevonDangeli]

Thanks, Ross, glad the ASE Shadow Integration method resonates with you.

[@RenaWith]

great stuff, so excited! thanks Jevon!!!

[@JevonDangeli]

You are welcome, Pearl, glad this resonated with you :-)

[@MuslimahWarrior]

Thanks for sharing your insight on this topic. You have a new sub :)

[@JevonDangeli]

You are welcome Cheryl. Thank you!

[@carlieghrodz4763]

The universe always right on time...moment rather...thank you for the shadow work

[@JevonDangeli]

You are welcome Carliegh

[@nicholasbogosian5420]

Shadow work, expressed in this way, is really difficult in the context of abuse/trauma.

[@kimdelarosa8375]

Thank you so much.

[@JennyB957]

Thanks

[@brucekern7083]

Not to knock your method because I'm sure it works great for those who actually practice it, but I think the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous are the greatest shadow work system ever developed. It's a shame that people get the wrong idea that the 12 steps are only useful for Alcoholics. Alas, even among alcoholics there are many claims that it doesn't work. Of course, that sentiment usually comes from people who don't even work the steps but instead just attend meetings, as if that were the program. In any case, what you've outlined is very similar to the methodology of Step 10. However, step 10 presupposes that one has completed steps 4 through 7. Indeed, step 10 is a daily recap of steps 4-7. The intent is to deepen and broaden the spiritual experiences that (hopefully) have resulted from a unsparing survey of our own traits. But the rubber really meets the road in step 5, where we confess these undesirable attributes to someone else and the God of our understanding. The ancients (many of whom were concerned with with what I call the alchemy of self-transformation) used this method of confession to galvanize the process of internal change and self-reintegration. As many later psychologists, most notably CG Jung, would later theorize, echoing what had already been well known to the ancient mind, most of the problems of the human condition are realy problems with the scope and quality of consciousness. Men and women have at their disposal a vast array of techniques for manipulating their own level of consciousness. Many find an easy way of doing so in a chemical (a word etymologically related to the word alchemy). Some chemicals increase consciousness while others diminish it. The true addict is the one who cannot concieve of any other effective way of changing his degree of consciousness than by the simple and easy method of consuming a chemical. It works great at first, but after that strategy fails repeatedly--and hopefully before he or she dies in the quest for altered consciousness--the person might eventually find their way to AA or NA, where the program of action outlined in the steps offer a more natural and effective and lasting means of producing the change in consciousness that had been the addicts deepest desire all along. The first 3 steps are really just information steps that are said to get us right with God. The next four steps, said to get us right with ourselves, commence with an assiduous and unsparing self-survey, and a parallel willingness to openly verbalize to another what we find. Why the need write down and to verbalize or to openly confess our faults or sins? Because first written then oral expression is literally a higher level of consciousness than mere personal recognition. It has the practical effect of making conscious that which had been tyranizing us unconsciously. Ontologically, a literal reintegration of the personality ensues as the person begins a wholesale withdrawal of a host of previously ossified projections. Experientially, the person feels the equivalent of taking his or her favorite drink or drug. I could go on for hours talking about this but I have things to do right now. Just keep in mind that the remaining steps--i.e. restitution, reconciliation, carrying this method of change--are designed to produce in concrete fashion progressively higher degrees of consciousness. The goal is to achieve a state in which we can hold this unflattering portrait of ourselves fully in our consciousness and make it available to public scrutiny. The person who achieves that goal--and I've witnessed many--finds him or herself blissfully at ease during life's inevitable vicissitudes. That is, he or she obtains the Philosopher's Stone, that source of inner strength which allows its possessor to be unaffected by the tumults of changes in the external world. In short, he or she learns to transmute the base metals of the lower self into the gold of higher consciousness. "A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways." James 1:8 When asked how to live a virtuous life, Thales had a simple answer: by not doing ourselves that which we blame in others.

[@JevonDangeli]

Thanks for sharing, Bruce. Do you think there might be value in exploring a way of combining the AA approach with the ASE Shadow Integration method?

[@cheery-hex]

really? I always considered it rather ineffective, since it slams into you a sense of powerlessness over your own behavior and highlights self-shame, self-labels, and lack of self control

[@KurtHektik]

@@cheery-hex Yeah, AA 12 step is outdated and full of christian bullshit. There are clearer, cleaner, more holistic systems now.

[@kaneaster4]

Stopping at 13:23. This sounds like what people usually do with Beck's cognitive triad.

[@the_jedi_priestess3600]

Panic Patrick! I love it, that’s what I do when people get confrontational thank you 😁

[@JevonDangeli]

Poor Panic Patrick! He just wants to be acknowledged, then all is well again ;-)

[@RenaWith]

Hi Jevon, im thinking about what I need to clear up so I don't attract narcissists or people that are actually quite opposite of me,. in your opinion what are the common qualities in people that attract emotionless, calculated, mean people?

[@JevonDangeli]

Hi Pearl. Shadows are the unconscious aspects of our personality that we typically see in others when that aspect in us is triggered. We can recognize our shadows by identifying situations where we have judged others, without seeing the quality being judged in ourselves. Therefore, if someone attracts emotionless, calculated, mean people; then they should look for that shadow aspect in themselves and integrate it. That's exactly what the process in this video is about.

[@RenaWith]

Thanks!! I don't see them (characteristics) in others but atract them. People that are covert narks. I think they are wonderful untill the mask comes off and they turn dangerous which is when I leave. I am what they call an empath. Not sure if you can point me to some of your videos or if you have any articles that you maybe have done on the subject. I red somewhere that shadow work can help empaths and codependent. Thanks again!

[@TheRealHonestInquiry]

@@RenaWith Check out Amanda Flaker, she has videos focusing specifically on empaths and healing from narcissistic abuse kzbin.info/door/fu_w_SCTrQSZaa5mx_qYHQ

[@ToniAnnBarandon]

Hi Pearl. What he said above is partly true in the sense that there is something we need to find in us that is related to narcissism. I would add to it that there's a sense of self love that needs to be embraced. In my experience with this, there are always signs from the beginning, that we either don't notice or we ignore, in the attempt to be polite or helpful or easy going. This happens from over time disconnecting from our intuition and inner knowing. Lack of self trust. Perhaps, if we let ourselves see right up front that someone is treating us in a way we don't like or want to encourage, we might say something and seem "mean". That might be the fear, anyway. Fear of how we'll be seen by others. Or by ourselves. Whereas NOT speaking up encourages more distrust in our sense of self and inner knowing, is an act of self betrayal, and is a subconscious message to ourselves that we're not worth our own love and decisions. In this sense, shadow work does help. You might notice these people will still be around you, but you won't get sucked into the discourse, and as a result you'll be of no value to them. Hope that helps.

[@reenasingh-id9zh]

@@ToniAnnBarandon i read the same thing somewhere . You made it clear . But could you please add some more things that you know about this ,may be you did for yourself as an eg. . I need help on this

[@Indorm]

I have no idea why I want to call my inability to handle criticism Poseidon. I'll have to look him up.

[@the_jedi_priestess3600]

Indorm nice ☺️

[@richardbedford8120]

Is "Veronica" your Anima?

[@biancafernandez6008]

Very nicely laid out, thank you so much!! Are you South African?

[@JevonDangeli]

You're welcome, Bianca. I was born in South Africa and spend part of each year there.

[@biancafernandez6008]

Awesome, I'm from Cape Town :) You're obviously doing awesome work so thank you for sharing it!

[@JevonDangeli]

I'm a Cape Townian too :-) The Shadow Integration video was filmed at a course that I presented in Hout Bay - authentic-self-empowerment.com/ase-facilitator-training/

[@princessgucci1575]

New subscriber ❤❤❤

[@chrisw9122]

Very interesting video. I am starting on shadow work this year. I despise anger. The ppl that trigger me the most are angry, loud and uncooperative. I disown that part of me. It is in me however...when those ppl are yelling...I want to yell and defend myself...but it makes me so uncomfortable I just like being chill (joker archetype). Learning how to express anger will be a huge undertaking and assuring myself that it is ok to be upset when my boundaries are crossed is completely normal. I can't wait to integrate my shadow. I won't use answer to degrade ppl lol those ppl will forever bother me and I will continually away from them lol 😊

[@JevonDangeli]

Chris, it is ok to be upset when your boundaries are crossed, but imagine what it will be like to no longer be triggered in those instances, and to be able to respond to those people in a mindful and resourceful manner. That's what this work is about.

[@ilikehumans1096]

The content is interesting, but the delivery is off putting. You sound like a creepy priest. Talk about repressing your own shadow. Stop sounding so polished and pleasant, speak like a normal human being.

[@ilikehumans1096]

My youtube avatar was created in jest, I'm not religious in any way.

[@ilikehumans1096]

No doubt, but I wouldn't call it suppressed. I'm a very straight forward person and pretty quick to anger. That's just my temperament. On the flip side I never act in a passive aggressive manner, I'm always open about my feelings.

[@jules.wins.]

I know right? He sounds fake.. stop acting dude

[@cheery-hex]

what?? considering his points in this video, you might wanna record your own self talking 😂😂

[@fabricioroque7076]

the best is to know we live in a bipolar universe and is part of our existence so bad is not so bad any more..... ok I am human inperfection and perfection makes the most BEAUTIFUL HARMONIC THOGHETER NOTunderstood / NOWunderstood iI let go IAm happy and IA AWARE

[@lp8962]

Omg. Get to the point.

[@jordanwilke6941]

South African accent? 😁

[@likitchenpairojskul7762]

It is not going to work with your methods.

[@jevondangeli8064]

What makes you think it won't work?