Bakwas Life: DIVORCED Indian Pakistani Women!

[@donjames7647]

Being a asain man , I completely agree with the misogynistic mans views against women , it’s really sad . I believe in women’s rights and I am a feminist , Women should be celebrated , given all the freedom including sexual freedom , by families and husbands women’s sexuality should be celebrated as well . Female led relationship is the best way forward to stop man from being horrible to women . I love how you are , a strong women with her own mind and views , you are a amazing women , I think you will be a role model and lot of asain women will get freedom , women eyes will open to what the asain society has become

[@TheShahkulu]

I'm a Bengali woman in my late 20s and my parents have become increasingly forceful in pushing me to get married to whatever stranger they bring to me, it's so bad that I secretly contacted a woman's refuge and will likely leave my family home some time soon, cutting them all off for good. It's very true what you said at 11:15 because that's the position I'm in right now, I have no desire to get married after seeing what marriages are often like in South Asian families and If I was forced to do so, honestly speaking I would probably end up suicidal. I'd only ever marry if I found someone I love and shares the same values as me and to be frank I feel like I'd have to look outside the South Asian community to find a man like that who doesn't come packaged with a family who uphold these toxic beliefs about women.

[@susansaxon4780]

Stay strong , you must decide in your life what’s best for you, it’s not for anyone else to do this. From all these comments there are many women in your community who feel the same so the support is out there, even women who are not in your own community will support you, women stick together no matter we’re we are from hun. Do what’s right for your life xx

[@nickelleraffaelle3529]

@r you don’t need to be financially sorted to move out, you just need a job and some reliable friends preferably outside of your community or who do not have some of these views mentioned in this video comments like this enable this type of abuse to continue because so many women have already this type of mentality and continue to stay in abusive marriages or entertain abusive family members because of this logic of not being financially stable.

[@Beavusnbutheads]

Date a north west man they are very liberal Norwegian, Danish even English. Or be single and independent happy. I hope you find support from these women centres and if you feel threatened let the police your friends you trust and get InTouch with people that will support you to leave . Hope it works out stay positive

[@Pinkdolly1000]

@@TheShahkulu there are alot if Asian men nowadays who are liberal. It’s wrong for you to tarnish all of them with the same brush.

[@nadiyaahmed7954]

I've been watching your videos for years and I love how passionate you are on these topics. I completely agree, the rules are so different for men and women when it comes to divorce. what really annoys me is some families think marriage is the solution e.g. if the guy is an alcoholic lets get if married he'll learn about responsibilities but if it doesn't work out the woman still gets the blame!!

[@susansaxon4780]

This is terrible how your community women are treated for divorcing someone you don’t love or want to be with. Stay strong ladies, get together and form a closed Facebook page to support each other. All women from every community need to talk to each other then some communities will not feel alone …xx

[@himanshugupta4893]

I am from South Asia. Your each word is on point. Thank you for being so direct and blunt

[@Nperidot04]

@Shahleena, mad respect to you, glad you're speaking the truth!

[@michaelmarzano2759]

Shahleena, you are an absolute inspiration. The London South Asian community need you as a community leader, to open their eyes and to start respecting their daughters. You are blessed to have a wonderful family and parents who respect and love you. We need more Shahleena’s

[@teacheschem]

My friend’s husband is from Pakistan. His sister was being abused by her husband. They drove a keep into the fence and got their sister out of there. She is happily married, with kids, to her second husband. This same friend- her husband was upset that she changed out of a traditional Asian wedding outfit into a backless western wedding dress. He was worried about what people would think. But when they went to visit Pakistan, it was the backless wedding dress that was blown up and put on the wall. She is not from the same culture but it is working well. That’s my story of hope!

[@beautybyrabzx6648]

GGirl I'm 30 and not married.. Sooo true

[@ribena.196]

I agree with many things you say esp the poor way in which divorced women are treated and viewed as well as this ridiculously stupid focus on virginity. But one thing I think you need to think about and talk about more is about roles and responsibilities in marriage/life etc. After marriage neither the man nor woman can or should do whatever they want. Both people have to figure their spouse into their lives and plans. How should that work? What's your view on what the guy should do for the girl and vice versa?

[@Beavusnbutheads]

My mum divorced after an abusive 25 year marriage she was dependent and he was violent and mentally abusive. She got a job went to uni and got out me snd my sister were much more happy when she divorced him. She had two happy long term relationships after st 70 shes happy on her own has a social life goes on holiday and s gran . Dont put up with abuse you deserve better

[@Beavusnbutheads]

Love your fashion style

[@itsmevzma]

Loved the video ,its not only divorcees but even widows have hard time. I have a close who has done done PhD but people say such bakwas for her ,why she wears bright colors ,why she puts makeup and she is not allowed to do some shagans in weddings. Its beyond appalling.

[@Priya-ee9ir]

So true ! More talks like this please

[@Novause]

Where are your lenses from please??

[@abidmahmood5296]

"two way street"...... No......marriage is a sacred contract between male and female.Husband has rights over the wife and the wife has rights over the husband. Definitely not a "two way street"....

[@larry1665]

Loved the video

[@6pac616]

Fashionable nowadays

[@ferdabegum8407]

Love you ranting shaleena. But thankfully in the uk for Brir asian girls its a lot better. Instead they should get to know each other wyitr well beforhand. Halal dating with a mahram or around their friends. So they divorce doesnt happen

[@shezclient8094]

I wish this was true but its not better. Im 35 and asian men of my age have the same baclward mentality of the older geberation.. and sadly i was married and had to divorce because of these opinions passing on from generation to generation.. the amount of backward thinking double standards in young british born men born n brought up here is huge 😔

[@Beavusnbutheads]

​@@shezclient8094most men favour patriarchal repression of women in marriage because they are the ones who benefit from it.

[@sakurahoor]

I don't have parents (they died) when i tell men that they run off opposite direction 😂 its not only divorce. They pin point like they are perfect human beings

[@abidmahmood5296]

May ALLAH swt grant your parents Jannath Al Fridous

[@gurpiarsingh6851]

Don't compare indian women with pakistani or bangladeshi women. Indian women have all the freedom in the world to wear what they want and do what they like that pakistani women would dream to have. The reason being India is quite westernised and Hinduism is secular doesn't subjugate any gender. The basic principles of hinduism says God is made of divine masculine and divine feminine. Equality starts from the 1st chapter of Hinduism. Our culture is very different to you guys! Sorry Indians are way more evolved than these islamic countries. So kindly don't bad mouth Indian culture. Our culture is very rich in values and has women empowerment as it's foundation

[@Shahleena]

Oh hush your overly defensive gums you're talking to a half Indian here and I have met PLENTY of Indian HINDU & SIKH women that do suffer this mentality. Considering the high rape stats in India. I wouldn't bleat so loudly hun. Woman empowerment lol You've got men praying to female deities then going and raping women. Don't be so ignorant.

[@Tisha3283]

No, it’s ok. We all have it pretty bad. I think India tries. But yeah, misogyny does run deep (I think I’m going to quote that, hope you don’t mind.) It’s actually comforting to hear that South Asians in general are subjected to the same kind of ‘cultural torture’ that Indians are and that we’re not alone.(I’m Indian btw) Everything you said is spot on and it takes someone to say something like this, out loud, on a public platform so more power to you, God bless.

[@Shahleena]

@dollartreeshark6786 give it a break. No one said the WHOLE of India and stop pushing your pro-modi racist narrative onto Pakistanis. Its weak. I'm sure Nirbhaya would disagree with you anyway. Bottom line is MEN like you, are the problem. Look at you coming to an entire countries defence as if you are their spokesperson. You got Indians literally shitting in the Holy Ganges and you wana talk about progression? Gtfoh 🤣

[@Shahleena]

@dollartreeshark6786 omg allow your essays no one cares and no one is reading that. Begone from my channel apologist.

[@kvd2909]

@@Shahleena excuse me!! I have seen awfully terrible hindu and sikh women who post nude videos on sex chat and run wild on Tinder and then complain that good guys dont want to marry them. Why dont you post videos highlighting mens problem as well or this is a female problem only vlog.

[@silviatevini5815]

Im divircied with indian origin

[@Novause]

Make a baqwaas video on trying to find spouse online..the type software guys this! May God protect us all!

[@Indecencealicia]

Watching Tfs

[@bruteforce6352]

Why marry a divorced women if men can choose women who haven't been with a partner, until you get that through your sorry head you will never understand men, we are different. Plenty of men will marry women who have been married before but given a choice, men are more likely to choose non married women. Just like you would want your son to Marry a non divorcee first!u

[@ayeshaayesha8570]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼✅✅✅✅

[@sathiya8887]

Something is burning 😎

[@c3realK1ll4h]

the girl that spoke about the man marrying her for legal status is most likely a lie peddled by most Pakistani women, which is why the guy tried to retain the relationship and got abusive and as a result didn't want to lose his child, this is a common theme peddled by most Pakistani women, also the in-law issue that most of these girls have and the attitudes by them on display