SHAMELESS: Rules of Modern Dating & Understanding Women "It's Complicated"

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#religion #shame #feminism

[@chrisandrew6633]

I'm just 2min and > These Gen Z kids don't know sh*t about sh*t. If we follow their rules of no shaming, no guilt society will descend into a degenerate dystopia. Look at 4chan, Twitter, Reddit, etc. anywhere you can be anonymous, that's how people behave without shame or guilt. That's what the real world would turn into. *BTW this video really starts to cook at **14:00** with the point* - how are men liberated if we're still expected to uphold our traditional male roles? "Men have always been liberated!" ....actually no, we very much are confined to our male role. It's a great point. Not one I've ever heard before.

[@pneumaticFrequency]

The paradox of tolerance states that if a society's practice of tolerance is inclusive of the intolerant, intolerance will ultimately dominate, eliminating the tolerant and the practice of tolerance with them

[@smoothocean4126]

@@pneumaticFrequency Therefore, tolerant people must be intolerant of intolerant people to preserve their view, but become intolerant themselves, so on and so forth.

[@pneumaticFrequency]

@@smoothocean4126 being intolerant of intolerance doesn't make someone intolerant, it's being true to tolerance and what's right and wrong, i.e. not a pushover

[@smoothocean4126]

@@pneumaticFrequency interesting take

[@davidbrownfield5808]

​@@pneumaticFrequencythere are many things that humanity should not tolerate, and it's no accident that the list gets smaller everyday.

[@bryank.vaughan4316]

Shame is a PRE-emptive, deterrent; GUILT is "post".

[@jetmad79]

Guilt has inside source, shame comes from the outside.

[@Malignant88]

@@jetmad79 Exactly. You can Shame people after the fact so that it may cause guilt.

[@kenshin7315]

Wrong, there is no such thing as "shame" or "guilt". Something that is subjective can not be objective, that would be a contradiction and contradictions are iIIogical/impossible

[@jonpool9030]

​@Malignant88 guilt feelings not guilt.

[@jonpool9030]

​@@kenshin7315guilt isn't subjective, guilt feelings are.

[@Snarge22]

Feminism has simply doubled down on traditional demands of men, only now there is no reciprocity from women.

[@bryank.vaughan4316]

Feminism is women's problem to deal with, not OURS Mr. Snarge.

[@Snarge22]

Feminism has also corrupted society@@bryank.vaughan4316. The results are now unavoidable and influences society which effects men to the negative. As such it is not a just a woman's problem. Think fairness over merit. Such policies undermine the efforts of men.

[@david_ce]

@@bryank.vaughan4316 What are you talking about?

[@bryank.vaughan4316]

@@david_ce If men keep doing what we have been doing, then it chips away at Feminism's power and control. As life becomes more and more difficult for women, THEY will be responsible for totally ending their mindsets....like rats on a sinking ship.

[@jessicaF61985]

​@@bryank.vaughan4316🤣🤣🤣Feminism is not a "problem" for us. It's the foundation for our liberation. And u can't stand that can ya? Remember change is a constant in the universe.

[@treacherousjslither6920]

Shame is social Guilt is moral

[@TheBestPill-no2xp]

Yup. And since women are AMORAL... Guilt is for men, shame is for women. They are both social course-correction concepts. *GUILT is a MORAL, INTERNAL compass men use to navigate their actions.* It doesn't matter if it's a religion, military regulations, or the code of a street gang. A man only needs a mirror to course correct once he accepts his script. *On the other hand, shame is a SOCIAL, EXTERNAL compass leveraged against women to manage their behaviors.* WOMEN DO NOT FEEL INTERNAL GUILT to enough degree to make them correct negative behaviors. The community around women must tell a woman the standards by which that woman can remain in the group. On our society, the guilt of men failing to meet standards is constantly talked about. On the other hand, concerning women, there is a war on shame itself. Now you know, and knowing is half the battle. G.I. Jooooooooooooooooe!

[@Anglovox]

"Shame" is brought by consistant application of healthy cultural mores & expectations, as it relates to personal behavior. Prevents problems. "Guilt" is born of personal regret....and through obsession, SO easily becomes mental illness. It doesn't necessarily do a THING to fix or address the respective personal shortcoming.

[@shawnmurphy9245]

Are morals instilled, or are they innate

[@treacherousjslither6920]

@@shawnmurphy9245 No idea. No ethical way to find out.

[@dorstefan]

You can tell the programing is working very well. They recite the narrative very accurate.

[@Cov930]

This is true , you see alot of women regurgitating the same values . On dating apps there all pretty similar like there bios . If you don’t follow the rules to the slightest extent they said goodluck with everything and flake . Women don’t build with you they move in . You literally have to have a home by the water , successful business and be able to build a spaceship out of your bare hands to communicate with women lmao

[@deep1012]

@@Cov930 AND EVEN THEN..... 😆 its still not enough for them

[@mikebrandon8545]

Yep

[@Snarge22]

A woman with a high body count merely has to be present and say yes to get there. Men must bring success, value, confidence, and a myriad of other qualifiers to be even considered by most women. That's a big difference.

Or just be a convict or a psychopath.

[@mikebrandon8545]

Exactly

[@o.f.ftrack3444]

The only difference between the two is that shame requires an audience and guilt is within.

[@jrr7031]

There it is. That's the diff.

[@mikebrandon8545]

Facts

[@brunolopes7774]

I think Shame is more ingrained in men because it comes from a place of Integrity.

[@mikebrandon8545]

Facts

[@hope2change693]

Thank you for having me on your channel!! It was very nice meeting you I really enjoyed the deep thought questions!!🔥

[@shadowpowerx]

The only woman that actually thinks this year

[@benmacdhui]

The simping is strong is this one. Only partner with the chain is on point

[@mikey92362]

Bringing back shame would solve an awful lot of society's problems. It's ironic that one of the only things you can be shamed for these days is shaming someone's poor behavior. Shame! I'm gonna live forever. I'm gonna learn how to fly. Shame!

[@DomSum7]

On my momma soul🤣🤣🤣

[@julius-stark]

We need to Make Shaming Great Again.

[@niallfitzpatrick6568]

Absolutely!

[@lloydcarter8662]

I don't think there is any hope for this new generational mindset. Shaming is strictly about stating the obvious, so there is no negativity involved with it.

[@detroitvcw]

Right. Shame usually involves holism, and the offender is trying to contextualize a POV that the offended is missing. The offended are usually indifferent about the other POVs being spelled out, or straight ignorant of the facts. Solipsism. possible narcissism.

[@gersondacunha4494]

This sounds wise

[@bryank.vaughan4316]

@@detroitvcw "possible narcissism" HELL...Ladies and Gentlemen, what we have here (people who feel no shame or guilt) are Psychopaths..

[@StudSupreme]

Oh - they'll learn how the world TRULY works. THE HARD WAY.

[@gregoryjean-marie3373]

This generation is cooked.

[@real-ishstraighttruthnocha1687]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@hardlessons9732]

Facts. Especially these young easily swayed young men

[@goodguy...badrep.]

Burnt

[@bryank.vaughan4316]

Nooooo, I do not believe so, there's still hope for them yet. Now Gen Alpha? OH GOOD LORD!!!! I fear for the species.

[@rossbeamish3206]

Hopefully they will learn. Wisdom typically comes with age.

[@rlmiller2010]

Why do the dumbest people think they have the answer to every question?

[@MrTchupam]

True

[@mikebrandon8545]

Because they have been programmed to believe that

[@shawnmurphy9245]

It’s a people problem

[@DRFESTERPUS69]

We have been taught in school to always answer the question even if you are not sure. Maybe you will get it partially right

[@linger4605]

A lot of terrible answers filled with buzzwords from nearly all those interviewed. I'm a first generation American with English as my second language and much more capable of answering in a well thought-out, logical approach.

[@goodguy...badrep.]

Agreed

[@davidbrownfield5808]

Man on the street in Vegas interviews are always a disappointment. The real gem of this content are the questions that are supposed to challenge the current way of thinking. Sadly it's much like throwing pearls before swine.

[@icedemond24]

shame only works on those who care what others think of them. and the difference between shame and guilt is guilt is self imposed shame is imposed by others

[@Lightnmi]

Shame is synonymous to guilt. It can't exist without it. Therefore no one would be shamed, if a person never felt guilty of their actions.

[@jonpool9030]

​@Lightnmi they're not synonymous in the least. You're conflating guilt with guilt feelings.

[@detroitvcw]

💯. Holism/empathy as opposed to the indifferent/ignorant.

[@cybernd78]

This is why shaming women worked in the past. Unlike men, for them it is important what others think about them.

[@MylezNevison]

Asking the difference between the feeling of shame and the feeling of guilt is like asking for the difference between feeling hurt and feeling pain. There's too much overlap in the feelings to warrant/justify a distinction. It's essentially a classic *"Distinction without a difference"* #Logical #Fallacy.

[@Theworstchannelposting]

Shame is necessary for a productive society

[@ThefrypodiPod]

Shame for things that don't hurt anyone? If so, proof?

[@Lightflames85]

@@ThefrypodiPodThat is not how shame should be used. Shame should be used to correct bad behavior like the type that hurts others. Shame is like the glue that keeps society together so we don't go around and kill each other at random. Shame comes before law and is kinda like the peoples way of telling you that you fucked up against the group. Its not as big a deal now a days but back in the day you could be send out into the wilderness for that kind of thing because your not serving the group at that point.

[@MrTchupam]

💯

[@MrTchupam]

@@ThefrypodiPoddont hurt?😂😂😂😂😂

[@laliveapps2550]

The blind leading the blind

[@SydtheSquid112]

Yay something to watch during lunch

[@whatamidoingwithmylife3762]

literally eating chicken sandwiches rn while watching

[@TheyCallMe_TC]

​@@whatamidoingwithmylife3762Stop eating that processed poison.

[@Doberman_6773]

7:26 - Dude nails it; women want the advantages of traditional men without fulfilling the requirements of being traditional themselves.

[@rpmatt2022]

Another outstanding session by the hardest working and still most underrated channel today. Hope you gentlemen were taking notes, understanding that accountability is their kryptonite is key. Let's get him to 500K.

[@goodguy...badrep.]

Shame keeps people from doing immoral and unethical things... even if it "feels" right.

[@Lightflames85]

Shame is not always bad. Its how its used that makes the hole difference. Some things you should be shamed for.

[@goodguy...badrep.]

@@Lightflames85 Agreed. Shame is NOT bad. Some things are just SHAMEFUL, no matter how one feels about it.

[@will8349]

Generation is cooked.

[@seven92023]

Ironically they talked about shaming and then in answering other questions, most people in the video used shaming language to express opinion. Enjoying this front row seat to the tragic comedy these videos expose.

[@mikebrandon8545]

Right? Like calling guys who can’t get girls Incels shaming language

[@Otto-Just]

7:11 lady was speaking the truth. Very funny.

[@themasterteacher]

It amazes me that people do not know the actual meaning of these words. Shame - I am bad, deeply flawed, there’s something very wrong with me Guilt - I feel bad about myself because I did something wrong Regret - I wish I hadn’t done that!

[@eotikurac]

people use the word jealous when they mean envious. it drives me insane.

[@vuton7670]

@@eotikurac in 2024 where men are women and vice versa, does it matte what the meaning of something is?a

[@ItsOnlyFate777]

​@vuton7670 yes because in 2024 men cannot be women and vice versa. Reality remains the same it always has.... if a blind person can't see the world around him does that mean that the material world does not exist?

[@eotikurac]

@@vuton7670 it's more important now than ever before. language is messy and constantly changing which is why people need to use the proper term at all times. i would bet that improper use of certain terms has helped us get to the point that we aren't able to describe a man or a woman.

[@nineonine9082]

I couldn't of told you, but I understand the feelings, but thats because I avoid doing anything which causes any of them, so I have little reason to explore them =P

[@DingoEnderZOE2]

The best part of these interviews is when you can LITERALLY see the moments when someone starts to second guess their beliefs and then they try to reboot. A common tell is the rapid blinking as they try to think. Or when you see someone try to quickly justify their beliefs but as they try they realize that there may be no justification and its just a matter of feelings.

[@zanesmith3735]

That first guy is doomed

[@btdtpro]

There's guilt, shame, and conviction. If people don't have a conviction, guilt will just make them feel bad for doing it, but they'll still do it, and shame will just make them hide that they do it.

[@G34RH34D]

Shame kept people in check.

[@Lightflames85]

Shame keeps things civil and without it there would be kaos.

[@lxdead5585]

keep up the great work

[@maskedman5657]

One thing I noticed is that Shame works to women's advantages but not with men. Women don't feel shame alot of the time when you bring morals into the equation. Ego perhaps

[@Nephibis]

Problem with shame is people use it more for their personal preference than things that are actually helpful to society. Bullying isn't helpful and it never stopped.

[@justsayin._.]

Bullying builds character n teaches u to expect obstacles

[@JibrizyMagic]

These people are slow smh

[@MichaelThomas-do9ys]

(4:28) baby girl looking like damm I hope this isn’t a swap phones loyalty test video

[@user-of4pu6me4y]

Guilt is wanting to change the outcome of a choice one makes knowing that they can't. Shame is a decision that goes against your moral code/standards

[@shawnmurphy9245]

Ok, you can wipe now.

[@JohnDixon-kg6wc]

First comment here. Love your channel bro. Keep doing great things.

[@chrismall8285]

The opposite of shame is (or will be) chaos. And nobody wants to live like that.

[@milkpuddle]

This is one of the best ones so far

[@kevingamble1775]

Shame is an important part of life. Without shame you have no reason to be a “good person”? Without shame what reason do you have to be responsible adult? Without shame why care if others get hurt? And know that by answering “just because” is no different than shaming! Judging someone else in anyway that goes against what they want is shaming!

[@CARLOSDANIEL-qi4dc]

We went from a society that was ashamed of almost everything to the current one where people are encouraged to do whatever they want without feeling ashamed with the excuse that they are not hurting anyone. Freedom is one thing and lack of responsibility, immorality or lack of ethics is another.

[@texashellcat3350]

Guilt is the feeling after doing something wrong and Ashamed is the feeling of not living up to an expectation.

[@bolotabr12]

Feeling shame comes from conscience and many people don’t have one.

[@deep1012]

well said 👌

[@DreamofMusicEnt]

The black girl was blowing my mind . She was dodging accountability and the fact that what he's saying was correct. She did not want to give him the you're right

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

15:18 😂😂😂That Part!💯🤣🤣🤣🤣🎤

[@mikebrandon8545]

Not one of these people had a rational thought in their head and definitely not did not understand the questions

[@eway.E.79Chicago]

I'm perplexed. The man said "I'm not religious" while giving away Bibles 😒

[@AB-ez4rm]

He's a book dealer.

[@eway.E.79Chicago]

@@AB-ez4rm lol but he making no money

[@comicrandomness3289]

​@@eway.E.79Chicagobecause money has "in God we trust" on it. He's not religious so he can't accept it.

[@4Redwall]

To know Jesus Christ you must build a relationship with him. Relationship and Religion are not the same thing. The Bible can be read without being a part of the religions that were established from it.

[@trigcat3107]

LMAO that part was funny haha😂

[@jacobbambam5460]

This was a good vid.

[@eLDYGames]

Shame comes from expectations and poor decision making. When you expect someone to make the right choices and they dont, thats when we feel shame. We should all be held to a higher standard in many aspects of life. The world would be a better place.

[@zedgambit]

Shame is moral while guilt is legal

[@MylezNevison]

Asking the difference between the feeling of shame and the feeling of guilt is like asking for the difference between feeling hurt and feeling pain. There's too much overlap in the feelings to warrant/justify a distinction. It's essentially a classic *"Distinction without a difference"* #Logical #Fallacy.

[@justsayin._.]

Shame is from others seeing what you're doing, guilt is realizing it urself. There is overlap, but where it comes from is what makes the difference

[@shawnmurphy9245]

The question is to spur personal opinion, not find an absolute truth

[@Wu_Amun]

3:51 Hes hilarious 😂

[@TheyCallMe_TC]

IMA MAKE THIS THUMBNAIL MY ALBUM COVER .

[@LionelRWilson]

“It goes both ways” -75% of the respondents

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

15:21 What makes this SO Hilarious is after that question her friend don't have an HONESTY/GENUINE ANSWER, points at her friend 👈🏿To start #SHAMING_MEN without answering....#CLASSIC!!!

[@thegoldenticket6130]

Shame is from others and guilt is from yourself

[@WardenWyrd]

"Does my parents' generation think mine is this dumb?" is the first thought that comes to mind after listening to many of these kids. It was encouraging to hear the one guy mention how your future children can suffer from the mother's previous life choices. DON'T WIFE UP THOTTIES

[@matthewswitzer1448]

People mix up shame with accountability. When society holds you accountable you should feel shame.

[@phyliciasadler9596]

Why is it ok for jobs kingdoms and politicians to have a hierarchy but it’s not ok for religions and households? Even with incomes you have the elites upper class middle class lower class and homeless

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

1:19 That Part!

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

14:28 YES!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@pidouble145]

I feel like a calculus teacher listening to my students, who hate math, try to teach me calculus. It’s just painful

[@rickyrozay234]

Shame is external guilt is internal - Socrates (probably)

[@James-dt7ky]

I'm immune to any shaming tactics by women.

[@uchihadonaru469]

Shame is necessary. Limits are necessary.

[@herbertmilhomme]

Shame is embarrassment, for not matching up to a standard or a belief (expectation), and guilt is resentment and regret (bitterness) over something that is unfair or unright. You feel guilty you did wrong, you feel ashamed because you did something silly.

[@eotikurac]

grape is a social construct, hunny. better not talk.

[@PostClarity7]

😳 sounds wrong but it’s true 😬

[@LionelRWilson]

Guilt comes from inside, shames comes from the outside

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

14:39 STRAIGHT FACTZ!!!

[@stereo_jo]

Shame is bad if you’re against unity and cohesion. If you love a low trust society; you should get rid of shame and guilt.

[@duncanmugambi6213]

What is the connection between religion and patriarchy? Even atheistic socieities were very partriarchal... Religion is pushed as a foundation for morals not because of gender roles. I think you are starting to get lost with this whole tradition vs liberation thing. And red pill vs traditionalists

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

1:01 TRUE 130TH🫡📘🛫💯🖤🤙🏿🤴🏿🎮🤔

[@vinnyveritas9599]

Some people are pretty smart in these interviews. I should get out more, I must be reading reddit too much since I always feel the world is full of lunatics.

[@athiefinthenight6894]

Thinking all religions / philosophies are created equal and therefore each have the same right / value to be asserted or imposed truly is the mark of a midwit.

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

13:58 YES

[@JevonMusicGroup]

"You're more masculine if you have this one guy inside you." 🤣

[@ItsOnlyFate777]

Dude didn't even say that. He said god, a diety, neither man or woman, immaterial, so your coment shows your lack of intelligence...

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

5:31 No they don't, Here come the #S.I.G.N_LANGUAGE

[@yugarten8523]

i might be wrong, but i think she's a porn actress !

[@crimsonredkingdom2656]

Shame definitely is important. In America there’s a freedom to practice religion, or not do so if you wish. Moving on from that though the laws that govern this country for example are examples of restrictions to stop the country from being a lawless wasteland. Social, and Societal norms are just a lesser example of demonizing people for doing/saying certain things. It’s important that shame exists because I feel like there’s a link between shame/demonization, and people not participating in certain practices. Whether that be sex work, polyamory, so on and so forth. I have to say this. Men do know what they want. It’s possible to acknowledge how difficult it is to get sex as a man, and still acknowledge promiscuity as being bad. For those who don’t understand it they just need to learn that reality is inherently sexist. We live in world where women receive more favorable treatment in comparison to men in the form of chivalry, and otherwise. A woman can accuse a man of sexual assault with no evidence causing him severe financial ruin, as well as resulting in him being punished societally/socially. The opposite side to that is that while it is harder to obtain if a man sleeps with a lot of women he’s praised while women are shamed if they do the same. There’s a Yin and Yang that exists that I just explained.

[@Sc0rpi0226]

15:05 but Will say he's not a real man if he doesn't provide 15:20 Stumbling upon saying it because it's no such thing

[@DG123z]

It's being worried about people taking from you or hurting you

[@Phisherman10]

Not religious. Bring back shame

[@shortcutDJ]

12:18 i liked that, really good answer

[@creationmuse2313]

(15:05) Should have asked her to take him out to dinner, and pay for it! She knows damn well men are held to a higher standard than women! Women do not like being providers to men!💯

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

3:49 She didn't answer the question...Being Gay is a choice! 130th🫡📘🛫💯🏃🏿‍♂️🖤🤴🏿🎮🤣

[@iam_ALEXWHAT_]

13:13 YES!

[@yugarten8523]

5:29 a girl who sells herself on the internet has no room to shame anyone !

[@RPMTreVietnam]

Damn, I need to be interviewed by you guys lol Even some of the guys are off-beat. A lot of the women are clueless too. 😂 A lot of people are going on their personal and not in the general and it shows

[@fredpotts3126]

Guilt is knowing that you did something wrong and shame is humbling yourself in front of others. There is a very cut drive difference between the two of them.

[@jay88ar]

3:50 uhh TF!

[@xguhbsb3471]

When he said that it caught me completely off guard 😂

[@None..1952]

Im clueless in this entire video, because of the first 5 people you questioned. Now im starting to question this channel

[@ItsComplicatedChannel]

Question what?

[@trigcat3107]

Maybe he's slowly turning into liberal, Feminist

[@greglake7215]

Deep stuff. My favorite part was the guy who said he wasn't religious while holding a "free bibles" sign.

[@ka9202]

Shame is a control mechanism similar to "cancellation".

[@jamellymel]

Chick with the afro wanted to be right so bad 😂

[@cricket12ish]

12:01 dudes smoking a J on the left side

[@TheyCallMe_TC]

That's something I would be doing

[@riofacts8283]

It's a SHAME when u get SHAMED for being ASHAMED of other people's bullshit(women)!

[@insomicraiddict]

Without shame anything goes and laws are irrelevant, arguing it should be applied when violence or a broken law is involved is erroneous if the people committing the acts don’t believe they should be shamed for it… the logic defeats itself.

[@Kirbystare1992]

But you could argue that they’re not committing crimes because of fear of jail not fear of shame no? I believe in Shame btw.

[@insomicraiddict]

@@Kirbystare1992 that's the social contract reality of today in the west, I'm talking about if people in masse decided to deny the current social contract and act upon their own mentally constructed contract where they don't view such actions as shameful and go and commit them, we would likely call those people terrorist or crazy at the least.

[@suzusuzu896]

3:50 "if you stop masturbation, you stop being gay" .......I guess everyone's gay then

[@chrisharris6462]

Guilt is behavioral, external. Shame is internal, self inflicting.

[@raidendwayne21]

No the other way around

[@texashellcat3350]

Religion is man made. Put all your trust in Jesus Christ!