She Got Her Tubes Tied Without Telling Her Boyfriend

Mom of 2 got her tubes tied without telling her current boyfriend who doesn’t have kids but wants kids with her. Share your thoughts in the comments.
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[@anikozoe5028]

It is so weird and agressive to push a camera into his girlfriend's face and record this bizarre argument. What's the matter with people? Why record it? For internet clout? For control? Sus. 🚩

[@peachesandpoets]

It's fake

[@anikozoe5028]

@@peachesandpoets It probably is fake.

[@Savedbygrace33311]

It’s so aggressively a skit, so sick of these

[@sg5720]

It is fake, but this happens in real life, so people have discussions about it. Still lessons learned despite it being fake. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@shhhperry9852]

It is so fake, if it were real she’d be saying “get that camera out of my face”.

[@tycinoify]

These men act like actually having kids is so easy, like they’re having them.

[@traceylennon1204]

You get the award for best comment!! 🏆🙌🏾💯

[@shadowbanned6358]

Right?!??!?!

[@cocoace7587]

It's easy for him . After that night , he can dip & never see you or the child again . Yep , it's easy for men . Men like it when we struggle in pain or discomfort. 😢

[@Mel_Sharp]

@@cocoace7587 That would mean that they have some awareness of our pain or discomfort, which is more than most of us can expect. Mostly, they are oblivious, more concerned with their stomachs or their man bits than anything else.

[@salaciousBastard]

These women act like men are supposed to be ecstatic about raising Pookies kids, so much so, that they enthusiastically forgo having their own children so they can spend more money raising theirs.

[@emberya9561]

All I see is a *boyfriend* asking for *husband* privileges. She doesn't want any other kids, ever. What he wants is redundant. Who taught these men to demand being treated like husbands when they don't even want to fully commit?

[@watermelonlover745]

Exactly. These guys act like they're the only ones who can use someone for sex

[@levelupgoddess9289]

Husband aren’t owed a woman’s womb

[@unicorn73212]

Agreed because sometimes boyfriends can't commit that's why they stay boyfriends because they don't qualify to be husbands. The type of marriage there looking for can't be found in America you have to go outside the U.S if you want a relationship we're the husband is allowed to have multiple wives. Multiple partners is also dangerous to the wife's health it could spread an STD there's a reason it's not legal in the U.S because modern men won't even wear a condom they think going raw is some kind of joke. They want all these privileges without even putting in the work to have those privileges. Society doesn't allow them to have sex irresponsibly that's why they get mad and pushy about it because they know it's true being a hoe comes with consequences and there not immune to those consequences either they may be different but there not that different then us were there immune to diseases or getting people pregnant. In fact because they can get people pregnant is why sometimes there at a higher risk with sex then women because women usually have a harder time getting pregnant then men do knocking women up. American women are lucky to have one or two kids men can usually produce larger amounts if they have multiple partners. So I don't know why men keep influencing other men to spread there seed around that should be illegal if you don't want to get married. And sense the majority of them can barely afford one kid that's a truth bomb they refuse to acknowledge until it happens to them sometimes the only way to teach them right from wrong is for them to learn the hard way about it. That or just protect yourself and don't tell them you had any procedures done on you especially if there not your husband. It's like with me I was told I couldn't get pregnant but a boyfriend probably shouldn't know that either because they will just hold it against you later or try to shame you for something your body could never do in the first place. These men have to be lied to sometimes because they don't understand that they don't meet the requirements to be a father anyways. If they don't meet the requirements I'm not sure why they think they can even afford to be a hoe.

[@2okaycola]

Yep

[@biblethumper8088]

Even a husband isn't entitled to a woman having his children. He can ask, but he can't expect it.

[@shaolinqueen3684]

What's so contradictory is that men get bent out of shape and say that it's a woman's job to raise those kids while dad goes out and work and pay bills. In the same instance, men get bent out of shape when she takes full responsibility for making infomed decisions (abortion, birth control) about her reproductive rights WITHOUT a man's input!

[@Sunshine-fv1eb]

I hate how he kept cutting her off and talking over her. He didn’t see the value in marrying her before getting her pregnant, which by his behavior in the video, seems like she sabotaged his plans to make her a single mom AGAIN. THAT’S why he’s mad 💯💯

[@sg5720]

He wants his child that is all. He don’t want commitment but wants a child. Typical low level male thinking.

[@beeautifuldreamer2211]

Facts❤

[@annmarieknapp]

He just wanted to shame her and he hasn't proposed so I don't see his beef. He should have been up front with her.

[@cocoace7587]

Exactly. He knows Sis is pretty & has a lot of options. He tried to make her stay in the house 😂🎉. # not today 😅

[@christyclarissemercier6359]

He literally asked questions and then didn't let her answer bruhhhhhhhh

[@tessa726]

He wants kids with her because he sees her as a breeder. She did the right thing!

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

Nah my younger sis he's mad that she escaped the trap and extra, extra mad that she had the surgery!!😅 Glad she did it!😂😂😂😂😂

[@shuris_vibranium]

He thinks of her as his property.

[@tessa726]

@@GwendolynPorter-w6c I’m not young lol! I’m 42 but I look 24 because I stopped dealing with black men and mammies almost 15yrs ago. I know that black men are out here ruining women’s lives with their poverty seeds😂

[@lbc1628]

Y'all are delusional AF, women by nature breeders, don't put that silliness on men. Not once did he say or insinuate that he owns her,not one time did he put her down. That man took her in and cared for her and her kids, she even said that,stop looking for negativity on his side. She didn't know that he wanted a child of his own which is sad, because that means either she didn't believe he would or that she didn't care that he would. Listen up ladies, if a man doesn't like,love,think about a woman in a good way,he is not going to take care of that woman,he is not going to move that woman into his home,he is definitely not going to move a woman with kids into his home and take care of them too. That man will include you in everything, ask for your input,even provide you cash and a ride to get you a job to help your self esteem and to show your kids you good so their good. A man that cares that much is looking for long-term commitment,he is preparing you for marriage to him. He made a life changing decision for all of y'all when he decided to take y'all in, that affected him, you and especially the kids he didn't know. So why was it so hard to establish a line of communication with him about a life changing decision with him. Majority of women listening to other women who have been burned, have been used,have been passed around but that's their experience, that's the type of men they chose to repeatedly deal with and not give a shot to the good, straight up hardworking man because he wasn't a bad boy or a thug. You can hear it in his voice,he was hurt because she admitted that she talked to multiple people, MULTIPLE PEOPLE and not him. The One that was showing her love and support, the One that she was sleeping with,she didn't talk to him. That man was doing pretty damn good to take in a whole family, no man would do that if he wasn't honorable. See, that's what traditional men do. All he wanted was a child of his bloodline with her, and a conversation could have turned up all kinds of options

[@salaciousBastard]

@@shuris_vibranium She thinks of his wallet as her Pookie's love child's property.

[@MorganRimming]

"Why wouldn't you talk to me first?" "I mean I dont even have a ring on my finger." As a black woman, her response made me so happy. Our community is the only community that encourages and cheers on babymama culture and having kids out of wedlock without any conversations of marriage. It is extremely embarrassing and I am so happy to see the shift in the mindset. A man who does not value you enough to make you a wife should NEVER have the privilege of you carrying his child.

[@hubabaloop]

I know this is amazing.

[@traceylennon1204]

Well said!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾💯

[@Arizona_lilly]

But she didn’t get married before obviously the dads of the other 2 aren’t helping or she wouldn’t be struggling n he’s only good enough to be step dad wtf

[@icantwiththis]

Vivek Ramsey was on The Breakfast Club and said if he was president he would make it a law that the father would be completely responsible for the woman and child's safety and finances fully beyond child support for 18 years and the black men hosts said it was preposterous. And I was like? Why is that preposterous? Every single culture believes this already.

[@radicalreactions1633]

If you actually believe that Vivek Ramiswamy cares about what happens to WOMEN OR CHILDREN, you're living in GOPuke delululand.

[@MorganRimming]

Keyword "boyfriend" not husband. Case closed she did the right thing for HER life.👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽🙏🏽

[@trb3074]

💯💯

[@TinfoilHatGirl]

Can now pay for HER life ☝️😁

[@watermelonlover745]

Exactly. He can get mad IMHO if he was married and committed but she has no way to get anything as a live in girlfriend

[@LeahJames616]

@@watermelonlover745why live with a man in the first place if he’s not your husband?

[@watermelonlover745]

@@LeahJames616 good point!!!

[@MsMookalate]

So she’s a struggling single mom that’s living with her boyfriend and he’s only thinking about himself not the struggling single mom who he claims he wanted to spend his life with. My question is why is she struggling if he’s with her and why would he think bringing more children into a struggling situation is good?

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

Why aren't they married if he wants 2 spend his life with her

[@Redskywinter204]

@@theteleisewilliamsexperience Cause he want husband benefit w no trace of burden

[@LoveAndSnapple]

This is the one!

[@PandaHead602]

That’s the best she can do … she’s struggling because she’s not helping… how rude of her She has 2 kids not him

[@PandaHead602]

Her kids r a burden . Remmeber that

[@patronustrip]

He is more worried that she tied her tubes cause he wanted to use her body to have his kid, I would be more worried about why my partner made this life alterning change in their body and went to a surgery and didnì't talk to me about it, in the sense why she didn't trust me and felt she had to hide it from me, that would hurt more than the kid thing, cause probably they talked about the fact that she didn't want any more children but he dismissed her, like they always do.

[@fantym1633]

I wonder if she did it secretly bcos she caught him diddling w/her birth control

[@cocoace7587]

Right , he didn't care one iota that SHE didn't want anymore 😢. Ladies keep , protecting your wombs . If you have a baby for a man , who really wants his own kid , let him raise it . Then , dip if you want to . 😂🎉

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

If ur not married to a woman she is not automatically going to push out kids at ur request nor does she have to notify u of the surgery! She did what was best for her! She escaped his control !!! GET OVER IT!

[@TheCYW]

And how did he not notice her recovering from surgery??? He seems like 🗑️

[@tycinoify]

Men, wanna know why we tie our tubes but don’t wanna hear about our period. Their weird.

[@Shevan08]

When she said, “so it’s like I broke up with you and now you breaking up with me? Come on now” I SCREAMED!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@christyclarissemercier6359]

The silence afterwards was INSANE 😂😂😂

[@ccannon1]

I hate how men love to argue. She said you can accept it or leave. He said he wanted to leave and then continue to argue about it? Like bruh, leave like you said

[@dyrich6799]

Because they sassy

[@tessa726]

😂😂😂 Right! Like, that’s the end of the conversation.

[@fantym1633]

men going their own way, but in their spaces all they talk about is women, obsessively. women going their own way completely ignore men bcos they're not important.

[@theladynextdoor313]

Well to be fair, she would have to leave because it sounded like the apartment was in his name not hers. So she was free to leave to and take her children with her. Now if her name is on that apartment too then that is a different story.

[@ccannon1]

@@theladynextdoor313 still no point in continuing to argue though. It’s not like her tubes will be untied. The argument ended when he said he wanted to leave the relationship. What is there to argue about from there?

[@rahelehfarhadi952]

"I just broke up with you and you breaking up with me now? comon now!!!” She said with infinite inner peace

[@cocoace7587]

Right , I just posted similar. He was capping & she burst his lil bubble 🫧 🤣. At that point , his words were irrelevant. 😌💃

[@Kelema86]

That’s the thing he doesn’t realize. Part of why she made this decision without talking to him first is because her mind is made up and she also doesn’t care what he thinks or if he is upset. She essentially had already broken up with him before she even had the procedure done.

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

Because it's probably a skit

[@karmAnonymous]

that silence ™️ was LOUD & hilarious 💀😆

[@peachesandpoets]

Another skit trying to make black women look unreasonable, when really she had the point. Lol. It's her body. Hahahha. Like she said, if you don't like it you can leave

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

Exactly and we keep playing into this by making it viral. Anytime a man is recording this kind of conversation it should be ignored and these ppl would stop rage farming.

[@CageGD]

Can I bring up that men can easily become unpredictable and possibly dangerous ? If she told him, maybe he would do something to sabotage her plans or even harm her.

[@shaolinqueen3684]

Men are very unpredictable and they always say women are.

[@thinkinginn7443]

That’s what I was thinking. It’s also likely he’s tried to sabotage in other ways, like disrupting her birthday control, trying to raw dog or stealth her, holes in condom, etc. My ex, in hindsight, knew I took the pill late at night. It was weird remembering the times he’d push for us to stay out late multiple times a week, specifically hours after I’d normally take it, and then try to have sex immediately after coming home before doing anything else. I didn’t want to think he’d try that, but it made me realize he was disrupting my birth control on purpose so I’d be at a higher risk of pregnancy. Then I switched the time to the mornings. Upon noticing my new schedule, suddenly we’re home by 10 every night. Men are very calculated.

[@CageGD]

@@thinkinginn7443 that’s gross. Glad he’s an ex

[@BrightEyes24]

If she honestly thought that then she never should have told she got her tubes tied and started working on ways to get out of that relationship.

[@cleo1827]

@@thinkinginn7443men disturb me . My ex would always romanticize children with me and make jokes about skipping a pill on purpose. Meanwhile he was emotionally cheating on me with multiple people and spending nights together with them when I was out of town visiting my dying mom. So glad I have birth control.

[@2junieb]

He won't be the one carrying the baby for 9 months and then delivering it. It's her decision, period. He can decide that he wants to break up, that's his right. What isn't his right is controlling her reproduction.

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

He can control ish! What's done is done!

[@ufos-cos]

He was not robbed of shit. She’s single until there’s a ring.

[@Redskywinter204]

MARRIAGE LICENSE IS ONLY PROOF! Case closed

[@salaciousBastard]

WTF is she still in his house? WTF is she accepting him taking care of her bastard kids?

[@CadillacBoss30]

Why would she get one after that?

[@ufos-cos]

@@CadillacBoss30 what are you talking about?

[@izealliaeldridge1441]

@@salaciousBastard Same reason Joseph took care of Mary’s bastard baby. 😂

[@An262.]

"Actual child" Brother. If your partner is calling YOUR CHILDREN "not his real/actual kids" when you're together, he ain't the right one. A good person would never thinking about a child like that, as a status symbol. No one is entitled to your uterus, to your pregnancy, to your burden of carrying a life, to your risk of death. NO ONE!

[@raynebow5289]

He obviously doesn’t care about her children. She did the right thing for herself and her body.

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

Tried to butter her up by pretending to care for her kids so she would cave to his request!!!😂😂😂😂

[@salaciousBastard]

He's not supposed to care about her Pookie seeds. Where's the UHaul? Why hasn't she moved yet?

[@DenishaBERNARD-rg5xi]

I bet u have no wife, kids or step kids. I bet u have Vaseline and KZbin. That’s all. Maybe Reddit too. That’s all u have😭

[@thinkinginn7443]

It’s a huge red flag when a man wants to have babies with you but avoids marriage like it’s the next SARS variant. It is inherently selfish because there’s so many legal and financial protections that come with that ‘piece of paper’ and ring that are impossible or very difficult to get as a baby mama. If they were still together and he died, that house wouldn’t go to her. Any kind of pension wouldn’t either. It’d go to his family, and then she’s at the mercy of them if they even like her. Men seem to hyperfocus on not having ‘half’ of everything taken away from them but don’t think of the lifetime commitment that having kids is.

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

U did notice while pushing the issue of a child, not once did mention marriage! I would've recorded his simple azz! He reminds of the dude that tried to move his grandmama in the house and the wife raised hell! 😂😂😂 That failed also!😅😅😂😂

[@TOFFEETASTICC]

He’s just triggered cause his plans to babytrap and put her in a vulnerable position backfired. He wasn’t able to “humble” her through pregnancy that’s why he shoved that camera in her face. “How dare she ruin my plans” vibes. 😕

[@PandaHead602]

Baby trap her ? That girl took someone else’s kids there n trapped her self LOL he doesn’t need to give her a baby she’s there the moneh keeps her there

[@snapdragon9386]

Dude don’t care about family and commitment, but imaginary opportunity of procreation. He conveniently dodged question about marriage, at the same time mad about possibility of not having kids. And yet again, guy didn’t say that he considered that woman as a mother of his child, but angry that she will not get pregnant by him

[@PrettyRad]

I LOVE how she was ready for everything he threw. She thought of it all, yo. Excellent holding steady and control of emotions. Good for her

[@julesb2415]

He would rather force her to have children or let her live on the street, men☕

[@ll2323]

They don’t see the toxicity in that and wonder why younger women are opting out of having kids.

[@cocoace7587]

Exactly. He just proved her point . She wasn't willing to have a 3rd child with a man like him . She knew he could flip out any minute & throw all of them out . Hopefully, Sis was smart & saved money on the side . 😅

[@tjaspire]

I'm usually on the womens' side, but if she's making independent life-altering decisions behind his back, she clearly doesn't need his input or support. She's got this. 😂 She didn't have to run it by him and he certainly doesn't have to support her kids.

[@Kelema86]

Plot twist: he would probably let her live on the streets even if she had his kids. Fathers and even husbands abandon their families every day.

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

If she has no where 2 go that's her fault. Could never be me.

[@user-mm7jn6bh6l]

Why is he filming her? A narcissist move

[@SoloCityTravels]

It feels like a skit lol

[@pinkpain-ter8412]

​@@SoloCityTravels yeah every time they film you know it's fake

[@sg5720]

So he went and picked up a woman with kids, provided for her and her kids and then complains he don’t have his own biological children? Why pick up this woman? Why? He the idiot. He acting like a woman having children is so easy. This is why I keep saying it. Single childless women should ONLY be with single childless men. I don’t blame her, I blame him. He should have chose better and these are discussions that should have been done before getting in a relationship. Dude dumb. No sympathy from me. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽😞

[@Arizona_lilly]

He got proof of what she said ima Woman and I’d he wants a kid it’s not fair …. She has to kids he don’t

[@watermelonlover745]

He says "but you're in this house though" AND?

[@Annabreezy19]

Well, he's just a boyfriend...not a husband. 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@AlwonDomz]

She should find a husband to support her and her kids. Like the kid’s father perhaps.

[@ll2323]

@@AlwonDomz stop forcing people to stay together for the child if the relationship isn’t viable. People coparent amicably today.

[@Jessejessen_]

If you want to marry someone you have to agree to certain things. If she makes a decision like that it will affect his life, duuh

[@LeahJames616]

If he’s not your husband why the hell would you move you and your kids into his house then?

[@AlwonDomz]

@@LeahJames616 Exactly.

[@murtleturtle4027]

"I'm trying to make ends meet" "Ends meet?! We are a team!" That tells you everything you need to know right there lol. Good for her.

[@ll2323]

They’re a team when it’s convenient for them.

[@cocoace7587]

Right. She's smart , she knows if things aren't meeting now , how are they supposed to meet with more kids 😂? She must be working & helping with the bills , b/c otherwise he would've thrown it in her face 😢. That's why he will let her stay, until he finds his next roommate . I bet he can't afford to live on his own . 😂

[@Redskywinter204]

@@cocoace7587right cuz his labor can easily be replaced by a woman of every race BM literally make average incomes they work same jobs as migrants😂

[@KamalianCiranoush]

"I just broke up with you, now you're breaking up with me? Come on now." 😂😂😂

[@lovelydeath04]

Why should she have to tell anyone about a medical procedure? Why is he trying to impregnate his GIRLFRIEND?! She's not a wife and children to males are only if they can A.) Afford marriage and B.) Afford a child. Why is he filming her?!😂🤣 Least logical and most emotional. Why did he post this? This only makes HIM look bad. Why would she feel so confortable just having to clip and snip hetself just so she doesn't have his kids?! Something ain't right...

[@Mel_Sharp]

It's not a matter of her not wanting to bear his child, it's a matter of her not wanting to have any more kids, period, given that she is not married to this guy, and, at the end of the day, I'd be willing to bet that this is not the first instance of him threatening to leave her because he is not getting his way.

[@alanaatkinson551]

2 kids are more than enough, she doesn't need another child. She did the right thing.

[@RedHandCommando]

2 kids belonging to another man. Typical BW comment

[@RedDeadReverie]

Also, I just learned that tubal ligation isn’t reversible anymore. They don’t “tie your tubes”, they burn and remove the length of the fallopian tubes. Just a heads up for other ladies going to do the surgery like I am! ❤

[@97indianuk]

More women would be protected if they get their tubes tied and are certain about not having kids

[@annmarieknapp]

It should be permanent.

[@cocoace7587]

There are different methods. Tied or cut & burned . I told my gyn to cut , burn & bury them in HER back yard 😂. She laughed 😅.

[@radicalreactions1633]

Not always.

[@Khaleesi_Jack]

Tubal ligation is reversible, for the most part. It’s another surgery, but depending on how badly the fallopian tubes were damaged during the ‘tubes tied’ procedure, only about 50-80% of them are reversible, meaning to be reattached and functional.

[@nikanikasavina]

I do not think she never told him about getting her tubes tied, I think that she told him before, in a very soft, delicate way, about not having more kids, getting financially and mentally stable, but he ignored her, then forgot, and now acts all surprised!

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

Typical male behavior (not all ofc) they really don't care what women say to even remember

[@annieruotay3693]

She admitted to making the decision on her own and only talking to her friends and family they both weird to be honest

[@rhapzodienpurple]

She's not obligated to have his biological child. She probably didn't tell him because there are issues with the relationship. She owes him nothing.

[@justjackie4394]

It's the audacity for him to think he gets any say in what she does with her body. She doesn't have to check with him for ish. Now she should tell him at some point whether before or after, so he can move accordingly with his life plans. But he is a fool for thinking he gets a say especially when he didn't marry her. 😠

[@ll2323]

Too scared for commitment but want kids, make it make sense!

[@annmarieknapp]

His entitlement to her and her body is unbelievable. The gall.

[@wellersonoliveira5334]

Whats the obsession of people with having kids anyway? Ya know, by this point I am pretty shure there's already enough people in the world haha

[@Enriquez2222]

Too many in my opinion

[@radicalreactions1633]

And it's ALWAYS MEN that are obsessed with it, because they don't have to take care of the kids.

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

​@@Enriquez2222too many and they're bad 😂 see these kids lately? Literal demons 😂😂

[@wellersonoliveira5334]

​@@Enriquez2222 True hahaha think the world would be better with out certain f@scist folks 🙏

[@ADR-xn6dg]

Not in some Asian countries. Their birthrate is close to going in the negative.

[@aliciahughley7508]

He’s insane, and she made the right decision. How does he believe he has a say so if he hasn’t married her?

[@tycinoify]

She gonna have to carry and care for the child herself, before kids come they say anything, kids get here they don’t do nothing. It’s fact.

[@radicalreactions1633]

Exactly.

[@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld]

If they already discussed that she didn't want to have kids then she had every right and it's her body, it's her choice. Secondly he's her boyfriend not her husband.

[@RedDeadReverie]

I’m getting sterilized soon. It’s not your partner’s choice, it’s yours. You do what you think is best for yourself, your body is solely your business. And to say you can’t love adopted kids as much as your own is very egotistical and selfish.

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

Its not 100% so I think personally it stupid and unnecessary and if you do happen to get pregnant the chance it will be an ectopic one is ridiculously high just don't get permenant unnecessary surgery especially if its not 100%. Either way fertility and life is a good thing and it best to open to life if you are having sex or stay away from it if you are not.

[@tegz692]

In a relationship, normally it's a conversation at the start, and if both people don't agree, then they are able to move on b4 feelings are established.

[@BrightEyes24]

It’s you body so it’s your choice. But you should let your partner know ur intentions. Informed consent. Staying in a relationship with you is their choice.

[@briskettacos]

I know I'll get flak for this, but if you're young, please reconsider using a different birth control method. You may feel totally different at 34 than you do now, and a permanent decision is a permanent decision. Never delete an option if you don't have to.

[@radicalreactions1633]

Dude, you religious nuts don't have a clue about Science, let alone sentences. STAY OUT OF IT IF IT'S NOT YOUR BODY. And it IS 100%@@carolinpurayidom4570

[@vrichards4363]

Key word WIFE.... they are JUST DATING. She owes him nothing. He needs to go find his baby moms else where.

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

Even if married she doesn't need his permission but marriage is different since he too have the right to have babies but she doesn't need to carry them inside her body there's surrogates in marriage there's a compromise solution but he's just her boyfriend

[@hope6471]

Pregnancy takes a physical, mental and psychological toll on a woman that men will never understand. Also he already has kids doesn't matter if they're his biological kids or not he's still their dad.

[@nataliawashington872]

0:25 whoah hold on now! If he can’t be a great father to his step kids, then how the hell can he be a great father to his biological kids?

[@annieruotay3693]

She said he does a great job with her kids

[@kari547]

They should have just broken up. Clearly they’re not on the same page about what they want for the future. Must be a skit cause who’s going back and forth

[@ll2323]

She’s said they broke up once before over it.

[@ssance]

Every day I’m understanding more and more why people say don’t build with a man and don’t be somebody’s girlfriend…..

[@maryjanerx]

Love seeing all these women agreeing, no ring, no babies

[@Daug555]

She wouldn’t have done it and perhaps would’ve communicated it better with him if she felt they were a “team” and they aren’t “making ends meet.” Get somebody else to do it. Her body. Her choice. These ninjas aways want a child, but are not about raising that child.

[@TinfoilHatGirl]

Well, he is already paying for a roof for the children she had with someone else?! Can we please stop being hypocrites?!

[@NiobeNeo]

And they can break up and move. She can leave the house soooooo??? Stop the bs. No marriage no kids!!!! Boyfriend and girlfriend is nothing but spending time together. A woman should never rely on the words of a man!! If he wants kidssss so bad, than get marry and go about it.

[@TinfoilHatGirl]

@@NiobeNeo with getting her tubes tied which is irreversible she took that option of "marriage first" off the table for good!!! he absolutely SHOULD dump her. There are plenty of women out there who want to have a family without kids of another dude. I bet if he doesn't have to pay for someone else's kids he will "make ends meet" for him and his future wife. Geeesh how I hate this hypocritical side of feminism 🤢

[@NiobeNeo]

@@TinfoilHatGirl he is a free man to walk away anytime he wants. If he wanted to be father so bad he should have proposed and start making marriage plans. The lady must have learned some harsh lessons. He can walk awayyyyyyyyyy... No one is stopping him!!!

[@TinfoilHatGirl]

@@NiobeNeo yes so we agree. All is good. He should break up and find someone else and she can fend for herself 🤷‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️

[@DivaDivine88]

She did what she did! She said what she said.. PERIOD!

[@thinkinginn7443]

Ngl the fact that he got a camera to record their argument tells me a lot. “Person you’re spending your life with” but not her husband, and peep that she mentions there’s no ring on her finger so that discussion was probably had. “We are a team” seconds after saying he wants ‘his’ own kids as if her children don’t count. The swiftness to insinuate kicking her and said kids out. It’s not aligning to a man that claims to care about her or her kids to begin with. It’s giving a man that eventually wanted to baby trap her and considering her possible experience, tying her tubes is the best option she can make. And if she’s been talking to fam and friends, she’s fully prepared to move out if this ‘man’ kicks her out over this. Because correct me if I’m wrong, but complications aside she can always get them untied. He’s mad that he can’t get her pregnant unless she explicitly consents to having his or anyone’s kid. This is the biggest concern that leads me to believe he was trying to baby trap her.

[@justjackie4394]

You actually, can't get them untied. They cut and burn them.

[@tessa726]

Facts!!! He’s trying to trap her for sure.

[@radicalreactions1633]

Again, yes you can. Learn Science.@@justjackie4394

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

​@@justjackie4394even better

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

​@@Megs658What part of no more kids do u not understand????

[@vrichards4363]

Congratulations to her for making smart choices for her life.

[@julesb2415]

He clearly had no plans tp marry her, he wanted to have a baby out of wedlock so she could raise them alone and he could dodge child support for 18 years, typical man

[@ReneeHarris96]

Exactly 💯

[@PandaHead602]

But she has 2 kids in his house and she’s not speaking on helping etc she’s entitled it’s not fair I’m a woman saying this. She just wants security for her n her kids but not a child for him how does this work ? See how fast everything goes away if they break Up because she don’t work she struggling because she choose too she’s not helping and brought 2 other kids

[@julesb2415]

@@PandaHead602 a good man provides and doesn't whine, a low effort bare minimum man does 50/50, and a bad man think that money will buy offspring. If he wants kids, let him have them himself. Except he can't have them, only women can and only women get to decide if she will have more kids. Allowing men to make choices on what women do with their bodies is like allowing white people to make laws specifically for black people. Oh wait, we have already seen how that turned out.

[@Childfree334]

​@@PandaHead602What you forget is that he got with her KNOWING she had two kids that were not his, and stayed with her anyway. He CHOSE to support those kids. This is all on him.

[@biblethumper8088]

The same way he's telling her to get out of his house is the same thing he would've done had she had his child. He's unreliable and irresponsible and she did the right thing by having her tubes tied. Don't let men make you unstable.

[@Lilzki]

Exactly. She did something he did not agree with and his immediate reaction is to throw her and the children out.

[@LeahJames616]

@@LilzkiThose aren’t his kids

[@biblethumper8088]

@@LeahJames616 so? He knew that before he allowed them to stay. He is unstable, irresponsible and untrustworthy. You shouldn't condone men causing instability to children since you were once a child yourself.

[@LeahJames616]

@@biblethumper8088 And she knew she didn’t want more kids before she moved in with him. Why move you AND your kids into man’s house that’s not your husband?

[@radicalreactions1633]

He said THE children, and who cares if they're his kids. Losers lie this have kids all over the place that they don't care about.@@LeahJames616

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

I wonder if she did discuss it with her he would have tried to talk her out of it and then may have tried to knock her up?

[@justjackie4394]

The dude with the beard and durag is delusional. There is no compromise on not wanting kids. When people say they don't want kids they mean they don't want to raise kids, not that they don't want biological kids or to birth one. She already has kids, she doesn't want another mouth to feed and care for. The bearded dude without the durag is a joke.🙄

[@kerenhaiweha6257]

Even if we understand there is no compromise, there should have still been a conversation had. That would have been the mature thing to do. She doesn’t have to ask permission, but she needed go give him an opportunity to make a choice as to how he wanted to proceed. I don’t think how she handled it was fair.

[@justjackie4394]

@@kerenhaiweha6257 I do think it matters for her to tell him of her decision, but I don't think it matters if she told him before or after. Regardless of when, he would have acted like this because he sees her as a vessel for his progeny and him not getting his way would have upset him. The relationshop would have also faltered regardless because of this not being something that could be compromised. Now if he is upset because he found out through a source that wasn't her that's understandable. But him asking why she didn't talk to him about it first is nonsensical.

[@annmarieknapp]

I think he's an unsavory sort.

[@radicalreactions1633]

Like he's mature. lol.@@kerenhaiweha6257

[@Queenzbree]

She has a right to make a decision for herself and her body. What she’s saying makes a lot of sense, because why would you want to bring a child into this world and you cannot afford to take care of that child. He’s only thinking about himself and not thinking about what it means to actually have children of his own. Men do not understand having a child is more than the financial. being pregnant is not easy and giving birth your in between life and death. Every time you give birth. Why would she risk her life to have a child by a man that hasn’t even married her yet?

[@hubabaloop]

Is it not her OVARIES??? Not her UTERUS?!? I’m proud of her lmfao fr. Any man talking about biological kids can kick rocks away from me 😂😂😂 they’re hilarious. They NEEEED a uterus. She said not mine 👍🏽👍🏽

[@MedusssssaChristo]

She Is Intelligent, he’s a boyfriend. Even so, It’s her body. She doesn’t want more children. “I don’t have a ring on my finger” That’s It!

[@cleo1827]

He said he was definitely leaving. Him going off on her was for fun. She dodged a bullet regardless. He clearly wasn’t paying for her children, yet expects to own her anatomy? SMH

[@lindadewese6754]

Now this ,is a great woman who will not be moved.

[@giulianaartist6664]

Him: "you're sleeping on my bed!" Her: "it ain't even comfortable tho"💅💅💅😂😂😂😂

[@Iamam313]

The moment he asked derogatorily asked "It's your body?"...she made the right call obviously

[@Egg_Apron]

He's kicking her out for not having an available womb... This is abuse.

[@annieruotay3693]

No it’s not they both have bad communication either way it goes they made final decisions without talking that’s weird to be in a relationship and not at least having a discussion you can have your mind made up but you don’t have to be sneaky

[@keidmaster]

​@annieruotay3693 It's weird he's all hot and bothered that she won't have kids with her boyfriend. She's not looking for temporary. If he wants kids with her, get married. I think because she already has 2 kids, he probably thought she would be easy enough to get pregnant without the hassle of marriage (since kids>marriage for him).

[@BreakinUpBuds]

Abused umm no that’s being ridiculous. Breaking Up with her because he wants children of his own is his right just like it’s her right to get her tubes tied with or without him knowing.

[@BreakinUpBuds]

@@keidmasterYou’re making a lot of assumptions.

[@6ftNaturalBeauty]

It’s her boyfriend. Why would she tell him anything she does not want to. The streets are so odd when it comes to committal and noncommittal relationships.

[@BP_Excellent]

He is not her husband. If he were then he would have a valid argument.

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

At first i thought so but it's really the same thing even if he was her husband, just because she's his wife doesn't mean she's a baby making machine, if all he wants is a biological baby he can still have one without his wife, she clearly doesn't mind so there's many donors or even better if she's scared of pregnancy (rightfully it's life-threatening) they can have a surrogate

[@cestmoitout]

a boyfriend?lol...some of these boyfriends have an inflated sense of privilege

[@Khaleesi_Jack]

I feel so bad for that woman. He’s not marrying her, but wants his own kid. She says no, and puts her foot down, (with the surgery), and he ‘breaks up’ with her, threatens her, the kids with homelessness, and is getting verbally offensive, WITH A CAMERA IN HER FACE, all cuz of something he WANTS. Dude needs to grow up.

[@hlobisilezama999]

They want their own children until you find yourself with 10 different baby daddies.... rubbish 🚮 . Just because they want babies, it doesn't mean he is going to marry you. Welldone to this strong Queen! You did well for yourself 🎉

[@nkolemwaba2526]

He should have just left her

[@sg5720]

Exactly. I’m a woman and saying this. He picked wrong and his only option is to go cause clearly he don’t want to be a father to the kids she already has. He needs to move on and find a woman in his level. I will always encourage my son NOT to get with women with children already. That is a NO NO in my home. My parents and in-laws never did it, I never did it, my hubby never did it, our kids have no excuse to move like this. People need to stay in their lane

[@Childfree334]

​@@sg5720I wouldn't brag if I were you. All you are saying is that you and your family are only capable of loving those who share your DNA. That is not a flex. Some of us have evolved to be able to love others who don't share blood with us.

[@stephaniehaynes8609]

He just talking right over her, ugh. It's her body, sir. She doesn't need your permission

[@MsLovely802]

Its dangerous to have kids with them in this day and age. If you hurt their big EGO. They will walk out and leave you a single mom. I made that mistake by giving my ex a kid after i told him i didnt want to keep it and he said he was going to marry me and guess what as soon as i was close to term he left me a single mom. My kid has my last name and all of a sudden we are a team. 😂. Never again will i have a male so called legacy. Married or Not. Pregnancy and being a mom is not fun. Although i love my kid. They are very costly and mentally and physically draining. Never again

[@fantym1633]

The way he talks over her is SO disrespectful.

[@adongokomer8637]

My current ex once told me "if you don't understand me in my silence how will you understand my words." That's when I knew that he wanted a psychic/telepath. Not a partner.

[@joelle8201]

She made the mature choice. If he does not offer marriage first then he is not serious. As he does not offer marriage and retorts that he owns the bed indicates he has no intentions of giving her security in their relationship.

[@RikkiestAndTikkiest]

Another flawless illustration on why I'll be no man's girlfriend. He calls you "girlfriend," then acts like he gets all the wife privileges and services from you, in exchange for his legally worthless and unenforceable promise of fidelity. May the Lord spare me the indignity of being a GiRlFrIeNd.

[@gallagherwitt]

Given the way he keeps talking over her and not letting her get a word in edgewise, I have to wonder if she TRIED to talk to him about it but just didn't get anywhere.

[@blaqwabbit]

I do think she could have told him she didnt want anymore kids. He did deserve to know that. However, the final say about it is hers. I dont think she needs to ask him jackshit, but she could have told him where her head was at now as its his life too if they were planning on being together. I fully understand though y she wouldnt want to get pregnant. It also makes me wonder what conversations with him may have been like to make her just do it without saying anything. It's a bit odd but yeah the filming and shaming is a clue. So I get it.

[@mimi42428]

Good for HER. it's not his decision. She doesn't want anymore kids. He can go and find someone else to have his biological child with. And he's a boyfriend. They have no actual contract. She is right. Go girl. He could've done the same thing and if she doesn't like it then they break up. Simple as. Him filming her is stupid and unnecessary

[@karineaghajanyan]

He was arguing with her as IF he was going to be responsible, hands on, involved, present father,😂😂😂 the truth is NO, NO he won't, he is already irresponsible & entitled if he thinks he can have kids with her without marriyng her so can he bounce when he chooses or if she ask him to care for his kids like most of them do, the nerve!! Men like him are not fit to be parents, ever. He's only angry at her for doing what she wanted to do & brings in "I want kids of my own" argument to make her feel bad & try combat her disicion, like sir if you wanted kids - you would have married her & TOLD her you want kids, he is another absentee , deadbeat dad to be he is no parent to any child! Let him hit the road! She avoided becoming a baby mama second time, good for her, now she has to learn to choose better men cos this one was a bum.

[@scott95janice]

It’s so crazy how some men do not understand/ do not care what a woman goes through to have a child. It’s scary actually.

[@stoneyhighhigh3677]

*SHE DOESN'T WANT MORE KIDS BECAUSE THEY'RE STRUGGLING WITH THE KIDS NOW*

[@l3lloz]

That man said she is now a seedless grape; that’s all she was good for.. like whaaat🤯. And that right there is the problem. Girl do you. She peeped he had an unfruitful wallet 😒

[@stephaniebrooks8044]

Sounds like she didn't want No more kids with him or nobody else!! She don't owe him no baby!!!!TF!!

[@mariahrivera23]

How is nobody in the comments not seeing how she’s wrong for wasteing his time she got kids they live together he should’ve known before doing that to her body . A conversation should’ve been had that was crazy

[@joycejoy4119]

Don’t live together before marriage. If you want to live with a man in one house get that ring 💍 first

[@sakurakitsune6947]

😂😂😂these Boyfriends have serious NERVES

[@alwaysfabulous9965]

Intelligent woman, I admire her ❤ Men's tantrums can be sooo embarrassing.

[@Sayyestothemess-s6i]

It’s her body. She should leave. He should be with someone who wants to have kids. It’s that simple. Arguing isn’t even necessary. He is not her husband.

[@JustNishaa]

She spent entirely too much time going back and forth with a BOYFRIEND about the choice she made regarding her reproductive system. Ninja BYE✌🏾 I hope she has her own money bc he's using finances as a form of control. We know how a lot of these men switch up after you give birth. Its a trap. Let his ssa GO✂️

[@bwari01]

She doesn’t want more kids. He wants his own biological children. They should not have started dating had they discussed it in the first place! But now, they definitely need to break up. Her expecting him to just be ok with her kids that aren’t biologically his ONLY.

[@damselinadress2069]

He's not her husband. Boyfriend's don't get that choice. Later.

[@karina-annen]

Smart girl! Even if she was married to him I would still support her decision, I don't believe women have to have the husband's permission to get sterilized, they deserve to have the knowledge, but after the fact, to prevent them from trying to talk or coerce their wives out of it! The entitlement of these men!

[@Its.giselle234]

If she had an illness or sickle cell she probably wanted to protect herself from passing it on. These dudes do not care, what if she dies in childbirth? What if she has complications during pregnancy or birth? Honestly props to her, maybe she knew this man would act like a hissy female dog thats WHY SHE DID IT prior to him knowing. NO RING NO BABY. NO STRESS ALL 2024

[@lillybilly9954]

This is giving “skit”. I wish that black women would stop engaging in these skits that make our very rational decisions sound irrational. Obviously you would have a discussion with the man you’re living with who’s playing step daddy to your kids. That’s really the only leg he had to stand on. And it seemed just completely unreal. Nevermind the fact that he’s openly saying he doesn’t see those children as his own nor does he value marriage.

[@hyusuf4280]

True.

[@vangu2918]

She was already through with this relationship. She got her tubes tied because she didn't feel like the relationship was going to last and so she protected herself. You can tell she wasn't suprised in the least by his reaction, because something has already happened to tell her what to expect from him. No man had the right to a child from any woman no matter what the relationship is married or not married. Women need to talk about this up front when they get into a relationship, that way videos like this won't exist. You know, he knows and go from there.

[@aprilfox9205]

Bingo, she said they were struggling so she didn't want to end up with another one she's struggling to support.

[@carinaadams6797]

The woman at 11:13 is talking complete bs to me and doing nothing but promoting a lack of communication in relationships. If I wanted kids and was in a relationship and my man got a vasectomy without telling me because he’s already got 2 kids with another woman, I was be LIVID! A conversation is free and your decision may be final, but at least you were upfront and honest. Too much of this “it’s my life, it’s my body” while trying to *_share_* a life together is causing the breakdowns of a lot of relationships. A conversation was all that was needed. And now it seems like she and her sons might be out on the streets while she’s already struggling because she’s essentially wasting his time. If a man did this to me I too, would have to leave.

[@cocoace7587]

Notice how he turned the video off , when she reminded him # I'm already gone 😅 .Sis ," We are struggling with 2 kids , we can't afford 3 kids . Smart young lady . He wanted to bog her down with 3 or 4 kids , then leave . 😂 # not today Sir # not today 😅

[@carinaadams6797]

My personal opinion. She should have told him. Honesty is key and she seems to be living in his house. From what I understand, he saw them going the distance. She’s been online too much and she’s just screwed herself over. She said she’s trying to make ends meet and now she’ll be on her own. Communication is free, so don’t cut your nose to spite your face. Honesty doesn’t require marriage to be had. Very childish manoeuvre on her part imo.

[@LeahJames616]

A lot of people are saying it’s her body and they’re not married, which is true. However, how is this not discussed while dating and before moving in together? If marriage is something you’re striving and wanting for, you need to date with that intention. She mentioned she doesn’t want another child because of financial struggles as well. I’m sure she knew that before moving her and her children into his place. What about focusing on yourself, stacking your paper and staying celibate until you found the man you wanna marry who you loves, respects and can provide for you, your current and future kids?

[@dallasflynn5200]

She absolutely did the right thing. If she had tried to talk to him he probably would have given her a shut up/promise/I’m lying ring to stop her. She made the decision for herself and the two children she already has.

[@missme4862]

He is not her husband so ...