She messed up big time

[@NerdlySquared]

“The wallet stopped giving me compliments, the wallet must be broken and overly sensitive”

[@ralphmiranda2077]

If she isn't pregnant (by me), I'd stay quiet and file for divorce. There's _NO WAY_ I'd stay with a woman that felt that way about me.

[@CdrChaos]

If that man is smart, he would leave and not look back. She's only with him because of his money, not because she wanted to be with him. She said as much herself.

[@KaterinUA5]

I hope he lives near downtown. She wouldn't go too far back to the streets

[@Onnarashi]

I hope he got out of that toxic relationship and never looked back.

[@PhunkyMunky10]

There’s a kid involved: He’s always looking back.

[@chrish2112]

​@@PhunkyMunky10 Not his kid. Try again.

[@TechnoMageB5]

"Men value respect more than anything." Ladies, if you learn nothing else from this woman, learn _that._

[@OneFingerYT]

She humiliated him in front of his friend. Game over.

[@paulfeist]

Man.... I FELT that gut punch she gave him by saying that. Pack your things and run, bro... Or she's gonna "trade up" to another guy the instant she thinks she's found a "better" one.

[@Cohhhd-lk5dp]

Also, I am willing to bet that she has been looking for a "come-up" to replace him the entire time she has been involved with him. Return her to the streets which created and molded her.

[@GildedZ]

She's permaboned. NOBODY who knows that story will take her now.

[@KaterinUA5]

Mission accomplished

[@uoabigaillevey]

Recreational use only.

[@GildedZ]

@@uoabigaillevey I don't believe in using people, even for that. I'd rather not engage at all.

[@christopherpardell4418]

Women really need to learn that you NEVER hit a man where he’s weak. Keep your big yaps shut. Things said out loud can never be unsaid. Hurtful things heard, never unheard. He thought he was you and your child’s knight in shining armor and would have fought the world for you. Now he knows he was your last resort and you see him as an unwitting dupe. He will never ever feel like your hero, again. And so he will never ever Act like your hero again. Everything she says afterwards will seem a lie to him, now. A manipulation to continue getting what he formerly gave freely with a full heart. There is nothing she can do to repair this. She broke her good man just to score a hollow point in a conversation.

[@MrTweej]

"Now he's feeling insecure..." I wouldn't be feeling insecure. I'd be feeling angry, used, and disrespected. Like, I don't care how good she thinks she looks, to say something like that to my face in front of my friend... I honestly don't know if there's any coming back from that. She better get on her knees & start showering him with compliments and attention, and saying that stuff in front of everyone they know.

[@Morgyborgyblob]

Nah, she was given a chance to walk it back, and instead doubled down. There's no coming back from that.

[@2bituser569]

On her knees giving him hawk tuah 😂.

[@totallynotdio1311]

honestly, as a guy, i dont know how to help her. If a girl said that to me, she could be the sweetest, most upportive, most loving, most intimate (both emotionally and the other kind), most reasuring, least quarrelsome and completely selfless woman, and i would till think that this is how she really sees me. it doesnt help that she completely doesnt care about his feelings, and only started to think about because the complements stopped comming.

[@darktenor4967]

Logically, a woman who was indeed selfless, sweet, supportive, and loving would not actually say something like that, since those qualities would involve thinking about something other than you making her feel special. As Aristotle said; "Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit."

[@StillNotCancelled]

_only started to think about because the complements stopped coming_ But that's possibly the worst part of this, she didn't reflect on her mistake, she blamed him for being insecure.

[@JobiWan144]

How devastating to hear! I'm not sure the relationship can recover from such a massive put-down. From the sound of it, she doesn't fully realize how awful her words were.

[@craterous]

The problem is no so much what she said, as WHO SHE IS! She needs to work on gratitude, humility... long list here. It is great she had a moment of honesty, so this guy found out what he is dealing with. There is a saying, "Let them talk, eventually they tell on themselves."

[@aldenfloyd5432]

The old Olivia Newton John song "If You Love Let Me Know, If You Don't, Let Me Go", comes to mind.

[@StillNotCancelled]

She admitted what she is. Even in the kindest light, if she just meant to say that she looked at him as a provider to start with and only later saw his true value, there's still the issue of her complete disregard for his feelings

[@davidp2888]

“If I’m too much, go find less.” Also, “If I’m not enough, go find more.” Do not use me as an appliance or a place holder until someone new comes along.

[@JoeShenanigans]

The ATM is out of order.

[@ChaplainBald]

In a time where you can read horror story after horror story conserning single mothers and how they view and value their spouses. Ie. "You are nothing but wallet for me and my child, don't ever think you'l be anyting more". She humiliates her husband infront of her husbands friend and says the exact thing most men are afraid about of dating/marrying a single mother. "The only reason I'm with you, is because I was desperate and you have money" His not insecure. His fuming inside. His most definately having an inner monologue about how everyone around him warned him about dating a single mothers and why he didn't listen to those warnings. I feel so sorry for this man.

[@darktenor4967]

Let's play the gender flip game here. How would it be for a man to say: "I could do better than you, but I need someone to do my laundry and warm my bed." Would that be unkind, dismissive and really offensive, of course it would! To quote one of my father's favourite sayings: "engage brain before opening gob!"

[@rotm4447]

Your example still isn't even a good comparison. This is worse and more dehumanizing.

[@darktenor4967]

@@rotm4447 And telling a man that his only value is his money is not dehumanising? Women are just as capable as objectifying men as the other way around, as in fact videos like this show.

[@rotm4447]

@@darktenor4967 I didn't say it wasn't. I meant its hard to create a role-reversal example because men are often more accepting, there's no societal meme that men ever date women they don't like or aren't attracted to.

[@darktenor4967]

@@rotm4447 I suspect this actually does happen rather more than people suspect, either because men are more accepting of a woman's faults, or in fairness for those men who just stay on for the sex and disregard a woman's other qualities, good or bad. that was what I was getting at with the gender flipped example, though it sounds worse when coming from a man, because "Objectification", IE seeing someone as a means, rather than an end is something we're socialised to think only happens to women.

[@TheQuantumWave]

Based on everything she said, she probably did engage her brain, but her brain just isn't up to the task.

[@LanceTobey]

She is a crappy human being who is using another person to make her life easier by intentionally misleading him about how she feels. If it were me, I'd be packing my bags and heading for the door. How dare you treat me in this fashion, when I've been nothing but good to you?

[@jjmartin6422]

I would have fired back with, "and I only dated you because I couldn't afford a hotter golddigger" 🤣

[@StillNotCancelled]

A good one, but it's pretty hard to come up with a great one-liner when she's just ripped your heart out.

[@rainynight02]

Only two things can happen now. A divorce or a bitter marriage.

[@DiarraHarris]

The divorce papers are in the mail.

[@somersetcace1]

I'm not sure what's worse, the admission or that he wasn't filing for divorce asap. She didn't even say it in the heat of an argument, or having a meltdown. She just casually threw it out there as if it was no big deal. Hard to believe there were no red flags prior to that. That might explain why he didn't immediately leave her. Not too bright apparently.

[@AdrianColley]

It's so clueless, I'd prefer to believe that it's ragebait than something real.

[@hilariousname6826]

You're probably right - thanks, some of us are STILL a little gullible about this social media stuff ... !

[@joshuasmagic]

Don't underestimate how stupid some people are.

[@Cohhhd-lk5dp]

One of my favorite aphorisms is this gem: "Just when you come up with an idiot-proof invention, Nature makes a better idiot."

[@joshuasmagic]

@@Cohhhd-lk5dp lol. Often seems true.

[@devaughnsalter6264]

The narcisism is strong with her.

[@SKIPWOOD-UA777CAPT]

DUMPSTER FIRE.... RUN DUDE.... RUUUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNN

[@EyeOfScrutiny]

Never date a single mom.

[@StillNotCancelled]

And presumably never a single dad too?

[@DrizzleDrizzleNeverDies]

​@@StillNotCancelled Nah, there's a lot of differences. Single dads will show gratitude and want you included as family. If you make yourself worth it to be a mother figure, they'll happily allow you the respect and household authority that comes with it. Single moms never will. A man will never be granted authority as the male parental figure, never be given respect in the household. There's a reason that most kids in juvie (hovering around mid-70% averages) that commit violent crime are from fatherless households, not motherless ones. There's a difference in the level of respect and entitlement single fathers and single mothers treat people with- even/especially the family and their partner. And that'll rub off on the children.

[@StillNotCancelled]

@@DrizzleDrizzleNeverDies I'm pretty sure that there are lots of people with stepdads who will completely refute that point of view. _There's a reason that most kids in juvie (hovering around mid-70% averages) that commit violent crime are from fatherless households, not motherless ones._ And what proof do you have that this isn't simply because there are *more* fatherless homes than motherless ones? Your argument only works if you have data that proves fatherless children offend at a much greater rate than motherless ones.

[@Things_I_wish_I_knew]

​@StillNotCancelled there was a 30+ year old study shown roughly 5 years or so ago that went into detail of the effect had on children who grew up in homes without a father vs a mother. Statistically the fatherless homes had troubled poorly adjusted adults in the 90th percentile range while motherless homes were around 15-25% range. In a 2 parent home there was little difference. Correlate that data set with the resultant effect we see before us with troubled youth, prison population, etc... massive swaths of that comes from single mother homes. It's not bogus.

[@StillNotCancelled]

@@Things_I_wish_I_knew Give me the name of the study so that I can draw my own conclusions about the data and their methodology.

[@OlujaDoTokija]

Gee, no wonder the original father of the child was nowhere to be found. Guys, repeat after me: Never date a single mom.

[@vogelfaenger6830]

The stories of single moms being the good choice for the man are few and far between. While the stories of good men who took in a single mom are as often as the abusive bad bf. Which speaks for itself, because women badmouth their former men. For example my father taking in my mother and sister was the best decision for my sister and for me as well. But my mother divorcing him and cheating on him as soon as he wouldn't support her dream of being an unsuccessful entrepreneur any longer, and after the children moved out. Shows again how awful a lot of women are. my father had to work 5 years to pay all the debts who were generated through the divorce, before he could start at 0 with 50 years of age.

[@talhaomair1455]

Never date modern women, let alone single mothers

[@JobiWan144]

The one exception I'd make is if she's a widow with at least one child from her late husband... and if there's no way she killed him. Technically, that would make her a single mom, but that's not the situation that the phrase normally brings to mind.

[@uoabigaillevey]

@@JobiWan144 Agreed.. if she is not single by anyone's choice there may be an exception on a case-by-case basis. Still risky though.

[@trexpanda]

Step dads are the men women wouldn't date if they didn't have kids

[@joshuasmagic]

Wow! Thats horrible.

[@brimoton]

She'll either leave him if he can't afford her for any length of time...or go to the next guy that pays more.

[@jamesdockery3310]

Irreparable damage she will never get him back how it was before

[@randomobserver8168]

I agree entirely with you and other similarly minded commenters. But I'd add that he would do well to wise up, leave this woman, and bear in mind in future that there is a truly excellent chance that any single mother with a young kid is, at the very least, concerned to get a good father as much as to find her ideal partner. That is at once the most pragmatic and charitable way I can put it. The less charitable way is that most such women will likely think as she does, at least on alternate days, and he would have done better to realize that in advance.

[@RobbieDBobbet]

The cash maschine has stopped validating me... Help reddit tech support

[@AnthonySforza]

"B-but, I dont understand, why cant men just be honest with their feelings or open up?" - Every woman with a spear in her hand, waiting for the guy in their life to turn around

[@phillconklin382]

What a complete lack of awareness. That is such a dehumanizing thing to say.

[@2bituser569]

It’s pretty insane how modern women can disrespect, insult publicly, and then blow it off as him being insecure 😂. Another reason to avoid single mothers. Love to see her reaction if he said I got with you cause I figured single mothers were easy.

[@peteranon8455]

Wow, she really just poured water into the ATM.

[@virtual-viking]

They say women are more "emotionally intelligent"..... Remind me again, why they say that.

[@Wet_Willys_Wetter_Water]

I dont understand what she possibly expected to accomplish by saying that besides placing her ego in front of whats best for her kid. Ive already accepted in my heart that women just dont like nor respect most men or their feelings. So saying mean stuff like this is kind of expected. Ive got almost 15 years dating experience and ive never had a relationship without it. But you have a kid. A kid this man is helping raise and provide for. Doesnt that come first? As im slowly starting to realize, no they do not.

[@uoabigaillevey]

Used to be they had respect dye to the fact men could literally lay hands on them otherwise.

[@uoabigaillevey]

*due to the fact (Sorry my keyboard has almost no lettering left on the keys so I am effectively typing blindly lol)

[@DarkCT]

at this point it's safe to say most men aren't treated as if they are actual people. see this example.

[@uoabigaillevey]

She woulda been single immediately. Back to the streets she goes.

[@dsprings8565]

Tell them facts Lin

[@elade7857]

This girl must be really slow if she doesn't understand what she did.

[@astaono2778]

That's gonna end in divorce court😂

[@samuelevander9823]

What bothers me in that story is that nowhere in thete did he just walk away or file for a divorce He just started sulking & being distant - for what? Sending a message? And saying he was kinda upset. Weak behavior all around.

[@gaiusbaltar8915]

That's not so easily said than done. She's got a kid, remember? It's not his biologically, but he's entangled in more than one relationship here, he's got a romantic relationship with the mother and *most likely* a parental relationship with her kid. He's got more things to consider than just to walk out on her.

[@Ivan-cr3vc]

He won the lottery but it was an empty lottery ticket.

[@stevengiles346]

Never date is the best solution

[@uoabigaillevey]

Not much that they can provide that you can't buy for less in the long run.

[@DarkCT]

oh I wish i knew how this situation turned out as of now. that guy should be out of there.

[@sunspam3463]

Sounds like Clair Dunphy from Modern Family

[@Wuestenwiesel]

Lol I would immediately leave

[@khandakarshaffatakhter3844]

Avoidant and narcissistic form of love at best or just a regular narcissist at play

[@zevfarkas5120]

Pretty sad situation - and now, he'll be afraid to develop a relationship with the kid, because it might end the moment she snags a better meal-ticket.

[@ozzycortes]

Stay away from single Moms.

[@StijnLampo]

I would have filed for divorce immediately. And why is that one gay guy laughing about it?

[@StillNotCancelled]

I think he's laughing at the sheer hubris of this woman to act like it's her husband being insecure. Same as how you might laugh at a story of a man who cheated and can't understand why his wife is upset. The sheer level of cluelessness is amusing.

[@051adam]

Um... from the single male perspective: I give anyone a chance, because, in the moment it takes to see someone for who they really are - you can spend a lifetime understanding the beauty that will always be. Yea I waxed poetic... but seriously be kind to each other you silly people!

[@civilwildman]

Divorce in 3, 2, 1…

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

*_Mouth,_* meet *_Foot._*

[@OneFingerYT]

My dating advice is to work on yourself. Develop skills valuable to other people, men and women alike. People will come to you.

[@matthewmaluorno-ot3re]

Just stay single boys

[@togotfury]

never get involved with a single mother. they just want to use you and will never love or appreciate you

[@andrewroberts8882]

Just damn😒

[@chrish2112]

He's not feeling insecure, you blatantly disrespected him and told him that you aren't attracted to him. He should leave her. That's what she deserves.

[@tomb7942]

I agree with the wife that the husband has no business giving relationship advice. All he could do was land a single mother, which means his advice is like taking investment advice from a homeless person.

[@Menethilchad]

Divorce instantly

[@ozzycortes]

Stay away from single Moms.