Age gap relationship

[@localshaman]

A lot of women (not all) have a lot of very strong opinions about age gaps until they hit their 30s and find out how easy men in their 20s are. Then suddenly it's *negotiable*

[@dotanuki3371]

women suddenly get a lot of very strong opinions when they pass their prime and start getting passed over for younger versions of themselves

[@kellygreenii]

@@localshaman No, because once they are done playing they want security and men that age won’t give it to them.

[@Oldmane-420]

@@kellygreeniiyes! Because men their age realize if she’s not married by her thirties, she’s probably recreation use only so they don’t chase them, instead the men look to the twenty somethings in an effort to find a partner that hasn’t been ran through yet. Women in their thirties generally are forced to chose younger or older, because men in their their age demographics are older, wiser, and sometimes just a bit jaded by their thirties, not to mention gun shy and you can bet they have experienced at least one narcissist by that age. Women need to realize, even though men aren’t posting as often as women, don’t confuse that to mean men aren’t on social media! Men are here watching, learning, and taking notes. You ladies keep telling on yourselves and men have wised up and won’t listen to your lies anymore, you have shown us the tactics you use, and what passes for reason in your mind, and we now interact accordingly. Ladies! If your serious about wanting a long term relationship/ family than date that way from high school, waiting til your thirty is no longer a viable option, men are tired of being looked on as ATM’s and women waiting to settle down in your thirties is a red flag to men who are looking for a life partner

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

As long as they are both _legal consenting adults,_ it is what it is.

[@LanceTobey]

When two consenting adults form a romantic relationship, it is nobody's business but theirs. General rule of life, if it doesn't involve you or yours, mind your own business.

[@mister-zen8491]

Ya dropped this 👑

[@deadPan-c]

half your age + 8 is the limit

[@normangoldstuck8107]

@@deadPan-c My fiancee is 48 years younger than me. I think 50 years is the limit.

[@deadPan-c]

@@normangoldstuck8107 yeah nah that's super gross, you're old enough to be their grandparent

[@normangoldstuck8107]

@@deadPan-c Not in Africa. here 80 year old tribal chiefs marry 18 year old's as their 5th or 6th wife. I'm very conservative.

[@jjmartin6422]

Saying I can't date a certain demographic will not get me to settle for another demographic. I will stay single rather than settle for what someone else considers "appropriate".

[@johnbts9216]

Stand strong! I agree play to your strengths❤

[@nunyabidness3075]

There’s definitely a nasty bent to the maturity attack. Her logic is backwards. Sure, an immature guy might date much younger women. That’s just an extension of women maturing earlier than men making a few yearscdifferencevperfectly normal. A woman resenting men going for women younger than her is just being immature herself. She’s being a baby and whining. It’s sour grapes. If she doesn’t want that guy, move along. Sheesh.

[@michaelanderson2881]

Of course. But it works both ways. All of those "red pill" podcasts that tell women they're delusional for wanting 6 feet/6 pack/6 figures; who benefits if they "settle" for men in their own league but are unhappy all the time?

[@SolomonMagnus819]

Only older women are upset by this

[@LinWatchorn]

I've noticed this as well

[@StijnLampo]

I'm almost 39, male. Only yesterday I met a pretty Indian looking woman who I thought was 25-28 at first. I asked her where she was from, she responded 'Brazil'. When I told her I'm a fan of Ayrton Senna she said she was 8 when he died in 1994. So she's 38 like me! 😮 I complimented her saying she looked very young for her age: no wrinkles, no grey hair, not overweight. Meanwhile I got wrinkles at 28 and started getting grey at 32. I look like I'm 45. So people would think I'm way older than her even though we're the same age 😂

[@jimmyboy131]

Too many women still think it's their moral duty to tell men how to behave and what they should want as men. No, just stop and let us make our own decisions. A "strong and independent" woman does not get to tell actual strong and independent men how to be men.

[@peterkiss1204]

Especially as they know *nothing* about being a man.

[@mylifeonthebeach]

That is exactly why that group of women are asking “where are all the me?” They are avoiding her “manly” energy of trying to be the boss B!

[@ronlugbill1400]

The same people who say you should be free to love who you want to when it comes to homosexual and lesbian relationships, then turn around and say that age gap relationships are inappropriate and unhealthy. They think it is their job to judge, police, punish and shame people who don’t conform to their arbitrary baseless limits. Who appointed them as judges of what other consenting adults decide to do?

[@LinWatchorn]

Exactly! If the relationship is causing no one harm I don't see the issue.

[@aquaevitae]

The age difference is primarily and mostly caused by young women who don't want to date a guy their own age, but date men significantly older, leaving young guys of their age lonely. So, when these guys finally have managed to develop themselves to such a level that women finally want them, and start dating women in their 30s, they'd rather date younger women, than marry a woman their own age who didn't want them when they were younger. At the same time, many 50+ women would like to date guys much younger. So it's really twisted that young girls want to date guys significantly older, but when they begin to approach grandmama age, they suddenly are interested of young cute nice boys, young cute girls don't want.

[@kimbraun0823]

It goes both ways. My wife was 18 years older than me. We were together for 43 years. She passed away 1 year ago at age 86.

[@diam3931]

I am glad you were happy but that is the main reason why people should avoid age gaps like this. Now you need to live the next 20-30 years thinking about your lost love which I could not to. My wife is 14 months younger then me and I hope we are able to live the rest of our life together.

[@jonnanderson6489]

My wife was 25 years younger than me, unfortunately she's passed before me.

[@kimbraun0823]

@@diam3931 There are no guarantees in life. My aunt married a man her age. He died of cancer at 48. She is 98 and never remarried.

[@kimbraun0823]

@@jonnanderson6489 Yes, that happens. Take the happiness you are given. There are no guarantees.

[@LazyboyRecliner]

​@diam3931 my parents were the same age, my dad died at 32. There are no guarantees

[@SP-1414]

Odd how age gap relationships only become a problem to some women once they hit middle age.

[@uoabigaillevey]

People, in general, need to just learn to mind their own business. Unless a law is being broken.. leave it alone.

[@deadPan-c]

yeah mostly. the general rule for age gaps is half your age + 8

[@randomobserver8168]

@@deadPan-c It was originally half your age plus 7, so slightly less restrictive than your version. I was interested to go looking and, although I maintain it got somehow radically popularized and widely discussed in the 1990s in the [sigh] lifestyle sections of newspapers, advice columns, and sitcom and movie references, apparently it has pop culture antecedents as far back as a 1903 novel, or even the 1870s, may have originated in France [figures- it was probably meant to justify rather than restrict trolling in the junior league], and appeared in a comment in the 1951 play [later film] The Moon is Blue, which was considered exceptionally risque at the time but 20 years later was so infamously tame that it was remarked on in an episode of the sitcom MASH. I do find the math fascinating- the original formula actually works until one is down to male age 20, in which case the girl could be 17 and our boy will be in jail. Though not too long ago no one would have considered that gap any kind of moral or social problem. Your variation actually resolves that, as long as it's OK for an 18 year old to date a 17 year old, of course. At any high ages, the formula works fine either version. Though the older one gets, it starts to stretch the variables again. At 53 a man could date a 34 year old, and so on.

[@deadPan-c]

@@randomobserver8168 hence why i add 8. i also round up, so for example as a 21 year old, the youngest i would ever consider dating would be 19

[@dotanuki3371]

what you're doing here, is telling women not to whine. that's not gonna happen. the solution is to not listen and to not care every man knows why a 50 yr old would date a 20 yr old, but most have the sense to stfu to don't have to suffer the noise

[@deadPan-c]

@@dotanuki3371 the secret ingredient is denial and pedophilia

[@nh251]

It's only women in their 30s and 40s complaining about younger women dating older men. I'm 38, I only date women younger than me, always have. I'm not very mature, I own 2 businesses, I own a home, I take care of my stuff, but I like smoking weed, working out, playing video games, and watching cartoons. Women my age tell me I'm immature, younger women have always just enjoyed their time with me. I also don't date women with children, I'm 38 and I don't have any, so that changes the maturity dynamic. I'd date a woman my age, if she didn't have kids and if she takes care of her body at least as much as I do.

[@Matt-Ibbotson]

Funny thing is it only applies to men, my friend is 9 years older than his woman and in the early days of the relationship he got a lot of heat for it from the women in our group until I pointed out the mother of my children (I'm with now) is 8years older than me and my ex was 14 years older than me and they didn't think that was an issue because I was old enough to make my own decision but I'm younger than the woman who they were concerned about lol,

[@baryony]

Lol my 27 yo bisexual, feminist cousin constantly talks about how older guys are so creepy for approaching her (guys in their 30s and 40s according to her). She talks about it so much I couldn't tell her that I was dating a 26 yo woman when I was 34. Well, recently I've learned that she was not only dating with a barely legal teen, but brought her to Europe from a third world country, and is looking after her financially while paying for her college fees. At least the younger woman I was dating wasn't dependant on me. So much for being sensitive about power imbalance. What I've noticed is that a lot of women don't think very deeply about these stuff. They act based on their feelings and try to rationalize them later as needed, and often don't even notice they're being hypocrites. They don't mind dating younger or older as long as they're attracted to the individual. Both younger and older men are judged as creeps only if and when they're seen as unattractive. Otherwise, I genuinely don't think most of these heterosexual women would have a problem dating older, handsome, rich, hot Hollywood actors. If they aren't attracted to you though, you could be considered a creep regardless of your age for showing interest. For the record, the same cousin who complains about how creepy it is that some guys are approaching and looking at her once fell in love with a guy who told her that her mouth would be great for oral sex as soon as they met. So yeah, it's hard to take women seriously at this point.

[@georgeelder8415]

Men are attracted to youth and fertility... Women are attracted to achievement and stability... What's the problem here???

[@birdie.21.]

Achievement and stability only matter once the physical attraction is already there.

[@georgeelder8415]

@@birdie.21. It goes without saying this is a prerequisite...

[@deadPan-c]

the broad, sweeping generalisations of attraction based on gender are a problem

[@mohammadalloush8636]

@@birdie.21. If you have money, almost everything follows...

[@birdie.21.]

@mohammadalloush8636 Legit attraction is about looks. Betabuxing is about money

[@richardteale8203]

You got my like Lin, as your final speel specified the facts & truth of it!

[@Green__one]

Young women are happy to date older men, older women are upset at the competition.

[@bensanderson7144]

Thanks for this. I’m 55, my wife is 36. 😮. We have a 7 year old son.

[@selohcin]

That's quite a gap! How did the two of you end up dating? I've had little success in dating and I need to learn from you.

[@anonymousbosch6700]

I asked my therapist why I kept dating women older than myself. The answer is: Intellectual people are highly attracted to older people. She is likely the most misunderstood cohort of women, intellectual ones.

[@dna3930]

Um! It isn’t men that are drawn to younger female's! Younger women are drawn to older men. I am 52, I don't go after younger women. I actually don't go after women period! I don't go after men either. I don't want a relationship period. However I digress! I have a lot of very young women hit on me! I am in real good shape for 52!

[@Nym146]

There's a whole lot of people invested in what consenting adults do in private.

[@LinWatchorn]

Right? it's odd

[@Nym146]

@@LinWatchorn it's very strange.

[@StarboyXL9]

Thank god, someone reasonable finally! There is nothing wrong with age gap relationships.

[@chrisoneill3999]

Nobody has an issue with age-gap relationships unless there is sex involved. If sex is the main reason (or the only reason) for your being together, your relationship is dead whatever your ages.

[@selohcin]

If sex isn't involved, it's not an age gap relationship.

[@randomobserver8168]

Everything in Lin's comments is so reasonable and mature it stands almost no chance of general acceptance in society, alas.

[@kellygreenii]

One, Sadia Khan has lived in Dubai and her view (imo) have been tainted by being exposed to a lot of the sugar baby and other transactional relationships she’s seen there. Two, this is a classic example of women wanting to shame and pathologize older man/younger woman relationships….when that dynamic no longer serves their interests. Note. You almost never hear young women saying these things. It’s always older women trying to shame older women out of pursuing younger women that they can no longer compete with.

[@dotanuki3371]

exactly this. they've peaked, and are jealous 'cause they get passed over by younger versions of themselves

[@Aspenfell]

Love is love regardless of an age gap. If a consensual, adult relationship is mutual and each find comfort, companionship, and trust within one another then to each their own. It's honestly no one else's business.

[@johnbts9216]

Sugar babies whether male or female are taking advantage of the money gap. Services cost money😂

[@ErikratKhandnalie]

Age and appearance can be way off from one another. I have worked with women well into adulthood who could genuinely go under cover at a middle school. Like, I used to know a lady who was on the cusp of 28, but who would routinely get stopped by strangers while walking home and get asked where her parents were. And, it goes the other way too. My niece has looked pretty much like a whole-ass mortgage-paying adult since damn near the day she turned sixteen. I'd be shocked if she's ever even once been carded for alcohol, and that just kind of makes me thankful that alcoholism doesn't run strong in our family. That also makes your twenties super frustrating, because it is near impossible to tell if it's even appropriate to find someone attractive just because they look around your age.

[@deletevil]

Problem with Sadia Khan is that she uses absolute terms to support her arguments. This generalization is what's stopped me from watching her videos again. Because humans are never, were never and will never be that simple.

[@birdie.21.]

Every rule has exceptions

[@Brad2325]

She also tends to absolve women of responsibility for problems and place all of the blame on men, but her videos are decent fodder for conversation.

[@Tikkini]

No, problem with Sadia is that she's crazy. She told a man who commented that he was happily married to his wife who is 18 years younger, "I bet she's cheating on you." And she went to the YT channel of another psychologist who was pregnant at the time to bully her. That woman is not right in the head.

[@Tikkini]

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[@grennhald]

The arguments these 30, 40, and 50 something women make against men dating younger women use to confuse me until it occurred to that they're probably projecting.

[@LinWatchorn]

I feel like thats the case as well. There aren't many good arguments against it really. If it's between two adults.

[@grennhald]

@@LinWatchorn When you hear middle aged women warning young women that older men only want to exploit them, do you also find yourself wondering if we need to warn young men about these women?

[@viperdemonz-jenkins]

as long as they are both over 18 and not family, love is love.

[@Joe-lc3sv]

They never talk about women who date younger guys though

[@nrais76]

And the reason men are attracted to younger women is a biological reproduction drive, and the reason women are naturally attracted to older men is, again, biology: the older male has survived longer and is therefore a capable defender. These instincts serve in modern society as well, because older men have had a chance to establish themselves and are better providers, while biology has not suddenly made women over 30 more capable of having children. These are generalizations, and they are stated without prejudice, merely facts.

[@Yanay_A]

A few years older

[@BrawndoDrinker]

I've always looked younger than I am, now in my 50s, I get hit on by women in their 30s thinking I am younger than I am. Dated a model once who was the same age as me, but fully greyed out, it bugged her that I looked considerably younger than she did. The age thing really is only an issue when you get into the 60s and 70s, and end of life issues start coming up.

[@LibertyDino]

A lot of the older men going for younger women do it because of their immaturity and because of the "purity" of the young women. If you are in your 40's and were not able to form a healthy and lasting relationship do not date. Do not become a father becaus once your children are adults you will be too old to do your job. Stop being a selfish immature boy in a mans body, grow the f up and accept reality. Stop messing up younger women, the reason shit is so messed up rn has to do with older men messing up younger women. I am not going to repair your damages and I am getting young men to do the same.

[@Imbapiranha]

Age difference is more of an issue if one of the both is still very young, since that would allow for a lot of manipulation and mistreatment.

[@LinWatchorn]

Exactly! I think if one person is very young, They should ideally have family/friends and a support system so they can get a second opinion on the relationship if needed.

[@Zephyrt3mp3st]

Imagine being so bitter that you got left behind for a newer model with less baggage, that instead of acknowledging what you did wrong to be left behind, you slander people and 100% of your ancestors.

[@hodldawg]

Don't know why anybody cares about age gaps in someone else's relationship. As long as everyone is a consenting adult.

[@travelerfinder7840]

people in the same age and can be toxic as well it depends on the dynamic between the two people. large age gaps are a red flag but red flag don't all mean they should stop seeing each other.

[@georgecaplin9075]

If you know a man in his 40s who exclusively dates women in their late teens/ early twenties, then, yeah, someone needs to have a quiet word in his shell-like, but if two people just happen to be in a relationship with no hint of coercive or controlling behaviour, (from either party), then it’s nobody’s business.

[@jonnanderson6489]

My wife was 25 years younger than me, unfortunately she's passed before me.

[@SammywiseG]

There's also something called 'biological imperative'. Men's first instincts are to go for a woman in her prime child-bearing years, and then logic and reasoning will be applied.

[@DeadCat-42]

I'm not comfortable dating women outside my age range. So once I turned 30 I gave up on dating like most guys.

[@Woodkin007]

Parks and recreation nailed it. Maximum age gap allowed is half your age and add 7. Works perfectly.

[@louie24seven]

Its all about the energy & vibe.

[@georgea1865]

It is about having a connection or many connection with the other person. Some people just have them despite age or other characteristics. It's ok for any adults.

[@CC-xh8zk]

Well said. I also thought Sadie (unsure how she spells her name) was giving surprisingly clueless advice in that clip.

[@bhart3321]

I think her "advice" is often way off the mark. Her worldview is utterly crippled by being Arab. She espouses a lot of feminist ideals while simultaneously spouting tradcon pick-me rhetoric. She's trying to play both sides & she just comes off as disingenuous cuz she is. We're tired of women trying to tell us how to be when they hate having that same energy thrown at them. Women need to get over their complexes it's not their place to define masculinity anymore than it's men's place to define femininity. They need to stfu & stay in their lane.

[@leanneb9529]

This girl is cool😎

[@richardteale8203]

Yes! The truth to why so many & specifically women get so butthurt about older men with younger women, is that they're way past their prime, no longer have those attractive traits & don't like being replaced by younger women with everything to offer that men of any & all ages want & they most likely foolishly lost them like their; youth, beauty, virginity, fertility, maternity, but these five are worthless without her learned & willing agreeability, workability, loveability, loyalty and company! Only having those last five isn't worth it to men, as what's the number one reason for relationships? Recreation & reproduction! That's the facts ladies, deal with it!

[@snowyowlz5992]

Lin have you seen “South Pacific” musical by Rogers & Hammerstein? The two main characters are an older French Plantation owner and a young American nurse set about 1943. A wonderful movie produced in 1959 based on the play.

[@Universal_exports87]

What's the big deal? I'm 37, I honestly like older women because there's a significant more amount of maturity.

[@GalyeArt]

Maturity has nothing to do with age

[@catnipherb]

One hundred of those likes came from Charlie Chaplin and Sean Penn (when he used to go out with Leila George).

[@adid.5585]

This habit of calling older men dating younger women “pervs” or “pedos” is just the older women’s way of dodging accountability for the wrong choices they’ve made in their youth and the bitterness about being old and undesirable.

[@easternrebel1061]

I think that within reason age gap, particularly where the woman is younger is perfectly normal. It makes sense biologically as men typically peak in their late 20s and early 30s while women typically peak between 18 and 25, in terms of fertility and energy. Hell most couple I know have a 5 to 10 year age gap depending on how late in life they got together. My mom, for example, met my dad later in life after his first wife left him, and she was 15 years younger than him. This isn't a 75 year old sleeps with a 18 year situation so i don't see the issue. The only explanation i can think of is the women that do complain about it are just bitter and angry someone else is taking ehat they passed up.

[@Kakashi20xd6]

But that’s the rub. For significant age gaps, there often is a financial power imbalance or some such in the relationship dynamic. That goes for older woman/younger man and non-hetero couples as well. Foreign Man in a Foreign Land went into the topic.

[@ChrisSnell-d4m]

* The focus of young women is that they’re giving their full attention to the relationship, to him, and to the family. * Meanwhile, young men are all about themselves; adventures in self-discovery. * The focus of older women shift their attention away from him and the family, and bring their focus in on their own self-discovery; self-ministry. This means they are moving away from romance, and into companionship. So he must be better tasked for the care-giver. * Meanwhile, older men are settling down, and their full focus is turned to the needs of her and family. When It comes to attention for family and relationship, younger women and older man are the only true match... Generally speaking. Personally, I can't get past the lack of maturity or someone without "Staying Power".

[@ajrgohan]

My virtues and values made it hard for me to find a gal. I have been looking for a good woman who has the same virtues as me (i still have my v-card) and want kids, so I go younger women because of this. I'm 38 and still looking for a good woman.

[@anonperson3972]

So. I'm not talking about 25-40 year gaps and not even addressing the idiot that you are reacting to. But here's my hot take on age gaps. It makes sense. Males are wired to be attracted to younger women as female fertility is highest in their teens and twenties and nosedive in their thirties. Women are hardwired to be attracted to more competent, established, high status men, as they can better provide for them and their offspring and have proven their fitness, male fertility also drops more gradually with meaningful declines happening about ten years later than women. So if we as a society make a moderate age gap the norm, both men and women can have better partners

[@mathius_dragoon532]

The OP was trying to argue that every single instance of an age gap relationship is due to the younger woman having daddy issues. Generalize much?

[@MarkPlace-wb5xg]

There is the do what you want principal. But there’s also the reality that that big gaps in relationships: age, religion, socioeconomic, cultural, and so on a huge predictors of relational failure. One of the big underlying issue with age gap relationships is they tend to be extremely transactional: she wants money, he wants a hooker and social validation. Not exactly a solid bedrock to build on.

[@itt2055]

Age doesn't matter in a relationship. Maturity is more important and that is not determined by age. I have known extremely mature 20 year olds and childish 60 year olds. As a 53 year old single man of course I have a physical attraction to women in their 20s but I also have a physical attraction to women in their 50s but a physical attraction doesn't mean that I want to have a relationship with them or have sex with them.

[@deadPan-c]

careful with that line of thinking, buddy

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

Actually I have to say it. Men who are more emotionally stable and available are the ones capable of having a relationship with a younger woman. It actually takes not being a creep to be able to have a relationship with an age gap. So full context I am 45 I was 44 at the time of this story. I had come to the conclusion that I would have to date a woman younger than me by a considerable number of years if I am to have a family when I do get married again. Previous marriage ended due to her infidelity. Anyway I had gotten help after my divorce. I didn't date after my divorce because I figured a rebound relationship would be unethical due to it being just to get over my previous relationship. I don't think dating just to make yourself feel better is ethical but I don't expect others to agree with me. Anyway, I felt a bit uneasy about this and wondered if I was a creep so I talked the matter over with a therapist. She (yes she) gave me the go ahead and said she wouldn't normally be alright with it but in my case she was willing to make an exception. Evidently I am a particularly good guy and emotionally available and stable. But I am not a creep or a bad guy for wanting to date and hopefully marry and have a family with a woman younger than me. My realization that I need to date younger to have a family is just a product of biology not because I am a pervert. Women are so quick to hate men. They are so comfortable with saying terrible things about men. And then they wonder why men stay away from them. Gee I wonder.

[@jasongates-]

Society thinks that way, and that's why videos like theirs exist. And, aren't we all attracted to youth? (Not just men). All I can say to this is, when I was 20, I couldn't imagine dating a 40 year old because I thought she would be more motherly to me than wife like. (Since 40 is old enough to be the parent of a 20 year old). So in that sense, I get it. But after that, you're right.

[@jkbrown5496]

Older man/young girl is the "princess treatment". Such as Judith of Flanders, as the great granddaughter of Charlemagne, was the princess of her time in Europe. Married off at age 12 to 50-something king of Wessex, then married by his son when he ascended to the thrown at around 15. She then beat feet back to daddy at the ripe old age of 17 as a twice-widow to be tucked away in a monastery awaiting another marriage. But she either eloped or was abducted by 10+ yr older Baldwin and they ran from all the kings horses and all the kings men before getting the Pope to force her father to give them a wedding and the Viking-infested Flanders territory. Or the several Civil War widows who married their husband in the 1910 as fresh faced teenage girls the last of whom only died about 10 years ago.

[@SG-js2qn]

Women are mentally and emotionally the same regardless of age, so all that's different is the age of the body. 🤷‍♂️ Only young women can have children.

[@USSResolute]

Is it possible that the woman making that assertion is jealous that younger women are getting attention that she used to receive?

[@stephenclarke6347]

There should be maximums to relationship age differences, like 10-12 years max. Any greater differences should be treated as criminal with heavy fines and jail terms. I also think that child baring should require a license and violations require removal of the child and sterilization. The marriage and birth rates are already at all time lows and plummeting but there's still too many kids being raised as brats.

[@chiefkeyes5359]

If you met as adults doesn't matter. It's only an issue if one was pursued during their adolescence. But you can get married at 15 and for those of you who believe in the Abrahamic religions they encourage it. This whole argument that women go for older men is a modern understanding, before there was capitalism, feudalism, religion marriage humans lived communally we all chipped in together and shared ourselves with whom we saw fit it didn't matter about resources or status it was simply survival. This has been confirmed when observing humans who have not been in contact with the modern society these humans live communally and have orages pretty much every night. Monogamy and marriage are social constructs it is not intrinsic.

[@ericmatthews9894]

I'm 51, I don't date, but the women my age look so much older than I do. So, if I did date it would definitely have to be someone younger, 30 maybe. I don't know.

[@adamgill3320]

This is just yet another binary view of relationships where the reality is more of a spectrum. I was attracted to older women in my youth for their maturity. Conversely a lot of older women like younger men, if they're financially secure. However all broke women seem to like older, more financially secure men. We want want we want, but love, the stuff that lasts, doesn't know age, sex or background and it takes time and work to build and maintain.

[@timothygavin6836]

It’s instinct. Old men still want to propagate their DNA, and younger women are the only viable candidates for this mission. The young they are, the longer the possibility for propagation exists

[@totallynotdio1311]

we should normalise age gap relationships where the woman is older

[@starseeker2793]

What? With no basis?

[@jamie81972]

Plus I looked more like Gomer Pyle till I was 26-27, now (50ish) I look a bit more like Harrison Ford.......Which version of me do you think women would prefer?

[@catnipherb]

Did you say gomer Pyle? Fat man from full metal jacket. Here's a fun fact. His daughter used to date Sean Penn who was 20 to 30 years older than her.

[@jamie81972]

@@catnipherb Gomer Pyle as in Jim Neighbors.

[@hemlocktea6643]

No They just want the old man's money

[@ACEDIAMOND666]

May/December relationships do not work.

[@ronin2963]

Why would any man date a woman his own age? If they are single and over 40 there is a reason

[@Yanay_A]

It goes both ways. Why would I date a man around my father's age who is still single?

[@LinWatchorn]

I've found with some guys the reason could be divorce or their wife passed away. And in some of these cases the man that is divorced is overall a good man but his wife either didn't appreciate him or they drifted apart over the years. It's pretty common to see couples break up after the kids have grown up.

[@BravoDeus]

Sadia is way off on this one.

[@commonsenseisntcommon1776]

Here's an idea..............mind your own business!

[@aceofaces1506]

Nah man I’m gonna have to disagree on this one. It’s pretty insane to be dating anyone that’s young enough to literally be your child. If my parents dated anyone in my age group I would be sick. And there are plenty of reasons why having such a large age gap just isn’t a good idea. I understand it’s natural to be attracted but there’s a difference between attraction and hookups/relationships

[@Entertainment-is6ex]

So it's bad for a 50 year old to date a 30 year old? The point of the video is that age gaps are a HUGE difference in the first 2-3 decades of your life, but don't matter so much after that...

[@aceofaces1506]

@@Entertainment-is6ex i definitely don’t think it’s a good idea, but I wouldn’t call 30 and 50 creepy by any means. There’s a multitude of reasons why a relationship like that isn’t exactly the smartest idea However most people have kids around 25-30, like my parents. if you have kids yourself it’s weird to be dating people who are your kids ages. Even if you don’t have kids, a 25+ year age gap is just a straight up bad idea and depending on the ages it can be very predatory

[@_Fulgur_]

i think anything outside of + or - 10 years in age difference between partners is creepy

[@Entertainment-is6ex]

So it's bad for a 50 year old to date a 30 year old? The point of the video is that age gaps are a HUGE difference in the first 2-3 decades of your life, but don't matter so much after that...

[@Yanay_A]

10 years or under, fine. But more than 10 and you're signing on to be a caretaker during your middle age and golden years when you'll probably want to relax and have some independence after work and child rearing. It's obviously more rewarding and fulfilling to have a partner with whom you can travel, do activities with and help with life's daily routines.

[@LazyboyRecliner]

​@@Yanay_A not really. Women tend to live longer than men, so I probably have around the same life expectancy as my gf 15 years older. Especially given my lifestyle choices. I may even die first

[@TheFriendlyPsychopath]

Age only matters when it comes to cheese.😏