she wants to divorce me. - David Goggins Advice

[@UAB_OG]

My wife has told me she wants to divorce me several times over 23 years. I told her ok, but you have to file for the divorce. I am not filing for it. Also, she will be the one to tell the kids she wants the divorce. We still married. Stuff like that comes and goes in marriages. Women are emotional creatures. She always has the divorce incidents when she is emotional. Once she settles down, she is fine. I told her leaving is the easy thing to do. I could have left years ago, but I grew up in a single parent home. I don't want to see my wife work as hard as my Mom did raising kids, and I don't want my kids to grow up without both parents in the house. Again, leaving is easy, but my purpose in life is to keep my family together.

[@KylieeeP]

This!!!! So many people get confused in life because they think their purpose should be happiness. If your purpose in life is happiness…you’ll wake up every single day disappointed in your life. When you find purpose in helping others, in being a part of something greater than yourself wether that be your family your job your community, that is when you will look back at your life and say yes! We did it! We fought the good fight and finished the race. I fear for this next generation who believe that their pursuit of their own happiness should be the driving factor in everything that they do. My fear is that they’ll never discover any real purpose and unfortunately pass away pretty miserable and full of suffering because they’re so dead set on this journey of self. I once heard someone say that the secret to a good long lasting happy marriage is two people who know how to forgive!

[@zagor1453]

23 years staying with someone knowing she really doesnt want you ??

[@jbdmb]

Lmao

[@HuyNguyen-ww7io]

I might be in a different situation, but I too wanted to keep the family together. With her constant disrespect, lies, and cheating. She wanted space, and wanted me to change, but she already have someone new on deck. I begged, I am a better person than I was a year ago and still she wanted time. She didn’t want a divorce, we moved out the hood, put our kid in the best school in the county. She wanted to benefit of us as a couple but still want someone new on the side. At some point you gotta have a back bone and have some self respect. So I walked. I started the papers as much as I wanted to keep it all together.

[@DG-zt5vy]

Only you know if staying is the right thing to do. My dad is a good man but my mom tried to divorce him several times, yet they never did it... All I can tell is I love and appreciate my dad for all his sacrifices, he could have left my mom for not valuing him but he didn't and besides that growing with him made me tough and strong. I don't know if it was the right thing for him, but I am so grateful that he stayed and I had him in my every day life. Whatever you choose, just make sure always to be there for your children

[@tapesone2]

Seeing this man cry shows he's human but a very tough human who used his pain as strength. Nothing but respect for this guy.

[@valuecore]

respect

[@_Michal_Michal_]

You can only imagine how emotional it must have been for a man like David Goggins to cry, honestly all the respect to him and everyone there, respect to everyone fighting and all veterans 🙏

[@repdale]

After 8 years of marriage and 3 children, my wife came to me one day and said she’d outgrown me, didn’t love me anymore and wanted a divorce. A few days later I was served papers at the front door by a process server. I cried like a baby. It’s been a few months now and I’m still so heartbroken. I found a therapist to help me navigate through this difficult period of transition. It’s easy to say “fuck her” or “move on” but she’s she mother of my children. I still love her and I don’t want my kids to grow up in a divorced family. But I also don’t want to have to beg someone to love me. It’s all very difficult. But, life is hard and you have to change.

[@marcinkepski4977]

😂 Ohh little boy...don't cry😂 We are not capable to live in long term relationship. We are animals and our main target is extension of human race. Love does not exist. Is just for weak and poor pathetic maggots. Grow up and take control of your life.

[@erickiyoshiphillips2323]

Give it to man. I lost someone I loved and she left me for a friend of mine it took me a year maybe longer to get over her. This women was horrible she would text me with screenshots of our love messages saying she misses me then would stop talking to me then invite me to come to a party where she was at. I would go everything until I said nope I'm done I cut her off she keeper trying to talk to me idk if it's because she is literally crazy but thank god we broke up the best thing that has happened to me. Everything happens for a reason man. Don't try to to out there and try to find a new girlfriend thinking that will make u happy u gotta work on yourself

[@motley1989]

You hit the nail on the head. You can't beg people to love you. You can't guilt trip them into loving you. You can't force them into loving you. All you can do is love yourself as much as possible so that you can be the best father to your kids that you can be. I promise if you do that, you will meet a woman that is so incredible that you'll grow to become thankful that your wife did this to your family.

[@repdale]

@@motley1989 Thanks for the encouragement, man. It really gives me hope for a better future.

[@dimebagvinnie644]

Sorry brother

[@itsmarcomarcel]

I’m inspired to never give up. This year I dealt with the hardest thing I felt in my life and that was to accept that the person I truly love left me. She made the choice, it hurt like hell but there’s better women out there that will love me for me.

[@goo5976]

Man, as a veteran, and a guy who lost tons of weight and is currently off of active duty, this hits home so much. Goggins has inspired me so much

[@cristian_803]

I have huge respect for David Goggins

[@chadmichaels6590]

Mee too i respect this man and I don't respect people easily to say the least

[@Kstukess0]

It’s only one man who i admire and yet to meet that can get me emotional to always keep going and never give up on me and that’s David GOGGINS. The amount of respect and love I have for him is unreal. I’m thankful for his story and his message to his younger self because it reflects back to me in many ways. Chills watching this!!!

[@Slip3ry]

Attachment is the root of all suffering. Health #1 Work/Money #2 Wife/Girlfriend #3 Never make her the focus of your life. This probably where most have gone wrong.

[@gettingonyourfeet1839]

Respect. Toughest man on earth crying.

[@Mr7352]

I had to learn to believe in myself, and not depend on someone else for my happiness..not easy but I'm on my way. Thanks David for your videos they help us who feel your pain and strength. Encouraging

[@viceregaldust3191]

David Goggins changed my life. Reading his books, seeing what he went through to get to where he is today, is the most inspiring story I have ever read. I have so much respect for Goggins. God bless him

[@randylahey3432]

He didn't change your life, you did

[@viceregaldust3191]

@@randylahey3432 True, bro, but Goggins is the one who woke me up

[@randylahey3432]

@@viceregaldust3191 you used the tools, good on you

[@neilreid2298]

Nothing but massive respect for David Goggins. He lives what he talks about and has overcome more pain than most of us will understand. Salute!

[@simplygaming2280]

My ex left me after 9 years together. Took several months for me to accept it but once I did, wow. The HAPPIEST version of myself came out because all the stress and tension we both felt for years was lifted. Sometimes moving on hurts but once you get past the hurt, there's so many other doors that open.

[@orxanhaciyev8435]

His autobiography, "Can't Hurt Me," chronicles his remarkable journey and inspires others to embrace discomfort for self-mastery. Through speaking engagements, Goggins motivates people to overcome adversity with the right mindset. In essence, David Goggins symbolizes the indomitable spirit of human potential and triumph over challenges.

[@valuecore]

Through talks, Goggins motivates people to overcome challenges with the right mindset. It made me happy to touch these places. Thank you.

[@centurionstrategic578]

This is the one time I really liked his response. It was honest and it helped this man. Thank you for making his day better and hopefully give him a better life!

[@MarvelousContent]

Man this guy fought for this moment. Respect 🫡

[@PRmeckanic]

My wife when we get into large disagreement she brings up the divorce word. So my simple reply is “ i”ll sign it. Love is not force” Married still for 20 years.

[@justinmillette8737]

My wife used to wish me dead in a "horrible car crash" for the 10 yrs we were married. But after checking my brake lines each morning i didn't die.

[@1stSgtChurch-USMC-Ret]

Love you brother. Harder times make stronger men. Eight times down nine times up.

[@sleepytimeshecomes]

I had a GF that would threaten to leave me every time I asked about other guys she was entertaining. I was completely good to her, gave her everything. She even would confirm that with all her comments on how great a man I was etc. However she had a problem, she was very disrespectful at times. She would say such things that were mind blowing, like I would be left in disbelief rather than angry, that bad. I finally had it one day with her insults and booted her. The same scenario with my ex wife on a bigger scale obviously and over 10 yrs. My point is that if the woman is acting like that then she's ready to go, let her go, be the man and take charge and initiate it. Don't live with a woman that does not respect you, they'll betray you every chance they get.

[@lovedove2661]

Seriously friends, if someone tells you they don't want to be with you and want a divorce, they truly mean what they say! If you think they are confused and speaking off emotions and you stay with them, they will either hate you silently for the duration of the time they are with you, cheat on you, use you after the fact while still pretending to "work it out" with you. I would say JUST LET THEM GO! You are too precious, too valuable to allow yourself to be with someone who doesnt appreciate your existence in their life. FUCK THEM 🔥.

[@valuecore]

No one can love you other than himself anyway. The challenges of life. You said it right.

[@lovedove2661]

@@valuecore I'm speaking from experience lol. Two long term relationships, my exes became complacent/comfortable that I was an independent and grind machine so I never asked them for anything and was always used to providing for mine and even more. Gave them chances after telling them I wanted to split and they never changed or worked to better themselves so I've learned to END IT and STOP wasting time on others and to stop caring about their feelings since it is in my nature to be empathetic to others. I've learned a great deal of how to deal with those feelings and to say FUCK YOU! Now I'm living my best 💯 with no regrets.

[@valuecore]

I applauded standingly when I read these. @@lovedove2661

[@lovedove2661]

@@Anthony-ke3qw Let me break it down for you since you failed to comprehend my message smh... 1. Pertains to both gender 2. Referring to anyone who "asks" for a divorce but stays 3. I experienced NONE of those things (used, cheated or hated on) but happens, you can look up statistics on that on your own 4. When people become complacent and don't put any energy into nourishing the relationship, it's time to end it DOES THAT HELP YOU BETTER UNDERSTAND NOW?!

[@lovedove2661]

@@Anthony-ke3qw I just think you read into it too deep and missed my message ALL together! This wasn't my personal experience as it was just a general statement but you missed that as well! Everyone else understood I was just saying what I said in general. Have a great week!

[@nicksull927]

I love David so much. He has helped me grind so much harder than I ever thought I could.

[@konsl3133]

Don't let your confidence and selfesteem be dependent on a wife or partner. Let it be dependent on yourself.

[@garycarfagno7910]

I have a good friend this happened to. I watched him crumble right in front of my eyes. No matter what I said, did or try to explain I could I not get through to him. As Mr. Goggins explained he sat in a dark room all day and she was out vacationing with her new BF 3 days after filing. After 3 years, he never got over it, was miserable to the point I could not even recognize him anymore. One day we met up, like we did everyday for coffee and he looked like a zombie. He got word that he had cancer. He died 3 months later with absolutely no joy in the later period of his life. He was only 39. I agree 1000% with David. Heartbreak has happened to all of us. It's how you handle it and move on. I hope this guy is OK. Great piece....David was compassionate, empathetic and really cared. But he said what had to be said. I did the same for my friend, but it didnt work and I wish it had. I miss my friend. I think about him every day and wish I could have done more. I truly believe she killed him emotionally, spiritually and psychologically and the immense stress he could not get over turned into cancer and killed him.

[@ramsyrama]

Sad and this is a real lesson to men

[@TheThirdMuskateer]

Well done sharing this story. If it saves even one person from Falling into self-destruction, then, your friend is still alive as a positive force in the world. R.I.P

[@garycarfagno7910]

Thank you and I appreciate your comment and incredible insight.

[@trusailietazperlinski4717]

TRUE! TRUE! Toooo many. Never married! Thank God, but yes.. I many times have held there heads high during those times as well.

[@valuecore]

Keep it upright all the way.

[@PragmaticOptimist_N7]

This whole video is deep! I'd like to take a moment to acknowledge the older gent that comes up to support Goggins at the acceptance speech. I've watched it in full..several times...and the way he just respecfully backs off yet leaves his presence there ... Wow. I know they say "men ain't supposed to cry..." but...the wind caught me at a funny angle when I was looking up. Guess we've all our 'Batman Origins Story' waiting in the wings... Huge respect to one et al...

[@valuecore]

I'm glad you wrote such an article. It is best to understand. Thank you.

[@10Sethg]

Why is anyone asking Goggins about something other than what he’s good at? I believe he’s been through several divorces. The man can tolerate pain on a whole different level but he has no idea how to make a marriage last. This man should find an older man who’s been married for 50 years and ask him marriage advice. Not an ultra marathon runner.

[@katmiller614]

But his advice wasn’t bad tho.

[@SmeeGuitar]

DONT stay with people that dont want you. Dont do it for the kids. The best way to raise your kids is life by example. Dont show them that you stay with someone who doesnt want to. Live your life, be happy and care for your kids

[@fifthlevelbard9541]

Just checked in to see if what I thought Goggins would say is what he _actually_ would say. He didn't disappoint.

[@ariepreminger3821]

This man is the light for so many, god bless you

[@jimmymane2960]

Thank you men... Without you, none of this would be possible ❤

[@ElTaino.787]

Eight years happily divorced and counting. No woman F... with my mind.

[@tyeshonjones]

Needed to hear that

[@valuecore]

We all need it. You just need to listen and understand.

[@Shootskas]

Who goes to a long distance runner for marriage advice? That's like going to your mechanic for a physical.

[@LDrift]

Are you kidding? You think David Goggins is just a “long distance runner”? He is an inspiration to many and has a wealth of life experience and how to deal with hard situations be it physical or mental. Who do you talk to for marriage advice? Your shrink?

[@johnq.public2621]

Living well is the best revenge.

[@rekilfc8363]

He really is a warrior

[@neildillon837]

If you have to ask someone to not leave it is best to let them go.

[@valuecore]

Leaving does not mean losing anyway. To new beginnings...

[@blainemills1408]

Such valuable advice... There's probably close to a half a dozen or more people in his life that have told him this already, but its coming from a celebrity on a stage so its genius.

[@CesarGonzalez-uh1te]

So funny I see this today. Just last night I had an argument with mine and that subject came out. Thank you!

[@valuecore]

😓

[@itumelengmokoena6886]

I love this man

[@MAGaBAMA_84]

My grandfather jumped on a grenade. Thankfully he was wearing everything he owned. He was covered up for dead for 3-4 days before a mortician noticed his toe tag swaying side to side...

[@69butternut.]

Even if someone uses divorce as a threat and doesn’t really ‘mean’ it, get out.

[@Cat_in_Bljat]

Yeah thats toxic shit

[@ramsyrama]

Eventually they mean it since it's some sort of preparation

[@johntomik4632]

Truth right here. It happened to me lol

[@johnjim3741]

That shit hit hard. You felling this emotions but that person is out here enjoying life, get ass, and you felt with this energy to improve.

[@attiladapro2252]

He is my idol! Respect David Goggings He is a true GLADIATOR on this planet! 👏👏👏

[@valuecore]

Everybody respects me, man.

[@cinematicjoe5514]

This man is something else ❤

[@vishnuchandran9788]

Good Job Brother. You've earned a new Subscriber. Keep the Good Work Coming.

[@valuecore]

Thanks you brother 👍

[@diyafleming619]

I wish that guy sit down and let him speak

[@valuecore]

What would he say? If only..

[@firstkingjose1495]

He’s real af for that one for being honest most guys wouldn’t say several mofos they would make it seem like only had it once but reality we’ve all been thru it

[@johntomik4632]

My wife was having an affair, with a doctor lol. Best thing that ever happened to me. Freedom is awesome!!!

[@nesirovnadir2234]

hey man very awesome video, go ahead :))).

[@timothyotoole8224]

you are awesome, I listen to u tons .

[@randyvillegas9413]

My wife moved out about a month ago. Blamed everything on me when in reality I changed everything about myself to please someone who can't be pleased. She left me and wants me to work harder to win her back. Everytime I try she shoots me down and when I give up she loves me again till we're happy then leaves me again. Needed this.

[@mannycalavera121]

When she leaves leave her for good

[@blazinpuffs]

Dump her king. You're better than that. She doesn't deserve your effort. Fuck her. Let her live with her cats.

[@BigMT420]

Holy shit the man is human !!!! -- God bless you David where ever you’re running this afternoon…. I ve lost 125lbs this last year listening to this stuff -\ you have some idea I’m sure but you can’t imagine how much I hate my fucking running shoes

[@jeffreyclark3947]

Good job. The vet can sit down already!

[@chrismartin7239]

Perfect answer!

[@miguelmg2910]

Thank you…

[@thesouthernwoodsmanuk216]

Great man.

[@arigutman]

Goggins is great...

[@fiete9859]

great to listen to goggins, especially on that honor speech. sucks that this video wasnt done with effort. Subtitles are wrong.

[@Yourwifesbf458]

The subtitles are not accurate lmao

[@mirandaoliver-ul5yi]

Marriage ends in divorce never last forever people grow up people in real life

[@daaussie52]

If a woman leaves, they will regret it in the medium-longer term. Stay strong and get out there.

[@israahmad1981]

Sams goes for men. When they leave a good woman, they regret it too. Goes for both genders.

[@michaelferguson364]

Preach brother!!!!

[@scottys-world]

Respect 🙏

[@MrChowbaby69]

That Navy Recruiter was honest ASF.

[@valuecore]

RESPECT!

[@jodygotyourgirlngone]

The average woman doesn't want a man of character, a man of depth. They want the same type of guy who has failed them time and time again. Men of character and depth are seen as weak. Narcissim is seen as confidence; cockiness, but time and time again, when the chips are down, it's all about them. They don't deserve someone with a good heart. Sad but true.

[@valuecore]

Sad, but true.

[@orbitals5281]

Bullshit.

[@Oleeo-eu8zq]

Goggins IS a Hero! Maybe not a war hero but a Hero and shining example for millions of people who are struggling to silencene their inner bitch, overcome their demons and extinguish fear, self doubt and limitation of any kind!! Respect!!

[@mgonzale1527]

Pretty sure all Navy Seals are War Heroes

[@simonec2751]

Respect

[@newtonkemboi4064]

David Goggins, you are a HERO, your achievement is a testament that we can become uncommon among the uncommon people. On this path of being uncommon so help me God.

[@valuecore]

God helps you. You have to want it. You can't get anywhere by always thinking negatively.

[@ainelawlor5755]

Goggions says it like it is legend

[@ME207able]

Goggins 🐐❤️❤️❤️🔥🥰

[@jamesbond-uf7ll]

Whats the song ?

[@NatesPlayzGamez]

Very motivaitonal, i love how he increased his value from £175 quid to £300 quid. one day i will aswell ..all jokes aside, awesome vid :D

[@valuecore]

Thank you. You caught my attention and watched my video.

[@user-mq1vo6sz7r]

Amen

[@michaelwilburn1001]

See how not a single woman cheered when he said fuck her

[@TheAtl0001]

I had no idea Goggins was British, Pound Sterling.😁 BTW the reason not many Black Navy Seals, ... WATER, SWIMMING.

[@linjubar]

So his advice is skip the grieving process, and just go back to normal. Bad advice. If you don’t grieve, it will pop up and hurt you later, in various ways. You have to feel your grief when you suffer a loss. It’s the path to healing.

[@liamrencontre]

he is saying to just move on and focus on yourself, and not to let feelings change you

[@katmiller614]

I don’t think he said skip the grieving process he said it was gonna hurt.

[@frogsoup6496]

long live the brotherhood

[@BearBazanFitNess]

I wouldn’t be surprised if he still wants to be better for her even if she still doesn’t want him, people can still be delusional

[@bobbullethalf]

People just can't leave well enough alone, she doesn't want you anymore, so move on.

[@valuecore]

OFC

[@robertu20]

What instrumental is this?

[@FadiGamingRP]

the subtitles are off at times.

[@Damilplayz]

What is the name of the music in this absolutely amazing and motivating video?

[@valuecore]

Paul Elhart

[@Damilplayz]

@@valuecore song name if you have it perchance?

[@valuecore]

@@Damilplayz Music by Paul Elhart.

[@Damilplayz]

@@valuecore please could you possibly link me the video because I cannot find the exact song 😂

[@andrewthomas405]

At this moment in time you don’t know how lucky you are…..but you will soon enough ..I’m eight years DELIBERATLY single ..and sad to say these are the happiest of years ….I have doubled my worth ,built a house ,just got a small yacht , 4 holidays a year ,,NO FLUX,LIKE WHO I AM ,GREAT SOCIAL LIFE , NO DEBT. , THE CAPTAIN OF MY OWN SHIP ….

[@plutonium120]

goggins in white pants is such a G

[@jamesbond-uf7ll]

CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHAT SONG IS PLAYING IN THE BACKGROUND ????

[@valuecore]

Paul Elhart

[@bentleybee3006]

I wish I heard this last December

[@911eVoX]

You always have time to change yourself for the better

[@zagor1453]

Where have you been?

[@sasquatchsiosaurus]

Seriously, don't use subtitles for these. You're misinterpreting a lot of it. Other than that, awesome video.

[@lorenzozinna4700]

The captions are completely off?

[@ahmandecortezsimon3471]

My wife telling me all the time she leaving but she not giving me a divorce says I will have to do it if I want one lol nope no separation boo….

[@sato1707]

I love the video, but gotta say it’s kinda dirty how you put up that thumbnail. Using the picture of the mother that had come to on behalf of her kid that was a huge fan no David. But other than that, great video, keep it up 💪🔥

[@NBcal]

Which speaking event is that in the first clip?

[@911eVoX]

Million Dollar Mastermind 2022

[@URULES]

I don't have a garage

[@jeffholt3841]

Yeah....i would take advice from this guy???

[@josmith2062]

I think divorce started out because it was saving some women from being continually beaten up and an an ongoing life of Hell! But I think 98% of divorces these days have nothing to do with that... It just comes from lusty people wanting a new version of the same thing, or more money... and for me, those people are bogus, have destroyed the institution of marriage, and frankly don't deserve to be happy in life!

[@valuecore]

Yes sir, it`s true

[@voltgamer1410]

Bro. Get an english speaker to do your closed-caption. It's way off. It's messing up the message.

[@adye88]

Hey whats up with these very bad subtitles? they're from the creator of the video not youtube.

[@ejtimeandspace]

Good speech of good speeches leave the trash behind and move on

[@harrygooch834]

If you can’t get the captions right you should do without them.

[@valuecore]

We don't do subtitles anyway. KZbin prepares it itself.

[@spawn-sr8tw]

This top comment hits so very hard

[@valuecore]

😢