Because they want you to work for them for free. These vampires they are very good at telling who is the victim. Once they see you're the victim material, they will gaslight you right away to benefit themselves.
I used to be a NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) magnet. NPD does gaslighting and PUA a lot. I think it’s very important that we have self awareness. When any bad situation happens on you, first go google and understand the perpetrator. Second educate your self it's their fault but not yours. Third you must stay away from them as quick as possible. I experienced these especially in Taiwanese workplace before. Many spoiled bosses in Taiwan and they are very into blaming victims in order to take advantages from them. The workplace in Taiwan is not as mature as developed countries, also the power gap between employers and employees is terribly imbalanced. Be aware when the environment is not in your side. You can become victim easily. After I educated my self the knowledge of NPD, gaslighting and PUA, now I do the risk management very well : I cut them off at the first place. Wrong ppl might have chance to talk to me once or twice, but there will be no more.
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Why I used to be a NPD magnet? Because I was too keen at helping ppl. Also I had a higher expectations on myself no matter in personal life or career. These NPD they are like vampires, they are very good at finding victims and tangling them. All the best you can do is telling these vampires precisely as quick as you can, and then simply cut off all the connections with them. Never ever give these shits any chance to get closer to you. These shits they obviously has a totally different mindsets with decent people. No chance you can "negotiate" with them. Just like can you educate a rat to write or sing? nope you can't. Then why bother?