11 questions EVERY BRIDE MUST ASK A POTENTIAL GROOM in an arranged marriage | By Raina

[@swatisaini6447]

The challenge isn't asking these questions, it is whether he will answer these questions honestly and how we will verify if he is being honest

[@geetapalariya5266]

Yes

[@RaushanK_Arjun]

My opinion about the marriage has always been that date the guy/girl for atleast six months before marriage even if it is arranged one and you will know enough truth about your prospective spouse and his/her family. Bcz Truth can't be hid for so long.

[@kanikagaral7637]

@@RaushanK_Arjun its easier for u. If after 6 months of talking to the guy u say no all hell broke loose. People start calling girls names. I know that coz my own parents did that to girls. And they r against it. They expect u to say yes after one meeting. It ain't easy.

[@RaushanK_Arjun]

@@kanikagaral7637 yeah i know its difficult especially for girls. But its your life and you and only you should decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Talk to your parents and make them understand that what if you got married to the wrong guy, the one who is irresponsible, doesnt respect you, sexist, does domestic violence or in a relationship with multiple girls. Will they be able handle it and legal trauma that comes with it? I hope they will understand bcoz Parents love their children and cannot see them in trouble. Sorry it got longer 🙂

[@kanikagaral7637]

@@RaushanK_Arjun plx u think parents care. After u turn over 25 they just want u to get married. And when u turn 30 and girls younger than u get married they become different of desperate. They don't want u to say or ask anything that could jeopardise ur chances of getting a husband. I am speaking this from experience.

[@prakritigaur2518]

Even though there are no chances of getting married in coming 7-8 years. I'm watching it and loving it! I've even downloaded it.😅

[@RenuSingh-pv6go]

❤️

[@abigailocean7372]

I sooo agree🔥💕💕thanks Raina

[@bhumikamathil5246]

Same

[@yourofficialfan]

same here😅

[@shreyanshirakhashiya968]

Same here... 😝😝

[@priyankakharat2049]

I'm done, I'm gonna be a monk!

[@gururajbsavakar7154]

Ill jion as a nun

[@sukuna4396]

@@gururajbsavakar7154 me too

[@MS-kk7wc]

Same here 😆

[@aniruddhasajja9561]

male monk???

[@atdh2024]

😂 same thought! 🖐🏼

[@aishwaryaa7383]

One question I would ask is what is his opinion on women's driving? There are so many who do casually joke on Women's driving.

[@harshabhatia47]

Yeaahh i agree n dey joke ohh that car scratch also did by female.. Males do such things.. Laugh unnecessarily on our driving skills as if dey only know that😁😁😁

[@apurbaghosh5046]

I don't crack jokes on women driving rather i am very serious about female drivers / riders, atleast on road.

[@shrutisoniChannel]

In India there is more women piolet then any other countries and then also some people think that girls can't drive ...🙃😆😆 Girls sb kuch kr skti h

[@tanshika11]

I wud like to say that since centuries, women have been made to jus handle household work n men handling outside work.. evolutionary our neurons get adapted to wt we see around n the work we do. Now females have very good management skills n its easy for them to do tasks with procedures n males have quick n fast reflex taking decisions.. some areas of female brain have not been used evolutionary for very long time.. now for driving bicycle, its equal n easy for both genders n scooty too.. but when it comes to car.. females see it as procedural like one task after another (start den clutch den gear den leave clutch..den speed..) , indicator n den turn.. but prob is males who drive very confidently n in speed try to overtake from anywhere that too without horn n that really is a trouble. If everybody starts following driving rules sincerely.. i guess there wont b a prob anymore.

[@sharmisthasengupta3999]

True

[@riyameera5936]

My mom nd aunty were discussing about my marriage, i got irritated nd opened YT..nd this vedio appeared. 😂

[@VinieStories]

This is a message from Universe for you to get ready 😂 good luck 👍

[@riyameera5936]

Lol. girls I'm just 19. Idk why these aunts are so desperate for my marriage

[@saurabhvlogs4182]

@@VinieStories KZbin creators laughing in silence

[@xclzv5900]

@@riyameera5936 coz dey want 2 stick their idiot relative guy in ur lyf Ask 'em 2 remarry n plan a vacation wid deir new hubby n not 2 forget sending tour pix

[@kuntalverma7143]

@@riyameera5936 better ignore them... and focus on your life.

[@nishigupta507]

Very true.. I also have the same thoughts.. Once I met a guy for arranged marriage and asked similar questions.. Although his family took my questions in negative ways, modified those and considered me wrong for their family.. They said "Ladki bht Tej hai" 😀 and rejected me.. But I still believe that we should stand for ourselves and I am gonna ask the same questions next time I will meet another guy 😜😜

[@human5666]

All the best!

[@ratnesh4727]

Same questions means same result

[@sangeeta7198]

Good...

[@pawan4815]

Change your behaviour if you will not change you will not get husband.

[@samanta3720]

@@pawan4815 and if you don't change your behaviour you won't get a wife. I was about to say "get a life" jokingly but then I realised it must be true. Why else would someone go about pushing their primitive patriarchal views on people who already know how to deal with fools like him??

[@monisharmuk]

... also be open to the fact that he can also ask you the same question and ask you to take the medical tests.. at that time it should not be viewed as he is attacking you..

[@RenuSingh-pv6go]

Yes of course he can

[@miniaturecreature]

Yes, transperancy is important in any relationship from both sides, why should one get angry at all? People with ego problems (mostly most men) get angry, not the ones who are genuinely interested to share a life together

[@harshabhatia47]

@@miniaturecreature yeahhh

[@safashereen3389]

Medical tests for what?

[@safashereen3389]

If medical test is for virginity its has mo medical significance and proof ? If it's for medical infections yess u and should go for it

[@sudarshan3965]

People need to spend time together for at least 6 moths together for deciding for arranged marriage

[@crazycreator2150]

They can be together, to understand each other but not for physical entities

[@anonymousaniie8361]

No doubt that's a great idea but I still wonder if 6months is enough to know a person in and out 🤔

[@sudarshan3965]

@@anonymousaniie8361 it's not enough but in arranged marriages it max time that we can bargain from parents

[@firdousefathima4191]

But I doesn't happen in our family 😏

[@tromboner6061]

The best thing to do is: After your engagement,have a 6month or 1year gap until marriage

[@yashravani8269]

I wish boys can also ask such questions like u r virgin i will support my parents n all they just start judging that boy, If boy don't have his owned house to uska shadi kabhi nai hoga that is bitter truth.

[@MrKarim-1]

Topics discussed in the video: #1 Financial Expectations/ Dowry #2 Nature of relationship with the family, role of parents in person's life and disputes within the family #3 Sharing responsibility for daily chores #4 Tackling issues arising out of work commitments of the Spouse #5 Kids #6 Reasons for getting married #7 Personality, Ideology, Habits, Conflict Resolution, etc. #8 Planning about future finances and how to support dependent parents #9 About Love Life - Past relationships, sex and virginity, compatibility #10 Medical History #11 Stand on Feminism I think men would also like to ask* same questions to women (suitors). Great presentation.

[@RenuSingh-pv6go]

Totally ❤️

[@DrRohiniM]

I came to comments section to search for this.. 😂😂

[@niasentalks8168]

Thank you

[@radhaarya8364]

Agreed.

[@gbijnaseni4492]

@@DrRohiniM same here...😇😇

[@hemantgore2567]

when I asked about finance related questions, she said I'm money minded person!!! its different when a boy asks vs when a girl asks. I have had few incidents where girl's family stopped answering our calls when these questions were asked and to be honest I was happy.

[@rubinam4107]

That girl is not the one for you bro. Glad she rejected you, you deserve better. Happy to see an open minded guy, best wishes 😊

[@user-fx9kv1mw2r]

There are double standards on this KZbin channel bro...bdw you deserve better

[@atdh2024]

@ribanno kitano marry a girl who thinks that marriages are business deal.. then you both can split all food bills equally including the paise after decimal point

[@atdh2024]

@ribanno kitano I told you find someone you can "split the bill with".. and who thinks similar. I agree with you that partners should contribute in the house expenses but your comment is just all about splitting.if you really want to marry like that. May be it is better just to have roommates. Why to marry buddy..be free from splitting activity Mind it you are not talking about taking equal responsibility.. it is just splitting bills Yes marriages are for having a partner and having children ..the societal norms are like that. Many societal manners I do not agree with and things change as well..

[@atdh2024]

@ribanno kitano did you have some bad experience?? If you had then it is not like everyone is bad, it is just that you need to find the right one for you. Or you are just speaking like that talking about it in logical manner? Because you will grow terrible kids later if you put your this thought inside them. Let your kids choose their thoughts please

[@RaushanK_Arjun]

My opinion about the marriage has always been that date the guy/girl for atleast six months before marriage even if it is arranged one and you will know enough truth about your prospective spouse and his/her family. Bcz Truth can't be hid for so long.

[@oliviatreasa2328]

I dated my guy for 4 years and I got to know things he's been hiding after 1 and a half years

[@asmimazumder5550]

Exactly. If you take it this way,arrange marriages are quite good

[@shivranjinighegde1113]

people who are goos at hiding will hide anyway

[@nanditaghose3055]

Exactly !!!!!

[@shivranjinighegde1113]

I agree but I'll tell you a problem with this. After 6 months, if both parties agree then its all good. But even if one disagrees then it gets too complicated and they say "why did you waste my time if you wanted to say no". It's not that easy trust me.....Anything that is arranged and forced, is very messy.

[@mohemmednawaz3913]

This should be taken into context. In a successful marriage, there should be equal contribution from both genders. If a guy is sole bread winner then he would expect the girl to cook, clean and take care of their kids. If the girl is also working no matter how much she earns, the guy has to share household responsibility. Likewise if a guy is a virgin, then he would expect the girl to be virgin too.. and that's fair, Girls shouldn't take offence on this issue. if the guy is not a virgin then the question of asking a girl about her virginity shouldn't cross his mind.

[@Gianni.chellini]

@Mohemmed Nawaz: bilkul sahi kaha apne yahi soch rakhani hain aur life mein aage badhani hain tabhi jeena ka matlab samajh mein aayega

[@saimas5161]

Absolutely,I agree

[@ashwinmiyer6159]

Very well said.

[@jayantisen7174]

I totally agree..bt if can be so that the girl is not a virgin...will that really be a problem? I mean we are marrying the person not their hymen right? And as for virginity..that word is like non existent coz it is only a tissue called hymen and it can tear at any point of time while doing activities like gymnastics or horse riding.

[@slowgamer7076]

@@jayantisen7174 Virginity and hymen are 2 different things bruh...

[@shivagiri3804]

Imagine if the groom watches this Won't he get prepared 😂

[@rohitnarayan6509]

No not at all 😊 He will only remember few memes of nawajuddin sidiqui movies 🤣🤣🤣

[@shivagiri3804]

@@rohitnarayan6509 😎😂

[@shubhamjoshi8762]

Then it's good no

[@ankitamishra1999]

🤣🤣ryt

[@riturap123]

He should be prepared. Thats the reason you are asking right. Only thing is he should not lie and convey his actual thoughts and so should bride. It all starts with trust and without trust it may not end well.

[@nukeengineer5214]

As a dad of two daughters, one advise, find your own mate. If you are bold enough to ask these questions, then sure, you can find a great guy. Good Luck kids.

[@akashtriz]

Kudos to your channel name

[@Adup5724]

You used a perfect word, BOLD. Nobody asks these questions, maybe some.

[@Kirito-ts3ht]

As a member of MALES ASSOCIATION GROUP I'm believe that she's a Red flag. Better not listen to what the internet says. Listen to your heart (This advice is for all the women who's watching this)

[@drishtikumari8949]

I think her parents must be awesome for growing her into such confident person🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@aashishrai907]

to tell you the fact only a crook loafer wanderer to tell you the fact only a crook is potent to structure such a thing . She is not testing the guy , but rather getting examined/tested herself is potent to structure such a thing . She is not testing the guy , but rather getting examined/tested herself

[@isoften467]

me too

[@nitinchaudhary9993]

Hahahah 6 month sala 2 month m sab khatam ho jayega

[@avaneeshmishra8130]

Yes good questions to ask, and please tell her that in case of separation if you are going to beg for alimony or not, in case you are independent enough give it to him in writing( in due process) for additional peace of mind for both of you.

[@veda8780]

Then why do men take dowry ha?

[@avaneeshmishra8130]

@@veda8780 Dowry is unjustifiable & evil but what alimony is??

[@subaspanda9777]

As per law system Dwary is illegal and alimony is legal

[@user-mq8el4mf3q]

payment for unpaid household work and compensation for mental trauma, give back the dowry also included in alimony and girls usually don't get a share in the property and told you will get from your husband, so give a share of the property to your sister too and don't ask a girl to leave her parent's house if you are not ready to leave yours that also included in alimony include child support at least you don't have to carry them 9 months and going through other suicidal thought after postpartum depression. But if the girl didn't do overburden unpaid household chores and earn more than you that she won't get alimony then you will get the alimony because alimony is genderless according to the law says spouse not the woman. So if you do not want to give alimony then marry a girl for the same parameters then girls have for guys thinking beyond her looks and other temporary things

[@anshumanawasthi3774]

Alimony for unpaid sex .... bs aukat se jyada nhi.... sex worker ko dena padata hai bhai

[@akhil2024]

Lol As a Guy if a women ask you these questions just ask her: 1)What does she bring to her marriage other than Sex"? 2) Ask her past relationships 3) Ask her if there is No Dowry will she sign a Pre-nup or Declaration?. 4) Ask her Future Goals and Her Ambitions. 6)Ask her is she being Forced to be married. 7) Ask her what happens if the marriage dosen't work out What she will do?

[@lokeshgouda4167]

Stay single n be happy

[@akhil2024]

@@lokeshgouda4167 Exactly

[@chhavi7280]

YOU SURELY CAN ASK THE GIRL WHATEVER YOU WANT TO. IT GOES BOTH WAYS. LIKE OBVIOUSLY??!!

[@y047anuragyadav4]

Great . You can many more things. But these are important ones

[@ayushmankumar1483]

Eighth question should be, "If you continue working after marriage, and have a higher in-hand salary than me, do you have the self-respect to not claim maintenance/alimony from me in a civil court?

[@akankshapatni7234]

But the risk is who would say lies in these questions

[@Cat_tiee]

Woahhh! Finally found someone with the same surname! "Patni" is rare😂

[@akankshapatni7234]

@@Cat_tiee Yes we are rare. Also we have same initial name A.

[@manishbisht693]

@@akankshapatni7234 If i am not wrong you roots are from kumaon or garwhal region.

[@Cat_tiee]

@@manishbisht693 well I am a Kumaoni :)

[@khushwindersingh2208]

Are behen phle yeh question toh yaad krle

[@siddhishah2222]

2:12 - a slight two-sided effect comes in here. When u ask the guy if he knows all this basic skills(cooking, cleaning, etc) , it should be with the assumption that even the girl knows these basic skills. In today's day, each person should know of it and it doesnt apply to a specific gender. Lol even im working on these stuff from now at 18, cause many people nowadays know ghanta

[@sayanhalder6752]

Ea agar tum khud esab na jante ho to boy ko ask karne ka koi haq nehi hai tumhe

[@Aisha-dv5iq]

@@sayanhalder6752 obviously

[@bhaveshtontiya7152]

That's the woke feminism that this lady want to propagate.

[@ranjini1828]

Actually the family only gives five minutes to talk in the first meeting with the man and in that you have to say if you like him or not if you like him you get engage then you can talk for some months and get married. This is what happens but i think all these questions are really important to ask to the boy and to the girl. Some people even might get offended for asking these questions.

[@aditibartwal858]

Rightly said...

[@shiprabhanu9562]

In our family they just show a photograph and tell us about what he/she does in life for earning and how they have studied. That's all, now you decide you wanna marry or not😂😂

[@ranjini1828]

@ nope i live in a village with very conservative people

@@ranjini1828 i feel sad for u..show them this video. i hope they will understand. 🙂🙂

[@ranjini1828]

@ All of them educated but when its come to marriage , things are different , but i am educated and independent so they listen to my decision .

[@BanerjeeGaurab]

Perhaps it would be better to cut to the chase. Just tell him these points. Firstly, I refuse to maintain any relationship with my in-laws after marriage, but you must be warm and affectionate towards yours. Secondly, your income is mine, my income is mine. Thirdly, if ever there is a difference of opinion between your parents and me, I am in the right, they are in the wrong. Remind him that 498A is real. If after that he is still willing to marry you, ask yourself whether you want to marry him.

[@---me---]

🤣🤣 nailed it

[@markevans869]

😂😂😂

[@adarshdwivedi1950]

😂😂😂

[@RatingsbyArchie]

Bold of you to assume he'll answer them all honestly

[@soujanyaakkineni9417]

True not all men are honest they lie and act

[@pryo2460]

Stay with him for a year...no one can fake for 1 year

@@soujanyaakkineni9417 i will ask questions on Virginity too 😃😃

[@sachinkapse110]

Off course we will lie And act ,no matter what ....😒

[@sachinkapse110]

@Eternal World don't try to be a grammar analyst here ...dude . Lie and act comment was done by Ms saujanya ...my reply was intended to her about" men she was referring..she haven't used the word "he" ...check with your own eyes. "We" referred to those men ...

[@ameenawahhab4211]

This just makes me think that arranged marriage lets you check and verify every aspect in a respectful manner without any emotion attachment and thus less problematic .

Exactly, u get almost 1 year to know each other after engagement

[@that_dam_baka]

Not always, but you know the big things upfront. One of the biggest causes for divorce is finances. They report the general income range on the website, usually. And it's the first question.

[@benclaude6932]

Not at all , arrange marriage is a stupid concept , even companies don't trust others in such a small amount of time , it is very much possible that the person you are getting married to , you wouldn't even go on a second date with him/her because of many reasons like thinking , goals etc

[@onepoint9055]

I am against dowry but also believe women who don't want to give dowry should sigh prenup while marrying. Gold diggers is real issue in modern alimony law.

[@meenuvincent1979]

Why women who are not giving dowry? Not only women men shld also sign it. Always remember equality✌️

[@onepoint9055]

@@meenuvincent1979 sorry never heard of any women paying her ex husband alimony. Not only in India but also first world countries like US where during divorce women get half of the man's property (of his own hard work). Btw I would agree that no-one should pay alimony irrespective of gender, everybody should be capable earning for his/her living if they don't want be with a person

[@jkhajuria2974]

Alimony ko hi khtm krdena chahye. But you're right. Prenup should be considered too

[@beentherelovedit9150]

Agreed. I am a girl and alimony laws are fucking bullshit. Kitne crimes to alimony ke wajah se hi hote hain men pe.

[@agampandey8536]

Acc. To hindu marriage act 1955 husband and wife both claim for the alimony to her/his spouses but not entitled with special marriage act 1954 mean two different religions male and female ... Wife also pay the alimony case in Gujarat state team circket player .. he got 10k monthly to his wife as alimony... Thera are ample for example in modern day society ... There wife give alimony

[@meme-tm4vw]

If men will start asking questions to girl about her past relationships and virginity you will OK with that 😂🤣🤣

[@06.aishanawal10]

Didnt she literally just said both parties should be open about it. Ask each other these things, be respectful and honest towards each other when doing so

[@wazeedabdul9176]

@@06.aishanawal10 Didi ye sab videos banane ka content ke liye accha hai, reality kuch alag hi hotihy

[@nitinchaudhary9993]

Bus ho gai shadi phir to bc kya chutiyapa questions hai mann lo shadi k agle 2 din baad ladke ko kucch ho gaya to kya karoge

[@darkknight1845]

Reject used girls guys please Embrace masculinity

[@All-purposefacts]

Reject used males also. ​@@darkknight1845

[@vijpan7435]

What if he lie?many boys lie before marriage.then khulte hai asli chhithe after marriage

[@Raja_aur_rudra.]

Right

[@diyashikha93]

Watch their way of phrasing those questions (if asked via tests) or even their facial expressions or time taken between the answers..

[@viciouskiwi3765]

Aage peeche walo se pucho na rishtedaar aise b hrami hote bta deinge✌🏻

[@simransingh3399]

@@viciouskiwi3765 bhaisaab.. So true😂

[@karan145]

Ladkyio ke judging skills bhot top ke hote hai , Aur kai cases mai , log badal jate hai time k saath , Kisi chiz ki koi guarentee nahi hoti khas kar ke insano ki . .itna risk lena padta hai .

[@tanushreesharma1568]

Seeing the comment section, where boys saying, "itne question h toh shaadi mat karo" "ias ka interview h kya" "tumse karega bhi nhi koi". Guys, we can marry someone outside this country too. Who r ready to treat equally. Aap apna dekhiye! Waise hi kahan milti h aajkal. Haina?

[@shrishti6406]

Sadly some guys think that women still will shut Their mouth and obey them 🤣🤣 of course questions krne chyaie.. even boys should ask all the questions he has in their mind

[@aarav7851]

I am a bit sceptical about the part about marrying foreigners Maybe you could but not everyone can

[@foodandrecipes6195]

Badass

[@magik2557]

Sahi kaha.

[@atdh2024]

😂

[@bhaumik718]

What if a groom asks questions to u ?? It will u tagged as misogyny... Matriachy. 🤡🙄

[@GamePlayUstaad]

All your questions are to the point and good, but I just want you to realize that if you are willing to ask these questions, be prepared to answer some of the same when he starts asking some. Compromise is a two-way street. If you want him to compromise his situation and tell you all the right answers, you should have the courage to compromise and answer some of his.

[@priyanshisingh9589]

Well she did say both to be open about everything and discuss openly.

[@Adup5724]

@@priyanshisingh9589 Will girls tell their body count. LOL

[@trollerskabaap5641]

@@Adup5724 definitely not😂😂😂

[@Pranav-r9u]

How will feminist react if men ask women about their blood tests?

[@ushaseemandal8299]

I won't feel bad honestly, and even I want to have such tests.

[@veda8780]

Honestly I have no problem 😊

[@dnambiar8025]

Feminists doesn't mean women alone, it means both men and women😅adyam ath manasilakk bro/sis

[@krutibastripathy9405]

@@ushaseemandal8299 Mam jab Love krte ho e sare test krte ho kya ? Bas daily daily OYO visit krte ho us time koi dikat nehi

[@poornimanatarajan7881]

No problem at all. Happy to do it, as long the other party is willing to do the test.

[@muktashukla1806]

What's wrong with parent choice ????!!! Wrong protrait of arrange marriage

[@riturap123]

Problem is if it goes wrong you can't blame your parents. For making a choice for you cause in the end decision was yours. If everything goes good you are lucky or you know how to manage problems.

[@monikapani8655]

Didi agar itna satyawachan Wala ladke hota to India me 90% arrange marriage wale abhi khush hote! Ye to wahi baat ho gai Jahan daru pine Wala coat pant pehen k aaye aur bole me BHT saskaari Hun😂

[@ankitasingh2864]

A lot of these are long answer type questions, even if a person lies, their body language will have a lot of truth to say. And reading between the lines is also important.

[@theunknownmusicalnote7559]

Exactly

[@MsCvb85]

Marriage even love marriages don't come with guarantee card . You can't get true person until you both live together and take decisions jointly , because after marriage both of your lives are connected... your decisions will impact his life and vice versa. Husband or wife is not machine that comes with some guarantee card. Person changes time to time as per situation and experiences and beliefs... In worst case if marriage don't turn out well just get out of it. But despite all questions and precaution you can't guarantee. And yes lastly marriage is much depends on us too as how you takle issues after marriages , how you bond with him and his family . I am very much happily arranged married since mast 10 years and I do realize it's not always girl who adjust boys do make adjustments too. The same kind of questions list boys too can have .

[@MsCvb85]

What if you get a perfect partner who respects you and have you all your freedom of choices. And he looses his job after marriage and them it's you who had to take financial responsibility of him and his family will you? What if his sister get divorced and starts living with you in your house with her two kids and now you and your husband ,and her brother had to take care of them ? What of he get promotion and sent to UK but your company wanted you to go USA? Marriage is companionship you should develop that trust on each other . And that happens over time. And need your investment in it. Life is unpredictable . Even you can't guarantee good life while.switching jobs. You need to take risks in life . If you don't want to then dont get married at all. Because there is nothing like perfect husband or perfect wife or perfect relationship.

[@navinkumar9126]

@@MsCvb85 thankyou Ma'am.

[@wazeedabdul9176]

Every girl is a Gangsta till the groom says Now it's my turn 😂

[@GarimaGoyalgg]

On cooking the guy always say oh I can cook so well and have been doing it, but once you get married, the question itself becomes pointless for them LOL

[@redpilled4872]

😆😆😂😂

[@gohan12991]

Yeah that's true lol. After marriage most men give the cooking and household job to women and they can hire a maid if they want.

[@thequeryqueen]

You know what..I believe each and every question is important but the problem is..mere ghar waale mujhe ye questions puchne nahi denge bcoz if I do that I will be seen as a behaya, battameez ladki in the eyes of the prospective grooms family.😒😓😢 Ghar waalo ko samjhana is like deewar pe sar fodna😢

[@prerananagula4587]

True one needs courage, but I think we should try to ask atleast some of these questions because atlast apne future ka sawal h

[@RenuSingh-pv6go]

Hey Saya. Every woman takes charge of her life at some age or the other. Then whether she does that at 17 or 70 is upto her. But the earlier you do that, the better it would be. So, you must ask these questions. Even if other people will judge you for that. Because it's your life. Also, you can ask these questions privately to the guy.

[@amitrawat3795]

This is because girl has many boyfriend... And boy has to work hard to feed his family , he does not have any girlfrend

[@miniaturecreature]

@@amitrawat3795 that is your generalized opinion

[@lilyplays2832]

@@amitrawat3795 this doesn't make any sense.

[@topajayson31]

Great video, I am a guy and I am looking for a virgin girl... not because I judge people for their sexual choices, but because I personally have preserved my virginity even after getting multiple chances and I want to share it with only my wife and I would appreciate if I will be her 1st too, I am not judging, it's just a personal preference, I completely respect the people who took different choices.

[@lilyplays2832]

But girls don't even have to go to the guy's house after marraige to know if his parents are accepting or not. It's always good to live independently.

[@baghyasrib6929]

I think this should be the choice of the couple. My uncle lives with his wife's mother as there is no one to take care of her. There's nothing wrong in a joint family if everyone are accepting of each other. My paternal grandmother lives with us and she's been of great help to my mother who is a working lady as my granny used to cooks and take care of me.

[@lilyplays2832]

@@baghyasrib6929 Yeah but there's this general tendency of girls going to the guy's house after marraige because that's what the society propagates. That has to be changed. Of course if there are situations that call for the couple staying at each others houses for their personal choices, they can do it. Nothing should be forced upon people just because that's the society's conditioned way of doing things. That's all what I'm saying.

[@lilyplays2832]

@saurabh singh And I'm sure no girl with brains would choose you. Girls have parents too just so you know. Even girls don't want to value a stupid boy like you over her parents.

[@lilyplays2832]

@saurabh singh So? Girls truly love their parents too. It's not like only boys' emotions matter. Girls don't have to leave her parents and sacrifice her happiness to live with a stupid boy who gets everything (his parents and a wife) That's just so unfair. And definitely girls don't have to make those sacrifices just so boys can 'have it all'.

[@lilyplays2832]

@saurabh singh Oh hun, you're really really wrong there. I'm not the first one to think this way. You'd probably be living under a rock this whole time. It's 2020 not the 18th century anymore. More and more girls are aware of their rights now. So I don't necessarily have to start it. It has already started. Also, I see a very high chance of you dying single. From the way you speak, you're so self-centered and you seem to only think about yourself. Don't worry. You'll have to live with 'only' your parents forever just like how you wanted because no girl would ever choose you. So you can be happy about that.

[@rghvmttl]

As a guy searching for a bride, I am making notes. Will ask the same questions to the girls.

[@somswetadas1314]

Most of them, even real gentlemen say this : 'women are supposed to be the ones who are more accomodating, compromising, adjusting and accepting'.

[@mayankshukla3912]

@Movies then there is no gentlemen

[@3men1pencil60]

Ofc women have power to either make or break the house

[@Weeteetommy]

Another one is would be future child responsibilities! You should not be the only one responsible and taking care of your kids (physically) day or night.

[@Weeteetommy]

I agree bills and finances must be equally split between parents and so do child responsibilities.

[@karanroy4106]

i asked about madical history she rejected me😂 lol.

[@Civilsuresh7]

KZbin ज्ञान don't work in real life

[@riturap123]

Bach gaya tu😂😂

[@kurapatichaitanya705]

Woman mindset is a spectrum. Some are hypocrites and opportunists masquedering as feminists

[@aksarraftar5304]

😂😂😂😂

[@nayanagv4376]

😂😂😂😂

[@dailydoseofsonshine]

You have opened eyes for many of girls whose parents are searching for a guy. In my case I would tag myself as stupid and dumb. To all these questions I got the answer as 'No' indirectly after marriage. Before marriage it was all yes...

[@PriyankaN16]

True.. Same happened with my friend..

[@studybee9543]

i will warn the guy if his answer changes after mairrage or even a minute before mairrage i will call of the mairrage.. I will record everything when discussing.. because being a chartered Accountant i know the importance of documentation... thoug i also know that oral evidence are not sufficient.. Its better to have atleast something thna nothing as a proof

[@beentherelovedit9150]

This is a problem too. Men often pretend to be good just for the sake of getting a wife.

@@studybee9543 lol,

[@mayankshukla3912]

@@studybee9543 you should know the spelling of marriage too aur jese aapka attitude koi shadi ke liye haa hi nahi karenge so you dont have to worry about these things 🤗

[@priyankchauhan1263]

Just imagine if a boy ask so many questions to girl in the first meeting ? People will definitely consider him a cheap guys , but in case of girls , it's obvious.😤😤.... Kab Tak hum ladko ko galat samjha jayege......har ladke ko ek Nazar se dekhna sahi nahi h 😔😔😔

[@fareehaxoxo8568]

Nope

[@riturap123]

It goes both ways. Agar ladki reject karti hai to she is not open minded. Ladka karta hai to he is not open minded. Cheap is just tag which differ from person to person.

[@anmolbaderia3818]

If you are asking so many questions to a guy then he can also ask you some counter questions which can make you equally uncomfortable like did you had any past relationships,are you virgin,do you know cooking etc.

[@silverstarlight9395]

If the woman is in her 30s, it's highly unlikely that she'll be a virgin. Same with men. So people should stop assuming these things about each other. they should just ask. Having a healthy sex life is nothing to be ashamed of

[@anmolbaderia3818]

@@silverstarlight9395 bro you are telling me not to assume things but you are assuming many things in your statement 1)girl is in 30s - you cannot say this as most girls marry while they are in the age 25-30 yrs 2)she is most probably not a virgin - bro this is India and not the US,so you can never say whether she is a virgin or not. So basically in the video the girl is telling to ask so many questions to a guy and when I proposed some counter questions people like you become uncomfortable.this is not feminism,this is pseudo feminism.

[@dmeditz8100]

@@silverstarlight9395 boy's should have right to ask virginity if he is Virgin too if he is non virgin he have right to ask about her past life y would he Marry a girl who was sex worker or escorts college students who provide sex for money too buy fancy clothing which she can't afford or the girl who date 100 people and she finally realised in her 30s she is no more beautiful she used to be now she she is worried will she able to get partner.

[@riturap123]

Fuck virginity loyalty is important guys.

[@cr-pz5ou]

​@@riturap123like Mia Khalifa 😂

[@raghavkhandelwal9811]

Why not apni salary ke baare mein bhi batao? I have come across many cases where wife says I am working and husband has this notion that both will work and built their life. But post marriage it comes out that she earns 20k or 30k and expects husband to accumulate assets and invest in real estate and at the same time she wants him to manage her Gucci Prada Zara demands.

[@veda8780]

God that's really wrong as a women I am telling you to sit down speak this with your wife

[@danishraza-fu8gr]

A chat between this girl and Shwetabh mensutra would be awesome 😁🔥

[@Mrjollly828]

Yes🤣

[@riturap123]

Guess it will be a never ending debate. Cause in todays world both gender are spoiled. And need to come to a normality which again is a point of debate 😂😂

[@mayankshukla3912]

Kaha compare kar dia tune ise 😂

[@jacksonripper-mp8dr]

@@riturap123 Shwetabh is a very logical person, he never disrespects any gender and asks both of them to live and earn according to their passions.....

[@solicitude1636]

I got married 2 years back and Point No. 2 seems so relatable to me now. Wish I had come across one such video back then.. Also the 'kids' wala point. I wanted a kid in the first year to which he said yes. But after marriage his parents and sister started objecting this and said that they don't want all that nuisance so early.

[@infinow]

As a man i say God bless getting married (if u can).

[@Aditi-mb3qm]

Same to you

[@infinow]

@@Aditi-mb3qm no thanks, i am not marrying😠😠😠

[@raghavjha9835]

Hi, I frankly like the questions and I would love to answer them and appreciate them at the same time. But the idea of asking these questions only to arrange marriage is controversial, I think many of these questions can become part of your first date with someone until you know it's not going to be serious in the future. But still question related to medical history, family, the previous relationship can be asked.

[@manub4288]

Bro what about false dowry cases married women put on husband and his family... Equality should be there but not this feminism.. Indian marriages stood the test of time due to family values not because of fake feminism. It's better to be single than marrying.

[@maanishaarao6642]

Pakka ladka bhagh Jayega....guys they hate these kind of women ....but these questions are actually practically and good for a good relationship...thank you

[@KingKhan-bi7kb]

Many of the answers you can getting by his neighbour or people in his area

[@maanishaarao6642]

@@KingKhan-bi7kb .. U can't get the emotional intelligence questions from area or neighborhood.. Human behavioural anatomy is way different u can't get it out from other source...

[@KingKhan-bi7kb]

@@maanishaarao6642 I think you can get a clear idea . Because a neighbour who lives with you even for a year knows the behaviour of people in the house and how they behave with everyone.

[@maanishaarao6642]

@@KingKhan-bi7kb no certainly not.. They know what u show ... Not everything they see will be true or false...

[@KingKhan-bi7kb]

@@maanishaarao6642 this might happen but in a minority number. The qt that this video suggest and when you ask then the boy will reject you on the first time.

[@otheruse5194]

And what about questions to ask from bride before marriage??? You should make a video on that also

[@ayushmankumar1483]

No bro. This is SheThePeopleTV. There should be a HeThePeopleTV channel to make video on what questions to ask a girl before marrying her.

[@otheruse5194]

@@ayushmankumar1483 Mens don't have any problem in anything because they know there responsibilies, But these Fake Feminists want rights without any responsibilities. That's why I asked this question to them.

[@saurabhmishra4782]

Equal right, equal opportunity but what about equal responsibility?

[@chhavi7280]

RIGHTS AND DUTIES, OPPORTUNITIES AND RESPONSIBILITIES GO HAND IN HAND.....IF SHE ISN'T READY FOR THE LATTERS....ITS A RED FLAG FOR YOU BOYS

[@saurabhmishra4782]

@@chhavi7280 You commented late, abhi to jhel chuka...😔

[@RahulKumar-es6oy]

​@@saurabhmishra4782Koi nahi bhai. Ham samjhate hai aapka dard. Aap is jung me akele nahi hai, bahut sare piss rhe hai. Free ki advice hi meri mano bhag lo.

[@AshishPanthee62]

First thing I will reduce my salary & see her reaction & her opinion on that what she will do if I lost my job. Single question & I will decide to marry that girl or not

[@it_sucks_]

Good do it 👏👏👏

[@ankit8115]

Perfect 😂😂😂

[@ayushmankumar1483]

Another question to ask should be "If you continue working after marriage, and have a higher in-hand salary than me, would you have the self-respect to not claim maintenance/alimony from me in the family court during divorce?

[@karan145]

If Guys should not expect that girl will cook or clean . Then girls too should not expect from guys that they will provide fianancial security to them . I think both of them should make this thing sure , if they both are working , then work should have to be divided . If girl is not working , then should should work at home by cooking and cleaning . There is no disrespect in that .

[@tusharkatiyar4414]

I m telling you if any girl asks me all these 11 question I would definitely love to be with her for life. This would just show that the girl is confident and doesn't care about society .And we can focus on our relationship and not be scared of log kya khahenge wala scenes.

[@ankit8115]

RIP 😂

[@sharmilaporanki3376]

nice. I kind of ask these question and guess what, still unmarried

[@tusharkatiyar4414]

@@ankit8115 thanks dude atleast praying for me. ❤ you man

[@ankit8115]

@@sharmilaporanki3376 indian society me ye chize practical nahi hai .. bss bolne me , sochne me acchi lgti hai .. tum jaise hi ye sb question puchogi without a though ladka nd uski maa turant soch lenge ladki chalu hai isse nahi karni shaadi .. 😂😂😂

[@sharmilaporanki3376]

@@ankit8115 agar nahi poocha toh outcome aur bhi disastrous ho sakti hai. who knows.

[@Priya-rf7ov]

Arranged marriage sounds like Business Deal ... girls have self respect... work hard be independent.. then find an independent life partner... when both parties are financially independent there is NO POWER GAME ....

[@dmeditz8100]

me too arrange marriage sell for body to specific individual or safe method for his money that you can get to were fancy clothing if he is rich enough.

[@Wikipedia8897]

I'm married by still watching becoz my life is hell after marriage kaash video shadi se pehle dekhleti 😭

[@tanushreesharma1568]

@saurabh singh tumhe kya prblm hai? Kuch seekha?

[@AdityaRaj-gj4dl]

@saurabh singh 🤣😂🤣😂🤭

[@AdityaRaj-gj4dl]

@@tanushreesharma1568 😂🤣😂🤣🤭🤭

@Rajput Sahab 💪 uska comment yaad nahi..but wo against bola video k

[@priyankan7604]

Why do I get a whiff of judgement for girls who choose to go for an arranged marriage ? At the end of the day, if a girl gets to choose that she wants an arranged marriage as an option, it also means that the guy will also be her choice. What's wrong in being pointed in a direction by your parents? As long as you get to choose if you want to stick with it or not.

[@UnShEeP924]

You're right. There was a condescending tone in her voice for someone who would prefer arranged marriage. Agar love marriage itna hi successful hota to itne DILJALE & saste shayar nahi ghum rahe hote....

[@mohanshinde7244]

There's a biased in all the recent videos

[@benclaude6932]

@@UnShEeP924 I have seen many arrange marriages , they are run because of children , sacrifices , even domestic abuse happens but it's an arrange marriage so the society is also less educated so no divorce possible....most of arrange marriage couples are not happy , they even pay for sex and have extramartial affairs. Ofcourse Love marriages also have them but chances are extremely diminished. Yeh baatein filmo mein acchi lagti h ...mujhe dikha kitne love marriage wale divorce le rahe h teri society me

[@UnShEeP924]

@@benclaude6932 Where is it recorded that domestic abuse and toxicity in "love" marriages have "diminished". These are just baseless accusations because Netflix aur 2-3 web series dekh dekh k ye sab "cool" lagne laga hai. And so what if marriages run because of children, that just means that some person has chosen to have a "higher " cause than just "me and mine" selfish mentality. If you haven't realised that you have to choose this mentality sooner or later to have long lasting relationship, ye "me me me"bakra attitude filmo me cool lagta hai. Point is both are ok, it's just that right now for us(in our culture) arrange marriage make such more sense (for most people). And I'm sorry you've had bad experience with it but the pros of arrange marriage will ALWAYS outweigh the cons of it (in our society).

[@benclaude6932]

@@UnShEeP924 When you know the person before marrying , chances of getting divorced are very less , simple logic. Love marriage is not a big deal , that is very cool , makes perfect sense. Again , 2-3 Netflix series sekh ke divorce normalise hone laga h tumhare man me. When marriage run only because of childern , that's a toxic relationship. What "high reason" logic you used is extremely stupid. Children are a very big , perhaps the biggest part of a relationship but it's not the only one. There is nothing as a genuine relationship in arrange marriage , you are presented stranger who could very well be a druggie. He/she could be the person you'd reject on the first date because of the bad thinking , goals in life etc. "me me me"bakra attitude filmo me cool lagta hai" what the hell ? Kya logic h ye be ?Me is very important as well. Yes , for most people in India arrange marriage makes more sense because most Indian kids haven't had a proper interaction with the opposite gender in their life , which is a bad thing , ofcourse. No , the pros absolutely do not outweigh cons. Marrying a stranger will never make sense NEVER EVER. If a person has done something in his/her life , he/she has each and ever right to pick his/er own partner , after parents , they have to spend life with that person only , it's best that you spend your life someone you know the best. My own parents have had an arrange marriage and they are not happy at all , it's just all about me , my studies and shit Healthy arrange marriages are rare , ye ek do shows dekh ke practical life change nahi ho jati. Human brain is extremely complex...there are many things that have to be common in order to have a healthy relationship , you can't just be happy with a stranger , most of the time , exceptions exist.

[@AbhishekKumar-ph1il]

Great. She's to the point and clear about her perspective on marriage.

[@priyankarajput5380]

I think same goes for love marriages. Of course we are gonna bump all those questions on our partner beforehand into relationship. For for sure you need to have clear stand on above points before settling.

[@Tanya-du2cw]

That's not how relationships work dear.. if it's an 'arranged' marriage or an 'arranged' date, I can understand these questions.. but if you talk about romantic relationships, they develop out of friendships or spending time with people. For that you won't need to straight up ask these kind of questions. These aspects are found out naturally over course of time. If guy or girl is absolutely completely different from your own ideology then relationships break. But in most cases, with minor differences, people of both genders adjust and accept the other person because they care about them as individuals.

[@Gaminfystar]

Point no. 3 So, the guy has to do job to support the family and also has to do household works as well.. Waah 👏👏🙂 Also, there's nothing wrong with someone wanting a virgin partner if they're virgin themselves. It isn't regressive. Aur shaadi ka main basis hi hai sexual relationship, so of course the couple must consummate their marriage, if the girl keeps being "uncomfortable sexually" for too long then that isn't right to the guy, especially if he's ready.

[@sangyaamalhotra6512]

If the woman is working then you should help her

[@Iamnoone56]

@@sangyaamalhotra6512 yes if having the same salary level 20k kamaegi aur kaam v nai krna h 😂

[@rizf800]

There's no such thing as too long it depends on the husband if she ever becomes comfortable or not even if it takes a year the right guy won't leave you just because of his urge to have sex while the girl feels uncomfortable. It's husband's responsibility to make her comfortable also if there's no love how can one have sexual relationship love doesn't happen in days or months it takes time and patience to earn trust . What u said it's absurd

[@rizf800]

​@@Iamnoone56wo kitni kamegi usse mtlb nhi h jitna ldka time de rha h utna wo bhi de rhi h. Time sbse zyada matter krta h

[@veda8780]

Imao what is wrong with men in comment section. Seems they are so angry and unhappy. I personally don't find any thing wrong in this video it is very important to understand each other before getting married. Even there are so many questions or doubts men will have and there's nothing wrong in that they can ask nicely

[@devanshgoyal2322]

She clearly said if a man asks you about your past relationships this is a red flag what a stupid answer doesn't past relationships matter ?

[@--MahadyHasan]

I like how these feminists always try to picture arranged marriage in a bad light saying that you have to have sex with a stranger and how that can be a scary thing. Yet on the other hand they proudly practice and encourage hookup culture. Please help me understand one thing, having sex with a person whom you willfully married and decided to spend your entire life with is creepy, uncomfortable and misogynistic? On the other hand having sex with a total stranger whom you just met, going to his house in the middle of the night disregarding all the safety concerns and leaving him in the morning sometimes without even asking his name is very liberating, cool and empowering? At least in the arranged marriage you get to know him, talk to him daily in the phone and hanging out with him at least for a few weeks.

[@Tanya-du2cw]

Feminists do not propogate hookup culture. Feminists propogate equal rights for men and women. Get your facts straight.

[@--MahadyHasan]

@@Tanya-du2cw oh please! don't try and hide behind definition. what feminism means by definition doesn't matter anymore. what feminists do and encourage others in practical life is more important. and we all know what modern feminists are like nowadays. they are anti family, anti motherhood, anti marriage and most importantly anti men. ok for argument's sake let's say they don't promote hookup culture. but they don't seem to make much noise against it as they like to make against arranged marriage. rather they subtly encourage it in the name of sexual liberation. you can always see hookup culture being promoted in the tv, movies, youtube and social media.

[@Tanya-du2cw]

@@--MahadyHasan no one is promoting hookup culture in name of feminism and if they are then that is not feminism but pseudo-feminism. Yes not much noise is made against it because mostly feminists will be liberal minded. Now we are talking about different ideologies. Liberal Vs conservationist. According to liberal thinking, individual choices are more important than societal cultural rules. That is why they believe that if a person wants to engage in hookup, it is his or her own choice and let it be. It doesn't mean that they promote it either. Liberalism simply means acceptance of people who are different from you or from the society. While conservationists try to mold everyone into a same fit of society. This doesn't have anything to do with feminism. Feminism deals with female choices and opportunities and treatment. For example, It's not anti-motherhood, it says that a woman can choose not to bear a kid if she doesn't want it.

[@--MahadyHasan]

@@Tanya-du2cw that's the problem with modern feminism. it is in the hand of rich liberal women. and they think only they are the flag bearer of feminism. if you want to propagate an idea to a certain person, you have to come to the same level of that person. to convince someone of something, mutual empathy is more important than the logic behind that idea. and that's exactly what these liberal feminists lack. when they try to promote their ideas to the common people, common people can't relate to them. they look at their lifestyle and personal choices in life and then reject their somewhat valid teachings and ideas just on the basis of their "bad character". and that's just sad. feminism hasn't yet breached into the mainstream just because of the wrong approach of the feminists.

[@--MahadyHasan]

@@Tanya-du2cw and btw I was talking in the context of the video. assuming the girl in the video is a liberal feminist, she has problem with arranged marriage in regards to having sex with a stranger. but I guess she doesn't have any problem regarding one night stand and probably does that in her own personal life even though that's worse than arranged marriage in the context of having sex with stranger. so it is her hippocrassy that bothers me.

[@Viraj_2305]

I am very very sure that even half of the questions being asked by the 'guy' to any girl she will get offended and shall declare that the guy doesn't know what to ask on the first meeting... 😂🤪

[@sekhar_211]

Congrats after asking all these question she can remain happily single forever!!!!

[@yashtriveditrivedi]

Equal rights equal opportunity but unequal responsibility

[@shreeram333]

And 50% of your wealth when divorced

[@pratyushsinha3348]

Well I'll giving all answers very honestly. But I'll never that girl who has presumed me as a martial rapist,a murderer for not giving dowry and so more... We do deserve respect as you deserve...

[@Civilsuresh7]

Right bro Stay away from these type stupid girls

[@sharmilaporanki3376]

My common question: I ask innocently how do they manage to eat? Do they cook or buy food? Then I state that I don't like cooking everyday. 😁😄

[@gururajbsavakar7154]

A very healthy , modern thought,!

[@rithicknavariya4937]

What if he says he doesn't like to pay for the bills house and all the shit what u gonna do then if u refuse to something he can refuse too what if someone enters the house and attacks u and he says I don't like protecting u

[@sharmilaporanki3376]

@@rithicknavariya4937 I'll pay. I don't like to do but that doesn't mean I don't have to. You are fine when women cook without question but when you are asked to do the same thing, you don't like it. Many women manage both job and kitchen but men get offended when even hinted about it

[@rithicknavariya4937]

@@sharmilaporanki3376 yes and ur going to protect him against robbers who got into ur house if that happens ur leaving him next day what's unfair is him putting his life in threat to protect u and u can't cook for him which will hardly take half an hour

[@rithicknavariya4937]

@@sharmilaporanki3376 if he doesn't protect u ur leaving divorcing him next day if u say no Im strong independent women I can break some bones of some robbers that's all bullshit that's cap

[@jyotirmayeebehera2668]

I had asked all those questions to the person to whom I have been married with.. And he just damn awesome more den ma all expectations.. Lucky enough 😍😇

[@sanjaydwivedi3016]

So many questions in a meet … is red flag🤣🤣.

[@MrBlackjack456]

The guy just needs to ask one question " what do you bring to the table?" Most girls give either vague answers or get downright pissed.

[@narsingpatil9974]

If girl or her parents ask such question she never ever get married😅😅

[@DS_012]

If a girl is virgin, then expecting same for boy is wrong? She has kept her aside from all this just for her future husband. And if she has to get married to person who had done everything, is it correct? Is it very normal nowadays?

[@shreyamistry702]

So true man.......I agree with you🙂🙂🙂🙂

[@knowledgekokhoji246]

If u are virgin then u should look for virgin partner

[@sayanhalder6752]

Inspired by this vdo i am going to note the points boys need to keep in mind while choosing a bride 1.ask her about her parents and family ,if she has a good relationship with her parents or she obeys them then it is a very good thing because a good daughter is always a good wife If she interferes with your relationship with your parents then never ever marry her because family should always come first.If she want you to get seperated from your parents then also it is a red signal.If she cant see her own parents in your in laws then also its not good. 2.Ask them about their educational qualification ,and her willingness to do work If she want to do a job congrats rhen she will understand the value of money and will never treat you as an atm But if she want to be a housewife then also ok she can help your mother in housework ,and if there is a maid she can survey her work also. But if she wants to do neither then danger she will never value money and surely will treat you as an atm. 3.ask her about kids if she dont want it ask for the reason if she is studying then ok . 4.diseases ,nothing new ask about all the diseases raina told and ask her about valid certificates also. 5.ask her about previous relations and whether she is a virgin or not.If you are not a virgin then it doesnt matter whether she is or not,but ifyou are a virgin but she is not then red flag walk out immediately.Ask her about all her previous relations it can be that she has some sort of space left for her ex boy friend in that case i think your marriage will not be happy Tell your relations and virginity issue to her elaborately . Dont be ashamed to ask all this because if loosing virginity is a choice none can question that so is the preference of having a virgin wife if you are also virgin. 6.ask her if any disputes are going on in the family .Surely you dont want to be a part of the family where fights and disputes are going on. 7.ask about the occupations of all the family members,just to verify everyone in the family are ok. 8.ask her about sex whther she is comfortable with you or not,if not then give her some time dont force her 9.tell her about your all plans like startups,early retirement ,job switching,if you want to support your parents forever Also tell your ambitions to her like if you want to go to foreign or not ,whether you are planning for higher studies or not Also her about her future plans and ambitions 10.see whether your ideologies matches or not like if you are a sanskari man a non smoker,a non drinker and she is an ultra modern one going to parties and all then please be cautious there will be many quarrels among yourselve. I am not saying you need a wife who will respect you as god but there should be some similarities between your ideologies.Ask her opinion on hook ups, casual affairs and everything 11.also you should ask whether she knows basic skills like cooking and cleaning or not Maybe you could not make it out ,then you can ask the neighbours and if needed then you can hire a pvt detective for a reality check,remember marriage is not a joke,and they are going to do all this too so dont be shy to ask all this One more thing if she drinks alcohol then no problem but ask her whether it is occasional or she is addicted Also ask her about her salary And also ask her if she has some problem if her salary is more than yours and if she has a opinion about your salary.

[@feminismiscancer3193]

Agree bro , We want traditional women specifically a housewife ( it's not about a women cooking for us I just like women who have motherly qualities)

[@sayanhalder6752]

@ribanno kitano the point is everyone wants Equalopportunities and equal rights but no one wants Equal duties

[@Gaminfystar]

To the point bro 💯

[@overthemoonflorist9135]

Aaawwwhhh so aptt

[@ankit8115]

@Indian mgtow Ye bhi sahi hai 👍

[@FocusLearningPoint]

Equal rights and opportunities...... But what about equal responsibilities....... Bolo na didi

[@valakdemon7488]

Boys! You will ask the same questions too, we have the right too

[@mayankshukla3912]

Answer hi kyu dena hey reject and move ahead . Khud akal aa jaegi inhen after few rejection

[@saadshakeel738]

Title should be as " 11 question for the interview before getting marry "

[@creator5525]

Itna kuch puchne se accha single 😂😂😂rehna best, sunn ke daar lag gaya socha tha shaddi asan hota hai but itna requirements....anyways last mai khush rehna with financial stability is best ❤🧡💙

[@nikitafernandes461]

We should spend atleast six months with each other before deciding for arrange marriage...it is really very important to know him before deciding for marriage ..

[@sejutichowdhuri818]

U hv really not seen life at all. Woh gyan na do jo aapke pass hai hi nahi. Nothing is preplanned in marriage - love or arranged. Everything can change ... even u.

[@riturap123]

So true adapt, fight, hold, never give up, still not working, then move on there are always better opportunities.

[@invisiblescars-againstdome8987]

A question that we should definitely ask is about his value systems, and ethics and very importantly to make sure you know how he reacts when you say NO to him

[@ravijeeverma876]

If same question is asked by a boy to a girl. Feminists would have made a hell out of it

[@Someone-jw9ig]

You can't just ask questions and believe that someone will tell you the truth. People are liars. They may tell you things totally against their personal belief just to impress you.

[@subaspanda9777]

Then what one should do?

[@Someone-jw9ig]

@@subaspanda9777 Have paid sex and never get married.

[@overthemoonflorist9135]

True even our friends lie...Most of all of em in matters of work and study.... Obviously in marriage also we can be a victim

[@abhishekshrivastav6162]

@@Someone-jw9ig 🤣 BC Bahut negetive ho yaar

[@coalixer9814]

4:33 if he holds himself to the same standards then it shouldn't be a red flag everyone is entitled to their own preferences

[@dertier124]

Kids becoming an LGBTQIA- very good question. A lot of people shouldn't have kids at because they aren't ready to accept this.

[@bhaveshtontiya7152]

Lgbtq..... community ke bachhe hote kam hain aur banaya jyada jata hain.

[@mohdmustafa5477]

If she or he ask all these questions. Will cross 60's and still b single. These thing's will looks good on screen not in real life ;)

[@Mrjollly828]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@mahendra2065]

If any girl ask me this many questions, one after other I would walk away.... Only one line: Every fruit cannot be repined on a single tree.

[@navya3878]

Everyone has right to ask whatever they want because it's lifetime matter u can't take it for granted and if he/she rejects u then leave it u deserve much better or the best.

[@kanikagaral7637]

There r lot of questions can't ask guys openly like that and def not on first meeting. They go home and twist ur words and complain about u to they parents and then these parents tell ur parents and ur parents gives u the worst scolding or maybe spanking of ur life. And they won't stop just by telling ur parents they will tell everybody else too and make them judgmental about u. I had met one guy who even lied to his mom about things I asked. I wish if it was that easy.

[@yuva7526]

Yeah, that means that guy just isn't for you. Better na? You didn't have to marry such a guy. Gone for good. :)

[@beentherelovedit9150]

Then date him for a few months before marriage. Slowly you can ask these ques.

[@nikitalalwani4241]

I wish I had this vdo 2 years back.

[@pryo2460]

I wish u had enough brain

[@ManjuNath_00]

What about groom asking bride about her character? Isn't he deserve to know about her character.

[@riturap123]

It's wrong should rather check does your values matches her. Are you okay with her values if not move. Character cannot be judged and should not be judged.

[@bhavna1051]

You really nicely structured all the questions. It covered almost everything that how forward we can go with that person. Especially in arranged marriage scenario, we have no chance to find out exactly who the person we are stepping with. These 11 questions could almost help you out with that " is that he ? "

[@nitinchaudhary9993]

Jab time aayega na koi question ni ata deemag m ye sab faltu k bakavaas hai life kabhi ase ni chalti itna planning karke not possible ho sakta h koi question puchne ki need hi na pade

[@Istoriess]

My Husbund has hiper anger issues. He never laughs he is very selfish as his parents. He don't like to open up i front of me. It's 1 and half year I am in this marriage now. Our intimacy is like twice in a month. He don't like much. I told to his mom about his anger issues his mom asked me yes he have some issues but he told you this before marriage na? I am fed up now

[@abhinavgusain9529]

Same applies on the boys too prepare your question paper guys

[@abhasanand6060]

Then, why divorce rates of love marriages are more than the arranged ones ?? I think that's y india has low divorce rates 🤣

[@Vinnnnnnnnnn123]

I think this is very important video in the perspective of a women. I guess generally women dont ask much and they perceive that the man will understand without she having to say anything. But as a modern women you need to ask everything before committing to a serious relationship as mostly women have their vulnerability like during pregnancy, childbirth, periods etc etc and its very important for a women to know how her man will treat her in her ups and downs..

[@arvindharitsinger4050]

Superb, nice... Now reverse the table and answer the question

[@samrat_s_studio]

Obviously women needs equal rights. I totally agreed. But aren't laws and IPC are biased for women? What about domestic violence on men? Womens are already privileged in INDIA.