Shopaholic Looses Temper | Spendaholics | Only Human

Meet 25-year-old Alison, a shopping addict who is very particular about where she gets her fix. Her passion for the high life has landed her in £46k worth of debt, more than twice her yearly earning. She's in dire need of help.
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[@gemmastaines5706]

A true lover of fashion would know that charity/vintage shops are where the most unique and “one of a kind” looks are found! She is not into fashion, she’s simply into labels and high price tags 🏷️

[@mojopika]

I get more excited compare to high end brands, because you dont know what to find in vintage shops☺️

[@girlycollector7155]

I love this comment. This is so true.

[@beaulieuc8910]

well said, and she looks generic

[@hearmeoutbro]

NOBODY has a phobia of charity shops. It’s just downright snobbery.

[@shaki5146]

A phobia is a bit dramatic tbf, but I really don't like the feel of charity shops and the smell that they all seem to have.

[@user-xs3ki1hg8f]

I love charity shops, getting a bargain, I’d rather go to a charity shop than primark, I do understand why some people wouldn’t like them though

[@sea.imagineering]

Yes, the smell is terrible

[@hearmeoutbro]

@@sea.imagineering Some of them are, some of them are fine. But nobody has a phobia of them.

[@CandidLy1]

Right, counselor, how good of you to come on and tell us how it really is…

[@huanghuang2166]

She doesn't want to go into a cheap shop, but she asked money for her mother, who works in a charity shop.

[@deannabarnes3771]

That part, right there

[@lindsaykiley4870]

Don't agree with the therapist who says its a phobia of charity shops. I think she is too busy worrying what everyone thinks and would be embarrassed to be seen by someone going in there in case they think that's all she can afford!

[@bettygraham818]

I have a sister in law like that, She gave me some clothes because ,as she got older, her arthritis meant she couldn't wear some things. I had to promise that if they didn't fit , I would not give them to a charity shop! Needless to say, that as most of my clothes come from charity shops, the stuff that didn't fit mysteriously disappeared from my wardrobe.

[@MsShandy111]

She's such a snob!

[@kathyh9423]

But not embarrassed to be in massive amounts of debt and be spoiled and self indulgent and immature and an arrogant snob? Weird. Those are the things to be embarrassed about. What a brat.

[@spacewoman7814]

I have a wardrobe of designer clothes - from charity shops. She’s missing out on some gems in her mum’s store!

[@isanirobi]

Space Woman Me too!!

[@greenkitty82]

Vintage stores are the best, I have most of my clothes from there. She says she doesn't want to look like everyone else well bingo, vintage stores are about as unique as you can get. Not buying designer stuff you've seen on some celebrity and others will flock like sheep to get. That's not individual at all.

[@marthas.4456]

Me too... sometimes I find real gems in charity shops. I'm rarely looking for clothes, I'm more interested in jewellery.

[@Chloe-bg8zc]

She could be getting first dibs at her mums charity shop!

[@anniemac4637]

I love charity shops ,so many hidden gems and bargains...

[@kimberlyoldschool]

She makes her mom CLOSE UP her shop and meet her down the street to GIVE HER MONEY? That goes beyond spoiled brat. This woman is exploitative and entitled. How can anyone stand to be around her?

[@beaulieuc8910]

well said narcisisstic behaviour

[@cassandraknight8804]

Extreme fear and/ or deprivation in childhood creates problems in adulthood….. not necessarily anyone’s fault…. Where there’s a capitalist society.

[@gracenjuguna7292]

Can't meet mum in her charity shop?? That's the most amazing thing I've heard!!!

[@amancalledda]

Notice that £200 she got from selling her tyres did not go to Mum whom she owes thousands to

[@MsShandy111]

She manipulates and uses her mother. Then again, her mother is silly to give it to her.

[@NettiieB]

Hold on, she is spending her Mum’s retirement fund on crappy clothes and shoes? I cannot, just cannot believe the selfishness and entitlement🤦🏼‍♀️

[@margaretdunne1765]

A mum who can't say NO!!!!

[@JD-dq8zn]

It's a disorder like gambling. Not to say she isn't responsible.

[@drfreud65]

@@margaretdunne1765 While I'd agree that her mom should say no, most adults would be embarrassed to ask their parents for frivolous spending money.

[@lucyhanna5172]

well her mother is a fool to spoil her adult daughter

[@greenkitty82]

tdsm19 I agree. I never ask my parents for money. If I can't afford it, I can't have it. I have too much pride and wouldn't feel good in myself asking them for money - but the mum is a fool, especially when the daughter is spending her money on narcissistic desires like clothes and shoes! Wtf?

[@SRPC21]

Horrible woman, what a way to speak to people who are trying to HELP her

[@CandidLy1]

I’ve often found the mouthier people are the more troubled they are. You’re not allowed to get too close to their pain so they get abusive.

[@deannabarnes3771]

Allison really owed Jay an apology

[@zabzab6103]

Why on earth do they make her shop in the cheaper stores? She already has enough clothes at home! She can live for two-three years without buying anything at all! Thats what needs to be done in this case...

[@coffee-1998]

Phobia my arse. She thinks she's better than the people who shop there. She's ashamed to be near the cheap shops. She came from a working class family yet looks down on her class.

[@cypher237]

Her mom is an enabler... Cut her off!! What's even the point of $20 a month?? 🤦

[@janedoe7229]

Diana Fronsdahl I know. Her shutting down her shop to meet her daughter down the street because daughter won’t go into consignment shops. And it’s for her mom to “lend” her money.

[@cypher237]

@@janedoe7229 yes! That part made me mad!! That poor lady... Doing waaay too much. Because her dtr is "Afraid of thrift stores"!??? 🤦

[@tempusfugit7127]

@BWM Her mother needs to go to a spa and beauty parlour& dentist and spend a whole day in London to buy a few thousand pounds of clothing and accessories. ...then she needs a nice holiday by which time she won't be able to give spoilt brat anymore money .

[@untetheredsoul]

I mean.. her mum kind of created that monster. If she had never given her money so easily maybe she would have known the true value of money and maybe wouldn't be in debt.

[@beckykent435]

I'm all for helping out with electric Bill and food shop etc but no way will I ever be giving endless money.

[@feistygato9821]

Is drowning in debt but she’s too good to go into discount shop 🙄

[@princess__blueberry1775]

I really don't know what to say about this, I don't know maybe her parents didn't teach you how to save money or the value of a dollar. Lol but if she spending money she's going to be broke and she won't have any money to pay off her debts.

[@michelleg9194]

Feisty Gato exactly and she is not educated. She has a crapy job. Looser.

[@princess__blueberry1775]

@BWM You right

[@caseypromise]

I guess me, my family and my friends are all “disgusting”. She mentioned she didn’t want to look like everyone else, well when you go thrift store shopping....you find awesome stuff that no one else is wearing.

[@marthas.4456]

She is very spoilt. Her parents gave her everything when she was a child, so she developed that kind of sense of entitlement. I had a generous mum, but if I would have wanted to take so much from her probably I would have gotten a good kick from her. Rightly so.

[@Miss65boo]

If this is the hardest thing she has ever had to do then she has led a very privileged life!

[@kellymurphy6667]

She: "What has been quite difficult, coming to terms with that I can't have everything I want" He: "Yeah. That is tough."

[@mashakalinkina7207]

Not wanting to be judgmental but pretty white married blonde girl with supportive partner & family in the UK in the 2000s & THATS the hardest thing she's dealt with? Dude there are literal child sex slaves in the world right now...ugh.

[@falsehoodbasher7240]

your ears hear "shop" and you hear "privilege" ugh-oh, because you are an idiot so ignorant

[@deannabarnes3771]

Pretty much...

[@cypher237]

Even $75 a month for underwear is ridiculous, let alone the $1500 she was spending before!?! 😕

[@janedoe7229]

Diana Fronsdahl I don’t spend that one undies in one year.

[@cypher237]

@@janedoe7229 ikr, I'm more like that Asian chick from Extreme Cheapskates who hasn't bought underwear since 1998... 😜

[@corvusmay1041]

I’ve never had an allowance, people who do should at least be grateful.

[@cypher237]

@@corvusmay1041 except the allowance is actually her own money she worked for... It just needs to be doled out because she can't handle her spending... So it's not really the same... 🤷‍♀️

[@spiralpython1989]

For the amount she spends, she is not very well dressed. And she’s not a very nice person.

[@videowifie]

looks like about 2002, clothes were in a shit period

[@happydayz7857]

Spiral Python yes she looks like she shops at Hot Topic.

[@sharonkenyon531]

Money doesn’t make you nice or happy especially when you spend what you don’t have.

[@MeTheMayo]

I think she is just depressed and loves to buy stuff that gives her self esteem a boost, wich is just a facade of course. You can buy cheaper cloths and still look amazing!

[@evastar4526]

I have never ever seen someone who spends a lot on clothes or has too much clothes who look good. Ever!

[@janupczak5059]

Bottom line...it doesn't matter whether you "prefer" expensive, upscale clothes, if you can't afford it, (and she cannot) then you just have to lower your standards. Period. You CAN'T afford the lifestyle. Entitled and spoiled. The attitude is simply "I want it, therefore I should have it." Doesn't matter what it does to her mother's future, her husband's future, etc. The temper is simply a manifestation of being told "no". Like a child stomping and screaming, " But I'm special and I want it!!!!"

[@lonahansen4990]

Either that or buy the designer clothes selectively and not until you've saved up the money.

[@debbiepeter112]

@BWM I agree. For some reason she thinks she is entitled to live a rich life despite not actually earning the money. She said she wouldnt be so low to shop in high street shops. I take offence as most of my clothes are cheap. Does that make me less important than her?

[@debbiepeter112]

@BWM Lol, my 11 year old son has more wisdom

[@ZombieMiezz]

That's how addiction works.

[@greenkitty82]

It's all in the parenting and the mum is silly for giving her her money. The parenting plants the seed for the adult they become. And yes you are right, if you can't afford it you can't have it and you have to shop where you can afford. It would never even occur to me in a million years to do what this girl is doing. I'm amazed how there is no contrition or remorse for spending her mums money as I would feel so bad, especially spending it in narcissistic things like clothes.

[@oneword6943]

she is ashamed of her mother being the owner of a charity shop and doesn't want to be associated to it... her mother is the one that should be ashamed of her daughter in using her retirement money for stupid things..

[@lindsay3995]

She has a tantrum about buying chain retail t-shirts and is rewarded with a spa vacation at the exact same moment that her mother is instructed that she mustn’t be enabled.

[@rebvanwinkelstein2578]

​@@whistlerobinshouseandhobbiesher mum deserves retirement

[@coffee-1998]

What a foul human. Common as muck and gives herself aurs and graces. Money doesn't buy style of class.

[@getin3949]

Style, she has non lulu

[@clairemarie3987]

True

[@maxfitnesstraining1585]

What a deeply unpleasant woman.

[@ultraboombean]

She is afraid of being seen as poor I think.

[@iaJENKA]

i agree, and that is the mindset a lot of poor people have.

[@greenkitty82]

Compared to how people in countries like Africa and India live, she's a wealthy girl. Most people lack perspective and so think they are something they are not. But It's western society's conditioning that tells us that what we have isn't enough and in western society nothing is ever good enough.

[@bmac6841]

Noooo!! Please don’t make me buy that Prada dress at the sale price! Please...I’ll take it, but you must allow me to pay full price!

[@caseypromise]

My eyes rolled so far back in my head that they got stuck.....

[@lynnc7896]

When basic Betty thinks she's a princess...

[@ericnorthman4846]

When the husband wakes up and leaves - she will move back in with Mum and drain her completely - then will have to move on to find a new purse

[@sugarmouse6061]

Watching in 2021. No shame in buying your clothes in budget shops but she looks like she does anyway despite spending a fortune. She's not buying high quality just big brands.

[@MsShandy111]

She's a witch!

[@sunbeam9222]

Nobody girl from Deal, Kent: " I won't use public transports out of principle" you what? 😂😂

[@beaulieuc8910]

a lot of people in Kent are like that, they look down on people who walk and cycle, think they are poor, probably richer than them as they save money and have paid off their mortgage

[@shaki5146]

Am I the only one who recognised the link between her hating charity and cheap shops and the fact that her mum works in a charity shop. Maybe she was bullied or wanted to be different to her mother.

[@AmazingRebel23]

Yep they didnt want to even get into that lol. Dont know how it connects to her dads death, why did they say that?

[@MissFoxification]

I think she needs a hobby, there's not enough enriching her life. She enjoys shopping so when the stress hits, she does what she enjoys.

[@differenttakethanmost]

Exactly. Change the focus from herself.

[@marypoppins1493]

Boxing classes is a solution. I agree no more shopping.

[@AmazingRebel23]

When I decided to sew and repair things instead of going out every day to pick up stuff off the road I was finally happier.

[@sicooper4230]

Don't know why they wasted their time with her..let her get in debt and see if her arrogance and delusion keeps her afloat.

[@feistygato9821]

Si Cooper seeing her dumbass be too “scared” to go into “cheap shops” was a different kind of fury- sis you’re broke broke like us too 🙊

[@rakisderra8095]

Yes i thought the same! She doesn't deserve there help...

[@lillygirl8436]

Shes a bitch

[@katemacpherson2442]

The sad part is that she keeps taking money from her poor mom who just wants to retire

[@2ndhandSue]

Si Cooper - Sure, let her get in debt and figure out how to get out of it. What she will do is take even MORE of her poor mother's savings. It's sad that the mother doesn't have the guts to stand up to her and say "I'm done. I have no more cash to loan to you, sorry". But I'm sure the reason the mother doesn't stand up to her daughter is because the daughter will become abusive to her mother until she hands over the money. Another family member should be stepping in to help the mother say "No" to this spoiled brat.

[@plug1461]

How can you spend your mums retirement money, that's terrible I couldn't do that to my mum. Surly she should want her mum to enjoy her retirement and not have to struggle so you can spend her money on clothes. What a selfish woman she is.

[@greenkitty82]

Plug 14 she's very selfish indeed but she wouldn't have the money full stop if the mum didn't give it to her. If I asked my mum for her retirement money she'd tell me to find a way to pay for what whatever I wanted myself. And if I threw a strop that I wasn't given the money she'd tell me to grow up and take responsibility for my finances. It bad parenting habits.

[@plug1461]

greenkitty82 my mum would say the same as yours

[@greenkitty82]

Plug 14 tell your mum she's a good level headed woman! 👍

[@plug1461]

greenkitty82 yours too

[@laurieporter9385]

WHY ARE THEY GOING THROUGH HER UNDERWEAR DRAWER

[@joshuamontgomery2298]

To sniff of course, to sniff 🤫

[@BeeClarissa]

Some people hide clothes in their underwear draw.

[@sarah3796]

Oh no...

[@kaidgardner2922]

I don't like anyone in my dresser. to private.

[@Candicedickinsonllc]

that was their sexy time drawer not underwear 😂😂😂

[@kdp8133]

I used to love watching this. It was on 2005 to 2007 I think, when BBC3 was actually on TV, not just digital. Wonder if this couple are still together?

[@nicolarankine2010]

She needs to find a hobby. What a spoilt, entitled brat. She needs a good slap.

[@ZombieMiezz]

Addiction is a disease. Go out slap everyone with a disease you hero...

[@jadewea7579]

Or a full time job!!??

[@anniespencer7879]

@@ZombieMiezz Well said. Violence is not the way to deal with what is clearly a mental disorder. She needs to stop sponging off her mum.

[@loranoodle]

TShirt test reaction showed she was just a prat. Its not about how it looks and feels, all about being in a brand. Showed herself as pure tack right there.

[@xoaaron7419]

Laura Nadel ikr especially shopping online for Prada clothing 😂

[@hairproducts7637]

Truth Comment👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@MonicaTanAnLeng]

Losing her temper over the thought of cheap brands and being sick just trying to enter cheap shops. Just found this series recently and she had the worst reaction I have seen so far. Hope she continues to do better. She’s improved a lot by the end of the episode.

[@DJDoubleCee]

This is something I’d expect from a teenage girl. Not from a woman in her mid 20’s.

[@daenerys4759]

Sell her high end clothes, shoes, bags, car. Debt Problem solved 😅

[@kristinhateley2566]

I thought exactly the same thing.

[@NettiieB]

The problem is that the kind of clothes, bags and shoes she is buying do not have any re-sale value. The only brands that hold their value, or sometimes even increase are; Hermes, Chanel, Goyard, Cartier Love jewellery and some Dior bags. I guess the car would be worth selling maybe?

[@sgfrmindia]

Exactly ,and pay back her hardworking elderly mum her pension funds...

[@natalieknight1418]

At what point do you become an adult and stop acting like a spoiled brat and actually be a responsible adult?? Grow up!!! Its not a "disorder" it's never being told no and not giving in no matter how much whining she did. If you tell a child NO and refuse to give in it teaches valuable lessons. It's LIFE!!!

[@-LouLaBelle-]

She said who wants to look like everyone else whilst stood in a plain white turtleneck jumper 😂

[@charlottejones995]

Her mother passed away in 2011, so sad

[@edencharles5250]

This one certainly suffers from delusion of grandeur. She's in so much debt but refuses to take public transport, go into low end high street shops or a charity shop!! She needs to hit rock bottom then she'll learn what real living is all about.

[@chantalsscaleisafibber]

She doesn't even look that wonderful in the rediculously expensive clothes that she buys.She could easily do the budget as to just not buy any clothes would still leave her with a lot of clothes that she's already purchased and not yet worn.What happens when she has kids and how will she dress them as buying designer clothing for kids is insane on her income.

[@browadisgang7908]

How much did they spend on those tires and mouses? And what do they do with them after? How long does it take to put those up? Are they brand new? So many questions lol

[@deathtothesystem]

I'm imagining the poor intern untangling all those knotted up mouse cords

[@angelaw886]

Exactly my thoughts...what a waste of money on a show about budgets.

[@gd4465]

What a horrible woman, if i was her husband i divorce her on the spot.

[@NYCStateofMind7]

G D I'm assuming you've divorced a couple times. I'd rather help her

[@jenjones90]

I'm shocked someone married her to begin with...

[@louistournas120]

She looks hot and has large breasts. It is too bad she is a spending nut.

[@josimpson6038]

G.D I agree! He needs a medal, poor chap.

[@westvirginia5200]

But she doesn't mind taking money from her mom's 2nd hand shop😢 won't even go in her mom's shop😢 she is just spoiled and thinks she is to good.

[@SandraNelson063]

I'm on disability, I live on under $1200.00 a month. A shopping spree? I can't afford the orthodic shoes I need because they are $200.00 a pair. I have TWO pairs of shoes, a pair of boots and a pair of rubber sandals I wear as slippers. Buying a package of new underwear is a serious purchase. My family gives me money to get these things. I was on welfare for years as well. $700.00 a month, in a city where a decent safe room rents for about $600.00 a month. Part of my problem is that the cost of living is shooting up and the disability stipend is staying as is. So the money goes faster, and I'm not doing anything crazy with shopping. People like Alison should have to try and live my life for a month. They'd be stunned witless by the realities of life that most people have to deal with.

[@robindey4031]

That's true..shopping for useless flashy things are not worthwhile even if one has millions sitting in their bank account.

[@geminikb]

Sandra Nelson I work in health care. Many of my patients are in the same boat. They have to make very difficult choices every month. This brat isn’t doing herself any favors by racking up all its debt. Not to mention the toll it has taken on her marriage and her mother. Anyone else watch “if You Can’t Pay, They Take It Away” on KZbin? Maybe by now the high court enforcement agents have knocked on her door.

[@GlassOnion.]

sucks to be you :/

[@amym.1349]

@Crooked Rain : Shame on you!! Have a little sympathy, or at the very least, have enough common sense to know when to keep your mouth shut.

[@worsteveroh6569]

@@robindey4031 true and being flashy makes you a target for thieves

[@lenayo5039]

Her mum is the issue too. She is totally enabling her by giving her money.

[@origamisteve]

The one thing I was really wanting to hear is did she start giving her Mom more money back towards what was loaned? 20 a month is freaking nothing, so I hope she's paying her mom at least 4 or 5 times more monthly. Then slowly increasing that as she either cuts her budget more or gets a raise.

[@thomers2451]

She should be giving her hundreds every month

[@dangela3039]

Her mother passed away in 2012 so she never got the money back

[@jennygreen3994]

What about her husband... doesn't he matter...she is snobby and spoiled and needs 2 weeks in a homeless shelter where she may end up after bancruptcy. She has no gratitude!

[@elainex5666]

Her husband is going to have a life of misery with her.

[@whathe4633]

@@bigbeatyswollocks4859 🤣 sadly, you could very well be right

[@bigbeatyswollocks4859]

@@rorydog02 😂😂 true facts

[@lionessnala2000]

I think one day he will get tired and leave her.

[@bigbeatyswollocks4859]

@BWM Danmn right

[@TheLexiconDevils]

She likes ATM’s ....

[@queenjulianalovesherfatban2064]

Are we going to just ignore the fact that jay and Benjamin looked through her and her boyfriends box of "stuff". Like I think that's a bit creepy if I'm honest

[@vindheimar2631]

What a very unpleasant human being she is.

[@kellybrown403]

Don’t blame it on loss some ppl just have issues regardless of their past. If she cared she would know her dad wouldn’t appreciate how she is living.

[@lijo4518]

That 6 month marriage is not going to last...she's way too immature & selfish to be married

[@srideout91]

I had a friend like her but I cut her off because she was way too toxic. She is now homeless come addict. I see her by the bus station asking for change from time to time.

[@nevenkapolley1901]

Brat! 100% So rude to Jay for no reason.

[@blueneptune825]

Boy, that little snit yelling at Jay and telling her to stick it up here @#*. She should be ashamed for being so rude to such a nice and supportive woman like Jay.✌🏼

[@courtneyann4265]

I work with a clientele that would love to have enough money to create a wardrobe from Walmart. This spoiled brat is hard to listen to

[@jennamont6618]

Just read about her in 2011, her frozen embryos were lost at the clinic in which she stored them. Big lawsuit. Pretty horrible.

[@re7416]

Karma | 🤷🏼‍♀️ (Obviously, the IVF Clinic she chose wasn't high-end enough 4 her demanding standars.) Hey Aly - Unlucky, eh? Still...nothing a few Armami jackets won't fix 🛍🛍

[@re7416]

Karma | 🤷🏼‍♀️ (Obviously, the IVF Clinic she chose wasn't high-end enough 4 her demanding standars.) Hey Aly - Unlucky, eh? Still...nothing a few Armami jackets won't fix 🛍🛍

[@re7416]

Karma | 🤷🏼‍♀️ (Obviously, the IVF Clinic she chose wasn't high-end enough 4 her demanding standars.) Hey Aly - Unlucky, eh?

[@jennamont6618]

@@re7416 that’s harsh.

[@oliviaLOVEShenry]

She was declared bankrupt last year.

[@crystalyeary1801]

lol. big surprise

[@pugzlipigeon5906]

And you know how? Considering based on her busted BMW, this was filmed 20 years ago.

[@crystalyeary1801]

@@pugzlipigeon5906 its public records if someone files bankruptcy, that's how.

[@pugzlipigeon5906]

@@crystalyeary1801 is that how you spend your time? 😂😅🤪

[@crystalyeary1801]

@@pugzlipigeon5906 Really? Are you serious? It's common knowledge that it's public records. But good try.

[@cmmc3400]

This woman is being a very entitled person. She doesn't care who it hurts and her hubby and mother are in the mix via Codependency. When Loving Someone Hurts Them...get the book.

[@fredweis2383]

Title should be LOSES. NOT LOOSES

[@djs9931]

Yes.

[@KaliKali-hv9bt]

Fred Weis Just noticed your comment. I just said the same. It's LOSES.

[@ASTPlumbing9090]

I have a few top end items in my closet…. All are from the Goodwill and other thrift stores. If you have the time to look through clothes, handbags, scarves etc… there are gems aplenty.

[@randysmith7189]

Some people need to hit rock bottom before they are ready to accept help... she is one of them.

[@erindonnelly229]

"the old alloys off my bee-mah" so posh

[@ValentineS97]

granted, i know how it feels to be spoiled by your parents, but my parents also know how to say “no”, sometimes. it’s healthy to hear the word “no” bc if you’re always getting everything you want, you’ll feel entitled to everything you ask for and that’s not how life works.

[@worsteveroh6569]

Your parents raised a lovely girl🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

[@ladyboss4591]

my parents are rich and they always said no to me. They always said "Mom and Dad are rich, you are broke. Mom and Dad made their own money and so will you."

[@ionamcbrid]

Loose is the opposite of tight. Lose is the opposite of win.

[@anuyew9537]

IMMATURE.....PERIOD!!

[@florencedebear1576]

I hope Ally can pay her mother back. She's sacrificed seeing the dentist. Sad.

[@angelaw886]

Poor lady needs dental work in a bad way. 😢

[@neen42]

*Loses. Dammit, learn to use the correct word.

[@devodavis6747]

Thank you! Ugh!

[@dr.trixiecp5651]

Wendy Muller yes! 🙏thank you!!!!

[@sweetlilweirdo]

So many people say lose/loose wrong! It makes me so confused! ;-;

[@leece_6702]

yes good on you! So damned annoying

[@louisemagill8295]

I've just posted the same thing, then I saw your comment😉. This particular spelling mistake is my pet hate.

[@rachs57]

My father was very wealthy, lost everything when me & sis were respectively 14 & 11. Long story short, my mother & sister never emotionally recovered, spent their lives looking for others, mainly males, to financially support them. I went to work, paid my way through college and worked for 30 yrs. Paid my taxes, raised 4 kids...I'm retired, its hand to mouth now, but I am beholden to no person and I can sleep at night.

[@TheRisky9]

In the United States, a BMW can say several things. 1> I'm bad with money. 2> I spend my dad's money. 3> I want to be important, but I'm not.

[@annjones9635]

It's fine if you want expensive things but don't grift off of others, earn the money yourself.

[@Michelle-qd9gm]

I’ve had loads of designer dressers from charity shops I love looking around them and I like new as well but I get more of a buzz getting something designer and only paying a few pounds for them

[@jage5256]

Growing up I was the child living with mom after their divorce. As the only daughter with two brothers I was mercilessly teased bullied and shopping with mom at the bargain basement at J penny it was awful. I promised myself only the best from now on. After my divorce with two babies a good friend took me into a bargain shop. I said I'm not going in there!! She said u are broke you have no choice! What a wakeup call! She said the secret is buy new with tags on the garment or new and never washes. It worked! That was years ago. Sometimes I spend but I get right back to the budget. Any change is good. Just stick to it. At discount store TJ Maxx I've found Michael Kors handbags ($45!) and Ralph Lauren sheets ($56) for a king size set, on the package it says $280! I would never!

[@hdj81Vlimited]

hahaha, did she really thinks she buy as only person in the expensive shops???? hahaha

[@emmamacgregor731]

Would love to know where she is financially in 2019.

[@littlebunnybunny]

dead

[@littlebunnybunny]

in debt lol

[@ellen5539]

She was declared bankrupt in 2019

[@isardella4685]

I buy gift cards from high end shops all year and then use them when they have sales . After Christmas sales I get up to 85 % off .

[@adamson786bi3]

her mum admits she was angry a lot herself i.e. toxic mother, makes me feel less sorry for her mums debt

[@Michelle-qd9gm]

She’s a very selfish women taking money of her mam knowing it’s her retirement money

[@GREENLALI]

The mullet 🤣

[@michelemcguire8995]

Lol..mulletman...nananananana mulletman!!!

[@mister8765]

Come on! Who wrote ‘looses’ instead of ‘loses! In the title?!

[@reagandoss4420]

Wish the host had jumped on board when she said she'd rather go without than buy inexpensive clothes. Great, shop for a few quality items and you won't shop so often. It would highlight the point their trying to make that she's shopping because she doesn't have any fulfilling interests.

[@aspiringoccultist]

i didn't realize this was just posted

[@alisoncoles1565]

But it looks as though it was filmed about 25 years ago! haha

[@thejauntyone]

She doesn't understand the definition of 'argument'. She is very ignorant on many levels and also very common.

[@grumpyschnauzer]

When she was pushing back on holding on to higher end shopping/clothes that’s her lack stitch effort to feel like she has a say and is in charge. Without that “condition” she has nothing. She must completely surrender to the process. Good show. Before thrift shops were cool my mom would take us as kids and we’d buy clothes there. We were severely broke and the talk of money brought major strain and conflict in the family. I loved finding something cool and vintage but I was terrified of being seen going into the shop by peers. My mom was the same way. Sometimes when I’d ask where she bought something she’d embarrassingly say “my favorite shop” and would never say the place if someone, not in the family, was present. I did overhear kids taunt others about “Payless shoes”. It was bad enough dealing with the stress of my family issues (chaos really) let alone have that spill over into school. Now I go in to all second hand stores but there’s still a tiny bit of stigma hovering behind me. In my 20s I was also a shopaholic… still slip once in a while but I catch it and course correct when I feel the grip.

[@blueneptune825]

You've done well to recognize and reject the tendencies of the "mindless consumer". The societal conditioning/messaging put on us by credit card companies and all manner of manufacturers have manipulated with a high degree of success since the 1920s and I applaud you for spitting the hook out of your mouth, so to speak. Also, buying recycled items is a form of support to our beautiful planet.✌🏼🐦

[@zabu7912]

The worst part, some guy married the debt.

[@louisemerriman1079]

Shes a liability in that marriage spending like that

[@cassandraknight8804]

I love this episode…. Great work from the therapist and Jay, well done.❤

[@SueRosalie]

People should stop making excuses for women like this who are simply selfish and have bad personality traits.

[@dangela3039]

Who is making excuses?

[@mmp495]

Enabling is huge in this dynamic.

[@TheSmokey1523]

She buys only “designer” clothes and still looks like that? Her clothes don’t stand out as any better than anyone else’s on the show either. Instead of clothes she could have bought stuff that has more resale value like Chanel bags that can be sold for quite a bit. She can get another job to use up her time.

[@sarah3796]

Update! Love to see how they are years later

[@karencobham4967]

Gosh she is trying be accountable She knows she had a problem We all have lessons

[@dillydalie11]

Her mom is not helping at all.. Mom has to say NO MORE..

[@Solidude4]

Yes some parents think helping their child means keeping things easy for them but sometimes it means taking a strict approach with them.

[@bmac6841]

Dilly Dalie how astute

[@ylenagreen4084]

I have exactly 3 designer branded items in my wardrobe, a necklace and handbag that were gifted and button up shirt I found in the local charity shop (was originally sold for 95 quid and I got it for like 10 quid) and whilst I love some designer items, I do not need them and frankly if I’m going to buy something I want it be real quality and something I need. Currently planning on saving up for some boots (which will hopefully help with my dislocating ankles) that are £200 but they’re useful as well as gorgeous not to mention it helps to support a small business with ethics I can get behind make me feel better about it not to mention the fact I just won’t get them until I’ve saved up and know that that money won’t be better spent on something I desperately need or bills etc.

[@mpw7643]

*loses temper, not looses temper.

[@anniemac4637]

Nothing wrong with charity shops...

[@Saxonbedwitch]

A real Chav.

[@ShyLuna44]

I have tons of clothes but majority of them were given to me and a lot of them don’t even fit me! Fashion comes back over the years and if you’re good to your clothes they will come back into fashion eventually!

[@beaulieuc8910]

yes me too, though I don't care about fashion