Bankrupting My Mother with Uncontrollable Spending Habits | Spendaholics | Only Human

[@lizabethfeig9788]

He was so terribly unlikable at the beginning, but he was so open minded and easy about accepting help and changing his ways!!! I would not have guessed!!! Good for him and his mother...they just needed some help and some guidance...neither of them were too egotistical or stupid to accept help...I hope they are happy and well today!!!

[@faithyoung5879]

My heart completely dropped when he said he has to buy his friends way to hang out with him. That's a really depressing thing to have to think about and realize!

[@ajayjackson7727]

he will know who his true friends are now when he stopped paying for them

[@Propfaqs]

I think it’s pretty common behavior. Buying people’s affection or their usefulness. Of course…it’s always better if you can afford it!

[@Bandit_Spark]

To be fair, with how often they were going out, many of his friends probably couldn’t afford to pay their own way if they paid for themselves every time.

[@coolinmac]

Look at the state of him. There’s nothing to him.

[@bevanbuckwheatshea5520]

You cant buy friends

[@zionsphere]

I can't totally blame him. His mother is like a financial enabler.

[@rolandopadrigan9753]

Well his mother didn't like that he was gay

[@marykearns4463]

It's a known fact Graham that when spending other People's Money 💰 their is no Attachment ,But when you have to Spend your own Money we'll you feel it when you have to part with it .

[@juanfabulous]

No, he’s a grown adult.

[@ljcarey011]

I watched this expecting to be annoyed but Graham took on every challenge without complaint. It was so enjoyable to watch him improve so fast and work so hard to fix his bad habits. Graham, wherever you are, I hope all that hard work and success has continued!

[@NemeanLion-]

I think most of the comments here are from people that only watched a few minutes.

[@katymcginn4644]

💜 SAME HERE! I ABSOLUTELY FELL IN LOVE WITH HOW SWEET GRAHAM IS 😊 HE REALLY CHANGED HIS WAYS! HE WANTED TO BETTER HIS LIFE, STOP LIVING OFF HIS MOM & I FEEL HE'S SUCCESSFUL. GREAT JOB & STAY BLESSED GRAHAM 😊🤗💜💜💜

[@annanonymous1589]

I can’t imagine how lonely his childhood has been and I’m so proud of him taking on the emotional pain that shows up once the shopping bandaid has been torn off. He’s a good kid and very likable

[@SpoonieSensei]

thank you for such a lovely comment! i realize i have nothing to do with this issue or this show, but there have been just so many negative comments that i wanted to let you know it was very nice to read yours!! thank you - you have honestly made my day a little brighter!

[@ljcarey011]

@@SpoonieSensei I'm glad I could make your day! Thank you for sharing that. That makes my day!

[@jessicacole8404]

*This is what I watch to remind myself that buying that extra box of toaster strudels wasn't that bad*

[@mollyhorse]

Whats a toaster strudel??

[@Libra8410]

😆 toaster strudels are so good

[@halloweellahere7602]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@thegreenmanofnorwich]

There are very few things that come out of a toaster that I dislike. Toast, crumpets, bagels, hot cross buns... ooh.

[@Zombie101]

Lol what..

[@AELeeify]

He’s not bankrupting his mother. Her parenting skills bankrupted his morals and since of responsibility.

[@shannon2748]

Yes...she enabled him.

[@connie.h2435]

At the same time he's a selfish person not many siblings would take from their mother he needs to man up and stop using people !! Grow up. The mother doesn't even understand that she's hurting him not helping this man ..

[@SammieKCIAFFFLLTGF0303]

AE Lee Facts.

[@GEricG]

True. He massively took advantage but she really should have said no. It's outrageous.

[@kiastar67]

While I agree with you on many levels, parents who pay money monthly to their kids are not necessarily bankrupting the kids morals or taking away their sense of responsibility. The problem with the way Graham's parents give him money is it seems they do so to replace love, time and other family issues with money. They don't ask him to work or even to volunteer and just throw money at the situation without asking anything of him. My parents have been paying me a pretty nice sum of money for the last 25 years. HOWEVER, I do research for my family, and that includes for cousins and other branches of the family and its business. I'm also the family historian and photo archivist. I am expected to show them a budget , take classes on stocks, bonds and other wealth management issues, and volunteer. Unlike this guy, I could care less about impressing the neighbors and my best friend, who also has quite a decent bank amount, and I LOVE to try and get good deals like going to second hand stores, coupons and more. Sure, we go to University Club and other more elegant places once in a while, but we are just as happy at the Diner down the street or the little hole in the wall coffee shop. We also both have pretty good morals and don't do drugs, steal, hurt others or the like. So, just wanted to say that not all folks are as purposefully obtuse as this kids was in the beginning of the film. Peace!!! Thanks for sharing your observations!

[@koisneurotypical]

No shame in the TJ Maxx game, Graham! And I love how the psychologist just cut to the chase and said "you mean gay" when his Mum said "his artistic side..." This Shrink is actually quite good- he really gets to the heart of our issues with spending and nurturing. I hope he's doing well- he seems like such a sweet guy who is just a bit misguided/enabled.

[@huxy6719]

I think he's made dramatic changes, good for him. He obviously cares about his mum and its lovely to see their relationship changing for the better.

[@jenniebugs1]

It was heartening to see him start to take control of his life. When he looks back at his reckless spending days, he will have realised how unhappy he really was then. Now he and his mum have a good relationship and he has grown up and taken responsibility for himself, which is extremely empowering. Well done Graham! (Don’t listen to the trolls on here!)

[@joycenyangweso9377]

Soo true.. He is a sweet young man who just needed smone to reach out.

[@kentuckynanasaves1903]

Yes, The Truths will set you 🆓️❣.... this is a Awesome show to turn live around n put families back together n at peace 😇💭❣... Hes a very well mannered n responsible man in the end 👏🛍👏❣... Even carried himself with self pride not spoiled bought pride✔❣

[@heidiol4194]

"he was artistic" .... "you mean gay" LOL

[@MSulaimanAwful]

33:14 hahaha i liked the way the camera zoomed slowly into the host's smiling face

[@hunt4malikah37]

BRUH!!!! 🤣🤣😂😂👀💀💀💀

[@hairproducts7637]

Truth

[@UsernameUnkwn21]

@@fatmarlowe relax yourself..there is always someone who THINKS they are the socially correct police.. just worry about yourself and not what anyone else says and YOU would be a happier person

[@TheRisky9]

@@fatmarlowe So, associating gays with good qualities is now homophobic? I'll add that to my list of things I need to be offended by. "Everytime someone calls me artistic." If that's homophobic, then what the hell do you call making decisions for all of us? I say that's more damaging than assoiciating artistic with being gay.

[@crisserrol9255]

For a fashion guy he doesn't have a lot of style.

[@JackiHamm]

Criss Errol right? He looks homeless.

[@gwyn9846]

@@JackiHamm Technically, he is homeless.

[@kdp8133]

Lol. It is a long time ago

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

2005 tho. This was quite stylish in 05

[@Theforsakenmedia]

This is old, so he actually dresses pretty typical of people back in the early 2000s. He has a flip phone if you didn't notice :p

[@Europa1749]

The mother could stop this. I don't have any sympathy for her because she allows it to happen.

[@gobnaitaine2791]

He seems like a lovely man underneath all the spending. He's obviously making an effort to change and realises the way he is treating his mother is wrong. I hope he is happy and well today.

[@LisavanderHulst]

Satin Perfume I totally agree with you

[@SuperJajaco]

He is so fake

[@ManOGatt]

I was thinking the same thing

[@rebeccahoward4708]

1 out of 25 comments that point out positive and actually see these people as human. The other commentators are hateful towards this really good story and the people who benefited from this experience. Thanks for your comment.

[@gobnaitaine2791]

@@rebeccahoward4708 It's easier to judge than to think. ❤️

[@tanya_france59200]

Personally, I like this guy. He has a lot of positive things about him. And I believe he is a good friend and person which needs to stay away of some ‘users’ / fake friends who are enjoying spending his money (his mom’s money) .

[@kenella74]

This was my 5th year art teacher Eileen gartside, she was an amazing teacher, she had a step daughter who she spent most of her time with on things to do with the carnival like making her carnival queen, she was a bonny young girl I think called melanie and younger brother Alan, I miss mrs Gartside and her personality she was quite strict but funny, graham was a bit of a loner at school used to carry a briefcase around and was bullied quite a lot, he lives in the same town as me now in fact next door to my mother in law, it's a small world, Mrs Gartside has unfortunately passed away but she will be sadly missed by many and Graham lives with his boyfriend now

[@kentuckynanasaves1903]

Thank you so much for the update , #RIHMUM😇 ... I'm happy to see they were at peace with it all b4 her passing n him being in debt😉💭❣ Hope he's living his best life 🆓️ from all the weight of his childhood 😘 n doin what he loves to do, n saving 💲🤑💲❣...

[@sidstovell2177]

Thanks for the update. Good news.

[@janetwestwood9194]

🫡✌️❣️🇬🇧

[@gwyn9846]

He should get himself a sugar daddy and get off his mum's bank account.

[@youremybiggestfan]

Hey do you know if hes still looking for a sugar deddy?

[@gwyn9846]

@@youremybiggestfan Are you offering?

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

Gwyn Meade surprised he doesnt

[@whatshisname3304]

go from one parasitic relationship to another. good advice. He should get a job in the fashion industry. he does have a degree.

[@kivalily]

it really would be that easy for him

[@ShaneyYbohh]

He’s obviously got deep rooted issues but when he was presented with the challenge of living off a small amount of money he didn’t complain and got on with it

[@cartoonjunkie7411]

yep - I loathed him in the beginning but he really, really wanted to try to get it done and he did.

[@taraalan1131]

cartoon junkie Yes - I admired how he tackled the challenge. He’s a nice guy whose mum has a lot to answer for. He seems insecure and lacks confidence.His self esteem is at rock bottom.

[@kylieryan3523]

Graham is a darling. Hes really working to change things and he owns up to his actions. He must have felt really sad as a kid

[@dandylionriver]

I'm so proud of Graham. I feel him and his mother really learned something about each other. Cheers to them both.

[@marykrisuy3305]

Benjamin did well here. The truth is, not everyone has a decent friend or family member they can talk to about life and issues. It’s always easier to avoid direct confrontation BUT it really is SO IMPORTANT TO TALK and share ❤️

[@logical1291]

I feel so bad for him. All he needed was love and affection from his mother. Please people, love your children. Spend quality time with them. ❤️❤️❤️

[@sotafats]

Well said 👏 👌 👍

[@patricioeltoro1985]

I wonder would his friend's still hang out with him if he stopped spending on them? I think they just use him!!

[@vladimator1842]

Patricio El Toro You’re damn right!! He’s a soyboy with a rich mother and an inherited genetic stupidity and early permanent disrupted maturity past the possibility of reform!

[@patricioeltoro1985]

@@vladimator1842 Heard his a chef now cooking good food so goodluck to him. I think the credit boom that happened during that era didn't help. Always pay cash and if you don't got it learn to deal without it!!

[@amopotato7953]

@@patricioeltoro1985 Exactly.

[@natashanagy1117]

As he deserves to be used, sadly

[@JULIAN8845]

this is why gay street has died it was full of these idiots financing it

[@susanbridges931]

As a shopping addict also, I was so impressed with how hard Graham was working at getting better. keep it up.

[@minaermelyn]

He seems so sweet but so insecure. You can tell he's not spending for the luxury, he's buying attention and compliments. And once shown how to change, he immediately gets on with it. I really hope he's well today, I felt so sorry for him.

[@zebsolaria4763]

And now he’s finding out who his real friends are...

[@miickiie97]

He doesn’t know fashion he just walks in to a high end store and buys whatever because he assumes the more expensive the more fashionable.

[@joziemelugin4857]

You right 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@cleombangi3081]

True

[@sairysv8625]

Yep. He even went to school for it!!

[@barb-jm7990]

He knows fashion. He has just been in the habit of letting the employees do the work. They were giving him the attention that the 13-year-old Graham inside craved so much.

[@javiermendoza5173]

FACTS!

[@causetheplumstasteyum7848]

Can't feel at all sorry for anyone in this situation both him and his mother need to grow a pair.

[@lauragwillim1055]

Just Some Guy she hasn’t saved for retirement and she wishes to retire in 5 years??? And she’s an art teacher. Her retirement will not be fun.

[@shaybob1711]

"both him and his mother need to grow a pair" - which is what the entire video was about. Did you even watch the entire thing or did you just comment based on the title and first 5 minutes of the video?

[@shaybob1711]

@@causetheplumstasteyum7848 ahh, a troll. No worries. I sincerely hope whatever led you to being an internet troll gets better and you find some personal peace one of these days.

[@causetheplumstasteyum7848]

@@shaybob1711 Na cmon , if your gonna diss me son , don't go off topic and ignore it , do it properly , You asked, questioned my comment and in to which i replied yes , within the first 5 minutes , so hit me up on that and give me some info as you clearly had some , if your just gonna go with " ah a troll " I give up cause someone challenged me and i literally shat my pants and don't know what else to do ? come on young man , You asked if i watched the whole thing , perhaps you could elaborate some what on some of that other content , maybe drop a convo / topic in we can disuss ? I'l give you abit to think up a sensible reply ok boi ? :) x

[@gracedupfol9190]

So happy for him that he want a change and not willing to blame his mom for everything Good for him 👏👏👏

[@barb-jm7990]

I'm very proud of Graham! His spending problem started with something that was totally out of his control when a young teen and just became a familiar cycle until the experts pointed it out and helped the cycle to stop. Graham was very positive through out the difficult process and seems so grown up now. I'm very, very impressed! And, I loved the shirt he designed! He has a bright future!

[@annamariaagatha9392]

I love this boy/man. As soon as he got insight in himself and his unconscious motivation for his behavior he seriously was busy changing it. Childhood experiences do have big impact later in life. Mom is responsible too and both have to work it out in order to have a loving relationship again.I think they both are lovely people! And handsome too! He can make big money with all his qualities and feel proud of it. Thank you Graham and your mother for being so open about yourself. We all can learn from it !

[@sarahking4993]

At first I thought he seemed bratty but I'm thinking he's actually a pretty kind guy who had to deal with a lot in childhood because of his "demeanor", as Mum puts it. It sounds like he was abused at least emotionally. A lot of his spending seems to be motivated by wanting to be accepted (nice clothes, taking his friends out). I don't think he's spoiled, I think he's hurting. Wish I could give him a hug. ❤

[@margaretr5701]

He's successful now😊

[@zoeschoolstuff6919]

@@margaretr5701 what's he doing?

[@amopotato7953]

Well put.

[@lyndamulder6103]

I wish I could hug his mother !

[@whiterose6635]

Agree seems him mum prioritised a man abusive partner over her kids. I have no sympathy for her

[@waffler3174]

look i don't feel bad for his mother at all, this is all her own fault

[@gobnaitaine2791]

I agree, all she has to do is say NO!

[@rose_thee_stallion]

Definitely. Notice how this channel seem to upload vids from years ago ? This one 2005 😑

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

skp yeah like if some boyfriend didn’t like my kid, he’d be packing his ass off to exville

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

Satin Perfume that’s not even the worst of it. When he was 13, mum had a boyfriend who didn’t like him and instead of leaving the boyfriend, she paid the kid off so he’d put up with it.

[@brookslew]

Yes. His mom is an enabler. I have zero sympathy for her.

[@derinaries]

Hes too old to behave they way he does. He seems to think hes cute too. Which he isnt.

[@mr.sleepy4534]

He's most likely trying to fill a hole with his spending. Also, they way he treats his mates to round after round of drinks. Tells me he's lonely and needs their affirmation.

[@disabledbabe]

@@el-maiki Everything doesn't need to be a mental disorder. He is just a spoiled brat.

[@pinklotus2443]

@@disabledbabe lol I agree!

[@derinaries]

heehee mefunny I dont mean cute physically, I mean he thinks his behaviour is cute.

[@GEricG]

@@el-maiki you have no way of knowing that.

[@karinrackley4756]

He was left alone as a child while his mother chose a boyfriend over him, and gave him money to make herself feel better. No wonder!!!

[@chelseaogbo6421]

Lol So she should get a BF because she has a child? She was a woman and still is a woman before she became a mum. Lol no one is saying shit about the dad. She raised her child the best way she could and shouldn't be held to your standards just because you think all mums should be a certain way.

[@mrknarf4438]

Looking for a new partner to have your child raised by two parents may be better for the child. But there has to be an equilibrium.

[@_.WildMoonChild]

@@chelseaogbo6421 She shouldn't have chosen a man who did not enjoy the company of her children... Your children are your 1st priority. If your partner does not enjoy your children, then they're probably not the person for you. (This goes for both men and women).

[@truebluewonderful]

It's becoming clear to me that the partner of the mother at that time was more important to her than the wellbeing of her sons. That always ends negatively for the children. He needs good therapy.

[@truebluewonderful]

@Anon Anon When it's obvious, according to you, what mental health issues do you mean?

[@gimmesometruth9507]

He's a grown man, not a child

[@beatyea5711]

his clothes dont even look expensive.

[@darkclouds5261]

yep

[@B33333]

YeS!! Very cheap styles 😭👗

[@Theforsakenmedia]

Early 2000s clothing at it's finest.

[@shannon2748]

Many designer labels are just ugly, overpriced clothes that some poor kid slave in a sweatshop made.

[@ggl2947]

That's the hobo style that was trendy about 15 years ago even top sportmen and top models dressed like that

[@gwendolyn0515]

How does he not feel bad spending his mom's money? I mean, it's her fault she raised him like this, but he is almost 30 ffs, it's time to grow up

[@shannon2748]

Well...I know a guy who turns 49 end of this month and he has himself a 68 year old sugar daddy who carries him through life. before that, he sold drugs and bummed off his parents and other people...never worked a day in his life mostly.

[@davidbown2707]

He needs to Grow up geez

[@PigSty1985]

You didn't live his life. Perhaps it's better not to be so judgemental. Different environments breed different outcomes. It seems your comment comes from a sense of superiority but i can very well say is utterly unfounded. He probably emerged a stronger and better person than most of us will ever be. If you do have issues some day, i hope no one comes to you with "ffs, everyone else can do it, why can't you?" Cheers.

[@iaindennis3321]

All that money and he still looks a mess.

[@tobiassl8011]

Iain Dennis you gotta remember this was a while ago, fashion was weird back then.

[@JuicedUpLemon]

@@tobiassl8011 But as a fashion major, you'd think he'd see what was wrong with that grungy style of the early 2000s and try to move away from it. Instead he just tacked on more tacky. And that haircut?😬

[@marybetheby5184]

Yup...a total fruit cake...

[@diannt9583]

I like the haircut. About the only thing I like about him.

[@casadelshed9128]

His dad needs to give him a good bitch slapping.

[@sonjabrisson8318]

I'm now quite addicted to this series. What's interesting is how different people's faces look at the end of the process. Graham looks so much happier and softer -- less stressed, but I'm sure he's working much more. Well done, Graham!

[@deborahwatson2432]

Graham is such a sweetheart I just want to give him a hug! His mum gave him money instead of her time and affection.Loved watching his journey to being an adult Wishing him only success for his future! 💋💋

[@ShevonMill]

Mum’s teacher’s salary...how can she consistently fund both their lifestyles?

[@debbieherrera1605]

Think it’s partly her husband’s money. It’s the only thing that makes since.

[@dezsprison2605]

As a recovered addict of 7 years hes spent QUADRUPLE what I have spent each year on drugs AND MYSELF, This is UNREAL!! I am so glad I have a better life now! I NEVER want to EVER be like this EVER! I'm SOOOOO glad I grew up and got clean!!! Ugh it makes me sick to my stomach.

[@blueberry6000]

Great Going. God bless you

[@lolly5453]

1Mommy Dez - congrats on getting and staying clean, it’s great to hear you battled thru and that you’re in a better place 😊 wishing you all the best for the future, you definitely deserve it 👍🏼♥️

[@jaanajaana5771]

Depends what drug is these are, bit if a gap between meth and say heroin

[@GrayWoIf]

When they show the mobile phones you realize this was filmed in the dark ages

[@Daddystank88]

The hair cuts too are 2000's

[@MomoKunDaYo]

This is maybe 10 years old lmao.

[@MomoKunDaYo]

How old are you? 11?

[@Daddystank88]

@@MomoKunDaYo 2005 according to the roman numerals at the end of the show MMV. When I was 18...ahh the good old days.

[@shitzuation]

Craig Young 👏😂

[@torchetiffany]

So proud of Graham he really did a 360 and I feel sorry for how alone he felt as a child, but I think he will really be ok and has such a good heart❤

[@ajronlejdi2525]

360 is going back to where he started. Just saying.

[@joey1723]

I think you mean 180 😊

[@hanabbe]

I respect Graham for reaching out and accepting help. His Mother stepped up too. Well done.

[@ashleyzheng2244]

He’d be close to buying a car if he saved a years worth of taxi money

[@anniespencer7879]

In his case I agree. But don't judge us all the same. I have mobikity problems and can't get to the end of the block without panicking that i'm going to fall. So taxis are the only option for me.But I pay for my own transport. This man should not be taking his mum's money. She needs to stop him bullying her (bullying can be verbal as well as physical.) And not finance him. I think he has a mental problem her. I hope he can change.

[@edster8416]

Thing is he stays close to the big city. 10 minutes walk is a good way to move around and it's good exercise. Unlike some places there are highways so there's no choice u need a vehicle to move around.

[@aishamohammad]

I feel for him. Put the spending apart, he is a sweet person. I wish him all the best and get more presence than present. You can do it Graham. Well done!

[@margieniles7324]

He would be pretty cute if he didn’t talk and act like a girl 😟😟

[@Ida-Adriana]

Mum: he was the artistic type... Therapist: you mean gay.

[@Phenurb]

that was so unprofessional... smh

[@goodgood9955]

@@Phenurb yes, a little unprofessional. He could have put it better: 'By 'artistic' are you refering to his sexuality perhaps?

[@liesdamnliesandstatsweird1934]

+ NVR Mnd Yep, you called it correctly!!!

[@terose6456]

I watch what I say to others. But sometimes we just have to be told the plain unvarnished truth. And usually when this happens it does not make us feel comfortable, it's not meant too. It's meant to make us think. Maybe if this lady had not had rose coloured glasses on concerning her grown son they would not have been in this situation. Because he would not have taken her through this without her consent. He may not have even considered it if he had been told a few truths along the way.

[@zakiscool49]

Saying gay instead of beating around of the bush as if her child is different or not normal is more comfortable for the mom, he said it deliberately.

[@wunderbex8755]

I am very proud of him! What a remarkable change! Change like that doesn't just happen, it's something he wanted and he worked for it. Good on you, Graham!

[@christinedrummond4040]

The best part about Graham is how he admitted to his problems, is willing to change, and then stuck to that commitment! Yes, he was on the wrong path, but he listened to criticism and was eager to listen to solutions and find his own to get him onto the right path. Hopefully, he and his mom were able to continue to work on their emotional issues and relationship. They both seemed to have some great breakthroughs when they understood what behaviours were creating the problem. Wishing them all the best. :)

[@suey8227]

I really enjoyed this episode and watched it from start to finish. And, i think Graeme should be damn proud of himself - he took on the challenge and did amazing! Good on you : )

[@anniespencer7879]

I was cross with him until I realised he's making an effort to change.

[@angelsyna]

Ok, i was curious about Graham today and did a random search of Graham Spendaholics. What I found surprised me nicely, it seems he did get good career in fashion and now manning his own poutine bar (which look quite delicious!) Happy for you Graham 😊

[@Jesus420.69]

Poutine in England?! Sounds like a risky business happy it worked out for him

[@kentuckynanasaves1903]

Thats Awesome, thanks for update 😉💭 saving bought him a business that will support his life 👏😇❣

[@shreem6913]

@@Jesus420.69 tbf, anywhere northern in England is probably better than Canada for a poutine business lol. Cheesy chips and gravy is the dish of kings up there

[@nanalenox932]

Great people, i loved their attitude and willingness to change and improve. This is a great episode!

[@k_tubbs]

I'm always so proud of the people in this series. And this one in particular. He was so open minded and willing. And it's obvious that his childhood stuff was the real cause of the breakdown with his mother which was just exacerbated by her enabling him instead of fixing that breakdown. He literally had all the card stacked against him. How many people would just keep spending their parents money if their parents just kept giving it go them and they didn't have a great relationship or level of respect for their parent. I think most people would, in that situation, take advantage. So I'm very impressed that he's made a change. And especially because he wanted to. His mom didn't put him on the show. He willingly participated. And he put in the work, literally, by actually working. Good on him.

[@sherylcoetzer1]

He is a great example to other young people. It was always in him; he just needed someone to point him in the right direction. I believe this is true for many young people.

[@hannahveasey2532]

The first ten minutes I thought What a Tool... But watching it to the end I changed my mind... He's a nice, kind, generous, thoughtful young man who tried his hardest to make this work and it did change his ways. The psychology behind it all was very interesting... And thank goodness mother and son faced up to it and resolved things. I wish him all the best, he came across as lovely in the end.

[@margaretr5701]

He has a business with a partner in London

[@cartoonjunkie7411]

Yeah, total 180 for me by the end

[@janmarchand7294]

I'm a mother and I couldn't believe his mom was still not willing to do something fun and hang out with him. Perhaps she should "talk" to someone herself. He's such a handsome fun young man I would be proud to call him my son.

[@gobnaitaine2791]

I was thinking that. Throwing money at him instead of spending time with him. He even asks her all the time and she declines! I found that heartbreaking. Hopefully today they both have a better relationship. We only live once after all and life is short. 🙏

[@sandragruhle6288]

Jan Marchand If you have a healthy bank account, I’ll bet you could have him!

[@nadia11070]

Seems like a very nice guy! Inside him a deluge of tears is ready to break, tears that he has been holding back for so long. He is only broken and he did seem to be willing to repair. His fashion style is everyone talking about, but I couldn't stop looking into his eyes. I hope he is doing g8 today!

[@mglynn4450]

I'm so proud of him for turning it around. So often we try to fill these depths within us with material things when we just need to do the work emotionally. No amount of money can make up for being present with your child.

[@NoahSaintJames]

"Graham's got a fashion degree..." Well, that explains his lack of income.

[@projectkj7643]

She seems to enjoy having him still on the teet. She's an adult, not a victim.

[@according2paro]

I don't know why everyone iseh so mean in the comments. This is one of the best spendoholics episodes where there is actually a positive note for the future.

[@rebeccahoward4708]

I agree.

[@taraalan1131]

according2paro Me too . It’s not about the money. He seems isolated and his mum will give him anything but her time. He’s thriving on the attention he’s getting from the team and trying so hard. He may even be punishing his mum for neglecting him.

[@user-jy3zl2vp4b]

As I read the nasty comments I am realizing those making the comments didn't finish watching it. How people feel entitled to comment without watching the entire episode is deplorable. Before any of us comment on any topic you should have enough sense to gather as many facts as you can....in this case, watch the ENTIRE segment.

[@unicornicequeen7952]

Those shoes don't even look like they feel good.

[@sheila7909]

Yeah where would you even wear them

[@beebles3]

They certainly don't look good

[@user-jy3zl2vp4b]

Really loving the way the therapist handled this! Just an amazing job at getting to the problem and calmly addressing both Mom and Son to come to see the light. Such a delicate touch you have! May you never lose that skill!

[@cakemixondarise]

He’s so sweet. He seems like a good person. You’re strong and you can do this! Just keep going and believe in yourself. Know that you’ll lose friends but, continue to communicate with your mother. She loves you more than life itself. Good luck to you ❤️😘🎂🧁

[@juliearnold5065]

I feel sorry for him. He is trying to replace things for love and attention that he did not get from his mom.

[@liesdamnliesandstatsweird1934]

+ Julie Arnold This bum is not a child, ergo, he deserves no sympathy. He needs to be forced to grow the frakk up.

[@velvet2406]

Were is his biological dad...could be the cause

[@laneyperkins840]

@@liesdamnliesandstatsweird1934 yes and it is his responsibility, but his mom is a horable parent who clearly shouldn't have given him all the money when he was a kid, it was her fault he was like this.

[@rinapop2681]

Don't, he's a grown man , he should know better

[@jrtheg1235]

@@velvet2406 The dad is not on the scene obviously , he is not mentioned at all so i doubt it .

[@maureenu3047]

Can I be adopted by his mom? I'm only 39...

[@truebluewonderful]

😂

[@aobacuteness3443]

This is what happens when you spoil your kids parents!

[@pauljordan4452]

Put a comma between kids and parents.

[@veronamartin5285]

I wish him all the best. He will find his way & become independent. Someone had to open his eyes. Better now than later. Hope he can form a more personal bond with his family that doesn't include money from Mum whenever he wants it. My ex-husband is a shop- aholic. It's what broke us up. I am currently in bankruptcy dealing with the aftermath. Good luck to Graham, he can change his ways with the right emotional support.

[@xokellymariexo]

So glad that he actually made the changes! Well done to him!

[@jocefjose6004]

Eww. I would be ashamed to flex a credit card wherein im not the principal cardholder. For a fashion designer, he should design himself a pair and grow up lol

[@samdasilva1914]

He I not a fashion designer, he did a course in fashion. Completely different

[@deborahdettor1694]

Very impressed with his cold turkey spending week! Very interesting realizing how some of the spending issues evolved. Nice job Graham!!!

[@sheila7909]

“This is the first time Graham has been on a bus in broad daylight” 😂 😆 I love a good bargain

[@brucebeamon5460]

Fantastic Story how Gram is learning to become INDEPENDENT and what was EVEN MORE SATISFYING was how Gram handled that DEADBEAT roommate, his STRENGTH in how he handled that situation was AWESOME . Seeing that side of him I’m positive he’ll be QUITE successful out in the working world

[@gerardinecizmar]

All he needed was some guidance and his life improved so much. He really wasn't a spoiled brat at all. I'm happy for him.

[@unicornicequeen7952]

Man he's spoiled.

[@SewTexas]

Mum is going to end up homeless and graham is laughing and this is not funny.

[@batheandrelaxinmyshit6344]

Are you transgender?

[@liesdamnliesandstatsweird1934]

+Renee Slarve Baby Graham clearly does not care about his mother. 🤦🏽🤦🏽🤦🏽

[@rudeanne]

It’s a nervous laugh. People tend to show various stress indicators when you’re unpacking their deepest flaws, insecurity, and entire life on national (at the time) broadcast. If it was malicious laughter, there’d be a lot less openness, progress, and actual change. He would’ve continued to sabotage his mom, and in a plethora of other ways, besides financially.

[@Jillyjogs]

What a lot of unkind comments here! Firstly, I believe this was actually filmed around 2005, and for that time he is very stylish. Yes, he's leeched off his Mum for years, but why? Because she neglected him emotionally as a young man, and money became a replacement. He's come a long way, and should be really proud of himself. Have some compassion and understanding please people!

[@amopotato7953]

Agree.

[@adimulyono8741]

Why no one blame outside ppl

[@benedictjoseph3832]

Now you blame the mother.. in the western world for everything you come with some psychological reason.. I'm from asia...we say spade is a spade.. no matter what he came up with..cant he figure out between his mother's blind love and stupid money sucking friends..

[@amopotato7953]

He has finally grown up. Good for him. And, his mother.

[@drhintjens4915]

This was very touching indeed. This was amazing. Neither is really to blame, and glad they got out of that particular mess in one piece! Brilliant and widely relevant to other people I think. Graham wants love. We all do.

[@ryanking7532]

If u think this kid is greedy just look at the ten commercials put on this video by the channel lol

[@metalvideos1961]

Then use ad block

[@Altcine]

🤣🤣 best comment 👌🏾

[@SanJay-rx2td]

This was very insightful from the therapists point of view

[@patriciamaqueda2782]

I am glad that he is finding his way to be a independent person,

[@harriethunter8910]

What an amazing Lad Graham is. He turned his life around for the better and has made Mum proud. Good luck and God bless.

[@C.E.Thomas1952]

Benjamin and Jay. You are two wonderful people. Your understanding and compassion shine through the frustrations and challenges. What an inspiration for me. Thank you. I have learned a lot by watching these programmes.

[@kathyinwonderlandl.a.8934]

Graham I’m so damn proud of you!! Good job! Well done.

[@lauraweiss7875]

I didn’t realize middle school art teachers were paid so well.

[@icrissa]

I know right? Like she gave him 3000 pounds in a week how much money does this woman earn 😂

[@mnumzanemchunu776]

Remember that was back in 2004...

[@carolinepritchard3842]

Sad that she is dead now

[@Julie-bk9kn]

@@carolinepritchard3842 how do you know?

[@riseevolution]

@@carolinepritchard3842 he kill her with his desires of more

[@gonigeena]

I so miss early 2000s British TV

[@senoritaaurora5123]

Watching these makes me nostalgic

[@Hannah-ur3pt]

God this is so sad. My mother would never decline an effort to spend time together because she didn't want to. Poor Graham

[@Jjudes9665]

With all the negative comments here, very few people have actually tried to understand the roots of the fractured relationship between mother and son, and the reasons to why it came about. Rather than pick these two people’s faults apart, we should be praising the hard work they’ve put into making things right and repairing their fragile relationship. Too many of us are quick to criticise another’s faults without realising we have faults in our own relationships that have been repeatedly swept under the proverbial carpet. To bare deeply personal relationship issues on TV is not as easy as people think. Mother and son here have made remarkable progress, and have gained a much deeper love and respect for each other. Well done to both of them for getting the help they so desperately needed.❤️

[@natalieoliver3215]

This programme is years old!! Haven't seen a Netto for years.

[@juliagardner1383]

15 yrs

[@syahirahruslan6741]

It’s so nice to watch his progress through the weeks. He seems lovely & willing to change, just that he didn’t really have a clue how to before. Most of the comments in this section seems to have been made without actually watching the whole thing, which is incredibly annoying & shows that people are only interested in being mean.

[@1Tako1]

I really thought I was going to hate him but seeing how dedicated he is to change and how nice he seems, he's pretty cool!

[@DaisyShin7]

Good for Graham:) I'm so proud of him, to stay true to what he was taught to do..I hope the best for him!

[@brucebeamon5460]

I see MOST of these comments are negative , But from what I observed this is a of a person turning over a New leaf and learning how to be INDEPENDENT...I say hats off and bravo to Gram !

[@maylynbayani]

My mom give my 2 younger siblings a monthly allowance but she puts them to work. My sister does secretarial jobs for my mom, monitor my parent's health and liase with their doctors. My brother on the other hand is their full time driver on spring break and helps with the family business. My mom pay them by the hour. No work, no pay just like in the real world.

[@pinklotus2443]

I'm the opposite to him with the way I shop, I hate having shop assistants constantly there annoying me 😂

[@margieniles7324]

Yes exactly!!! As soon as shop assistants bother me I walk out! It’s sooo uncomfortable

[@mauriceosullivan6832]

He loves all that, the attention.

[@ziruiwang4806]

A baby in an adult man. This is why you don't spoil your child, especially if you are rich.

[@evanatbri-s13]

She is such a lovely soul!!! I would LOVE to be his friend! So sweet, fragile and pure!

[@bbjreioffice1567]

I'm so proud of him! I bet he feels so much more responsible and proud of himself! It's a good example!