Short Films About Mental Health - Personality Disorders

Short Films About Mental Health is a series of videos made with young people who use mental health services at Oxford Health NHS Foundation Trust.
Interviewer - Amy Burns
Monologue Voice Over - Amy Gill
Actor - Sofie Hartnell
Clinical Psychologist - Dr Stephanie Hunter
Dialectical Behavioural Therapist - Annya Alfoadari, DBT Lead Oxford Health NHS Foundation Trust
Clinical Psychologist Dr. Hannah Stratford Highfield Adolescent Unit, Oxford
With thanks to Dr Anthony James Consultant Psychiatrist Highfield Adolescent Unit, Oxford
Producer Stuart Hobbs Multi Media Project Lead Highfield Adolescent Unit, Oxford
MORE LINKS TO FOLLOW
www.oxfordhealth.nhs.uk
www.omhp.or.uk
www.nhs.uk
www.cochranelibrary-wiley.com
www.anxietyuk.org.uk
www.samaritans.org
www.barnardos.org.uk
www.mentalhealth.org.uk
www.thecalmzone.net
www.nationalelfservice.net
www.time-to-change.org.uk
www.headstogether.org.uk
www.rethink.org
www.blurtitout.org
www.uk.movember.com
www.nspcc.org.uk
www.ywmp.org.uk
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[@Future5305]

Over three years now i have been waiting for this treatment. The NHS can make a pretty video but that is about all. If you are the uk and cannot afford private treatment, well you are left behind.

[@Anon-xd3cf]

Exactly... What the NHS (and more commonly the government) don't tell the general public is that, if a therapy or treatment is made available to NHS patients in a few locations in England...the government then claims that that treatment or therapy is therefore *available on the NHS in the UK* God help you, if you're not a registered patient within 20 miles of one of the limited number of places offering treatment...coz then your are royally Effed.

[@Brookknight]

I'm the same. There is nothing around me (south wales) that specialises in BPD. It's hard.

[@yasmineafifi4514]

Future5305 yup. (Potential trigger warning) My pain was ignored and put down to me overreacting. I went into therapy when I was 13 but only because I was self harming and was on the brink of attempting suicide. My therapists kept changing and were very inconsistent and would often give me bad advice that made my situations worse. I attempted suicide a countless number of times and everyone in my life basically said I was a good for nothing attention seeker. Now that I’m 18 i have taken matters into my own hands and finally have a BPD and dissociative disorder diagnosis and I should be getting the official proof letter soon. It has taken months and literally pushing every medical professional I saw and I’m exhausted bu I’m almost there now. Stay strong everyone going through the NHS- you got thisss x

[@Brookknight]

@@yasmineafifi4514 I've got the official diagnosis, still no help around where I am. I'd have to pay private, even then I would still have to travel.

[@yasmineafifi4514]

tashy260291 honestly it’s so frustrating. Every time it feels like there’s progress being made someone leaves etc and then you have to restart the whole thing- and I live near places I could get treatment too!

[@yoannabailey3702]

I already knew I had bpd but hearing her talk made me cry.. everything she said I feel and it feels amazing to have someone word it for you

[@Sk-kc7yi]

When I heard her say it I felt the egzact same it’s good to know your not alone

[@mentalhealthandus-tz8tl]

Definitely comforting know others go through it. Dbt really does work if you can get it. It’s changed my life for the better. I still have it and it still affects me but just not to the extent it used to. I used to be in constant crisis until I was given dbt. E

[@Sameoldfitup]

“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams..

[@porshalouise3209]

"Feel like I'm watching myself from across the room" oh god how relatable is that

[@mstrwul1]

I get this. I hid my ptsd and severe depression for many years. I tried to act normal but inside I was falling apart. So this then developed into a personality disorder. The most trivial thing can have a major effect on me. I had to resign from my job due to my diagnosis.

[@deren2001]

oh God you sound like me....I'm not diagnosed though. Hope you are doing better now

[@mollygracex]

Me watching this... relating to things I thought only I knew about and nobody else felt 👁👄👁

[@Sk-kc7yi]

I feel u on this it’s hard tbh

[@mentalhealthandus-tz8tl]

It’s very relatable... but knowing you are not the only one helps. E

[@Smurfis]

It’s really eye opening

[@llewellynrisselin6069]

Amen

[@georgiabradley1712]

Yes I certainly struggle with this emotions r so impactful n people don’t realise it, people can take the ability to manage for granted like someone who can n can’t walk n then people use the term dramatic n it really upsets me because they have no idea what that person is feeling so they can’t make that judgement n they may be ‘dramatic’ but how they feel is that way as well, the stigma really needs to go away, emotions can be a big issue n people shouldn’t judge or brush under the carpet and your definitely not alone x

[@ashskullcrush6112]

The second lady that spoke has such a soothing voice 😌

[@radhikapatel8065]

Mental health is a condition that is caused in the brain it can affect feelings, thoughts and emotions. WARNING : mental health is not joke it’s a serious matter that will have to face and deal with it.

[@damiesapphire2643]

i push people away so i don't need to be afraid of abandonment

[@belle3055]

I reject people before they reject me

[@savannahb123456789]

If I feel someone losing interest, I will either desperately try to keep them or cut them off before they have the chance. I also have so many clothes because I change my personality and my looks a lot. I am able to switch between personalities so quickly depending on who I’m around. Which personality will they like. When I’m alone, I don’t really know who the fuck i am. I also never take my anger out on another person, just myself. It sucks to have these overwhelming feelings that I can’t control. I feel a strong need to control others emotions toward me. I get really frustrated if I can’t.

[@aeqvl502]

oh my god it must be so rough, babes your not alone💟🤍..!

[@rubyredfrog]

Me too

[@marquaywashington6920]

Omg that first scenario describes me exactly on point...everything is starting to make sense now.

[@Sameoldfitup]

(The Roots Of My Personality Disorder) At the age of 7 years old I was betrayed by my father & abandoned on the street. My step mother took me along to social services & left me outside the building. I spent the first year with a foster family but then snatched away and placed in a children's home, a year later they moved me to another children's home where i lived for 8 years. I spent most of my school years looking out of the classroom windows day dreaming & wishing the day would go fast. I left school & the children's home with no life skills at all. From the age of 5 to 7 years old i knew only abuse at the hands of my step mother & her children.

[@lotxs]

That's sad i hope you are doing well....be strong ohkkk😘💛 if you ever feel low you can talk to me❣😊

[@Maria_9789]

Hope you doing well. You need to talk? I am here!!

[@BrendenNichols]

Not to discredit or take away from the content in the video, but the title says "personality disorders" which led me to believe more than BPD would be discussed in this short documentary. Title it Borderline Personality Disorder instead in order to avoid misleading future viewers.

[@jjadac3529]

Could you guys make a short film about Histronic personality disorder, I don't see enough people talk about it and I wish more people knew about it.

[@JGreen1]

Especially when it comes to personality disorders. Working in yourself, therapeutic input. Behavioural therapy. Knowing that there is more to you than this disorder is key. Medication will only take you so far if you are not willing or able to realise that how you behave and think is not normal and that you have to want to change, you need to take radical progressive steps to purge your mind and heart from this

[@user-qk7yy8xi3q]

I know how that feels from feeling fine happy with people and if they change on me even when I have not done anything to them it makes me sad and distressed.

[@hearme4581]

I love the way this was done

[@monukhan4992]

Thanks

[@alexwilliams5223]

I suffer with eupd so this is really helpful

[@alwaysbeeurself]

I get that we can just say personality disorders are people just coping, but this frame of mind only works for those that don't get abused. Once abused, screw that, they are a problem, to disagree means you simply haven't been abused, or not abused bad enough, so then it will be easy to think of this in non-stigmatizing way. Not everyone with a personality disorder are abusive, but many are.

[@karenmartin4479]

Everything that girl was saying sounds just like me I felt so alone now I know there is others out there going through the same Gob bless you all xx

[@Anon-xd3cf]

This *soft spoken* means of communication is an out dated mode of discourse that needs to change. I understand some of the reasons for it to be the default starting tone but generally it sounds strained and disingenuous. 1:00 - 4:46 *soft-speak example* 8:31 - 14:29 *respectful empathic tone example* Please tell me its not just my BPD brain that finds the tone in the first example a little insulting.

[@Poopi2]

i agree but I also have BPD... it makes me feel ridiculed. Am I taken seriously? Do you understand me or do you pretend to do so? Are you looking down on me? I get those kind of thoughts.

[@Anon-xd3cf]

@@Poopi2 I've dealt with my own BPD long enough... I don't have those thoughts so much anymore. But that tone makes my skin crawl.

[@stefaniehello1]

I am glad that i'm not the only one that is bothered by this tone. It's nauseating. I have autism, ptsd, depresion and dd. So i don't think that it's insulting because of your BPD. I think it's insulting because she needs to learn how to talk to people like a normal person.

[@mozarellaist]

Yes! It feels like the person is either putting on a character, or just talking to you like you're a complete idiot. It's usually paired with them looking at you with this intense pity/belittling look in their eyes. Very degrading.

[@ruthanna4713]

It comes across as very infantilizing and condescending. It's clear that the intention is to 'provide the level of care and acceptance that people suffering from x need'. Completely underscoring their actual prejudice.

[@jrrs2113]

I have eupd aspd and cyclothmia and they really don't help alot

[@dillonhughess]

Thank you for this!! This is amazing I can really understand what having BPD is like :(

[@coreyanderson7424]

They each, (especially the cluster b pds), are very predictable once a person has a full enough and accurate understanding of what that personality disorder is. Because they all have a set of traits that are predictable. In other words, someone will be able to accurately predict how a person with NPD, for example, will behave, and/or how he or she will act in response to a situation. Many people have a lack of understanding of what is actually meant by the traits. So they hear or read, or both, what the traits of a particular personality disorder are, yet, they misinterpret them, what they really mean, and misapply them sometimes. However if someone does understand what the traits are and how they actually work, then the formula has been discovered, so to speak. It is really important to understand that for people because they will eventually meet someone who has a personality disorder. At work, at play, at home. People who have NPD or Anti Social Personality Disorder, for instance, can be problematic, or dangerous, even.

[@aliceloveday785]

This is so relatable, I've heard about DBT but I don't feel that is offered much in the UK?

[@mentalhealthandus-tz8tl]

I think you have to be severe (or what the nhs categorise as severe) to get DBT. As it’s not widely available it hard to get the treatment. I was lucky to have dbt on the nhs. It’s changed my life, for the better. Definitely look into trying to get it. E

[@BlackLightning325]

story of my fucking life lol this is all completely a perfect description of my life.

[@lucywhitaker407]

YES I really like this 😊 I have Borderline Personality Disorder I've had it since 2010. I can really relate to this. Xxxx

[@TARP..]

There was this time where iyd say AHH really loud like more of a scream atleast 25 times in 10 mins talking but it lasted 2 months I got rid of it with a well...but I sometimes I get it but only for a hour or soo and I had it a few times for short periods of time before

[@DefinitelyNotTwitter]

Given that this was a short film about "personality disorders", I'm wondering what the state of treatment is for non-BPD patients in the NHS?

[@lawrencebishton9071]

mental elf,s is when my widgets wont,t wok in my show 🤣🤣

[@danielletope1347]

Whilst this video is so descriptive. I can’t help but wonder if anyone is aware that not all DBT treatment for BPD looks like this. I don’t have half of half was said and I know others who don’t even have it available in their area. Feel that this video is slightly misleading towards the end.

[@mayalove7751]

OH MY FREAKING GOODNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!@!!! I think I have BPD she literally describe the hell I go through

[@ShoGlizzyy]

Hi I thinkI do after watching this too sis, can we connect to talk about this?

[@mayalove7751]

ShoGlizzy sure thing

[@charliewilson9085]

it's understandable to think you may have it. i have been Diagnosed with BPD or EUPD and it's complicated to self diagnose it is a manic depressive disorder that also has many other symptoms so try to go to your doctor for help and potential diagnosis because it could be a different disorder

[@lolololololutrythcfy]

u should go to a doctor for a real diagnosis, bc bpd symptoms can overlap with other issues

[@ShonziTho]

@@lolololololutrythcfy how do you tell your doctor you think you have it without seeming like you're being a hypochondriac or pretending to have it? they dismiss me when i say i think i have a personality disorder and nothing was done. i need an assessment but i dont know how to

[@explorousu.k.7809]

My doctor isn’t getting it...I think I am going to just have to come out and tell her I need to see a psychiatrist and hope I get referred

[@KayAhern]

It’s astonishing for me to watch my mother repeatedly act with such immaturity and she never ever learns from her bad behaviour towards others . She been sued so many times and still repeats over stepping boundaries and getting into trouble with same errors and thwarted way of self adoration . She really doesn’t understand she’s not the centre of the universe and is unaware how spiteful with jealousy even with her own children. My brother bought a Caravan for his family for summer holidays and it’s bigger than hers. She ignored his calls for a year and insults him and lies about him telling the same bullshit she says about all of us behind our backs to our other siblings . Like she forgets we’ve heard all these lies before so many times. Like a spoilt brat teenagers that hasn’t his puberty yet and hates the world for it lol

[@charleebob08]

What's the point of this comment...

[@Hannah-cf2uo]

I’m 15, and relate to almost everything in this video. I’m pretty sure I have bpd, But am really afraid to bring it up to my therapist. It’s crazy to know that feeling this way isn’t “normal”. I also struggle with social anxiety, is this related to bpd?

[@Yesterdayz_Jam]

Hiya hannah i know u posted this a while ago but i just wanted to say that im literally in the exact same position as u im also 15 and debating if i should straight up tell my therapist "hey i think i have bpd" 😅 so ur not alone , also im pretty sure social anxiety does relate to the paranoia aspect of bpd but im not reliable lmao hope ur doing well thanks for sharing!!

[@daisyzapata5429]

YO SAME AGE, JUST REALIZED I PROBABLY HAVE IT IM SCARED BUT IM MORE SUPRISED AT THIS COINCIDENCE

[@420luvr8]

bpd isn’t usually diagnosed until a later age

[@pregerzoreo4886]

In the UK it would be diagnosed as emerging - emotionally unstable personality disorder

[@waffle2529]

I've heard from a BPD friend it is a lot harder to get help once you've been dxd with a personality disorder, due to stigma, so just be careful :( x

[@xrednot9pro457]

Hi, what would you do if the love one gone crazy and thinks that doctors and social services are EVIL and are trying to harm that person, moreover instead of going to doctor that person found cocaine dealer and gone crazy addicted to cocaine because it makes her feel confident and smart. If taken to hospital gets very aggressive and scared at the same time. Escapes from waiting room and lives in the bush for few days. What to do. How to help such person.

[@SomeGuy-cq3yv]

How can you see a complex personality disorder as a positive thing?

[@TARP..]

I think ppl who keep changing in any way enjoy nearly everything screams shouts self harm even

[@movingup2118]

Adults create personality disorders in their kids by not validat8their feelings. By laughing at them, by constantly pranking them ect. Children are not for entertainment

[@akirababy1981]

I've been told I'm 'too well' to get DBT despite my life being very much affected. Can't get support from mental health teams and went through minds matter only to be offered 8 CBT sessions which although good to talk to somebody, it made no real difference. Things seem to be getting harder as I get older, I can only hope that DBT becomes more available on the NHS as self funding is an impossibility 😞

[@GiraffeQueenUK]

Heard this line too. I'm sad to hear others are meeting the same struggles as me even when you speak out, equally I find some kind of comfort here knowing that maybe I'm not as alone in that as I feel. Wish you all the best on your journey @Kate Gee. 🤗

[@RK-ep8qy]

there are ways to give yourself CBT using online resources, might help if you're struggling to access services :(

[@Greggoggry]

I'm talking In CBT ... I need more.........I have Eupd

[@evie4365]

I'm the same

[@sabat8068]

How much costs one session with a therapist if private? Does anyone know?

[@krs2729]

Depends on where you live. In my city, its about $100- $150 per hour without insurance. $30 per hour with insurance.

[@blackjackmania9633]

Idk I have personality disorder but I haven’t gotten the right help

[@user-tm3vt6vm8e]

Blackjack Mania have you been diagnosed?

[@sabat8068]

Where I live it, experienced therapist costs £85 per h. But to be fair, she is highly qualified and have decades of experience.

[@DuenezCasey]

I'm actually in a dbt group that my medical assistance pays for

[@Glasgow328]

I have BPD and never got no help and lossed a child to social services threw having this I could not hate having this any more than I do because I can't control my emotions how do you think my head feels never mind telling me that I need help they never got me help taken my kid moved them to a total different part of the UK adopted him out and laugh at me after it Glasgow social workers for you , I went threw at 17 and for years later and still go threw each day of my life and no one will or wants to help with this mental illness ,I am now 27 , a d nothing had changed but me not having my child from he was 18 month because of this illness , I have a lot to ask someone about this mental health disorder if I could get the right person who knows a lot and I can relate to because I just can't seem to get the help I need ,

[@TARP..]

So do most ppl feel there manipulative oh yes I GUESS MOST GIRLS SAY THERE GOOD AT IT...YESS I MAINLY WANT PPL TO COPY ME WITH GOOD STUFF AND I FEEL ppl are giving me messages everyday IIT recently annoyed me once see iyd think someone's giving me a message and ignore it which would make me heartless and iyd spk louder cause it annoys me I feel ppl are helping me mainly

[@flyingpotatogamer0336]

My mental health workers and all that thought maybe I have MPD (DID) and or some kind of personality disorder how ever we have not gone on more then just saying I could have that becuase theres been sooo much so they wanted to take things 1 step at a time. With us we know there is 3 of us atlest but as I have got older their is more The kiddy, the adult and the main one are the most common so The kiddy is a 5yr old girl called jazz she especially likes to appear in the worst situations lol she loves all thing sensory and is just a little kid. The adult is a 20+yr old girl who atm hasn't got a name and is just referd to as adult 1 she likes to front when theirs anything concerning or issues with others and is just like a big mother although physically we 15 mentally when adult 1 fronts we are like a parent careing for kids so it can get rough when my actual parent or adult is trinna do something yet shes doing what she does and handle situations. Then u have me the main which is the one that fronts most and I'm 15yr old enby (non-binary) called kaylee but wanting to be called kay or kayden and I'm just like your average 15yr old so yeah. My newer ones are; Dark his name is shorted from darkness hes 16yr old and holds negative things and does the most harmful things to me and others and fronts when something maybe goin wrong and is very aggressive towards himself and others he dont rly care how old u r u start anything then shit will happen u make us upset or have a meltdown ww3 against ourself happens he also thinks hes biggest man alive but we know he defo ain't. Adult 2 is a 26yr old and is a fem boy they are the one that can become extreamly defensive and any slight thing can make them become extremely defensive and loves to take risks and is impulsive also they love things out doors and nature unlike rest us. So yh the reason people believe its DID becuase 1 its multiple and 2 it's not me idk what it is but that's what they think the reason especially for jazz and adult 1 is becuase when I was younger I had to grow up too quickly never had the proper childhood and now becuase for years I was like an adult that's for adult 1 but for jazz becuase I didnt have time to be a kid we believe that's why now I'm the way I am wiv her. Yh with jazz I defo think I age regress which means I'm more vulnerable when I'm jazz atm she doesnt front much becuase I try to not allow anything to help her front becuase I dont want anything bad to happen so I do allow her to front when I'm at home especially at night I have bunch sensory things and music all that helps her front and allowed her not to front as much all of a sudden but other times u cant help it I hope one day we can figure what's goin on and try find away to help me in the future so yeah fun times. Wiv dark and adult 2 they have come around from when I was 10+ this we think wiv dark its cuz we finally came home from being in care for so long when we got home we learned more about the past and dont wanna rember it. Then wiv adult 2 they like to keep me safe so adult 1 likes to keep others safe and protect others where adult 2 likes to protect me more and so if we feel anything like a threat towards us he fronts and takes over they like to try keep us out danger however doesnt do the best job at it and caused a thing wiv the police a few times. Fun life ay and although I have the most goin on in my own self my family like to come at me and or put everything down/ontop me all the time and its like I cant even cope wiv my own shit let alone ur guys shite so back off but no ofc. Hopefully one day we gent answers before it's too late

[@jessicarose8995]

Your not alone!! Definitely seems like (did) but that's just from a fellow multiple it took me over 15 years to get the right diagnosis stay strong!!! U will get awnsers it just takes forever it feels like

[@GiraffeQueenUK]

Skills Group.. "helps young people". Us oldies are just forgotten then? I've spoken out but to even get any kind of treatment or diagnosis is impossible. All my GP will offer is medication bcs they "don't offer what I need on the NHS."

[@DuenezCasey]

Skills groups are available for adults I found one on my own and my medical assistance here in Minnesota pays for it

[@cjshouseofcomedyandfreesty5219]

System of five

[@personalitydisorder-sirbri1294]

Is my personalty disorder rare or am I the only person with my comment my video.

[@richardlord9616]

What

[@deekum6557]

04:54 borderline

[@filteredvitaminsubstance8744]

is this a jojo reference?

[@allylou8514]

Just abuse on top of abuse stigma is unbelievable

[@JNate_Nair]

So this is how she became a "baddie"😢

[@hashirfazal4256]

Prove this

[@Shaun-cf8mz]

We don't really exist

[@stephenosborne9900]

My daughter has this always said my narcissist wife gave it to her

[@andreaqcapponi652]

I liked your content. I have been trying to research for a awesome vid similar to yours that really informs everything in this vid! 👍 The description at 1:24 is my favorite. Your breakdown is like the channel of Doctor Ethan. Dr Ethan's videos are for sure knowledgable and he helped me a lot on wellness! You should watch his KZbin out and give the med student a like! ➡️ #DoctorEthanStudent

[@thomasbingham2797]

In other words there is no help for us

[@Ladjgbsd6777]

Haha yeah

[@rosemorris1280]

This video is really informative. I've been trying to find for a knowledgable KZbin vid that breaks down the ideas in this video.Your vid totally reminds me of the videos of this informative Dr Ethan! Doctor's videos are actually informative and I learned a lot for my studies! He is a great Doctor! Go watch his page out and give the Doctor a like over here! 👉 #MedicalStudentEthan

[@rainbeau9752]

stop saying “young people “ as it discredits adults who recently discovered they’ve dealt with bpd all their life and didn’t know.

[@startrooper77]

be careful alot of the psychologists have NPD. Get real help from a therapist or a psychiatrist.

[@dam8695]

none of the above matters if male

[@allylou8514]

What load of rubbish