Should girls ask guys out?

[@nosivad_fishing]

Hey I really enjoy your videos:) looking forward to seeing your channel grow!! I love having a Christian couple to follow and learn future relationship information from😊😊Love you videos, keep it up!!!!!

[@alleyvallotton]

Aww, thank you!! We're excited to make more :)

[@nosivad_fishing]

Looking forward too watching them:)))

[@Jay4Grace]

I really enjoy those talk videos! 💞

[@alleyvallotton]

Yay! I am so glad 💕

[@m_jay5]

I'm a single guy in my 30s with high functioning autism, I would be absolutely taken aback in a very positive way if a woman made the first move on me!

[@lambo2655]

As a very timid guy around women, I would say YES women should approach us. There's often great potential BF and husband material hiding inside us shy guys. Women should adopt the modern version of the dropped hanky move.

[@a.d.7922]

how is a timid man can make good bf and husband if he so timid in life and obviously cannot achieve anything. Everything good takes risk (career, business etc). If you do not take risk you do not progress and do not achieve anything. How is it supposed to make you successful? Being timid and scared to make risky moves in life make you a loser, sorry.

[@mylesadams1662]

I like the idea of the girl making it known that she likes me but for me the guy to continue to persue her that way I have the green light to do so as I don’t know what signs really a girl gives out otherwise that she likes me etc

[@samwhitehead6298]

I'm not very confident about asking a girl out or talking to a random stranger. For me I would say that a girl should ask a guy out for me. I can understand why a guy can ask a girl out and if the guy is more confident then a girl, that would be the case, but I'm not very confident, so if the girl was more confident then me, then yes

[@stephanihab]

hey all thanks so much for this one many blessings

[@alleyvallotton]

You’re so welcome!

[@cassiapollock7724]

Hey Alley, I love your story about confessing to your partner that you actually had romantic interest in him after maintaining a platonic friendship for a long time. I’m curious though, how did you handle him saying that he was going to hold off on intentionally pursuing you until after he finished school? You mentioned it was six weeks, so there was six weeks of you guys just not talking at all and you just had to wonder like if he was actually serious? I commend your patience but I think most people would go crazy if they confess to someone and then they were put on hold for six weeks. I’m curious if that’s really how it was and how you dealt with that.

[@lorimassey29]

Heres the kicker for me- I have guy friends... but to have a guy friend than I can text or one who's comfortable in friendship with texting back and forth I don't have and never have had that. The men around me in my group of church friends date and pursue more outside of the church group. So it's more so we only see others in group hang outs since we all go to different churches and the girls get shafted...to have a friendship with a guy like that is foreign to me.. and frankly quite sad and frustrating. I don't see 😕 how something can grow into more when there has never been something to grow from. 🤔

[@alleyvallotton]

Hey girl! Oh man, I hear you. It can be so frustrating when the guys in our circle of friends seemingly don’t know how or are not interested in even intentionally getting to know us. What would it look like to get outside your normal weekly “rhythm”? You might be surprised what other type of guys there are/friendships you might form💕you don’t always have to have friendship to pursue intentionally getting to know new guys.

[@lorimassey29]

@elijahandalley been trying to broaden my circle most definitely. Trying to get more involved in my newer church and serve. Aldo trying to find Bible study groups and meet-up groups that are Christian. With social media it's more unnatural in meeting people I am finding and we have to have more intent. It's kinda exhausting.....

[@noah7477]

Opening song plzzzz

[@nobodysperfect06]

Unfortunately I don't see it ever becoming more common for girls to ask a guy out or for girls to make the first move or be the initiators in starting a relationship. Why do I get that feeling that will forever be the guys role or just always be one-sided, I know there are tons of guys in the world who hate and resent how it's normally always up to guys to make the first move or be the initiators in starting a relationship

[@alleyvallotton]

I think you're right.... it is innate for men to pursue and for women to be pursued. However, I don't think it is wrong for girls to initiate the conversation. :)

[@nobodysperfect06]

@@alleyvallotton it doesn't seem that it's innate for a lot of guys or all guys out there to pursue a woman, also, is it wrong for a woman to ask a guy out?

[@peachmelba1000]

You did the pursuing, though. You started the chase. You're talking out of both sides of your mouth.

[@peachmelba1000]

We don't care anymore. You all have evolved (or been lifted) into being modern, non traditional women and you've flourished. And yet at the same time, there areas where you dare not tread, and keep demanding we remain....traditional. Your luxurious position in our society makes your insistance on not having to take any personal risks frankly laughable. You can do everything we can but you can't get your feelings hurt?